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How to Live on purpose and not on autopilot (S5) S27:E6 Thurs · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello there, everyone, and welcome to Inspirations
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for Your Life.
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It's so great to be with you again
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on the show.
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Today is Thursday.
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It's July 2nd, as we're revving up and
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getting ready for New Year's, I should say
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New Year's.
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It's kind of a New Year's.
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It's July 4th, and actually in New York
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City on July 3rd, I believe, right around
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the 250th anniversary.
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So it's kind of like a New Year's,
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This week's master topic is another great one.
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Now on every Thursday and every Sunday, we
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do something pretty unique that we started a
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little while ago, and that's our community shout
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out.
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So we have a community shout out to
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The Fine Grind, a coffee bar that is
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located on 101 Newark-Pompton Turnpike in Little
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Falls Township, New Jersey, 07424.
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So first, let's tell you a little about
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The Fine Grind, a coffee bar where they
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make their own coffee, which is kind of
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cool.
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I'm going to tell you a little about
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them, and then I'm going to tell you
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why we're doing this.
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Okay.
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So again, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, and The Fine Grind coffee
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bar basically is pretty interesting.
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What they do, they have a trivia night.
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They have this really cool little robot that
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they've dressed up.
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You've probably seen him before.
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They call him Brewster, their friendly robot server
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with an adorable face that everyone loves, and
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the charming helper delivers your order to your
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table smoothly with a touch of what they
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call futuristic fun.
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A lot of people tend to like that.
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They have art exhibits.
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They have some live music.
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So I think this would be perfect for
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you guys to have us come.
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We're reaching out to you guys at The
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Fine Grind coffee bar to have you visit
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jcmacademy.com to click on Contact Us and
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request that you'd like to be a host
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for us to do a live show.
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Won't cost you anything.
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It's 15 minutes on the pre-setup.
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The show is about 27 minutes and change.
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Then after that, we close out.
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We have a 15-minute author talk.
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Then we do a Q&A, and then
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we do an author talk and signing.
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So love you guys to check us out
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at jcmacademy.com, and hopefully you guys will
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definitely be open to us coming to your
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place.
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So they have drink specials.
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They have a cafe menu.
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They have a Lotus Energy set of drinks.
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They have a tea menu.
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So really pretty cool.
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They've got herbal teas, black teas, green teas,
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and they've got a lot more.
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So definitely check them out, and I hope
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you guys will reach out to us so
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we can do a live show at your
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facility.
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All right, guys.
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So that was our Thursday shout-out.
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So this is Inspirations for Your Life, everyone.
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And our master top, in case you didn't
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know this week, is how to let go
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and level up.
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It's Series 5.
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It's Show 27.
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And today's episode is how to live on
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purpose and not on autopilot.
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Series 5, Show 27, Episode 6.
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And the theme is intentional living versus default
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living.
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I think a lot of people do default
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living because it's so simple, it's so easy,
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and they feel they don't have to do
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anything.
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So welcome, everyone, to the Inspirations for Your
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Life show.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Yes.
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I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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host, coach, keynote speaker, a graduate student at
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Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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Today, focusing on a shift that quietly changes
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everything in our lives, moving from autopilot living
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to what I call intentional living.
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Now, because most people are not designing their
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lives, they are repeating them.
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This can be a little challenging for some
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people.
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Now, the core message is this.
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Autopilot creates repetition without awareness.
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Purpose creates repetition with a sense of direction.
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When you live without intention, your days are
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shaped by convenience, distraction, and habit.
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When you live with purpose, your days are
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shaped by meaning, contribution, and alignment.
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A little bit different, right, guys?
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So purpose is not abstract.
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It is practical.
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It is daily.
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It is actionable.
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Yes, it's not something you just flick.
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And I have some insights that I want
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to share with you to help make your
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days more about purpose.
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Number one, purpose is using your strengths on
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real problems.
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Meaning comes from application.
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I think a lot of people miss that
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it is about application.
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Number two, stop living by default and start
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living by design.
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You see, awareness creates control.
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The more that we can get in touch
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with awareness in our life, the more that
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we can have a better life, the more
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that it can be more purposeful, the more
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that it can slow down because we can
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enjoy the precious moments in our life.
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So it is important to stop living by
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default and become more aware of our awareness
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that we possess.
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Number three, guys, ask who gets better because
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you exist.
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Impact defines purpose.
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And sometimes that can be very confusing, but
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it can also be a breath of fresh
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air once we understand what purpose is, how
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it works, and how it can literally transform
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our lives like that.
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Number four, align your day with the answer
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you have.
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Structure creates direction.
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Don't be in a rush to get the
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answer.
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Put it together with alignment, and you'll start
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to get these nudges.
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You'll start to get interesting inspirations that will
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either give you the answer or will lead
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you toward it.
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Number five, your experience is a niche you
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should use.
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Your past has utility.
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Number six, you do not need a huge
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mission to matter.
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Consistency creates impact every single day.
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But some people feel that they're not valuable,
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that they're not worthy.
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And I think that's a sad thing.
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But if we can understand that we have
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so much value, we have so much purpose,
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our life can be amazing.
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Our life can be really amazing.
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And it can help us understand where we're
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going, why we're going somewhere, and what it's
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all about.
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Number seven, guys, purpose can be local.
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It can be simple.
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Most importantly, it can be powerful.
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Scale is not required for meaning.
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You don't have to get bigger for it
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to mean something or be valuable to you
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or someone else.
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We can have meaning in just saying thank
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you to someone or holding the door for
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someone or doing something nice for one person.
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It doesn't have to be in scale.
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Number eight, guys, focus on what matters most,
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not what is the loudest.
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See, noise is not priority, although many people
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think it is.
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It's not.
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And this becomes one of these big distractors
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in life that keep us from the real
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goal that we want to achieve.
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And it's important to understand that.
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And so the thing is, most people don't
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get it, and they don't understand it.
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And I can tell you that when we
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are on purpose, when we get aligned, things
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just click for us.
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Number nine, say yes only to what aligns
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with your purpose and direction.
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Don't be manipulated, feeling you have to say
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yes.
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You don't.
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Every yes, guys, is a tradeoff.
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When you say yes to someone else, you're
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saying no to yourself sometimes.
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So be careful of that.
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When you say no to others, you're mostly
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saying yes to yourself because you're giving yourself
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that time and that understanding.
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I think that's a very important thing.
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And most people miss the fact that, you
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know, oh, I have to say yes, that
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you don't have to say yes.
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You have to do what feels right for
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you.
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Number 10, your calendar should reflect your values,
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not others.
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Time reveals identity.
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And if you think you're going to reveal
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it overnight, you're going to be mistaken and
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you're going to get the wrong answers.
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And that's probably one of the biggest things
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I can say to everyone here is that
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it's going to come through in a way
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that is going to be so bad because
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it's going to take you off of your
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purpose, going to take you off of your
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mission.
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I think that's an important thing for us
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to realize.
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We have to become aware.
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Number 11, guys, turn your work and content
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into solutions.
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Value comes from being useful.
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Value doesn't come from being deceitful.
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Value doesn't come from trying to manipulate people.
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It doesn't come from any of those things.
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But yet people think it should.
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And I'm here to tell you, ladies and
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gentlemen, it doesn't.
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And that's probably the biggest thing I want
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to share with you is that so many
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people change their position because they get manipulated.
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And that's not good.
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If the energy for somebody is not good,
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then you need to move on from that
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person.
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That's the lesson hands down.
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Number 12, impact is more important than impressions.
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The quality of the cards I get from
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a busy networking is less important, is more
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important, I should say, than the quantity.
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So quality is more important of the cards
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over the quantity.
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Impact is more important than the impressions.
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Depth beats visibility.
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And I know you might be saying to
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me, John, I don't know if I agree
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with that.
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And that's usually coming out of fear, thinking
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you have to do something a certain way
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because somebody is trying to get you off
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of the path that you're supposed to be
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on.
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Number 13, we need to care about depth,
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not just the reach or the scope.
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You see, guys, connection matters more than the
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size.
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Relationships matter more than the number of them
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we have.
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But so many people in our world measure
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this in a false sense by saying, hey,
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I could fill a room with 5,000
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people, great.
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Are those people you know?
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Are those valuable connections?
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Or is it just a let's throw everything
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on the wall and see what sticks?
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Most of the time, it's a let's see
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what sticks.
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Number 14, guys, use your story to help
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design better outcomes for others.
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Experience becomes guidance.
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And more importantly, guys, your experience becomes guidance.
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Your own inner knowing or way becomes guidance.
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When we do something and it doesn't go
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the way we want and we learn from
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it, we can adjust, we can pivot, and
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we can do it again, but we can
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alter the way we've been.
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Number 15, guys, empathy is a functional tool,
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not just emotional.
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Understanding creates solutions.
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But too many people don't want to take
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the time to understand.
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Are they lazy?
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Could be.
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Are they too much of a go-getter
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that they don't really care about people?
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That could be another reason.
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A lot of reasons.
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Number 16, guys, experiment with ways to serve
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and keep what works.
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Iteration always builds clarity.
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Repetition, mother skill, over and over again.
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But it's not going to do it like
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immediately.
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It's going to take some time for you
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to find the right way.
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Number 17, number 17 is all about purpose.
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As purpose is discovered through action, not thinking
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alone.
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Execution reveals meaning.
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If we think and we never execute, we're
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never going anywhere.
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We're just thinking.
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We have to take those inspired thoughts to
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take the action or we're just going to
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be thinking.
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Number 18, guys, turn frustration into structured improvement.
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I said you need structure and you need
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consistency to be successful.
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Problems are signals or challenges.
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We have to know how to recognize them
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and then what do we do with those
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problems?
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How do we redirect them?
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How do we take another path?
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How do we become a better version of
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ourselves?
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And here's the thing, guys, it may not
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be comfortable.
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I've said success starts when things get uncomfortable,
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not when they're comfortable.
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We have to push ourselves a little bit
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further and that's sometimes a little bit uncomfortable.
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It's not painful, but it's a little uncomfortable
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and many people are fearful of doing it.
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Number 19, learn how to let creativity respond
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to real needs.
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Relevance creates value.
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Time in and time again, but it takes
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sincerity, it takes patience, it takes intention, truth,
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and integrity to build something with relevance that
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will last, that will last.
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That's the key.
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Number 20, guys, practice being useful in small
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ways daily.
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It doesn't have to be anything monumental, just
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some way.
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It could be something like, you know, getting
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a cup of coffee for one of your
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co-workers, holding the door open, or maybe
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they photograph some things on the copier, a
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photocopier, and you see it's done so you
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know who it's from, a department, you see
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it's done, you bring it back to them.
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Little things like that.
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Consistency builds identity.
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Doing it once does nothing, guys.
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It does absolutely nothing.
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But doing it again and again and again,
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that is what builds the real truth in
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our lives, and I think it builds truth
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in other people's lives.
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I think that's really, I think that's really
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the important thing.
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I think the most important thing I can
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tell you is that when we have a
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consistent path that's structured, our identity does form,
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but it doesn't form overnight, okay?
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That's the most important thing I tell you.
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And many people get impatient because they're not
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seeing the identity that they want, like right
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now, so they take shortcuts.
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And I want to tell you, don't take
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shortcuts ever.
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Number 21, do one thing today that clearly
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helps someone.
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Small impact still matters.
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What else could you do that's small?
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Maybe it's letting somebody go ahead of you
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in the line at the supermarket, right?
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Maybe it's giving somebody else the right-of
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-way on the highway before their turn.
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Number 22, you do not need to change
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the world to make impact.
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Moments matter, seconds matter, intentions matter.
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And just making one change and making a
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difference with one person, guys, that will make
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a huge difference in your life and other
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people's lives.
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But it might not seem like it's going
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to go that way.
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But I'm here to tell you that it
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is.
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It's just you've got to be patient and
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you've got to do it with pure intention
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and integrity.
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So don't worry about changing the world tomorrow.
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Worry about helping one person.
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And that can make the world a much
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better place.
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Number 23, purpose gives discipline emotional meaning.
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Structure needs reason.
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So when we say structure needs reason, we
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have to do it for the greater good
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of all concerned.
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We have to do it for something that
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aligns with our core values.
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If it doesn't, we're going to be very
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unhappy.
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Number 24, purpose gives pain context and direction.
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Struggle becomes insight.
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And from that output, insight, we can reuse
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it and become a better person.
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We can get the tasks done in a
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better way.
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Number 25, serving others stabilizes identity over time.
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Contribution builds clarity.
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It doesn't have to be a huge contribution.
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It just has to be something meaningful.
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Meaningful with intentful purpose.
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That's a big key.
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Number 26, guys, life feels lighter when it
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becomes useful.
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You ever notice that?
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Utility reduces confusion.
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And when we can start to reduce confusion,
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our head feels lighter, right?
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We get this relief.
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Because things are going the way we want.
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Many people try to make things so darn
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complicated.
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And if they just did it in a
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simpler way, they'd be successful.
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Number 27, guys, purpose acts as your internal
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North Star.
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Direction reduces drift all the time.
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So we always want to stay focused.
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We always want to stay on point.
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We want to make things as, let's say,
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simple and non-complicated as we can.
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Number 28, guys, you are allowed to design
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a meaningful life.
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Intention is permission.
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Let's think about that for a moment.
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Intention is permission.
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So if intention is permission, then we're getting
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a yes from ourselves, right?
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We're getting a yes.
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Intention is something that we have to think
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about a moment before we do it, right?
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We have to think about what does intention
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mean.
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But intention is our way of giving permission.
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Number 29, let go of autopilot and level
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up into intention.
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Awareness creates change.
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But awareness does not do it in five
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seconds or even in five minutes.
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It could take a little time.
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Number 30, this is not a rehearsal.
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It is your life in motion.
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Presence defines reality.
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Presence defines reality.
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So if presence defines reality, how do we
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move from there?
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How do we change?
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I think the way we change is by,
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again, having that intention.
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Having that key.
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Having that understanding.
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Having what we're doing align with our core
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values.
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And we don't replace our core values every
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day, right?
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Our core values are probably with us for
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a long, long time.
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And I think that's a very important thing.
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We want to make sure we choose our
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core values diligently.
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Because those core values are probably going to
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be with us for a good part of
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our life, if not all of our life.
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And those will become the tools that help
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us achieve our success.
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Before I wrap up tonight, I do want
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to give that shout out again to this
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restaurant here in Little Falls, New Jersey.
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It's called The Fine Grind.
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They're located in Little Falls, New Jersey.
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So you guys can check them out.
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They're located at 101 Newark-Pompton Turnpike, Little
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Falls, Township, New Jersey, 07424.
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In case you guys are wondering the hours,
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it looks like they are open on Monday,
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Tuesday, Wednesday.
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They open Thursday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday.
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They are open 8 a.m. to 8
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p.m. I don't see a time for
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them on Thursday.
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They are open on Friday.
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It says they're open on Friday, 8 to
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8 p.m. I do not see a
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Thursday.
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I don't know if that means they're not
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open on Thursday.
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I don't know.
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But they're open 8 a.m. to 8
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p.m. every single day, you know, observing
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outside of normal holiday hours.
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So definitely give them a shout out.
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Let them know that you heard about them
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on the Inspirations for Your Life show.
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And we hope that you guys at the
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venue that we just mentioned, which is The
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Fine Grind, will reach out to JasonAcademy.com
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and invite us to do a show right
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at your facility.
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Help building community and helping you guys get
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the word about what you're doing.
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So in closing today, guys, here is the
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truth.
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Are you ready for the truth?
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I always like the truth.
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The truth is this.
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Autopilot is easy, but it's not intentional.
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Purpose requires awareness.
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Purpose requires choice.
24:30
Purpose requires action.
24:32
And once you start living on purpose, your
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life stops feeling random.
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Random.
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When you don't know where something's going to
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come from.
24:48
You don't have any ideas to where your
24:51
path is going.
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And when it starts feeling directed, that's the
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key.
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Directed with intentionalism and awareness so that you're
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enjoying every moment.
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So you're able to smell the beautiful coffees
25:14
and teas and different food that they have
25:16
there, right?
25:18
So that's the most important thing.
25:20
And, you know, when you think of a
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coffee shop, for example, what better place to
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be intentional, to sit down, to take your
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time, enjoy a cup of coffee, or in
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my case, I like teas, herbal teas and
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things like that.
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And just to sit there and just enjoy.
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You know, many years ago, they used to
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have something called the Pasta Java in Europe,
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and I think they still do it, where
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you can go outside, they walk in and
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they have lots of places you can eat
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outside cafes.
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They don't really have that in the United
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States, not that much.
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But that's a very big thing in Europe,
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is the outside cafes.
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That was one of the things I missed
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when I came back from my trip from
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Italy that, and other places in Europe that
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I went, that we don't have that around
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that much.
26:07
We have a few places that do it,
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but it's not like almost every restaurant has
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an outside cafe.
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That's pretty cool.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I hope this resonated with
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you guys.
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I want you to know that I am
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John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur and a lot more.
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And ladies and gentlemen, this has been Inspirations
26:27
For Your Life.
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And this is where autopilot ends and purpose
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begins.
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My question that I have for you tonight
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is, if you're on autopilot, do you know
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you're on autopilot?
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If I said to you right now, I
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know you're on autopilot.
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How do you get off it?
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Could you get off autopilot?
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Like, well, I don't know how to get,
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I don't even know what's on it.
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You are.
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How do you get off it?
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I'll give you a hint.
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Be intentional with what you're doing.
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Don't go through the motions of life.
27:05
You're gonna miss all the beautiful flavors, all
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the beautiful sights.
27:09
Yes, you're gonna see them, but you're not
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gonna truly appreciate the beauty for which they
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were crafted under.
27:17
And a lot of people go through life,
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they just go through the motions.
27:21
But they miss so much beauty.
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That could be in sound, that could be
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in sights, it could be in tastes and
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smells.
27:32
So let's start being intentional.
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And what better way to do that than
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start getting your life off autopilot right now.
27:39
I hope you guys have a great rest
27:41
of your evening or rest of your day.
27:43
And be sure to check out, yes, BelieveMeAchieve
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I hope you enjoy, and I will see
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you on another show real soon.
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Take care, everyone, and be well.