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Overwhelmed to Organized! Workshop Replay · The Christian Homemaking Podcast: Simply Convivial with Mystie Winckler

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Speaker: Hello.
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Here we are.
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We are live, and it's so good to see you today.
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I'm excited to do this workshop We're going to talk about going from overwhelmed
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to organized, and that is possible.
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We have to talk about our definitions, of course.
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What does it really mean to be organized?
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But there is one basic tool that can help us reframe productivity in our days
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and allow us to acknowledge the work and the progress that we are making, and
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that's what we're gonna talk about today.
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So, so glad to see you.
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I see many familiar faces.
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Ladies from Convivial Circle are here.
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Uh, you can pitch in.
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I know you all will have, um, advice and wisdom on this topic today.
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So, um, I always enjoy seeing the chat.
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All right.
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Well, thank you so much for coming today to this live workshop, From
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Overwhelmed to Organized: The One Practice That Changes Everything.
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And that seems like an exaggerated clickbaity title, but really, stick
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with me and you will be surprised.
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So many ladies have been surprised that this makes that much
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difference, and you'll see, um, you'll hear from other ladies
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during this workshop that it's true.
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One practice will help flip that script that you have going on in your head
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that's creating the noise of overwhelm.
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You'll be able to silence that and make progress with this one.
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Yeah, stick around.
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That's right.
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All right.
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So I want to talk about this today becauseâ¦
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I'm gonna get all the words showing here.
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Um, because I do think it's important that we figure out our life at home.
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So many of us have maybe given up, um- feeling like, you know,
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we've given up because we, um We've tried so many different things.
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We've tried planners, we've tried checklists, we've tried programs
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to get our act together at home.
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Maybe even not, like getting organized now seems like way too optimistic.
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We're just trying to not fall to pieces, and even that seems too
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hard But it's worth figuring out.
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And a big part of figuring it out means aligning our expectations with reality
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instead of thinking that if we were organized, then everything will go my way.
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I think that's a real problem with how we go about getting organized often,
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is we define being organized as making everything go our way, and we keep
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trying and trying to figure out different things to make that happen, and it never
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does, and so we feel like failures.
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But we can shift our definition of organi- being organized, and
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we can love our life at home.
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'Cause you know they say, "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."
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It's actually true.
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We need to love our lives at home in order to love our families well.
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It is a way that we love our families well.
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If we love our home, we are, by extension, loving our family.
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And if we love our family, we will, by extension, love our life at home.
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They go together.
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I know that when you look at your home, you see all that needs to be
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done, and it feels like way too much.
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It feels like there's never enough time.
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Once you get started into a project, of course, that's when the toddler
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skins his knee, or that's when problems start happening and your kids need you.
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Maybe your husband works long hours and can't pitch in.
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Maybe he's even deployed or working graveyard shifts.
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You know, there are all kinds of scenarios where we, as wives and mothers, have a
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lot on our plate and not a lot of help.
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That's some reality sometimes.
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And most of us never learned how to manage a home.
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It's not even that we didn't learn how.
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I know that there are many women out there right now who have kids and
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a home, but they've never actually seen a healthy, functioning home.
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That is such, I mean, it's sad but true, and that makes it extra
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difficult because you don't even know what you're working toward.
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But that is why we need to be rallying around one another and helping
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one another out and talking shop and talking about the nitty-gritty
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of homemaking with one another.
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I encourage you in whatever friend group you have, no matter how awkward
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or weird it sounds, talk about how you're getting laundry done.
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Talk about what you're making for dinner, and make home life conversations
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normal again, 'cause that is how this kind of knowledge used to be passed
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along, not with programs or, uh, classes, but just by women talking.
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But so many women don't have that right now and really just don't
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have the background experience or even vision for what it is they're
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supposed to be doing at home
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And it is true.
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We have a lot to do.
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We have a lot on our plate, and if we were to write down everything that we
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were working on, it would be a mile long.
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Like, we would never get to the bottom of that list.
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So our plans for getting on top of life cannot involve getting
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everything on our list done.
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It can't involve, like, getting our home at some kind of base level.
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Like, I'm just gonna get everything clean and organized once, and then
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I'll just be able to keep it up.
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I don't know how many times I've told myself that, and it's just a pipe dream.
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We're, we're all living in our house all the time, so there is no time where
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the whole house is going to be just so.
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We aren't making dollhouses.
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We aren't setting up dollhouses for ourselves.
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We are managing a family home where a whole lot of life is being
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lived and a whole lot of people are becoming flourishing people.
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And that makes messes, and it's our job to just kind of keep that project
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rolling, not get everything looking like a magazine spread or, you know,
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perfect for Instagram or whatever.
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It's not about achieving an aesthetic.
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Our job as moms and homemakers is to be helping that life
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actually happen in our homes.
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Our homes are a stage for life Stages need to be set and they need to be
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maintained, but they aren't the point.
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If you just have an empty set stage, like who cares?
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What value is that?
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The value is in what the stage allows to happen, the whole play of life.
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But that whole play of life and mismanagement and, uh, wrong
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expectations for what we're doing at home breeds overwhelm in us.
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We look around and we see way too many things to do, way too many options,
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way too many possibilities, way too much work, and all that too much just
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spins and spirals in our head, and that is what we call feeling overwhelmed.
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It just feels like too much to process, too much to handle.
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We don't even know where to start.
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How would you describe what it feels like to be overwhelmed?
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I'd love to see that in the chat.
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Um, how would you describe that feeling of being overwhelmed?
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Maybe you fixate on one thing or a million things that could be done, and
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then you're aren't sure what to do next.
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You just go into a mental or emotional spiral that you
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don't even know how to stop.
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And so often, you know, you might turn to your phone to just stop the noise in
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your head, or you just wanna leave the house and forget about it for a while.
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And a big problem with overwhelm is it feels like you have already met
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that threshold of decision fatigue and you can't do any more, and
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the reality is that you actually haven't made any decisions at all.
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So you feel totally burnt out without having actually done anything because
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of all that's going on in our heads.
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We've run a million scenarios in our heads and seen a whole bunch of
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things play out, and we feel stuck in knowing which one of those we
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should be doing, or what's actually next in this long loop that we have.
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Uh, we just don't know how to make that decision and can't, and it feels
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like reaching the end of the rope when we haven't even started, actually.
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Let's see.
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Sarah says, "Feeling overwhelmed is, uh, not knowing what to do
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next because everything seems like it needs to be done."
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Martha calls it a sense of doom.
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Ashley says, "It's complete shutdown where I want everything off my plate."
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Yes.
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Sarah says, "Too much to do.
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Where to start?
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Losing sleep."
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Jamie says, "Unable to make simple decisions."
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Yeah.
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"Brain ruminates either on one thing over and over or ping pongs
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from random to random idea."
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Yes.
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Chloe, "Trying to bail out of a boat while water keeps pouring into it."
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And so many more good ones here.
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This is so good.
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Yeah, that's feeling overwhelmed, and it is
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Uh, sorry, I'm getting texts and such.
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Um, that is A problem.
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Like, we need to figure out how to negate overwhelm and be able to move past it.
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We have to learn how to turn it off, and a big part of that is
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recognizing that overwhelm is optional.
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We aren't stuck.
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It's not necessary for us to feel overwhelmed, and it's something
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that we can have control over.
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Let me see.
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I haveâ¦
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My daughter is babysitting, and I just got a text from the
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lady she's babysitting for.
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The time changed
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Uh
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Okay.
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Moving on.
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Back, back to our thing.
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So overwhelm really is optional.
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Even if you have a lot to do, it's not that if you actually took
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everything off your plate, then you would stop feeling overwhelmed.
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That's what it feels like.
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It feels like that makes sense.
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All the things are making me feel overwhelmed, so to stop feeling
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overwhelmed, we just have to remove all of the things But that's
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not, that's not gonna happen.
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And we wouldn't even want that life, right?
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We, we want to be raising our families.
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We want to have homes that are bustling and flourishing with life.
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We, we want to be doing meaningful work.
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And so it's really, we can- we need to change the way that we respond to
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what's going on, and we need to change our expectations and our mindset
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about that in order to turn off overwhelm, and then become organized.
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And we also have to tackle what it means to be organized, because
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being organized does not mean having your act together all the time.
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That is often how we describe being organized, right?
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That's how we describe other people.
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"Oh, you know, she looks like she has everything together.
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She's organized."
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It does not mean having aesthetically arranged cupboards and closets with
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matching containers and labels.
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That's another thing.
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We call that organized, and then that is not possible in our life, and so we
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give up on being an organized person.
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But, like, that's an after effect of being organized.
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That's like a downstream thing.
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It's not what's making someone organized.
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It's not like if someone would just come in and organize my closets for me, and
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put things in matching containers, and label everything, then suddenly that
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would change me into an organized person.
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Those cupboards don't make you organized.
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An organized person might make their cupboards look that way, but
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it's us and the way that we handle life that has to change first.
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It's not about an alphabetized filing cabinet with every piece of
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paper in exactly the right place, and it is not about spending an hour
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writing in your planner every day.
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If you want to, that's fine.
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Again, maybe an organized person does that, but that hour is really
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not what's making her organized.
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And a lot of that might just be basically hobby time It doesn't have to take
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that long to be organized, and that's what we're gonna talk about today.
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That is the one thing where it takes like five minutes, not an hour So
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what does it mean to be organized?
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Being organized means knowing what's most important.
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It means choosing to do the things that matter most.
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It means knowing where your stuff is.
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It means writing things down and then looking at what you've written.
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It means knowing why you're doing what you're doing.
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Then your decisions align with those priorities.
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So when things are organized, they go together.
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And that begins with ourselves, where the decisions that we make and the work
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that we do goes together with what's important to us, what really matters.
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And w- we're able to see that, make the judgment call, make the right
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decision without spiraling and without doom and without feeling
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like we're not getting anywhere.
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Because we are noticing the right things, and we're letting go
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of the things that don't matter
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Let's see.
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Candra says, "I've never been organized no matter what I do.
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I organize, and then everything is lost."
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Right.
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And the whole point of organizing stuff is so that you can find it, right?
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So I would be interested to know what you do to try to get organized.
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You say, "No matter what I do, I've never been organized."
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What is it that you have done?
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You know, there's so mu- so many organizing books and advices and,
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and shows and people you can watch and follow on being organized, and
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so often they all focus on the stuff.
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Just declutter everything, you know, get the right containers
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and labels, and it's all about achieving this arrangement of stuff.
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But organization starts here, and until we are organized in our ability to think
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through our life and make good decisions, all those other visual parts of being
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organized are not gonna get any traction.
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We have to organize ourselves first before we can effect any
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organization in our stuff, and it does not work the other way around.
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We think, "Oh, all this stuff is making me crazy, so if I just get
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all that stuff visually appealing, suddenly I will feel put together."
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But unless we know what we're about, we know why we're doing what we're
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doing, and then we're able to filter decisions and make good choices, like,
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it's all just gonna go to shambles again because that is evidence of
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what's happening in our heads We have to change what's going on in our heads
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Jennifer says, "I'm a 10-plus year Misty groupie who's lost
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mojo with teenagers and how it's drastically changed my priorities."
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Yes, that's the other thing, is we go all in on organization projects or
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getting things all figured out, and then we think, "Once I get it all figured
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out, we'll be good to go for forever."
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But the reality is that our priorities change, our lives
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change, our responsibilities change.
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And so getting organized is something that is an ongoing process.
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It's something we can get better and better at, and something we're
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always doing, not somethingâ¦
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not a project that you just do and check off and achieve, and
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now suddenly you're organized.
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It's something we have to constantly be doing.
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Learn to love what must be done.
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Th- that's not a discouraging message, actually, if you just
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think about it the right way.
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It is in your head, but you can't just think your way
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into being organized either.
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Being organized or disorganized starts in our heads, not with the stuff.
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But too often, especially if we have a perfectionism streak, we want to
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figure everything out in our heads before we actually do anything.
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And you're like, "I don't wanna start a cleaning routine, a filing procedure,
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a declutter project, organizing my spices or my books or whatever.
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I don't wanna start any of those outward evidences of being organized.
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I don't wanna start a planner until I've picked the exact right one.
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And I know that as soon as I start it, we're, we're gonna do
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something that is gonna 100% work.
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Until I have that guarantee, I'm not going to do anything.
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I'm just gonna figure it out.
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Maybe keep making lists, but I'm not gonna actually get started
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until I've thought it all through."
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But the reality is that our actions have to play a part.
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We have to bring our actions to bear our choices.
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Because it's only in making those choices and working through
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doing things that we really learn what works and what's important.
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It's not something that we can just figure out in our heads and then
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fully implement once it's figured out.
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But that's what a lot of perfectionism think, uh, a, that's what a lot of
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perfectionism w- makes us think.
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So you can't think yourself into being organized because that
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desire to figure it all out in your head first is perfectionism,
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and overwhelm is in your head.
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So if you're in your head trying to figure it all out there
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first, you're gonna be spiraling.
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You are going to be giving in to all kinds of things.
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And- Overthinking, overly analytical, micromanaging planner,
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planning is perfectionism too.
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So we're actually putting ourselves into that overwhelmed loop by trying
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to figure it all out in our heads only.
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And the things that we really learn, we learn by doing, experimenting,
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iterating, and that includes planning, productivity, cleaning, the whole thing.
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To check, I am getting a bunch of texts, but okay.
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Got a thumbs up from the lady my daughter's babysitting for, so we're good.
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You do need better thinking if you're going to be organized.
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So it's like this kind of back and forth thing where we need to think better,
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but we d- need to do and not just think.
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Just thinking is what sticks us into the overwhelm loop.
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Organization requires order and action.
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Unless we're doing something, we're not organized.
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Organization is not theoretical.
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It is practical.
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It's something that we do.
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It's not just something that can stay in our heads Let's see.
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Alicia says, "Yes, I don't wanna start until I feel like I have a complete plan,
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and I'm learning that that's the problem."
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The, the reality is that we can't do everything, right?
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We all have long to-do lists, and at some point we realize, oh,
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I'm never actually going to get my whole list all checked off.
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That means that we have to be choosy.
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We have to choose.
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We have to decide.
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And so being organized is being really good at making decisions
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about choosing and letting other things go, being okay with that.
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You ha- you turn off the overwhelm by being okay with choosing and being okay
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with how you chose, not because you made the very best or most perfect choice,
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but, but 'cause you had to choose, and you did something, and you're gonna
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learn, and you're gonna keep going.
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You have to work.
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You have to have priorities, and you have to work with those priorities
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because there are too many things to do.
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So you have to have some kind of criteria to know what's important.
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And those kind of limitations that we all have, limitations of
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time, and energy, and attention, ability to choose is a limitation.
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Those limitations can actually spur creativity and potency, like potency
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of action, where we're not just scattering, not really sure what
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we're doing here and there, whatever catches our eye is what we do, but we
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really pour ourselves into something that matters and have a potent effect.
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Because we're not everywhere, we're where it matters most
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If you think about it, you know, even the word like organization, like a
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business, has a reason for being.
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They've come together.
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They've gotten organized to get something done.
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A thing, not all the thing.
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Like an organization means people who have come together
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to get a mission accomplished.
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And if it's outside of that mission, it's outside of their scope.
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So to be organized is to have that kind of vision or mission purpose to
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the options that are presented to you
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And you have to practice an action orientation in order to escape
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that kind of mental spiral analysis paralysis overwhelm spiral.
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You have to smile and start.
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Smile and start is one of our favorite sayings inside Convivial Circle, and
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we just spent all of June where smile and start was our focus for the month.
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And one of the stickers that I have to give away is a smile,
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smile and start sticker.
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So that's one of my favorite little mottos: smile and start
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Being organized means you know what needs to be done, and then
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you do something meaningful.
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Not do the very, very best m- the right thing, but
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something, something meaningful.
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Don't try to arrange all the pieces of life just right so that everything,
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your whole organiza- organization, plan, hopes, and dreams happen
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all at once forever and always.
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This is just not how it works.
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You get better and better at arranging things, and making choices,
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and figuring out what's important right now, because it will change.
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And so this is an ongoing skill that we are always applying, not some kind
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of status that we achieve and install.
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And a real key here is that a bias toward action melts overwhelm into
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momentum, because being overwhelmed is being stuck in your head.
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And so doing something is a surefire way to stop the overwhelm spiral, toâ¦
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It changes the subject in your head, gets your body moving, and
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gets you noticing other things.
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And you actually do something, and that feels good, and so you do another thing.
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So we need to practice a bias toward action, especially when
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we feel overwhelmed Oh, look, I didn't finish this slide.
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I'm Misty Winkler, if we haven't met before.
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I know this is live on YouTube, so maybe this is the first time
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you've stumbled upon my channel.
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Uh, I, um, I have five kids.
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My husband and I are gonna be celebrating our 25th anniversary
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in July, and we have three adult children, two teenagers still at home.
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Uh, we've homeschooled all of our kids.
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Three homeschool graduates, two in high school now.
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And I have been planning and organizing and reading about it and talking about
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it and writing about it for a long time.
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I'm not tired of it yet, because I keep learning.
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Um, whenâ¦
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So I was a homeschool kid, oldest daughter of seven.
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And so being the oldest bossy pants daughter that I was, I- when I got
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married at 19, I thought, "There we go.
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Now I will get it all figured out before we have kids.
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I'll just get my systems in place, I'll do the things, and then I'll
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be so much better than my mom."
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That was one of my thoughts.
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And so of course, God didn't let that happen because He takes down the proud,
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but He gives grace to the humble.
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So He had to humble me, and none of my plans, none of my
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systems ever got traction.
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They never worked.
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And they especially didn't work once we started having kids.
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And so then I went for a while thinking, "Well, then I'm not gonna bother.
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If my systems are not going to completely work out the way I wanted, then I'm
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just not gonna, not gonna do any of it.
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I'm gonna do barely enough to scrape by, and just, you know, take walks
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with my kids and read books and care as little as possible about the house."
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So that went on for a few years, and things got pretty bad.
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And then, uh, God kept nagging me.
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Basically, everywhere I went, the subject would come up, like how you manage your
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home, and people would ask, like, just start conversations about cleaning plans.
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And it's like, "Sorry, I'm not doing that."
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It just, in all kinds of different ways, it kept coming back up until I got the
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hint and the conviction that I was wrong, and I was gonna have to figure this out.
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So- That's been, like, 15 years now figuring it out and sharing
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what I've learned along the way.
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So I runâ¦
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Now I run a membership community called Convivial Circle, where we have hundreds
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of ladies, many of whom are here today.
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Shout out to my ladies here.
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Dawn Simpson.
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Let's see.
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Well, I'm not gonna be able toâ¦
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Megan Jackson.
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Those are just the ones I see right here.
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Stacy Thomas.
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Um, or at least Stacy has been.
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Now it's been a while since I've seen you, Stacy, it seems like.
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Okay.
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Um, so
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What I have found in all of these years of writing and helping other
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ladies with organization is that we all have these same struggles.
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And I don't get tired of talking about it, because I still
30:50
have to keep doing it myself.
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It's not something like, "Oh, now I've finally attained this level, and
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I can tell everyone else how to come up and be, like, do it like I do,
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because everything's all together."
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No, this is, like, a cohort of all of us who are interested in learning
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to love what must be done, in continuing to apply ourselves to our
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lives, to be engaged with our lives.
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And we're on board with doing that together.
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And it's easier to be engaged and be on board, continuing to learn and grow and
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keep iterating and learning, when you have a group of other ladies doing that too.
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So that's what Convivial Circle is.
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Um,
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Stacy says, uh, she should come back.
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Yes.
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Well, maybe I'll give you a minute, give you a reason to here in a minute.
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All right, so the one practice, it is ti- â¦ Oh, and I turned off my
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slides because that one was notâ¦
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There we go The one practice, it's time to get to it.
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Now that we've talked about the difference between being overwhelmed and organized,
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and what being organized really means, that we have to have a bias toward
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action, and we have to be practicing it.
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This is where the daily card comes in.
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Probably all of my convivial circle friends here saw it coming.
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You, you probably saw hints too.
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It's the daily card Um, so if, if you've been doing the daily card, whether you're
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in Convivial Circle or not, 'cause I've have lots of episodes on the daily card.
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Uh, and I have a guide called The 3x3 Daily Card Method.
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That's what we're gonna talk about next.
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Um, I would love t- for you, those of you who are doing it, to share in the chat
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what it is that you love about the daily card, and the practice of the daily card.
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And the word practice there is key.
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The daily card gives you your bias toward action with a fresh
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new chance to practice every day
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Um, I've heard way more objections than this.
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Again, another slide here that could have been filled out more.
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I've heard all the objections and excuses for the daily card because
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this was one of my first go-to things.
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I mean, I did not invent picking a top three for the day.
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That's, like, almost every productivity thing out there will tell you,
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pick a top three for the day.
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This is-- I didn't create it.
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I didn't invent it.
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I just tried it and discovered that it really helps, and
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it fits mom life so well.
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And so the reasons why we choose a top three might be different for us
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as moms than it is for, you know, a corporate CEO, but it still does work.
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Whether or not it works for him, I don't know.
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But it works for me at home with all kinds of different projects here and there
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going on, where it seems like there's no way I could boil it down to three.
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It's like, but if I do, I actually get so much more traction with everything else.
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But I know because I've been doing it for so long and telling other ladies
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about it for so long and trying to convince so many women in Convivial
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Circle that this is what they need to be doing first before anything else, that
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all the reasons why you can't do it.
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And we share a weekly top three in Convivial Circle, and so often
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it's like, and they're coming in with five things and six things.
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Like, let's narrow it down to three.
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But I know, I know these excuses personally 'cause when I first
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started trying the daily card, and I was like, "Okay, well, this is
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basic productivity recommendation.
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Everywhere I turn, they're talking about this," but they're all businessmen, you
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know, giving this productivity advice.
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I-- A-and they're just talking about, like, three things, you know, in
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your office, li-like your workday.
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Like, my workday is my whole life.
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And all the pieces and parts of my life are all intermingled.
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So I'm gonna separate things out, and I'm gonna have three- Top threes.
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Uh, and I did this.
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I- And some of you, if you've been around long enough, you've seen my cards
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that had, like, a I on a index card.
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You can make a daily card anywhere, in a planner, on a
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Post-It Note, on an index card.
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I would draw a line across the top, and then make columns, and
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then have a box at the bottom.
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And so I would have home th- home and family, personal
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things, I'd have homeschool things, and then project things.
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If that's right.
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Anyway, I split my life up into three parts, and each
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part got its own top three.
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And it was better.
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That worked way better than my many multitudes of super long lists.
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So it was better.
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But after a while I tried actually giving myself only three and
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found it worked even better.
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But it was hard.
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It was hard to, like, believe it or trust it or to let go
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of all the different things.
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Like, I c- I have so much more than three things to do, I can't narrow it down.
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But the reality is that we figure out how to narrow it down by actually
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trying, by practicing, and you get a chance to practice every day.
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You don't have to pick the right thing every day.
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You get better and better at picking the right thing the more you practice it
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Katie says, "I love the daily card.
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Honestly, it's been the only thing I've been able to do consistently
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as far as planning or routines."
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And I bet it makes a bigger difference even than those
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other planning and routines do
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And Dawn, Dawn's been around for forever.
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She says, "I'm guilty of five or six things."
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But she's doing it now.
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She's making an actual top three.
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Yes.
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Alicia says, "I usually get more than the three things done, but picking
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three helps me really think about my priorities and have time for the
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unexpected parts of mom life, like a child whose meltdown lasted for two hours."
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Right?
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You can't predict things like that, but that's your job to take care of, and
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we generally don't pencil in parenting when we're making our plans for the day.
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But it takes a significant chunk of time, and you might just be in a stage where
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that needs to be one of your top three.
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All right.
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So eventually, I got to the point where I practiced picking only three things
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for the day, and then recently, like two years ago, I went back to three
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lists of three, but only because it, it's not picking nine thing- every
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day I'm not picking nine things.
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I'm still only picking three things.
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But I realized I needed to acknowledge the little things that make the most
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difference, and really practice them as habits and get them installed.
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And so I set myself up another, um, three-by-three format, which
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you can see on this sample here.
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And so I have a place for the top three.
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I have one, actually.
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It'sâ¦
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I do keep a planner, but my Post-It can fit on the front of the cover, so I don't
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even have to open it to see my daily plan.
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Um, so I have a spot here for my top three, and then there's a
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little box for the home routines that make the biggest difference.
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This is a visual to remind me that this is what will matter most.
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Even if you don't get to the whole thing, if you do these, you've done
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enough to keep everyone afloat.
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So the AM is morning, right?
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Morning 15.
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Not 15 things, 15 minutes.
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So 15 minutes in the morning, and then the PM 15 is 15 minutes in the evening.
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And all of us have different things that happen in our 15-minute
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morning and evening routine.
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Maybe some of you who have your morning and evening routines, you
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could share what's on yours just to showcase how different they can be.
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And by picking, by limiting yourself to 15 minutes That allows your
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creativity to come out and you start realizing what actually matters.
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It's not something you figure out in your head first.
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It's something you do and iterate and learn what needs to go in there by
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trying a whole bunch of stuff out and seeing what really makes a difference.
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We're gonna get to that bit.
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Okay, then the second box there are personal routines.
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So you have your overall top three tasks for the day, and then
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house routines, personal habits.
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Every day, read your Bible, drink enough water, and smile.
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Smile at your kids, smile at your husband, smile into people's eyes, and that will
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transform the atmosphere of your home right there, that one thing So this is
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now the three by three daily card method.
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And for a long time I did use an index card, and I'll still often, you know,
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in posts or on YouTube or whatever, talk about an index card option.
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Fits on an index card just fine, right?
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But it's kind of fun to have the, to just use a Post-it since a
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Post-it is three, three by three.
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Right?
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It's three inches by three inches.
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So, uh, and I have little custom ones here.
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These are available in my shop, um, that's this template that you can see.
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Or if you buy the three by three daily card method guide,
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it comes with templates.
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But it's just fun, and when it's fun, and also makes it easier to practice.
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All right, let's unpack each of these three sections.
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So first we have that top section where you choose your top three tasks.
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And to figure out your top three tasks, you have to ask yourself, "What will make
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the most difference if I do this today?"
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What's taking my time today?
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What is it that I need to do that I've been procrastinating?
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And maybe that's a long list, but pick one, one thing to just stop
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procrastinating on, and that can open up and unlock just that sense and feeling,
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"Oh, I'm a person who can do things.
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I can get over this, get over myself, and just do something."
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And then we end up doing so much more.
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So for example, uh, even still with only two high schoolers, on
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a homeschool day, homeschool goes on one of my top three lists.
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Because â¦ It's not because if I didn't put it on there, I would forget
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to do it, but it's because that is my most important thing for the day.
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And so I need to acknowledge that even if nothing else happened,
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it still counts as a good day.
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And that is a huge step right there for becoming organized instead of overwhelmed.
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Because when we're overwhelmed, we spiral into thinking about
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all that we aren't doing.
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But when we're organized, we do what matters most, and we acknowledge
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and tell ourselves that we made the right choice End of story
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That shuts off, it eliminates the overwhelm.
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And being organized is about choosing the thing that keeps you on mission.
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It's being held together.
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All your work and your life is a piece.
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It's a whole, and you are living that out.
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You're making appropriate decisions for your whole one-piece life.
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That's being organized.
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So even if nothing else got done, homeschool is one of those things
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that counts, and that takes time.
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And so I have to let it take up the space on my daily card to
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remind myself of that reality.
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Even still
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And so we've done daily card challenges, and we're about to start
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another one in Convivial Circle.
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So July is gonna be our daily card challenge month in Convivial Circle.
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We didn't do one last year, but we've done a daily card challenge in previous
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years, and so I had a lot of, um, response from people to pull on, and I had a
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really hard time narrowing them down.
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But, um, Haley, last time we did a daily card challenge, she said, "Picking three
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things to focus on finishing in a day is manageable and something I think I
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will be able to persevere in doing."
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And that's what so many of us need, is just that ability
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to, to stick with something.
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That's what we maybe don't believe we can do.
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But if we do a small thing and keep at it, that allows us to change that
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perception of ourself and our ability to manage the life that we have.
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Katie said, "The practice of daily cards helps anchor my thoughts and tasks
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to be more realistic and achievable.
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Instead of thinking and spacing off into distraction, 'What should I do now?'
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I have a plan and can go after it."
45:47
You can hear that bias toward action in that Uh, Chelsea said, "I think it
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came-- I came to the obvious realization that some days I just don't have time to
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dedicate to my much too long to-do list."
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Right?
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That's all of us.
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"I think doing small daily cards as well as taking a realistic look at
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each day to decide if I can truly fit it in, and it being okay if I can't,
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will really be helpful and freeing."
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Um, Michaela said, "I get so much more done when I pick only three things."
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That's kind of one of those, it- in our heads, that doesn't make sense.
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But when you practice it, and you do it for a while, it's true.
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When you narrow things down and you know what you're about, you are just
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better able to make choices and to get things done, and you feel like
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the kinda person who gets things done instead of being stuck in overwhelm.
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And so you do get more done when you narrow your list down to three.
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Rachel said, "Three things per day is more than enough, and helps focus
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my mind in a productive direction."
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And Candace said, "Choosing the top three keeps my plan realistic."
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So huge.
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So helpful.
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And here's what I've seen over the years.
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If you do choose a daily top three, then you know what's important, you
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know where to start each day, you are forced to identify priorities, and maybe
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even you'll figure out what they are by making choices, and you recognize
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the limits of your time and your energy, and you're working within those
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instead of in wishful thinking land.
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And if you just do whatever, or try working from your super long
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list, then you're easily distracted because you have no anchor.
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You just do what feels good at the moment or what pops in front of your face, rather
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than what you've chosen for a reason.
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And so often you don't notice or you don't choose progress over time, 'cause
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progress builds slowly, and it's easy to miss Jen said, "A daily card helps me hit
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the ground running because I have clear priorities for the day, and it helps
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me be flexible if new priorities arise, because I know I can regroup as needed."
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I know we have lots of stories of ladies making a new card halfway through the day.
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Like, you make a plan at the start of the day, and it's just a Post-It note.
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Someone gets sick, the day is over.
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I mean, your plan is over, but the day is not over.
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Like, tear that daily card up and make a new one for the day.
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It's low stakes, and you're able to iterate.
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You're able to adjust and be flexible and work with your reality.
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And writing it down, even on a small piece of paper, helps you
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stop working from your head.
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And when you work from your head, you will feel overwhelmed.
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It will be inevitable, because you do have too many things to do
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to track them all in your head.
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And a daily card is a visible reminder of what to focus on, of what matters most
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All right, so let's go on to the next section, and I think I didn't fully finish
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explaining that routine section there.
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So I already talked about the morning 15 minutes and the evening 15 minutes,
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and then T10 is transformation 10.
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So this is what we do instead of some kind of elaborate cleaning, deep
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cleaning schedule or whatever Some ladies end up eventually creating
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zones or creating a plan, but the basic bare bones managing the housework
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plan is morning 15 minutes, evening 15 minutes, transformation 10, where you
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will look around and you say, "What area is bothering me most right now?"
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Not what needs it, not what you should be doing.
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You look around, "What's bothering me right now?"
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Maybe it's the laundry.
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Maybe it's the dishes.
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Maybe it is the table by the front door that is just
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collecting all kinds of stuff.
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But you look around and you identify for this day, what is one thing that's
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bothering you the most, and then you spend 10 minutes tackling that thing.
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You'll be surprised how much you can get done in 10 minutes.
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So youâ¦
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It is more than you think it is.
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But also, this builds and creates an identity within ourselves that we are a
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person who can just take care of things.
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We don't have to let it bother us.
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If there's something that's bothering us, we could do something about it, and it
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doesn't have to be a complete overhaul.
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It could be 10 minutes, and that would make a difference.
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And the more we do that, the more it just becomes second nature
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to not let something bother you, but to take care of it instead.
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It takes a while.
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It takes a while of practice, but that is an identity shift that happens when you
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practice just taking care of the basics
51:29
And so here are what some of the ladies were saying last time
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we did a daily card challenge.
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"Even when life is too crazy to get out my planner," though you don't
51:37
have time for a whole planner, "a simple three by three on a note
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card or a slip of paper is helpful."
51:45
And Angela said, "Consistency is worth paying attention to.
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The habit is what carries me through on busier days, which
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might otherwise cause me to forget to be working on my routines."
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So you are keeping the bare basics front and center.
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You're counting them.
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You're allowing yourself to count them as a win and as enough.
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And it's something you can do even on days that are way out of hand.
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You can't do the full plan.
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You can't do everything.
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Your day does not go according to your plan.
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You can still do this And Elena said, "Naming the few things that needed to
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be the focus of my time for the day helps me feel so much more accomplished
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instead of guilty that I didn't do more."
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That's what we need
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So 15 minutes in the morning, 15 minutes in the evening, transformation 10.
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That is 40 minutes a day for housework basics.
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And once you have a few weeks of doing just that, you will be surprised at
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the traction that you get in your home.
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You know, so often we look for big cleaning routines and checklists
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and other people's systems and try to implement multi-checklist
53:14
cleaning things for the day.
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And like, "Every Tuesday I'm gonna do this."
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And then you find out actually every Tuesday my day doesn't go according
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to plan, so that never happens now.
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Well
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This 40-minute system, system, very open-ended, loose system, gets you
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traction in your housework, and you get traction where it matters most, where
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everyone in your family will notice.
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It will help you practice identifying what actually does matter in your
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house with your family, 'cause it can be totally different.
53:51
Someone else's checklist might not fit your life.
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You're not working off of someone else's checklists.
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You are engaged in what's happening in your own house, and you get consistency
54:03
that builds slowly but surely.
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With that full meal deal cleaning system that you try to install
54:12
from someone else, if you miss a day, the whole thing breaks down.
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You overload your expectations and your schedule with idealistic plans.
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And I don't know about you, but, like, my house does not get dirty at even levels.
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Like, my kitchen needs way more cleaning than the living room, and
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sometimes our living room gets way more messy than it does on other days.
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So it's like trying to apply the same amount of cleaning in, like, a consistent
54:46
way often just doesn't work because our homes aren't used consistently.
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And so it ju- that's why it doesn't fit Whereas this is spending a targeted
54:59
amount of time paying attention and just doing what needs to be
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done in your house at that moment.
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That will make the biggest difference right there.
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And I like what Nikki had to say, "I need to check in each day and make sure I'm
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on track with what needs to be done."
55:15
And that's why we put it on our daily card.
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It's basic.
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It's the bare minimum.
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It's a minimum viable routine, but if we check in with that,
55:26
we'll actually get traction.
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We don't really move beyond it.
55:31
We can add to it.
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We can do more, but we still have to be doing these three things
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I think most cleaning schedules don't stick, not because you're bad at them,
55:43
but because they're too elaborate.
55:45
The more consistently you can do the daily minimums, the
55:50
easier everything else becomes.
55:53
That's where we need to be putting our attention.
55:56
Then we also need to be tracking our personal care habits.
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Personal habits, self-care, whatever you wanna call it
56:04
These are the things that do affect us, that make us show up better as wives and
56:11
mothers, but that are so easy to neglect and to push to the back burner and to
56:19
have them displaced by whatever flares up.
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And so we need them in front of our face every day to check
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off Read your Bible, drink your water, and smile at your people.
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Uh, Katie Lynn at our last, uh, daily card challenge said, "Doing
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the daily card helps me focus on what was most important each day.
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It's uncomfortable to put down things that I know I will be doing anyways, but that
56:49
really helped me remember that those are the tasks where my energy is best used."
56:55
So that's true for all three of these sections, but I put it here because
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that is so true of just drinking your water, reading your Bible,
57:05
and smiling at your people We just want those to happen on autopilot.
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But if we don't think about it, if we don't count it and let it count in our
57:16
own heads and on our paper as important, it'll just fall by the wayside, and we
57:24
don't want it to fall by the wayside.
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Catherine said, "It's not only okay, but beneficial to include the same
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things on the daily card day after day if those items are true priorities."
57:39
We we need that visible reminder day after day.
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We just do.
57:45
Yvonne said, "After a winter of sickness, I was struggling to get back on track.
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This challenge, this daily card challenge, put me where I want to be."
57:55
And a big part of that is because the little things that
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matter most are on the card
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So with your basic personal habits, you're anchored in your day, you
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do the things that count, and you keep yourself in working order.
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And if these things are not on our list and we're not tracking them,
58:18
we let loud tasks or emergencies displace the most important things.
58:25
We get afternoon headaches because we're dehydrated.
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That's-- it takes us out of the game.
58:32
Like, just drink your water.
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And I don't know if this happens to me, but your kids think you're upset because
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you're just in your head, ignoring them, not seeing them, not smiling.
58:45
Your face is thoughtful.
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Like, we think we're being-- we're, we're just in our heads, we're
58:53
thinking so hard, and we look grumpy, and that's what our kids see.
58:56
Our kids just see our face.
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They don't hear what's going on in our heads.
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They see our face.
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And so our face needs to communicate to them that they are loved,
59:07
wanted, attended to, that they matter, and that they make us happy.
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We communicate to them that they make us happy by smiling when we see them.
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And that's why we need that reminder.
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It needs to be in front of our face.
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Maybe that's humbling, but it's true, and we need to accept that and just
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put it on our list and then do it.
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And Cassie said that this daily card helped her.
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It kept her on track even when life fell apart.
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This is something you can do when life falls apart, and it still works.
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So when we have our busy family life, we're-- feel overwhelmed, we feel
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lost and scattered because we aren't grounding ourselves in reality, and
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that's what these personal habits do.
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They ground us in reality when we read our Bible, when we
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drink water, and when we smile.
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These are spiritual and bodily things that affect everything else, and our
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body and our soul can't be afterthoughts
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Lisa said that, "A daily card really does help me feel less overwhelmed, but I'm
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also more likely to get three th- three things done each day instead of being
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busy all day and accomplishing nothing."
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Right?
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We have all had those days, and this helps us get out of that mode.
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Andrea said that, "It," the daily card, "makes me think but not overthink."
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Right?
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We need to think better, but we can't just be in our heads.
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It's simple but super effective Stacey.
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Stacey.
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That's the Stacey who was here.
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She was here for a previous daily card challenge.
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She said, "It's a staple to my sanity."
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It's kind of funny when your words come back to you, isn't it?
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Um It's a staple to my sanity.
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Mine too.
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It's why I keep coming back to it.
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That's why I keep talking about it.
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That is why we keep doing a daily card challenge in Convivial Circle,
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because the practice of it builds.
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It builds momentum.
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And the thing is, because this isâ¦
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It's not just in our heads, I can't convince you with words and arguments
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or even stories that this will work.
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You figuring out that it will work for you requires you to practice it.
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Unless you do it, you won't figure it out.
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It is not something you can figure out in your head and then just do.
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It's something you figure out by doing, not by comprehending That is
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something I have seen over and over and over again in convivial circle
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Stacy, I'm definitely gonna be sending you stickers since
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you got called out like that.
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Yep, Stacy T.,
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that was you.
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Learning comes by doing.
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Your brain will give you all kinds of excuses and arguments.
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I know I heard them all in my own head.
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This isn't gonna work for you.
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But your toddler self, your inner toddler, needs discipline, and the daily card
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gives you the daily redirection, visible, written down, but small and doable, the
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redirection that your inner toddler needs.
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And that's what we are going to do in July inside Convivial Circle.
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Convivial Circle is where we are all stepping out of overwhelm into
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living organized, recognizing that that does not mean that we are living
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picture-perfect lives or living lives where everything is going our way, but
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that we are able to make appropriate choices in the moment for the life that
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we have right in front of us right now.
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That's being organized, and that's what we are all practicing and
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getting better at day by day.
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So the daily card challenge is July.
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July has 31 days.
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But the challenge is to make a daily card 20 times, because
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we are not perfectionists.
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We are also intentionally undoing all of our perfectionist
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tendencies in Convivial Circle.
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We're calling out perfectionism.
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We're not allowing it.
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So the daily card challenge is to make a daily card 20 times in July.
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Just make one, even if you don't check off all three things,
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'cause you're not going to.
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Because you don't end up choosing the right three things until
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you've been doing it for a while.
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So this is the practice.
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This is putting in the reps to figure it out, and we're going to
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have a live seminar, kind of like a workshop, every week, talking about
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the daily cards and brainstorming.
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There's gonna be an ongoing chat in our chat space where ladies are sharing
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what they're learning and what they're doing, what they're putting on their
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list, what didn't work, what does work, and you're seeing how different people
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apply it in different circumstances, and that helps us all break out of our ruts
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and get more creative and stick with it.
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Because we see we're not the only ones having a hard time,
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but it makes a difference.
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And we see those testimonials, and we hear what-- how other women are
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succeeding with it, and that gives us the desire to keep pushing on ourselves.
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So we have, uh, the challenge sheet and a worksheet, and we've got the
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templates where you can print off the daily card format if you want on
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Post-Its or on index cards, um, or just follow along with your own format.
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The template, the form doesn't matter.
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It is just the practice that matters, and that's what we're gonna be doing
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together inside Convivial Circle.
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Who will get stickers?
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Well- People who are live here at the end here will get s- I'm gonna pick
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five or so people to get stickers today.
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But everyone who finishes the daily card challenge, 20 daily
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cards in July, will get stickers
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So there'll be a pack inâ¦
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I haven't put together what the prize will be, um, but everyone
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will get prizes in the mail.
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If you finish it, you complete the assessment at
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the end, then you get a prize
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Maybe I'll throw in, maybe everyone will get a Post-it pad.
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I'd have to order more.
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So anyway, I'm gonna make up prize packets for everyone to win at the end.
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I love sending out stickers, and bookmarks, and magnets,
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and all kinds of goodies.
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So everyone gets a little goodie bag if you finish the challenge,
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which is just 20 index card, 20 daily cards in the month of July.
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And you're participating, you're getting all kinds of support.
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Our community manager, Stephanie, is just on it replying right away.
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If you have any struggles or questions, or you just wanna give up, post something
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and she'll be right there for you
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Let's see.
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Kim says, "What if you're traveling?"
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Like, well, are you traveling more than 11 days?
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'Cause there's onlyâ¦
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You only have to do it 20 times in July.
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And also, you know, if you were on vacation even, make your daily card.
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It's not like you should stop reading your Bible or drinking water or smiling.
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And there still might be, maybe it's your car that needs a
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transformation 10 every day.
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And there's still, like, three things you should be doing probably.
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It's just gonna be different.
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It's not gonna be the things that you normally do around the house, but,
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like, what, what's happening today?
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Like, the daily card is just how we think through our day and identify what we
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should be doing so we can end the day- satisfied and happy with what we've done
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Uh, Rebecca said that practice really makes a difference.
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"I'm getting better at identifying my true top three for the day, and
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writing daily cards wasn't as much of a challenge this time around," s-
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she's done multiple, "because it has become a normal part of my rhythm."
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And that's what I want to have happen for you, too, where you've put in
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the practice, you're getting better at identifying your true top three,
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and it doesn't feel like a challenge.
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It's just managing life and managing yourself day by day.
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It becomes a normal part of your rhythm.
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That's what we're gonna do inside Convivial Circle for the month of
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July with our daily card challenge.
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When you join Convivial Circle, you'll get instant access to everything.
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We have more than a dozen courses, master classes, replays, lives,
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a member exclusive podcast with replays, all kinds of things.
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Daily chat, um, we have different discussion areas where you could
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talk about all kinds of things, homeschool planning, um, books
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you're reading, kind of anything.
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We have f- It's just ladies talking shop, like-minded women talking shop.
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Sandra said, "This challenge helped me see that it is a practice,
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and I get to iterate every day.
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That small shift in my mindset has been monumentally impactful."
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Uh, again, these are other ladies.
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Last time we did a daily card challenge, Katie said, "I've been executing my daily
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card and weekly review consistently.
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It's so rewarding to be setting and achieving goals that are
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important and challenging, but also realistic and doable."
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Rebecca said, "I like the focus it provided.
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Instead of perusing my long task list every time I finish something and
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choosing something to do, I worked on the daily card until it was finished.
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Then I could go on to other things.
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It greatly reduced decision fatigue and distraction."
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And isn't that what we all need?
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Jenny said, "This one small action really does bring clarity and beget
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more directed action than flying blind when you wake up in the morning."
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I like that, beget more directed action.
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It just comes out.
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It comes about when we have that focus.
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Again, I had a hard time choosing which ones to put in here.
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So Chrissa said, "Writing a daily card helps me fight off
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overwhelm and cheerfully tackle what I can actually do every day."
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That's what the daily card challenge is all about.
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Zara said, "I have so much more freedom and peace in Christ when
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I identify my minimum top three.
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I also discovered that doing a challenge is a great way to reboot a habit."
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So if you've done a daily card before, but you've fallen off,
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this is how you get back on it.
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Jessica said, "I feel so much more accomplished and way less overwhelmed when
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I've been consistent with a daily card.
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We have a busy season, and people have asked me if we're overwhelmed,
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and I can honestly say no."
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So many of the responses after our previous daily card challenges were about
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the fact that they were not overwhelmed by what they have to do anymore.
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That's why I picked this topic This practice is a doable way to change our
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default response to the things that we have to do, so we don't feel overwhelmed,
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but we do what we need to be doing.
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Lauren said, "I've tried so many things already, and nothing made a
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difference in me managing life and home.
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But I was wrong.
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What a gift this community has been.
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My whole life has been turned around.
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I'm in control of my emotions and the daily duties.
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I'm completely at peace.
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I feel so much more available for all the Lord has for me each day.
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If I slip up, I just go back to the plan and move along.
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No stress, no spiraling, no sulking."
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I'm â¦ It had alliteration.
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I had to include it.
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"My husband has expressed that he could totally see this shift in me, our
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kids, and the atmosphere of our home."
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That's what we are after in Convivial Circle, and Lauren is not the only one
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who has this kind of story And so right now, if you join for the Daily Card
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Challenge in July, if you join in June, so today or tomorrow, June only has 30
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days, so within the next 48 hours, you will get instant access to a 20-minute
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action accelerator, a quick start mini boot camp video on what a daily card
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is and how to get one put together.
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So you could just jump right in and hopefully get traction faster on
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making a daily card work for you.
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How to choose what to choose, and you can dive right in
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with confidence and momentum.
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It's kind of like a quick catch-up.
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There are ladies in our community who've been in there for 10
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years, five years, three years.
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They've all been practicing daily cards because it is one of our core things.
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And so this is the, the quick catch-up, get you up to speed,
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and I will send you that video if you join in the next 48 hours
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I hope that you will check out Convivial Circle and join us for
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the Daily Card Challenge in July.
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It is one of our top favorite challenges, and we all enjoy the progress that
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we get to make and that productivity, and this time of year is perfect.
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You know, July, August, we can focus on implementing this habit for
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ourselves, managing life, so that when the extra responsibilities and
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schedule gets added when school starts, we have a way to handle all of that.
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Because when we try to implement a whole new management system along
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with the school year changes, it's overloads our system.
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It's too much all at once.
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We need to use this summer to install the personal habit, and then that's in place,
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and all of the extra responsibilities that happen in the school year now
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have a place to go, and we have a way to stay focused on what matters.
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That's already built into our day and our rhythm.
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And really, five minutes a day is all it takes to make your daily card.
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Some ladies, I like to do it at night, do it the night before so
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that I wake up with it ready to go.
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But you can write it with your coffee in the morning,
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like night before, morning of.
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And if you haven't made one, just make one at lunch, and that still counts.
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The midday daily card is also a thing that we s- that still we get benefit from
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because writing things down, keeping it in front of our face makes a big difference.
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So I hope that you will join us for July for the Daily Card Challenge.
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And if you do that in the next day or two, I'll get you that accelerator lesson,
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and we can jumpstart into daily cards.
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All right.
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Thank you, everyone.