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Manifest, Optimize, Multiply · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in?
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  Speaker 3: Is that scrubbing in life with my scrubbing in wife?
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  Speaker 2: What's going on?
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  Speaker 1: Love is in the air. That's really the theme of
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty five. Actually it is the theme of twenty
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  Speaker 1: twenty five because I got married this year and you
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  Speaker 1: got proposed to and you proposed Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, So twenty twenty five was the year of.
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  Speaker 2: Love, l ov love, love and commitment.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, locking it down? Yeah, the old ball and chain, right, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the old volunteer. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like there was still stuff we didn't get
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  Speaker 1: to about your proposal. But do you feel like we
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  Speaker 1: covered everything?
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  Speaker 2: I feel like we did. Is there anything that I missed?
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  Speaker 2: I felt like we covered everything.
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  Speaker 4: And I'm trying to think if I have any lingering questions, I.
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  Speaker 5: Will say picking on an outfit was interesting because first
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  Speaker 5: of all, I sent us like, I sent a voted
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  Speaker 5: to Tanya of like I think this is the outfit
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  Speaker 5: I was gonna wear.
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  Speaker 2: And it wasn't the exact outfit. It was similar, but like.
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  Speaker 5: Whatever, and she goes cute, no, excellent, nothing, so like
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  Speaker 5: not Tanya energy.
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  Speaker 2: It was like she does not like the outfit.
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  Speaker 1: I need to preface this because the picture that you
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  Speaker 1: sent me wasn't even like a good photo.
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  Speaker 3: It was like a photo of like a TikTok.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, because it's all I had. It was like a
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  Speaker 5: screenshot from a TikTok. Okay, so you see the outfit.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, it's blurry and it's like far away. It was
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  Speaker 1: not a good photo. Yes, show the people the photo.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna ask.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna ask what chatchypt easton? Actually, oh thank you.
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  Speaker 3: I thought you're gonna ask.
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  Speaker 1: Uh And I would like to give you my second
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  Speaker 1: uh rebuttal.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, can you see that that's a very cute outfit.
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  Speaker 5: Cute?
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  Speaker 1: I said, cute, but you understand that, like yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 1: it's also jingle ball day. Okay, So I see it,
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  Speaker 1: and I do feel I felt bad when you were
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  Speaker 1: like not the response I needed. I was like, oh
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  Speaker 1: my gosh, I'm a horrible friend. She's literally proposing to somebody.
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  Speaker 1: She sent me a picture of her outfit, but like
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  Speaker 1: she's proposing today and she sends me this picture and
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  Speaker 1: I just said cute like I. In hindsight, I felt
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  Speaker 1: very bad and I felt like a horrible friend. But
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  Speaker 1: I did, like I got the on jingle ball days,
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  Speaker 1: it's just like so frantic, do you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: And so I was like very just frantic, Like I
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  Speaker 1: was like getting my hair makeup done, trying to get
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  Speaker 1: out the door, running late, like all the things. And
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  Speaker 1: I didn't give you the attention that you deserved.
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  Speaker 5: And an exclamation point would have gone far. It wasn't
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  Speaker 5: like you saying cute, even if you're like, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 5: that's so cute.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry I'm running late for jingle ball. That would
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  Speaker 2: have worked.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I should have given a little more content, but
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  Speaker 1: it's okay. You know, I'm learning a lot about myself
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  Speaker 1: and there's room to grow.
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  Speaker 2: It's okay, and there's room to be better. I ended
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  Speaker 2: up change I like I had the same back.
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  Speaker 5: It was basically the same outfit. I just had the
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  Speaker 5: jacket on the match's skirt. That's what I changed. Yes,
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  Speaker 5: And I posted the fit before I posted anything about
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  Speaker 5: the proposal, and I got a lot of validation. So
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  Speaker 5: I was like, it doesn't matter. I'm saying my my
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  Speaker 5: like sadness was gone. I was like, Okay, it was cute.
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  Speaker 5: But my other thought was like I didn't know what
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  Speaker 5: she was gonna wear. And I kept telling to him
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  Speaker 5: because Haley's very she loves cozy, she loves casual, and
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  Speaker 5: I was like, she might go to the tea ceremony
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  Speaker 5: in sweats, like I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, you like cute sweats, elevated sweats.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, maybe, I don't know, maybe a row.
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  Speaker 5: Don't know how shoot, So I was like, can you
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  Speaker 5: have like tell her the tea ceremony, you know, it's
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  Speaker 5: a ritual, so basically.
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  Speaker 2: Let her know it's something she should be dress. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So when I was.
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  Speaker 5: Picking my outfit, I was like, I have to kind
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  Speaker 5: of match her vibe because I can't go to like
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  Speaker 5: I can't be in like auge dress, Like yeah, that
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  Speaker 5: would be unfair to like catch her off guard and
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  Speaker 5: be like totally.
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  Speaker 2: Off you know.
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  Speaker 5: So that was that was fun, like choosing my outfit
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  Speaker 5: that was like the cutest outfit I had for the trip.
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  Speaker 5: Everything else was pretty chilling casual.
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  Speaker 2: So I was like this is.
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  Speaker 5: Because oh and then the day that they got to
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  Speaker 5: the hotel the day before I proposed they had gotten
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  Speaker 5: there in the morning.
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  Speaker 2: I just stayed to my room the whole day. I
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  Speaker 2: did not leave my room.
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  Speaker 5: Because I was and I had her location so I
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  Speaker 5: could see she wasn't at the hotel. But I was like,
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  Speaker 5: what if it's.
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  Speaker 1: Wrong, or like, what if you're like enjoying a nice
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  Speaker 1: cup of macha or something and they come back.
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  Speaker 5: That's what I'm saying, Yeah, because I was like, maybe
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  Speaker 5: I could go down to the spa and you just
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  Speaker 5: like chill use the amenities.
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  Speaker 2: But I was like, what if they come down to
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  Speaker 2: the spa? How horrible would that be? No, So I
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  Speaker 2: was just locked in my room all day.
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  Speaker 3: Did you watch anything good?
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  Speaker 5: No? Because I didn't have my VP, I couldn't get
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  Speaker 5: my VPN thing to work.
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  Speaker 1: So I was just raw dogging twenty four hours and
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  Speaker 1: tell a lot of TikTok.
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  Speaker 5: I called a lot of people that day, So I
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  Speaker 5: did that, but yeah, a lot of that. I gone
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  Speaker 5: to seven eleven because the Japan and the seven Eleven's
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  Speaker 5: in Japan have like the best snacks.
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  Speaker 4: I've heard stories.
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  Speaker 2: You would, and so I stocked up the night before.
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  Speaker 2: So I had a lot of snackies that I was
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  Speaker 2: eating and stuff. But yeah, it was a full day
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  Speaker 2: of solitude with my thoughts. Wow, but I do well,
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  Speaker 2: I do fine with that.
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  Speaker 3: So now you're officially you're engaged. Hayley's engaged. The year
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  Speaker 3: is ending and a new year is upon us, the
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  Speaker 3: year of mom.
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  Speaker 1: M m, yes, it is the year of mom. I
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  Speaker 1: was thinking more along lines of for you, the year
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  Speaker 1: of planning.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, wedding planning. Yeah, I mean, I'm assuming this will
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  Speaker 5: be the year. If the plan is to have the
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  Speaker 5: wedding in twenty twenty seven, which is kind of what
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  Speaker 5: we thought.
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  Speaker 2: This would be the year that we planned.
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  Speaker 5: Although you planned your quite fast and it's starting the
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  Speaker 5: next year.
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  Speaker 1: When I think about it, I'm like, even though it
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  Speaker 1: took us a year and a half from proposal to marriage,
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  Speaker 1: we really planned. We locked in our venue in October,
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  Speaker 1: so we had basically November, December, January, February. We had
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  Speaker 1: four months to plan our wedding.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but it was amazing.
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  Speaker 5: So it makes me feel less daunted by the idea
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  Speaker 5: of planning for a long time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you really can take your time, like you can
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  Speaker 1: like to like find you know what I mean, like
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  Speaker 1: find your plan, like step by step you do the planner,
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  Speaker 1: and then you you can give yourself so much time
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  Speaker 1: to meet with various different planners. Then you can scout locations,
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  Speaker 1: like you can spend a couple of months like scouting
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  Speaker 1: different venues, you know, like we did it all.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 5: I've had a lot of planners reach out, you know,
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  Speaker 5: so I'm like I just need to go through and
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  Speaker 5: like meet with them and see who's going to be
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  Speaker 5: the best fit. But I also thinking about the location
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  Speaker 5: because even that's like the biggest factor, I know, being
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  Speaker 5: in Japan, because he was like, do we get married here?
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  Speaker 5: And I'm like, this is so far like if we
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  Speaker 5: did something super intimate, like I could see as doing it,
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  Speaker 5: but it is such a far trek for people, and
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  Speaker 5: we would need to get there like at least a
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  Speaker 5: week before to feel totally rested.
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  Speaker 2: But you could do though, I know.
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  Speaker 1: That was like we know we wanted to do Europe.
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  Speaker 1: Europe was like our first Like.
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  Speaker 5: Well, you can just get places and venues for so
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  Speaker 5: much cheaper than you can out here in the States.
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  Speaker 5: It's so expensive here, yeah, and you can get like
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  Speaker 5: a castle in your for nothing.
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  Speaker 1: That was like our big thing, like we were like
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  Speaker 1: literally gonna do it. We've had a wedding planner in
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  Speaker 1: Italy and we were like scouting venues. We like put
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  Speaker 1: like money into it, like we were gonna like do
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  Speaker 1: it there, and then it came down to like being
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  Speaker 1: jet lagged. So we were like we'd have to get
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  Speaker 1: out there, you know however long ahead of time, and
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  Speaker 1: it's harder for us because I have my full time job,
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  Speaker 1: we have the kids fifty percent of the time, like,
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  Speaker 1: and then a lot of people in our lives, like
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  Speaker 1: in our immediate families all have kids in school, and
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  Speaker 1: it was just like it's too it was just too much,
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  Speaker 1: so we scrapped it.
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  Speaker 3: But we were like fully in Italy for like three
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  Speaker 3: months like scouting yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: We had like a spreadsheet with like venues and costs
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  Speaker 1: and like wha yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we have to kind of narrow that down.
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  Speaker 1: So it is so special too, It's like it really
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  Speaker 1: does give people like a full experience somewhere that they've
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  Speaker 1: never been, Like it makes it more and then you'd
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  Speaker 1: have to give like a lot of lead time.
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  Speaker 3: That was the other thing.
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  Speaker 1: We were like, we need to give people at least
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  Speaker 1: six months notice, like at least maybe even a.
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  Speaker 2: Year for it for Europe. Yeah, yeah, I know, and
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  Speaker 2: what you did was great.
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  Speaker 5: Because everyone got to have a weekend and experience, but
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  Speaker 5: it wasn't like so far.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it wasn't so far.
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  Speaker 3: So that's how we landed on Mexico.
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  Speaker 1: I know.
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  Speaker 5: So we just have to kind of narrow that down
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  Speaker 5: and then figure out where to go from there. But
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  Speaker 5: I think our location is going to be like the
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  Speaker 5: biggest thing, and then from there I'm not looking forward
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  Speaker 5: to like the little details because in my mind, I'm
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  Speaker 5: like I don't pay attention to that stuff at weddings
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  Speaker 5: and it's like you have to pick the cutlery and
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  Speaker 5: all these things that like I don't like doing that stuff.
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  Speaker 3: So we did it all literally in like a day.
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  Speaker 2: I know, you just have to like sit down and
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  Speaker 2: do it.
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  Speaker 3: We flew out to our venue.
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  Speaker 1: Our wedding planner had the whole Like we showed up
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  Speaker 1: and there was like a table, dude, three different tables
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  Speaker 1: and each of them had different place settings and we
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  Speaker 1: kind of walked through like different chairs and everything, and
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  Speaker 1: then we just kind of like made every combo of
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  Speaker 1: like rehearsal dinner, wedding, and like that was it.
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  Speaker 3: It was like two hours.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, we're just gonna have to Those are gonna be
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  Speaker 5: the parts where we're just like we both are gonna
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  Speaker 5: be dragging our feet.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm saying like, you don't have to make it
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  Speaker 1: like a whole annoying thing.
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  Speaker 3: Like we didn't want it to be a whole annoying thing.
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  Speaker 1: So we were like, have it all set up, we'll
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  Speaker 1: come in, we'll pick our favorites, and we'll be out.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: And the other thing is trying to figure out because
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  Speaker 5: I would love a situation where we both walk towards
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  Speaker 5: each other where we meet for the like altar or whatever.
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  Speaker 5: And so finding a venue like I found. I saw
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  Speaker 5: this venue that had it was basically like all this
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  Speaker 5: seats were set up and there's kind of a stage.
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  Speaker 5: It's in the trees, and there's two staircases that come
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  Speaker 5: down on either side. So it was like we could
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  Speaker 5: both walk down and meet. That would be like the
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  Speaker 5: ideal because you're still in front of everybody, you know,
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  Speaker 5: you're you're having a hard time picturing it. Yeah, So
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  Speaker 5: like you're you're sitting and then you're looking at a
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  Speaker 5: stage and then on either no it's outside, but there's
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  Speaker 5: like these two staircases that go up.
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  Speaker 3: Where are you gonna find that?
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  Speaker 2: No, I found it.
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  Speaker 5: It's in I think it's in northern California. Yeah, it's beautiful.
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  Speaker 5: But like that kind of thinking about those things too,
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  Speaker 5: you know, is something that that we.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like you could create that yourself anywhere though. No,
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  Speaker 1: like you could kind of have everybody sitting in like
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  Speaker 1: semi circle, in like a semicircle on two sides, so
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  Speaker 1: that everybody's kind of like.
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  Speaker 2: Kind of like Dean and Kaylen we were facing the aisle.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, like Dean and Kaylen, but we're in the middle middle.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: So yeah, and we can make that anywhere if we
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  Speaker 5: have enough space, right, and if it's not already set
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  Speaker 5: up as like a stage or whatever. But that's kind
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  Speaker 5: of the concept of thinking about venues and location and
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  Speaker 5: then it'll be like dressed stuff, which that will be fun.
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  Speaker 3: I think that needs to be done ahead of time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you did yours so fast.
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  Speaker 1: I got mine in September and that was like the cutoff,
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  Speaker 1: Like they were like, if you do it any like later.
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  Speaker 2: You did it before you even found the venue.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, oh, in September, I see, I got my dress.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, that's like.
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  Speaker 1: The only thing because well and I didn't really have
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  Speaker 1: many I didn't have any alterations. I only did the bottom,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like I made it shorter. I think if
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  Speaker 1: you have to like a lot of alterations, I think
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  Speaker 1: you have to have like a lot of time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yours fit like a glove.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, she was made for me.
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  Speaker 2: She was she was made for you.
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  Speaker 1: It was so funny. I was talking to where was I? Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I was at my plate studio and I was talking to.
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  Speaker 3: This girl about I was like, yeah, I hadn't been
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  Speaker 3: back to this plotty studo since June. And I was like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, I.
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  Speaker 1: Put so much work in before my wedding and then
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  Speaker 1: like I went on my honeymoon and had this like
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  Speaker 1: summer of my life and I just kind of like
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  Speaker 1: have just fallen off the wagon. And she was like, ah,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it's fine. She's like at least you'll get
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  Speaker 1: on your wedding. I was like, I look great, And
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  Speaker 1: she was your wedding dress like super tight and like
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  Speaker 1: tight like all over, and I was like, actually no, I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Like why did I care so much?
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  Speaker 1: Like my wedding dress poofed out at the bottom, like
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  Speaker 1: you only sell my arms.
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  Speaker 3: You know, yeah, I know, I know. It's like a
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  Speaker 3: mental thing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it is what you needed to do, Yeah, for yourself.
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  Speaker 3: So maybe we start with wedding dress shopping.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we should probably start there.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, those are like the two need to lock those
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  Speaker 5: in first, and you could.
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  Speaker 3: Look for dresses forever. It's not like you have to
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  Speaker 3: you know, forever.
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  Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is like, you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: just go out one day and find your dress.
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  Speaker 5: No, that's not how I in an ideal world.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, but I know some people who have done like
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  Speaker 1: a hundred, They've gone to like a hundred.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not doing this, so I know.
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  Speaker 3: I literally was like after.
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  Speaker 1: My third store, I was like, if I don't find
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  Speaker 1: it now, like it's going to be one of these
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  Speaker 1: from one saying is like.
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  Speaker 5: After the third store, at that point it's my own.
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  Speaker 5: It's something about me that I.
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  Speaker 2: Need to figure out right about me that I don't.
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  Speaker 5: Like, Yeah, because that's a lot and I only have
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  Speaker 5: so much like stamina for shopping and trying things on.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I want to talk.
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  Speaker 5: About your word for next year, Yes, And I want
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  Speaker 5: to talk about the fact that Travis and Taylor have
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  Speaker 5: not fought in two and a half hours.
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  Speaker 2: I mean two and a half years as a couple.
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  Speaker 3: I hope they don't fight every two and a half hours.
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  Speaker 2: But we're going to talk about that when we come back.
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  Speaker 3: We're back, jinks.
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  Speaker 5: I was watching you to see when you were gonna
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  Speaker 5: notice that we were back. So you you know, your
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  Speaker 5: word of the year is become a legendary thing, very creative,
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  Speaker 5: very uh manifestational, and this year, did you want to
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  Speaker 5: announce it?
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  Speaker 3: Well?
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  Speaker 1: So, And this was really plaguing me for a long
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  Speaker 1: time because I felt like my word last year was.
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  Speaker 3: So good, Like I was like, wow, I like nailed it.
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  Speaker 2: Last year.
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  Speaker 3: It was wife.
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  Speaker 1: Wife was the word, but it stood for woman in
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  Speaker 1: full efflorescence.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean effluorescence itself is gorgeous?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, how do you top that?
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: And like I did feel in a sense a little
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: bit like Taylor Swift, you know, like when you come
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: out with like a masterpiece, Like how do you top that?
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: I felt that same pressure that she feels.
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: It was the exact same pressure.
• 15:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and like I couldn't. I was like racking my brain.
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: I was like thinking of words and I was gonna
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: use like multiply because I want to like obviously I
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: want to like pro you know, pro create.
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: I want to like multiply like.
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: My time, my money, like all those you know, like
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: and I was like multiply, like I can't be go
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: from wife to multiply, you know. And yeah, I was
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: giving ed scheering and then and we love who we love,
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: but like I don't need to copy him, you know. Yeah,
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: and uh so, so it's kind of like going around
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: with like a bunch of words. And then I was like,
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: I gotta do mom. I gotta make mom M O
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: M and figure out some way to like make that work.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: So it's officially Mom, and it's manifest optimize and multiply.
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: So I got a multiply in there.
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: But I posted it on Instagram the other day, like
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: asking people for like suggestions, and somebody wrote me one
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: that I actually think I like better.
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: Oh I know, breaking news. She might switch a word.
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: I might switch it, but uh wait, what was it?
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: It was? It was the same.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: It was using mom, and uh they just like nailed it.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: It was like, hold on, let me find it.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: Is manifest to optimize and multiply. It's kind of like
• 16:54
  Speaker 4: giving LinkedIn or something.
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: It's giving. It's giving stock market.
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: It is, I mean, in a different.
• 17:06
  Speaker 5: Context, optimize and multiply give like uh.
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, optimize multi.
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: Ew why that for me?
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: It's just very It's it's like you don't have efflorescent
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: in there, so it feels a little like.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: Okay, somebody wrote mother modern optimistic Tanya helping everyone radiate.
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: I know, I love that, but it didn't really give me.
• 17:39
  Speaker 5: What what's happening with your hair on this siho?
• 17:46
  Speaker 3: Sorry, it's the end of the.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: Okay, so magnificent optimistic mentor mom, metamorphosis opens magic?
• 18:01
  Speaker 5: Wait what about metamorphosis? Optimize and multiply?
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: What does metamorphosis mean?
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: Like a change like your growth?
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: So instead of manifest you think metamorphosis.
• 18:14
  Speaker 5: Or you could do multiply optimize metamorphosis.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: I like that. I'm gonna go with that.
• 18:21
  Speaker 5: It gives you a little bit of whimsy, you know. Yeah,
• 18:24
  Speaker 5: and this is giving corporate although we like all those words.
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I like it. Multiply optimize metamorphosis.
• 18:35
  Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, mom, Mom, I have not thought of a
• 18:41
  Speaker 5: word because I have about one brain cell. As you
• 18:46
  Speaker 5: tap into that soon and I'll announce it on Instagram.
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: You can even imagine.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: Because I really feel like for some reason this year,
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: I at this point of the year like I'm so
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: burnt out, Like I feel just fried on every level.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Well you I feel like this year was weirdly
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: so busy for you personally and professionally.
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure.
• 19:11
  Speaker 5: I don't feel like I had a crazy like I
• 19:12
  Speaker 5: had a great, chill year.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: Like I felt very I got to lay a lot.
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like I didn't lay until the last month.
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: Of that conversation. Well, I loved your post and we
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: love to lay. Easton Crystal's edit what of the video.
• 19:28
  Speaker 5: Yeah, but I was gonna say when we were in
• 19:31
  Speaker 5: Japan and Haley got sick, she was like, I'm so sorry,
• 19:34
  Speaker 5: I'm sick and we can't like go out and shop,
• 19:36
  Speaker 5: and I was like, I haven't gotten.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: To lay this whole trip, Like this is my dream dream.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: I am laying and living large. Yeah. But yeah, you
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: had a very busy year, very productive.
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it did, and it felt for us.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: It felt like I feel like from the start of
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: the year until my wedding, it was so all consuming
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: about like wedding and then I don't know why, but
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: because we waited for our honeymoon and then we had
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: like a lot of trips and I had like a
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: huge work trip plan, so I was like, this is
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: going to be the summer of fun, Like I'm just
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: gonna like live it up, and like then you're basically
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: into September and then like life just like the work
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: and life just pile on.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:15
  Speaker 5: Yeah, the September through December speed is like we studied
• 20:21
  Speaker 5: what happened.
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I.
• 20:23
  Speaker 5: Thought it was more so when you have kids and
• 20:25
  Speaker 5: it's the rush of like holloways.
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: Back to school.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: But it's something because I feel like there's all these
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: like events that it planned in September and then with
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: the holidays, with Halloween, I mean your birthdays in there,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: so like that it's a whole other thing, and then
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: things it's like the big holidays all stack up so much.
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it truly does feel like Halloween was last weekend.
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, it is crazy.
• 20:49
  Speaker 5: Another story that came out was that Travis and Taylor.
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: Travis said that in the two and a half years
• 20:55
  Speaker 5: that they've been together, they haven't they have never once
• 20:58
  Speaker 5: had an argument.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: Is that crazy?
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: I thought about this.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: I think they've had an argument, like they don't agree
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: on everything, but they've never had like a big fight.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: I don't see you and Alison having big fights. Do
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: you all have big fights?
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: We we bicker from time to time, like you know,
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: but we we don't have big fights that often. We've
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: had them, Yeah, see they've had them.
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: That's normal.
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: I'm wondering what his definition of like I'm with you,
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: like I think.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: I think he thinks like fighting is like yelling and
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: like slamming doors, like we've never done that.
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: I've throw my phone once though.
• 21:39
  Speaker 6: Rob, Yeah, just shattered it for no reason and I
• 21:44
  Speaker 6: didn't even mid Like when I say I like throw it,
• 21:46
  Speaker 6: I literally like when I opped it and like walked
• 21:49
  Speaker 6: out the door and then came right back.
• 21:51
  Speaker 5: I'm just curious if Taylor sitting there, like what is
• 21:54
  Speaker 5: he talking about?
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: This is not accurate. He totally missed. He didn't not
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: know that we were arguing when we were arguing.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: Maybe that's what he thinks, Like he thinks it's like
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: a big blow up fight, which has to be the
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: case because there's no way after two and a half
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: years it didn't have somewhat of a squabble.
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: But I feel like it's fight.
• 22:12
  Speaker 5: There's a fight, and then there's an argument and he
• 22:14
  Speaker 5: specifically said argument.
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: So you think he just lumps them in together. Must
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: Kylie Kelsey was like, you notice Jason did not chime
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: in on that, because.
• 22:25
  Speaker 5: We certainly do not have the same story. Yeah. I
• 22:29
  Speaker 5: think it's so funny because I wouldn't say I would
• 22:31
  Speaker 5: say at the beginning our relationship, Haley and I would
• 22:35
  Speaker 5: argue a lot basically because our communication styles were just
• 22:38
  Speaker 5: so different. But I feel like this year specifically, we've
• 22:42
  Speaker 5: really been like on the same page.
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: And like, I also think.
• 22:46
  Speaker 5: Learning each other and knowing like what the triggers are
• 22:49
  Speaker 5: that make a simple a little argument turn into a
• 22:53
  Speaker 5: fight are so important because most things can be de escalated, yeah,
• 22:57
  Speaker 5: when you know the person and how to like handle
• 23:00
  Speaker 5: the situation. Yeah, But if you don't know and you're
• 23:03
  Speaker 5: just like triggering it and they just you're going in circles,
• 23:07
  Speaker 5: that's how it escalates.
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: And I think also too, like you're right, I think
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: you figure out figure it out in the beginning stages,
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: because I remember Robbie like needs time, like he just
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: wants to like have a little space and like think
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: about his thoughts. Whereas when I when he said that,
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: like my brain went to, like we're breaking up and
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: then I would just like freak out. I wouldn't let
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: him go to sleep until we like hash it out,
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: and like that's not super productive either, you know. So
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: it's like we've both learned how to kind of like
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: meet in the middle with that.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: So it's like I won't say we argue better.
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's true, like, yeah, I also need space.
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: So it's like I hate that.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: I know Ha hates it too, but I'm.
• 23:45
  Speaker 5: Like, I will be able to to peacefully come come
• 23:50
  Speaker 5: back better than if we try to do this right now.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: But a lot of people were like this is not believable.
• 23:56
  Speaker 5: But I have friends I feel like who don't who
• 23:58
  Speaker 5: would say like they haven't had a big ballll fight,
• 24:01
  Speaker 5: But I don't know if anyone's not had arguments in.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: Two and a half years.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so you know what I liked though, What I
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: like that George Clooney is like not taking on rolls exactly.
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that like are kissing people anymore?
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's all done.
• 24:15
  Speaker 5: I like that.
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: I don't know why.
• 24:17
  Speaker 5: I was like, oh, but also I'm like, okay, so
• 24:20
  Speaker 5: now you're at an age where like it's not necessarily
• 24:23
  Speaker 5: like you're in demand to be like, you know what
• 24:27
  Speaker 5: I'm saying, like George, but I'm saying like I wonder,
• 24:32
  Speaker 5: I wonder if his wife is like, where was this
• 24:35
  Speaker 5: energy ten years ago?
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: Right right like right after we got married?
• 24:39
  Speaker 5: Man? But yeah, I think it's I think it's sweet
• 24:43
  Speaker 5: because it's like, does he need to be doing that anymore?
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: You know, dang, Becca, you really know how to take
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: the wind out of my sails.
• 24:50
  Speaker 5: I was like, so ecited George Clooney in his prime
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: time being married, would go, I don't need to be
• 24:57
  Speaker 5: doing this anymore.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: But I pose a point, don't die?
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: What has he done lately?
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: Has he done a Wally has a new movie called
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: Jake Kelly. It's on Netflix. It's about an actor, a
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: famous actor. I'm Sandler's in it too. It sounds very good.
• 25:14
  Speaker 5: I personally am a fan of George Clooney, so I'm
• 25:17
  Speaker 5: excited to see his new movie. But I always Haley,
• 25:21
  Speaker 5: you know, is in this industry where we've had these
• 25:24
  Speaker 5: conversations about what that looks like in my comfort with it,
• 25:28
  Speaker 5: and really my comfort is I'm not comfortable with any either.
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: There'd be absolutely no way.
• 25:35
  Speaker 5: But we have conversations where you know, it's like knowing
• 25:38
  Speaker 5: how to be respectful about it and making sure that
• 25:41
  Speaker 5: I feel safe and what she has to do with
• 25:44
  Speaker 5: when it comes to work stuff.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: But yeah, it's not like easy.
• 25:47
  Speaker 5: I think it's I think unless you're both in the
• 25:49
  Speaker 5: industry and you're both going to work and making out
• 25:52
  Speaker 5: with people for your job, I think that's the only
• 25:57
  Speaker 5: way you're able.
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: To just be okay with it.
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, Because if.
• 26:00
  Speaker 5: You're not in the industry and you're like, I don't
• 26:02
  Speaker 5: understand there, don't don't go to work.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: I know myself, there's absolutely no way I could handle it.
• 26:09
  Speaker 5: No. And the funny thing is if that was Robbie's job,
• 26:11
  Speaker 5: he would be able to go and do it and
• 26:13
  Speaker 5: like not think anything of it.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: Literally he would be like so unattached, like I would
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: have nothing to worry about.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: But I would hate it. I would absolutely hate it.
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: It's not for the it's not for the week.
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: No, no, no, But I'm strong, but I would crumble.
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: I would should be shivering.
• 26:48
  Speaker 5: Someone asked a fun question about what song that reminds
• 26:51
  Speaker 5: you of each other, and I thought that would be
• 26:54
  Speaker 5: a fun one to answer.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: Do you have a song that reminds you of me? Yeah?
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: Oh what are me?
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: Yes, how'd you know?
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: Just had a feeling army by Ellie Goulding.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 27:06
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: Do you have a song that reminds you about me?
• 27:09
  Speaker 5: I mean I think I have a bunch of songs
• 27:12
  Speaker 5: that I would think of, but I feel like I.
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: Think auld be Joweled when I think of you.
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: Ah yes, yeah, yeah and.
• 27:17
  Speaker 5: Weirdly Easton, which it's the only reason this song is
• 27:21
  Speaker 5: not like my least favorite song of all time because
• 27:24
  Speaker 5: I have the association with you.
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: I think of me by Taylors Me.
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because he hates so much.
• 27:31
  Speaker 5: Because we like did this We all danced to it
• 27:34
  Speaker 5: one time and the Easton went like one hundred and
• 27:37
  Speaker 5: fifty percent with his dancing and singing.
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: And I think of it now wow. Or a Hillary
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: Duff song that makes you feel good.
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, He's like, I'm slightly fender, but I say I'm.
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: Saying like it's it's it.
• 27:52
  Speaker 5: It brings me to a higher level because I associated
• 27:55
  Speaker 5: with you.
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah that makes me happy.
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Yeah, there's some. I mean, I don't want to
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: lump on Bejeweled, but like such the tiniest song, It's fine.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: I sing it every day I enter the studio. Yes,
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: so it's kind of like my theme song.
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: I have a very fun memory from when I first
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: started working with mister Seacrest and we were at the
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: East Studio and you're probably there telling you but Wildest
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: Dreams my Taylor Swift is playing and Mark was like
• 28:23
  Speaker 4: singing along so loudly to the bridge like the.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: Hen it damn.
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: Every time I hear Wildest Dreams, I think of him
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: and I think of that. I think you were there
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: that David like he was like so into it. And
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: that's a very fun memory. So even though Mark's not
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: here today, I'm gonna say Wildest Streams makes me think.
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: Of him weirdly. Jeanie in a Bottle makes me think
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: of Mark.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: These are not the songs I would expect.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: It's because whatever we're waiting for, Like if we're waiting
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: for Ryan, like, well, we'll ask like our board op
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: John to like play certain songs. And for some reason,
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: I feel like he always plays Genie a Bottle, which
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: is requested by Mark.
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: I'm assuming because I don't know what else is requesting it.
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a great song.
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: It's a great song. It's a great song.
• 29:15
  Speaker 5: I feel like I think of weirdly because he always
• 29:18
  Speaker 5: brings it up.
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: Is all too well, all too well tenute version.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah, or the Ryne runs out. He was
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: so passionate about.
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: Not being awesome. I was with him. It was my
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: brunner up. I'm and s so with Lord Rob.
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: R O, B B E. D.
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: Yes. Thank you for spelling that out.
• 29:46
  Speaker 5: I don't. That's the end of the episode, But don't worry.
• 29:50
  Speaker 5: We'll be back with more, because that's what we do
• 29:52
  Speaker 5: and who we are.
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: When are we coming back, Becca, We'll be.
• 29:55
  Speaker 5: Back Wednesday on Christmas Eve. And if you're listening to
• 29:58
  Speaker 5: us on Christmas Eve or Chris Miss Day, We're so
• 30:01
  Speaker 5: happy that you are here and that we are your
• 30:04
  Speaker 5: chosen company for the jos And Family, chosen family, because
• 30:08
  Speaker 5: nothing is more of an honor than being with you
• 30:11
  Speaker 5: on the days like this, of your of your.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: We love you.
• 30:17
  Speaker 5: So much, whether you are with friends, family, at home
• 30:23
  Speaker 5: by yourself this week, know that you are so loved
• 30:26
  Speaker 5: by the scrubbing In family and we're so grateful for
• 30:29
  Speaker 5: you and thank you for an amazing twenty twenty five years.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: Not over, baby girl, we got two more pods, baby girl,
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: jee Let's go.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: We love y'all so much. We'll be back Wednesday. You
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: bye bye.