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339. The Root Of Every Sin - How Selfishness Destroys Your Life · The Impossible Life

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  Speaker 3: No, a little pain first thing in the morning is
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  Speaker 1: in the morning and Garrett showed up to our podcasting
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  Speaker 1: call with a sleeveless shirt on that says it's only
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  Speaker 1: pain with a smiley face, which is what you were
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  Speaker 1: talking about there. So anyways.
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  Speaker 3: It's just pain. Little pain. It's just pain. Don't let
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  Speaker 3: pain be the guiding voice in your life. And that
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  Speaker 3: is really what it's all about.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly. All right. Well, gee, it's tools and tactics. So
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  Speaker 1: we're just going to dive in. Today's episode, man, we're
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  Speaker 1: really getting to the root of all sin, which sounds
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  Speaker 1: like a big thing, but we're going to really simplify
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  Speaker 1: this sin that's absolutely destroying your life. Because I think
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  Speaker 1: when you can highlight this, it will unlock so much
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  Speaker 1: of what distorts your view of the world, distorts your
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  Speaker 1: view of God. Like really that's sin damages everything. your
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  Speaker 1: relationship with God, and then it transfers and makes everything
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  Speaker 1: harder for everything that you're put over. Like when Adam sinned,
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  Speaker 1: I think he had no idea that all humanity for
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  Speaker 1: the rest of time, not to mention the actual earth itself,
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  Speaker 1: would fall under the consequences of what he'd done. And
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  Speaker 1: it's because he didn't realize the authority that he'd been
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  Speaker 1: given by God. And so that's a picture for all
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  Speaker 1: of us. Every person listening to this has a measure
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  Speaker 1: of rule. If you want to make your life harder,
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  Speaker 1: keep sinning. And so we're going to make that very simple.
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  Speaker 1: And gee, we have kids. And we, uh, one of
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  Speaker 1: the great things about kids is you get to see, uh,
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  Speaker 1: you get to see the development of a little human
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  Speaker 1: and you get to pick out some of the roots
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  Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, these are consistencies. Uh, so I'm
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  Speaker 1: teaching my 13 year old this as well as my
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  Speaker 1: seven year old this, and you've got even younger kids,
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  Speaker 1: the joy of fighting over the same things.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Well, what's interesting in, in watching your kids, because I
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  Speaker 3: feel like I, I examined myself in this examined other people,
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  Speaker 3: but when God gives you a couple of mini me's,
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  Speaker 3: you really get different level of examination. It's interesting when
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  Speaker 3: you do it, when you examine and you've got to just,
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  Speaker 3: just quick side note. I know we don't have a
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  Speaker 3: lot of time for side notes on tools and tactics,
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  Speaker 3: but I was just sharing this leadership anecdote with someone recently. Don't,
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  Speaker 3: do not fail to be a great examiner of other people.
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  Speaker 3: Don't do it in a judgmental way. Do it in
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  Speaker 3: a way that you seek to learn. And the leadership
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  Speaker 3: lesson I was teaching It's one of my favorite ones
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  Speaker 3: where Henry Ford said, I tried to hire a pair
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  Speaker 3: of hands, but instead I got the whole person. When
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  Speaker 3: you want someone to just do something for you, you
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  Speaker 3: actually miss the best part of them. Now, the complication
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  Speaker 3: is that people are a lot more difficult to manage
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  Speaker 3: than just a tool or a machine because they all
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  Speaker 3: work different. And what this lends to is the understanding
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  Speaker 3: that leadership is one of the most valuable skills in
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  Speaker 3: the world. Leadership begins with learning how to lead yourself,
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  Speaker 3: but then it expands into, it's hard enough just to
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  Speaker 3: lead yourself, but then it expands into leading other people.
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  Speaker 3: And the first thing you realize when you've led yourself
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  Speaker 3: and you're learning to lead someone else is, man, they're
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  Speaker 3: not exactly like me. And so what you've got to
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  Speaker 3: do is learn how to examine people the same way.
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  Speaker 3: People who, one of my friends, he's a really great
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  Speaker 3: just engineer and machinist. And he's one of those guys
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  Speaker 3: who from the time he was little, he picks stuff
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  Speaker 3: apart and says, why does it work this way? Well,
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  Speaker 3: learn how to do that with people and not in
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  Speaker 3: a judgmental or mean or emotional way. Just examine them.
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  Speaker 3: Why are you motivated this way? Why do these things
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  Speaker 3: not motivate you? What brought you to those conclusions? And again,
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  Speaker 3: do it from like a scientific and examining way, and
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  Speaker 3: it'll teach you how to lead people. And so I
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  Speaker 3: say all that to say we could talk more about that.
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  Speaker 3: I was examining my children. And one of the things
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  Speaker 3: that's so interesting is who taught you that? You know,
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  Speaker 3: it's like because I've examined myself quite a bit. And
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  Speaker 3: there's parts of me that it's natural that way. And
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  Speaker 3: there's other things that I've learned. And it's interesting to
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  Speaker 3: look at my kids and look at the positive and
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  Speaker 3: negative things of the way that they are. It's like,
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  Speaker 3: I didn't teach you that. You just are that way.
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  Speaker 3: And one of the ways, so that's all a lead
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  Speaker 3: in to say one of the ways that we all
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  Speaker 3: are naturally, I didn't have to teach my kids to
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  Speaker 3: be selfish. And one of the lessons that I'm teaching
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  Speaker 3: little kids is, you know, because kids are really good
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  Speaker 3: at telling you what they want and their demands. Okay.
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  Speaker 3: And what I'm, helping them understand that you don't get
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  Speaker 3: this as a kid. You're not aware of your selfishness.
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  Speaker 3: And what I'm helping my, my little girls understand is
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  Speaker 3: your joy cannot come at somebody else's expense. The only
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  Speaker 3: thing that will make you happy cannot be something that
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  Speaker 3: takes away another person's happiness. But when you're, when all
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  Speaker 3: you see is yourself right now, it's as I, my,
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  Speaker 3: my oldest grace, you know, she's starting to form logical
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  Speaker 3: thoughts and she can understand like, Oh, okay. That makes sense.
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  Speaker 3: That would be mean. But before we can even understand logic,
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  Speaker 3: we begin with a view of life that's all about us.
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  Speaker 3: It's this self-centeredness. What about me? What about what I want?
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  Speaker 3: This is the sin that destroys us. And that's what
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  Speaker 3: sin is. Sin is just selfishness. It's the root of
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  Speaker 3: every single sin. And this is the shift that Satan
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  Speaker 3: made in the Garden of Eden. When he's speaking to Eve,
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  Speaker 3: he shifted the conversation. through just a little drop of selfishness,
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  Speaker 3: shifted the conversation from what did God say into a
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  Speaker 3: conversation of, well, what could this do for me? He
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  Speaker 3: didn't try to say God's not all powerful, didn't try
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  Speaker 3: to say God's evil. He says, well, if you ate
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  Speaker 3: this fruit, what could it do for you? And so
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  Speaker 3: he started making Eve think, well, I'm missing out. What
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  Speaker 3: could I have if I did this? And so I
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  Speaker 3: say that to say, That is like the internal voice
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  Speaker 3: of sin that we all have to wrestle with is
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  Speaker 3: just kind of this what about me thought process. And
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  Speaker 3: where it becomes so dangerous is when the thought process,
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  Speaker 3: and we're going to expand on this today. I'm going
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  Speaker 3: to give you three core lies related to sin, different
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  Speaker 3: ways this creeps in, because it's not just Satan coming
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  Speaker 3: to you and saying, hey, what could this thing do
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  Speaker 3: for you? Selfishness has a few different trap doors into
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  Speaker 3: our life. But where it's so dangerous, I'm just setting
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  Speaker 3: the foundation here for a second, where sin and the
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  Speaker 3: selfishness thought is so dangerous is when that begins to
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  Speaker 3: have a greater precedence over what God said, over what
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  Speaker 3: is right in a situation, what's going to be the
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  Speaker 3: best thing in a situation. Or what we've talked about
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  Speaker 3: many times on the show is what's required of me?
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  Speaker 3: What does love require? Like, what is the mission, right?
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  Speaker 3: I put this one back on people in a corporate
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  Speaker 3: sense sometimes of like, And what would it have been
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  Speaker 3: like if we were on a mission and I go,
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  Speaker 3: we're on a very important mission. I go, chief, I
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  Speaker 3: got a headache. Can we turn around?
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 3: That sounds stupid on a SEAL team. And it should
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  Speaker 3: feel that stupid in your life when you're that focused
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  Speaker 3: on your mission and the things that you're focused on
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  Speaker 3: in yourself. The reason it's stupid is because everyone clearly
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  Speaker 3: understands the mission is so much more important than your headache.
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  Speaker 3: But when we make selfish decisions, we're doing the thing
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  Speaker 3: of like, but my head hurts really bad. Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's, man, there's so much in what was
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  Speaker 1: just said about simplifying sin down to just selfishness. There's
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  Speaker 1: so many different laws on sin and all the ways
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  Speaker 1: to atone and all these different complications. I mean, if
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  Speaker 1: you read through the Torah, it's amazing actually how in-depth
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  Speaker 1: God went. But when you simplify it like this, gee,
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  Speaker 1: we live in a society that is constantly telling you
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  Speaker 1: to get yours. It's like rewarding in athletics. Oh, this
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  Speaker 1: guy held out and he got an even bigger contract.
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  Speaker 1: For the common person, when you take a picture with
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  Speaker 1: your friends, who do you look at first? If your
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  Speaker 1: first thing is like, oh, you got to go look
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  Speaker 1: and make sure you look good.
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  Speaker 3: Boom.
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  Speaker 1: Selfishness monster. The term selfie. I mean, I freaking hate
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  Speaker 1: that term, G. It's always made my skin cringe. And
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  Speaker 1: I will just say it's become a culture of like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: let's have 5,000 pictures of me in front of something different.
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  Speaker 3: Just learned about a general the other day. Just learned
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  Speaker 3: about a general the other day who got fired for
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  Speaker 3: a selfie. Well, we're in the no selfishness era of
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  Speaker 3: the Pentagon.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, praise the Lord. But you know, G, the
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  Speaker 1: great thing is this is not just our opinion. I
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  Speaker 1: love the book of James because if you don't know,
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  Speaker 1: the book of James is unlike any other book in
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  Speaker 1: the New Testament. in that it's a verse-by-verse book. This
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  Speaker 1: is just a little quick Bible understanding for you. It
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  Speaker 1: is a modern, what would have been a modern-day Proverbs
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  Speaker 1: back then. It's the New Testament version of Proverbs in
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  Speaker 1: the sense that it's not telling a story. It's not
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  Speaker 1: even book-by-book or paragraph-by-paragraph. It's phrase-by-phrase. And James is just
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  Speaker 1: breaking down and giving wisdom. So James 1, 14 through
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  Speaker 1: 15 literally says exactly this. It says, but each person,
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  Speaker 1: so this is where sin is born, is tempted when
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  Speaker 1: they are dragged away. Where from, G? By their own,
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  Speaker 1: own evil desire and enticed. Then after desire has conceived,
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  Speaker 1: it gives birth to sin. And sin, when it is
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  Speaker 1: full grown, gives birth to death. It starts with such
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  Speaker 1: a small thing because who doesn't want to feel good?
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  Speaker 1: Who doesn't want to look good? Who doesn't want to
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  Speaker 1: have abundance? And what we're not saying is like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: you should completely not want any of those things and
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  Speaker 1: treat yourself like a worm and put yourself away. We're
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  Speaker 1: not saying that. But when those things are like the
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  Speaker 1: main focus of your behavior, when you're walking into rooms
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  Speaker 1: and the first thing you're thinking about is what are
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  Speaker 1: people thinking of me or what I want out of
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  Speaker 1: this place or the example I gave with pictures and stuff,
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  Speaker 1: it is just constantly reinforced. And as a marketer, I
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  Speaker 1: will say companies are very, very good at appealing to
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  Speaker 1: your sense of selfishness to get you to buy whatever
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  Speaker 1: it is that they're selling. And just be on guard
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  Speaker 1: because selfishness, like if the beast that's going to grow
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  Speaker 1: inside you is whatever's fed, Society is feeding your selfishness
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  Speaker 1: all the time.
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  Speaker 3: So you got to be aware. And James being the
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  Speaker 3: book of wisdom, like Proverbs does, it repeats itself. It's
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  Speaker 3: also similar. James chapter four.
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  Speaker 1: No, I don't get it. Perfect.
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  Speaker 3: But James chapter four is what is it that causes
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  Speaker 3: the fights among you? Is it not the war within yourselves? Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: It's referring to the same thing. What's, what's the war
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  Speaker 3: within ourselves? The war between, between the flesh and the spirit,
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  Speaker 3: the war between what God has says and what I'm
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  Speaker 3: personally seeking for myself. It is the journey, the heroic
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  Speaker 3: battle of a journey of self-sacrifice and deciding to choose
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  Speaker 3: a life that's not about you. And this is exactly
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  Speaker 3: what God has called us to. Luke chapter nine, verse 23,
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  Speaker 3: whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves And
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  Speaker 3: take up their cross daily and follow me. And the
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  Speaker 3: core of that is take up their cross daily and
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  Speaker 3: follow me. That's what it's about. But where does that
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  Speaker 3: journey start? What's the first thing? A lot of people
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  Speaker 3: skip past that. That's a verse that most Christians have heard.
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  Speaker 3: But if we did a multiple choice test of what's
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  Speaker 3: Luke 9.23, a lot of people would get the, this
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  Speaker 3: is how they get you with all the wrong answers
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  Speaker 3: on the SAT. Here's the three-fourths correct answer. And I
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  Speaker 3: can delete the must deny themselves part of this first.
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  Speaker 3: People go, oh, that's Luke 9, 23, right? Because it's
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  Speaker 3: so easy to read past this piece of scripture, right?
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  Speaker 3: And I'm not saying that that is the most important
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  Speaker 3: piece of the scripture, but it is an important part.
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  Speaker 3: And we're hitting on this topic today of you've got
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  Speaker 3: to not let pain be a guiding voice in your life.
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  Speaker 3: You've got to not make your life about running from
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  Speaker 3: pain or running towards pleasure. You've got to decide the
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  Speaker 3: journey that you want to go on. And that journey
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  Speaker 3: is going to require you I'm not saying that you
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  Speaker 3: forget about yourself, but that you can't be number one.
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  Speaker 3: God must be number one. And so what does he say?
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  Speaker 3: Must deny themselves, take up their cross daily and follow me.
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  Speaker 3: So let's just take a coat. This is, you know,
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  Speaker 3: this is all just set up for, this is tools
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  Speaker 3: and tactics. We want to give you three specific lies. Okay.
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  Speaker 3: I know those of you who listen to this show
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  Speaker 3: all the time, I haven't told you anything new yet.
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  Speaker 3: You know, selfishness is terrible and I'm constantly fighting against
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  Speaker 3: my selfishness And it's good to get reminded. We get
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  Speaker 3: these reminders. We need reminders. As one of those of
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  Speaker 3: you who come to Mighty Men hear me say this
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  Speaker 3: all the time, as one of my mentors said to me,
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  Speaker 3: men only need to be told once. We need to
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  Speaker 3: be reminded often. What we just talked about is a
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  Speaker 3: reminder on selfishness. But I'm very much a strategy and
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  Speaker 3: tactics person. And it's like if you don't know chess
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  Speaker 3: and people start making moves, you're just like, oh, my gosh,
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  Speaker 3: this is overwhelming. When you've studied chess and you understand
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  Speaker 3: each move that people make, you're like, oh, that's this
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  Speaker 3: setup or that's that setup. In martial arts, in MMA,
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  Speaker 3: on the battlefield, in business, you understand. I negotiate with
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  Speaker 3: people on a daily basis. As soon as people start
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  Speaker 3: talking to me, I'm thinking about, okay, I see the
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  Speaker 3: move that you're making. It's because it's not foreign to me.
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  Speaker 3: I understand the tactics that you're deploying. What I want
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  Speaker 3: to talk about really quick is just like, here's three
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  Speaker 3: specific tactics that selfishness uses on us. And they come
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  Speaker 3: from different places. It's all the same core, but it's
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  Speaker 3: a different approach. Again, just like in martial arts or
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  Speaker 3: something else, every move is a move to try to
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  Speaker 3: defeat you, but there's different types of moves. All of
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  Speaker 3: these are selfishness at their core, but here's some different
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  Speaker 3: moves that try to defeat you. Number one, we've all
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  Speaker 3: been guilty of this. And these are specific quotes of
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  Speaker 3: a lie that selfishness produces. And here's number one, I
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  Speaker 3: deserve this, right? We've all thought that. It's my turn, right?
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  Speaker 3: I deserve this. I earned this. By the way, I
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  Speaker 3: won't have a perfect antidote for all of these, but
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  Speaker 3: my antidote for this one is I remind myself what
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  Speaker 3: the Bible says I do deserve. The Bible says that
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  Speaker 3: the wages of sin is death. So the next time
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  Speaker 3: you start feeling entitled, like, but that's mine, but I
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  Speaker 3: did this, and you said that. The next time you
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  Speaker 3: start feeling that way, you have to quiet that voice.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe you did what was asked of you and you
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  Speaker 3: didn't get the proper compensation. The next time this voice
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  Speaker 3: starts welling up in you, it's not that it might
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  Speaker 3: not be logical to say, I deserve this, but this
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  Speaker 3: is a voice that wants to destroy you. And remember
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  Speaker 3: what the Bible says. What you deserve is death. The
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  Speaker 3: Bible says the wages. It's Romans 8, I believe. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know why I'm blanking on the reference.
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  Speaker 1: But it's Romans.
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  Speaker 3: Romans says the wages of sin is death. So the
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  Speaker 3: next time you start thinking, I deserve this, this is mine,
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  Speaker 3: I should be getting this. Remember that the only thing
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  Speaker 3: that the Bible says that you deserve, there's a lot
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  Speaker 3: of God's promises of his gifts to us, and God
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  Speaker 3: doesn't fail on his promises. But the thing that you've earned,
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  Speaker 3: sin has earned you death. So be careful before you
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  Speaker 3: start reaching your hand and claiming, hey, this is mine,
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  Speaker 3: I should have this. And as it relates to really
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: just entitlement in general. There's nothing wrong to say, hey,
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  Speaker 3: here's proper compensation for these efforts. That's not what I'm saying.
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: I'm not saying that thought process is sinful, but this
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  Speaker 3: is the issue. It's not about that it's illogical, but
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: the issue is when that becomes the highest authority. You
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  Speaker 3: might think you deserve for a business to be successful.
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: You might think you deserve a happy marriage, or you
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: might think that you deserve respect from your wife. And
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: maybe you have done things that you should earn some
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: respect for your wife. Maybe you've planted those seeds, but
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  Speaker 3: it is not up to you to demand that or
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: to force it, right? I'm not the creator of laws.
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: I get to live underneath these laws. But where I
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: get off base or where I lead myself off of
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: a cliff is when I start thinking this thought that
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: I deserve this is the most important thing.
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  Speaker 1: Right?
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: This is, um, we do this with, with simple comforts
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  Speaker 3: and simple pleasures, right? This is the, um, like when you,
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: when you get off of your diet, you think like,
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: oh man, like I've worked, worked out really hard today.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I, I deserve some food. Well, it's not
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  Speaker 3: irrational for you to say like, I worked out, so I,
• 17:59
  Speaker 3: maybe I deserve a treat. It doesn't change, um, what
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  Speaker 3: the laws of thermodynamics are. If you engage in those
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  Speaker 3: treats that, There's going to be a consequence that goes
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  Speaker 3: with it. And is the, you know, getting a treat,
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  Speaker 3: is that the mission that you're on? Or are you
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  Speaker 3: on a mission for fitness? Are you on a mission
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  Speaker 3: to have a healthy body? Are you on a mission
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  Speaker 3: to live a life that serves the kingdom? Just understand,
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  Speaker 3: it's not a sinful thought to say, man, I've worked
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  Speaker 3: hard today. I deserve a little treat. But you cannot
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: let that voice become the authority. And it's why it's
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: something Nick notices in me. It's where he's realized I'm
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: not just a crazy person at this point. But one
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: of the things he first clicked onto in me is
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: there was stuff that it's like, why are you so
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: weird about that? The same way that some people have
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: a reaction to people who have a little bit of
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: the tism, they have a reaction to certain materials. They're like, oh,
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: that just makes me uncomfortable. Nick thought I was just weird.
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: It's like, why do you shut stuff down? you know,
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: so quickly. It's really the things that I would attack
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: very quickly with stuff that I realized, man, that's a
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: negative thought process. And it doesn't seem like a big thing,
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: but it'll become a big thing in my life if
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: I let it stay there. So number one is just this,
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  Speaker 3: I deserve this mentality. Maybe you do, but you cannot
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  Speaker 3: let it become the authority in your life.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That thought process that you just shared about understanding the
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: small threats. I remember where it clicked for me, Derek.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: You told me that Navy SEALs always escalate. If someone
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: throws a rock, you're going to shoot bullets. If someone
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: shoots bullets, you're going to drop a bomb. I was
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: coming at it from a very, well, that's not, why
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: do that? Then you said, look, someone may throw a
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: rock at me. I don't know what else they have
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: because I'm so used to like these movies where people
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: draw guns and they talk for five minutes so we
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: can see where everybody's at before you finally do something.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: And that's obviously not how life works. And when I
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: realized that the reason you escalate is because you don't
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: know just how dangerous it could get. All the thought
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: process you just shared made sense. Like, oh, it's just
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: a little bit of porn. Well, the same lustful thoughts
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: that lead someone to look at porn or look at
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: that chick in the gym or check out that image
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: on Instagram grows and matures into, hey, let's have some
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: human trafficking. Let's sell people into prostitution. You might be like, whoa, no,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: that's a big jump. Where do you think it starts?
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: It would be really good with the things that are
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: trying to destroy you. I'm not saying go all the
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: way in this direction.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: This is not an honor off.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: This is more of a you know, maybe crank up
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: the dial on this one a little bit, but you
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: should crank up the dial a little bit on shoot first,
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: ask questions later, crank that dial up a little bit
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: on the things that are trying to destroy you. Instead
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: of when you see something that you shouldn't be looking
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: at on Instagram, you say like, oh, well, it's okay.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: This isn't like, this isn't, you know, porn by definition.
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: This is just like lust for material, you know? So
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: it's not porn by definition. I can just keep looking
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: at it. Let me scroll further. Instead, that's the worst
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: reaction you can have. Instead, why don't you throw your
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: phone across the room? Right. That's a little bit more
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: of the shoot first, ask questions later. There you go.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: Shout out to T-Mobile. We're not sponsored by them, but
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: they will replace that phone. Anyways. All right. So number
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  Speaker 1: one was I deserve this, G. What's number two?
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: Number two, man, this one's dangerous. So number one was,
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: you know, I deserve this with selfishness that comes from entitlement.
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: Number two is, this is where these, I'm trying to
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: show these trap doors where selfishness comes from different angles.
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: Number two is, it won't hurt anyone. And this is
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: a selfishness that comes from autonomy. One of the biggest
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: lessons of maturity is understanding that your choices affect more
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: than just you. It's not just about you, but so
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: often we, we, we look at self and well, it's like,
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: it's okay. You know, like I know we were just
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: talking about porn in the first one, but this is,
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: this is the trap. I think that gets people on
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: porn as well. Like, Oh, it's, it's not hurting anybody.
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: Or when you tell a lie or you do certain things,
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: it's okay, right? Like God will forgive me and this
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: isn't going to hurt anybody. Galatians 6, God will not
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  Speaker 3: be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Every choice
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: you make, everything you look at, everything that you eat,
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: everything that you do and say, you sow a seed, right?
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: So you cannot say that you're making decisions, you're making
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: choices in a vacuum. And you've got to see selfishness
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: as the enemy in your life that's trying to rob
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: you of salvation, that's trying to rob you of your destiny,
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: that's trying to rob you of the greatness that God's
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: called you to. One little lie at a time that
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: you think you're serving yourself, but actually you're building your
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: own prison. It won't hurt anyone is a disastrous lie
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: that makes you think, I can do these things with
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  Speaker 3: no consequence when actually— You're doing, you're sowing a seed, right?
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: It's Satan is trying to whisper you like, see, look,
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: sow a seed. And it's the wrong type of seed. See,
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: sow a seed. Hey, nothing happened. Do it again. Do
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: it again. And that's where people sow calamity in their life.
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: And then a year later, years later, they wonder why
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: they live in a jungle of weeds. And it's because
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: they've been sowing seeds for a long time that have
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: a delayed harvest. And that is how it is most
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: of the time in our life. So do not fall
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: trap to this lie. of it doesn't hurt anybody. All
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: of these, as I'm sharing this today, all of these
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: are meant to be triggers. The next time you have
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: a selfish thought, you should be able to point it
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: back to one of these. Either I deserve this or
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: it won't hurt anyone. We'll go into the third one
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: in a second. You should be able to point back
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: to any of these and say, see, there it is.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: Now I understand your tactics. I know what this is
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: and now I'm more aware. So let's go to the
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: last one really quick.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: Real quick before we do, though, because you said on
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: point one, it was Romans 8. It was Romans 6.23
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: is the wages of sin is death. We always will
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: have that one person who will pop up in the comments.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: And so I'm just going to go ahead and save
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: them the comment. And you can write something else.
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  Speaker 3: All right.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: What's number three, G?
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: They may comment before they may just pause.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: We had somebody comment that we never use the name
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: of Jesus. And I just went back and said, listen
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: to the rest of the episode. So that was a
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: fun one. Anyways, I hope that person is still listening
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: because we use the name of Jesus all the time
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: and we will always use the name of Jesus. All right.
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: So number three. Praise the Lord. Praise the Lord.
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  Speaker 3: Nothing positive to say to that. Okay. Number three, third
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: light here is I need this.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: And this may sound similar to I deserve this or
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: it won't hurt anyone, but I deserve this. This comes
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: from entitlement, thinking you're owed something. Okay. It won't hurt anyone.
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: This comes from autonomy. A false, the wrong type of freedom.
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: Not the freedom to do whatever, and not the freedom
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: to grow, to pursue what God's called you. It's the
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: freedom of thinking, I can just do whatever I want
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: with no consequences. That's dangerous. And then the third one,
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: I need this. This is selfishness that comes from fear, right?
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: This is the selfishness that wants to control. And again,
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: with all of these lies, there's a circumstance put in
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: front of you where you put that lie ahead of
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: God's word. And so when you get into a situation
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: where it's like, man, the outcome to this could be
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: really bad. What if I lose my job? What if
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: I lose my business? What if the person gets mad?
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: What if whatever is scary to you, then you will say, well,
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: that would be the worst thing that could happen. So
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: let me step over God's law. Let me step over
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: God's instruction. And I'm going to take control of this situation.
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: It's selfishness that comes from fear. Fear will rob you
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: of your destiny. And by the way, Jesus speaks to
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: this one specifically in Matthew 6. I've done multiple sermons
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: just on what Christ is talking about here. But he says,
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: why are you worrying about what you're supposed to eat,
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: what you will wear? He says, seek first the kingdom
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: of and it's righteousness. And then all these things will
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: be added unto you. It's not wrong to worry, to
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: think like, man, what am I going to eat? But
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: what Christ is saying is don't make that your first thought.
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: Your first thought must be, and that's where selfishness is
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: dangerous because sometimes they're rational or even logical thoughts of like, hey,
• 26:33
  Speaker 3: I'd like to not have my business to get destroyed.
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: I'd like to be able to eat tomorrow. None of
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: these are wrong thoughts, but when you make them God,
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: when you make them the number one, the primary thought
• 26:44
  Speaker 3: in your life, That's where selfishness destroys you.
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