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How Much Do You Share? · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mama's, how
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  Speaker 1: much do you actually share even with your closest friend?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 1: Is now are American Mamas Terry Ediville and Kimberly Burlison. Well,
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  Speaker 1: given that you have a radio show where every single
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  Speaker 1: day you say something to the mass public, and some
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  Speaker 1: of it is at times it's like, huh, I didn't
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  Speaker 1: know that about them?
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  Speaker 2: Like you guys reveal a lot.
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  Speaker 1: How much how much do you actually share even with
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  Speaker 1: your closest friends?
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  Speaker 3: You know, I'm a horrible oversharer. If I'm in a
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  Speaker 3: nervous situation, if I'm with the nervous, if I'm a
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  Speaker 3: nervous situation, i am an oversharer. And then after I
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  Speaker 3: lead that person, I'm like, oh my god, what have
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  Speaker 3: I done? What have I shared? And I don't know
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  Speaker 3: why I do it? I hate It's true.
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  Speaker 4: I've got the same disease.
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  Speaker 1: So some he just kind of stares at you for
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  Speaker 1: a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: Every secret, Yeah I have in the vault.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I'm an open book anyway, but I
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  Speaker 4: have this thing, I have this theory that and this
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  Speaker 4: is why I like to have three or more people
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  Speaker 4: go to lunch rather than just me and one other person,
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  Speaker 4: because I do tend to overshare. If they ask me something,
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  Speaker 4: I feel obligated to answer, even if it's something that's
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  Speaker 4: like very you know, personal personal, and I'm like, well,
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  Speaker 4: you know, I trust, and then I leave going, oh
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  Speaker 4: my gosh, why did I just share that? That was
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  Speaker 4: so crazy? But I don't think we're alone.
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  Speaker 1: I think a lot of people how to play a
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  Speaker 1: little game real quick.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, like what.
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  Speaker 3: That's exactly?
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  Speaker 2: What?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, if there's a third person or a fourth person,
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  Speaker 4: you can help the conversation get on them.
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  Speaker 3: And I like, I like to group, true.
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  Speaker 4: Because I do leave some situations and then I'll say this,
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  Speaker 4: you know, friends change, seasonal friends, you love them forever.
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  Speaker 4: But you're like, why did I share that? It was
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  Speaker 4: such an intimate part of my life or a hurt
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  Speaker 4: that I went through with after dad died or whatever,
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  Speaker 4: and you're not as you're not as close as you were.
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  Speaker 4: It's like, why did I share that? Because so now
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  Speaker 4: really and truly the only ones to get my real
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  Speaker 4: deep feelings or my sisters, and because I know that,
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  Speaker 4: you know, they'll take it into the vaults exactly.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I tell my children especially, don't share your
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  Speaker 3: secrets because if something changes, like you talk about seasons
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  Speaker 3: of friendships, they you're makes you pitch in a vulnerable
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  Speaker 3: situation for somebody to know something about you that it
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  Speaker 3: would be embarrassed about, because when that relationship is broken,
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  Speaker 3: they're going to tell whoever they want to tell because
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  Speaker 3: it doesn't matter anymore. So it's like, keep your secrets, journal,
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  Speaker 3: talk to God. Yeah, you keep your secrets.
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  Speaker 4: Because at the same time, for friends that have shared
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  Speaker 4: things with me that they would never I would never
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  Speaker 4: even if they I don't. I can't even think of
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  Speaker 4: a friends at the end of badly. But if a
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  Speaker 4: friendship ended poorly and I had a secret about them,
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  Speaker 4: I would never never ever divulge anything. I would never
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  Speaker 4: harm someone like that. But people could and you've seen
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  Speaker 4: it happen. There's a video of a girl. I think
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  Speaker 4: they must have been working.
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  Speaker 3: It's a barstool.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, barstool house, yeah tell okay, Okay, so.
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  Speaker 3: Barstool has a house. It's kind of like you can
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  Speaker 3: watch MTV used to have it where you can watch
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  Speaker 3: the lives of these people, the cribs or whatever. It was,
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  Speaker 3: but they all live together. Okay, so barstool has that.
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  Speaker 3: So there's two friends, they were best friends, they had
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  Speaker 3: a falling out. Well, one friend is exposing the other
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  Speaker 3: friend's secrets in front of every in front of everybody
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  Speaker 3: on social.
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  Speaker 4: Media, and she slept with and you know, and it's.
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  Speaker 3: Like, oh my gosh. These were best friends. They trusted
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  Speaker 3: each other, and this friend they get mad at each other.
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  Speaker 3: And so after I watched that, I was like reinforced,
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  Speaker 3: you do not share stuff with people you keep I'm
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  Speaker 3: sure there's fault friends that you can share some of
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  Speaker 3: your thoughts about things, but then there's another level that no,
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  Speaker 3: keep it to yourself.
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  Speaker 4: What was interesting about that was the girl that was
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  Speaker 4: spilling all of the secrets of the other one. She
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  Speaker 4: was doubling down because she was caught in this moment
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  Speaker 4: where the other girl was like, wait, that's not true,
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  Speaker 4: because clearly that's something she did not want out there.
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  Speaker 4: So she was like, oh, you want me to give names?
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  Speaker 4: You know, it's almost like you're making me look bad.
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  Speaker 4: You may give names. You want me tell everybody who
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  Speaker 4: you were sleeping with how you got this job, because
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  Speaker 4: that's not how I got this job. So this one
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  Speaker 4: was like looking at her, you could see the eyes.
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  Speaker 4: Her eyes were like looking at her for the listening audience,
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  Speaker 4: white eyes like how could you do this to me?
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  Speaker 4: And then at the end, the one that became the
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  Speaker 4: pariah was the one that was divulging, because then everybody
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  Speaker 4: else else was like, don't be such an a hole
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  Speaker 4: Page or whatever her name was, what are you doing?
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  Speaker 4: Like because it's on everyone's videotaping.
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  Speaker 1: Right, And I guess people could put themselves in.
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  Speaker 3: That, putting that same situation exactly.
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  Speaker 4: I think.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think I overshare with a lot of other people. Basically,
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  Speaker 1: Wendy is my wife, is the person I talk to
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  Speaker 1: the most. That's the person I share like everything with it, right,
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  Speaker 1: And I don't really have that with other people. But
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  Speaker 1: I do receive a lot from people, Like I get
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people's dirt, not because I'm going and
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  Speaker 1: seeking it, but because I'm like, uh.
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  Speaker 4: Well I know they can trust you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's just that's hey, let's talk. I
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  Speaker 1: think we're supposed to talk, so let's talk, and boy
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  Speaker 1: do they talk sometimes?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, Well that's different because I know that kind of
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  Speaker 4: like a counselor what I say to you, not only
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  Speaker 4: is in the vault, but you have the ability to
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  Speaker 4: help people through their problems, you know, through that's the
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  Speaker 4: goal wise counsel through biblical application. So that's why they
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  Speaker 4: go to you for.
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  Speaker 1: That very interesting conversation. So if you guys ever want
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  Speaker 1: to talk about this, okay, you like to ask our
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  Speaker 1: American mama's question, go to our website American Bowner, Ready
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  Speaker 1: Mama's button. Terry Needible, Kimberly Brothers, and thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you,