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An Honest Conversation: Pet Peeves, Paycheck Problems and Homelessness · All About The Joy

• 0:06
  Cynthia Lopez: Hi everybody, welcome to All that Joy.
• 0:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Hello, the private lounge.
• 0:10
  Carmen Lezeth: We're over here like 10 minutes into a conversation.
• 0:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey, Cynthia's in the house how you guys doing.
• 0:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Doing, good Doing good, all right, you guys are going to keep being chatty, right, like you just were.
• 0:27
  Cynthia Lopez: I wanted to talk a little bit about pet peeves, which might go into some of what we were talking about earlier today with work, I got a whole lot.
• 0:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh no, cynthia did her homework.
• 0:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I sure did Start with you, Gaia.
• 0:44
  Cynthia Lopez: Oh, pet peeves, when are we starting?
• 0:44
  Cynthia Lopez: Go ahead, oh, pet peeves, where are we starting From work, work, work, pet peeves.
• 0:49
  Carmen Lezeth: We can just start with all the pet peeves that mother.
• 0:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia, let's start with work.
• 0:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Let's start with work.
• 0:56
  Cynthia Lopez: Let's see what do I have here.
• 0:57
  Cynthia Lopez: Work, oh, micromanaging.
• 1:00
  Cynthia Lopez: I hate micromanaging, but the worst part about it is when they do it over the phone and can't even get up from their desk to walk five doors down to your office to talk to you.
• 1:15
  Cynthia Lopez: They call you.
• 1:16
  Cynthia Lopez: Did you do this?
• 1:17
  Cynthia Lopez: Oh, what about this?
• 1:19
  Cynthia Lopez: How about that, knowing you already did it I know.
• 1:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I hate micromanaging as well and I try not to do it.
• 1:31
  Cynthia Lopez: but yeah, I, my clients do that to me all the time, michael but in my situation it's like we went from having two employees in my office me and the other woman doing all this work and now it's just me.
• 1:44
  Cynthia Lopez: For the past what month now?
• 1:46
  Cynthia Lopez: And it's like in a month you haven't even tried to come and help me or find me any help, but you're going to micromanage me, knowing I'm doing everything correctly, because the doctor is aware I'm doing everything correctly and is very pleased with my work.
• 2:01
  Cynthia Lopez: I'm sorry.
• 2:03
  Rick Costa: I'm sorry.
• 2:03
  Rick Costa: Just today I get a call from the hefe and he's like what about this order?
• 2:09
  Rick Costa: And I'm like what order?
• 2:12
  Rick Costa: Please enlighten me.
• 2:15
  Rick Costa: He always never gives me all the details so I can figure out what are you talking about.
• 2:19
  Rick Costa: Or he'll be like looking at something.
• 2:21
  Rick Costa: He's like did you take care of this guy?
• 2:23
  Rick Costa: And I'm like who, what?
• 2:25
  Rick Costa: And it might not have been today.
• 2:27
  Rick Costa: I'm like, give me a second to figure out what you're talking about.
• 2:30
  Rick Costa: Since you ain't gonna tell me, I gotta figure it out and you're wasting time mind reading.
• 2:35
  Carmen Lezeth: That's a whole other one.
• 2:36
  Carmen Lezeth: So for this, micromanaging is like you're supposed to be a mind reader with these motherfuckers.
• 2:41
  Rick Costa: My clients do that all the time so like well, did you tell the shipping guy about this?
• 2:46
  Rick Costa: How's it supposed to ship?
• 2:47
  Rick Costa: And I was like yeah, I sent him a message on Teams.
• 2:49
  Rick Costa: Go look, oh, okay, yeah, yeah.
• 2:53
  Rick Costa: Well, make sure you stay on top of this.
• 2:54
  Rick Costa: Okay, I'm like now you feel stupid, so you have nothing to say, just stay on top of it.
• 2:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't stand that.
• 3:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't stand that.
• 3:01
  Carmen Lezeth: My thing is is the mind reading, though, Like one of my clients will be like um, Carmen, uh, that report that we talked about.
• 3:08
  Carmen Lezeth: This man is constantly with motherfucking reports.
• 3:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Like every five minutes it's a new report he needs and then I'll be like I'll, I'll get to it, it's on the list.
• 3:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I always say it's on the list Cause the list is, like you know, 35 things long.
• 3:24
  Carmen Lezeth: And then like randomly out of nowhere, like I'll be walking by to go to the bathroom or something, and he'll just ask me and I'm supposed to knock top my head not only which report that he's talking about, but whatever numbers.
• 3:36
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm not that person.
• 3:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Everybody knows I am not somebody who retains shit in my head, especially shit that don't matter to me in my life, Like I don't care about your business, I work for you, but I need to go look it up.
• 3:49
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not retaining that shit.
• 3:52
  Carmen Lezeth: He gets so mad.
• 3:54
  Rick Costa: There's another thing he calls yesterday.
• 3:56
  Rick Costa: He goes about.
• 3:57
  Rick Costa: A month ago I told you to go through.
• 4:00
  Rick Costa: It's our biggest customer and there's a lot of old credit cards in there and it doesn't.
• 4:04
  Rick Costa: We can't see the credit card number, except for the last four numbers and the expiration.
• 4:08
  Rick Costa: So it's like you know I ain't gonna see that part, but it's like there's so many old ones in there.
• 4:12
  Rick Costa: Can you go through that today?
• 4:13
  Rick Costa: And I'm like today, how many is in there since 2019?
• 4:18
  Rick Costa: Okay, so I did.
• 4:21
  Rick Costa: I spent like literally half the day doing it, and then the next day I'm going to lie.
• 4:26
  Rick Costa: I forgot about it.
• 4:26
  Rick Costa: Plus, it's not a huge priority.
• 4:28
  Rick Costa: There's nothing customer-wise needed to do right now.
• 4:31
  Rick Costa: Right, well, I see a whole bunch of them still in here.
• 4:34
  Rick Costa: Did you ever do it?
• 4:35
  Rick Costa: I was like I spent half the day doing it, and so then I was like, let me see if I can finish it now.
• 4:39
  Rick Costa: It it was maybe like 15 left to go out of 300, maybe.
• 4:45
  Rick Costa: I'm like what the heck?
• 4:47
  Carmen Lezeth: It's never good enough.
• 4:48
  Carmen Lezeth: It's never good enough.
• 4:52
  Carmen Lezeth: What about unnecessary meetings?
• 4:54
  Carmen Lezeth: We have those all the time.
• 4:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Meetings that can be 15 minutes like should just be 15 minutes.
• 5:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Yep minutes like should just be 15 minutes.
• 5:04
  Cynthia Lopez: Yep, and it shouldn't be a powerpoint presentation where they're just reading what's on the screen so that you could just send it to me in an email.
• 5:13
  Cynthia Lopez: I can print it out if I need it and I can read it myself.
• 5:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, for sure.
• 5:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I think that's a big, a big one, a big waste of time that people do.
• 5:24
  Carmen Lezeth: I think that's a power thing, yeah.
• 5:28
  Cynthia Lopez: I need everyone.
• 5:29
  Cynthia Lopez: They're so monotone.
• 5:30
  Cynthia Lopez: If they're so monotone and I'm there like falling asleep and I'm just like, oh my God, if you're not excited about this, how can I be?
• 5:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, that's just wrong.
• 5:41
  Carmen Lezeth: But I think it's a, it's like a power thing where people are like you know, oh, we have to have a meeting, let's sit down, let's have, let's uh schedule me something.
• 5:49
  Carmen Lezeth: And, like I always see, one of my clients is always telling their assistant uh, schedule me something, just fit it in, fit it in.
• 5:55
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm like bitch, we don't need to have no conversation with him, it's all good, he can call me tomorrow between nine and ten and I can tell him everything he need to know.
• 6:04
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 6:05
  Carmen Lezeth: Like there is no need.
• 6:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Or I can just walk over there right now, tell him while he's sitting there doing nothing, and tell him we don't need to get 25 people together.
• 6:12
  Carmen Lezeth: It is annoying.
• 6:15
  Rick Costa: The unnecessary meetings are used to do that, but of course I work from home, so he would just put it on speakerphone and they'd have their meeting.
• 6:24
  Rick Costa: Like I barely hear what they're saying because they're probably not even near the phone, and I'm like, okay, listening for something pertinent.
• 6:33
  Carmen Lezeth: To me.
• 6:33
  Carmen Lezeth: That's a big reason for why people want people back in the office, though, too, I do believe there is something beneficial to having people in the office, but I think it has to be a hybrid situation, if it can be at this point in time.
• 6:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, your job's a little bit different, cynthia, because you work in pathology and there are medical fields and you know like you can't do construction from home.
• 6:55
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 6:56
  Carmen Lezeth: If you work in the construction field or whatever, you probably have to do that on site.
• 7:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just saying, but there are some jobs that can be done on a hybrid situation.
• 7:04
  Carmen Lezeth: But I do think part of the creative process, especially when you're with a team of people, is very different than when you're on a Zoom call.
• 7:13
  Carmen Lezeth: I think our energy would be really cool if we were in person or not.
• 7:18
  Carmen Lezeth: We might actually hate each other.
• 7:23
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 7:24
  Carmen Lezeth: I know right.
• 7:26
  Carmen Lezeth: What about pet peeves you have with friends?
• 7:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Everyone here, included, of course, everyone here.
• 7:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Like, what is your pet peeve with Mario and Alma?
• 7:37
  Carmen Lezeth: No, just in general, do you guys have pet peeves With some of your friends?
• 7:50
  Cynthia Lopez: When they don't.
• 7:50
  Cynthia Lopez: Two of them One, when they don't listen, like they'll come to you with all their issues and want you to listen and give them all the advice, but when it's your turn, oh, I'm too busy or I gotta do this or, you know, they just don't have time to listen to your drama.
• 8:08
  Cynthia Lopez: And the other one is knowing, knowing your audience, like, for instance, if they're your friends, they should know what type of music you listen to.
• 8:17
  Cynthia Lopez: Right, and let's say they're going to a concert and it's a genre that you just don't like if it's a country, country music which we all know I love, why?
• 8:29
  Cynthia Lopez: and I say, carmen, I have tickets, let's go to the country, a country thing and you say that right, and you and you say no, right, and then I never ask you again to go to any other type of concert.
• 8:42
  Cynthia Lopez: It's's like if you know I don't like that, why invite me to that?
• 8:48
  Cynthia Lopez: But then, once that I do like you don't invite me to, right, you know so.
• 8:55
  Rick Costa: Speaking of listening, like a pet peeve of mine is.
• 8:58
  Rick Costa: So let's say I said to my friend I'm Marco Polo, Cause I like that video thing, you could just record it and they watch whenever at their convenience, and back and forth.
• 9:08
  Rick Costa: And I'd be like I'll say, oh, my mom had to go to the hospital for some.
• 9:14
  Rick Costa: Make an example, I'm going to go to the hospital.
• 9:16
  Rick Costa: He's not fully listening.
• 9:18
  Rick Costa: And then he'll come back and be like oh, I'm sorry, your mom got the sniffles.
• 9:23
  Rick Costa: I'm like I said she went to the hospital.
• 9:28
  Carmen Lezeth: What is wrong with you?
• 9:29
  Carmen Lezeth: You're not listening clearly.
• 9:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah that's attention For those people who don't know what Marco Polo is, because I swear to God, rick, you're the only person I know who uses Marco Polo.
• 9:36
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like WhatsApp or Signal, which is you can just leave a voice note or you can leave a video message and then somebody can answer you back at their own convenience.
• 9:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I've never heard of Marco Polo until Rick said it, and I've never heard anyone else talk about it.
• 9:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's your own secret app.
• 9:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I think, one of my pet peeves with my friends.
• 10:00
  Carmen Lezeth: First of all, I don't think I have that many friends.
• 10:03
  Carmen Lezeth: I have a lot more acquaintances than I do friends, but that's a whole other conversation.
• 10:06
  Carmen Lezeth: But I'll say this I think a lot of people mean well, but they don't follow through.
• 10:13
  Carmen Lezeth: So a lot of my friends, or a lot of acquaintances, will say things like no, I got you, I support you, I'm a subscribe to your sub stack.
• 10:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I got you, carmen, I'll subscribe to your YouTube or whatever it is.
• 10:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I support you a hundred percent.
• 10:28
  Carmen Lezeth: But then they don't do it.
• 10:30
  Carmen Lezeth: And then what's worse is you do it again and they don't do it.
• 10:33
  Carmen Lezeth: And it's like you don't have to support my stuff.
• 10:37
  Carmen Lezeth: But also, don't kiss my ass in front of me.
• 10:39
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, because I'll tell you what I'm not going to support your shit.
• 10:42
  Carmen Lezeth: If I don't want to support your shit, I'm not.
• 10:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not going to lie to you about it.
• 10:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I'm trying to think who is it that I recently said?
• 10:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, you know what.
• 10:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I'll use an example here.
• 10:54
  Carmen Lezeth: This isn't what I was thinking of.
• 10:56
  Carmen Lezeth: But, rick, you and I, we get along on so many levels, but one of the things I don't really do is and you know I am supporting you right now because I'm a promote, rick Costacom but you have a whole religious kind of thing that you do on an everyday, but it's just not my thing.
• 11:12
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm not going to pretend and be like I got you.
• 11:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to support you, whatever right.
• 11:18
  Carmen Lezeth: You know how I feel about it Now.
• 11:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I support you as a person and in your creativity, and I support you because I know you're not doing no harm to nobody.
• 11:26
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean and so.
• 11:27
  Carmen Lezeth: But you see what I'm saying, right, like there's no lies between us.
• 11:30
  Carmen Lezeth: But people will continuously be like yes, I will support everything you do, Carmen, and I'm like so how come you're not on our YouTube channel?
• 11:39
  Carmen Lezeth: All about the joy.
• 11:39
  Carmen Lezeth: How come you don't listen to our podcast?
• 11:47
  Rick Costa: I learned this when I was on the periscope days.
• 11:48
  Rick Costa: Public service announcement if you go do stuff online, your friends and family will not be there.
• 11:52
  Rick Costa: But why?
• 11:54
  Rick Costa: It's crazy like if they did it I would.
• 11:59
  Carmen Lezeth: But unless I didn't agree with it, 100 like I come and visit your show.
• 12:03
  Carmen Lezeth: I just want for the, for the listening.
• 12:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I do come and visit your show and I do listen once in a while.
• 12:08
  Carmen Lezeth: You know that because I'll come in and say hi, especially when you do the games, because I like that part.
• 12:13
  Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, then why say that you're going to support someone 100% if you're not going to?
• 12:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, exactly.
• 12:22
  Rick Costa: That's annoying.
• 12:28
  Cynthia Lopez: I feel like Cynthia's being very quiet because she's one of those people who says she's going to support stuff.
• 12:33
  Cynthia Lopez: Is that what's happening?
• 12:34
  Cynthia Lopez: No, no, no.
• 12:35
  Cynthia Lopez: Another thing I don't like and this is just a general thing is like with anybody friends, family, whoever is if you go out to dinner, you go to the movies or whatever, they're just on the phone, always on their phone.
• 12:46
  Cynthia Lopez: But then when you say, oh, did you get my text?
• 12:50
  Cynthia Lopez: No, I never got it, really, because you're always on your phone you know what?
• 12:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I love Andrea with all my heart, but she does that shit all the time.
• 12:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I'll be like did you get my email or my text?
• 13:02
  Carmen Lezeth: And she'll be like oh, I've been so busy.
• 13:03
  Carmen Lezeth: But when we go out to dinner she is one of those people who's like one second.
• 13:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like do I have a different?
• 13:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Like is there some notification sound?
• 13:12
  Carmen Lezeth: That's like it's just Carmen.
• 13:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Ignore that shit.
• 13:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Here goes the spam.
• 13:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I love her with all my heart but I'm like, okay, you just ignored me because you know I'm good, like whatever, but she does that shit all the time.
• 13:26
  Carmen Lezeth: I thought you were gonna say something else.
• 13:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't stand when you go out with quote-unquote family and friends to dinner and we all about to eat, and then people be all cheap and shit, like do not go out with me and start splitting that fucking bill based on like um, I only had water and a salad.
• 13:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Like don't come to eat with me then don't.
• 13:50
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
• 13:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I don't mind splitting the bill if that's the agreement we had at the beginning, but I cannot stand cheap people.
• 13:56
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't stand it, and if we don't go eat, we're gonna go eat.
• 13:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Don't come and eat, no water and salad, because you can't just say you can't afford it, then I'll pay the shit.
• 14:05
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you know what I mean?
• 14:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I, okay, you know how I am something when it comes to food.
• 14:09
  Carmen Lezeth: So wait, do you guys, when you guys go out to eat, do you guys normally split the bill, or what do you do, because maybe I'm out of touch with things?
• 14:19
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know you, okay, but do you split it, like based on what you ate, or do you?
• 14:27
  Carmen Lezeth: No, evenly?
• 14:28
  Cynthia Lopez: Just if there's four of us, I split it between the four of us, okay.
• 14:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, I usually will pick up the bill.
• 14:35
  Carmen Lezeth: I will.
• 14:36
  Carmen Lezeth: I usually will just pick up the bill If I'm going out to eat, like, and I said, let's go out to eat because I like to eat.
• 14:41
  Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, rick, to eat because I like to eat.
• 14:45
  Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, rick, what's your flavor when it comes to food?
• 14:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I know you don't go out to eat a lot, but Right, right, right.
• 14:49
  Rick Costa: I mean as far as the bill like.
• 14:51
  Rick Costa: As soon as they come and start asking us what you want, I immediately say how are we paying for this?
• 14:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, no, okay.
• 15:00
  Rick Costa: Because some people they'll be like lobster shrimp several cups of wine.
• 15:06
  Rick Costa: I'm like, okay, I'm a little bit hungry, but I, what are you doing?
• 15:11
  Carmen Lezeth: okay, okay, okay.
• 15:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I just want to be clear right now, rick, if we ever going out to eat like when we all get together at our studio, wherever and you, you know what I mean we're doing our in-studio podcast, live stream or whatever and we go out to eat, you will not say that I got you.
• 15:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I will pay for it.
• 15:28
  Cynthia Lopez: Okay, we're not going to be ghetto Me and Carmen will already have talked about it.
• 15:31
  Cynthia Lopez: We'll be like if I got it or you got it, I know, and we'll deal with it.
• 15:35
  Cynthia Lopez: After We'll deal with it.
• 15:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Cause I don't look at I grew up poor.
• 15:42
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I guess we all kind of did, but I grew up poor and I think what I don't like is the stigma that comes with that and it's also, I think, being a woman of color who grew up poor.
• 15:55
  Carmen Lezeth: There's also this thing like I don't want you to ever believe in one any way, shape or form, that I am cheap, All the stereotypes that you think about poor people and I do think that's where it comes from.
• 16:06
  Carmen Lezeth: I will stand on whatever it is that I have to in order to make sure you understand that I am not cheap, like, and if that means I can't go out to dinner with you cause I can't afford it, I'm going to tell you straight up.
• 16:18
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what.
• 16:18
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't afford it today, but have a lovely time, but I'm sure as hell not going to go to dinner and then be like today.
• 16:26
  Carmen Lezeth: But have a lovely time, but I'm sure as hell not gonna go to dinner and then be like um, um, can I just have a water?
• 16:32
  Rick Costa: no, no I think in my case, because there's certain family members that will take advantage of that, and they will every time, and they already know their cheap period in life and they will order $40, $50 worth of food, knowing they're only going to have to pay $20.
• 16:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, but why would you go?
• 16:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
• 16:53
  Carmen Lezeth: So this is where you and I are different, and I think Cynthia is the same way.
• 16:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Why would you go out to dinner with them again, like, show me once.
• 17:00
  Rick Costa: Family.
• 17:01
  Rick Costa: Thing.
• 17:01
  Rick Costa: Oh yeah, I know.
• 17:04
  Carmen Lezeth: We could be family, but we ain't going to dinner Like Cynthia.
• 17:07
  Cynthia Lopez: You could always.
• 17:08
  Cynthia Lopez: But Rick, you can always say, like, if you guys do that dinner again, say to the waiter, can my check be separate?
• 17:16
  Cynthia Lopez: Yeah, I've done that.
• 17:18
  Carmen Lezeth: You can do separate checks.
• 17:19
  Carmen Lezeth: That's cool too.
• 17:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to go to the bathroom.
• 17:21
  Rick Costa: I'll be right back.
• 17:21
  Rick Costa: Hey, bro, right.
• 17:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I'll be right back.
• 17:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey, brooke, right, oh yeah, but Cynthia, you know there are people I will not go to dinner with.
• 17:28
  Carmen Lezeth: I will not go to dinner with people.
• 17:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia knows who they are.
• 17:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I will not go to dinner with certain people.
• 17:35
  Carmen Lezeth: You showed me once who you is.
• 17:37
  Carmen Lezeth: We done, yep, not doing it.
• 17:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, that's interesting.
• 17:43
  Carmen Lezeth: What else?
• 17:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Other things with family?
• 17:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I was talking about, um, just things that I remember growing up, kind of uh, it wasn't my pet peeve, but I would get yelled at if I didn't take the lights off.
• 17:56
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 17:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Like, I remember that was like a and so now I have a habit of doing that, to the extent that one of the people I work with the other day, she's like every time you leave my office, you turn the lights off and I'm like I'm sorry, I think no matter where I am, I'm always taking off lights.
• 18:11
  Carmen Lezeth: So she, actually she, she was right, cause she'll just go to the bathroom and then I'll be getting up to leave, like, cause I'm, I'm not there all day.
• 18:19
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 18:19
  Carmen Lezeth: I visit my client and I'll get my bags up and I'll just turn off the lights and lock and shut the door and she'll come back from the bathroom and like what are you doing?
• 18:29
  Carmen Lezeth: It is her office, I'm just visiting.
• 18:32
  Cynthia Lopez: Oh my God, I'm the same way.
• 18:34
  Cynthia Lopez: I hate it.
• 18:35
  Cynthia Lopez: So one has a tendency of leaving the light on in the bathroom, and it drives me crazy.
• 18:41
  Cynthia Lopez: Oh yeah, no.
• 18:41
  Cynthia Lopez: Oh my God, it drives me.
• 18:42
  Cynthia Lopez: It drives me crazy.
• 18:42
  Cynthia Lopez: Oh yeah, no.
• 18:44
  Cynthia Lopez: Oh my God, it drives me up the wall.
• 18:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, we're the problem, we're the problem.
• 18:50
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 18:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Like, I am the problem, I am the drama, I'm the drama.
• 18:56
  Rick Costa: In my case, it used to be mom that did that, and now we've reverted.
• 19:01
  Rick Costa: Now I'm the one that's like why is this on?
• 19:03
  Rick Costa: Why are you going to leave this TV on in your bedroom?
• 19:05
  Rick Costa: You ain't going to be in your bedroom until tonight.
• 19:06
  Rick Costa: Why are you doing that?
• 19:08
  Rick Costa: But Portuguese people, first generation Portuguese people, we are very interesting because we say things that drive Americans crazy, like open, close the lights.
• 19:17
  Rick Costa: Can you open the light?
• 19:19
  Rick Costa: Can you close the light?
• 19:20
  Rick Costa: And everybody's like really, open the light?
• 19:29
  Rick Costa: Oh, because it's the translation.
• 19:31
  Rick Costa: Like because in portuguese you do say it that way, but in english you don't.
• 19:31
  Rick Costa: That doesn't make sense.
• 19:32
  Rick Costa: To turn on or turn off, you don't open and close the light.
• 19:33
  Rick Costa: So it's like a funny thing with us.
• 19:34
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it happens too, though, because I think, but also because she's polish, she's from poland, she has some of those word changes as well, because it's you're directly translating instead of is it idioms or whatever.
• 19:49
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, there are all these idioms in certain languages.
• 19:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that's funny.
• 19:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Turn open the light.
• 19:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that what you say?
• 19:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, you say open the light.
• 19:56
  Rick Costa: Open or close the light, yeah.
• 19:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh my God, that's funny.
• 19:59
  Carmen Lezeth: All right, pet peeves in relationships, let's get down and dirty.
• 20:05
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, all right, I'll make it easy With friends, with friends with friends.
• 20:12
  Rick Costa: I mean, it could be similar, you know.
• 20:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Friends or lovers?
• 20:15
  Carmen Lezeth: What is your pet peeve with Juan?
• 20:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Let's just talk about Juan.
• 20:20
  Cynthia Lopez: Let's see the light switch.
• 20:22
  Cynthia Lopez: No, don't talk about wine.
• 20:32
  Carmen Lezeth: No.
• 20:33
  Carmen Lezeth: What are pet peeves, though, with anything like relationships, friends?
• 20:39
  Cynthia Lopez: this might sound weird, right, but like if I'm hosting a dinner in my house, like for Thanksgiving, let's say and you know I've never been invited to, but go ahead.
• 20:49
  Cynthia Lopez: Oh hush Um.
• 20:51
  Cynthia Lopez: And let's say you know I want to clean up or everyone's, you know putting their dishes away, whatever, and somebody starts cleaning my kitchen and starts washing the dishes.
• 21:03
  Rick Costa: I don't like that.
• 21:04
  Cynthia Lopez: I know that they're trying to help me, but it's like I want to do that Leave it alone.
• 21:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Enjoy the time that's you being anal.
• 21:12
  Carmen Lezeth: That's not being about me.
• 21:16
  Rick Costa: I love it.
• 21:17
  Rick Costa: Go clean my bathroom too, while you're at it.
• 21:21
  Carmen Lezeth: High five, baby, don't leave me hanging Bitch clean, go ahead.
• 21:27
  Carmen Lezeth: High five, baby, don't leave me hanging right, bitch clean, go ahead.
• 21:28
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, I I hear you, but here's the thing.
• 21:30
  Carmen Lezeth: I think again not to be bringing up andrea.
• 21:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I think mia's, oh, mia too, mia and andrea, they're all the same way.
• 21:37
  Carmen Lezeth: But you have to tell people because from my point of view, especially when I went to like I used to always go to Mia's in New York, right In Pennsylvania, to go for Thanksgiving and I mean, and her husband would pay for my first class flight out there and hotel, so I didn't have to stay with them with their children, like that's how sweet they were.
• 21:59
  Carmen Lezeth: So you think I'm going to walk into her house and eat and not be like how can I clean and help.
• 22:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Think I'm going to walk into her house and eat and not be like how can I clean and help?
• 22:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I know it was such a kindness that they were making sure I was with them and they were and he was paying.
• 22:10
  Carmen Lezeth: So you want to help.
• 22:11
  Carmen Lezeth: But you know, at one point Mia was like it's all good, carmen, just go relax.
• 22:15
  Carmen Lezeth: You feel me.
• 22:15
  Carmen Lezeth: And I was like she tried to spin it like I'm family, but she's like bitch, get the hell out my kitchen is what I was hearing.
• 22:23
  Carmen Lezeth: That was the subtext.
• 22:26
  Cynthia Lopez: But it's funny though, because when I do go to other people's houses, I always want to help them clean up.
• 22:30
  Cynthia Lopez: Yeah, it's a weird thing.
• 22:33
  Carmen Lezeth: How come you don't just tell people?
• 22:34
  Carmen Lezeth: You should just tell them.
• 22:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I know now.
• 22:39
  Cynthia Lopez: I tell them, just leave it there.
• 22:41
  Cynthia Lopez: And they're like no, no, no, it's fine, I'm like oh, you're talking about Teresa huh, no, I just.
• 22:46
  Cynthia Lopez: What are you talking about?
• 22:48
  Cynthia Lopez: You're talking about Teresa.
• 22:49
  Cynthia Lopez: Oh no, I have my pet peeves with her.
• 22:52
  Cynthia Lopez: Yeah, okay.
• 22:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Again, we're not talking about individual people in a negative way.
• 22:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Teresa, no, no, what are your pet peeves?
• 23:02
  Carmen Lezeth: But?
• 23:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Teresa's always kind that way.
• 23:04
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, what are your pet peeves, but?
• 23:05
  Carmen Lezeth: But?
• 23:05
  Cynthia Lopez: she's always kind that way.
• 23:06
  Cynthia Lopez: She always wants to clean.
• 23:07
  Cynthia Lopez: Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, my it's.
• 23:07
  Cynthia Lopez: It's funny.
• 23:08
  Cynthia Lopez: It's a funny thing that I have with her a pet peeve is that she always wants to save paper towels, like she'll reuse the paper towels.
• 23:17
  Cynthia Lopez: She doesn't want to waste them and I'm like throw it away yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, that's that's.
• 23:24
  Carmen Lezeth: That's.
• 23:25
  Carmen Lezeth: That's a weird ism, but I think that's from culture, that's from growing up poor in honduras and wanting to save everything.
• 23:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Like you know, I have somebody who saves plastic bags, so, like, let's say, you put um, you put I don't know, like whatever, you put nuts.
• 23:41
  Carmen Lezeth: I forget what I had.
• 23:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Like cas, I had like cashews in a, in a baggie, like a sandwich bag or whatever, because you know, the box was this big and there was only so I put them in a sandwich bag or whatever.
• 23:53
  Carmen Lezeth: And so when we were finished eating I think it was cashews or something, we're finishing the cashews I went to go throw the thing, I put it on the counter and the next, like the next minute later, she, she was in there and I'm just saying who it is washing out the plastic sandwich bag like a Ziploc sandwich bag, putting it inside out and then putting it in the rack for it to dry so I can use it again.
• 24:19
  Carmen Lezeth: She's like it was just nuts and I'm like, yeah, but they were in, I don't know.
• 24:25
  Carmen Lezeth: They're like she's right, she's right, but you throw it out.
• 24:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Here in the united states we waste a lot but they're not wrong.
• 24:36
  Carmen Lezeth: But I still can't, I can't like wouldn't you?
• 24:40
  Cynthia Lopez: guys throw it away I would throw it away, juan would save it.
• 24:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh really, he would, because it was just nuts, it was just cashews.
• 24:51
  Cynthia Lopez: Yeah, and I'm always there throwing it away.
• 24:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that Paper towels is hard though, because that's wet and you and it's dirty, oh, but it's drying it, it's drying yeah.
• 25:07
  Rick Costa: I'll never forget watching Oprah one time.
• 25:09
  Rick Costa: Look at Rick's face.
• 25:10
  Rick Costa: I guess the show was about cheap people and there was a guy that he would take the toilet, roll the entire thing and split it if it was a two-ply.
• 25:20
  Rick Costa: Oh stop it and he put it up and Oprah's like but wouldn't you just double it up anyway?
• 25:26
  Rick Costa: Isn't that a stupid waste of time?
• 25:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, that's crazy.
• 25:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, because you could just take one little piece of the two ply.
• 25:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, we're going down a whole other road.
• 25:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't want to, but here's the thing I'm going to just say, because I do want to defend people.
• 25:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I actually the people I'm talking about.
• 25:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't think it's about being cheap, because Teresa is not cheap no, she's not, she's not cheap at all but it's about culture, it's about growing up and learning that.
• 25:58
  Carmen Lezeth: And here's the thing.
• 25:59
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what the truth is.
• 26:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, we all would throw it away with the cashews.
• 26:04
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, I had cashews in the bag, but she's not wrong, and this wasn't Teresa, this was somebody else.
• 26:10
  Carmen Lezeth: They're not wrong.
• 26:12
  Carmen Lezeth: It was just cash.
• 26:13
  Carmen Lezeth: You could save it and use it for something else.
• 26:15
  Cynthia Lopez: But I think because as Americans, we don't really recycle in that way and we really were not thoughtful in that way- yeah, there was, was actually there was a meme saying you know, um, it was, and it was about latinos, latinos saving the planet.
• 26:31
  Cynthia Lopez: One paper towel or a t-shirt at a time, and you see them saving the paper towel, saving the plastic bag, using an old t-shirt as a mop, yeah.
• 26:41
  Cynthia Lopez: Or like to clean the furniture and stuff like that, which is what we used to do as kids, yeah, and you just wash it and reuse it.
• 26:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, a t-shirt is better to clean anyway.
• 26:50
  Carmen Lezeth: People don't understand that.
• 26:51
  Carmen Lezeth: For the like I, I'm going to be careful what I say when my home is clean.
• 26:56
  Carmen Lezeth: That's actually what they're using they because it's old school, but it's better because it picks up all the dust better and everything too.
• 27:06
  Carmen Lezeth: So that's that's also smart.
• 27:07
  Carmen Lezeth: But it's better because it picks up all the dust better and everything too.
• 27:08
  Carmen Lezeth: So that's also smart.
• 27:09
  Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, it's true, I think there's a lot of things.
• 27:10
  Carmen Lezeth: I think we waste a lot as Americans, but we also, you know and I'm saying this as an American myself we're also not that smart because those things actually work.
• 27:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I did not know we were going to go down this avenue, basically dissing all Americans and how we function in society.
• 27:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Sorry.
• 27:32
  Rick Costa: I thought another pet peeve we already mentioned this with jobs is the mind reading thing, like I can't tell you how many times with relationship.
• 27:41
  Rick Costa: You should just know.
• 27:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah.
• 27:46
  Rick Costa: But I didn't Right.
• 27:47
  Rick Costa: You should, yeah, but I didn't Right.
• 27:48
  Rick Costa: You should know, but I didn't.
• 27:50
  Rick Costa: And then I have a whole big fight about something I didn't know, because I'm not a mind reader unless you tell me.
• 27:57
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 27:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that the difference between men and women, though?
• 28:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Remember that whole book, Mars vs Venus, or something, where they talk about how men communicate in caves?
• 28:06
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even know.
• 28:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember the book.
• 28:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I did read it once, but I read and I think there were some aspects of it.
• 28:14
  Carmen Lezeth: On reading it, as a woman on the man's side, I got it.
• 28:17
  Carmen Lezeth: It's about how to communicate with each other.
• 28:21
  Carmen Lezeth: You know and I'm actually the type of person even though I talk a lot, I do when I'm in a relationship and we get into a fight and you guys know this, cause I've had little arguments with each of you I need a minute.
• 28:34
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not going to keep fighting with you.
• 28:36
  Carmen Lezeth: I will be quiet and need to get away for a day or so and then we can get back to it.
• 28:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And Cynthia, Cynthia is.
• 28:46
  Cynthia Lopez: What about me?
• 28:48
  Carmen Lezeth: You are, when we have our little.
• 28:51
  Carmen Lezeth: We had, I think, one fight yeah.
• 28:55
  Cynthia Lopez: One argument.
• 28:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Was it one argument?
• 28:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you remember?
• 28:57
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even remember what it was about.
• 28:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even remember.
• 29:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember.
• 29:01
  Carmen Lezeth: But Cynthia gets mad, she doesn't want to talk to you at all, she just gets really quiet.
• 29:08
  Rick Costa: I took you in a little bit of a retreat mode.
• 29:11
  Rick Costa: The other day we were talking about La La Land and you were the only one that liked it.
• 29:16
  Cynthia Lopez: Oh right.
• 29:18
  Rick Costa: He's like I hate it and Cindy's like yes.
• 29:20
  Rick Costa: And you're like huh.
• 29:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, here's my thing about that.
• 29:28
  Carmen Lezeth: So, you're right, I do, because I'm not going to fight with people and I'm certainly not going to fight with a majority of people about something.
• 29:34
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm going to say this as with and I know it's going to get people really upset.
• 29:40
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, when it comes to art, I think Hating something, it's kind of like you know we can run, I say I hate country music, but I would never disrespect it and I would never.
• 29:52
  Carmen Lezeth: I would never dismiss it or dismiss other people for hating it.
• 29:57
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean Like, and I actually respect country music.
• 30:00
  Carmen Lezeth: You know as much as I can around about hating it or whatever, and I think that's what it is.
• 30:05
  Carmen Lezeth: You know it's kind of, um, I don't like when people all right, I'm going to defend it this way as well when you're on a movie set and you see how much work it takes to create something so magnificent, and then you see something like La La Land or whatever it is it doesn't matter Star Trek, it doesn't matter whatever it is you want to, when you see how it's made, even if it's bad, you know how much work it took to do it.
• 30:35
  Carmen Lezeth: And I will honestly tell you, la La Land may not be your flavor, but it's one of those movies or one of those moments in time where people either love it or they hate it.
• 30:46
  Carmen Lezeth: It just is what it is.
• 30:47
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean and I'm just saying respect it.
• 30:51
  Carmen Lezeth: And I think that's that's what you felt.
• 30:53
  Carmen Lezeth: There was.
• 30:53
  Carmen Lezeth: A part of me was heartbroken by hearing and I know we're being funny and it was funny, whatever but it first of all, I was shocked at that much like of all the movies you could pick to hate.
• 31:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like, threw me for a loop, you know.
• 31:09
  Carmen Lezeth: But I think that's kind of the thing too is like for me.
• 31:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm also.
• 31:16
  Carmen Lezeth: You know I studied film in college.
• 31:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Uh, I, you know, y'all know I came out here to be a I I love film.
• 31:23
  Carmen Lezeth: So there are very few films that you're ever going to hear me talk about in that negative kind of nasty way.
• 31:30
  Carmen Lezeth: It would never.
• 31:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I would never.
• 31:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I may not like something, I may dislike it.
• 31:34
  Carmen Lezeth: It may not be my genre.
• 31:35
  Carmen Lezeth: It may not be something I think is well-made, but I would never be that angst about it.
• 31:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Does that make sense?
• 31:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And I know you guys are being funny, but I you know, and the fucking mario was hilarious.
• 31:51
  Carmen Lezeth: I think I did the clip for that right because it was so funny, um, but yeah what?
• 31:54
  Rick Costa: movie was that?
• 31:54
  Carmen Lezeth: because we didn't say it in the clip yeah, yeah, oh, the first clip because I used it as a teaser, the first clip for the, for people to come and see the sunday show, because that's see, I'm trying to do.
• 32:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm trying to do new things trying to do new things.
• 32:08
  Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, I mean, that's kind of a great example.
• 32:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Like you know, one of my clients, you know, screamed and yelled at me and two other people in a meeting and everyone's first reaction is they think I'm going to get up and start screaming back, or I'm going to, you know, and I I get up and walked away, you know, and I'm just like when, when you can respect me, we can have a conversation, but I'm not going to scream back and forth with people.
• 32:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I've done it, but you know what I'm saying.
• 32:35
  Carmen Lezeth: So, yeah, yeah, I need a minute.
• 32:39
  Rick Costa: I think I tend to not automatically trash something.
• 32:43
  Rick Costa: I instead go to.
• 32:44
  Rick Costa: But what if we did it like this, and I the possibilities and like, oh, this could be better, like this, instead of just trashing something that's trashed, I don't like it.
• 32:53
  Rick Costa: My brain goes to how could we have made it better?
• 32:56
  Carmen Lezeth: like, that's kind of how my brain goes to or is it possible that it's just not your thing.
• 33:01
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I don't have to make anything better.
• 33:03
  Carmen Lezeth: Like it doesn't matter how much you love whatever horror movie you love, like there is nothing going to make it better, except that it's a different movie, that isn't about horror.
• 33:16
  Carmen Lezeth: It's just not my thing.
• 33:19
  Carmen Lezeth: It's also like when I go to the museum or something and I see you know, uh, who who is.
• 33:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Is it picasso?
• 33:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Is it?
• 33:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Is it Picasso?
• 33:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Who did all the kind of I don't know.
• 33:30
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not just abstract, but it's like everyone's face is like crooked, yeah, picasso.
• 33:36
  Carmen Lezeth: And everyone's like, oh my God.
• 33:39
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm like, yeah, not my thing, I see nothing in that.
• 33:42
  Carmen Lezeth: For me, I think it's weird, it's deranged, it makes no sense.
• 33:46
  Carmen Lezeth: And yet if you look at Pollock and if you don't know who Pollock is but Pollock did all the drops of paint on canvas which is just like chaotic mess and he was an alcoholic and he's probably high half the time when he was doing it.
• 33:57
  Carmen Lezeth: But for me that's also considered abstract art.
• 34:02
  Carmen Lezeth: But for me I love it because it's colorful, I see patterns, even though there's in chaos and even though in my head and in my heart that makes sense to me, that, to me Picasso is ridiculous, like in my I mean not ridiculous, I respect the art, but you know what I mean Like I have no joy in it.
• 34:22
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like, yeah, that doesn't work for me, but yet Pollock is just a mess of and I'm like that's lovely, I would pay $1 million for that, right yeah, yeah, when I first saw Picasso's stuff not realizing that's kind of a style in and of itself yeah, my first thought was whose four-year-old drew that?
• 34:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I agree.
• 34:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, look, I'm not trying to diss Picasso, I'm just saying that's kind of the difference.
• 34:49
  Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, I had the same feeling and the same kind of, and also I kept thinking, like this is somebody with like issues of the human spirit.
• 34:58
  Carmen Lezeth: That's where I went, like why else would you break up someone's face and do that?
• 35:05
  Carmen Lezeth: And and you know, and again, that's what art does, that's the beauty of it, you know?
• 35:11
  Rick Costa: um, yeah, yeah, it was shocking and they have somebody sell something for like a ton of money and it was all it was was a banana with tape to the wall or something, or that's the most I'm like you are kidding me yeah.
• 35:27
  Carmen Lezeth: And then they did a Super Bowl commercial with Chris Hemsworth eating the banana.
• 35:31
  Carmen Lezeth: That was the art piece.
• 35:33
  Carmen Lezeth: You didn't see it.
• 35:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Yes, it's like all the Chris's.
• 35:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it was like Chris Hemsworth or Chris Pratt or something, I don't know.
• 35:41
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know who was in the commercial, but basically they're walking around a museum or something.
• 35:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know who was in the commercial, but basically they're walking around a museum or something and all of a sudden you know they see that piece, which is the banana with the silver tape across it, and they're like whatever.
• 35:56
  Carmen Lezeth: And then you know they shoot to something else.
• 35:58
  Carmen Lezeth: And then Chris comes over with the banana and he's eating it, and then the other I forget who the other actor was.
• 36:03
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know why.
• 36:03
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's Chris Pratt.
• 36:04
  Rick Costa: Chris Pratt.
• 36:10
  Carmen Lezeth: I don know who the other actor was.
• 36:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know why.
• 36:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's chris pratt, chris parrot, I don't know who it was, but the other actor's like what did you do?
• 36:13
  Carmen Lezeth: And he's like I was hungry or something.
• 36:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I look at.
• 36:15
  Carmen Lezeth: That's a great example of a piece of art that I honestly I don't get why it's so like enough for people to spend millions of dollars.
• 36:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't get.
• 36:26
  Carmen Lezeth: I understand why the artist made the piece, even if it's, but why would anyone want to buy that for millions of dollars?
• 36:35
  Carmen Lezeth: Like you could do it yourself at home.
• 36:38
  Carmen Lezeth: I could do it myself.
• 36:41
  Rick Costa: I think it's like a one-time, like a first time one-time thing, cause then, oh, I'm going to do that too and we'll put a tape on the Apple, whatever, but nobody's going to care because it's already been done before.
• 36:52
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, but then, but I know, but I don't.
• 36:53
  Carmen Lezeth: But you see what I'm saying, like so then I don't get it right.
• 36:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I'm over here like being like can you subscribe to my sub stack?
• 37:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Don't worry about paying like eight dollars a month or something, just do the free one.
• 37:10
  Carmen Lezeth: And here are people putting a fucking banana with a piece of tape over and getting billions of dollars, you know.
• 37:13
  Carmen Lezeth: And here I am spending like four days writing my first article.
• 37:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just saying it's just interesting.
• 37:21
  Carmen Lezeth: That's the brilliance of art, right um so yeah, I I will say.
• 37:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Getting back to the pet peeve thing, I think that's one of my pet peeves is when people disrespect especially.
• 37:35
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not just art, but for me, because I love film so much, it hurts me, I don't know.
• 37:42
  Carmen Lezeth: But that's why you saw me retreat when that happened.
• 37:45
  Carmen Lezeth: First of all I was shook by the movie, but it it was also like I've always loved Hollywood, it's always been a part of me.
• 37:54
  Carmen Lezeth: And being on set I mean you guys have been on set, you've seen movies being shot or whatever, and it's fascinating, right.
• 38:03
  Carmen Lezeth: And I think when you see how many thousands of people especially for La La Land, but for any movie that it takes to just create a movie, even if it's horror, I'm like okay, not my thing, but respect, I'd love to film a movie and I'm hoping to create at least a script for it and I would love to do that.
• 38:29
  Carmen Lezeth: But it takes a lot of work and a lot of money.
• 38:32
  Rick Costa: Yeah, and a lot of people.
• 38:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Now I'm sad, I'm like I'm never going to be able to, you know, to create a movie or something I want to.
• 38:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it'd be so cool.
• 38:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I have a storyline and in place to do it and yeah, again it's that thing.
• 38:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Like you know what my pet peeve is?
• 38:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Can I tell you that everything takes money.
• 38:57
  Carmen Lezeth: You don't have money, you can't do, do jack unless you got a banana I was.
• 39:04
  Carmen Lezeth: Somebody has to give you the money for that banana with the.
• 39:06
  Carmen Lezeth: She got a banana.
• 39:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Somebody has to give you the money for that banana with the.
• 39:10
  Carmen Lezeth: What's that silver tape called?
• 39:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I keep calling it silver tape.
• 39:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Duct tape, duct tape.
• 39:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I keep calling it.
• 39:16
  Rick Costa: That's all it was.
• 39:16
  Rick Costa: It was just plain duct tape, it's a banana with duct tape.
• 39:19
  Carmen Lezeth: And here's the thing you have to change out the banana every few months that's part of the art piece because the banana is rotten.
• 39:28
  Carmen Lezeth: You few months, that's part of the art piece because you're ripe.
• 39:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like, I'm just saying I think one of my pet peeves is that the world functions on money.
• 39:35
  Carmen Lezeth: And, um, I still wouldn't do anything differently than the way I have done it my entire life, because it's all I could do is pursue my dreams the way I could.
• 39:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Um, because somebody was asking me the other day, would you say it's all I could do is pursue my dreams the way I could.
• 39:49
  Carmen Lezeth: Because somebody was asking me the other day, would you say it's more important for young people today to try to make as much money as possible before they pursue their dream.
• 39:56
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm like I don't even know if I could have ever done that.
• 39:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I could have ever just been like, okay, my focus has to be making a lot of money and then I'll go and pursue my dream.
• 40:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Because I don't.
• 40:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I think when you have a passion and a dream, that's what encompasses you, but this world is all about money and unless you know somebody who gives a real shit about your banana and duct tape art piece.
• 40:24
  Rick Costa: I think that's why we like Star Trek so much, because that's, that's passe.
• 40:27
  Rick Costa: There is no.
• 40:28
  Rick Costa: Oh, let me get paid.
• 40:29
  Rick Costa: No, pay, what's that?
• 40:30
  Rick Costa: What's that?
• 40:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, the power structure is different, right?
• 40:34
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I think that's kind of what it is.
• 40:36
  Carmen Lezeth: And I mean so we're only talking about the enterprise, the world of the enterprise we see, and what we think the Federation is like, right, and what the world is like.
• 40:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia is like do I even need to be here?
• 40:49
  Carmen Lezeth: But you, you've seen star trek, so you understand.
• 40:53
  Carmen Lezeth: But money, there's no, there's not a money thing.
• 40:55
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not like oh I, I need to create a shakespearean play and I have to charge people.
• 41:02
  Carmen Lezeth: No, you just go and work on and then you invite people and you do your thing, you know.
• 41:09
  Carmen Lezeth: But I said this the other day if it wasn't money, it would be something else in order to succeed, because it seems to be the way in which humans are.
• 41:20
  Carmen Lezeth: Everything is about if I give you something, you have to give me something in return to get that thing.
• 41:26
  Carmen Lezeth: If I give you something, you have to give me something in return to get that thing Right.
• 41:28
  Carmen Lezeth: So, if you need wood to make your house and I have the wood I can't just give it to you for free, because maybe I need eggs and maybe you have a chicken or something.
• 41:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 41:40
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not trying to be so simplistic about it, but when you think about how this, especially in our country capitalism, how it all started, I mean, I think that's kind of the thing is, we don't do things just to do them out of the graciousness of our heart and because we want you to succeed, which is what the story of Star Trek is right.
• 42:00
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like they want Data to succeed so badly at being human.
• 42:04
  Carmen Lezeth: They're like, yes, read this book, yes, try this, yes, play this, this musical instrument.
• 42:09
  Carmen Lezeth: And so he just does it.
• 42:11
  Carmen Lezeth: They do that because they want him to succeed.
• 42:14
  Carmen Lezeth: We don't do that in this country especially, but we don't do that in the world.
• 42:18
  Carmen Lezeth: We don't do anything without getting something for it.
• 42:22
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm not, I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just saying no, it's true, that's true.
• 42:26
  Rick Costa: I think there's always been bartering.
• 42:28
  Rick Costa: That's the thing at times.
• 42:30
  Rick Costa: So I saw somebody posting something the other day that their electricity had gotten cut off.
• 42:38
  Rick Costa: They didn't have the money and they're freezing they're really cold and the refrigerator food's getting spoiled and I felt so horrible.
• 42:45
  Rick Costa: I was like why can't I be a millionaire?
• 42:46
  Rick Costa: Because I would, in a split second, give you whatever you need.
• 42:49
  Rick Costa: That's in me to do that Like I would definitely do that without thinking twice.
• 42:57
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm like I'm broke too.
• 42:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Darn it, I can't.
• 42:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I want it so bad.
• 43:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I think one of the things that was interesting about that is this is somebody who would never post on Facebook and Instagram that they needed help.
• 43:14
  Carmen Lezeth: This is like and I'm a knock on wood right now I would never post on Facebook and Instagram saying I need help and please can you give me some money.
• 43:18
  Carmen Lezeth: And that's how I knew this was for real real and, by the way, this is someone who has spent their entire life helping other people and they got into a bad space.
• 43:32
  Carmen Lezeth: They got into a bad place and I was like I was the same way, rick.
• 43:38
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like fuck, if I had the money, I would just be like girl, take those posts down.
• 43:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I got you.
• 43:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I would just send her the fucking money.
• 43:46
  Carmen Lezeth: But you know what ended up happening?
• 43:47
  Carmen Lezeth: People were on there being like is this, this is how?
• 43:50
  Carmen Lezeth: This is how much I knew.
• 43:51
  Carmen Lezeth: It was so heart wrenching for her.
• 43:53
  Carmen Lezeth: All of her friends on Facebook not all of them A lot of them were like is this really you?
• 43:59
  Carmen Lezeth: You would never do this.
• 44:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I need somebody to have a conversation with.
• 44:01
  Carmen Lezeth: And she's like I don't have any power.
• 44:05
  Cynthia Lopez: I can't get on a FaceTime call, so then people are like and I'm sorry that is not a friend, because if that was your friend you would automatically just call them hey, are you okay?
• 44:15
  Carmen Lezeth: That's what somebody else did and said to verify.
• 44:19
  Carmen Lezeth: So there's the part where people are unsure if that's her on Facebook.
• 44:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Because, cynthia, it would be like if I went on Facebook and wrote it really is like this If I were to go on Facebook and say I'm having a really hard time, I don't have any electricity on right now, I don't have any money.
• 44:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Can you please go to my Venmo and send me some cash?
• 44:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm trying to raise enough money.
• 44:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Blah, blah, blah to get my lights back on.
• 44:44
  Cynthia Lopez: First of all I'm not going to send you a text, I'm not going to send you another message on Facebook.
• 44:48
  Cynthia Lopez: I'm going to call you.
• 44:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, but you can't reach her because her phone is not working.
• 44:53
  Carmen Lezeth: That's the problem she's having.
• 44:55
  Carmen Lezeth: So I understand why people on Facebook are freaking the fuck out, cause they don't think it's, because I don't think anyone believes that I would do that, so that's number one.
• 45:02
  Carmen Lezeth: And so that's number one.
• 45:03
  Carmen Lezeth: And then you can't really call me because they don't have any electricity.
• 45:06
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 45:08
  Carmen Lezeth: So she took a moment to post on Facebook and Instagram so that she could get some help, and so people are all like is this really her?
• 45:14
  Carmen Lezeth: I need somebody to do a FaceTime to check.
• 45:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Somebody hacked her account and I'm like, oh my God, and I know that that's her Venmo.
• 45:28
  Rick Costa: I know that that's her.
• 45:28
  Rick Costa: You know what I mean, like, and I don't even know her super well, but just from little key things she wrote.
• 45:31
  Rick Costa: I knew it was her, I didn't question it, I knew it was her.
• 45:32
  Carmen Lezeth: But I understand why people you know what I mean said like, I know what you're saying, but I know why somebody questioned it, because something that no one would ever expect.
• 45:40
  Carmen Lezeth: You would never expect me to, cynthia, if I wrote that on Facebook.
• 45:43
  Carmen Lezeth: I hope you would question it because you'd be like, wait, why didn't Carmen call me first?
• 45:48
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, like, what is happening, like.
• 45:50
  Carmen Lezeth: But I think that's kind of the thing it's like and and I know, rick, I agree with you I mean, it's one of my pet peeves.
• 45:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I wish I had enough money, cause I it's money.
• 46:09
  Carmen Lezeth: No one should be without fucking electricity in this country.
• 46:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Nobody should be homeless in this fucking country.
• 46:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Nobody should be suffering this badly.
• 46:17
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't give a fuck.
• 46:18
  Carmen Lezeth: And this idea that people are lazy or that people that's not what it is either.
• 46:23
  Carmen Lezeth: We fall on hard times, things happen, things are extremely expensive Medical care.
• 46:30
  Carmen Lezeth: We are all one paycheck away from being homeless.
• 46:35
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't give a fuck who you are, unless you are Elon Musk or all these other people who got money, money, money.
• 46:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Everybody, my, I have clients who have lots of money, who freaked out because they lost half a million dollars and are now not going to hire somebody that we need to hire because they're so afraid of the market.
• 46:53
  Carmen Lezeth: That's somebody who has money, money not me money, money, money, money.
• 46:58
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 46:59
  Carmen Lezeth: And they're freaking out and so because they have a family, you know, and they have to help people and they take care of people and it's like so what do you think the rest of us are doing?
• 47:11
  Rick Costa: Another pet peeve I have is people that say oh yeah, me too.
• 47:14
  Rick Costa: I live paycheck to paycheck.
• 47:16
  Rick Costa: The next day be like check out my new shoes, Ain't they cool?
• 47:19
  Rick Costa: I'm like, no, Come to me with no paycheck.
• 47:22
  Rick Costa: All I buy is food.
• 47:23
  Rick Costa: That's it, what you mean.
• 47:26
  Rick Costa: You live paycheck to paycheck.
• 47:28
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, okay, you mean you live paycheck to paycheck.
• 47:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, okay, I feel a little guilty there because, um, I, yeah, I do live paycheck to paycheck.
• 47:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I just don't have children or anyone to take care of, and so I am, you know, gonna go get my hair done soon.
• 47:43
  Carmen Lezeth: No, um, I just I agree with you.
• 47:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's also people who cry poverty and use money unwisely.
• 47:52
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, um, and so I agree with you.
• 47:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's also people who cry poverty and use money unwisely.
• 47:54
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, so I agree with you.
• 47:56
  Carmen Lezeth: I actually do have to get my hair done, but, if you've noticed, I haven't.
• 48:00
  Carmen Lezeth: So because I know, I mean, the market is volatile, and I also know two of my clients who lost their homes are not going to be able to keep paying us.
• 48:09
  Carmen Lezeth: You know they lost them during the fires, so I already know things are about to get tight too.
• 48:13
  Carmen Lezeth: But that's what I mean.
• 48:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Like, I mean, will I be okay for a couple months?
• 48:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Sure, but after that?
• 48:19
  Carmen Lezeth: And what am I going to do about my housekeeper and my Botox?
• 48:27
  Rick Costa: Get out that t-shirt.
• 48:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Get out that t-shirt.
• 48:38
  Carmen Lezeth: I already told her.
• 48:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I already told her that after June I couldn't have her anymore.
• 48:42
  Carmen Lezeth: She doesn't know.
• 48:43
  Carmen Lezeth: But that's what you do you try to set yourself up.
• 48:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh my god, it's such a depressing.
• 48:50
  Rick Costa: It's supposed to be funny or laugh, at least laughing in a way.
• 48:56
  Carmen Lezeth: I know.
• 48:56
  Carmen Lezeth: I just hope that our friend got what she needed.
• 48:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I think, um, I think everyone pulled together and, uh, helped her out, so I hope she got everything she needed and that she's okay.
• 49:08
  Carmen Lezeth: And what a tough situation to be in.
• 49:10
  Carmen Lezeth: But I think that's probably one of my biggest pet peeves for this country is we have an idea of what homelessness is.
• 49:18
  Carmen Lezeth: We have an idea of what poverty is.
• 49:20
  Carmen Lezeth: We have an idea of what need is.
• 49:22
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm sorry, in this country, in this great country of ours, no one should ever be in that situation.
• 49:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Really.
• 49:31
  Carmen Lezeth: No, we have so much.
• 49:33
  Carmen Lezeth: We really should not ever be.
• 49:35
  Carmen Lezeth: And that's not about laziness, that's not about pull yourself up by your bootstraps, it's not about fucking socialism.
• 49:42
  Carmen Lezeth: It's about this country has so much abundance.
• 49:45
  Carmen Lezeth: And if we were kind and lovely to each other and if we were people who really cared about each other as neighbors, we wouldn't look at a homeless person and just assume that they deserve to be there right.
• 50:00
  Rick Costa: I mean, have these people even talk to them?
• 50:02
  Rick Costa: I mean that I just actually I just did it once where we was a bunch of church people.
• 50:07
  Rick Costa: He went one night and just talked to homeless people and that changed me.
• 50:11
  Rick Costa: It really did.
• 50:12
  Rick Costa: It's like, wow, some of these people some of them, yes, they're a little mentally so you kind of understand why they're in a situation Some of them just fell on hard times.
• 50:21
  Rick Costa: They just couldn't get back on track, you know.
• 50:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Can we explain the mentally thing?
• 50:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Can I give you a scenario and I'm not really saying it for you, I'm saying it for other people because that's one of my pet peeves.
• 50:38
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so let me put it to you this way.
• 50:39
  Carmen Lezeth: So the other day I I actually did a TikTok about it.
• 50:40
  Carmen Lezeth: I went to the grocery store and I bought a bottle of wine.
• 50:42
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I bought like a smaller bottle of wine, like there's these cute little um, I'd show it to you, but I already drank it.
• 50:50
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like a little.
• 50:51
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like a little one.
• 50:52
  Carmen Lezeth: You can just get like two glasses.
• 50:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I've never seen like a mini wine bottle.
• 50:56
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I'm talking about.
• 50:57
  Carmen Lezeth: So I did a TikTok about it and I was cracking up and so I was just having a day.
• 51:02
  Carmen Lezeth: So I was like you know, I'm gonna have a glass of wine or whatever, but anyways, so I have a glass of wine because I had a tough day.
• 51:09
  Carmen Lezeth: So can you imagine if I was homeless and on the street, having a really tough bunch of days strung together and couldn't find my way to the shelter, I got harassed by some guy who was drunk and all handsy or whatever, because if you've ever been to a homeless shelter.
• 51:36
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not like you all have your own private rooms, okay, um, or maybe when I went to go get help, snap benefits or welfare benefits or something just to try to get me out of the situation I'm in.
• 51:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Because actually what happened to me was I had a medical surgery thing that happened, and then at the same time my husband died, and when he died I didn't get any of his social security benefits because of a little snafu in the system that said I didn't get to earn them.
• 52:09
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I got into a medical dilemma and then oh, by the way I ended up not being able to pay the rent because I was a caretaker while my husband was alive, dealing with cancer or whatever, and so I lost my job.
• 52:24
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just spitballing possibilities here of stories I know have happened, have we've all heard.
• 52:30
  Carmen Lezeth: But that's how it happened.
• 52:32
  Carmen Lezeth: It doesn't mean that that person wasn't a valuable human being with ideas and a heart and passions, but when things go bad, they can go very, very bad, and then you end up in a shelter, you end up trying to get help.
• 52:50
  Carmen Lezeth: It gets harder and harder.
• 52:51
  Carmen Lezeth: It is actually easier, especially if you live in California I can't say the same for Vermont or Boston.
• 52:56
  Carmen Lezeth: But if you live in California, it is so much easier to sleep on that beach with the beautiful sky at night, with the waves rolling, with your glass of wine that maybe you bought with some money you panhandled because you've had a bad day.
• 53:17
  Carmen Lezeth: You see where I'm going with this.
• 53:18
  Carmen Lezeth: You see how easy it is to become an alcoholic or to become someone who's constantly trying to just rid yourself of the pain that you're in by drinking.
• 53:28
  Carmen Lezeth: But I'm not advocating for it.
• 53:30
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not saying this is what should happen.
• 53:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm saying there but for the grace of God, go.
• 53:35
  Carmen Lezeth: I, motherfucking bitches, stop being an ass to homeless people.
• 53:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And Rick, what you said see people for who they are.
• 53:45
  Rick Costa: Yeah, I bet so many of them probably say to themselves I don't even get here.
• 53:50
  Rick Costa: I can't believe this.
• 53:52
  Rick Costa: All of them probably say to themselves.
• 53:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even get here.
• 53:54
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't believe this.
• 53:54
  Carmen Lezeth: All of them say that and you know, drugs is the easiest way to.
• 53:57
  Carmen Lezeth: I just told you I drank you know a little mini bottle of wine because I had a hard day.
• 54:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't imagine what it would be like, you know, okay.
• 54:08
  Carmen Lezeth: So maybe somebody gives you a $10 bill or something you know, when you're panhandling, maybe whatever you get like 20.
• 54:13
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know how much people make panhandling, but maybe it's enough to like get you food.
• 54:18
  Carmen Lezeth: But why get food when you can get high and not think about it anymore?
• 54:24
  Carmen Lezeth: But we all want to be so moralistic, right?
• 54:27
  Carmen Lezeth: We all want to be like, but I would, you know what.
• 54:29
  Carmen Lezeth: What's $10 going to get you?
• 54:31
  Carmen Lezeth: $10 ain't going to get you an apartment.
• 54:37
  Rick Costa: You have so little pleasure as it is, so why not?
• 54:40
  Carmen Lezeth: That's what I'm saying, yeah, I mean, you know we keep talking about pet peeves, but my pet peeve is us being heartless and unkind.
• 54:49
  Carmen Lezeth: But then saying that we would be Right, yeah, I would help anybody really those are the same ones that say I got you, I got you.
• 55:02
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm here for you.
• 55:03
  Carmen Lezeth: I will support you by subscribing to your sub stack or your YouTube channel.
• 55:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I got you, Carmen.
• 55:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I got you exactly, I got you.
• 55:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Exactly.
• 55:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, pet peeves about your neighbors.
• 55:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I'm not going to waste my time on them.
• 55:23
  Cynthia Lopez: How about traveling?
• 55:24
  Cynthia Lopez: Pet peeves about traveling.
• 55:26
  Cynthia Lopez: Do you have a pet?
• 55:26
  Cynthia Lopez: Bed bugs?
• 55:27
  Cynthia Lopez: That is number one's funny um.
• 55:38
  Carmen Lezeth: What's your pet peeve about traveling?
• 55:41
  Cynthia Lopez: not being at the airport on time.
• 55:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I hate rushing at the airport on time.
• 55:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I'm, I'm always on time at the row.
• 55:52
  Cynthia Lopez: I always have to tell people that our flight leaves about a half hour to an hour earlier than what it does, so that we can get there on time and have enough time to relax are?
• 56:04
  Carmen Lezeth: are we when we're talking about people?
• 56:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Are the people we're talking about one?
• 56:09
  Cynthia Lopez: and we bring it full circle.
• 56:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah, there's a woman on Tik TOK who I forget what her name is, but I follow her on Tik TOK and she goes up to random people and asks them questions and she'll say things and she's black, she's a black woman and what she's actually asking them is questions to see if they know anything about being black.
• 56:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, she'll go up to black people and ask them and she'll be like what, what, what, what.
• 56:44
  Rick Costa: Lexi, yeah, soul school.
• 56:45
  Rick Costa: Yeah, that's Lexi.
• 56:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Soul school.
• 56:46
  Carmen Lezeth: It's so funny so she'll go up and ask them, like if I say I'm uh 20 minutes away, what time am I gonna get there?
• 56:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Of course, the answer is like an hour and a half.
• 56:57
  Cynthia Lopez: Right, that's the answer so she does all those I saw.
• 57:01
  Cynthia Lopez: I saw her one time and she was asking a white girl and she knew all the answers.
• 57:06
  Cynthia Lopez: She goes, she's invited to the barbecue, yeah she goes you sure you weren't black in your previous life, right?
• 57:15
  Carmen Lezeth: well my favorite one, because it really is really distinct is like she'll be, like god is good, and white people always say god is great.
• 57:24
  Carmen Lezeth: The answer is all the time right, all the time, all the time god is good.
• 57:31
  Carmen Lezeth: It's so funny.
• 57:32
  Rick Costa: Yeah, it always cracks me up I can't go to, and she's like who is booboo the fool?
• 57:37
  Rick Costa: I don't know, I don't know, I don't know don't understand mom and them.
• 57:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you guys get what mom and them is?
• 57:49
  Carmen Lezeth: It's mom and them.
• 57:52
  Carmen Lezeth: So when she says who's mom and them, everyone's like, uh, what I don't know?
• 57:56
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like mom and them.
• 57:59
  Carmen Lezeth: So it's anybody, it's all your anybody, the mailman, the anybody who's in the room at the time mom and them.
• 58:05
  Carmen Lezeth: It just it's so funny because I a smart, interesting TikTok, I mean brilliant and I didn't know you guys followed her.
• 58:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, cool.
• 58:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you so much, that was so much fun.
• 58:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you so much for being in the private lounge and remember at the end of the day, oh, I should do a little bit of promoting ourselves.
• 58:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Huh, why not?
• 58:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so we are on YouTube.
• 58:29
  Carmen Lezeth: You can find it under my name, which is Carmen Lee set.
• 58:32
  Carmen Lezeth: You can also try to Google it all about the joy, but I don't think it comes up under YouTube there.
• 58:40
  Carmen Lezeth: But you can also go to aatjoycom to find all of our links.
• 58:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Please also come and check us out on Friday nights at 6 PM Pacific, 9 PM Eastern, where we have our live show and anyone can come and join in in the chat and sometimes we'll have you come on if you have time.
• 58:57
  Carmen Lezeth: We had a great show last week with somebody.
• 59:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Where was he from, I forget.
• 59:02
  Rick Costa: Maslam from England, michael, but I'm so used to calling him Maslam, that's always how he is.
• 59:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but he was from Turkey.
• 59:07
  Carmen Lezeth: He's originally from Turkey, but he was from Turkey.
• 59:08
  Carmen Lezeth: He's originally from Turkey.
• 59:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, he's originally from Turkey.
• 59:10
  Carmen Lezeth: It was really nice and he came on and that was really fun, and Brian joined us too, and that was a great time.
• 59:16
  Carmen Lezeth: So, yeah, check us out on Friday night.
• 59:18
  Carmen Lezeth: We're looking forward to seeing you there, and that's it.
• 59:22
  Carmen Lezeth: But remember, at the end of the day, it really is all about the joy.
• 59:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Bye everyone, good night, bye.
• 59:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Bye everyone.
• 59:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Bye.
• 59:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Thanks for stopping by.
• 59:32
  Carmen Lezeth: All About the Joy.
• 59:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Be better and stay beautiful folks.
• 59:37
  Rick Costa: Have a sweet day.