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Fruit Over Feelings: How to Recognize a Mature, Godly Man · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  Any man can be at church on Sunday, serve on the worship team,
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  and participate in Bible study on Wednesdays. Even a narcissist can do that.
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  What I'm talking about is a man who bears fruit and upholds his integrity,
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  even when no one is watching.
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  Hey, sis, have you ever wondered what a truly godly man looks like?
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  I'm not talking about the guy who shows up to church on Sundays or posts Bible
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  verses on his stories. That's fantastic and super cool.
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  But I'm talking about a man whose life reflects Christ when no one is watching.
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  In today's episode, we're diving into eight characteristics of a healthy, mature, godly man.
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  The kind of man whose words match his actions,
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  bears fruit and whose heart is rooted in integrity.
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  Hey sis, welcome to Girl Date the Good Guy podcast, the space where we strip
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  away the noise and get real about toxic cycles, healing, and stepping into the love God has for us.
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  I'm your host, Emily Jordan, and I've been where you are, heartbroken,
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  confused, and chasing love that didn't come from God.
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  Before we dive in i'd love your help if you've
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  and embrace the kind of love he's designed for us.
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  Hey, sis, welcome back to the show. I am so excited that you are here.
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  Today, we are getting real about what a healthy, mature, godly man looks like.
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  The kind of man whose life reflects Christ.
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  We're going to unpack eight characteristics that truly matter.
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  He bears fruit, lives with integrity, walks in wisdom, is equally yoked,
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  loves like Christ, practices self-control, seeks counsel and accountability,
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  and leads with humility.
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  After two divorces and many flings later, I gave myself fully to Christ back in 2016.
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  It was after a dream, a true awakening that changed everything in me.
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  More on that story later.
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  But from that moment on, I decided to obey God completely.
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  I stopped dating, went into a season of celibacy, and even let go of friendships
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  that weren't aligned with where God was taking me.
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  It wasn't easy. There were lonely nights, tears, and a lot of wrestling with my old self.
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  But now looking back, it was the best decision I ever made.
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  For 10 years, I walked with God, alone, raising my daughters as a single mom.
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  That season stripped me, refined me, and taught me who I was in Christ.
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  God showed me the broken parts of my heart, the unhealed places that made me attract the wrong men.
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  That revelation, wow, was everything.
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  And through that process, I realized something powerful.
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  Discernment is one of the greatest gifts God can give his daughters.
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  Because once you see with spiritual eyes, you can't be fooled by words,
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  charm, or church attendance anymore. You start seeing fruit.
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  So about that fruit, let's talk about what that kind of man looks like because
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  you can't identify what you don't understand.
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  When we know better, we do better, right?
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  So number one, he bears good fruit.
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  Matthew 7, 16 through 20 tells us,
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  you will know them by their fruits i cannot
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  stress this enough sis anyone can say they're a christian but how does their
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  life look behind closed doors does he live with integrity when no one is watching
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  does he treat people with kindness humility and respect a godly man doesn't
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  just talk faith he walks it.
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  Number two, he lives with integrity. Integrity is consistency,
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  being the same person in public and in private.
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  A mature man of God honors his commitments, tells the truth and doesn't compromise
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  his values for convenience or appearance.
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  He's not perfect, but he's accountable and honest about his flaws.
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  Number three, he walks in wisdom.
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  Proverbs 4, 7 says, wisdom is the principal thing. Therefore, get wisdom.
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  A wise man seeks God's direction in every decision. He prays,
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  listens, and waits before he moves.
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  Wisdom is reflected in how he handles conflict, money, and authority.
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  His decisions build stability, not chaos. So if it's chaotic, sis, it's got to go.
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  4. He's equally yoked. 2 Corinthians 6.14 warns us not to be unequally yoked.
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  A mature man of God doesn't just believe in God. He follows him.
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  His values align with the word. His heart is surrendered.
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  A relationship with him doesn't pull you away from God. It pulls you closer to him.
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  Number five, he loves like Christ. Oh girl, when you get this kind of love, it is so special.
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  In 1 Corinthians 13, four through seven, gives us a blueprint for love.
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  Patient, kind, not proud, not easily angered.
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  A man walking in Christ's love doesn't manipulate or control.
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  His love brings peace, not confusion.
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  Number six, he practices self-control. Oh, yes, he does.
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  Galatians 5, 22 through 23 describes the fruit of the Spirit.
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  Love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, faithfulness,
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  gentleness, and self-control.
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  A godly man has mastery over his emotions and his desires.
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  He doesn't let lust, pride, or anger lead him.
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  Number seven, he seeks counsel and accountability. Proverbs 12,
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  15 reminds us that the way of a fool seems right to him, but the wise listen to advice.
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  A healthy man surrounds himself with wise mentors, godly friends, and accountability.
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  He's teachable and humble enough to admit when he's wrong.
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  And number eight, he serves and leads with humility.
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  Jesus said in Matthew 20, 26, that whoever wants to be great must become a servant.
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  A godly man leads his life, not with domination, but through service and humility.
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  His leadership looks like prayer, protection, and partnership.
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  Now, really quick, I want to define partnership.
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  I think that this is important. I feel like God wants to highlight this.
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  So I looked at the definition of partnership, and this is what it says.
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  Two people walking in unity, supporting each other's growth,
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  vision, and well-being.
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  Spiritually, a kingdom partnership can mean aligning with someone or something
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  that advances God's purpose through shared faith, service, and obedience.
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  I want to add this in there as well. Eve was formed from Adam's rib,
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  signifying that she was meant to be his equal, to stand beside him and to be
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  unified with him, not below him.
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  Now your homework. I want you to take this week to journal on something powerful.
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  Ask yourself, have I been choosing potential or fruit?
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  Write down the qualities that God has shown you in this episode, then honestly reflect.
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  Do the men I've dated display these fruits?
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  What does my discernment say about their character, not their charm?
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  And most importantly, pray for God to give you eyes to see the truth,
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  not through emotion, but through the spirit.
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  And if you're in a season of waiting, don't rush it. Learn.
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  Grow right now. God's best will never require you to compromise your worth, ma'am.
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  Ma'am. I'm going to say it again. God's best will never require you to compromise your worth.
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  Thank you for tuning in to Girl Date the Good Guy. Until next time,
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  keep your heart soft, your standards high, and your faith even higher.