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Herspiration Happy Hour Season 9, Eps 20: No Agenda, Just Vibes · Herspiration Happy Hour

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SPEAKER_01: Are you ready for cocktails and conversations?
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SPEAKER_01: Are you ready for cocktails and conversations?
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SPEAKER_01: Are you ready for cocktails and conversations with your host, the unapologetic Diva Dr.
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SPEAKER_01: G, the girlfriend therapist Dr.
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SPEAKER_01: Cortina Lewis, and the networking extraordinaire Diana Richardson Philippus.
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SPEAKER_01: Are you ready for cocktails and conversation?
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SPEAKER_01: This is Herspiration Happy Hour.
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SPEAKER_01: Happy Hour.
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unknown: Happy Hour.
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SPEAKER_01: Happy Wednesday, and welcome to another episode of Herspiration Happy Hour.
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SPEAKER_01: This is season nine, episode 20, and this is your unapologetic diva, Dr.
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SPEAKER_01: G.
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SPEAKER_01: This is Dr.
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SPEAKER_01: Cortina Lewis, aka the girlfriend therapist.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, and Diana's not with us, and Shay will be popping on shortly.
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SPEAKER_01: Uh so you know, of course, it's a winning Wednesday.
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SPEAKER_01: So what can we celebrate today for you?
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SPEAKER_02: Uh what can we celebrate today?
1:13
SPEAKER_02: Um what can we celebrate?
1:20
SPEAKER_02: Uh huh.
1:24
SPEAKER_02: Um, I'm feeling better.
1:26
SPEAKER_02: That's always good.
1:27
SPEAKER_02: My voice might not sound like it.
1:30
SPEAKER_02: It is much better than it was.
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SPEAKER_02: I don't have a raspy cough.
1:33
SPEAKER_02: The last two weeks have been horrible for me.
1:36
SPEAKER_02: Um, but I'm feeling better.
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SPEAKER_02: So that is definitely a win in my book, especially when you deal with uh uh invisible illness, um, like uh autoimmune disease.
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SPEAKER_02: So yeah.
1:51
SPEAKER_01: Okay, yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, well, for me, I am celebrating being about, I believe I'm 100% unpacked, uh, but put together, I'm probably about 95%.
2:07
SPEAKER_01: So kudos to me.
2:10
SPEAKER_01: Okay, and that's no easy feat now.
2:13
SPEAKER_01: No easy feat.
2:14
SPEAKER_01: Now, my garage looks a whole hot mess because off every box that I unpacked went right out there, every everything.
2:23
SPEAKER_01: So one side of the garage is I I don't even know if I can walk through there at this point.
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SPEAKER_01: I've just been throwing empty boxes, but I'm unpacked, no boxes to unpack.
2:38
SPEAKER_01: So huh, and and I will tell you this.
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SPEAKER_01: I'll give me myself.
2:45
SPEAKER_01: Let me tell you, you don't know how much you have until it's time to move.
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SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
2:54
SPEAKER_01: We filled up a 26-foot truck, and I also, I mean, from front to back, I also bought about eight or nine boxes slash bags with me when I first came before, you know, to get the keys and stuff for the house.
3:12
SPEAKER_01: I I was like, this is this is a lot of stuff.
3:14
SPEAKER_01: Where is where is all of this stuff coming from?
3:17
SPEAKER_01: My my office closet is my storage closet and it is full.
3:26
SPEAKER_01: Um I'm like, I don't know.
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SPEAKER_01: His it is nuts.
3:29
SPEAKER_01: It is nuts, yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: But I don't know what it won for a while, and I you know what?
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SPEAKER_02: I totally forgot that you were moving.
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SPEAKER_02: I definitely would have done a cocktail inspired by relocating, but I totally forgot.
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SPEAKER_02: It's okay because you need to like to kind of keep it theme.
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SPEAKER_01: Oh, no, I know, but this is no agenda, so you know, this is no I know, and so what are we sipping on then?
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SPEAKER_02: Well, we're sipping on the exhale.
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SPEAKER_02: I mean, it may be indirectly because you're almost 100% done.
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SPEAKER_02: You can finally exhale, but this drink is inspired because you know, sometimes the most therapeutic thing you can do is just stop and breathe, right?
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SPEAKER_02: And let the moment be the moment.
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SPEAKER_02: And and that's kind of what we're gonna do tonight.
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SPEAKER_02: Just let the moment be the moment.
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SPEAKER_02: So the exhale basically is two ounces of vodka, two ounces of peach nectar, or just peach syrup if you have that, two ounces of coconut water, a half ounce of fresh lime, and an ounce of sparkling water.
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SPEAKER_02: You can use flavored if you like, and a fresh mint and peach in lime wedge for garnish.
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SPEAKER_02: And the way that you're gonna make this, you're gonna fill your shaker with ice, you're gonna add all of the wet ingredients, and then you're gonna shake for about 15 seconds.
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SPEAKER_02: You're gonna strain onto the rocks in a glass, and then you're gonna fill it with ice, and then you're gonna top it with the sparkling water.
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SPEAKER_02: Of course, you don't want to add that to your shaker because it's carbonated, you don't want to do that.
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SPEAKER_02: You want to add that to the top, give it a little gentle stir, and then you're gonna garnish it with your mint and your peach, and there you are.
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SPEAKER_01: Sounds refreshing, it's very sounds very refreshing.
5:17
SPEAKER_01: I for me, as soon as I hit that 100% and I am completely done, I will be scheduling me a full body massage and facial.
5:28
SPEAKER_01: You probably and out of all the days of all the days, opening up a box, trying to open open up a box for my mattress or for my bedding set, I broke a nail today.
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SPEAKER_01: Because remember, I'm not dominant.
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SPEAKER_01: I this is not my left hand is not my dominant needle.
5:48
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
5:49
SPEAKER_02: Oh, okay.
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SPEAKER_02: I was like a band-aid.
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SPEAKER_01: I have a okay.
5:52
SPEAKER_01: I couldn't see.
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SPEAKER_01: I was it's bleeding.
5:55
SPEAKER_01: Is your finger broke?
5:56
SPEAKER_01: Uh your whole finger off.
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SPEAKER_01: I can see it's covered because I it's so these are my nails.
6:02
SPEAKER_01: So when it broke, I mean it broke all the way down to the meat, and so it's bleeding.
6:09
SPEAKER_03: Oh, I just got cheese.
6:11
SPEAKER_01: I had to hurry and find a band-aid.
6:14
SPEAKER_01: I had to find my first aid kit before this podcast because this literally just happened, but it hurt like it hurts.
6:22
SPEAKER_01: I don't yeah, so now I'm going.
6:25
SPEAKER_01: I can always, once it's healed, I can always get like a gel nail put over it until it grows out.
6:31
SPEAKER_01: But I think I'm gonna go ahead and cut my nails down.
6:34
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, oh my god.
6:36
SPEAKER_01: Oh my gosh, this shit hurts so bad.
6:39
SPEAKER_01: I hope it's not too bad.
6:40
SPEAKER_01: Oh, it's it's broken all the way down to the meat.
6:43
SPEAKER_01: Well, I hope it doesn't, you know.
6:46
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
6:46
SPEAKER_01: Oh okay.
6:48
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it hurts like crazy.
6:49
SPEAKER_01: I mm-hmm.
6:51
SPEAKER_01: But I will say, I I'm just I'm happy that that I've been having, you know, most of the rooms are done.
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SPEAKER_01: The there's only one room that is not really done at all.
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SPEAKER_01: I haven't made the bed, I haven't done anything for that.
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SPEAKER_01: Is that's the room behind me, but all the other rooms are done.
7:06
SPEAKER_01: Um I I ordered a new bedding set today, so I'm putting that on my bed now.
7:11
SPEAKER_01: I have an Eagles room, I got an Eagles fan room.
7:14
SPEAKER_01: So there's there's Eagles, there's an Eagles Comforter.
7:18
SPEAKER_01: When you see it, you're gonna be like, Pam, you out your mind.
7:21
SPEAKER_01: But yes, it is all things Eagles.
7:23
SPEAKER_01: So I even hung my Eagles jerseys and t-shirts and everything in the closet.
7:28
SPEAKER_02: Oh goodness, yeah.
7:30
SPEAKER_01: And then, you know, I have like a little mannequin body part.
7:33
SPEAKER_01: I put my sweatsuit, I put a hoodie on top of that and set it on a shelf.
7:38
SPEAKER_01: Because I had to have something because I have a chain, an eagle's chain with the eagles on it, with an eagle on it that I got when I went to the when I went to Philly to the game last year.
7:48
SPEAKER_01: I was like, where am I gonna put this?
7:50
SPEAKER_01: So I put the hoodie on top and then I put the chain on it.
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SPEAKER_01: So yeah, but it's my my my room that I have dedicated to my Philadelphia Eagles.
8:00
SPEAKER_01: So if you're not an Eagles fan, I don't give a damn if you if you you can sleep on the floor in the hallway if you don't like my room in the hallway, but it's kind of cool because I gave each room a different theme.
8:18
SPEAKER_01: So yeah, so my rainbow room that's just full of color and pretty art, and and it's also like my friends and family room that I have pictures of friends and family.
8:28
SPEAKER_01: That's in that's the room that I'm doing now.
8:31
SPEAKER_01: The comforter is sitting out on my um my front porch right now because you know the the laundry people dropped all of my laundry off.
8:38
SPEAKER_01: Um, my my office is like white, ivory, kind of like some blues, but it's really neutral colored, I guess.
8:50
unknown: Okay.
8:51
SPEAKER_01: But I never really I never had a bed in my office before, so I got a trundle day bed.
8:56
SPEAKER_01: It's so cute, so cute.
8:59
SPEAKER_01: Um, so yeah, I've just been, you know, everything downstairs is done.
9:04
SPEAKER_01: It's the upstairs that's not my living room, dining room, and kitchen are all 100% finished.
9:09
SPEAKER_01: Oh, okay.
9:10
SPEAKER_01: Nice.
9:10
SPEAKER_01: It's just the upstairs that needs some stuff.
9:13
SPEAKER_01: Everything is on the walls downstairs, it's a lot of work.
9:17
SPEAKER_01: I I told you, I've not left the house since Saturday.
9:20
SPEAKER_01: What's today?
9:20
SPEAKER_01: Wednesday?
9:21
SPEAKER_01: I have not left.
9:23
SPEAKER_02: How does it feel being in your new space?
9:26
SPEAKER_02: How does with all the space and in a new state and in a new city?
9:32
SPEAKER_01: And have you met your neighbors?
9:35
SPEAKER_01: I know, and I've not met my neighbors.
9:38
SPEAKER_01: Jay met one of our neighbors um this weekend when I guess on Saturday when we started moving the furniture in, and she came out.
9:47
SPEAKER_01: And otherwise, I so I before when I was here, hey, hey, butcher, before when I was here, and I came on the 30th and the 31st and the first, and then I left on the second.
10:00
SPEAKER_01: I I had went out and about and I found so many great places to eat and just to kind of hang out, and I got to navigate what's around me.
10:10
SPEAKER_01: And I will say every time I turn around, I'm 15 minutes from this, 15 minutes from that, I'm 10 minutes from the airport, almost like my house in Maryland.
10:19
SPEAKER_01: You know, we were 10 minutes from the airport, almost like the same thing here.
10:23
SPEAKER_01: And so I got out and about.
10:26
SPEAKER_01: Now, I don't have a car, I've not had a car since Saturday.
10:29
SPEAKER_01: We were supposed to drive back to Maryland, and because of all the back and the forth, I chose to listen to my body and just say, I need rest.
10:36
SPEAKER_01: So I told him, take my car, I'll just rent a car and I'll just drive home on Friday because I'm off on Friday.
10:44
SPEAKER_01: So I'm gonna leave Friday morning and drive back to Maryland.
10:47
SPEAKER_01: We have I'm gonna stay a week because I have to be in the office next Tuesday for training.
10:52
SPEAKER_01: Um, and we have stuff to do.
10:54
SPEAKER_01: Jay's birthday is next Wednesday, and then I'll come back next Friday.
10:58
SPEAKER_01: You know, I'll drive back next Friday unless I get a wild hair and after work hop on the road um and just come back home on Thursday.
11:05
SPEAKER_01: But yeah, I'm I'm enjoying the new space, I'm enjoying the new city.
11:11
SPEAKER_01: Um it's nice and quiet.
11:13
SPEAKER_01: Kofi is adjusting.
11:15
SPEAKER_01: You never realize how much you know the dogs have to adjust to.
11:21
SPEAKER_01: He's having to adjust as well, and because he he just keeps going to the door like I'm ready to go, I'm ready to go.
11:27
SPEAKER_01: So I've been taking him on regular walks.
11:29
SPEAKER_01: I didn't take him today because normally I take him at seven because it's a little warm out.
11:34
SPEAKER_01: But yeah, that's I mean, I'm I'm just in enjoying, and I can't wait to you know go out and about with Jay next weekend for his celebrate his birthday.
11:45
SPEAKER_01: And then, of course, you know, I'm having you know, you all here for my birthday, so there's gonna be plenty to do, and just kind of get to celebrate some things with you all as well.
11:56
SPEAKER_01: But I'm I'm I'm looking forward to this new chapter, I guess you can say.
12:01
SPEAKER_02: Good, good.
12:04
SPEAKER_02: Who's gonna be the first visitors?
12:06
SPEAKER_01: Your mom, yes, because they're getting ready to go to Germany, and they have this, they have a long layover here.
12:19
SPEAKER_01: Oh, oh, yeah, they have a long layover here.
12:23
SPEAKER_01: So I was like, okay, I can just go pick y'all up and then y'all can come hang out at the house because they get in at like nine in the morning and then they don't fly out till 4:30.
12:33
SPEAKER_01: So I told her, I was like, Well, uh, me actually, me and Jay will both be here, so we'll get to see them.
12:38
SPEAKER_01: So those will be the first official guests that we will have visit.
12:44
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, okay.
12:45
SPEAKER_01: Outside of that, it's probably you all the ladies are coming for my birthday.
12:51
SPEAKER_01: How many of us is it?
12:54
SPEAKER_01: 14 plus me is 15, but 14.
12:58
SPEAKER_01: What?
12:59
SPEAKER_01: That's a lot, it's not a lot.
13:03
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I'm not saying you know in a bad way.
13:06
SPEAKER_02: I thought you was about to say five.
13:10
SPEAKER_02: Five?
13:10
SPEAKER_02: What five?
13:12
SPEAKER_02: I have no idea.
13:14
SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
13:15
SPEAKER_01: Can you not can you not see the guest list?
13:18
SPEAKER_01: I haven't I didn't look at it.
13:20
SPEAKER_01: You know where you bought your ticket before you RSVP'd.
13:23
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I was just like, You told me today.
13:25
SPEAKER_02: I'm like, okay, let me let me get my ticket.
13:29
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so no, so it'd be 14.
13:31
SPEAKER_01: Um, plus me would be 15, so it'd be 15 of us.
13:35
SPEAKER_01: And I mean, potentially, I have a wait list, so I'll have to decide if uh, you know, in terms of the wait listers, it would just be that 100% they would they would have to book a room.
13:46
SPEAKER_01: Now, I do have the rooms on there, the two hotels that are on there that are 10 minutes from here as well, because they're up near the airport.
13:54
SPEAKER_01: Okay, and they and they each have uh what do you call it, airport shuttle available also.
14:01
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, both of them have airport shuttle.
14:04
SPEAKER_01: Oh, the hotels, okay.
14:05
SPEAKER_02: The hotels in my mind, I was thinking about your house.
14:07
SPEAKER_02: I was like, that's it.
14:09
SPEAKER_02: Okay, no, no, no, no, no.
14:10
SPEAKER_01: I'm saying because, like I said, what I did was, you know, yeah, I'm I have so much sleeping space, and so it depends if people want to have their own space, if they want a specific size bed or whatever, you know.
14:26
SPEAKER_01: I mean, I have I can sleep two, four, six, eight, nine, ten, ten people.
14:38
SPEAKER_01: Oh, Jay said y'all missing two people where the crew Diana is out today, Jay, and uh Shay is on a call for her mom.
14:48
SPEAKER_01: So it's just me and Cortina hanging out today.
14:51
SPEAKER_01: That's it.
14:52
SPEAKER_01: I'm trying to think what I was just saying.
14:55
SPEAKER_01: Oh, the people.
14:56
SPEAKER_01: Um, yeah, so yeah, I was counting rooms, so I was counting because I have they'll, you know, I have like two uh what do you call the uh like a blow-up mattress and what two twin size?
15:08
SPEAKER_01: So so if I include that space, not that's not including my room, you know, outside of that.
15:16
SPEAKER_01: So I can sleep up, I think 10.
15:19
SPEAKER_01: Okay, and that's not including my room, and so my room, I probably can get.
15:25
SPEAKER_01: I know I have a clean bed, so three of us can really be in there, it's not a small bed.
15:31
SPEAKER_01: So yeah, so I mean it's space, but it just depends.
15:37
SPEAKER_01: And and part of me is like, should I designate specific rooms or just be like, you know, if I get first come, first serve, whatever.
15:43
SPEAKER_01: Whatever whoever wants to share space, just share some space.
15:45
SPEAKER_01: I don't think it'll grab it.
15:48
SPEAKER_02: Um well, I don't know.
15:50
SPEAKER_02: I can't say that.
15:51
SPEAKER_02: I don't know everybody who's coming, I didn't even know it was that many people, but it's the main cruise.
15:59
SPEAKER_02: You know, an issue.
16:01
SPEAKER_02: It's only for two nights, it's just like not even I mean, it's it's the same crew, really.
16:07
SPEAKER_01: I mean, outside of like my mom and my two sisters, um, and myself, that's what four.
16:12
SPEAKER_02: And then the rest is like I mean, but your mom and your sisters like to me, I every a lot of times I'm seeing them if I'm seeing you.
16:20
SPEAKER_01: So oh, yeah.
16:21
SPEAKER_01: Um, yeah, like I mean, of course, you, Diana, uh, Magley, Villian, Jerry says she was coming.
16:30
SPEAKER_01: Um, who else is there?
16:32
SPEAKER_01: My cousin Carletta, Nelle, and Ebony, I believe, and Tasani.
16:37
SPEAKER_01: That's it.
16:38
SPEAKER_01: No, okay, and um, oh, from Chicago, from Detroit, Tamika, yes, Tamika.
16:49
SPEAKER_02: I was like, no, I'm like, God damn it.
16:52
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, Tamika.
16:52
SPEAKER_02: Also, she's gonna be there.
16:54
SPEAKER_02: Okay, yeah.
16:55
SPEAKER_02: If nobody else is there, I know she's gonna be there.
16:58
SPEAKER_01: Okay, yeah, so I think she RSVP.
17:04
SPEAKER_01: I think she is on there though.
17:06
SPEAKER_01: Okay, yeah, I'm telling you, I just keeping track of all of this stuff and trying to move.
17:12
SPEAKER_01: And so now that I'm kind of settling, I can finally start putting out the in getting ready for all the things now that I have the people, the core people who I know are going to come.
17:23
SPEAKER_01: Like the, you know, go ahead and schedule the party bus.
17:27
SPEAKER_01: Because at first I was gonna do like 20 people, and then I thought, yeah, I don't think I feel like feel like dealing with that many people.
17:34
SPEAKER_01: So I just scaled it back and I said, and I always forget to count myself.
17:38
SPEAKER_01: So to even it out, I just said, you know what?
17:42
SPEAKER_01: I'll just put uh 15 people, I'll be the 15th person and put 14.
17:47
SPEAKER_01: So I'm ready because I feel like that's enough space for the party bus without having to get anything overwhelmingly big.
17:56
SPEAKER_01: Um, I think one to hold 20 people will be great because then it leaves space because it's only 15 of us.
18:04
SPEAKER_01: And and then, of course, for brunch, the the brunch at a Paris type or French restaurant to celebrate the Paris part of the trip.
18:13
SPEAKER_01: You didn't read.
18:14
SPEAKER_02: I I think I scammed it.
18:17
SPEAKER_02: I was like, okay, I see the descriptions of the outfits.
18:23
SPEAKER_02: I need to make sure I ask questions because I I need to make sure that what I'm thinking when I read it is what it really is.
18:32
SPEAKER_02: I'm like, well, something that you wanna.
18:36
SPEAKER_02: Um, what was the word?
18:37
SPEAKER_01: How did you describe it?
18:39
SPEAKER_01: Oh, you've been waiting on the perfect moment to wear.
18:43
SPEAKER_01: Wear that.
18:44
SPEAKER_01: It's like the life is the occasion.
18:46
SPEAKER_01: But what if it's like a ball gown?
18:48
SPEAKER_01: I don't care what it is, I don't care what it is.
18:52
SPEAKER_01: That's that's the whole thing, that's the purpose.
18:55
SPEAKER_01: I'll get on there.
18:57
SPEAKER_01: Let's get creative.
18:58
SPEAKER_01: Whatever is in your closet that you have not worn that you just like, you know what?
19:01
SPEAKER_01: I'm waiting on an occasion to wear this.
19:04
SPEAKER_02: Oh Lord, it might be inappropriate.
19:06
SPEAKER_02: What if it's see-through?
19:09
SPEAKER_02: What do you mean?
19:10
SPEAKER_02: What if it's see-through?
19:11
SPEAKER_02: I mean, I got this one outfit, I've never worn it.
19:15
SPEAKER_02: I it looks like it could be a swimsuit, it's not a swimsuit, but it's long, it's it's weird.
19:22
SPEAKER_02: I'll show it to you, but I don't know.
19:25
SPEAKER_02: I like it wearing it.
19:27
SPEAKER_01: Life is the moment, okay.
19:30
SPEAKER_01: All right, that's how I feel.
19:31
SPEAKER_01: Life is the moment, so you know, you got a word, yeah.
19:39
SPEAKER_01: Life is the occasion.
19:41
SPEAKER_01: I know.
19:43
SPEAKER_01: And you can have more than one thing if you want, just to be like, you know what, let me see.
19:47
SPEAKER_01: But I'm gonna tell people, I'm gonna give people explicit instructions as we get closer because I don't want anybody to go out and buy anything.
19:55
SPEAKER_01: The goal is to look in your closet, and this is what it is.
19:59
SPEAKER_01: You gotta think Paris Fashion Week because that's that's what it's giving off.
20:03
SPEAKER_02: Oh, well, honey, this will do it, but I need to make sure.
20:07
SPEAKER_02: I mean, it's real.
20:11
SPEAKER_01: I don't even know what I'm going to wear.
20:13
SPEAKER_01: I I have a few different things in my closet, but most of them, I'm like you.
20:18
SPEAKER_01: It might I might look a little overdressed.
20:20
SPEAKER_02: It could give runway, it could give runway.
20:22
SPEAKER_02: See, real easy, but it could give runway, but one part in the front, no, oh child, ooh, all right.
20:36
SPEAKER_01: Well, I might just have to so so the first night is Tokyo night, so it's given, you know, come dressed.
20:44
SPEAKER_01: It's it's like it because it's a pajama night, it's like luxury.
20:48
SPEAKER_01: Think luxury pajamas, not just some more regular, you know, this is with the fluffy high heel slippers too.
20:57
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, okay, look, bring it, bring it all.
21:02
SPEAKER_01: Because I wanted to do something fun, so I was like, you know what, let's do a luxury girls, you know, pajama night.
21:08
SPEAKER_01: So it's given Tokyo because a lot of stuff would be um to represent the the Japan Japanese part of the trip, and then of course, you know, Saturday nights, uh Rio, the Rio night on the party bus where you have to wear all black.
21:26
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
21:28
SPEAKER_01: And be ready because you think Rio de Janeiro, that's kind of that's it's the Brazil feel of going out.
21:34
SPEAKER_01: And then, of course, Sunday, which is my official birthday.
21:37
SPEAKER_01: I said that's gonna be my relaxed time.
21:38
SPEAKER_01: So it's like ballet vibes, you know, you're traveling home, it's comfort, it's it's luxury comfort.
21:45
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, well, as long as my ticket don't keep changing.
21:50
SPEAKER_02: My flight originally was for 10 o'clock at night, but I got an update that they changed it to nine o'clock in the morning.
21:56
SPEAKER_02: So we'll just see.
21:57
SPEAKER_02: I have no idea.
21:58
SPEAKER_02: Wait, wait, what now?
22:01
SPEAKER_02: My flights have changed so much.
22:07
SPEAKER_02: So many times.
22:08
SPEAKER_02: Right now, I think it's over ten times my flights have changed, going and coming.
22:19
SPEAKER_01: Damn.
22:20
SPEAKER_01: So what time were you supposed to leave originally?
22:27
SPEAKER_01: Coming back home?
22:29
SPEAKER_01: No, coming here.
22:35
SPEAKER_02: My original ticket was four in the morning, like six in the morning.
22:39
SPEAKER_02: Okay.
22:40
SPEAKER_02: And then it moved to 9 a.m.
22:42
SPEAKER_02: No, no, no, no, no.
22:44
SPEAKER_02: Coming back on that Sunday, I was supposed to my tick, my original ticket was like a 10 o'clock at night flight.
22:51
SPEAKER_02: But now it's like six in the morning.
22:54
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it's like a whole day change.
22:59
unknown: Yeah.
22:59
SPEAKER_01: Did they give you the option to change it to something different?
23:05
SPEAKER_02: Um because they was changing it so much, I was just like, let me just wait and see what happens as it gets closer.
23:16
SPEAKER_02: Because it was it, it was ridiculous.
23:22
SPEAKER_02: Ridiculous, ridiculous.
23:28
SPEAKER_02: I was just like, what is happening?
23:32
SPEAKER_02: That's a lot.
23:35
SPEAKER_02: So let me I'm I'm gonna scroll.
23:38
SPEAKER_02: You're gonna be able to see, and the the people.
23:41
SPEAKER_02: My ticket started changing.
23:46
SPEAKER_02: I don't know if you can see all this.
23:48
SPEAKER_02: No, yeah.
23:50
SPEAKER_02: Oh wow.
23:51
SPEAKER_02: That's how many times the flight has changed.
24:00
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, so let me see what the currently what it is.
24:05
SPEAKER_02: See, guys, this is what happens.
24:08
SPEAKER_02: I I don't know what happens, but you gotta be mindful when you're booking.
24:13
SPEAKER_02: And guess what?
24:13
SPEAKER_02: They might just change your travel on you.
24:16
SPEAKER_02: So right now, the current trip, I leave here at 6:40 in the morning, and I get to you at 8.37 in the morning, and then coming back.
24:27
SPEAKER_02: Oh, they changed it again.
24:28
SPEAKER_02: I leave at 9:32 a.m.
24:31
SPEAKER_02: on Sunday.
24:33
SPEAKER_02: But originally, the original ticket was 10 o'clock at night.
24:37
SPEAKER_02: Okay, so that's where it is right now.
24:40
SPEAKER_02: Hopefully, it stays that way.
24:41
SPEAKER_02: Hopefully, I don't get stranded.
24:43
SPEAKER_02: Um, and that everything works out and that they don't change it again.
24:47
SPEAKER_02: But you saw how many times I kept getting notifications, your flight has been changed again, your flight has been changed again.
24:52
SPEAKER_02: And I was like, WTF, what is going on?
24:56
SPEAKER_02: How do y'all know so far in advance that the flight or the plane is not gonna be there at 10 o'clock at night?
25:04
SPEAKER_01: I don't know, that's crazy.
25:06
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, um, did you have you started looking at flights for LA?
25:15
SPEAKER_01: Um, I think Gunchy has.
25:17
SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
25:18
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I'm waiting.
25:19
SPEAKER_01: I'm waiting until like January because right now flights are so high.
25:24
SPEAKER_01: But I also mean.
25:25
SPEAKER_02: Well, I know so many flights we have to buy.
25:27
SPEAKER_02: We have so many places we're going.
25:29
SPEAKER_02: It's ridiculous.
25:33
SPEAKER_02: So many, so many, so many upcoming things.
25:36
SPEAKER_02: We have a Columbia.
25:38
SPEAKER_02: Well, we just got that one yesterday.
25:41
SPEAKER_02: Um flight that we have, and then we're looking at flights for my cousin's wedding in Mexico, and then Jonathan's wedding, and then yeah, it's yeah, I gotta, I gotta get our rooms and stuff situated for Jonathan's wedding at the end.
26:06
SPEAKER_01: Aruba and then a girl.
26:08
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
26:10
SPEAKER_02: So it's it's it's it's uh and all the slides.
26:14
SPEAKER_02: That's not even accommodations that we are um buying for all of these places.
26:19
SPEAKER_02: So we had to do the room for Jonathan.
26:22
SPEAKER_02: We had I had to do my room for my cousin's wedding, that's in March.
26:27
SPEAKER_02: We just booked my family trip.
26:29
SPEAKER_02: We're going away to Miramar Beach in the panhandle on in January.
26:36
SPEAKER_02: That's about destined, right?
26:38
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, so we just booked that.
26:41
SPEAKER_02: Um, yeah, so we is it's so much, so much happening.
26:49
SPEAKER_02: I know.
26:50
SPEAKER_02: So yeah, but I I can't wait to do it.
26:53
SPEAKER_02: You know, I don't like taking off from work, but I can't wait to be able to relax, like we're talking about, being able to live in the moment, like you said, that dress, that that outfit you've always wanted to wear.
27:05
SPEAKER_02: You know, how often do we take time to just live in the moment?
27:09
SPEAKER_02: How often do we take time to just not worry about planning?
27:13
SPEAKER_02: Like, because you can be on a trip, but then planning for something else, or when I get back home, I gotta do this, I gotta do that.
27:21
SPEAKER_02: But one of the things that I want to be able to do, and I might have to be redirected, is being able to be in the moment when I'm in the moment, because once the moment passes, you cannot get it back.
27:34
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, and so being able to be present with the people that are there and really being able to experience what's happening real time in that moment, yeah.
27:48
SPEAKER_01: So I think that's important.
27:50
SPEAKER_01: It is, it very much is.
27:53
SPEAKER_01: I I have been more cognizant to do that, and I mean, if if anybody's noticed, I don't think I posted other than in my stories, I have not created not one bit of content, not taken one picture, not done nothing, not posted anything.
28:07
SPEAKER_01: I have so much stuff I need to do because I need to get stuff prepared for my um my which would have been my final stop, which is DC on October 24th.
28:17
SPEAKER_01: Uh part of me is is, you know, I'm still going to do it regardless, even if it's just to talk about the book.
28:24
SPEAKER_01: Uh, because everything is contingent upon my hand.
28:28
SPEAKER_01: I wish I could tell you how hard it is to write, like to struggle.
28:33
SPEAKER_01: Um, and I mean, I've been in I've been in this brace for uh a few weeks now, at least a month.
28:40
SPEAKER_01: And I go to the hand ortho surgeon on um the 1st of October, and I'm just like, if I'm still in pain now, and if I'm still in pain then, you know.
28:55
SPEAKER_02: Well, hopefully it's you know, it's it's much better, hopefully, that you're not in it for your birthday.
29:01
SPEAKER_02: So, depending on what they say when you go, you know, physical therapy, hopefully, not surgery.
29:09
SPEAKER_02: Um, maybe you can go to a therapeutic massage and maybe they can do some exercises.
29:17
SPEAKER_02: I don't know.
29:18
SPEAKER_02: But it hurts, it hurts like crazy.
29:23
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
29:24
SPEAKER_01: But you know, I I'm I have still have a good hand that works.
29:30
SPEAKER_01: I this one still, you know, I can work my fingers.
29:32
SPEAKER_01: I mean, the the thumb and the wrist sometimes aches and all of that stuff, but overall, I I feel like I'm still able to do a good bit of stuff, and I'm learning to become stronger with my left hand.
29:47
SPEAKER_01: I mean, from cooking, and you know, I like to cook, so I know, I know you do.
29:53
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so I've been I've been and I I have cooked since I've been here a few times.
30:00
SPEAKER_02: Well, you know, Kofi, he gotta eat because you know you cook for him, so he gotta eat.
30:04
SPEAKER_02: So he was the first meal that I actually cooked in here.
30:07
SPEAKER_02: I was gonna say, you know what?
30:08
SPEAKER_02: I actually thought about you because I Dunchy made some ground turkey, and we had some leftover, and I was like, Oh my gosh, I'm gonna.
30:22
SPEAKER_02: Well, it was left over from what we made it, what he made it for.
30:26
SPEAKER_02: And so I was like, I'm gonna sprinkle some ground turkey over Rea's little food, and I was like, Oh my god, I think she absolutely loved it.
30:36
SPEAKER_02: So, and I immediately thought of you.
30:39
SPEAKER_02: I was like, Imagine me doing this every day.
30:44
SPEAKER_02: I could not even that much.
30:47
SPEAKER_01: I cook weekly, and then sometimes I'll just get up and make breakfast for him.
30:51
SPEAKER_01: Like I'll add some eggs or something to his food if I'm eating, I'm cooking for myself.
30:56
SPEAKER_01: Um, right now he has rice, he has ground beef, organic ground beef, organic ground turkey, and string beans and carrots in his bowl right now, and he's here.
31:13
SPEAKER_01: See what, but look at him.
31:18
SPEAKER_02: Okay, string beans and carrots.
31:21
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, but this one here be on my nerves, on my nerves, like he hasn't eaten all day because he's nervous or because he's just been eating once a day for a while, and I think also the adjustment it sometimes throws him off.
31:37
SPEAKER_01: He's never really had a set eating time, anyhow.
31:40
SPEAKER_01: Uh, but as long as he eats, he's fine.
31:45
SPEAKER_00: Okay, you your face is nasty.
31:50
SPEAKER_00: I need to wipe your face.
31:52
SPEAKER_02: What has been the most challenging part about relocating?
31:57
SPEAKER_01: Working and unpacking.
32:02
SPEAKER_01: Because I did a whole lot.
32:04
SPEAKER_01: Thankfully, Monday was a holiday, so I really got a lot of stuff done Saturday, Sunday, and Monday.
32:09
SPEAKER_01: And everything else is I keep looking around like, is this more stuff?
32:12
SPEAKER_01: Is this more stuff?
32:13
SPEAKER_01: And then having to take time to situate my closet space and you know, Jay's closet space on his half.
32:22
SPEAKER_01: And yeah, that's probably what I would say is the most challenging is just once once Tuesday came and and work is really busy.
32:29
SPEAKER_01: I work 10, so it's working all day and then getting off, and then feeling like unpacking and cleaning up some more.
32:40
SPEAKER_01: So, since every all of the boxes and stuff are unpacked at this point, I just don't even care.
32:44
SPEAKER_01: I'm I'm gonna make this bed up, I'm gonna bring the laundry in that's just sitting outside my house a whole lot of laundry, sitting outside the house, which is my comforters and some other stuff, but um, but that's probably the most challenging is just finding time and to want to have to do you know, you have to get this these things done and unpack, but not feeling like it and still having the energy, finding the energy to do so.
33:11
SPEAKER_01: I'm really tired, yeah.
33:14
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and I can't, I'm gonna have to I had to push my therapy appointment tomorrow because I'm not in Maryland.
33:21
SPEAKER_02: Oh, okay, yeah, because she must be, or he's in um only in Maryland.
33:29
SPEAKER_02: So, what are you gonna do?
33:30
SPEAKER_02: Are you gonna find another one?
33:32
SPEAKER_02: I mean, sometimes you're in North Carolina, yeah.
33:37
SPEAKER_02: So for a while there in North Carolina, what they were doing, you know what?
33:42
SPEAKER_02: North Carolina, they're pretty lenient.
33:49
SPEAKER_02: If it's possible if she just sends the board a letter saying, Hey, until my client can find a permanent therapist, is it okay if I still see her while she's in?
34:02
SPEAKER_02: Sometimes they'll give a temporary um okay.
34:06
SPEAKER_02: Yep, I got the information.
34:08
SPEAKER_02: Well, it's okay.
34:09
SPEAKER_01: I'm there next week, so I'm there a week.
34:11
SPEAKER_02: So it's just saying for long term, just in case you were not there, you know.
34:16
SPEAKER_02: You can you don't have to, you know, missing in.
34:20
SPEAKER_02: I'll be popping in.
34:22
SPEAKER_01: I'll be popping in um in and out of Maryland for a little bit.
34:26
SPEAKER_01: So even when I go, I'll just like, hey, here's when I'll be there.
34:29
SPEAKER_01: Do you have a session available session available?
34:32
SPEAKER_01: Because I haven't changed my insurance to Maryland yet.
34:35
SPEAKER_01: Because October 1st, I'm still got to see my doctor, and I'm like not trying to change in the middle of everything.
34:41
SPEAKER_01: So so right now I still have all my doctors there.
34:45
SPEAKER_01: Am I I need to find a dentist here?
34:48
SPEAKER_01: I and I had a good dentist there too.
34:52
SPEAKER_02: And see, people, these are all the things that sometimes we take for granted.
34:56
SPEAKER_02: The accessibility of providers that we've come to love and like, and then when you have to change and find new providers, I don't think people really realize how irritating and frustrating that can be sometimes because time consuming.
35:11
SPEAKER_02: Now I gotta start over, they already knew my history.
35:14
SPEAKER_02: Now I gotta go and they gotta get to know me all over again, go over my meds, like all of these things, which I mean it's good that doctors do that, but sometimes the convenience of having providers already in place versus having to try to get all of these different things in place again.
35:35
SPEAKER_01: So yeah, and so I see military doctors, so or I go to like military treatment facilities and there's none here.
35:42
SPEAKER_01: So this will be the first time in who knows how long I've had a full-time civilian provider that are that doesn't work on the military base where my records have, no matter where I go, my records was in one system.
35:56
SPEAKER_01: So now it's it's going to was going to be a little bit different because I have to make sure that all any copies of my stuff makes it to the military treatment facilities that I've been going to so that um my VA stays consistent.
36:09
SPEAKER_01: I mean, I can go to a VA place here.
36:11
SPEAKER_01: Um, and I really just started going to VA, but I lived in the same house for nine years.
36:17
SPEAKER_01: I lived in the same area since 2011.
36:23
SPEAKER_01: So, you know, I've been in the in the D DC metro areas, but I went back in 2011.
36:28
SPEAKER_01: So I've been in the same vicinity for a very long time.
36:35
SPEAKER_01: So, like it's finding everything new.
36:40
SPEAKER_01: Okay, yeah.
36:42
SPEAKER_01: I mean, and of course, you gotta get a new license, the car registrations, yeah, find time for all of that stuff.
36:48
SPEAKER_01: I already switched over the insurance.
36:50
SPEAKER_01: Um, so now I just gotta deal with my car, isn't even here right now, anyhow.
36:54
SPEAKER_02: But yeah, it's and then voter registration, yeah.
36:57
SPEAKER_01: That's why I said I need to get my license.
37:00
SPEAKER_02: Oh will they let you do it in this window period because it's so close.
37:07
SPEAKER_02: I don't know.
37:08
SPEAKER_02: I don't know.
37:08
SPEAKER_01: I wasn't planning on changing it until after election.
37:11
SPEAKER_02: Okay, okay, okay, okay.
37:13
SPEAKER_02: I was gonna say, child, I wouldn't change it.
37:15
SPEAKER_02: Are we?
37:16
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I mean, no matter what, I still have to go to the book.
37:23
SPEAKER_02: Oh, you're oh, you're still in Alabama anyway.
37:25
SPEAKER_02: Okay, still in Alabama.
37:29
SPEAKER_02: If I mailed it in, I would not use the United States Postal Service.
37:33
SPEAKER_02: I would have to take it myself and drop it off at the supervisor of election because don't trust the post office.
37:39
SPEAKER_02: I'm telling everybody don't trust the post office.
37:41
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, nope.
37:42
SPEAKER_01: I um yeah, I'm just gonna I'm gonna wait on that because I don't know.
37:47
SPEAKER_01: I don't I don't have time to be having things blocked over, you know.
37:50
SPEAKER_01: Maybe I can look and see if if I'm in that window, if I relocated here to vote here.
37:59
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, you know what?
38:01
SPEAKER_02: This is so random, and you all are gonna be like, what the hell is going on with Cortina today?
38:05
SPEAKER_02: Because my mind is all over everywhere.
38:07
SPEAKER_02: I am craving cake.
38:10
SPEAKER_02: I have been craving.
38:12
SPEAKER_02: I told I told Dunchy this just last night.
38:15
SPEAKER_02: I said, if I didn't know any better, I would honestly think I was pregnant or something.
38:21
SPEAKER_02: I have been having the strangest cravings.
38:27
SPEAKER_02: I I don't I I I don't know.
38:30
SPEAKER_02: I I just don't know, but I I wish I had some cake right now.
38:34
SPEAKER_02: I have ice cream, but I want some cake and ice cream, and when we get off here, I'm going to go to the store and I'm going to buy me some cake.
38:45
SPEAKER_02: Do I have cake?
38:46
SPEAKER_02: What kind of cake?
38:50
SPEAKER_02: Lemon pound cake, oh, or just plain uh a white vanilla cake.
39:00
SPEAKER_01: I love either one cake.
39:02
SPEAKER_01: Warm a little of warm, oh warm with fresh strawberries.
39:07
SPEAKER_01: No, now you're messing it up.
39:09
SPEAKER_02: No, no, no, no.
39:13
SPEAKER_01: What is wrong with adding some fresh strawberries?
39:16
SPEAKER_02: I don't really like strawberries.
39:18
SPEAKER_01: Oh, okay.
39:18
SPEAKER_02: Well, because as a texture thing for me, little seeds, I don't like it.
39:22
SPEAKER_02: Um, I like strawberry flavor, I like strawberry gum, strawberry alcohol, strawberry fruit roll-ups, gummies, whatever.
39:32
SPEAKER_02: But the actual fruit strawberry, like I like strawberry ice cream, long as it don't have any real strawberries in it.
39:37
SPEAKER_02: Okay.
39:38
SPEAKER_02: Um, yeah, no strawberries for me.
39:42
SPEAKER_02: But yeah, ooh, yes.
39:46
SPEAKER_02: Yes, I think I'm gonna have me some cake.
39:50
SPEAKER_02: So Dunji's at soccer with the kids right now.
39:53
SPEAKER_02: I cannot text him and ask him to bring me some cake because he'll be like, No, you gotta fight the urges.
40:00
SPEAKER_02: Because yesterday I bought two Publix had buy one, get one free.
40:03
SPEAKER_02: I bought me some Heath cookies and white macadamia nut cookies because it was buy one, get one free.
40:10
SPEAKER_02: So I had my cookie fixed yesterday, but I just I want cake, and I was filling cake yesterday, but I said I cannot bring home cookies and cake.
40:22
SPEAKER_02: So I want to do cake tonight.
40:26
SPEAKER_01: Yes, okay, I don't have any strange cravings.
40:31
SPEAKER_01: The odd thing is I've been so busy.
40:33
SPEAKER_01: Oh, I see, yeah, that I've probably eaten, I have eaten once a day every day since Saturday.
40:40
SPEAKER_01: I've been drinking lots of water, lots of water, but I've been so busy that I'm not eating.
40:48
SPEAKER_01: If I eat lunch, I'm eating lunch at like four or five o'clock, and then I'm not hungry, and I don't I'm not gonna eat that late.
40:55
SPEAKER_01: So, or I'm just eating dinner.
40:58
SPEAKER_01: So, like yesterday, I just ate dinner.
41:00
SPEAKER_01: I didn't have lunch or anything, and then I've I've had like a fruit and cheese snack now and again, but I've not I've not really had an appetite.
41:11
SPEAKER_01: And mostly, and and I won't say it's not that I don't have an appetite, I think it's because I'm doing so much that time goes by.
41:18
SPEAKER_01: I look up and I'm starting early in the morning.
41:20
SPEAKER_01: I was I was I was starting very early in the morning, that's got up early Saturday, got up early Sunday, got up early Monday, and my day was just going, going, going, was just unpacking.
41:31
SPEAKER_01: I was getting through these boxes, putting stuff up, you know, and I was making sure Kofi ate, but then if he wasn't eating, he and which he's only been eating once a day, so it's right with him.
41:43
SPEAKER_01: So it's been it's I I I need to weigh myself.
41:46
SPEAKER_01: I wonder if I've lost any weight because I've only really consumed water a lot and not real, not a lot of food, just one time.
41:58
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I guess we'll see, but I have lost weight.
42:05
SPEAKER_02: Um I can see it in my neck.
42:10
SPEAKER_02: Wait a minute.
42:11
SPEAKER_02: I'm talking about that.
42:12
SPEAKER_02: So you said you lost.
42:13
SPEAKER_02: I don't have triple chins, and and I used to have well, I still feel like if you look here, it's still a little triple chin.
42:23
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I have a little fat.
42:25
SPEAKER_02: Well, maybe not triple, I'm being extra, but you see, like I it's still a little chubby here, but not as much as it was.
42:35
SPEAKER_02: So I'm excited about that.
42:36
SPEAKER_02: Some of the weight probably came because I was sick, but yes, I the only thing that I still need to work on is the midsection.
42:47
SPEAKER_02: My stomach, I just don't know, but these cakes is not gonna help me.
42:50
SPEAKER_02: These cookies, the ice cream, and I was about to bust up for losing weight, and then you went and talked about the cake.
42:58
SPEAKER_01: I can tell I've lost weight.
43:00
SPEAKER_01: I I haven't even I've not really even gotten dressed every single day, other than just like throwing on a dress.
43:07
SPEAKER_01: Uh, right now I'm just having like a romper.
43:10
SPEAKER_01: It's been the existence of that.
43:12
SPEAKER_01: Take a shower, throw something on.
43:13
SPEAKER_01: I haven't put lotion on, deodorant on.
43:15
SPEAKER_01: I'm just because I've been in the house.
43:17
SPEAKER_01: Literally have been in the house and have not left since I got here Saturday morning, other than being right in in my neighborhood walking Kofi, and I'll walk to the mailbox and back, and that's it.
43:31
SPEAKER_01: It's the extent of me being outside, but I've not gone out or had a reason to get dressed, reason to do my hair.
43:38
SPEAKER_01: I I'm tired.
43:41
SPEAKER_01: I am tired, and I cannot wait to just sleep and just lay and do nothing and be a hundred percent settled in and not have to hang anything up.
43:56
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, so when it comes
44:00
SPEAKER_01: comes to um how so with the move let me ask you about exhaustion and being tired hand challenges with the move and everything how has that impacted your work if at all I mean you might not I don't know if your people are listening but pretend like you're it okay so I'm off Fridays Saturdays and Sundays I was off Monday so I have four days off Tuesday was busy I got up did work but I had already by the time Monday night came I when I was cooking dinner and all of that stuff the house was pretty much done the only thing that needed to be done was my closet all the boxes left said Pam's shoes Pam's handbags okay okay so that was that was it and so yesterday after I got off I couldn't sleep not immediately and so I was putting stuff up putting stuff up putting stuff up and then I kind of watched TV and then I was cooking and I was just um taking untaking the box shoes out of the box was just throwing them in the closet so finally um because I had already started hanging stuff up most of my stuff was in a suitcase I had already hung that up it was just boxes of shoes and then it was one box of laundry so that other than that no it hasn't really disturbed work because I get up at six in the morning and I don't have to be online until eight and then I work until 6 30 and then I still have that a good bit of the evening and say Jay is not here.
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SPEAKER_01: I'll take Kofi out for a walk and then I'll come in and I'll just I was unboxing shoes yesterday.
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SPEAKER_01: And today okay yeah I had a little small window to just um you know take the boxes that's been sitting up here on the top of the hall and throw those also in a garage that I can't walk through so it hasn't really impacted it hasn't really impacted much because I had already done 98% um and then I would really say 99% of everything unpacking wise be food by by Monday night.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: So it really wasn't that much more or anything like that.
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SPEAKER_01: No and I still have that's why I said I'm almost done you know the box is everything is unboxed.
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SPEAKER_01: It's just that there's some things that's not where it needs to be like I still I think the only thing that box I have is Kofi's stuff all his clothes and I'm trying to figure out where I'm going to put him if I'm gonna put his clothes down his clothes.
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SPEAKER_01: Do you all hear this all his clothing he does have a lot of clothes okay he has a box by himself of just clothes and and I'm talking not I'm not talking about like all of his um dog stuff that I have like his his table that I like I have a grooming table for him all his grooming supplies all of that stuff is put up really neat it's his clothing and I have to take the time to be able to hang them all up.
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SPEAKER_01: Some of them are on hangers some of them not and then there were some that was in a drawer like his pajamas and stuff like that.
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SPEAKER_01: So I have been a drawer was always in my office.
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SPEAKER_01: So now I have to go back fold all of his clothes up put them back in my office because this is where they were at and then find where I'm gonna hang his clothes up at which I think the only free closet is really either in the eagles room or in the downstairs coat closet.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm thinking I might put him up here in the Eagles room because going downstairs he is an Eagles fan too so he has his Eagles jersey he does he has an Eagles jersey yeah but I also kind of treated that like a secondary storage for luggage.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah it's it's I I ended up having a lot and so now it's I feel like over the next year I'll just kind of go through boxes and just start getting rid of things that I you know that I have not looked at in a long time.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: And some of it is from high school I still have stuff from high school I still yeah from when or or from things right after I graduated things that was in my bedroom when I was young I still have different things.
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SPEAKER_02: Oh wow okay yeah one thing where you want to put all the different things and everything and just making it yours right it's something it's in a box it's in a box everything oh I was saying I thought you was gonna take it out and put it someplace out oh okay okay okay no but it was very nostalgic to kind of go back and like oh I really collected these things yeah yeah I was finding some really really crazy things um I would not be surprised if I ran across garbage pill kids in somewhere in in one of these things I used to collect a lot of them and I don't guess it was like all like you said earlier all the stuff you collect that you don't even realize that you have until you start unboxing and looking in all the things yep it's yeah it's I it's been it it's been nice it's been very nice to kind of go through and look at some things I was I was looking I was looking through my um what is it my high school memory book and all of those things.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah I had paper clippings or newspaper clippings from when I ran track and yeah interesting very very good okay yeah so now all I want to do is when I get home on well get to home number two now this is home number one um when I get back to Maryland on Friday I need to get back Saturday the way I will be it's gonna be eyebrows it's going to be pedicures it's gonna be I need to do massage all before uh see Kofi he don't know how to act oh my god he flipping and everything and my wrist hurt so I can't even yeah he'll not oh gosh Kofi don't don't do your mama like that don't be giving a damn calm down he's trying to sleep and I girl just calm down yeah I know tell me about it he he's not I he I don't know why he won't just lay by himself he doesn't want to every now and again he will um because he didn't go out today so and it's dark now and I don't know this neighborhood to walk him okay and he don't know if he thinks I'm a bed so he wanna spin a circle in my laptop cute self you say hi dirty face well how he gonna do with all the people oh goodness gracious with what people when we come he's gonna let me gone he's gonna be gone we can oh he's gone with his daddy oh okay I thought he was gonna be staying there with us too even if he's gonna be in a hotel room he's gonna be with his daddy girl he would not worry me I don't know I know Diana's gonna be like why he gotta be there no no okay okay whoa so I gotta put the camera up because normally when when he is here solo I watch him from a camera so okay yeah and I don't know how he would feel with separate like he he didn't really have separation anxiety as bad when we left him in Maryland but in a new place I'm kind of nervous to I'm gonna have to do it in a small dose like just go up the street and just watch him on a camera to see how he acts because I have to keep telling him this is home now this is home now you need a bath you need a bath dude right you look dirty and his table is somewhere I don't know where his his table is at his grooming table in all the unpacking oh yeah it's somewhere in the garage girl if you see in this garage you're gonna be like what the hell like it's bad bad okay it's all good well we are almost at the top of the hour we are um so don't forget guys to live in the moment it's all about the moments it really is about the moment but you know what I think it's the other thing is taking that leap of faith if if as there's a lot of people who say that they want to move they want to do this they want to do that and work work towards that and and not I not in fear not in the what ifs not in any of those things sometimes the the blessing is on the other side of whatever you're trying to wherever you're trying to get to you have to get to that place in order to receive your blessing and so as nervous as some people are about moving the anxiety behind it oh it is it is a lot of work I'm not even gonna lie it is a lot of work but I feel like in deep down it's going to be so many blessings that come from this.
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SPEAKER_01: North Carolina was meant because remember we were coming to Florida.
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SPEAKER_01: I know you would have been down the road I know and somehow North Carolina felt like it was it which brings me back to a full circle is when I thought about moving to to North Carolina years ago and so much so and I said you know I'm gonna go ahead when I got my a new phone number I got a I got a North Carolina phone number.
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SPEAKER_01: And then I decided well let's go to we'll go to Florida and then look where we're at and came to visit for 4th of July and our Uber driver was a realtor the same realtor who helped me find this house.
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SPEAKER_01: Oh wow oh wow I did not know that yeah okay that's how you know when things align a lot and the other thing fun fact this was a house that Jay and I didn't even like because when we were first coming we didn't even go all the way to see it we was like no I don't like the way the drive here is is going when I came with her I we went through the main the beginning of the subdivision that we that we live in I was like these are nice and all of the ones that I I just knew I loved was like nope nope nope nope nope nope this one wasn't even on the list so because we were over here she said would you would you like to just stop and look and I was like okay cool so we stopped and looked and then I couldn't tell from the backyard and I she said well let's go around the on the back on the next street you can see through the houses and look at the back I really didn't want to get out the car so then I said well you know what let's just let's go around I'll just get out and I'll look and I got out and looked and by the time I came from around back she said oh I got us I got us in so we can go and look I said cool so then I came in and was like oh I fell in love but I had concessions that was the other part and at first the the property owner didn't want to meet my concessions I said okay cool let me go back and look I was supposed to fly back down to look at some more houses and she called me that morning and said oh the owner said they'll do this this this and this I said okay fine but this house every house that I kept looking at that I loved kept being taken kept being taken this one was on the market since May oh wow well it was meant I said it must I it was just meant for us so here we are well here I am right now he's at home but he said he's in Maryland taking care of some other stuff um but yeah and if you all hear a crying dog she's supposed to eat at seven o'clock so on Wednesdays that's the day we we start podcasts and and dad is not home because he's at soccer with the kids so she over here looking at me moaning and groaning and crying go feed the baby and everything well where can everybody find you from so you can go feed feed her she's just looking at me like walking around so if you all her sniffles and grunting and moaning it's her she's hungry yep I don't know if you just heard her she just did it again um so everybody can find me at the new art center on all social media platforms and at the girlfriend therapist um and at the new art no ir center on all social media platforms and you can find me on all social media flat platforms platforms at I am drink I know right and I'll be back online at some point um I'm not in a hurry to post content I'm not in a hurry to make any so charge it to my head not my heart and if you relocate to another state you will completely understand this break is going to be so warranted before I start back and I even said I might start back even showing like me cooking some of Kofi's food.
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SPEAKER_01: I might because somebody somebody said you should really share that I said I'm not all neat like some of these people doing for their love into it though I do put a love into it and it's not about the neatness I think I rather share what's real life like people cook for their dogs and I'm not trying to be all cutesy and play stuff because if I do he'll nitpick what he wants to eat this is the dog that picks shit out the bowl and puts it on the ground that he doesn't want to eat.
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SPEAKER_01: Oh wow okay so I have to mix all of his food together yeah so but you can find me on all social media platforms at I am Dr.
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SPEAKER_01: P Girly and of course thank you so much for tuning in to the Herspiration Happy Hour podcast every week and going back and listening to um the playbacks we appreciate it so much and don't forget just hit us in the DMs we I'm always checking and always looking and always engaging and if there is a specific topic that you would like to talk about let us know we're we're definitely open to having a chit chat but on that note have a great rest of the week and we will see you next week same time same place and uh as we always end it cheers this is Herberation's happy hour