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Are Today's Politics Stressing Women Out More? · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha. Welcome to Steffane. Never told
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Speaker 1: you a prodiction by hur Radio.
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Speaker 2: So y'all, we need a break. We needed a break,
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Speaker 2: We've been needing breaks. So we're gonna take a little
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Speaker 2: bit of a break. So with our conversation of what
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Speaker 2: is happening with immigrants, ICE and DHS, things will bleak.
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Speaker 2: Thingsville heavy, Things fell dark. So we're going to pivot
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Speaker 2: a little bit and go away from that conversation. We'll
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Speaker 2: be back, but we're going to talk about what's happening
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Speaker 2: in today's politics, like immigration issues and how it's affecting
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Speaker 2: women such as an anxiety and stress, and why it's
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Speaker 2: important to take breaks. Yeah, it's a been on the nose,
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Speaker 2: but again, everybody's got to take a break. Also, Happy
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Speaker 2: Gallentines if you're listening today on February thirteenth, twenty twenty.
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Speaker 3: Six, Friday the thirteenth.
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Speaker 2: I know I was about to say that if you
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Speaker 2: also celebrate that happy Friday, I know you do. What
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Speaker 2: are you gonna do?
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Speaker 1: I watch a lot of horror movies on Friday the thirteenth,
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Speaker 1: and one of my best friends is coming over, and
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Speaker 1: so is the Galentine's Day and a Friday the thirteenth, So.
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Speaker 2: What a good time are you going to watch Friday
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Speaker 2: the thirteenth?
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Speaker 3: Probably not.
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Speaker 1: I know this is controversial in the horror world, but
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Speaker 1: that's not one of my faves.
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Speaker 3: I do either.
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Speaker 1: I do like there's a really the one with Crispin
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Speaker 1: Glover is kind of funny. And there are like when
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Speaker 1: you're talking about slasher movies and the anticipation of kills
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Speaker 1: and what will it be? What will finally kill them?
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Speaker 1: Because you know they're going to die. There's some good
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Speaker 1: moments like that the Friday the Thirteenth series, and you
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Speaker 1: know you've got like Escape to New York, which is
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Speaker 1: objectively a very bad movie, but it has like funny,
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Speaker 1: it's kind of funny. I'm gonna get in trouble. I
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Speaker 1: got in trouble when I was on the Daily Zeitgeist
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Speaker 1: about this too, because really they really.
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Speaker 3: Like that franchise over there.
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Speaker 1: Of course, I if you like it, I appreciate appreciate
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Speaker 1: that you do. I just gave a very big thumbs
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Speaker 1: up that none of you can see.
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Speaker 2: Is this her opinion is my judgment on you.
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Speaker 1: I do like the twist at the end of the
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Speaker 1: first one, even though it is kind of problematic, but
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Speaker 1: I liked it. There are things I liked.
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Speaker 2: But generally though, no, that's not I don't. I'm not
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Speaker 2: gonna lie. I hate gory horror movies like that. In
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Speaker 2: the eighties really had a lot of like just kill
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Speaker 2: gory movies, and I'm not a fan of any of those,
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Speaker 2: the Freddy movies, Halloween. It really takes me a long
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Speaker 2: time to even care enough. And it's actually probably because
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Speaker 2: of you. No, I think I was what I was
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Speaker 2: wanting to watch horror movies, and I tried to watch
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Speaker 2: the Staples, and I'm just not into gore, violent horror movies.
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Speaker 2: I like the Ghosts even though they are violent, don't
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Speaker 2: get me wrong, but like not for kills sake. It's
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Speaker 2: a little more like the Haunting, the Hauntings. We've not
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Speaker 2: talking about this before, but anyway, well, I'm excited to
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Speaker 2: hear the updates of how You're gallantined Friday the thirteenth goes,
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Speaker 2: so now we have already time stamped it. But also
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Speaker 2: content warning because we are going to talk a lot
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Speaker 2: about current affairs still and unfortunately we're going to talk
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Speaker 2: about the downside of what is happening in the current administration.
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Speaker 2: I don't know if there is an upside, but you know,
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Speaker 2: we're going to talk about the downside thus far, especially
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Speaker 2: when it comes to women. Again, we have talked a
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Speaker 2: lot about how a lot of the current affairs, such
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Speaker 2: as the pandemic and COVID has put even more strained
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Speaker 2: than typical on women, and when it comes to especially
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Speaker 2: when it comes to jobs and career burnout and being
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Speaker 2: a mother, all those things like, the added stress has
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Speaker 2: been substantial. And it won't be a surprise to anyone
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Speaker 2: to know that the current state of women's rights, queer rights,
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Speaker 2: and overall rights for the marginalists people have also have
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Speaker 2: impacted how our stress level, anxiety level, and depression has been. Yeah, surprise, surprise.
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Speaker 2: So let's talk about it. We the marginalized community are
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Speaker 2: tired and stressed. I think I think that blanket statement
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Speaker 2: is acceptable in this moment, right Annie, Why while we
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Speaker 2: have no autonomy rov Wade being overturned in twenty twenty two,
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Speaker 2: the possibility of limiting women's ability to vote, not the
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Speaker 2: possibility the likelihood lessening the value in education and workplace
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Speaker 2: for women's specifically by saying, you know, these are not
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Speaker 2: professional degrees. I'm like, excuse me. Yeah, interesting, the inability
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Speaker 2: to get a divorce without evidence of abuse and probably
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Speaker 2: not even then. To be honest, we know women can't
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Speaker 2: get out of marriage as oftentimes even when they can
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Speaker 2: prove domestic violence. We already have talked about like divorce
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Speaker 2: in some states having the trial period. Yeah, because they're
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Speaker 2: like you sure, you sure? I mean he beats you,
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Speaker 2: I mean he might do bad things to you, but
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Speaker 2: is a stable home. Yeah, we know that's problem. That's
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Speaker 2: the problem. And yeah, seemilarly more and more restrictions every
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Speaker 2: day as we go through. In fact, Miss magazine published
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Speaker 2: an article recently January twenty twenty six titled one year
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Speaker 2: in fifty three ways the Second Administration is harming women
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Speaker 2: and families, written by Ariba Hater. So we're gonna use
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Speaker 2: a chunk of because they listed it nicely for us.
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Speaker 2: We're not going to talk all about it. You should
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Speaker 2: definitely go read that article if you have the stomach
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Speaker 2: to do so. If you don't, you can listen to
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Speaker 2: our summary of some of the things that they highlighted,
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Speaker 2: and I think it's important. So they start off with
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Speaker 2: a section that is titled threats to women in the workplace,
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Speaker 2: which is vast. So decapping of the Equal Employment Opportunity
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Speaker 2: Commission or the EEOC, that's a big one. The EEOC
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Speaker 2: was an independent federal agency and they write it like this.
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Speaker 2: They are the front lines of civil rights enforcement, investigating
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Speaker 2: and remedying employment discrimination charges. They have work to help
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Speaker 2: stop discrimination by compensating workers who have been wronged. And
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Speaker 2: it has been proven that they have been wronged. And
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Speaker 2: it takes a lot to be proven that they have
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Speaker 2: been wronged. I feel like that has to be said
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Speaker 2: every time because people like to throw out they're just
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Speaker 2: doing it for the lawsuit, and they're like, you know
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Speaker 2: how hard it is to prove? Okay, So they report
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Speaker 2: that from twenty fourteen to twenty twenty four they were
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Speaker 2: able to get about five point six billion dollars for
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Speaker 2: discriminated workers. That has now gone away because you know,
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Speaker 2: we have to protect the corporations, the billionaires and millionaires.
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Speaker 2: Oh poor them. And now the EEOC is being used
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Speaker 2: to do Trump's dirty work in his petty vengeance. So
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Speaker 2: this again is from the miss magazine article. They missed
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Speaker 2: has quote worked to weaponize the office to investigate employers
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Speaker 2: that President Trump has a personal vendetta against With new
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Speaker 2: EEOC chair Andrea Lucas and a confirmed Republican majority, the
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Speaker 2: eeoc's priorities and limited resources are clearly shifting to align
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Speaker 2: with the President's false claims of systemic discrimination against white men.
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Speaker 1: Interesting, the EEOC has also taken steps back and preventing
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Speaker 1: workplace harassment, and instead of focusing on projecting workers from
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Speaker 1: sexual or predatory harassment, they have now focused on religious
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Speaker 1: discrimination against white men.
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Speaker 2: Really important, we see all those white men being discriminated against. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: the percentage of yes, the seventy percent of white men
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Speaker 2: who are in the workforce shory short, sure, who are
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Speaker 2: getting all the jobs that wasn't made up? Number I apologize?
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Speaker 2: Moving on, So, they are looking to withdraw the Pregnant
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Speaker 2: Workers Fairness Act, which requires employees to quote offer reasonable
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Speaker 2: accommodations to workers who have needs related to pregnancy, childbirth,
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Speaker 2: and other related medical conditions. This is the kind of
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Speaker 2: conversation we've had about how they want to keep people
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Speaker 2: barefoot and pregnant and relied on men so that they
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Speaker 2: can't leave marriages. So essentially, if you can't make your
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Speaker 2: own money, which happened, you know, not too long ago.
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Speaker 2: Then you can't leave because you're financially dependent and there's
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Speaker 2: financial abuse in that marriage. So a lot of these
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Speaker 2: acts are really trying to force women out. We've already
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Speaker 2: talked about this before. This has been a thing for
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Speaker 2: years and has not been remedied. Kind of was getting there,
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Speaker 2: but now has been scrapped again. So it's really concerning
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Speaker 2: because it literally is about allowing for women to be
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Speaker 2: comfortable ish ish in a workplace environment, whether it's being
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Speaker 2: able to sit to take a break if they're in
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Speaker 2: a you know, very a little more harsh environment, and
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Speaker 2: they should be able to sit without worries, being able
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Speaker 2: to take time off to go to see a doctor
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Speaker 2: instead of being retaliated against for taking time off. Now
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Speaker 2: that's kind of going away, So that's concerning. We kind
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Speaker 2: of mentioned it previously when we talked about the disability rights,
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Speaker 2: but Trump signed Executive Order one one two four six
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Speaker 2: which rescinded regulations for prohibiting discrimination based on race, color, religion, sex,
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Speaker 2: or national origin. All of that also has thin cups
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Speaker 2: with the Disability Acts. They also revoked the newly placed
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Speaker 2: minimum wage, allowing for employers to make a twenty five
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Speaker 2: percent cut in people's pay, as well as stripping this
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Speaker 2: from domestic workers, which they have been trying so hard
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Speaker 2: to get rights, but obviously with the immigration policies included,
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Speaker 2: they don't care and so they've been cutting pay like that.
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Speaker 2: We also have talked about how affirmative action as well
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Speaker 2: as a DEI have been cut completely and or prosecuted
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Speaker 2: or punished. That is something that is obviously going to
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Speaker 2: hurt women in marginalized people in the workplace. There's more
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Speaker 2: you can go and look, but we want to just
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Speaker 2: highlight those things. The next section they talk about is
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Speaker 2: threats to women's health. So that big beautiful bill that
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Speaker 2: we've already talked about in our ICE episode. It has
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Speaker 2: also cut a funding for Medicaid, which we did talk
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Speaker 2: about requires work requirements that will most likely affect pregnant
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Speaker 2: people and those with disabilities. They cut funding for states
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Speaker 2: that support preventative and wellness care. They cut funding for
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Speaker 2: things like internet access, which we talked about why that
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Speaker 2: is so important, especially in rural areas who don't have
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Speaker 2: access to doctors or hospitals. And they even cut assistance
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Speaker 2: for personal care assistance, so people who need help at
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Speaker 2: home that rely heavily on the system. Because they can't work,
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Speaker 2: their funding is being cut as well. The administration has
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Speaker 2: also with health funds from the Title ten of Family Planning,
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Speaker 2: as well as a defunded Planned Parenthood. We've mentioned that
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Speaker 2: previously they made it really dangerous overall to get reproductive
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Speaker 2: help and assistance by doing the following, including undermining the
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Speaker 2: information and access to abortion pills, requiring a reporting of
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Speaker 2: state line crossing for abortion access. They're literally doing hunts
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Speaker 2: of women who might be trying to access abortion care
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Speaker 2: across different states, making it dangerous for those who volunteer
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Speaker 2: or work at abortion clinics by limiting the enforcement of
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Speaker 2: Freedom of Access to Clinic Entrance Act.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and what once was a federal crime to use force,
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Speaker 1: threats of force, or physical obstruction to people who are
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Speaker 1: trying to access clinics is no longer important. From the
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Speaker 1: Miss magazine article quote, death threats and other threats of
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Speaker 1: harm against providers have only increased in the wake of
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Speaker 1: the Dobbs decision overturning Roe v.
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Speaker 3: Wade.
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Speaker 1: Yet Trump's Department of Justice announced in its first days
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Speaker 1: that it would no longer enforce the law except under
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Speaker 1: severe and extraordinary circumstances. The lack of enforcement makes clinics
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Speaker 1: less safe for patients and providers.
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Speaker 2: Yeah So, essentially limiting the Face Act is what's causing
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Speaker 2: all of these situations, and they really don't care. It's
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Speaker 2: almost like they're inciting violence in these areas. Yeah so,
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Speaker 2: also using pro naedialism as a weapon against pregnant people,
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Speaker 2: essentially a system that undermines those who can get pregnant
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Speaker 2: as baby making machines, who are only valued for such
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Speaker 2: labors making babies with the dash of eugenics and racism galore.
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Speaker 2: So essentially they want you, if they want you to
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Speaker 2: produce often, but they want it to be white and
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Speaker 2: perfectly healthy and perfectly to their standards. So it is
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Speaker 2: a lot in this level of conversation that we see
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Speaker 2: what they're doing and who they're allowing to have actual
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Speaker 2: access to care. It's about the eugenics people. They're killing
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Speaker 2: pregnant people by creating roadblocks on emergency abortion care by
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Speaker 2: manipulating the Emergency Medical Treatment and Labor Act the EMTALA,
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Speaker 2: which required hospitals to provide any emergency care that also
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Speaker 2: includes abortion, which we've already seen caused death, a lot
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Speaker 2: of death actually and probably under reported. Which is also
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Speaker 2: another thing they did is by limiting accesses and data
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Speaker 2: to that type of information, they allow for miss and
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Speaker 2: disinformation to help information including vaccine studies and requirements and
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Speaker 2: studies on nutrition because they want you to drink raw
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Speaker 2: milk that have bacteria that have already been shown to
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Speaker 2: be contaminated Ballerina Farm. That was one of those moments
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Speaker 2: of like, yeah.
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Speaker 1: Duh, listen, if al Capone and this is true was
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Speaker 1: involved in getting milk be safe, maybe we should pay.
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Speaker 2: We're in the upside down. Oh no, honestly, we need
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Speaker 2: to have a conversation coming back to We've talked a
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Speaker 2: lot about tradwise, but with these like money marketing schemes
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Speaker 2: and how big they've gotten. Even after being outed.
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Speaker 4: As maga pre natalism type of propaganda, they're still so
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Speaker 4: popular that I'm like, we needed to go back and
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Speaker 4: look have what But anyway, yes, safety is important, y'all.
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Speaker 4: Going on Also, they are dismissing necessary health studies and
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Speaker 4: data to get better information in regards to health and
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Speaker 4: disease and death, which includes research on women's health by
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Speaker 4: cutting funds, causing delays and cancelations in study panels, labs,
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Speaker 4: and researchers. Yeah, we know this is happening, including they
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Speaker 4: have cut research funding for women's breast cancer and heart
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Speaker 4: related deaths heart disease, which were like that took forever
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Speaker 4: to even get.
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Speaker 2: First of all, that is one of the loudest things
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Speaker 2: that everybody will champion no matter what side, is curing
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Speaker 2: women's breast cancer, and yet you cut funding for it.
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Speaker 2: And then also it took so long to get research
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Speaker 2: for women and heart disease and realizing, oh my god,
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Speaker 2: we're doing this wrong and it's killing them, and they
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Speaker 2: decided to go ahead and cut that. That's like, wow,
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Speaker 2: these are things that the right would even be like, no,
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Speaker 2: we need that, which apparently they did here, so I
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Speaker 2: think they backtracked a little bit, but whatever. So, Yeah,
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Speaker 2: they've been busy making sure to end any type of
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Speaker 2: equality or equity with moves like cutting the Gender Policy Council,
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Speaker 2: which Biden has started to quote promote gender equity and
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Speaker 2: coordinate federal efforts to combat systemic discrimination, increase economic security,
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Speaker 2: increased access to comprehensive health care, addressing caregiving needs, and more. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: I think I mean we're really coming back to they
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Speaker 2: are forgetting the bottom line that women have been the
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Speaker 2: force in the economic security in this country. Yeah, and
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Speaker 2: because women are more aware of this and they should
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Speaker 2: be scared about loss of that kind of security. You
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Speaker 2: would think.
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Speaker 3: You would think a lot of things, Samantha, but.
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Speaker 2: Common sense is not applical hair.
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Speaker 1: You're right, yeah, exactly, Like I can see what they're
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Speaker 1: trying to do. It's very obvious. They're not subtle. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: but it's like a lot of the ways they do
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Speaker 1: it and then reverse it and then do it again,
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Speaker 1: like they're just they're like the most frustratingly incompetent, but
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Speaker 1: somehow still competent.
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Speaker 2: Right, I mean, honestly, it might come down to the
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Speaker 2: fact that they don't care because they are set so
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Speaker 2: the economy can die and burst into a thousand pieces,
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Speaker 2: and that will affect everybody who was not billion and millionaires.
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Speaker 2: But for them, they're good. They got what they needed.
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Speaker 2: They might not gain more, and that make them sad.
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Speaker 2: They'll just move on to the next spot. Colonization. No, no,
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Speaker 2: in the economy.
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Speaker 3: Oh no.
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Speaker 2: With all that, there's more, including the cut of SNAP benefits,
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Speaker 2: the elimination of funds for the head Start program, cutting
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Speaker 2: the social security administration and benefits and probably more to
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Speaker 2: come because they've just really been pushing forward with all
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Speaker 2: of that said, you should definitely go look at this
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Speaker 2: article because they bring a lot and again, like we
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Speaker 2: didn't talk about the level of right taken away from
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Speaker 2: the disabled community, and it's a lot obviously because they
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Speaker 2: really are fully into their eugenics ideas and able lists propaganda.
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Speaker 2: That's just a little quieter because the trans issues have
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Speaker 2: gotten so big for them that they're doing all these
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Speaker 2: things that are what seemingly is a little less known,
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Speaker 2: a little more niche, which is it is because we've
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Speaker 2: been talking about it for a while, but that's where
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Speaker 2: we see it, that's where it kind of stands at
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Speaker 2: this point. But they are sure going to help the
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Speaker 2: white man, as they like to say, I'm gonna take
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Speaker 2: a breath, because yes, all of that is stressful. We
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Speaker 2: as the marginalized community are stressed out. And you know what,
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Speaker 2: here at the inn Emrie University. Yeah, here in Georgia,
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Speaker 2: they actually published a paper talking about this type of
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Speaker 2: stresscific about the elections, specifically about politics and the fact
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Speaker 2: that Georgia women This is very specific to us, but
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Speaker 2: I think it would be applicabal everywhere. They are thoroughly
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Speaker 2: stressed out. Stephanie ake eick I hope I said your
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Speaker 2: name right, Doctor stephaniee I believe and assistant professor of
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Speaker 2: environmental health researched about the impacts during twenty twenty three
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Speaker 2: and twenty twenty four against specifically about women in Georgia,
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Speaker 2: and here are some things she found. Yes, women are
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Speaker 2: more generally stressed, anxious, and depressed, and those who talked
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Speaker 2: about their stress, especially with the twenty twenty four elections,
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Speaker 2: were at the highest risk of poor mental health.
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Speaker 1: YEP, makes sense when it comes to reproductive issues, it
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Speaker 1: was really bad.
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Speaker 3: Quote.
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Speaker 1: Women who believe abortions should be legal in all our
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Speaker 1: most cases also experienced more negative mental health effects. This
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Speaker 1: supports previous research that has found that restricting reproductive autonomy
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Speaker 1: is a major stressor for women of reproductive age.
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Speaker 2: Look, I have made a plan. Did not already tell
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Speaker 2: you my plan? Like if my IUD were to falter
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Speaker 2: for some reason, which we know they can happen, they
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Speaker 2: can happen. I'm applying for like asylum because I know
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Speaker 2: a few countries have been like you know what, it's
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Speaker 2: bad in the US. Will help you out because I
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Speaker 2: am scared to death at being at risk, especially with
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Speaker 2: you know, the later term births all of that. Now,
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Speaker 2: I will say I did recently talk see a lot
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Speaker 2: of women coming out and being like, they tell you
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Speaker 2: all these things to try to get you to have
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Speaker 2: kids early. Not all of us following people have not
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Speaker 2: had any complications, So I'm like, that's nice to see.
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Speaker 2: Maybe there needs to be a conversation about that. I
20:51
Speaker 2: don't know. Maybe it is both those things. But at
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Speaker 2: the same time, I'm like, no, with those types of risks,
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Speaker 2: especially not knowing my health records, any of my like
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Speaker 2: biological based on my like family, none of that background.
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Speaker 2: I know, I don't know any of that. I would
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Speaker 2: be petrified of staying in the state of Georgia, even
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Speaker 2: in the US anyway, honestly because of the repercussions of
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Speaker 2: what has happened and people's opinions, even because we know,
21:20
Speaker 2: again this is a hot button issue and they really
21:23
Speaker 2: think they can save a child. And when I say
21:26
Speaker 2: to save a child, birth a baby, and they would
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Speaker 2: sacrifice everything else to birth that baby, including the baby
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Speaker 2: later on down the road by not providing for care
21:37
Speaker 2: after birth. So like in my mind, Like, yeah, I'm
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Speaker 2: freaking out, and you talked about women your friends not
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Speaker 2: want to date and have sex because of this specific issue.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, And I mean it's really obviously it's really upsetting,
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Speaker 1: but it is kind of interesting seeing their reactions to
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Speaker 1: it because obviously, as an ace person, I like, I'm good,
22:07
Speaker 1: but it's interesting to see their reactions because it makes
22:12
Speaker 1: me very sad obviously, because sex can be great, and
22:16
Speaker 1: relationships can be great and all the things that come
22:20
Speaker 1: with it. It can be sex can be something that
22:22
Speaker 1: relieves stress. It can give stress, but it can relieve stress.
22:26
Speaker 3: Vibrators are a thing. I'll just say it.
22:28
Speaker 2: But but we haven't had one of those sponsors in
22:32
Speaker 2: a minute, I know.
22:36
Speaker 1: But it's interesting how like most of them were kind
22:39
Speaker 1: of fine with it, Like I guess I thought I
22:42
Speaker 1: was expecting more sadness. Yeah, but it was kind of like, nah,
22:46
Speaker 1: if this is how it's gonna be, then this is
22:48
Speaker 1: how it's right, Like.
22:49
Speaker 2: As much as people, Yeah, I would miss some of that,
22:52
Speaker 2: but like it's kind of like it's not necessary, that's fine.
22:56
Speaker 4: Yeah.
22:56
Speaker 1: Again, this is kind of going back to your thing
22:59
Speaker 1: of like it doesn't makes sense. Yeah, Like I get
23:07
Speaker 1: what you're doing, but you're you're not.
23:11
Speaker 3: I'm seeing all of it. I'm seeing it backfire again.
23:14
Speaker 2: We're watching women die and we are trying our best
23:18
Speaker 2: to prevent that. We're definitely don't want to die, so
23:22
Speaker 2: why would we, Like, we know, part of the reason
23:24
Speaker 2: the birth rate is declining is this issue in itself,
23:28
Speaker 2: the stress because you are trying to take away our
23:31
Speaker 2: rights in getting jobs to provide for children. Uh, that
23:34
Speaker 2: you expect us to be tied to those children and
23:37
Speaker 2: tied to the abuse that might come in having families.
23:40
Speaker 2: So I'm like, why, yeah, deal, bro, what's happening? Yeah,
23:50
Speaker 2: I definitely it's a concern, And unfortunately it's to the
23:54
Speaker 2: point that, like it feels like I'm constantly thinking, well,
23:58
Speaker 2: if like I have relation, you know, relations with anyone
24:02
Speaker 2: or whatnot, that I have to be overly cautious and
24:05
Speaker 2: I'll be thinking about the six days. I'm like, is
24:07
Speaker 2: my body giving me signs that something bad is happening
24:10
Speaker 2: and something I'm going to have to really plan about
24:12
Speaker 2: and making plans for it and where to go. Like
24:16
Speaker 2: it has come to the point that I've talked about
24:18
Speaker 2: many a time to I don't want children. I'm not
24:20
Speaker 2: planning to have children obviously, like I'm almost today point,
24:22
Speaker 2: I'm like, maybe it's over whatever whatnot. But at the
24:26
Speaker 2: same time, there's still still a small part of me
24:28
Speaker 2: and be like, well, if all of this thing's changed
24:32
Speaker 2: and I were to get pregnant, I wouldn't mind, you
24:36
Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like, it's not something that I'm
24:38
Speaker 2: dying for. It's also something like I feel like if
24:41
Speaker 2: the circumstances would be were better, then maybe type of conversation.
24:45
Speaker 2: But it's like, oh, hell no, you know, like this
24:47
Speaker 2: is the nail on the coffin like that, And I'm
24:49
Speaker 2: sure I'm not the only one who would be like
24:51
Speaker 2: they may have considered doing so, yes, but because of
24:55
Speaker 2: the circumstances are so bad, the like never mind, I
24:58
Speaker 2: was one of defense and thinking about it now hell no.
25:01
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I do you know, shout out to people
25:07
Speaker 1: who are having kids and braving it. I feel really
25:12
Speaker 1: bad because I've had two friends recently who had kids,
25:16
Speaker 1: and both times when they told me, there was like
25:19
Speaker 1: it was a brief second. There's a second where it's
25:22
Speaker 1: like oh, yeah, congratulates.
25:25
Speaker 2: Like how do I react?
25:28
Speaker 3: I think.
25:31
Speaker 2: You okay, how are you feeling on the spectrum. I'm
25:36
Speaker 2: sure Like if I weren't to come out with like
25:38
Speaker 2: an everybody be like you.
25:40
Speaker 1: Good, it's just such a strange place to be in
25:44
Speaker 1: of like, oh where is it? Before I would have
25:48
Speaker 1: been more like, oh my god, immediately now like you.
25:53
Speaker 2: Got can you handle it? You got this? Yeah, that's
25:57
Speaker 2: and that's sad in itself.
25:58
Speaker 3: It's really sad.
26:00
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, these issues and stressors really do matter. But
26:04
Speaker 2: also important is the reminder that while everything feels awful,
26:08
Speaker 2: it is validating to know that there are a lot
26:10
Speaker 2: of us who feel this way and fill this level
26:13
Speaker 2: of pressure, like to the fact that we are having
26:16
Speaker 2: large skill research for those who can about how this
26:22
Speaker 2: is affecting us. So, yeah, with all of these bad things,
26:27
Speaker 2: what can we do to give ourselves a bit of reprieve? Well,
26:31
Speaker 2: the first thing to know is that as bad as
26:33
Speaker 2: things are, this isn't the first time we've been here. Unfortunately,
26:38
Speaker 2: we've talked about this. We hate this moment, but it's
26:41
Speaker 2: good to note that we've been here before and the
26:44
Speaker 2: majority of people are feeling overwhelmed, and that means that
26:49
Speaker 2: there are a majority of people who disagree with what
26:52
Speaker 2: is happening here, like that's the bigger picture. Like all
26:55
Speaker 2: of these conversations, as bad as affecting everyone as a whole,
27:00
Speaker 2: everyone as a whole are on similar lines. So that's
27:04
Speaker 2: kind of comforting. There are so many good people who
27:08
Speaker 2: are fighting, fighting with everything they have to undo what
27:11
Speaker 2: is going on. One creator that I saw in my FYP,
27:15
Speaker 2: which was at first I was like, I'm going to
27:17
Speaker 2: scroll away because it seems very religious, I'm not sure
27:21
Speaker 2: or spiritual, but she was talking about the pains, how
27:24
Speaker 2: this is the pains of undoing all the damage. The
27:29
Speaker 2: proverbial light at the end of the darkness apparently like
27:33
Speaker 2: the fire cleansing to make it pear again. Yeah. I know,
27:37
Speaker 2: it's a lot of metaphors. You're welcome, but it gives
27:40
Speaker 2: a lot of hope because we do talk about having
27:43
Speaker 2: to go through the struggle to get to the good,
27:46
Speaker 2: to get to the nice, we have to have that drama.
27:49
Speaker 2: I don't know why, but apparently we do. And that
27:52
Speaker 2: does give me a little hope that the more the
27:55
Speaker 2: darkness pressures, the more the light pushes back.
28:01
Speaker 3: Can I do it? I know a star Wars always
28:04
Speaker 3: go for it.
28:05
Speaker 1: Yes, Well, I think this is actually relevant because a
28:08
Speaker 1: lot of people are using it in videos about dark
28:12
Speaker 1: times we're in. But at the end of the Clone
28:15
Speaker 1: Wars the series, Obi Wan gives this speech and it's
28:19
Speaker 1: very sad. It's like, these are dark times, this is
28:22
Speaker 1: real bad, like oh god, and he's.
28:26
Speaker 3: Like going over all of it.
28:27
Speaker 1: But then at the end he's like, you know, we're
28:29
Speaker 1: still there's still like there's still hope and all of
28:31
Speaker 1: this stuff, what does that bring you to a new hope?
28:34
Speaker 1: The movie and it's great, it is great, and then
28:38
Speaker 1: you get the.
28:40
Speaker 2: More movies to get there. Then apparently some sequels.
28:44
Speaker 3: I mean, this is cyclical.
28:47
Speaker 2: But the thing is, yes, it does remind us that
28:50
Speaker 2: it is cyclical, as we've talked about, and we are
28:52
Speaker 2: back and we know we know little more than we
28:55
Speaker 2: did before, and that's kind of that conversation. We understand
28:58
Speaker 2: and we know a little more than we did before.
29:00
Speaker 2: I mean, we were seeing kids stand up against authoritarianism,
29:04
Speaker 2: finding real hard physically like kids calm down, but I
29:08
Speaker 2: understand it. We see beautiful performances that bring people together
29:12
Speaker 2: in celebration. Hello, bad Bunny. Did you watch that?
29:17
Speaker 3: Yes?
29:17
Speaker 1: And it was funny because I was planning on watching
29:20
Speaker 1: it the next day. I wasn't watching the game, but
29:23
Speaker 1: I had a friend who I don't know why, but
29:25
Speaker 1: she was like, can you tell me what the score is?
29:28
Speaker 1: And so I went on and it happened to be halftime,
29:31
Speaker 1: so I got to watch it live and then I left.
29:35
Speaker 1: But yeah, it was It was a nice, fun surprise.
29:38
Speaker 1: I was like, oh.
29:40
Speaker 2: Yeah, and not that sports have anything to do with it,
29:42
Speaker 2: but the Seahawks winning made me feel a little better
29:45
Speaker 2: as well.
29:46
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I wanted them to win.
29:48
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I don't most people who didn't have like
29:51
Speaker 2: loyalties and the teams.
29:54
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I don't like the Patriots. I don't have
29:56
Speaker 1: a lot of opinions about a lot of football teams.
29:59
Speaker 3: But then I haven't liked for a long and a.
30:00
Speaker 2: Lot of people do, like a lot of people do.
30:03
Speaker 2: Like I said, seeing Seahawks meen seeing a woman owner,
30:07
Speaker 2: like getting to celebrate seeing that one woman who wasn't
30:10
Speaker 2: the owner I thought was an own owner, but like
30:12
Speaker 2: having a show this is impeach and they they kept
30:14
Speaker 2: showing it. I was like, yeah, like you like, this
30:18
Speaker 2: is wonderful, but yeah, it does bring you a lot
30:21
Speaker 2: of happiness and seeing all these things. I think we've
30:24
Speaker 2: talked about that before. How when we see all this,
30:27
Speaker 2: we see people rise up to take on this type
30:32
Speaker 2: of battle, and that they are the people we get
30:34
Speaker 2: to celebrate. Maybe we are a part of those people.
30:36
Speaker 2: Hopefully one day in noting like that we were on
30:40
Speaker 2: the right side of history, Like that's getting that's understanding,
30:44
Speaker 2: Like okay, yes, eventually, cross your fingers. There has to
30:48
Speaker 2: be a resolution. What that resolution looks like, we don't know,
30:52
Speaker 2: but we know people are fighting. Though the current administration
30:55
Speaker 2: seems to be trying to burn everything to the ground,
30:58
Speaker 2: we've also seen the rise of new place, new people
31:00
Speaker 2: stepping up. Mamdani for example, during our New Years, we
31:05
Speaker 2: watched the New Year's celebration on a streaming network because
31:09
Speaker 2: I don't have any cable whatever what not. So we
31:11
Speaker 2: were like, oh, let's try to look at and we'll
31:13
Speaker 2: do our little champagne heres avoiding all of the riddle
31:17
Speaker 2: bullets as are being strown about in our neighborhood. And
31:22
Speaker 2: it popped into immediately into Mumdani's uh inauguration. It brought
31:28
Speaker 2: me so much hope there was I cried, I don't
31:32
Speaker 2: live in New York to do with us here in Atlanta,
31:36
Speaker 2: But because of what he represents for the younger generations
31:41
Speaker 2: coming in doing some amazing things like he have you
31:45
Speaker 2: read the latest about the fact that, yes, the Trump
31:48
Speaker 2: administration tried to take down the Pride flag from Stonewall,
31:52
Speaker 2: but Mumdannie's like, screw you, I'm putting it back. This
31:55
Speaker 2: is my city. And I'm like, oh my god.
31:57
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah.
32:02
Speaker 2: So seeing people like him stepping forward, we had a
32:04
Speaker 2: lot of Democrats, socialists coming up on like small city
32:08
Speaker 2: boards and some more. Love that. I love seeing changes
32:12
Speaker 2: like that, So really excited to see that and having
32:15
Speaker 2: that type of transformation happening where we're seeing and undoing
32:19
Speaker 2: of a two party system kind of with better systems,
32:23
Speaker 2: hopefully some worse but also better. Yeah, we are naming
32:29
Speaker 2: the bad guys out loud. I know, as gross as
32:34
Speaker 2: everything is going, but we're starting to see the truth
32:37
Speaker 2: behind all these well we thought were conspiracies, but it
32:41
Speaker 2: turns out to be it was just flipped. Yeah, some
32:45
Speaker 2: of them, not all of them. Some of them are
32:47
Speaker 2: as this, but a lot of those like oh, they
32:50
Speaker 2: were inside their own house, like they were looking at mirrors,
32:53
Speaker 2: pointing fingers, trying to deflect. Okay, okay, And with that
32:59
Speaker 2: the victims unfortunately not some not by choice, which is
33:03
Speaker 2: something that we need to come back and talk about.
33:05
Speaker 2: But they're coming out, reclaiming their livelihoods, standing and gregaining
33:10
Speaker 2: their strength to face some of those horrible people and perpetrators.
33:16
Speaker 2: Did you get to see the ad about the Epstein
33:19
Speaker 2: file with the survivors?
33:21
Speaker 1: No?
33:22
Speaker 2: Okay, so it actually popped up for us. A lot
33:25
Speaker 2: of people online I've seen saying like this was taken down.
33:28
Speaker 2: No one saw this, No one saw this, but someone
33:30
Speaker 2: bought space to allow for about like several of the
33:34
Speaker 2: Epstein survivors to come forward and have a conversation about
33:38
Speaker 2: how they're being ignored or how they're being docs like
33:41
Speaker 2: all these things, or how they're being censored. I actually
33:44
Speaker 2: did see the ad. I was watching on the Peacocks
33:46
Speaker 2: streaming network from the Super Bowl, so I don't know,
33:49
Speaker 2: not a sponsor BT dubs. I don't know if it
33:55
Speaker 2: was just through streaming and it wasn't through live TV, because,
33:58
Speaker 2: like I said, a lot of people said they didn't
33:59
Speaker 2: see it. I saw also with the AI ones. But
34:04
Speaker 2: but it was really interesting to see because I think
34:06
Speaker 2: that that was such an important conversation and I was
34:10
Speaker 2: glad to see it, and I know a lot of
34:11
Speaker 2: people stream it, so hopefully they got to see it too.
34:15
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I mean shout out to whoever made that happen,
34:19
Speaker 1: because the Super Bowl ad space, as we know, is expensive.
34:26
Speaker 2: And all that to say, some are being accountable. We're
34:29
Speaker 2: seeing like a lot of musicians taking big stands. I
34:33
Speaker 2: love that people being removed. Of course, I say accountable
34:37
Speaker 2: money wise, but they're already established. I don't see any
34:40
Speaker 2: arrests except for Clinton's and I'm like, yes, they need
34:44
Speaker 2: to be arrested if they did illegal deeds, so does
34:46
Speaker 2: everybody else.
34:48
Speaker 3: Yeah, yep.
34:51
Speaker 2: And it's also like this is one of those and
34:56
Speaker 2: going on, we'll see what happens becau because I think
35:00
Speaker 2: tides have really turned in that conversation. They've tried to
35:05
Speaker 2: hide and ignore it for a long time. Of course,
35:06
Speaker 2: we're hearing a lot of conspiracy stuff and I wish
35:08
Speaker 2: I would stop because that just blurries the blurs the lines,
35:12
Speaker 2: as well as people trying to mock it. I've seen
35:16
Speaker 2: apparently a couple of companies or a company of like
35:18
Speaker 2: small businesses using epstein list to talk about their food
35:23
Speaker 2: or coffees do that.
35:26
Speaker 1: Why would you want to be associated with it.
35:29
Speaker 2: Rage made now could be and it's working to a
35:33
Speaker 2: certain extent. Then there's yeah, I know there's a lot
35:36
Speaker 2: of disinformation and misinformation as we talked about, there's a
35:39
Speaker 2: lot of truth again that is coming out too, and
35:42
Speaker 2: we can finally see after years of just hearing conspiracies
35:45
Speaker 2: or just playing out lies, we as a nation are
35:48
Speaker 2: watching and realizing the truth versus what was being fed
35:51
Speaker 2: to us once upon a time by controlled media. And
35:55
Speaker 2: I say these big terms in like, please don't think
35:57
Speaker 2: I'm talking about all the conspiracies, because there's a lot.
35:59
Speaker 2: But we know with the access to social media, there's
36:03
Speaker 2: a lot of this information. But there's also a lot
36:05
Speaker 2: of things that are coming up that we got to see.
36:07
Speaker 2: I'm getting a lot of stuff from South Korea news,
36:10
Speaker 2: German news, I'm getting lots from the UK Australia being
36:14
Speaker 2: able to tell us what they are hearing and seeing
36:16
Speaker 2: versus what we are seeing in the US, and I
36:18
Speaker 2: think that's really important, and that brings up a lot
36:21
Speaker 2: of conversation about them being able to hide things as much.
36:28
Speaker 2: So that's great to note, Like social media has really
36:31
Speaker 2: changed how we see things in both good and bad
36:35
Speaker 2: and though it can't be stressful. It's good to know
36:38
Speaker 2: some are seeing this stuff for the first time and
36:42
Speaker 2: having a reaction and having to unlearn some things and
36:48
Speaker 2: finding some truths some things. So it's interesting, Like I've
36:51
Speaker 2: seen a lot of content and I have this like
36:53
Speaker 2: pettiness in me that really bothers me. At the same
36:56
Speaker 2: time that I get I'm glad that when they come
36:59
Speaker 2: back like I was wrong. I voted for this, but
37:01
Speaker 2: I didn't know it was going to affect me like this,
37:03
Speaker 2: and that selfishness makes me angry. But at the same time,
37:06
Speaker 2: we need that turn. We need those turns, so we
37:09
Speaker 2: can't scare them away, even though I want to yell
37:13
Speaker 2: at them.
37:15
Speaker 1: No, I understand that it's difficult. It's difficult because it's like,
37:19
Speaker 1: well we I think that's part of the problem too,
37:22
Speaker 1: though it's like the news you consume.
37:25
Speaker 3: But I was like, we've been saying it, this is
37:26
Speaker 3: what they've been saying, this is what.
37:29
Speaker 2: And now you're like, oh, you're right, but you don't
37:31
Speaker 2: want to say you're right. You just said I just
37:32
Speaker 2: didn't know. Like instead of taking a responsibility, you're like,
37:35
Speaker 2: yeah you did, Yeah, you did. Just take responsibility, and
37:38
Speaker 2: there are some who are doing that. We're seeing podcasters
37:40
Speaker 2: who influenced the elections very hard come out and be
37:44
Speaker 2: like I didn't know. I'm like, told you did, Yeah,
37:48
Speaker 2: now you did, you did. You just hoped that they
37:51
Speaker 2: were not going to be this bad and you just
37:54
Speaker 2: didn't realize how hard it was going to affect you.
37:57
Speaker 3: Mm hmmm, mm hmm.
37:59
Speaker 2: But at the same time, we don't want to be
38:00
Speaker 2: We don't want them to take it back. We want
38:03
Speaker 2: them to keep on this.
38:05
Speaker 3: Yeah's tricky. S and L did a sketch on.
38:09
Speaker 2: This that was so perfect it was also alarming because
38:15
Speaker 2: it was a little too on the nose again. Yeah,
38:28
Speaker 2: oh so Yeah, there's a lot of things. So with
38:33
Speaker 2: that as a reminder, self care, the real kind, not
38:38
Speaker 2: soar bought capitalistic ideas, which we've talked about a little bit,
38:42
Speaker 2: is resistance. So we want to take some time to
38:45
Speaker 2: talk about some of the things that we can do,
38:48
Speaker 2: some of the practical things that we are told, and
38:50
Speaker 2: also just kind of like mental health practices not a lot. Again,
38:54
Speaker 2: we're not doctors, we're not psychologists. I am a social worker,
38:57
Speaker 2: so I have a small bit of information, not a lot,
39:00
Speaker 2: and we're not trying to tell you you need to
39:02
Speaker 2: do these things. Don't go to a doctor. Gou what
39:05
Speaker 2: psycho like. If you can afford therapy, therapy is wonderful,
39:07
Speaker 2: find a good one.
39:09
Speaker 3: Find a good one, find a good one, follow through.
39:12
Speaker 2: Yeah, but these are some things outside of that that
39:15
Speaker 2: might be of help. And here's a bit of advice
39:18
Speaker 2: that Anxiety and Depression Association of America says that we
39:22
Speaker 2: can do when it comes to post election and political
39:25
Speaker 2: related stress and anxiety. Essentially, we can practice accepting the discomfort. Now,
39:32
Speaker 2: let's clarify. I'm not accepting what's happening. We're not giving up,
39:37
Speaker 2: but we're accepting what has happened and moving forward like that.
39:42
Speaker 2: It is here, it is, That's where we are. This
39:44
Speaker 2: is where the laws are, this is where the lit lines.
39:46
Speaker 2: If we can prevent it, this is where we are.
39:49
Speaker 2: And they want to talk about these types of bills.
39:52
Speaker 2: We need to call our senators. That's something we can do.
39:54
Speaker 2: That's controlling it. But to live in anxiety and fear
39:58
Speaker 2: of not being able to control it makes you unravel
40:03
Speaker 2: very quickly inspiral, so we don't want that. Instead, understand, Okay,
40:06
Speaker 2: this is where we're at. This is the reality of it,
40:09
Speaker 2: which is for immigration issues, ICE is happening. However, they're
40:14
Speaker 2: talking about taking some of the funds away. That's important.
40:17
Speaker 2: That's something we can do. So we can call our
40:19
Speaker 2: our senators, we can call our people representatives, tell them
40:22
Speaker 2: to stop. The tension centers are happening. What the hell.
40:25
Speaker 2: But we have senators and state representative who understand this
40:29
Speaker 2: is really bad and the community doesn't want it. We
40:31
Speaker 2: can call those people. We can go to these meetings.
40:34
Speaker 2: That is something that we can do so we can
40:36
Speaker 2: accept this discomfort of how everything is not great. But
40:40
Speaker 2: these are steps that we can do that it's applicable,
40:44
Speaker 2: that helps us move forward. Yes, I think it's very important.
40:49
Speaker 3: It is.
40:50
Speaker 1: It is, And here's some advice from calm dot com
40:54
Speaker 1: about how to worry a bit less. Also, not a sponsor, Yes,
40:59
Speaker 1: not a sponsor. Take a break from social media and
41:03
Speaker 1: the news. Focus on what you can control, such as
41:06
Speaker 1: positive action, meditation. You know that we love it here.
41:10
Speaker 1: We've been meaning to get Eves back in for another episode. Yes,
41:14
Speaker 1: share with others who you trust, but don't spiral, and
41:18
Speaker 1: do fun activities like walking, reading, working.
41:20
Speaker 2: Out, writing fan fiction. Gallantines with horror movies.
41:26
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, yes, And I have to say, said, friends,
41:33
Speaker 1: I told you about this. I didn't tell you it
41:34
Speaker 1: was her, but I think you can guess what is.
41:36
Speaker 1: But anyway, she recently came over and she was spiraling
41:42
Speaker 1: about politics, and we had to have like a I
41:45
Speaker 1: know it's bad. I know it's bad. I can't say
41:48
Speaker 1: it's not bad, but I like having that friend, like
41:51
Speaker 1: the friendship of yeah, it's also nice. That's also something
41:55
Speaker 1: you can lean on in times.
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Speaker 2: Yes, exactly. And even though we are not parents and
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Speaker 2: we've already told you why, kind of harshly, it was
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Speaker 2: like people don't not choosing to be parents. We know
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Speaker 2: we do have parents on here and the data line
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Speaker 2: seed dot com actually wrote some things for parents. This
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Speaker 2: was in relations to COVID and being in lockdown with children.
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Speaker 2: But I feel like it's really good for this time
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Speaker 2: as well, especially when everybody feels like it's frantic and
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Speaker 2: you are stressing out on a different level. They say,
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Speaker 2: remember for you, specifically, if you have children who are antsy,
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Speaker 2: what makes your kids antsy and panicked, whether it's being
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Speaker 2: overstimulated or under Knowing how your child reacts will help
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Speaker 2: both you and them because if you can prevent things,
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Speaker 2: that is key to so many things. But I'm sure
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Speaker 2: for parenting as well. Playful parenting what they say, helping
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Speaker 2: with their mood and yours. It's okay to be playful
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Speaker 2: and fun. Sometimes it feels gross in like these times.
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Speaker 2: I talked about this in my Happy Hour episode and
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Speaker 2: being like I am going to be dancing. It feels
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Speaker 2: weird that that's what I'm gonna put my energy in
43:02
Speaker 2: for half my for part of my week. But I
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Speaker 2: need this and it's okay. It's okay to need to
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Speaker 2: be relieve the stress. And same thing with playful parenting,
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Speaker 2: whether it's taking your child out enjoying things, whether it's
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Speaker 2: going to park, explaining a little money if you if
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Speaker 2: you can afford it to do activities like, that's okay
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Speaker 2: and it's great for both of y'all unless it's too
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Speaker 2: stressful and you can take them out, reunderstand, but like
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Speaker 2: maybe staying at home and doing fun, cooking things together
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Speaker 2: without making too much of a mess, but things that
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Speaker 2: you know that you enjoy and they enjoy as well.
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Speaker 2: They also haven't made a great point of not letting
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Speaker 2: the unknown scare you, and I feel like this was
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Speaker 2: just for everyone, not just the parents. And I feel like, yeah,
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Speaker 2: this is actually really good advice. They write, quote, it's
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Speaker 2: tempting to jump on the bandwagon of calling this chapter
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Speaker 2: of our lives uncertain times, which again was relevant for
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Speaker 2: pandemic and now because frankly they are, And she writes,
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Speaker 2: I detest the message that phrase suggests. However, it's as
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Speaker 2: if it's saying we know nothing instead of we're just
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Speaker 2: generally uncertain, like they're saying, Okay, it's not that we
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Speaker 2: don't know, so that we don't know right now, like
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Speaker 2: things are not quite clear, but we know of things,
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Speaker 2: We know things, how things are going, and we know
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Speaker 2: people are doing things. She goes on to say, take
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Speaker 2: back control of your mental health by not buying into
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Speaker 2: catchphrases or anything else that causes undoing anxiety. So just
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Speaker 2: living alone and like this is so bad. Like we
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Speaker 2: say uncertain times, they're like testing in uncertain times. A
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Speaker 2: lot on here, But it does feel like an impending
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Speaker 2: doom sometimes the way we hear it, and we shouldn't.
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Speaker 2: It's a better understanding and knowing that at this moment,
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Speaker 2: as bleak as some things may be, you are in
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Speaker 2: your house or your workplace or wherever you are at
44:52
Speaker 2: that moment, you are doing whatever that you have to
44:55
Speaker 2: do for us. We're right now in our space recording,
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Speaker 2: letting you know the good and the bad, and in
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Speaker 2: this moment, we are going forward with the next moments,
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Speaker 2: ready to handle what's coming up. And even if we
45:08
Speaker 2: don't feel like we can handle it, we will. Yeah,
45:12
Speaker 2: I mean inevitabay we have to. And when we pass that,
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Speaker 2: we can look back and see how well did we do,
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Speaker 2: how not well did we do, and kind of prepare
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Speaker 2: for the next steps. And I think that's so much
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Speaker 2: to that, and not allowing for all of the negativity
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Speaker 2: and negative phrases to get us, which is oftentimes used
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Speaker 2: as fear mongering. We know this, So I think that
45:35
Speaker 2: was really good ideas in that conversation. Yeah, there's a lot,
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Speaker 2: but just again, remember it's not hopeless. It's not hopeless.
45:47
Speaker 2: We just have to take some deep breaths and take
45:49
Speaker 2: some good action and take minutes for ourselves.
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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, it's it's interesting to me that when Trump
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Speaker 1: was first elected in twenty sixteen, I put a sign
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Speaker 1: on my door that says this is not normal, and
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Speaker 1: so things wouldn't be normalized, right, and then the pandemic happened,
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Speaker 1: so I left to sign up, and then Trump was
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Speaker 1: elected again and I left the sign up. This has
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Speaker 1: been there for years, but it is a good reminder
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Speaker 1: when I see it of like, okay, because it feels
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Speaker 1: like they're trying to normalize all of these things. I'm like, no,
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Speaker 1: this is really really not normal. Do not let it
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Speaker 1: become normal if you can, whatever you can do to
46:38
Speaker 1: prevent it from becoming normal. So I think having a
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Speaker 1: reminder too like this. Hopefully, listeners, when you listen to this,
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Speaker 1: it's the reminder of, yeah, this is not normal. We
46:50
Speaker 1: have put people before as have put so much work
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Speaker 1: into fighting what's happening now, and people right now are
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Speaker 1: doing it too.
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Speaker 3: So yeah, it's not hopeless.
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Speaker 1: No, no, no, but definitely take time for yourself.
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Speaker 3: Take time for yourself.
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Speaker 2: Uh.
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