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Priceless Tips To Live An Authentic Life · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land Always was, always
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  Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land.
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  Speaker 2: Hey Cheeks, I'm sal and I'm out and this is
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  Speaker 2: two Broke Cheeks to show that shares life lessons and
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  Speaker 2: tips to help make you rich in life.
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  Speaker 3: And today we are joined by the beautiful Mitch Green.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you so much for coming on the show.
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  Speaker 4: We're so excited to have you on because we're going
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  Speaker 4: to be talking about how to live authentically and live
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  Speaker 4: your best life, and I think who better to have
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  Speaker 4: on than you?
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  Speaker 5: Thank you. That is such a compliment. I love that.
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  Speaker 2: Also, Mitch has come into the studio looking so fucking beautiful.
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  Speaker 6: I just want to say, how to hear you?
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  Speaker 4: We say this every time we see it, step it up,
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  Speaker 4: saying hello, We're basically just like get out.
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  Speaker 7: I love you guys, I need you guys with me everywhere.
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  Speaker 7: Such a week, everyone had it.
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  Speaker 6: It's on record. So whether you try to give me
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  Speaker 6: a restraining order, how you asked for this.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah I do. I do have a lunch of icebects
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  Speaker 7: after this. So that is why we're quite dressed up today.
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  Speaker 7: I was going to wear another outfit for you guys
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  Speaker 7: because I thought it was like, it was like this
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  Speaker 7: burg and you read out fit because I thought it
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  Speaker 7: was a bit on brand for you guys, but I
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  Speaker 7: just didn't have time.
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  Speaker 5: That's okay, changes.
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  Speaker 7: Next time, Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll save it. I'll save it.
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  Speaker 2: But before we get into it, we love to start
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  Speaker 2: these episodes with our life lesson.
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  Speaker 3: Of the week.
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  Speaker 4: My life lesson of the week is that whatever things
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  Speaker 4: about you that somebody else finds annoying, those are the
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  Speaker 4: things that other people love about you and find charming.
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  Speaker 2: That's so similar mine, well, always on the same.
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  Speaker 6: I don't know how it is.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what witchy powers there always are in
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  Speaker 2: the world, but sound I will like have the same
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  Speaker 2: we don't talk about it before the episode, and then.
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  Speaker 6: Similar thing.
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  Speaker 5: I love that.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, but mine was from a book that I've been reading.
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  Speaker 2: We'll be listening to the audiobook. But anyway, it was
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  Speaker 2: not even the main point, but it was just one
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  Speaker 2: sentence in this book that really stood out to me,
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  Speaker 2: and it was just the saying I don't need you
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  Speaker 2: to understand me.
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  Speaker 6: And I thought it.
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  Speaker 2: Was so freeing, and it's such a freeing thought to
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  Speaker 2: have in the back of your brain because I really
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  Speaker 2: like I feel like I need anchor thoughts sometimes when
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  Speaker 2: like my brain runs away from me, and having these
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  Speaker 2: anchor thoughts or anchor sayings or whatever it is to
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  Speaker 2: kind of pull you back into reality is so helpful
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  Speaker 2: of those moments where maybe you're having like a disagreement
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  Speaker 2: with a coworker and you have a difference of opinion
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  Speaker 2: or whatever it is, like maybe you and your friend
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  Speaker 2: aren't agreeing on something, or maybe that's just some fucking
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  Speaker 2: rogue person who's being an absolute worst human being in
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  Speaker 2: the world.
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  Speaker 6: Just saying I don't need you to understand me is.
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  Speaker 2: Such a good self security saying to like really instill
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  Speaker 2: what your beliefs are and your values are, because you
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  Speaker 2: don't have to live for other people. Yeah, and yeah
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  Speaker 2: that's my face.
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  Speaker 7: I agree to disagree, not everyone has to agree. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 7: that's okay. And you know it's not your job to
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  Speaker 7: explain to everyone.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I thought of my I thought of oh yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: so I was.
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  Speaker 7: I was talking to my friend the other day and
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  Speaker 7: we're going on a walk and she like, she works
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  Speaker 7: like a nine to five office job, and.
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  Speaker 5: She like she likes it, but she's like, oh, i'd
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  Speaker 5: like I'd love to be doing what you're doing, you know.
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  Speaker 7: And I'm like, well, you've got to start posting that,
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  Speaker 7: and she's like, I'm scared. I'm scared, Like it's embarrassing,
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  Speaker 7: it's cringe. I'm like, yeah, it was embarrassing and gringe
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  Speaker 7: one day when I started posting too it probably saying
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  Speaker 7: for you guys, you guys probably felt a sane honestly, Yeah,
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  Speaker 7: And I'm like, I feel like the life lesson is just.
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  Speaker 5: To post that video, post that photo.
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  Speaker 7: You have to get through the cringe, you know, suffer
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  Speaker 7: through the cringe and look what can come from it.
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  Speaker 7: Because when you're you know, when you're doing your live
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  Speaker 7: show or you're you're hosting an event, it's not so
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  Speaker 7: cringe anymore, is it, you know?
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  Speaker 5: True?
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  Speaker 3: Everybody has to start somewhere.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, cringe is just a construct too. Yeah, like who
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  Speaker 2: actually fucking kicks.
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  Speaker 7: Exactly as you were saying before, what one person might
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  Speaker 7: think is cringe, one person might think is amazing and great.
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  Speaker 7: So I think life lesson is pushed through the gringe.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, just go for it.
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  Speaker 5: You know what's that saying?
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  Speaker 3: Success is on the other side of cringe mountain?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I said that, But we'll find it, and
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  Speaker 2: we'll credit her in the in the show notes. But
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  Speaker 2: I think that's exactly what you're saying exactly.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I think.
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  Speaker 7: And I think like any you look at, like the
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  Speaker 7: most successful people in the world, you know, they probably
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  Speaker 7: had like cringey failed businesses, cringey you know, like old
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  Speaker 7: videos Kim Kay cringey, like you know, first season of
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  Speaker 7: Kardashians or that. You go back and watch that, it's
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  Speaker 7: all like so scripted and you can tell but at
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  Speaker 7: the time, you know, the viewer wasn't very like educated
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  Speaker 7: on how that stuff works, and no one knew.
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  Speaker 5: But it's like, yeah, I.
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  Speaker 3: Think it's part of the process.
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  Speaker 7: Everyone has a cringe moment. I think anyone who's anything
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  Speaker 7: has had so many cringe moments.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think that's such a freeing thought to have.
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  Speaker 2: Our friend Jim always says that anyone that's doing better
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  Speaker 2: than you will never judge you, exactly, so as well, like,
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  Speaker 2: if anyone is judging you just know that that's not
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  Speaker 2: someone that you need to be worrying about anyway.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's appreciation have their own security. So yeah, but Babbie,
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  Speaker 4: all right, let's get into the episode.
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  Speaker 2: Mitch. For any of our.
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  Speaker 4: Chicks who aren't following you already, Can you give us
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  Speaker 4: a little TLDR about who you are and what you do.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, so my name is Mitch. I do social media.
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  Speaker 7: I'm trans I do a lot of fashion and beauty
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  Speaker 7: lifestyle content and yeah, that's that's my name really.
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  Speaker 3: The elevator Pitchy.
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  Speaker 4: So we've got you on to talk about how to
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  Speaker 4: live your most authentic life because that's exactly what you do,
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  Speaker 4: and I think that's why so many people love you
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  Speaker 4: and resonate with your content online. So one question that
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  Speaker 4: we did get from the chicks is how to be
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  Speaker 4: yourself if you're unsure who you want to be and
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  Speaker 4: the things that you like and what you want out
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  Speaker 4: of your life.
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  Speaker 7: I think that's, yeah, that's a hard question because I
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  Speaker 7: think like when I was younger, when I was in school,
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  Speaker 7: I think deep down I did know who I wanted
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  Speaker 7: to be, but it was the outside opinions and or judgment,
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  Speaker 7: or fear of judgment, maybe not even necessarily judgment that
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  Speaker 7: had already happened, just the fear of the future judgment.
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  Speaker 7: So I feel like sometimes I would, you know, like
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  Speaker 7: I'd be like, oh, I'm not going to weigh that
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  Speaker 7: I'm not going to do this.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not going to.
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  Speaker 7: Say this because I was like worried what people would think.
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  Speaker 7: But I think I don't I don't know if there
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  Speaker 7: is a I don't know if there is a way
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  Speaker 7: to speed up that process. I think really, you know,
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  Speaker 7: it's such a stereotypical ants about really time like really
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  Speaker 7: does heal everything? And I feel like as time goes on,
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  Speaker 7: you get so much more comfortable with yourself, and as
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  Speaker 7: you as you get older and mature as well, you
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  Speaker 7: get so much more comfortable with yourself as well. So
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  Speaker 7: I think I think also there's there's no rush to
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  Speaker 7: find out who you are, Like you can try out
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  Speaker 7: different things. You can you know, try and you I'll
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  Speaker 7: be try this, try that, where this, wear that, and
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  Speaker 7: like nothing's permanent.
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  Speaker 6: You know, that process is never finished, though, is it ever?
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  Speaker 2: That's how I look at it, And it's like you're
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  Speaker 2: never gonna look at yourself and go okay done and
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  Speaker 2: if you did, how you never you never fully cooked exactly,
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  Speaker 2: You're always cooking let it you're sing away like like
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  Speaker 2: that process is never done. And if you feel like
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  Speaker 2: it's done, it's fucking not. No.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, if you feel like you're done progressing in life,
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  Speaker 7: then you're mistaken.
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  Speaker 5: You need bigger goals. Then.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, figuring out what you want is such an overwhelming
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  Speaker 2: thing as well, because you think you have to know
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  Speaker 2: what that is, and sometimes.
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  Speaker 5: It's just trial and error absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: And being like oh I like this, Oh you know
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  Speaker 2: what I wasn't fun anything like that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you can take it in small steps as well, because,
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  Speaker 4: like you were saying, you know, when you were younger,
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  Speaker 4: you're thinking, I want to wear this, but I won't
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  Speaker 4: wear it because people will say X y Z. But
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  Speaker 4: those small actions of wearing the outfit that you want,
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  Speaker 4: or chasing the career that you've always dreamed of, or
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  Speaker 4: posting that TikTok, these are all the small things that
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  Speaker 4: will ladder up to help you figure out who you
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  Speaker 4: want to be and what you want to do with
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  Speaker 4: your life.
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  Speaker 3: Doesn't have to be like this big.
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  Speaker 4: Huge reason being like, wake up one day, I know
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  Speaker 4: who I am and I'm showing the world this is
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  Speaker 4: exactly who I love, exactly.
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  Speaker 6: I would love that. Where do I take that? Like
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  Speaker 6: red pill?
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  Speaker 4: But it is those small little steps along the way
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  Speaker 4: that are really scary, but they're empowering in that way.
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  Speaker 7: And I think also there is so many people that
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  Speaker 7: have had a they have had, you know, all their
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  Speaker 7: goals written down, set out, and then they get there
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  Speaker 7: and they're like, I don't like this, I'm not happy.
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  Speaker 7: So many people get their dream job and they're like
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  Speaker 7: I hate it, or what's next?
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  Speaker 4: That you tick that goal and then you're like, okay,
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  Speaker 4: what now?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's so true.
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  Speaker 2: You have those moments where you're like, I thought this
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  Speaker 2: is what I wanted, and then you feel that guilt
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  Speaker 2: because you maybe sacrifice the law or put your happiness
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  Speaker 2: aside to have something that you thought you wanted and
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  Speaker 2: it wasn't necessarily it. But another really popular question that
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  Speaker 2: we wanted to ask you was do you ever have
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  Speaker 2: those moments of self doubt or imposter syndrome? And how
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  Speaker 2: do you navigate it?
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  Speaker 7: I definitely I have had the moments of self doubt.
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  Speaker 7: I remember on Anzac Day actually I was out with
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  Speaker 7: my friends and there was this guy I was talking
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  Speaker 7: to and I we'd actually spoken to each other maybe
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  Speaker 7: four or five years ago, and he was like, I'm
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  Speaker 7: not ready for a relationship back then, and then we'd
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  Speaker 7: reconnected and he was like I'm ready, Like I'm going
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  Speaker 7: to you blah blah blah, and we're talking for ages.
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  Speaker 7: And then whilst we were out on Anzac Day, he
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  Speaker 7: sent a message and he was like, I've like had
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  Speaker 7: a look through your Instagram and your TikTok and I'm
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  Speaker 7: just like not comfortable with what you do. Like I
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  Speaker 7: don't agree with it. I don't stand for it. He's like, what, yeah, what.
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  Speaker 3: Your run clubs pr on boxing? Y.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't agree the Sunday recep one here for
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  Speaker 4: at all because the iy Ales.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, okay, he said, Hey, Gordeous, listen, I just want
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  Speaker 7: to be super honest. I think you're awesome and a
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  Speaker 7: really lovely person from what I've seen so far. But
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  Speaker 7: I did just have a look at your insta presence
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  Speaker 7: and I'm not totally cool with the idea of dating
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  Speaker 7: an influencer. It's just not for me. I don't have
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  Speaker 7: social media, as you know, and the primary reason for
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  Speaker 7: that is that I have a fundamental problem with what
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  Speaker 7: it has done to society and it feels hypocritical. Slash
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  Speaker 7: doesn't sit right with me to completely ignore that principle
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  Speaker 7: when it comes to dating, given that who you date,
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  Speaker 7: given that who you date is a reflection of who
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  Speaker 7: you are. I hope you understand, and I am sorry
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  Speaker 7: if this came across as blunt. I just wanted to
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  Speaker 7: be direct with you and I wish you all the
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  Speaker 7: luck in the world, not that you need it.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, did you respond?
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  Speaker 5: I did. I sent like a really long message back. Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: So that was upsetting and I did have a moment
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  Speaker 7: of doubt then, and I was like right upset because
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  Speaker 7: I was like, is this what I meant to be doing?
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  Speaker 5: Should I be doing this?
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  Speaker 7: I think for him to say that, like, you know,
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  Speaker 7: he has a fundamental problem with what social media has
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  Speaker 7: done to society. I think every industry, everyone's job, no
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  Speaker 7: one's job is without problems or issues, or every single
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  Speaker 7: industry in the world has you know, some negative impact
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  Speaker 7: exactly exactly everything.
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  Speaker 3: But for him to kind of stand on that pedestal
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  Speaker 3: and put you down.
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  Speaker 2: As if you're also contributing negatively to society, it's just wrong.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, and yeah, that was that was like, I think
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  Speaker 7: that's the part that was like offensive and hurtful, that
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  Speaker 7: he was like saying that I was contributing to society
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  Speaker 7: in a negative way.
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  Speaker 2: You know, that would make anyone feel like shit yeah,
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  Speaker 2: so how did you get through that?
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  Speaker 5: Well?
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  Speaker 7: Well, I sent a really long textback to want me
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  Speaker 7: to read out the text back on.
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  Speaker 3: Only if you're comfortable, I'll read out.
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  Speaker 7: I read out this part so I said, I do
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  Speaker 7: agree with you that there are negative effects on society
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  Speaker 7: due to social media. However, I try my absolute best
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  Speaker 7: every day not to contribute to those negative aspects and
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  Speaker 7: strive to contribute to only the positive. Although I do
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  Speaker 7: not expect or want anyone to compromise their principles, I
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  Speaker 7: do think you may be naive to many positive elements
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  Speaker 7: that do come from social media, as you are not
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  Speaker 7: a social media user.
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  Speaker 6: You wouldn't know.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, And then I said, there's good and evil in
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  Speaker 7: every career and job and industry, including yours. However, I
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  Speaker 7: would never judge you so harshly on the career path you've.
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  Speaker 6: Chosen, Sla Slay.
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  Speaker 7: So yeah, I absolutely had a moment of doubt there.
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  Speaker 7: I was quite upset, definitely questioned it. And then I
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  Speaker 7: think I remember I went to sleep that na I
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  Speaker 7: like cried myself to sleep. I think I think I'd
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  Speaker 7: also been through like a breakup not.
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  Speaker 5: Too long before that as well. So everything's you know,
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  Speaker 5: it's like feel yeah.
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  Speaker 7: And then I woke up the next morning, went to
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  Speaker 7: run club, went for a walok, spoke to people, was
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  Speaker 7: in the sun running, everyone was hot and I was
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  Speaker 7: good again. I was just like, no, like, I love
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  Speaker 7: what I do. I'm so happy. I've wanted to do
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  Speaker 7: what I'm doing now for years. Like if you told
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  Speaker 7: sixteen year old me that I'd be doing what I'm
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  Speaker 7: doing now, I would have never believed you. Like, I
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  Speaker 7: have so many moments every day where I'm like, sixteen
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  Speaker 7: year old, sixteen year old me would die at this,
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  Speaker 7: And like in my group chat, even my friends will
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  Speaker 7: send things that they've seen me do or post They're like,
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  Speaker 7: oh my god, sixteen year old us would be dying
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  Speaker 7: at the Reasons table, you know, yes, yeah that so.
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  Speaker 6: I think that's such a great tick.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, in those moments where you do feel self doubt,
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  Speaker 2: to think about like the little you, that would.
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  Speaker 5: Be like exactly, holy fuck, yeahah really cool.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and like who would be so proud of the
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  Speaker 4: life that you're living.
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  Speaker 3: I also love that.
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  Speaker 4: The next day you just you got up, you went
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  Speaker 4: to run club, You surrounded yourself with people who were
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  Speaker 4: going to hype you off and you didn't let that
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  Speaker 4: drag you down. And I think those moments, whatever they
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  Speaker 4: are for anybody in life, are so important to tap into.
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  Speaker 4: And I wanted to ask, what are those moments in
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  Speaker 4: life that make you feel the most alive and most
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  Speaker 4: authentically yourself?
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  Speaker 7: I think I love I think like working out is
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  Speaker 7: really important for me. Like every time I work out,
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  Speaker 7: I or like go for a run, I just have
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  Speaker 7: such mental clarity and I just feel so like I
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  Speaker 7: could literally have one opinion on something and go for
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  Speaker 7: a run an hour later, I'm like.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, it's not that bad. Yeah, it's not that big
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  Speaker 5: of a deal, guys, you know.
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  Speaker 7: And I think I feel like I run just resets everything,
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  Speaker 7: do you know what I mean? So definitely, like working
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  Speaker 7: out is very important for me. I think like social
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  Speaker 7: interaction is very important as well, especially I don't know
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  Speaker 7: how you guys feel, but I feel like in my
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  Speaker 7: job because I like work for myself and like I
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  Speaker 7: have a team that I work with, but I don't
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  Speaker 7: I'm not in the office with them every day, do
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  Speaker 7: you know what I mean? Like most of it's like
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  Speaker 7: a zoom call or a call or a text or
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  Speaker 7: a voice note, Like I'm not seeing them in person.
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  Speaker 7: So I think if you have an isolating job, you
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  Speaker 7: really have to make that effort to have that social
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  Speaker 7: interaction because I could sit at home all day by myself,
• 16:47
  Speaker 7: like on my phone doing work.
• 16:49
  Speaker 5: But you know then you're like, why my sad?
• 16:52
  Speaker 6: Literally exactly we were exactly.
• 16:54
  Speaker 7: Yeah, So I think you need to like consciously make
• 16:57
  Speaker 7: that effort to go out and socially interact with people.
• 17:01
  Speaker 7: And if you do work in a job where you
• 17:03
  Speaker 7: like are in an office and you are around people
• 17:05
  Speaker 7: all the time, so maybe those people don't make you
• 17:07
  Speaker 7: feel very good, you know, like maybe you need to
• 17:10
  Speaker 7: see someone outside of that environment.
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, genuine connections.
• 17:15
  Speaker 7: Yeah, not all social interaction is positive interaction.
• 17:19
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Sadly, how do you surround yourself with people who
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: are genuine and going to make you feel fulfilled in
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: that part of your life?
• 17:28
  Speaker 7: I think, I think a really important thing to do
• 17:32
  Speaker 7: and what I do a lot of the time after
• 17:35
  Speaker 7: I've spent time with someone, when I'm driving home or
• 17:37
  Speaker 7: when I'm having a shower, after we've like spent that
• 17:40
  Speaker 7: time together, I'm like, I always think about, how did
• 17:43
  Speaker 7: that make me feel? Do I feel good after that interaction?
• 17:47
  Speaker 7: Do I feel happy. Do I feel good about myself?
• 17:49
  Speaker 7: Do I feel positive? Do I feel fulfilled? Or do
• 17:52
  Speaker 7: I feel exhausted? It's my cup empty? Do I like?
• 17:57
  Speaker 7: Do I feel like?
• 17:57
  Speaker 5: Okay?
• 17:58
  Speaker 7: I don't need to see them for a few weeks,
• 18:00
  Speaker 7: you know, And I think you really need to listen
• 18:03
  Speaker 7: to yourself and your body about how you feel after
• 18:07
  Speaker 7: you spend time with someone. And I think that will
• 18:09
  Speaker 7: tell you everything you need to know. You know, like,
• 18:12
  Speaker 7: and if there's like a comment they said that you
• 18:14
  Speaker 7: keep thinking about again and again being like why did
• 18:17
  Speaker 7: they say that?
• 18:17
  Speaker 5: That was really like and rude? Like it wasn't nice?
• 18:21
  Speaker 7: I think then if that keeps coming up in your
• 18:25
  Speaker 7: in your mind, then probably like that didn't make you
• 18:30
  Speaker 7: feel good, that interaction didn't make you feel good, so
• 18:32
  Speaker 7: you need to address that, or maybe you need to
• 18:36
  Speaker 7: spend less time with that person or part ties with
• 18:39
  Speaker 7: that I agree.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: I don't know if this is a naive way to
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: think about it, but I just don't ever think friendship
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: should be hard, because friendship is like a choice.
• 18:46
  Speaker 5: It's not great.
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: You're not married, you're not related by blood, which I
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: still don't think you should have to force either of
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: those two things just because of those aspects. Either I agree,
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: but I'm like, you should never walk away from a
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: friendship feeling like this is really hard. Obviously there's going
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: to be ebbs and flows, like if your friend's going
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: through something, people you've had a confrontation, you've had a
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: confrontation or anything like that.
• 19:08
  Speaker 6: But like if you're just like, fuck, this is a.
• 19:10
  Speaker 5: Lot of work.
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: That shouldn't be the consistent feeling that you have, there's.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: Different there's different ways to look at it, Like look
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: at a long distance friend, like that's work because you've
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: got to put in more effort. Effort is different from
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: something being difficult, you know.
• 19:22
  Speaker 5: So I completely agree with that.
• 19:24
  Speaker 6: And there's definitely like.
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: Been moments which I'm sure you would have had as well,
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: where you go, okay, like exactly what you said, be
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: like I might leave a couple of weeks in between the.
• 19:32
  Speaker 6: Next How would you deal with someone.
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: That if they made a comment or you've left and
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: they've maybe not made you feel very nice about yourself?
• 19:41
  Speaker 6: How would you manage that.
• 19:43
  Speaker 7: I'm someone that I never like to react in the moment.
• 19:49
  Speaker 7: I'm a very calm person when it does come to
• 19:52
  Speaker 7: like confrontation or anything, and I really like to think
• 19:57
  Speaker 7: about very carefully what I'm going to say to someone.
• 20:00
  Speaker 7: Be sure I say it as much as you can
• 20:03
  Speaker 7: say sorry, and you can say I didn't mean it,
• 20:05
  Speaker 7: or you know that I was just angry at the moment.
• 20:09
  Speaker 7: They'll never forget those words, and you can't. You can't
• 20:12
  Speaker 7: take words back because you've said them. They're out there
• 20:15
  Speaker 7: and even if you say, oh, I didn't mean it,
• 20:18
  Speaker 7: in that person's head, they will always have that in
• 20:22
  Speaker 7: the back of their mind.
• 20:23
  Speaker 5: Yeah, but did you really mean that? How you feel
• 20:26
  Speaker 5: about me?
• 20:27
  Speaker 7: So I think I always try to be really careful,
• 20:32
  Speaker 7: and I'm not perfect. There's definitely been times where I've
• 20:35
  Speaker 7: said and done things that I don't mean, of course,
• 20:38
  Speaker 7: but for the most part, I really try to think
• 20:41
  Speaker 7: about what I'm going to say to someone before I
• 20:44
  Speaker 7: do say it.
• 20:44
  Speaker 5: So I always sleep on it.
• 20:46
  Speaker 7: I'll never talk when I'm like you're in like when
• 20:50
  Speaker 7: I'm like, that's the moment's like going off, and.
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: It's like, you know, to sleep on it yourself space.
• 20:56
  Speaker 7: And then so much of the time you do wake
• 20:58
  Speaker 7: up the next day or you do go or run
• 21:00
  Speaker 7: and you're like you do have a different people.
• 21:02
  Speaker 6: Like, oh, I'm actually not that upset about it.
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: You're like, oh wait, shit.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're so glad that you didn't say anything.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: You're like, oh, thank god, and then nothing is worth it.
• 21:13
  Speaker 6: Then when you did say something and you wake up
• 21:15
  Speaker 6: the next morning, you're like.
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: Shit, yeah, yeah, exact anxiety.
• 21:20
  Speaker 5: Yeah yeah.
• 21:21
  Speaker 7: Another thing I always do is I never not well,
• 21:24
  Speaker 7: I can't say never, but I always try to not
• 21:27
  Speaker 7: yell or raise my voice when I'm having a confrontation.
• 21:29
  Speaker 7: I always try to say, really calm because when you're
• 21:33
  Speaker 7: yelling and your body like is in that adrenaline mode
• 21:37
  Speaker 7: and you're both yelling at each other, no one, neither
• 21:39
  Speaker 7: of you are actually listening to what each other is
• 21:41
  Speaker 7: saying or taking in each other's points, and you actually
• 21:46
  Speaker 7: can't think clearly when you're yelling.
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: I wanted to ask you though, because I know you've
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: got your VIP, you've got places to go, people see today.
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: But I feel like every time we see you, sal
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: and I speaking of yelling, just screaming.
• 22:02
  Speaker 6: At you about how beautiful you look.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: Every single time, being like why no, go away in
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: like the best most flirting way possible, like it's flirting.
• 22:13
  Speaker 5: Yeah, no, it's always taken that way.
• 22:15
  Speaker 6: Yeah, as it should please, because that's what it is.
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: But how does living authentically influence your fashion and your
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: style because you're always sec and slate.
• 22:24
  Speaker 7: Thank you, Joel. I think I'm very fussy with what
• 22:28
  Speaker 7: I wear. I won't wear anything I don't feel comfortable in. Like,
• 22:32
  Speaker 7: I've had a few situations before where I've been working
• 22:35
  Speaker 7: with a brand or I'm hosting an event and they
• 22:38
  Speaker 7: want me to wear something and I don't want to
• 22:40
  Speaker 7: wear it, and they're really pushing for it, and I'm like, no, guys,
• 22:43
  Speaker 7: I'm sorry, that's not me. You have hired me to
• 22:48
  Speaker 7: come and host your event, so I'm going to come
• 22:50
  Speaker 7: as me, do you know what I mean? Like, I
• 22:53
  Speaker 7: think so much of being comfortable whilst you're out is
• 22:57
  Speaker 7: how you feel and how you look. And if you
• 22:59
  Speaker 7: don't like how you look, you're not going to have
• 23:02
  Speaker 7: a good time. You're not going to feel comfortable, you're
• 23:04
  Speaker 7: not going to enjoy yourself. And that's what I've said
• 23:06
  Speaker 7: in the past to like when people have tried to
• 23:10
  Speaker 7: put me in things I don't want to wear, I've
• 23:13
  Speaker 7: been like, I'm not going to have a good time.
• 23:15
  Speaker 7: I'm not going to enjoy myself. I'm not going to
• 23:18
  Speaker 7: like how I look. I'm not going to feel confident.
• 23:20
  Speaker 7: I'm not going to feel like me. So I think
• 23:22
  Speaker 7: you always. I think like I've always just stuck to
• 23:25
  Speaker 7: what I feel comfortable in. And by comfortable, I don't
• 23:28
  Speaker 7: mean physically comfortable, because I've actually never been physically comfortable
• 23:32
  Speaker 7: in an outfit. All my outfits are very uncomfortable.
• 23:36
  Speaker 5: I'm like the shoes.
• 23:38
  Speaker 7: The shoes are the most uncomfortable shoes I've ever worn.
• 23:41
  Speaker 7: But I don't feel physically comfortable in them, but I
• 23:45
  Speaker 7: feel like they're me, you know, I love them.
• 23:49
  Speaker 5: But the brand exactly.
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: That makes you feel inside And if you feel like
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: you're representing who you are inside on the outside, and
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: if something in that is compromised, then.
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: You don't feel like you and you're own a costume.
• 24:04
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: I feel like there's like characters you aligned to in life,
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: like whether they're fictional characters or whatever, and it's like
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: we have the same thing. So like if it looks
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: like it could be like Daisy Drones and the six
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: more practical magic, then I'm like, yeah, that's me. Whereas
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: like rock Star of h Yeah, whereas like if and
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: that's how that's what I would say to people when
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: they're like, I don't know what my style is, and like,
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: what characters do you think or a vibe because it's
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: like you could look at sex in the city or.
• 24:32
  Speaker 7: Yeah, I always I think my characters are like Chris Jenner, yes,
• 24:38
  Speaker 7: carry Bradshaw K.
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: I can definitely see the character.
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, because I love a good like power, so
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: like a stronger.
• 24:51
  Speaker 7: I'm obsessed with a blazer, yeah, and a heel, like yeah,
• 24:55
  Speaker 7: a blazer and a lubreton.
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: I love.
• 25:03
  Speaker 7: I have like that carry like fetish of shoes, Like
• 25:06
  Speaker 7: I just love shoes. I don't care how uncomfortable they are,
• 25:10
  Speaker 7: how high they are, Like, I just love I just
• 25:12
  Speaker 7: love shoes.
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: You're better than me, I know, we say, and like
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: our sneakers and cowboys stand. I have a list on
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: my phone and it's like, by the way, I want
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: to preface this with the fact that I think heels
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: are fucking stunning.
• 25:26
  Speaker 6: I am just an old man and that like, I
• 25:30
  Speaker 6: have a list on my phone.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: It's I do not buy or I will ruin you,
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: and it's a letter to me from me and on
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: there it goes heels you can't fucking walk in them.
• 25:40
  Speaker 6: Anyway, and I'm like, fuck, she's so right.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: I'm like she's so real for that and then has
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: the strength.
• 25:45
  Speaker 6: But there's also boots.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: You have six pairs, And I'm like, fine, yeah, I read,
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: I read that letter.
• 25:52
  Speaker 5: From probably do.
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: But it's your brand.
• 25:55
  Speaker 6: It's exactly my job I have, sorry, exactly.
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: It'll be in your performance review okay, conducted by us. Now,
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: all right, so we did mention.
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: It briefly before, but we love your Sunday Reset contents.
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: Can you talk us through how important ritual is to
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: feel like you're living your best life?
• 26:22
  Speaker 7: Yes, this is like such a good question for me
• 26:25
  Speaker 7: because I am, like, I am the definition of like
• 26:29
  Speaker 7: clean house, clean mind. I think it's so important to
• 26:33
  Speaker 7: me my environment. So I so what you guys are
• 26:39
  Speaker 7: referencing on my Sunday Reset videos where I will film
• 26:41
  Speaker 7: myself resetting my room from the week, because sometimes if
• 26:46
  Speaker 7: I have a really busy week and I've got like
• 26:50
  Speaker 7: events every every day, or you know, I've got to
• 26:53
  Speaker 7: do hair and makeup, or I'm like shooting something my
• 26:56
  Speaker 7: like placing, it really messy because when I get like
• 26:59
  Speaker 7: I am like a CD clean person in like my
• 27:02
  Speaker 7: everyday life. But when I get messy. Sorry, when I
• 27:05
  Speaker 7: get ready, I am a tornado like all my friends,
• 27:09
  Speaker 7: Like you should see my hotel rooms when I'm like
• 27:12
  Speaker 7: when I'm getting ready for an event or something like,
• 27:14
  Speaker 7: my friends come in and there like, oh my god,
• 27:17
  Speaker 7: you've been in here for two hours, what's happened. But
• 27:22
  Speaker 7: I am like also the cleanest person ever, Like I
• 27:25
  Speaker 7: love everything to be in its place. I hate losing
• 27:30
  Speaker 7: an item in your own house.
• 27:33
  Speaker 5: I'm like, no, I'm not.
• 27:35
  Speaker 7: I know where every bobby pin is in my house,
• 27:37
  Speaker 7: you know, Like I.
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: Love that I'm going to come to your house when
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: I need a Yeah.
• 27:44
  Speaker 5: So I think so. Yeah.
• 27:46
  Speaker 7: I love to do like an end of the week
• 27:49
  Speaker 7: reset to start the week. I think it's so cleansing mentally, emotionally, physically.
• 27:58
  Speaker 7: You feel accomplished, you feel like you've done something. Like
• 28:01
  Speaker 7: sometimes you've been laying in bed all Sunday and you're like,
• 28:04
  Speaker 7: I've done nothing all day. You got to get up
• 28:07
  Speaker 7: until your reset because you'll feel so much better.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: So much better.
• 28:10
  Speaker 5: Put a candle on, yeah, and.
• 28:14
  Speaker 7: Always got to start the week off with the fresh sheet,
• 28:16
  Speaker 7: a vacuum floor. I think it just sets the tone
• 28:19
  Speaker 7: of the week.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: Once you do it.
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: Once.
• 28:22
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you're hooked.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're like, oh, this does feel nice. And it's
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: like for some people, like for me, I'm not necessarily
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: someone that enjoys the process of cleaning.
• 28:32
  Speaker 6: I enjoy the result product. Yeah, yes, I'm like, okay, yeah,
• 28:35
  Speaker 6: that's why I do this.
• 28:36
  Speaker 4: Where it is so you like the whole I like
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: the whole thing, a whole cleaning process.
• 28:42
  Speaker 5: Like it too. Yet you put a podcast.
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: In, yeah, get a goodlist.
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but I think kind of anchoring it to a
• 28:49
  Speaker 4: day of the week and making it a ritual and
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: romanticizing that and making it your Sunday reset, I think
• 28:56
  Speaker 4: will really help you whether or not you enjoy the
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: experience or you die.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: You can customize it, yeah you want it to be.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: I saw some chick on TikTok. She does her reset
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: to the time that it takes for her washing, like.
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: Her sheets to wash.
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: But she's like, while they're washing, I'll do my like
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: reset my clean and then I'm done.
• 29:19
  Speaker 5: That's smart.
• 29:19
  Speaker 7: Yeah, when you put your food in the microwave and
• 29:23
  Speaker 7: you're like, all right, I've got to get my Netflix
• 29:25
  Speaker 7: set up, I've got to get my water ready by
• 29:28
  Speaker 7: the time the microwave is done, I'm.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: Like, everything must be done. So it's like, where before
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: my food's done, the show has got to be on
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: the TV ready, otherwise everything's fucking ruined. You can't start
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: eating leap, just go to bed to throw out the food,
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: throw the TV off balcony, get.
• 29:51
  Speaker 7: Out those Sunday reset videos. So oh my god, they
• 29:55
  Speaker 7: take so long to edit.
• 29:56
  Speaker 5: I was gonna say four thousand cuts in them, Like
• 30:00
  Speaker 5: it's like.
• 30:00
  Speaker 6: Just your tripod just going yeah, and then.
• 30:04
  Speaker 7: When you edit it, because like like you'll put a
• 30:08
  Speaker 7: foundation bottle on the desk and you've got it. That's
• 30:10
  Speaker 7: a cut, and then when you put it in the drawer,
• 30:13
  Speaker 7: that's a cut, and then when you close the drawer,
• 30:14
  Speaker 7: that's a cut.
• 30:15
  Speaker 5: You know, they take so long to edit.
• 30:17
  Speaker 4: But I was going to say, your hard work is
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: very well appreciated, so satisfying.
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: When you brush your extensions, I'm like, oh yeah, that's
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: my favorite part of the process.
• 30:29
  Speaker 5: Flush the extensions out of my head, by the way, like.
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: Holding them, and then you put them in the little drawer.
• 30:35
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I have an extension drawer.
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: That's so good.
• 30:40
  Speaker 4: Okay, Well, not that I want you to go, because
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: I feel like we could just gas bag all day long,
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: but we did have one final question, what's your biggest
• 30:48
  Speaker 4: life lesson on your journey so far?
• 30:51
  Speaker 5: Honestly, people love you for you, so be you, Like.
• 30:55
  Speaker 7: You can't pretend to be someone else, like you know,
• 31:00
  Speaker 7: because as you guys were saying before, what someone hates
• 31:02
  Speaker 7: you for, there'll be just as many or like double
• 31:06
  Speaker 7: the amount of people that love you for.
• 31:07
  Speaker 5: It, you know.
• 31:09
  Speaker 7: And it's also just so tiring trying to be someone else,
• 31:12
  Speaker 7: do you know what I mean? Like, I think we
• 31:15
  Speaker 7: can all have probably been there where we're like trying
• 31:18
  Speaker 7: to impress someone or trying to do this, trying to
• 31:21
  Speaker 7: do that. So now I am like I can definitely
• 31:24
  Speaker 7: say like I live my life one hundred percent me,
• 31:27
  Speaker 7: Like even when I go on a first date, I'm like,
• 31:29
  Speaker 7: I lay everything out on the table, I'm like, this
• 31:31
  Speaker 7: is who I am, this is what i am.
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: Take it all either, I'm an influencer. In case you
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: have an issue with that.
• 31:36
  Speaker 7: Yeah, okay, yeah, I feel like that's so stereotypical, but
• 31:42
  Speaker 7: really that.
• 31:43
  Speaker 6: It's not at all though. I feel like there's a
• 31:46
  Speaker 6: reason why that is.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: Such a powerful life lesson is because it is so true.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: It is something that we actually need a reminder of
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: quite often, and more often than I think we think.
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: All Right, chicks, thank you so much for listening. We
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: absolutely love to be here.
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: And thanks to m I K Made for making today's
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: episode happen. We love you, love it.
• 32:12
  Speaker 6: Bye,