Latest / Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast / 374: Pivoting to Your Purpose with Human Design
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- 0:01Nicole Laino: Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated
- 0:05to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
- 0:09flow without sacrificing results.
- 0:11Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
- 0:15according to your human design.
- 0:17I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
- 0:22Hello and welcome to Unshakeable With Human Design, everybody.
- 0:26I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we are here today, just the two of us, and we're
- 0:32gonna talk about something that I see.
- 0:35Come up with a lot of people who end up in my programs.
- 0:38Certainly we're going into the Authority Accelerator Masterclass.
- 0:42In fact, if you're listening to this show on the day that
- 0:45it is released, we start today.
- 0:47We start May 12th.
- 0:48So if you're listening to this, anytime between May 12th and that
- 0:51Friday, which I believe is the 15th, if you are listening to this.
- 0:55Between the 12th or the 16th, you can still get in on the action
- 0:59and you can still register for it.
- 1:01The Authority Accelerator Masterclass is my five day masterclass where I
- 1:04take you on a little journey of how you build a business according to your human
- 1:08design and step up into the authentic authority that you are meant to be.
- 1:13So if you wanna join us, all you have to do to register is go to Nicole
- 1:16Laino dot com slash masterclass.
- 1:18You could do it right there on the website, or if you prefer dms and
- 1:22you want me to do the work for you or my little bot in the dms, just DM
- 1:26me the word masterclass on Instagram.
- 1:28I'm at Nicole Laino official, and we will register you right there in the dms.
- 1:32Super simple, but my whole point of bringing that up.
- 1:36Is before these masterclasses, I do these connection calls with people
- 1:40who are joining the masterclass.
- 1:42I love to talk to people who are joining the class 'cause I wanna hear what
- 1:45people are going through right now.
- 1:49What did you join this masterclass for?
- 1:51Because there are so many ways that I can go with this and I tweak it and
- 1:54rewrite it every time that I do it.
- 1:57So I really wanna bring something new and fresh, and I wanna make
- 1:59sure it suits the people who are sitting in the seats, right?
- 2:03So I offer these connection calls where we get to sit down.
- 2:06Quick, 15 minutes, they get to meet me.
- 2:08I get to meet them, I get to hear their story, and they can ask me a
- 2:12question or something and we can just quickly get through and, and make
- 2:16like a real human connection, which I think is sometimes missing in the
- 2:19way that we do things in this world.
- 2:21And one of the things that I see come up time and time again in these calls,
- 2:25certainly the people who I work with, either in my private coaching people
- 2:30who come to me for readings, looking for insight, and then the people
- 2:35who end up, you know, in the, in the longer term programs with me, where
- 2:38they're working with me for a year inside BBD and Business by Design.
- 2:41I say this over and over again and it is this.
- 2:44Pivot problem that people come with, should I stay or should I go?
- 2:49And maybe you feel like this right now.
- 2:51I hear it a lot where kind of chances are you've had some experience
- 2:56with this theme that I'm about to talk about, which is, you know,
- 2:59feeling like pivoting is necessary.
- 3:03That, that things right now are not okay as they are.
- 3:08That we are maybe feeling unfulfilled.
- 3:11We feel frustrated.
- 3:13We know something needs to change, but change can be scary.
- 3:18And I think because our mind starts, I. Churning through all the possibilities.
- 3:22What could go wrong?
- 3:24How are we gonna do it?
- 3:25Like so many questions and our mind gets really tired and
- 3:30overwhelmed when there are so many questions that we cannot answer.
- 3:34Okay?
- 3:35So this feeling like a pivot is happening.
- 3:38Now, I'll also say that sometimes it's just the time of your life that
- 3:41you're in, that you really might be in a pivot moment, literally.
- 3:45That you might be getting to your nodal gate change, where you're going from
- 3:49the south node to the north node where you suddenly feel like you care about
- 3:54different things in different ways.
- 3:57Not that the other things go away completely, but that it's
- 4:00changed and you don't know why.
- 4:02So sometimes just knowing that you're in that moment.
- 4:05I did a reading for somebody the other day and literally when they had booked
- 4:10the reading was like a week after their Chiron, their Chiron returned,
- 4:17which, and they were a six line, they were a six two and as a six two, it's
- 4:22like the biggest change of their life.
- 4:24And I just asked, I said, you know.
- 4:26How do you feel about your life right now?
- 4:28And they're like, you know, I feel like, you know, things are shifting.
- 4:30I feel like something's happening and I don't know what it is.
- 4:33And I said, well, you're actually like literally in that change,
- 4:36like in the dead center, like almost to the day of it right now.
- 4:41And so these interesting moments in our lives, you know, the Saturn
- 4:45return when you're about 28 to 30, that's big for everybody.
- 4:50The ous opposition, which is where we talk about when the north node
- 4:54and south node shift happens south to north, that that happens around
- 4:59the age of anywhere from 42 to 45.
- 5:03We usually see.
- 5:05It's usually somewhere around 42, 43.
- 5:07Lately, I've been seeing a lot of people at 44 is when their change happens.
- 5:12So sometimes we have these cosmic changes that are happening that are causing us
- 5:15to feel like, oh, I've gotta make a move.
- 5:18Now.
- 5:18What happens when we're in that place?
- 5:22And I meet so many people because I think human design and self exploration
- 5:28and maybe trying to, sometimes those things can be an escape and
- 5:32sometimes they can be, you know, how we are working our way through it.
- 5:35So I think a lot of people who are in that questioning phase
- 5:39of like, where do I go now?
- 5:41What do I do now?
- 5:42How do I make a change?
- 5:44They start to find something like human design.
- 5:46So some people, the people who resonate with the way that I teach
- 5:49it end up doing something with me.
- 5:52And you know, it can be an array of ways that they do it with me, but what I see
- 5:56universally is that people kind of wrongly think that there are only two options.
- 6:04That they either burn everything to the ground and start over from scratch.
- 6:10They literally blow up their life.
- 6:12Or they feel like they have to leave things exactly as they are,
- 6:16that they have to stay the same.
- 6:19Or they have to take a sledgehammer to their entire
- 6:23life, to their entire business.
- 6:25And I wanna talk today about how you use human design to actually support
- 6:30you in the process of figuring out if a pivot is necessary, what that pivot
- 6:35is, and whether you honestly really do need to blow up your entire life
- 6:40in order to experience fulfillment.
- 6:43And I'm not gonna say that sometimes we don't.
- 6:45Some people really need to burn it all down.
- 6:48Some people really do need to question everything and knock it all down and
- 6:54build it all from scratch, but more often than not, what I see is people
- 7:00are just, they have such a preconceived notion about what their life can look
- 7:05like, what it should look like, what possibilities are out there for them,
- 7:10who they are as a person, that they have this, they've put themselves in a box.
- 7:16So they think that the only way to get out of that is to destroy the box completely,
- 7:26and that fire is the only way out.
- 7:29But really it's like the cage door is open, you can choose to walk out
- 7:33of it, and then suddenly maybe you don't have to have such destruction
- 7:38all around you in order to have the same freedom that you're looking for.
- 7:42And I see this a lot, a lot with people with business.
- 7:45I see it with career pivots.
- 7:46I'm obviously, who's someone who's made career pivots quite a lot in
- 7:51my life, and I have burned it all down and I have made subtle tweaks.
- 7:56Those are, I've experienced both.
- 7:58I have, you know, left my corporate job and made, you know, the 180 left
- 8:04New York, left Wall Street, moved cross country to Los Angeles, became an
- 8:09actor, and then found entrepreneurship.
- 8:12It's a pretty hard turn, right?
- 8:14But then I've also pivoted in my business where I taught mainly
- 8:18business strategy in the beginning.
- 8:20Then that expanded to mindset and then that expanded and shifted to human design.
- 8:25And then I was at that pivot point where I was like, okay, I
- 8:28want it to just be human design.
- 8:29Now I've gotta like get rid of all of this other business stuff.
- 8:32I gotta get rid of all of this other stuff.
- 8:33I've gotta like, I just have to be this human design person now.
- 8:37And that didn't quite feel right either, but because it felt better
- 8:41than being exactly as I was before.
- 8:44Like again, that either or I either leave things exactly as they are.
- 8:49Or I make this hard shift into 100%.
- 8:53The other thing for multidimensional beings, what I learned there in
- 8:57human design helped me find this answer and find this truth, and find
- 9:01this path, which was that there was a reason that I was drawn to both.
- 9:06I. And it gave me new insight into how I could change things to make it
- 9:10feel aligned overall without having to burn everything to the ground.
- 9:15That helped me actually grow faster, grow more strongly with a solid
- 9:21foundation under me, and I didn't have to throw my life into turmoil in order
- 9:26to make the change that felt right.
- 9:28Okay.
- 9:29I just wanna share some examples from like clients that I work with because maybe
- 9:34you are facing this now and I wanna talk about, you know, the hard pivot and then
- 9:40the more subtle tweaky pivot that we can make and how human design plays a role.
- 9:45So one client comes to mind, I did not get permission to use their names or anything,
- 9:50so I'm just gonna keep this anonymous.
- 9:52But one client comes to mind, she is pivoting from a really huge career.
- 9:56And that's scary, and I understand that.
- 9:58I did that too.
- 10:00It's a scary thing.
- 10:02But when you know that you are kind of on the path of your destiny, that you
- 10:07are in alignment with your purpose, it definitely does get easier, but
- 10:12you start out questioning everything, and that's what this client did.
- 10:15She's questioning everything.
- 10:17And before she found human design, she was just, I think the question becomes,
- 10:21it's like, well, this is what I do.
- 10:24I can't just start a whole new career now.
- 10:27What's that gonna look like?
- 10:29I can't wrap my head around that being an easy transition.
- 10:33So it starts to feel even scarier and even more hopeless and more aligned
- 10:39with possibility of going broke.
- 10:41Then you know, your hopes and dreams coming to life, right?
- 10:45So.
- 10:46When she came to me, she came definitely, and it's been very interesting and
- 10:51exciting and, you know, really made my heart sing to watch a client make.
- 10:57Such huge strides.
- 10:59She's really done that inner work, and I think she's a great example of how
- 11:03the inner work leads to clarity on what the outer work needs to be and how once
- 11:10you have clarity on that and you get really clear about where you're going,
- 11:14then doing all of that technical stuff around it becomes a whole lot easier.
- 11:20So this client, she started to really dive into her human design.
- 11:25She just got really curious about herself and I think you know this
- 11:30particular client, she's a three line, so I think looking at her past and
- 11:34getting really comfortable with the fact that her journey was going to be
- 11:38messy and it was meant to be messy, that allows you to let go of a whole lot of
- 11:43shame that you're probably carrying.
- 11:45I'm not sure, I know many threes that don't carry some shame.
- 11:51For the wreckage or the not getting it sooner, or it just not
- 11:56looking like a clear, smooth path?
- 11:59I'm not gonna say none because I don't think my husband necessarily, but he
- 12:02actually, he has some things that he's like, yeah, I, you know, I kind of fumbled
- 12:05my way through that stage of my life.
- 12:07I don't think he dwells on it very much, but it's definitely, it's a thing.
- 12:12He's also very, very self-confident.
- 12:15He likes himself.
- 12:17His gate 10 is in very, very high expression.
- 12:21A lot of threes that I meet carry some sort of shame, guilt, kind of just like
- 12:27a, can be a pessimism about them for sure.
- 12:30Where, and they may not even know it 'cause it might not be
- 12:33this front and center thing.
- 12:34I'm not meaning this to say that they are like brow beating themselves all
- 12:37the time about how worthless they are or how, what failures they are.
- 12:42No, no, no, no, no.
- 12:44It's much more covert than that.
- 12:46It's the thing that says like, you should thank your stars that you're here and
- 12:51that your life has worked out like this.
- 12:54Don't go changing anything now as a three, you're meant to change things.
- 12:58So this client really getting into contact with who she's meant to be
- 13:04through her profile, and then really getting into contact with her purpose
- 13:09and understanding what that meant.
- 13:11Now this has happened with multiple clients with the same incarnation cross
- 13:15where they feel like they need to.
- 13:16Their fear is like, I gotta go deep with everybody.
- 13:18I have to take everybody on this big, long journey.
- 13:20I have to go really deep.
- 13:21And it's like, no, you are the spark.
- 13:25You are the igniter.
- 13:27You are the person who breaks.
- 13:31People open to a new direction, but you do not need to steward
- 13:35them through that entire journey.
- 13:38In fact, you probably won't enjoy that.
- 13:40Now the preconceived notions about what it has to look like, oh, oh, oh.
- 13:44It doesn't have to be the way I thought.
- 13:46It doesn't have to be like that.
- 13:48It gets to be different.
- 13:49Ooh, now what can I dream up?
- 13:51This is what makes this process so incredibly fulfilling, interesting,
- 13:58and and insightful because when we are aligned with possibility, it makes
- 14:03it so much easier to do the work.
- 14:06To show up every day to write the content, to do the podcast, to, you
- 14:10know, book the launch and do the launch.
- 14:14All of that technical strategic work.
- 14:16If you are battling yourself the whole time, or if you are believing that
- 14:20it's not possible for the thing that you want to actually happen, that's
- 14:24gonna hold you back, that's gonna be something where you're procrastinating,
- 14:27you're not doing the thing, you put it off all of that, and that means
- 14:31you have work to do around that.
- 14:32Now inside my programs we also do visioning exercises.
- 14:36It's not just human design, it's, I use a lot of manifestation techniques
- 14:40around the human design stuff.
- 14:43I use my EFT to Decondition and really let go of that trauma small T big T trauma.
- 14:49I. I use visualization so that you're actually able to see something different
- 14:55and make that thing really specific so we can, and we use NLP techniques
- 15:00to help you feel closer to your future and make it feel possible for you.
- 15:05But it all comes from like that.
- 15:07Opening up and aligning and understanding what your purpose is makes all of
- 15:11that other work so much easier.
- 15:14So much easier to visualize a future.
- 15:16That feels like it's aligned with your preordained purpose, then it just feels
- 15:22like, oh my God, I'm meant for this.
- 15:24And that's very exciting.
- 15:26So, right.
- 15:28And that client, you know, she's very aligned with her purpose.
- 15:31She feels it lit a spark in her.
- 15:33It made her feel more empowered to walk boldly in that direction.
- 15:39She's launching her new offer next month.
- 15:43And she has this whole thing happening and she's super lit
- 15:45up by it and she's so excited.
- 15:47But that's like, that's the hard pivot.
- 15:49And we've worked out kind of an exit strategy for her other business.
- 15:55Here's another thing.
- 15:56People o often look at that transition, right?
- 15:59How do I go from living one life to living this life and not have
- 16:02that feel like one has to crumble in order for the other one to live?
- 16:06Well, the truth is, is that, you know, I don't think that it serves anyone.
- 16:11I. To quit something that is your livelihood and that you rely on and
- 16:17send your nervous system into complete and total freakout mode, and then
- 16:22you put pressure on your new business to deliver something that you spent
- 16:26years building and you expect your new business to deliver instantly.
- 16:30I was putting a lot of pressure on you on the business, and it's
- 16:35sort of just been my experience.
- 16:37Some people have a different one.
- 16:38I. But what I have seen people do is that just messes with the energy that
- 16:44you bring to your business because you're so scared all the time and
- 16:47you're disappointed in the business because every single win isn't enough
- 16:52unless you are one of those people who has a $200,000 launch out of the gate,
- 16:58which quite frankly, particularly these days, is not happening very often.
- 17:04I'm not saying it can't, just don't see it all that often.
- 17:08But we can see big change.
- 17:11But to make yourself feel like there's a bit of a softer landing, I don't
- 17:15think that there's any shame in that.
- 17:17And you energetically, you work with kind of cutting the cord
- 17:20on your old life gradually and moving over into this next thing.
- 17:25And there are techniques that you can use to do that.
- 17:28But codependency doesn't just happen with people.
- 17:30Codependency happens with careers and businesses and jobs all the time, right?
- 17:36It's scary to let that go.
- 17:38The antidote to that, to codependency is independence.
- 17:43The more independent you become, the more empowered you become to be
- 17:46exactly who you are and feel like you can stand on your own two feet.
- 17:50You will find that you very naturally can let the other thing
- 17:53go and that's really the game.
- 17:56One other story that I wanna share about a client two actually come to mind, but
- 18:02I'm gonna focus on one 'cause that was the hard pivot, the one that I just explained.
- 18:06Then there's the tweaking.
- 18:07A lot of times we think we need to hard pivot and maybe you are in this
- 18:11situation right now where you think you need to break it, burn it all down.
- 18:16You need to like, okay, I don't love my offers anymore.
- 18:20I don't love what I'm doing.
- 18:22I, my program doesn't light me up.
- 18:24My, this doesn't light me up.
- 18:25My service doesn't light me up.
- 18:26I don't wanna do this anymore.
- 18:27I wanna do this other thing right now that can often feel like, you
- 18:32know, sometimes it's like I. I feel off about my business and that's
- 18:36what these clients were experiencing.
- 18:38I just feel off, I don't really feel lit up by it.
- 18:42I don't really wanna do it, but it pays the bills and something just hasn't been
- 18:47right and it hasn't been lighting them up.
- 18:49Right.
- 18:50I. And they think they need to hard pivot.
- 18:54Okay, well what's next?
- 18:55So they start looking at the whole wide world and say, well, maybe it's this.
- 19:00Maybe I'm gonna switch to this type of coaching.
- 19:01Maybe I'm gonna switch to this thing.
- 19:02Maybe I'm gonna do this.
- 19:04And what I suggested with this particular client that I'm thinking about, I
- 19:08suggested, I was like, why don't you explore your design a little bit, dig
- 19:11into the work we do in the BBD program.
- 19:14Just start to explore who you are, what your purpose is.
- 19:19Because the way that we do that work, it's not just about reading
- 19:22the definitions in the human design books and in my database that I give
- 19:26you access to, or in the report that I give you after you're reading.
- 19:31It isn't just about that.
- 19:32It is about the reflection that you have and we give you workbooks
- 19:36and stuff to start working through that, but it's a way of merging you
- 19:42and seeing how this chart has been working you through your whole life.
- 19:49Every moment of every day, it's your program and you've either been forced into
- 19:54a program that is misaligned or aligned.
- 19:58Now, some of us are horribly misaligned and everything feels often.
- 20:02Usually though, there's a level of desperation in that type of setup.
- 20:07I don't get a whole lot of people where it's that bad.
- 20:12Usually I get this.
- 20:14Through her exploration of her design, through her exploration of what it means
- 20:20to be her profile, what it means to be a generator, noticing what lights her
- 20:25up, what makes her frustrated, noticing that it isn't everything about her
- 20:29business that makes her frustrated.
- 20:30Just some of the things.
- 20:32Okay, well now we can start exploring and ask some better questions.
- 20:36One of my favorite quotes is the Tony Robbins quote.
- 20:38I believe it's Tony Robbins.
- 20:39The quality of your life is determined by the quality of questions you ask.
- 20:44I asked her, I'm like, well, okay, well how would it feel if you didn't do
- 20:49those things anymore and you did these?
- 20:52How would it feel if you tweaked this?
- 20:55Or sometimes I can ask a question about a particular gate or a particular aspect
- 21:01of her chart and it lights a new spark.
- 21:05It's like, I never thought of it that way.
- 21:08And usually what we find is that it isn't this giant leap from where they are.
- 21:12I. It's like a step to the side, and then it's taking some of the things off the
- 21:17plate and maybe rearranging and reworking her offer and her messaging so that we
- 21:23are, you know, for, for this particular person I'm thinking about, you know,
- 21:27she's like planning on doubling down on a niche that she has wanted to serve but was
- 21:32too afraid to niche down to, and that's.
- 21:36Really powerful.
- 21:37And it isn't just about knowing what your nodes are.
- 21:40'cause that's the part, you know, when I talk about the cosmic niche, there's
- 21:44a specific process that we take you through of understanding who your cosmic
- 21:49niche is, but then what you do for them.
- 21:52What do you have to offer them?
- 21:54When you start to explore the way we do, it's like, oh, I, I
- 21:57never thought about it that way.
- 21:58I actually am kind of serving sort of those people now.
- 22:02Or when I think about it through my own experience, this is what comes up.
- 22:06Interesting.
- 22:07Okay.
- 22:08Can we build something that actually still incorporates the
- 22:11thing you've been doing all along?
- 22:13We're just actually maybe adding some things.
- 22:15What I've seen is a lot of people moving to this more holistic framework.
- 22:21Of, I think people have felt jammed into strategies, jammed into
- 22:26frameworks, jammed into formulas.
- 22:29Your offer has to be this way.
- 22:30You have to offer one thing, you have to message it this way, and that can
- 22:36sometimes lead to not really loving what you created because it's like,
- 22:40oh, I had to create it, but I had to create it like this, you know?
- 22:44It's like the studio getting involved in the movie.
- 22:46It's like you have the movie, it's written, it's great.
- 22:49And they're like, yeah, but you need to change this.
- 22:51You need to shorten it.
- 22:52You need to put these actors in because we have favors that we need to return.
- 22:57You have to shoot it here, not there, and then suddenly it doesn't
- 23:00feel like your movie anymore.
- 23:02By putting human design first and asking questions and exploring through
- 23:07that, it becomes your movie again.
- 23:10It becomes your choice.
- 23:12The changes you make have purpose and lead you to your purpose.
- 23:16'cause that's really what we're talking about.
- 23:18When you start looking for your purpose path and you find it, if you're
- 23:22looking in the right places and the right place to look is in yourself.
- 23:26If we keep thinking, it's out there.
- 23:28We keep thinking that the purpose path is gonna be someplace
- 23:30out there, but it's here.
- 23:32It's in you.
- 23:33Human design is just that framework to show you what's in there.
- 23:38To show you how to get the answers that live inside of you out, which is what
- 23:43most of us kind of know cognitively.
- 23:46But then we say like, well, how do I get the answers out?
- 23:48Well, you explore in this way.
- 23:52So I'm gonna go through not only this, not only the human design aspect, I'm
- 23:57gonna go through my whole framework for actually building a business
- 24:01according to your human design.
- 24:03I run a human design first coaching business.
- 24:07Everything comes from you first, but then you do need business strategy.
- 24:11You still need to know how to structure it.
- 24:13Offer.
- 24:13Once you've created the idea for it, you do still need to have
- 24:18a way of delivering a message.
- 24:20You do still need to structure your message in a way that people understand
- 24:24the value that your offer provides.
- 24:26These things are standard.
- 24:28We can just do them from a place where we come first.
- 24:31Where the movie being great comes first.
- 24:34Not necessarily whether it will be a blockbuster, you know, but we can
- 24:39have a world where both happen, where we can be profitable and aligned.
- 24:43And that's what I'm gonna be teaching in the Authority Accelerator Masterclass.
- 24:46So if that interests you, please come.
- 24:49It's free.
- 24:50All you have to do to register is go to Nicole Laino dot com slash masterclass.
- 24:54You could register there on the website or DM me the word masterclass on Instagram.
- 24:59I'm at Nicole Laino official and I'll register you right there in the dms.
- 25:03So thank you.
- 25:04I hope that this made you feel like pivots are possible, that a pivot doesn't
- 25:08have to be a big sharp 180 turn, that it can be something that is more subtle,
- 25:13that is more tweaking and still deliver you the satisfaction and joy that comes
- 25:18from the change that you're looking for, and that you see that human design
- 25:22can be hopefully a navigation system for you to help you find your purpose.
- 25:26And if you're interested in that, I hope to see you in the
- 25:28Authority Accelerator Masterclass.
- 25:30'cause that is.
- 25:31Where I teach from and what I'll be teaching inside that, inside that, in
- 25:34that masterclass, is how to really make human design that GPS in your business
- 25:41and bring you back to you, and then build a business that supports you and
- 25:45fulfills you financially and spiritually.
- 25:48So I hope to see you there.
- 25:49Thank you so much for being here with me, for making it to the end of this episode.
- 25:53I appreciate you.
- 25:54And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
- 25:58first become an unshakeable human.
- 26:00So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design everyone.
- 26:03We'll see you next time.
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- 26:11And if you'd like to connect with other entrepreneurs on their human
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- 26:28We'll see you there.