Latest / Gospel Talks Podcast / #58 - How to Share Your Faith with Confidence and Authenticity (Part 1)
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- 0:0061 % of unbelievers answered this question.
- 0:05If a friend asked you to study the Bible with them, what would you say?
- 0:1061 % said yes.
- 0:12Of the 30 and above, 42 % said yes.
- 0:16And I just think there are more people who are open.
- 0:24Well, good morning, Castleview.
- 0:25Good to see you again here on the Castleview Baptist podcast.
- 0:28I have a very special friend today.
- 0:30His name is Jeff Musgrave, and many in this area would know you as Pastor Jeff Musgrave.
- 0:38Thanks for being on, first of all, today.
- 0:40Thank you for having me.
- 0:41Appreciate you being here today.
- 0:42You got to tell me, we've known each other.
- 0:45I think we met when we were looking at the area to start.
- 0:50Do you remember that?
- 0:50I do.
- 0:51I we were going to start the church.
- 0:52We were thinking about it.
- 0:54It would have been maybe 2008 early before the church started.
- 0:58I think we came up to a service.
- 0:59Yeah, you've been in our church and we were involved in getting the church started.
- 1:06It's been exciting to us to watch the process down through the years.
- 1:10You've done a great job here.
- 1:11Well, we were always encouraged by you all because you did it up there.
- 1:15You started uh Highlands Baptist Church up in the, it's actually in Highlands Ranch, isn't it?
- 1:20Well, it's just on the north side.
- 1:22It's not actually in the
- 1:24city or the area of Church.
- 1:26But it's called Highlands Baptist Church.
- 1:28Highlands Baptist Church.
- 1:29How'd you get there?
- 1:30Did you always, was that something that you always wanted to, did you see yourself as a church planter?
- 1:35yeah, yeah.
- 1:36When I was in uh college, I traveled on a ministry team from our school and 10 of the churches that we were in for the summer were church planting churches up in New England.
- 1:48And God just really stirred my heart and said, you know, that's what I want to do.
- 1:53I want to start a church.
- 1:54I actually told people I was going to New England to start a church.
- 1:57Is that right?
- 1:59Just took a little bit too much of what I thought God was saying.
- 2:04But in the process, Ed Nelson, who both you and I are very, very close to, Anna grew up in that church and he had mentioned to me just almost in passing,
- 2:17you ought to come out here and start a church.
- 2:20And so one uh day after I graduated from undergrad, I called him and I said, what were you thinking?
- 2:27Let's talk about this.
- 2:29he said, well, you finish your grad degree and we'll make it happen.
- 2:32And so literally he prepared.
- 2:35We became uh members of South Sheridan Baptist Church and was a church plant from South Sheridan.
- 2:43And so that his goal was that we would start a church that would be a church planting center.
- 2:49Sure.
- 2:49And so Highlands actually started four other churches besides Highlands.
- 2:54I love that.
- 2:55And it was really, really our focus.
- 2:59We thought that was life.
- 3:00We didn't know there was going to be any other life after Highlands.
- 3:04ah What was it about church planting that appealed to you?
- 3:08I didn't.
- 3:08I never thought about church planting.
- 3:11You know, I was in college, we traveled for a couple of years for Pensacola Christian, went to be a youth pastor in North Carolina, and we knew our time there was coming to a
- 3:19close.
- 3:20We were there for six years and got a way to pray about next steps and the Lord started putting on my heart church planting.
- 3:27I had never thought about it before.
- 3:29What was it that kind of attracted you to it?
- 3:32You saw those church plants up in New England.
- 3:34It was actually pretty exciting to me because with 10 different
- 3:37church plants in the summer, we saw different stratas of growth and we were in a church that met in a bowling alley.
- 3:45ah There was something exciting about starting carving something out of nothing that I just really liked.
- 3:54Something resonated in you.
- 3:56I love that idea.
- 3:58I'll tell people sometimes now, uh if I had the choice, I'll tell young guys, if I had the choice of taking a church or starting a church, I'd start it in...
- 4:0610 times out of 10.
- 4:08gets in your blood.
- 4:08I guarantee you, you drive by a place and you think, oh, someone could start a church there.
- 4:12Yes, yes.
- 4:13You see all the, they got the parking, they got the space, they got whatever it takes.
- 4:17So you came out of South Sheridan.
- 4:20How long were you there serving on staff with Dr.
- 4:23Nelson?
- 4:23Well, I actually never served at South Sheridan.
- 4:26I joined, I joined their staff as a church plan.
- 4:29As a church planter.
- 4:30Okay.
- 4:31So you got finished with your, with your graduate work.
- 4:34you moved out here with the idea of let's just go get started with the church.
- 4:37How old were you?
- 4:39I was 26.
- 4:40Is that right?
- 4:41Would you recommend to most 26 year olds you're ready to go plant a church?
- 4:45I actually tell guys you can do a lot more than you think.
- 4:49I think it's us older guys that hold them back.
- 4:51mean, they've got the drive, they want to do it, but we tell them, you're not old enough.
- 4:57Sure.
- 4:58You're a sharp guy though.
- 4:59You can do more.
- 5:00I wasn't ready at 26 personally, I don't think to be able to go into.
- 5:03Well, I'm not sure I was ready.
- 5:04It just happened.
- 5:05I don't think you are ever ready.
- 5:06I think it's a good point.
- 5:07I read a, we're getting ready to start the church.
- 5:10I read a book.
- 5:11It was probably about this thick.
- 5:13I think it was the title of the book was something like, yes, but how of church planting or something.
- 5:20And it backed you all the way up to like 54 months.
- 5:24before the church starts, right?
- 5:26So it's almost five years and I'm reading this book and it's going, hey, at 54 months do this and at 48 months do this and it intimidated me so much that I finally said, you know
- 5:39what?
- 5:40I don't have 54 months to be able to start this.
- 5:42And what I found that I wonder if you found the same, there is a season of a baby church and it's almost like a little fawn getting its legs under it a little bit.
- 5:52You don't have to have
- 5:54every single thing in place, every policy done, every little thing, every dot of every eye, there is a growing up part of the church.
- 6:04Did you find that too?
- 6:05Definitely.
- 6:06I think though that you and I did it differently than what most people are doing today.
- 6:10Most people go in with a staff.
- 6:12They do.
- 6:13You got a team of at least three pastors.
- 6:16ah And uh I just think when you go in as a single guy, I'm going to start this church and you
- 6:23praise the Lord, God gave you some people that came with, and I think that uh is the core that you have to have.
- 6:30But it's different.
- 6:33And so what you did, what I did, it's different than what most of the guys are doing these Would you do it differently now if you had a chance to do it again?
- 6:41You'd get more of a team together.
- 6:43the thing about the team that I didn't like was that it takes longer to become self-sufficient because it just takes more cash.
- 6:53ah To be able to do it, but I think that people are excited enough about doing it well that you can Have people raise the support that they need sure and I think if you can
- 7:05start with the staff and have a few programs So in other words, we've got somebody who can take care of children um The problem is when you do it all by yourself you you have to do
- 7:15it in pieces.
- 7:15You do.
- 7:16Yeah Yeah, you can't start everything away around it
- 7:18Where did you guys meet first?
- 7:19First Sunday, where were you meeting?
- 7:21We met in a little elementary school called Willow Creek Elementary.
- 7:25So you've heard that Willow Creek Church.
- 7:28I had Willow Creek Baptist Church uh and we met there for two years.
- 7:35Elementary schools are difficult because they go through seasons and literally we had, I preached one Sunday with a bat hanging in front of my face.
- 7:44uh
- 7:45So it was less than ideal, but we grew to about 70 people in that school and moved to a Grange building.
- 7:54And we actually used the Grange building more than the Grange did.
- 8:01we were in that building for about three years.
- 8:04And then God gave us the property that Highlands was built on.
- 8:09lots of miracles.
- 8:11You know this.
- 8:12No church planter can ever build.
- 8:15without miracles.
- 8:16You look back and say, God, if that didn't happen, if you didn't allow that to happen and you'd kind of piece it all together.
- 8:22So you said you grew about 70 in the school.
- 8:25Church growth experts will tell you that there are growth barriers and know, 60, 70 is one of them.
- 8:32100, 120 is one of them.
- 8:34200, we hit all.
- 8:37It's strange.
- 8:38at all of them.
- 8:39Yeah.
- 8:39We stopped at all of them.
- 8:40You know, it's, it's so strange.
- 8:42Why do you think that's true?
- 8:44And what do you do um to help go through that?
- 8:48I've got a couple of thoughts about it, but did you hit the growth barriers also?
- 8:52Definitely.
- 8:53I think that part of it is that people get comfortable in a certain setting.
- 8:58And that's one of the things that really I get real passionate about is helping God's people to recognize their potential to grow the church.
- 9:09I mean, that's really the church growth mechanism is God's people.
- 9:13Yes.
- 9:14And so if you get into a building and it is 80 to 90 to sometimes 100 % full, um nobody is looking to, man, we gotta grow our church, but you get into a new building and it's like,
- 9:28man, there's nobody here.
- 9:31And I think there's excitement levels that go with the new buildings, all different kinds of things.
- 9:37But I think it's more than anything else, helping your people see the potential and the need.
- 9:43to be reaching people.
- 9:44Yeah.
- 9:45So you said something really interesting.
- 9:47People, your church people are the church growth mechanism.
- 9:52What do you mean by that?
- 9:53Because don't we just send out the digital stuff?
- 9:56Can't we just put a video up on Facebook?
- 9:59Let that be the marketing strategy of the church.
- 10:02Why would you say that church people are the church growth mechanism?
- 10:06Well, you probably heard the statistic.
- 10:09m
- 10:11the majority of people, vast majority, won't stay in a church longer than six months if they haven't found at least five people in that church that they consider their friends.
- 10:22And so it is our people that allow people to grow roots in a church.
- 10:29Your programs are important that ministers to people, but that's not really what holds people.
- 10:37What holds people in a church
- 10:39is when there are people around that become part of their community.
- 10:44And so that's why it is so critical.
- 10:47I do think that churches have a lot more potential to actually reach their neighbors.
- 10:53I don't know that many of us are actually seeing that happen.
- 10:57And that's really part of what the exchange is all about is helping people to see that potential.
- 11:02But in terms of growth mechanism, your church is never gonna grow.
- 11:06more than your people are reaching the people that come and visit.
- 11:10Yeah, but they've got to find that connection.
- 11:12We say at our church a lot, uh people are not looking for a friendly church, they're looking for friends.
- 11:18And there is a difference between those two things.
- 11:20I mean, friendly church, we don't do this anymore, but back in the day when I was growing up, hey, everybody stand up, shake your neighbor's hand or whatever, some church do it
- 11:28that's fine.
- 11:29We just, after COVID, we haven't done that since then.
- 11:32uh But...
- 11:34Everyone was really good sometimes in churches I've been in the past and you shake hands and you see each other.
- 11:39But as soon as the service is over, you know, the groups kind of get together, they go get lunch and they kind of forget all of the newer people.
- 11:45If you don't make a connection, you may like the preaching, you may like the children's ministry or the music or whatever.
- 11:52But if you don't have a connection at some point, you're going to leave.
- 11:55And by the way, the other, the other is also true.
- 11:57You may put up with the preaching.
- 11:59You may put up with, with something that's not exactly right, which sometimes church plants.
- 12:03You know, you don't have the quality that maybe another church down the road does, but you make a connection and that makes a big difference.
- 12:10It really does.
- 12:11And I, I feel like, the whole idea of being friendly and making friends, two different things.
- 12:19We're in a different church almost every Sunday and, everybody's friendly to me.
- 12:24I'm the, I'm the speaker.
- 12:25I'm going to, but my wife sometimes, I mean, she could literally, if she didn't go find people to talk to,
- 12:32She could go through an entire Sunday with no one saying a word to her.
- 12:36How did you develop that at your church?
- 12:38mean, our church is listening.
- 12:40ah How did you develop that in your church?
- 12:43We've got some really excellent uh connectors and great guest services teams and host teams.
- 12:51ah But I feel like that's something you can always do more of and do better at.
- 12:57How do you develop that in your church?
- 12:59Number one, you're right.
- 13:00It has to be a culture.
- 13:01It has to be something that people just are constantly aware of and want to do.
- 13:06And so that that's the baseline is you have to help your people really want to do that.
- 13:12But uh Anna, uh my wife is quite she comes up with ideas and we had a plan that we called Secret Servants and um
- 13:23people would sit in a particular area of the building because once people get in and sit down, that's where no more connections take place.
- 13:33And so these were people assigned to sit down.
- 13:35They had no badge.
- 13:37And their job was if someone came into your area, you just be friendly to them.
- 13:42You talk to them.
- 13:43You invite them to lunch afterwards.
- 13:47it...
- 13:49what we felt like we were trying to do is find the people that were naturally connectors and then give them kind of a region in the building to be responsible for.
- 14:00That's great.
- 14:00We have a lady in our church, I've had several people tell me, uh and her name is Wanda.
- 14:07And if you're sitting in her section, she's gonna let you know, hey, you're in my section and I wanna know everyone in my, you know, not that she has a job, but I just sit over
- 14:14here.
- 14:15And we have hosts and we don't always put our host in badges because we want them to feel like, okay, these are, and they are normal church members, but we want you just to make
- 14:24sure that you're talking to people and organic conversations and all of that.
- 14:29So it doesn't happen by accident.
- 14:30You know, back in the day, if someone came to our church and visited a few weeks,
- 14:36always went to see them.
- 14:37It was what pastors did in those days.
- 14:40And I would always hear them say, oh yeah, I met, and they would name, guy named Howard Long.
- 14:52Howard was just one of those guys that was so friendly.
- 14:57And he would connect with people, he would ask them to come sit with them, he would take them to dinner afterwards.
- 15:03And I would always, mean, literally, I never went to anybody's house that they didn't meet Howard.
- 15:09Howard is about six foot five and uh he was a big man.
- 15:15Yeah, couldn't miss him.
- 15:16And when Howard hugged you and he was a hugger, I you have been hugged.
- 15:23And he was really kind of the centerpiece and part of what helped us build that culture.
- 15:28Yeah, interesting.
- 15:29We've got we've got two or three people that on a regular basis.
- 15:33I mean if I talk to a guest like you're talking about will name uh One or two or three of these people and I just want to stop here for a minute and talk to our church uh We are
- 15:43equipping every one of you.
- 15:45We're knighting every one of you.
- 15:47You have the responsibility We're giving you that charge.
- 15:50We want every person
- 15:52to be that kind of person in our church.
- 15:54That's a culture thing.
- 15:55It's not, uh you know, a couple people can do it and it doesn't become your culture, but when everyone is on mission with that, and our mission is leading people into a growing
- 16:05relationship with Jesus, and we preach all the time that, listen, it doesn't matter what your role is, you are help, you may not be preaching the message, you're preparing people
- 16:15to receive.
- 16:16the message.
- 16:17You can be working in nursery and by your kindness and your organization and the way that you took that child, mom can leave now and go sit down and go, my child's taken care of.
- 16:27I don't have to worry.
- 16:28I can listen to what I'm about to listen to.
- 16:30There's a lot of pieces and what you've heard this stat, people make a decision in the first moments.
- 16:38I mean, it's just before the preaching ever happens.
- 16:42Now the preaching can turn them off and they can not choose not to come back then.
- 16:46But before the preaching even starts, sometimes before the music starts, they're deciding, is this a place I could ever come back to?
- 16:55Well, and you've heard this before, you know, people who tell you about how did you find Castleview, and they'll say something like this, you know, I walked in the door and knew I
- 17:07was home.
- 17:08And there is just something that helps people recognize this is a place where I can feel connected.
- 17:15I like the word connected better than I like the word comfortable because there are some uncomfortable moments in church.
- 17:20Sure, sure.
- 17:22But but the the connection is what keeps me there.
- 17:25That's right.
- 17:26And that that doesn't just happen from the platform.
- 17:29Yeah, that happens primarily by the way that people are handling them as they as they come into the door.
- 17:34Absolutely.
- 17:35So you you started in that school, you were there for about two years.
- 17:38did you go where did you go from there?
- 17:40We went to a Grange building and back in Inverness, often
- 17:44office park way back in the back part of that area was a new building.
- 17:50The Grange building in that area had been torn down because I-25 was expanded and they built them a new building, but it was way in the back.
- 17:59We had to put signs up to get people to find it.
- 18:03But it was a perfect place for us, a little incubator for our little church to grow.
- 18:07Yeah.
- 18:07Did you find it hard to get people to visit the school?
- 18:10I know we did, know, people going, we don't want to be in the church that's not going to be here in a year, you know, the startups.
- 18:16And we had a lot of people say, listen, we loved the church, but we don't really want to set up chairs every week and be mobile.
- 18:23We really didn't grow past 80 um until we got our building.
- 18:29Until you got your building, sure.
- 18:31What happened in the Grange building was that that church matured into a uh family.
- 18:38Sure.
- 18:39Up until then it was just a bunch of people meeting for preaching and it was there that we really grew into a family.
- 18:45Okay.
- 18:45And then you all built a beautiful building there at Highlands Baptist.
- 18:49What year was that?
- 18:50How many years in were you when you got in your first building?
- 18:53We built the building in the fifth year of our ministry.
- 18:57So God just did a lot of amazing things.
- 19:00Yeah.
- 19:00That's miraculous.
- 19:03We were given the property as a, in the
- 19:06day 1987, think, it was valued at $1.25 million.
- 19:13Wow.
- 19:14It's right on a main road.
- 19:16You can't miss it.
- 19:17Yeah.
- 19:17And it was a gift.
- 19:18was total.
- 19:20Nobody paid a penny for that.
- 19:23uh then the people who gave it to us actually helped us develop the property.
- 19:27And so we ended up having to build the building itself.
- 19:30in those days, it was so much less expensive.
- 19:33I mean, I think we put the building up for less than a half million dollars.
- 19:36That's amazing.
- 19:37uh Did you do it in phases?
- 19:40Auditorium first?
- 19:41No, we built uh a two-story structure with the auditorium on top.
- 19:47It was just a, the whole structure was there, but it was uh unfinished upstairs.
- 19:52And then we built uh our Iwana circle downstairs and that became our first little auditorium.
- 19:59And then as we filled that up, we finished the upstairs.
- 20:02Sure, okay.
- 20:02So you ended up pastoring Highlands Baptist for how many years?
- 20:0526 years.
- 20:0626 years.
- 20:06So I tell people I was 26 when I started it and I I pastored for 26 years.
- 20:11So I'm going to do this for the next 26 years and see what happens after that.
- 20:15Well, tell us about what this is now.
- 20:16You've started a ministry called the Exchange.
- 20:19Yes.
- 20:19And was that a surprise by the way to your church when you you surprised to me?
- 20:24Was it really?
- 20:25How did that happen?
- 20:25so just as a little bit of a background, you'll tell us a bit more about it.
- 20:28You're you go and equip churches.
- 20:31to give the gospel.
- 20:32You've done it at our church, you've sat down, we have several sessions, and you equip people to give the gospel.
- 20:38How did that start?
- 20:40it an admissions conference that that started?
- 20:44What happened to say, you know what, I'm gonna leave the church that I love, that I founded, we started, we're in a building, things are going great, I'm gonna go do
- 20:52something else?
- 20:52It was actually the tools that we built for our church that
- 20:57began to be successful.
- 21:00It was actually effectively reaching people.
- 21:03And as I developed those tools and was asked to go speak in places and help other people use the same tools that I began to realize this is this is something that could really
- 21:16impact people.
- 21:192001, I was asked to go to Singapore to train a church there.
- 21:27And I took five of our laypeople with me and we did the, in those days we called it a soul winning conference.
- 21:38And that little church really took off and grew because they understood the laypeople were the ones who should and could be reaching their coworkers, their neighbors.
- 21:52And as I watched that happen, it just started ticking in my brain.
- 21:58I wonder if we began to lay people around the world to be able to do this.
- 22:06What would happen?
- 22:07And that's really the beginning place in my brain.
- 22:11And as we developed the tools and began to help our people at Highlands begin to use those tools, it just said, man, I think I have to leave here and I have to go do this.
- 22:23I've never considered myself anything but a pastor.
- 22:26But I feel like the pastor's job is to equip the people to do it.
- 22:30We tell people that you should be making disciples, but we don't always equip them to do it.
- 22:37And so that was really what the exchange was all about, trying to help people to be able to.
- 22:41Love that.
- 22:42So needed.
- 22:43You were so helpful to our church.
- 22:45And by the way, you've been doing it for a long time.
- 22:4816 years now.
- 22:4816 years.
- 22:49You've been traveling with the exchange.
- 22:51I would like our church to hear this and then I want to get into a little bit of the gospel and how we can be more effective uh givers of the gospel.
- 23:00Our church has a family in it, the Rogers family.
- 23:03Mike, Renee, the kids, great people and faithful members now they've been with us for a number of years.
- 23:10We couldn't love them more, just a great, great family.
- 23:13And they came to Christ through you.
- 23:17Can you just maybe give us a little bit of a background to that or what happened or how did that come about?
- 23:22Well, um it's actually a longer story than I probably should tell.
- 23:27um Michael's coworker was saved in our church and her husband was close friends to the family and he got a brain tumor and died.
- 23:41Michael came to the funeral and at the funeral, I
- 23:47read from Van, the man who died, I read from his Bible study, because we had done the Bible study with him, he trusted Christ, um how Van said, I know I'm on my way to heaven.
- 24:00And Michael came up to me after the funeral and he said, I had no idea.
- 24:05I didn't know you could know.
- 24:07He said, and I said, Michael, would you be interested in doing the same Bible study that Van did that brought him to this knowledge?
- 24:15And so we did the Bible study with Michael and Renee.
- 24:17It took us four months to get it done.
- 24:19uh They were very, very busy.
- 24:22We were busy just trying to find times to connect.
- 24:25uh And I actually along the way wondered, is this one going to take?
- 24:31Yeah, sure, sure.
- 24:32uh But uh the last time we met in lesson four, the Bible study itself kind of gives an invitation.
- 24:42And Michael said, yeah, I want to do that.
- 24:45And both Michael and Renee trusted Christ that night.
- 24:49Both of them got baptized.
- 24:52I remember telling Michael, Michael, the next step for you is to come to church.
- 24:58And his friend Mary Ellen was a part of our church still.
- 25:01I said, you know, you'll know Mary Ellen.
- 25:03He's well, I know you now.
- 25:05I'll just come and hang out with you.
- 25:07And I just thought that was really helpful for me to see that the Bible study.
- 25:14gives you those relational uh tools that kind of just bring you close to people.
- 25:18Yeah, when you talk about the Bible study, are you talking about the four week Bible study?
- 25:22It took you four months or so to get through that with it.
- 25:24was four lessons.
- 25:26Sure, four lessons.
- 25:27But it took us like once a month we did it.
- 25:29You taught us that when you came through and I had a man that was attending the church ah and they ended up moving to Tennessee.
- 25:37But I had a man that was attending the church and I was burdened for him and we were having some conversations.
- 25:43ah But you left after that and I said, you know what?
- 25:46Hey, why don't we go through this for weeks?
- 25:49You know, and he agreed to it.
- 25:51And so we started working through that.
- 25:54And I think it was actually the third week we sat down and we were getting lunch together that day.
- 26:01And I called him my name and I said, hey, what holds you back?
- 26:05I mean, what are the challenges or what are the questions you have?
- 26:09And he said, you know, we've been talking about this.
- 26:13nothing holds me back.
- 26:14And we prayed right there at that restaurant and he received Christ.
- 26:17And it was just a really cool experience.
- 26:20My wife and I had gone to dinner with he and his wife when they first started coming to the church.
- 26:24She knew the Lord, he didn't know the Lord.
- 26:27His mom had passed away years ago and he struggled with the idea that, well, I don't believe my mom knew Jesus.
- 26:36If she's not gonna be in a heaven, well, I don't know if that's what I want, right?
- 26:40I mean, he struggled with it.
- 26:42And that really helped me to walk through your study and just give him a very simple but clear presentation of the