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EP. 23 "It Cost to Be The Boss" · We Talk Back

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Speaker 1: Talk talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with
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Speaker 1: an opinion. Who talks back? Police Navida? Police Navida? What
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Speaker 1: I mean is that somebody name that's about Christmas in it?
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Speaker 1: I feel like that's a nick name, Police Navida. You're
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Speaker 1: from Mexico. Hey, Police, Hello, Mr Navida, please come heave
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Speaker 1: a seat. I want to wish you a married Christmas. Damn,
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Speaker 1: that's what I mean. Yes, bitch talk about something name felice,
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Speaker 1: Mr Police Navida, stupid. Hey, welcome back to a new
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Speaker 1: episode that we talked back. It is your girl a
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Speaker 1: j ah. You know, there's a big difference between communication
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Speaker 1: and comprehension because it's like if two people don't understand
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Speaker 1: each other, fuck communication. We could talk all day long
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Speaker 1: exactly and do you but do you comprehend what the
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Speaker 1: funk it is that I am trying to communicate? Right?
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Speaker 1: And are you communicating to comprehend? Are you just trying
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Speaker 1: to get your fucking point across? Because that happens a
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Speaker 1: lot too. Yeah. So I just gotta learn to um,
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Speaker 1: I just gotta learn to shut up like you don't
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Speaker 1: get it. I no, I have to also learn to listen.
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Speaker 1: You know, when I was just saying, are you communicating
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Speaker 1: to get your point across? That's me. I'd be like
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Speaker 1: waiting on my turn. I don't even listen to what
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Speaker 1: the funk he's saying. Are just waiting on my turn
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Speaker 1: to speak. Look my older sister, she like a super
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Speaker 1: drouper customer service professional dog, and when we would get
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Speaker 1: into arguments, she'll stop everybody and say, listen, you talk,
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Speaker 1: and when you're done talking, everybody else has to repeat
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Speaker 1: what you said before they respond. That's good, exactly, But
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Speaker 1: imagine trying to do that in the argument because you're
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Speaker 1: not thinking about what the funk they said. That's the problem.
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Speaker 1: You're not even you're not even listening to what they said.
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Speaker 1: You hear a piece of it, and then you decide
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Speaker 1: what else they're gonna say so you can respond right.
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Speaker 1: One thing I can't stand is for someone to act
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Speaker 1: like they understand what you're saying, but then they start
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Speaker 1: the question off or their response off with But they
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Speaker 1: get on my fucking nerve because you don't You didn't
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Speaker 1: hear anything I said. If you have any rebuttal no,
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Speaker 1: that's not true. It is true. I don't like when
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Speaker 1: a person I don't like when someone apologized and then
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Speaker 1: go on after they finished apologize justifying what they did.
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Speaker 1: Why are you apologizing if you feel like you've got
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Speaker 1: a justification for your actions exactly, don't apologize today and
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Speaker 1: then a couple of weeks him. Now you're back on
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Speaker 1: the same fucking ship you apologize for a couple of
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Speaker 1: weeks ago and now justifying it all over again. This
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Speaker 1: this is the type of ship I fucking yell about. Dog. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: so y'all this week I'm trying to fucking woo saw.
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Speaker 1: I didn't have a good weekend for real, And yeah,
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Speaker 1: I don't saw an all fucking week dog, how was
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Speaker 1: your weekend? My nigga ghost to me, is you sure
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Speaker 1: it's your nigger? He for the streets? Apparently you want
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Speaker 1: my life to begin with temporary nigger. That's how it
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Speaker 1: goes down. So he's sad about it? Yeah, how sad?
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Speaker 1: Like this sad? Or this sad? Like six inch sad
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Speaker 1: or like two inch sad? Two inch? Two inch? Said?
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Speaker 1: I wasn't sick over the weekend. I was six and
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Speaker 1: sad over the weekend. I wasn't here. I'm going there.
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Speaker 1: I was here with Mary J. Blige. If you savage
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Speaker 1: do not listen to Mary J. Blige, you might slit
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Speaker 1: your dad wrists. I was about to jump over the balcony.
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Speaker 1: N he lived in California. He lucky and flights was high.
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Speaker 1: Pull up and be like, just come outside, I just
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Speaker 1: want to talk. We're gonna jump you girls. So this
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Speaker 1: weekend stupid internet news, um shop, what the fund do
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Speaker 1: you think about La La and Carmela as Anthony? I
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Speaker 1: love La La. I feel like everybody like La La
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Speaker 1: except that nigger. Um. I remember one summer I was
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Speaker 1: in the club in Miami and La La and Carmelo
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Speaker 1: was next to us. It was club bed in Miami,
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Speaker 1: and they had a section next to us, and it
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Speaker 1: was like to their beds, so their bed was right
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Speaker 1: next to our bed. And it was La La car
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Speaker 1: Mellow and Solange was in the bed too with them.
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Speaker 1: And I had took off my shoes because I couldn't.
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Speaker 1: I was on the bed, you know, so I couldn't
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Speaker 1: get on the bed and my my heels. And we
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Speaker 1: got drunk. We were having a good time to promoter,
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Speaker 1: like put us in this section, and he was feeding
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Speaker 1: us liquors. So me and my home girls was faded
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Speaker 1: and then we were ready to go, and I couldn't
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Speaker 1: find one of my shoes, so I was looking all
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Speaker 1: over for my pump, my sandal and Lilon salons. Was like,
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Speaker 1: what is she not game for fire? What is she doing? Bitch?
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Speaker 1: I am not trying to fun Carmelo? Are you whoever
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Speaker 1: y'all with? Really that's what he was acting. Yeah, Kevin asked,
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Speaker 1: what is she looking for? I'm not looking for your nigga,
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Speaker 1: so don't worry about it. I just want my shoes
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Speaker 1: so I can leave. Girl. People be getting these men
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Speaker 1: that they know they can't trust, and you around head
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Speaker 1: can't look yourself in the marriage super insecure. Like if
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Speaker 1: you're gonna get a hole, you don't get a womanizer.
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Speaker 1: Just learn how to deal with a womanizer. Right. So
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Speaker 1: when I said all of that to say that that
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Speaker 1: was like at least ten years ago, if not more so,
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Speaker 1: she's been probably having you know, insecurities about infidelity with
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Speaker 1: him for a long as time, So I know she's
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Speaker 1: probably at a space like you know what, boy, fuck you,
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Speaker 1: I'm tired. Yeah, I'm tired, So I command her for
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Speaker 1: moving on with her life. Yeah, but girl, you couldn't
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Speaker 1: tell me that they were not already divorced. For some reason,
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Speaker 1: I thought they'd been divorced, because it just looked like
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Speaker 1: she was out here living her best life for the
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Speaker 1: last oh they've been. Yeah, they've been separated. I think
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Speaker 1: so because her, her and Kim been out here holding
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Speaker 1: together and I've been here for it. So like, it
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Speaker 1: came out today that this woman who's um basically accusing
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Speaker 1: Pamela Anthon need um a fathering a set of twins
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Speaker 1: of hers. This woman is a Brazilian yoga instructor um apparently,
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Speaker 1: and she's she'd be um basically extorting niggas. From what
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Speaker 1: they're saying, she has a track record of extorting different,
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Speaker 1: you know, celebrities. So what's her name? What's her name?
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Speaker 1: Her Instagram handle is Brazil Yoga and um, her name
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Speaker 1: is hold on, Joanne the scammer shut up. Basically, hold on,
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Speaker 1: let me tell you that's been scam do yoga and
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Speaker 1: babysit said luised, all at the same studio, probably second
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Speaker 1: dick in there. They I'm pretty sure they fucked, you know,
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Speaker 1: in order for her to well, obviously they had to
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Speaker 1: have had sex for her to even be able to
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Speaker 1: hold that over his head. But you know what we
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Speaker 1: give it. We're given her a hard time. If he
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Speaker 1: would have kept his to himself or to his wife,
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Speaker 1: this wouldn't be a problem at all. But I like,
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Speaker 1: at this point, do I even expect, expect, especially these
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Speaker 1: rich men, to keep them their dicks to themselves for
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Speaker 1: their whole life. Here's the thing. The people in their
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Speaker 1: relationships are the people that need to be respecting it.
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Speaker 1: If the people in their relationship aren't respecting it, how
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Speaker 1: do you expect anybody outside the relationship to respect it?
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Speaker 1: So you also have to define what respect is in
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Speaker 1: your relationship too, being loyal to the person that you
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Speaker 1: you know took an oath too. Yeah, but sometimes loyal
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Speaker 1: doesn't mean no outside pussy. I don't really have that
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Speaker 1: unrealistic expectation on my nigga. I really don't or or myself.
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Speaker 1: I was just about this say that. Listen, I am
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Speaker 1: a one upper. Play with me if you want to,
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Speaker 1: We're gonna both be on the same type of time.
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Speaker 1: It's not gonna be a situation. Um, I'm gonna be
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Speaker 1: a dumb bitch for two fucking long. Either either I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna leave you or you're gonna stop playing with me.
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Speaker 1: Those are options. I just I don't even let's say
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Speaker 1: I get with someone today and we fall in love
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Speaker 1: and we get married. I don't have the expectation of
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Speaker 1: him not having sex with no one for the whole
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Speaker 1: entirety of our lives outside of me. I just don't
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Speaker 1: feel like that's a realistic It's not. So then that's
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Speaker 1: the conversation that you need to be having in the
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Speaker 1: very beginning of a relationship. It can't be a situation
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Speaker 1: where we haven't been together for ten fifteen years and
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Speaker 1: you can't stop getting outside pussy and now all of
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Speaker 1: a sudden is a conversation about open relationship. At this point,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do that with a new relationship. I'm not
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Speaker 1: even about to try it with you, because now the
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Speaker 1: trust has been broken a long long time ago. Right,
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Speaker 1: You don't even deserve a bit to be cool with
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Speaker 1: that at this point. You deserve the headache I've been
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Speaker 1: giving you about the actual correctly activities you've been doing.
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Speaker 1: I would prefer to get out that relationship and have
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Speaker 1: that discussion with a new person, honestly, because I mean
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Speaker 1: the damage and in the animosity you already have towards
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Speaker 1: each other, like sometimes that ship cannot be repaired. Right,
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Speaker 1: So now I'm waking up every morning when Anna, who
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Speaker 1: are Anna? Anna? Animosity? Ain't that what her name? Yes? Girl,
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Speaker 1: that was her name? So I am definitely for a
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Speaker 1: la la um. You know, just being happy if this
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Speaker 1: is this is gonna make you happy if you haven't
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Speaker 1: been happy for a long time, and um, I just
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Speaker 1: went through. I just feel like, you know, in relationships
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Speaker 1: now we have traditional expectations, but our our relationships are
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Speaker 1: no longer traditional, you know, And I think we need
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Speaker 1: to reevaluate our expectations relationships so we can be happy.
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Speaker 1: I don't think it's it's a coincidence that are divorced
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Speaker 1: rates up, in our marriage rates down. We are being
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Speaker 1: real about what we can provide each other in our
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Speaker 1: relationships and what our expectations of each other in our relationships.
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Speaker 1: And that's why she ain't working, Yeah, because people be
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Speaker 1: trying to really own own people out here instead of
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Speaker 1: just experiencing them. You can't own somebody, you don't own people,
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Speaker 1: and should change. So just just just always needs needs
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Speaker 1: to be an open line of comprehension, right, Basically, the
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Speaker 1: communication is an open line of comprehension that I like
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Speaker 1: that I'm gonna put that on some draws. Stupid, all right,
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Speaker 1: So now look before we move on to the next segment,
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Speaker 1: let's have a word from our sponsors. And look, this
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Speaker 1: is the last topic we're gonna talk about from the
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Speaker 1: fucking internet, Meg the Stallion and the ship that's going
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Speaker 1: on with the baby and Tory Lanes. What do you
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Speaker 1: think about that whole situation? Um, I just want I'm
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Speaker 1: ready to find out what the funk really happened with
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Speaker 1: Meg and Tory Layes, so we could put this ship
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Speaker 1: in the bed. Okay, I didn't hear it. Did you
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Speaker 1: do it or did you do did you do it
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Speaker 1: or not? Like I didn't hear anything about charges being dropped.
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Speaker 1: Even now, lawyers if he has a good lawyer, lawyers
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Speaker 1: are pretty good at de Layne delayed inevitable. But that
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Speaker 1: does not mean that he's not guilty of shooting her.
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Speaker 1: So I guess um she felt like you know, her
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Speaker 1: and the baby have a particular type of rapport because
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Speaker 1: they do. They have made some hits together. You could
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Speaker 1: have done a song with anybody in the industry, the baby.
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Speaker 1: Why Tory Lanes if this is arch enemy of one
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Speaker 1: of your good friends, or maybe she doesn't consider make
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Speaker 1: the stallion a friend. Maybe it's business and it ain't personal.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I've been beating up bitches all last summer,
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Speaker 1: so I don't know. But look, you don't think that
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Speaker 1: this is just imagine a narcissist type man, Right, you're
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Speaker 1: gonna make a song with the nigger that clearly fox
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Speaker 1: with me. I'm talking about Tory Lanes. Oh yeah, so
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Speaker 1: that is something like slimeballs ship Tory Lanes is on right.
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Speaker 1: I feel like the baby shouldn't even feed into that.
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Speaker 1: That's some slimeballshit. It's some slimeballshit I've been making. Me.
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Speaker 1: Why wouldn't he want to make a song with the baby?
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Speaker 1: The baby is popping? You know, hey, fuck that I
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Speaker 1: would want to make a song with the baby if
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Speaker 1: I was Tory Lanes. Meg wanted the song with with
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Speaker 1: the baby for the same reason, Like he's hot right now,
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Speaker 1: and the baby wanted a song with Meg because she's
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Speaker 1: hot as well. Yeah, yeah, he hot with the fucking
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Speaker 1: police he had in these streets. Man, you can't deny it.
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Speaker 1: People people listening for him, I think they just want
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Speaker 1: to know what happens, just want to not like make
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Speaker 1: the Stallion. That's how I feel. Well. I don't care
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Speaker 1: are they going to court or what the fuck? Court
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Speaker 1: takes a long time. Sometimes justice takes a while sometimes
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Speaker 1: at aeberties. That don't mean it's supposed to be rushed right.
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Speaker 1: Just because they celebrities, he's supposed to not get a
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Speaker 1: fair trial. I'm like that party came to her defense
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Speaker 1: or whatever this and knows it the type of man
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Speaker 1: I like like party, like, I need to be comfortable
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Speaker 1: knowing if I pop off at you, my nigga gonna
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Speaker 1: beat you up. Yeah, but baby, my shoot party is
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Speaker 1: we know he would kill her. Now, I don't even
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Speaker 1: think it's gonna get that far, you know what I'm saying,
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Speaker 1: Just like we didn't think it's already gonna play when
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Speaker 1: it comes to this situation. Tory didn't shot at her. Uh,
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Speaker 1: the baby doesn't shot and kill the nigga in the walmart.
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Speaker 1: So it's already niggas who played and uh party is
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Speaker 1: a big god. Okay, both of them alone, niggas that
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Speaker 1: have to come if they was the square up, it's
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Speaker 1: not a square up situation. They're gonna pull guns out
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Speaker 1: on that. Look because Mega starting like sucking five eleven
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Speaker 1: six ft herself and parties taller that her. So yeah,
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Speaker 1: like that Nigga is I would love to see Megan
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Speaker 1: Megan party against the Baby and Tory fist fight. They
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Speaker 1: need to go ahead and set up a celebrity box
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Speaker 1: match and it should just be Party against Tory Lays
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Speaker 1: and the Baby. No. I want Mega jump in there too.
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Speaker 1: I bet she beat Tory Lays asking the fist fight.
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Speaker 1: You skirt say you're skirts anyway? Do we haven't asked
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Speaker 1: a black friend? I think we do for this week.
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna read it for you guys. Hello A J
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Speaker 1: and Tam Bam. I have a question for your black
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Speaker 1: friend's segment. Does black people love their dogs like we
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Speaker 1: white people do? Do y'all let your dogs sleep with y'all?
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Speaker 1: Do you kiss your dogs? My dog is my child?
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Speaker 1: How could you not just love them? Thanks? Becca, Becca, Now,
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Speaker 1: I'll be honest. So I have small dogs, A small dog,
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Speaker 1: Like when my dog first comes from the groomer, I
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Speaker 1: would let her sleep with me. She hasn't slept with
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Speaker 1: me in a couple of years though, because she got
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Speaker 1: like this, her colon hanging out her ass and sometimes
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Speaker 1: they had like a little blood on it. I see
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Speaker 1: in some little bookie out there hanging out the Yeah,
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Speaker 1: because I gotta make sure I keep her as shaved
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Speaker 1: dog because it's just I don't know what the funk.
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Speaker 1: I literally be having to clean the dog ass. She's
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Speaker 1: an old lady though, so yeah, and I'm definitely I
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Speaker 1: don't let dogs kiss me in the mouth. My dog
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Speaker 1: mouth smells like ship. So back up. Some black people,
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Speaker 1: as you can see, a j is one of them,
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Speaker 1: let their dogs sleep in the bed with them. And
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Speaker 1: we do love our animals, we do. I have, I
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Speaker 1: have had pets, dogs, and I've let them. I don't
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Speaker 1: let them sleep with me, and I don't kiss them
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Speaker 1: in the mouth. I don't play that ship. But I
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Speaker 1: did love them very very much. But why y'all be
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Speaker 1: letting y'all kiss, Why y'all be letting them do that?
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Speaker 1: I don't understand that part. Yeah, because I remember it
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Speaker 1: was a guy who died, He passed away because he
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Speaker 1: was letting his and there was video online and him
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Speaker 1: letting his pit bull lick them all in the mouth,
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Speaker 1: and then he ended up with some type of flesh
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Speaker 1: eating back back that took his nose off and ship right, Yeah, man,
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Speaker 1: you stop doing that, y'all white people. Stop doing that.
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Speaker 1: It ain't safe. Listen, you could die. It's nasty. And
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Speaker 1: I've seen two dogs on my elevator just now when
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Speaker 1: I went to start Bucks. One on was looking the
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Speaker 1: other dog asked in the elevator, and everybody was just
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Speaker 1: acting like that was okay, that's a freaky ship. And
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Speaker 1: then they gonna go home and let them kiss you. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Dogs bacteria like people like to say, oh, the dog
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Speaker 1: mouth is cleaner, No bitch, that is for that dog though,
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Speaker 1: that ain't for your human body. Whatever bacteria it is
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Speaker 1: that keeps their mouth clean. So why would you be
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Speaker 1: looking at my dog? Listen? How call the parts are weird?
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Speaker 1: I don't even like I don't even like dogs in
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Speaker 1: the restaurant with me, Like, why is your dog sitting
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Speaker 1: here looking staring at my piece of chicken on my
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Speaker 1: plate trying to get a piece? Leave me the funk alone.
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Speaker 1: I remember I got like a discount on my meal
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Speaker 1: at this restaurant here in Charlotte because they had their
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Speaker 1: dog on the patty over us, and the dog kept
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Speaker 1: on coming over my table asking for my chicken. Look,
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Speaker 1: I'm like, bro, I was like, yo, get your dog,
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Speaker 1: because even if we got a dog at the house,
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Speaker 1: like my dog doesn't go in kitchen, no, and no,
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Speaker 1: she doesn't go in bathrooms like she does. Dead boundaries, right, y'all,
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Speaker 1: don't have no boundaries for these animals. Like the animals
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Speaker 1: be training, y'all. Ass. I remember I had when I
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Speaker 1: was living in Europe. I had this homeboy. I can't
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Speaker 1: think of his name right now, but he's a white boy.
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Speaker 1: And we worked at the bar together and we got
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Speaker 1: off early because the bar was slow. He's like, let's
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Speaker 1: go smoke some weed. I was like, let's go, so
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Speaker 1: we can't. We was kind of drunk too, because we
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Speaker 1: was stealing shots that night. And we went over there
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Speaker 1: and uh, his wife was there. She was drunk already too,
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Speaker 1: and they had like some kind of hairy ass dog.
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Speaker 1: And when I tell you, it was dog hair. All
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Speaker 1: the house was covered in dog hair. I was sitting
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Speaker 1: like I was sitting like just my butt was clenched
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Speaker 1: up on the couch because I was like, I'm covered
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Speaker 1: in dog care. And then dog kept on coming up
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Speaker 1: to me and I didn't want to touch it, and
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Speaker 1: he was like, just pat him, just pat him. He
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Speaker 1: likes you just pat him, and I was like, I
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Speaker 1: don't want to fucking pet him, and he would not
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Speaker 1: leave me a law about petting the dog. I end
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Speaker 1: up leaving. I don't even want to smoke like you
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Speaker 1: with other people dogs. That dog was all up on
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Speaker 1: me every time I had on black pants. Every time
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Speaker 1: he comes closer, I have hair all on my black pants.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, man, I'm getting the funk up out of here.
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Speaker 1: Bro alright, So so Becca, Becca, right, so Becca, We
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Speaker 1: just don't. We just don't. It's just not sanitary. And
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Speaker 1: you know some people do, though, some black people do,
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Speaker 1: but they look at in the bad but in the mouth,
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Speaker 1: kissing in the mouth. I don't know, we don't. I
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Speaker 1: ain't never met a black person that do that. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: So I don't know. That's for y'all. Nothing, that's yeah,
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Speaker 1: thank you back up for listening. Appreciate you. Just kiss
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Speaker 1: me with your dog. Oh boy. So look, let's get
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Speaker 1: into today's topic because we're done talk talk talk talk
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Speaker 1: talk about a bunch of ship m hm. So you know,
21:08
Speaker 1: a couple of months ago, we were on Brilliant Idiots,
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Speaker 1: and some of the comments um on YouTube for that
21:15
Speaker 1: particular episode, like it was so many different men that
21:18
Speaker 1: just wanted to sick the character of Kevin Samuels on
21:22
Speaker 1: us UM And this week looks like Kevin Samuels has
21:26
Speaker 1: kinda changed his tone a little bit. Now He's always
21:30
Speaker 1: been like, you know, telling men about themselves before he
21:35
Speaker 1: started on women. But women are Black women is what
21:39
Speaker 1: has made him more lucrative and basically beefed up his
21:44
Speaker 1: career because we interact more. We're gonna talk shit, we're
21:48
Speaker 1: gonna check you. So now he's like super like souped
21:51
Speaker 1: up his platform, you know, m hm, basically fucking with
21:56
Speaker 1: black women. So that this week, So this week, Kevin
21:58
Speaker 1: Samuels is saying that men should pay for everything if
22:04
Speaker 1: they want to be the boss. You can't check a
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Speaker 1: bit because you've got nothing check. You've got nothing to
22:08
Speaker 1: check with. The only place you dominate is in the bedroom.
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Speaker 1: Dominate on the balance sheet, Dominate on your wallet, which
22:15
Speaker 1: is your accomplishments. Any woman that you choose to deal
22:19
Speaker 1: with her money should be no good with you. If
22:21
Speaker 1: you hunt man, you paid everything? Why because it keeps
22:26
Speaker 1: her in her feemity when she's with you. I don't
22:27
Speaker 1: give a ship, but you don't want to put the
22:29
Speaker 1: work in so now when we say something like that,
22:33
Speaker 1: it comes off, you know, as if gold Diggs broke
22:37
Speaker 1: gold dig and as bitches. So this is why I
22:41
Speaker 1: always say, you know what, we don't need to address men.
22:44
Speaker 1: Men need to address men. And that's the bottom line.
22:47
Speaker 1: Men need to stop trying to address women and women
22:49
Speaker 1: need to stop trying to address men because men kind
22:53
Speaker 1: of take it better when they see visually see a
22:56
Speaker 1: man and what they do for their woman and when
22:59
Speaker 1: I'm man talks directly to them. So, what has been
23:03
Speaker 1: happened over the past few months, Kevin Samuels has has
23:06
Speaker 1: been addressing women, specifically specifically black women. Right, He's been
23:12
Speaker 1: addressing us, and so it's empowered bitch ass niggas to
23:17
Speaker 1: come for us for some reason. Right, So now that
23:20
Speaker 1: he's on a ass because these same men, he wasn't
23:23
Speaker 1: talking to the type of man that he even um
23:27
Speaker 1: these Okay, so these women wanted high value men, right supposedly,
23:31
Speaker 1: which really I don't even think that's the case. We
23:34
Speaker 1: just want a man that we could build with essentially, right,
23:37
Speaker 1: nobody's saying I just want this millionaire because his claim
23:40
Speaker 1: to fame came about what this one woman who just
23:43
Speaker 1: says she wanted a man to make the same amount
23:44
Speaker 1: of money as she did because she just found it
23:47
Speaker 1: harder dating men dating down right, And seems like in
23:51
Speaker 1: the black community, black women are the only ones in
23:54
Speaker 1: this world that don't practice hypergamy like we're We're just
23:59
Speaker 1: not some post the date up period. We're just if
24:03
Speaker 1: you got it, you're supposed to get a man down here.
24:05
Speaker 1: That's not right. So all men, all I ever wanted
24:09
Speaker 1: from a man, I just wanted. I want all men
24:11
Speaker 1: to aspire to take care of their family. You don't
24:16
Speaker 1: have to be doing it today, but you have to
24:18
Speaker 1: be a man with a fucking plan. So even when
24:21
Speaker 1: saying like men should pay for everything, all men shows
24:24
Speaker 1: should aspire to that, right, But black people in the
24:28
Speaker 1: trenches in America, it's just not a realistic goal for
24:31
Speaker 1: exactly the majority of Americans, you know, especially if you're
24:36
Speaker 1: a young. Relationship niggas be broke when they young. So
24:41
Speaker 1: I mean, if y'all can come together and figure it out,
24:43
Speaker 1: and then Bill, well that's beautiful, But first of all,
24:48
Speaker 1: are you why are you trying to control? Like it
24:50
Speaker 1: just seems like he's teaching them a control tactic and
24:53
Speaker 1: he's like, if you want to control your bitch, that's
24:56
Speaker 1: why he used the term bitch, and I was just like, seeing,
25:00
Speaker 1: that's my problem right there? Is it? Is it because
25:03
Speaker 1: you're trying to create healthy relationships? Are you trying to women? Yeah?
25:09
Speaker 1: He's really bad for the ecosystem. That's how I feel.
25:12
Speaker 1: I don't care how men feel. Are some women who
25:15
Speaker 1: go to him for advice. I definitely am not going
25:17
Speaker 1: to a man for advice. Now. I do like to
25:19
Speaker 1: talk about men when I'm experiencing issues in a relationship,
25:22
Speaker 1: just to make sure I'm not tripping, but I don't
25:25
Speaker 1: really need I want their perspective, not necessarily advice. Kevin
25:31
Speaker 1: Samuel's has a very skewed perspective on relationships, and people
25:35
Speaker 1: can say the same thing about us, but we know
25:37
Speaker 1: what people know, what the funk we'll be talking about
25:40
Speaker 1: that dude. There's some things that he says that I
25:42
Speaker 1: can I'll be like, all right, but if some of
25:45
Speaker 1: it is just like especially when he you know, has
25:48
Speaker 1: women on and they are in the opposition of his thoughts,
25:52
Speaker 1: he cuts him off and hangs up on him, and
25:53
Speaker 1: it's just like listen to what they have to say,
25:56
Speaker 1: you know, because this whole thing is is this my show?
26:00
Speaker 1: This is my show? But you would have a show
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Speaker 1: without these women calling, right, So you can't even listen
26:04
Speaker 1: to what they said. See that's why I'm sick of
26:06
Speaker 1: you fat bitches, and then hang up on them like dang,
26:09
Speaker 1: a fat beach. Can't have a perspective. You gotta talk
26:16
Speaker 1: to shame. So I mean, if if we are all
26:24
Speaker 1: in the trenches, we gotta work together. It's like, how
26:27
Speaker 1: do we build wealth if only one person is getting
26:29
Speaker 1: into the bag. It's impossible, you know what I'm saying.
26:33
Speaker 1: Most Black people in America are not coming from affluent family,
26:37
Speaker 1: so we have to be the start of an affluent family.
26:41
Speaker 1: That's when most of us, I believe, specifically millennials. Millennials
26:46
Speaker 1: are doing well. But the most part, like we got
26:48
Speaker 1: a lot of students on debt and that's one thing.
26:50
Speaker 1: And the children of millennials are like fox school, I'm
26:52
Speaker 1: about to figure out how to get this bag. They
26:55
Speaker 1: on YouTube, they're doing different shops are lip gloss and
26:59
Speaker 1: now stuff about the young women. So people talk about
27:02
Speaker 1: city girls, right, I don't think that city girls. I
27:05
Speaker 1: don't think. To me, city girls really don't promote promiscuity.
27:09
Speaker 1: They don't. They're basically saying, you can't have ext to me,
27:12
Speaker 1: access to me if you don't got the bag. So
27:15
Speaker 1: imagine like young girls like in the twenties like that probably, um,
27:19
Speaker 1: they probably not funking with dudes if they don't have
27:22
Speaker 1: no money. If women stop sucking, everybody will get the bag.
27:27
Speaker 1: All men will get the bag. They'll have the because
27:30
Speaker 1: young men ain't gon have no money right out the gate.
27:33
Speaker 1: You don't need money, but at least have a plan.
27:35
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. Young girls go get a car,
27:39
Speaker 1: they get their license. These young boys don't even be
27:42
Speaker 1: thinking about getting their license. That's not true, man, I
27:46
Speaker 1: have twenty year old cousins with no license, and all
27:50
Speaker 1: my girl cousins got cars and license that they probably
27:52
Speaker 1: purchased on the purchased the vehicle themselves. So you're not
27:56
Speaker 1: interested in this type of ship. Y'all even interested in
27:58
Speaker 1: women at this point? Someone mate, And that's okay too.
28:01
Speaker 1: But Kevin Samuels is telling men like, if you want
28:07
Speaker 1: a woman, um, if you want to be in control,
28:09
Speaker 1: you have to date, you know, a younger woman. But
28:13
Speaker 1: dating a younger woman also comes with other issues too.
28:16
Speaker 1: That you would. You're gonna expect things from her as
28:18
Speaker 1: if she's a grown woman on your age. She's not
28:21
Speaker 1: gonna be able to deliver on She's still growing herself,
28:24
Speaker 1: and she might grow and realize you ain't the nigger
28:27
Speaker 1: for her, your old ass. M h. So I feel
28:32
Speaker 1: like I'm just I feel like I'm I'm stepping into
28:35
Speaker 1: a cougar lifestyle. Get me a younger nigga, yo, Not
28:41
Speaker 1: like twenty or twenty one, that's too young, but like
28:45
Speaker 1: late twenties, late twenties. What are what are late twenties
28:49
Speaker 1: men doing with their lives? Well, they dicks are stronger,
28:52
Speaker 1: that's for sure. That's all you worry about. It's some dick.
28:55
Speaker 1: I got money. I got my whole money bringing a
28:58
Speaker 1: dick to man hunting. So you're putting the ad in
29:04
Speaker 1: the newspaper for a strong back. Yeah, no, I'm joking. Um,
29:09
Speaker 1: don't take me serious. I don't. I've only dated two
29:14
Speaker 1: men that were older than me in my entire life.
29:17
Speaker 1: That's it. They always be younger. I usually have men
29:22
Speaker 1: that are like at least two to three years older
29:24
Speaker 1: than me. Really, they all just feel it that way.
29:29
Speaker 1: I always date younger men. For some reason. Um, I
29:32
Speaker 1: just don't feel like not much younger though. I don't
29:35
Speaker 1: feel like picking dick up and dropping it off and
29:37
Speaker 1: doing bag lunches and ship I like giving him, baby,
29:41
Speaker 1: here go this turkey sandwich. I put it on rye
29:45
Speaker 1: tomato man that nigger every way with plate with wrapping
29:48
Speaker 1: for you. Hey, baby, I made these turkey wings last night.
29:54
Speaker 1: I don't know if you had lunch yet, but I
29:55
Speaker 1: was just gonna bring you a plate over if you
29:57
Speaker 1: wanted to know. I got that type of time. I don't.
30:01
Speaker 1: I only talked to young successful men though, right, you
30:05
Speaker 1: gotta have something going on, And I mean sometimes you
30:09
Speaker 1: gotta catch men when they're young. Like sometimes when you
30:11
Speaker 1: get catch a guy where he's already gotten a bag
30:13
Speaker 1: right now, because it just depends on what type of
30:17
Speaker 1: lifestyle that guy had before he got the bag. Was
30:19
Speaker 1: he able to get bitches before the bag or he
30:22
Speaker 1: got to use the bag to get bitches? Which one
30:24
Speaker 1: to get women? Now you got the bag, you could
30:27
Speaker 1: pick what youever woman you want, right so I would
30:30
Speaker 1: think that it was it would be better to be
30:33
Speaker 1: with a man on the come up as opposed to
30:36
Speaker 1: once he comes up, because women tend to date down.
30:41
Speaker 1: Men tend to date up, but then we're shunned for
30:45
Speaker 1: dating up. Fuck the head who cares what we're showing for.
30:50
Speaker 1: We're showing for pretty much everything that we do. And
30:54
Speaker 1: my question to men is always what would you have
30:56
Speaker 1: your daughters do? Is is it okay for your daughter
30:59
Speaker 1: to burn a bum, ask guy to the house who
31:02
Speaker 1: can't do shift for her, and and she's still calling
31:05
Speaker 1: you while he's laying in her bed when the rent
31:09
Speaker 1: is kind of when she doesn't have all her rent,
31:11
Speaker 1: you're stepping in to assist. And it's okay that this
31:14
Speaker 1: nigga is laying in the bed with her She needs
31:17
Speaker 1: new tires and she calling her daddy. She needs an
31:20
Speaker 1: all change breaks and she gotta call her daddy. But
31:24
Speaker 1: she's pressing a wide open depending on I know a
31:27
Speaker 1: lot of women that depend on their home girls when
31:30
Speaker 1: they need help. I have had one of my friends
31:36
Speaker 1: owes me money right now and she's married. Well maybe
31:40
Speaker 1: they ain't got it together. They got it, she just didn't.
31:43
Speaker 1: They were going through something she didn't want to go.
31:46
Speaker 1: She didn't want to ask him if anything, but she
31:49
Speaker 1: don't have any my money back. The problem is, here's
31:51
Speaker 1: the problem, with that, you should have access to all
31:53
Speaker 1: that money if we're married, did she I'm on your
31:56
Speaker 1: account and look before we get married and I got
32:01
Speaker 1: an account you don't know about. Yes, put me. Let's
32:08
Speaker 1: go to the bank today, baby, so we can get
32:11
Speaker 1: this our business situated. Yeah. Yeah, So, I mean it's
32:14
Speaker 1: always good to have friends that you can rely on,
32:16
Speaker 1: but I try not to do that as much as possible. Yeah,
32:20
Speaker 1: I'm not m I I just I'm learning not to
32:24
Speaker 1: overextend myself for nobody. So I feel bad for any
32:27
Speaker 1: friend because I got a couple of people who owe
32:30
Speaker 1: me money that I can't borrow the money from. Well
32:33
Speaker 1: they oh you, they ain't got it right, So why
32:35
Speaker 1: I don't wrote it off of course, But yeah, don't
32:39
Speaker 1: bet will you asked me for money, call me and
32:41
Speaker 1: say hey, can I have such a such, don't say borrow.
32:43
Speaker 1: I hate that if you're not gonna give it back exactly.
32:49
Speaker 1: But sometimes people have good intentions and then just don't
32:52
Speaker 1: fulfill them. I don't know, but you know, I hate
32:56
Speaker 1: to make this conversation about Kevin Sandys, but I mean
32:59
Speaker 1: he brought the topic up for this week about men
33:02
Speaker 1: doing everything for women, Like I love that I really
33:06
Speaker 1: do love it, you know what. I love a man
33:10
Speaker 1: that can do everything. I'll never require me to do
33:13
Speaker 1: everything for me, just because I'm just very independent and
33:16
Speaker 1: I'm just become so used to doing ship for myself
33:19
Speaker 1: and I can do it for my fucking self. So
33:23
Speaker 1: but if you could bring if you can take care
33:25
Speaker 1: of me and bring the ship, like the little frivolous
33:28
Speaker 1: ship that I like to the table, that would be great.
33:31
Speaker 1: Right now, you ain't gotta let me stop mine. I
33:36
Speaker 1: do want you to pay all my bills. One thing
33:40
Speaker 1: rich Nigga is they'll they'll start there. They will start
33:43
Speaker 1: imposing on your life. If they're doing a lot of
33:46
Speaker 1: stuff for you, I might might take you to get
33:49
Speaker 1: you know, tempare shoes right now, all of a sudden
33:52
Speaker 1: he telling you what to wear with those shoes and
33:54
Speaker 1: how to dress for him. So now he's customizing you
33:57
Speaker 1: for him because he's financing your entire life. So if
33:59
Speaker 1: you want to mainteen independence while in the relationship with
34:02
Speaker 1: a man who can, you gotta have your own money.
34:05
Speaker 1: You gotta have fuck you money. Mm hmm. I remember
34:08
Speaker 1: when I was like twenty three, I was dating this
34:11
Speaker 1: like Dominican drug lawder and you always talked about this
34:14
Speaker 1: Dominican drug law. It's funny every time you see. That's
34:18
Speaker 1: what the fun was. And he was paying my rent, right,
34:25
Speaker 1: and I mean, he was taking care of me, but
34:27
Speaker 1: he was trying to put me in an apartment in
34:29
Speaker 1: downtown Atlanta, and I knew that was gonna be way
34:33
Speaker 1: outside of what I could afford by myself. So I
34:36
Speaker 1: just went to marry it the child and got me
34:38
Speaker 1: like a little apartment right next to the big chicken
34:41
Speaker 1: roswell roade that I could afford. It was still nice too,
34:44
Speaker 1: but it wasn't because I already knew he was gonna
34:47
Speaker 1: try to control me more than he was already controlling
34:50
Speaker 1: my life. At that point, I can't And I feel like,
34:54
Speaker 1: to me, men who are like that, who can't take
34:56
Speaker 1: criticism from a woman, who don't want a woman that
34:59
Speaker 1: talks back. It's some men who like aggressive women are assertive.
35:02
Speaker 1: I won't even say aggressive because I'm trying to figure
35:05
Speaker 1: out why people always associate aggressive with masculinity, because I'm assertive, right,
35:11
Speaker 1: I'm all all of a sudden being masculine. No, why
35:14
Speaker 1: would you want some timid to ask woman that says
35:17
Speaker 1: more about the man than it does about the woman
35:20
Speaker 1: like you. You are probably a simple or probably like
35:23
Speaker 1: a beta male, and so to make yourself feel bigger,
35:27
Speaker 1: you get the small woman, right, You get this woman
35:30
Speaker 1: who can't think for her fucking self and who just
35:32
Speaker 1: let you run circles around her because you can't put
35:35
Speaker 1: up with a woman on your level mentally physically, um,
35:39
Speaker 1: not physically, sorry, I don't want to be not physically
35:45
Speaker 1: but financially sound and financially sound woman because then you
35:49
Speaker 1: can't control what she's doing. Like that's that's really simping.
35:54
Speaker 1: Saying you want to take care of a women and
35:56
Speaker 1: women rule the world is not simping. Saying you want
35:59
Speaker 1: something timid asked woman, that's something to me? Did you
36:03
Speaker 1: whack at the bottom at the end of the day
36:05
Speaker 1: you at I'm about to start faking like I'm timid
36:09
Speaker 1: so I can get me a nigga. That's what being
36:11
Speaker 1: submissive is all about. It's about manipulation. That's what I'm
36:16
Speaker 1: about to do. I'm like anything. I don't know, baby,
36:19
Speaker 1: don't you know whatever you may like, I'm gonna start
36:26
Speaker 1: barking and hopping on one foot foot. I'm tired of
36:29
Speaker 1: be it out here about myself a little Damn. I
36:38
Speaker 1: got some friends like that, like they'll transform for a
36:41
Speaker 1: nigger like they have. They have mastered the art of
36:44
Speaker 1: fucking manipulation. Basically, they put on like the super soft
36:49
Speaker 1: voice for the men, and you know they I'm a
36:52
Speaker 1: gonna start start really nice. I'm about to start doing that.
36:55
Speaker 1: My daddy said that, that's why I ain't got nobody,
36:56
Speaker 1: because in my mouth, that's what my daddy told me
36:59
Speaker 1: on Father's Day. Well, I'm glad your daddy at least
37:06
Speaker 1: has some advice for you. My daddy just was like,
37:08
Speaker 1: be by yourself, baby, being married to somebody for ever hard.
37:14
Speaker 1: That's the honest truth. Though, it's the honest truth that
37:17
Speaker 1: I can respect that too, But that nigga told me
37:20
Speaker 1: to be alone. So fellas, I'm just gonna tell y'all, right,
37:24
Speaker 1: now here you go, motherfucker. God damn, I'm tired. Ship. Listen,
37:39
Speaker 1: they love telling a black woman they're gonna die alone.
37:41
Speaker 1: First of all, if I get the bag, I could
37:43
Speaker 1: buy anyone of y'all bitch ass niggas. How about that,
37:45
Speaker 1: just like y'all could buy any woman. Once y'all get
37:47
Speaker 1: the bag, what die alone, I'll buy your daddy, nigga,
37:52
Speaker 1: I don't align with the things that a j is saying.
37:55
Speaker 1: All I have to say is on one ft and
38:01
Speaker 1: they got tired. I'll be damning by bark for these niggas. Man,
38:07
Speaker 1: I gotta ghost it this weekend. I'm I'm vulnerable. Man.
38:15
Speaker 1: The university moved him. Yeah, I mean you know what
38:18
Speaker 1: I'm about to call telling the hallway the psychic. Where
38:21
Speaker 1: is my basketball player? Right? Where is Serge Ibaka when
38:25
Speaker 1: you need him, Serge surgeon Baka. I ready to bark, fee,
38:35
Speaker 1: I'm ready to bark for you, but you gotta put
38:37
Speaker 1: in a really soft ways. Oh my god. But here's
38:40
Speaker 1: the thing. That ship ain't gonna last with me. I
38:42
Speaker 1: just can't. I can't help myself. I gotta talk. Hey,
38:48
Speaker 1: Like when the nigga says so crazy ship to you,
38:50
Speaker 1: it's just start bubbling up inside your body like like
38:53
Speaker 1: a thermometer. That fucking ran line just started raising up
38:56
Speaker 1: and raising up. Boy, horns come out, and it's even
39:00
Speaker 1: come out. And I was talking before I even know
39:03
Speaker 1: I'm talking. Man. Real men don't want that ship, man.
39:09
Speaker 1: Real men want a good, nice, assertive woman who knows
39:14
Speaker 1: what she wants. That's what real men want. I don't
39:17
Speaker 1: know what these young guys, these modern modern men are
39:20
Speaker 1: talking about. We need to have them all. We're gonna
39:23
Speaker 1: let's next episode. Let's bring some guys on and tell
39:25
Speaker 1: us what do you want? Like fucking the notebook? What
39:31
Speaker 1: do you want? Do you want me to shut the
39:35
Speaker 1: funk up? I'm writing down. Shut the funk up? Sometimes
39:38
Speaker 1: cook suck thick. Shut the funk up a little bit
39:41
Speaker 1: more like, tell me what you want, yeah, because we
39:46
Speaker 1: don't know. I can give you four out of the
39:49
Speaker 1: five exactly. We don't know what y'all want. And I
39:52
Speaker 1: don't think theyn't know what they want either. Men don't
39:54
Speaker 1: know what they want because they wake up every day different.
39:57
Speaker 1: They think they're simple, but actually men are more complex
40:02
Speaker 1: than they actually would like to admit. I don't think
40:05
Speaker 1: women are that complex. I'm pretty easy going, I make
40:09
Speaker 1: easy to love me. We are super complex, yeah, but
40:13
Speaker 1: I guess it's in different in different different ways, in
40:16
Speaker 1: a different way. We're just not alike. Men and women
40:18
Speaker 1: are not alike. And that's just the bottom line. So
40:20
Speaker 1: the sooner we realize, hey, we're different. So I don't
40:23
Speaker 1: want to be a man, and you could never be
40:25
Speaker 1: a woman, whether or not you say you are, you
40:27
Speaker 1: know it could just never happen. So we're just different.
40:31
Speaker 1: So instead of us talking to circle saying what women
40:34
Speaker 1: need to do better and what men need to do better,
40:36
Speaker 1: the bottom line is mutual respects people. That's it mutual respect.
40:41
Speaker 1: But I just I know I turned crazy on my period,
40:44
Speaker 1: crazy earth because people can tell like that I'm on
40:49
Speaker 1: my period, and I'll be mad when they can tell
40:52
Speaker 1: I'll be saying some old ass and I ship like, no,
40:56
Speaker 1: just going off for no reason. They're like, you are
40:58
Speaker 1: your period, Like damn, I don't pmss. I feel like
41:03
Speaker 1: the men I've been in relationships with period was on
41:06
Speaker 1: Hearder than Mind Nigga be like, good morning Todammy. I'm like,
41:09
Speaker 1: fuck you mean good morning Nick? You don't ask the
41:14
Speaker 1: goddamn maniac and you're already a cancer. So yeah, it's
41:18
Speaker 1: about to be cancer season. Fry baby, ask cancer season.
41:24
Speaker 1: What y'all sending me for my birthday? It's gonna be
41:26
Speaker 1: an emotional emotion me all your products and I talked
41:29
Speaker 1: about it on the show. Yeah, we do need to
41:32
Speaker 1: get our our segment. Girl, what you're doing, what you're wearing,
41:35
Speaker 1: where you're going segment popping for sure, so we can
41:39
Speaker 1: advertise some nice products from the black community and work
41:43
Speaker 1: on that. You guys, but send me your ship now
41:46
Speaker 1: because my birthday is on the sixth Team out cancer
41:50
Speaker 1: stand up. I see y'all. Let's all cry together, cry
41:57
Speaker 1: you know the thing that get me about you? Like
41:59
Speaker 1: you want? Look, Tam Bam will tell me all her
42:07
Speaker 1: little toxic traits, right, but for one reason, for some reason,
42:12
Speaker 1: she just feels like it doesn't correlate into friendship. Who's
42:19
Speaker 1: like that? That's how you act? How so you don't
42:27
Speaker 1: fucking listen. I told you that. I told you that.
42:33
Speaker 1: I told you that already, Ben, you're gonna break up
42:39
Speaker 1: with yours. That's one of my traits. Yeah, but that
42:45
Speaker 1: ship is not just for men. Yeah, that's my relationships.
42:49
Speaker 1: You would only listened to respond, not to comprehend. I
42:56
Speaker 1: said that in the beginning. Okay, yo, I cannot, I cannot, cannot.
43:01
Speaker 1: Somebody please save me. Nope, hold on, before we get
43:04
Speaker 1: into anything else, let's pay some bills real quick. All right,
43:12
Speaker 1: So we do have a dumb bad story for this week, Tam.
43:16
Speaker 1: So this dumb bad story comes from April. She actually
43:19
Speaker 1: sents us an email. Alright, so it says, Hi, tam
43:23
Speaker 1: M and a J. I love the show. You guys
43:26
Speaker 1: are always so relatable and very much necessary. Girl, I know, right,
43:31
Speaker 1: She's so sweet. Yeah. So this past weekend was Father's Day, right,
43:37
Speaker 1: and the guy I'm currently dating advised me on Friday
43:40
Speaker 1: that his kid's mom planned dinner for him Sunday. He
43:44
Speaker 1: wasn't asking permission, he was really just advising me of
43:47
Speaker 1: his plans. I understand the importance of children seeing their
43:52
Speaker 1: parents have a healthy relationship, but I don't like that ship, honestly,
43:56
Speaker 1: and I've been in my feelings about it. He called
43:59
Speaker 1: me late in the evening on Sunday and I didn't answer.
44:02
Speaker 1: He's been calling and texting ever since, but I feel
44:04
Speaker 1: a way I really don't like him right now? What
44:07
Speaker 1: should I do? First of all, bitch, don't ghost the nigga,
44:12
Speaker 1: I gotta ghosted this weekend. Don't gohost because you're yelling
44:17
Speaker 1: the damn Mike Food caved out. Sorry, I'm sorry, I
44:21
Speaker 1: was triggered. I was triggered. You a little stupid. I
44:26
Speaker 1: don't know, Like, communicate how you feel. Don't just ignore
44:30
Speaker 1: somebody that you're really dealing with. That part I don't like.
44:33
Speaker 1: I understand your frustration, but you're going to have to
44:37
Speaker 1: determine how you can coexist with the baby mama if
44:41
Speaker 1: you're gonna deal with someone with kids. Um, do you
44:45
Speaker 1: trust him? That's a question because that's most important. If
44:50
Speaker 1: you trust him, then what the fund go? Let him
44:53
Speaker 1: have his little salmon? Did it bring his ass home? Right? Um?
45:02
Speaker 1: And then maybe y'all can get to a place where
45:05
Speaker 1: y'all can do it as a group. You know, yeah,
45:08
Speaker 1: Because what I was thinking was what happens if the
45:11
Speaker 1: two then possibly get married and have a kid? Like,
45:14
Speaker 1: is he expecting her to carry on the same little tradition?
45:18
Speaker 1: Is it supposed to be now me, her and all
45:21
Speaker 1: our children? Because she said kids she I'm assuming it's
45:24
Speaker 1: more than one because it was floral. So what happens?
45:28
Speaker 1: You know? Is it okay for him doing that right
45:30
Speaker 1: now because she doesn't have kids with him? What happens
45:33
Speaker 1: later on if they continue on a relationship. You have
45:36
Speaker 1: to establish all this ship before and determine how you
45:40
Speaker 1: were going to be a blended family because that's what
45:42
Speaker 1: you're gonna be, whether you want to be or not.
45:45
Speaker 1: I don't think it's cool for her to not answer
45:47
Speaker 1: the phone for him, and if she had an issue,
45:49
Speaker 1: whether she should have, Um, she should have pressed him
45:52
Speaker 1: about it before Sunday, but she probably didn't, you know,
45:55
Speaker 1: feel obviously, I think we need more information from her
45:59
Speaker 1: because does she feel she doesn't have a real ground
46:01
Speaker 1: to stand on? Or is this somebody you've only been
46:04
Speaker 1: with for six months? You know, if it's a year
46:06
Speaker 1: long relationship and he read it now his Father's day
46:11
Speaker 1: and I'm about to be with my kids and and
46:14
Speaker 1: the mom, why can't I come? Right? You know, why
46:18
Speaker 1: can't I come? Have you met these kids? Right? Got
46:22
Speaker 1: a lot of questions, that's a lot of questions. So
46:25
Speaker 1: because if I were you have kids? Do you have
46:27
Speaker 1: a baby daddy? Like we're here right, I think she
46:34
Speaker 1: would have mentioned if she had kids, because she probably
46:36
Speaker 1: would have She probably would have seen something exactly. She
46:39
Speaker 1: probably would have said something like, UM, I don't know,
46:42
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be with my baby daddy, so it's cool.
46:43
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe she woudn't even have a problem.
46:45
Speaker 1: She had her own baby daddy, so I gonna assume
46:47
Speaker 1: she don't have any kids either. So that ship is
46:51
Speaker 1: territory that comes along with dating a man with children.
46:54
Speaker 1: So if it's a deal breaker for you to start
46:56
Speaker 1: dating men without kids, you know, how would you feel?
47:01
Speaker 1: You don't want you to your boyfriend to go have
47:03
Speaker 1: dinner with his baby woman and the kids. So here's
47:06
Speaker 1: the thing. I have been in a similar situation like
47:10
Speaker 1: this on multiple occasions. But it wasn't a father's day,
47:13
Speaker 1: was the kid's birthday. So now I'm around these children
47:16
Speaker 1: and when birthdays come up, you and kids mom are
47:19
Speaker 1: having like the birthday parties and I'm not invited. M
47:23
Speaker 1: I've been in situation twice. Yeah, I didn't push the
47:27
Speaker 1: issue about it, but then you know, my most recent relationship,
47:31
Speaker 1: we talked about it later on and he was like, well,
47:35
Speaker 1: if you were there, why would I invite you. I
47:36
Speaker 1: was like, I literally was at your house when y'all
47:39
Speaker 1: left to go to the birthday party. I don't know
47:41
Speaker 1: what you remember, but that's what I remember. Like, I
47:45
Speaker 1: just didn't you know, I'm not going And that's fine,
47:49
Speaker 1: especially if you haven't introduced me to your children's the
47:52
Speaker 1: other parents. I'm fine with that. We ain't there yet.
47:55
Speaker 1: My eggs, my eggs um. You know, he would do
47:59
Speaker 1: stuff with the baby mama and the kids, and I
48:02
Speaker 1: didn't feel away because she was ugly, and I was
48:04
Speaker 1: gonna beat her up when I saw her, So it's
48:07
Speaker 1: probably best that I ain't there. Why the funk was
48:10
Speaker 1: you gonna beat her up? Because she kept sucking trying
48:13
Speaker 1: me like she don't think it's because they were so
48:15
Speaker 1: fucking around. No, they wasn't. She was on a whole
48:17
Speaker 1: another continent. I don't even know how they could suck around.
48:21
Speaker 1: I was. We were living in Europe and she was
48:23
Speaker 1: in New York, so they can't funk around. I don't
48:28
Speaker 1: know how they could. And girl, I see your picture,
48:30
Speaker 1: you as ugly as hey. I'll get your little ugly
48:32
Speaker 1: as no no cause. And the bitch let me not
48:39
Speaker 1: even play like a get and pregnant and impregnated. She
48:46
Speaker 1: she had said right, she had said some ship. I
48:49
Speaker 1: had went through his phone and she had said some
48:51
Speaker 1: slick shit about me, and he didn't check it in
48:53
Speaker 1: the way that I felt like it needed to be checked.
48:56
Speaker 1: So I went ahead and called her so I could
48:58
Speaker 1: check it. I was polite, I was like, you know,
49:04
Speaker 1: since you're talking about me like you know me, I
49:06
Speaker 1: just felt like maybe I should go ahead and introduce
49:08
Speaker 1: myself probably, And I was like, look, you're not gonna win.
49:15
Speaker 1: Look at me, look at you, So give it up. Stop,
49:20
Speaker 1: let's just be friends. Don't call my phone anymore, big
49:25
Speaker 1: so your kids can have pretty siblings. No, the kids
49:32
Speaker 1: were actually really cute kids. They were sweet kids. And
49:36
Speaker 1: that's the only reason why I didn't beat up their mama,
49:38
Speaker 1: because I felt like, if I beat up their mama,
49:41
Speaker 1: then they're not gonna like me no more. Well you
49:45
Speaker 1: got to what, tam You ain't the best choice, right all? Yeah,
49:49
Speaker 1: I almost didn't know. And look, we are working progress
49:54
Speaker 1: every day we try to be better. So April, talk
49:58
Speaker 1: to you man, I you you know, if you really
50:01
Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship with him, have a
50:02
Speaker 1: conversation with him and let him know how you felt
50:04
Speaker 1: about it. And I mean, he seems like he called
50:07
Speaker 1: to you at the end of the night, but you
50:08
Speaker 1: were being childish. You ain't answer the phone for him.
50:11
Speaker 1: If you had had a problem. If you had a
50:13
Speaker 1: problem with it, you should have addressed it on in
50:15
Speaker 1: front of Friday, Yeah, before he went. But she like
50:19
Speaker 1: she said, it sounded like he was just Hey, I'm
50:21
Speaker 1: going to dinner with my kids and my baby mama
50:24
Speaker 1: on Sunday wasn't the option or an entry point for
50:26
Speaker 1: her to object. So still say how you feel. Always,
50:31
Speaker 1: always see how you feel. Listen. I can't sleep at
50:33
Speaker 1: night unless I um let the mother know how I feel.
50:38
Speaker 1: I know. That's why I'm mad at that niggative ghost
50:40
Speaker 1: to me this weekend. You can always tell him, should
50:43
Speaker 1: text it. No, I ain't saying nothing else. Fuck him, yeah,
50:48
Speaker 1: fuck him. If you're listening, fuck you. I ain't like
50:58
Speaker 1: you like that, no way. If I'm talking about it,
51:02
Speaker 1: I'm hurt. Oh well man, that's because the psychic said
51:11
Speaker 1: every time I get my feelings hurt, I just go
51:13
Speaker 1: back to that psychic episode and I listened to what
51:15
Speaker 1: he said, It's gonna happen in my life. I'm like,
51:18
Speaker 1: I ain't supposed to care about this ship because the
51:19
Speaker 1: psychic said, I ain't supposed to be with you anyway. Nigger.
51:22
Speaker 1: You a't even one. You ain't neo nigga, You ain't
51:26
Speaker 1: surgeon bakah. But what's the girl named angel? April? April? April?
51:35
Speaker 1: We're sorry that you was because I know your feelings hurt.
51:38
Speaker 1: You were sitting there, what you what you eight? You
51:40
Speaker 1: probably had you a slice of pizza on Sunday, your
51:43
Speaker 1: motherfucking little Pepperdi Pizza with Tears Season with Tears al
51:51
Speaker 1: you mean bit, You know she probably already hurt feelings
51:54
Speaker 1: and you're talking crazy like that. She's gonna be laughing. Yeah,
52:00
Speaker 1: we're gonna laugh at our pain if you can't if
52:02
Speaker 1: if we're gonna sit here and laugh at my pain, bitch,
52:04
Speaker 1: we laughing at George to April. All right, y'all. So
52:11
Speaker 1: if you enjoyed this episode, as always, check us out
52:15
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52:22
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52:32
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52:34
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52:40
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52:45
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52:53
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52:57
Speaker 1: so beautiful summer soul. It's gonna be on Disney, so
53:00
Speaker 1: y'all look out for that. And the other thing I
53:03
Speaker 1: want to say is, um A J said it last week,
53:07
Speaker 1: We're gonna say it again this week. If y'all know
53:10
Speaker 1: how to use Premiere, if y'all know how to use
53:13
Speaker 1: these fucking platforms that are good for a video, we
53:17
Speaker 1: want to show y'all us a little bit more, and
53:20
Speaker 1: we need help. We're getting fined. We've been working out, yea,
53:25
Speaker 1: it was. It was kind of fat when we did
53:27
Speaker 1: really idiots. We're not that fat nowhere, and we want
53:29
Speaker 1: y'all to see. Hey, but it's always fun, y'all. Let's
53:38
Speaker 1: not forget that, tim It's still funk, y'all. But and
53:42
Speaker 1: then and look, and that fat bitch is gonna always
53:44
Speaker 1: be inside me, bitch. It can come out at any time,
53:48
Speaker 1: So get dumped. I'm official tam Bam on Instagram. Y'all
53:54
Speaker 1: follow me, y'all want to send me something for my birthday?
53:56
Speaker 1: D m me. I'm accepbling all gifts and cash ups.
54:01
Speaker 1: I know, right, Yeah, I f all of us that
54:03
Speaker 1: we talked Back podcast on Instagram. And this is a
54:07
Speaker 1: j holiday to point Oh, Oh that sounds sexy. Touch
54:13
Speaker 1: your tedious, say it again to point Oh, I'm wet.
54:20
Speaker 1: I'm wet now, Now you owe money I got I'm
54:26
Speaker 1: gonna cash you after two dollars, two dollars spot Bye y'all, Bye,