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Couple Friends · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mamas. Dear mamas, why
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  Speaker 1: this is it? Why is it so hard to find
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  Speaker 1: a couple friends?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 3: Alma Mama.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now are American mama's Turnoutoville and Kimberly Burl.
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  Speaker 2: Listen.
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  Speaker 1: You know, there was a time, not too long ago,
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  Speaker 1: Wendy and I had a group of couple friends and
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  Speaker 1: we go out all the time. And then one of
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  Speaker 1: those couples got divorced, and then the other couple got divorced.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah, that happens.
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  Speaker 1: How about all that?
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, I said, y'all, don't go out with the
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  Speaker 2: remaining couples. Are the new people, the new spouses that
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  Speaker 2: come in. Yeah, yeah, it's not the time.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it can become. It just just things change
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  Speaker 1: and it can be be difficult, difficult, But look, that's
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  Speaker 1: our experience. What what do you guys, I'm sure.
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  Speaker 3: Tell you you talking about the divorce couple, because we
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  Speaker 3: too had a best friend couple for thirty six years
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  Speaker 3: that got divorced. And what it does to you, it's devastating,
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  Speaker 3: it's shocking, it's shattering. Yes, I mean it's still it's
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  Speaker 3: still I feel it all the time when I talk
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  Speaker 3: to her, or it's just not good, but we are talking.
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  Speaker 3: We had this conversation with our children talking about couple friends,
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  Speaker 3: because all of our kids are having that. You know,
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  Speaker 3: they're trying to find a couple friend, but you don't
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  Speaker 3: either the girl girl doesn't like the other girl, but
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  Speaker 3: they're best friends of guys or you know, vice versa.
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  Speaker 3: So it's very hard to find somebody that you both click.
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  Speaker 3: The girls click, the boys click. You know, it's it's hard.
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  Speaker 3: And what we were saying is it's about seasons of life.
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  Speaker 3: It's about your economic I know, art we had friends
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  Speaker 3: that are multi millionaires and they want us to go
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  Speaker 3: with them to do things we can't afford to go
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  Speaker 3: do what they want to do. Let's take the Orient
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  Speaker 3: Express and then we'll go on the Ritz Carlton Cruise.
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  Speaker 2: From there.
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  Speaker 3: We're like, oh, we'll set this one out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so funny, are y'all? Yeah? To me, for us,
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  Speaker 2: For Kevin and me, it really felt like it was
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  Speaker 2: a lot of our close couple friends happened along the
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  Speaker 2: lines of our children's sports, like school, you know school friends.
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  Speaker 2: You know, your children meet their friends, and we meet
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  Speaker 2: those parents, especially when they're younger, and then you all
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  Speaker 2: go out like maybe there's you know, three or four
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  Speaker 2: couples and it's so fun. We had that too, and
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  Speaker 2: then one of the couples got divorced and we didn't
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  Speaker 2: We never did that again. But the couples that we
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  Speaker 2: ended up doing stuff with really were our children's friends parents, right,
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  Speaker 2: And in seasons like it might be during football season,
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  Speaker 2: you get close to this group of parents, and the
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  Speaker 2: soccer this group, and then baseball this group, and you
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  Speaker 2: still you you miss those days and you still love them.
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  Speaker 2: But we don't get together because we don't have anything
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  Speaker 2: pulling us together. We don't have like Okay, I'll see
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  Speaker 2: all Friday night at the game and we'll go out
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  Speaker 2: to eat after.
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  Speaker 1: Practice and after soccer p Yeah, yeah, we see that
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  Speaker 1: all the time.
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  Speaker 2: Ultimately, for us, it's our family. Our family are they
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  Speaker 2: are our very best friends. Right, So Mike and Kimberly
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  Speaker 2: and Chad and lindsay, you know, we we do stuff
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  Speaker 2: together whenever we can, we take the kids. You knows,
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  Speaker 2: those are our true best friends.
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  Speaker 3: We're so lucky that we our husbands all loved each other,
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  Speaker 3: that they're so like Mike and Kevin are so tight, right,
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  Speaker 3: you know, we're so lucky in that regard.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because that it does not always happen.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't always happen. It was kind of funny because
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  Speaker 3: we were talking to our cousin Kathy. She and Jim travel.
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  Speaker 3: She and her husband. They travel. They've been traveling with
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  Speaker 3: the same couple for twenty five years, like all their
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  Speaker 3: big trips are the same couple. But these friends do
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  Speaker 3: not live where they live. They do not see them
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  Speaker 3: any other time other than when they travel. And she said,
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  Speaker 3: it just works for us to travel. Other friends have
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  Speaker 3: tried to join in because it doesn't work and she goes,
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  Speaker 3: but there's no drama with us because we only travel
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  Speaker 3: with each other. But I thought that's interesting.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, they don't get together. They don't get
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  Speaker 2: together or like you know, come over and have supper,
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  Speaker 2: like when they're back in the States. You know, they
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  Speaker 2: don't ever see each other.
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  Speaker 1: That's interesting.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, they just are travel friends.
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  Speaker 1: I'm thinking of this joke that you know, it's uh,
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  Speaker 1: guys don't have friends. Just guys don't have friends. Guys
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  Speaker 1: have wives.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, friends and their friends have husbands, that's right.
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  Speaker 1: That's and that's you know that that's kind of how
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  Speaker 1: some of that turns out. But I mean we and
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  Speaker 1: you're right, there are seasons we had. You know, when
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  Speaker 1: we were a newlywed couple, we had other friends who
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  Speaker 1: were newlywed couples and then they got divorced. I'm sorting
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  Speaker 1: to think maybe for bad luck, for something, Okay, but
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  Speaker 1: I'll tell you one of the things we really feel
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  Speaker 1: very blessed with is that our son and his fiance
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  Speaker 1: her parents are amazing and we love hanging out with them.
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  Speaker 1: We go to dinner, even without the kids. We just
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  Speaker 1: go to dinner, eat, chat. They they are lovely people,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of fun to hang around with, you know.
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  Speaker 1: They come over for New Year's and other things throughout
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  Speaker 1: the year. And that's that's a blessing. But that's rare.
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  Speaker 3: That's a dream friendship.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yes, yeah, I'll tell another I know we only
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  Speaker 2: have a few seconds. But the coolest thing that I know,
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  Speaker 2: I have two friends, dear dear, dear friends. Their children
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  Speaker 2: married each other, so they all get together and they
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  Speaker 2: take family trips. Marla, yeah, that's Carla and Charlotte, and
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  Speaker 2: then they have her. Then Carla's other sister in law,
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  Speaker 2: her daughter married another best friend. They all do stuff together.
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  Speaker 2: It's the dream scenario.
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  Speaker 1: Somebody was praying, right, yeah, yeah, all of that. That's
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  Speaker 1: that's pretty amazing. It is difficult, but I also think
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  Speaker 1: it's worth it. I mean to put in the effort.
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  Speaker 1: and the brothers, and thank you so much, thank you,