Latest / Red Onion Randy - Life in a Supermax Prison / ROR 160: The Visit
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- 0:02Speaker 1: Hello, this is a prebate call from and if they
- 0:06Speaker 1: the present a Department of Correction read an in state
- 0:09Speaker 1: present to accept this all crass zero. This is Randall
- 0:19Speaker 1: Bob currently serving one thousand, two hundred and fourteen years
- 0:22Speaker 1: for capital murder on Roberts, currently being housed at key
- 0:27Speaker 1: Mount Correctional Center in Oakwood, Virginia, US A. Welcome to
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- 0:58Speaker 1: on Randy dot com. I hope you do. Let's get
- 1:03Speaker 1: started with the podcast. Yeah, this episode is uh, yeah,
- 1:12Speaker 1: this one is a little bit near and dear to
- 1:14Speaker 1: my heart. My wife Nicole Nick as I call her,
- 1:22Speaker 1: she flew over from England visited me and it is uh.
- 1:30Speaker 1: It was the greatest eight hours of my life. You know.
- 1:36Speaker 1: Obviously it was a bit expensive. Yeah, it seems like
- 1:42Speaker 1: everything is nowadays. It was a little bit you know,
- 1:52Speaker 1: it's a little bit hectic. It was a little bit
- 1:55Speaker 1: out of control. It's always, oh my god, it's always something.
- 2:04Speaker 1: So originally, my buddy Michael to the new editor, he
- 2:11Speaker 1: was supposed to come down from Ontario, Canada meet Nick
- 2:16Speaker 1: in Richmond, Virginia. You know, they was going to stay
- 2:22Speaker 1: overnight there, and then you know, Michael was going to
- 2:25Speaker 1: drive her down to the prison and they was going
- 2:28Speaker 1: to come in and visit with me. And you know,
- 2:31Speaker 1: he probably would have spent the first two hours with us,
- 2:34Speaker 1: and then he would have got up and left and
- 2:37Speaker 1: you know, just went and basically sat outside in the
- 2:40Speaker 1: car or whatever, and while me and Nick got two
- 2:42Speaker 1: hours alone. You know, that was the original plan. But
- 2:47Speaker 1: due to the Trump Doe War, you know, with the
- 2:51Speaker 1: terriffs back and forth and you know, all of that
- 2:56Speaker 1: crab that just you know, the Canadian economy kind of
- 3:00Speaker 1: bottomed out a little bit, and he couldn't he couldn't
- 3:02Speaker 1: afford to do it, you know, so that kind of
- 3:05Speaker 1: left me and Nick heindry. We were starting to saying
- 3:09Speaker 1: that the visit wasn't going to happen, and then lo
- 3:13Speaker 1: and behold, God made a way. My friends David and
- 3:21Speaker 1: Sarah join her from a Salem, Virginia. They stepped up.
- 3:27Speaker 1: I mean they stepped up big time, especially Sarah, you know,
- 3:34Speaker 1: cause I called and I was talking to them and
- 3:37Speaker 1: I kind of, you know, explained the situation and what
- 3:39Speaker 1: was going on. And you know, Michael felt extremely bad
- 3:44Speaker 1: about it. He still does. But you know, I mean,
- 3:49Speaker 1: what are you going to do when you know, two
- 3:53Speaker 1: different countries are freaking beefing together and they're making it
- 3:56Speaker 1: a pain and ast across the border and all this.
- 3:59Speaker 1: Craft mean, Sarah's like, look, if you want, like, we
- 4:05Speaker 1: will help, Like, we will go out of her way
- 4:07Speaker 1: to help you. And my god, they go out of
- 4:09Speaker 1: their way. So I got Nick and Sarah, you know,
- 4:15Speaker 1: in touch with one another. They started talking and when
- 4:21Speaker 1: Nick flew in, she flew in on a Wednesday and
- 4:25Speaker 1: stayed until Friday morning ish give or take Enrichmond at
- 4:31Speaker 1: the hotel right outside of the airport there. Sarah drove
- 4:34Speaker 1: up a few hours, picked her up, not just picked
- 4:38Speaker 1: her up, but drove her through Charlottesville and actually took
- 4:43Speaker 1: her around my hometown to where I grew up and
- 4:46Speaker 1: you know, showed her some of the fights. They had
- 4:48Speaker 1: lunch there and everything, and then they drove down to
- 4:52Speaker 1: back to the Salem area Roanoak area, Nick got a hotel,
- 4:59Speaker 1: and you know, they hung out, went to dinner and everything.
- 5:01Speaker 1: And the very next day on Saturday, Sarah and David
- 5:07Speaker 1: picked her up at the hotel, drove her all the
- 5:09Speaker 1: way up here to uh Oakwood, Virginia, and dropped her
- 5:13Speaker 1: all you know, waiting until she got in and made
- 5:17Speaker 1: sure that she was in and not coming out and
- 5:20Speaker 1: all that stuff. And then they left and hung out
- 5:23Speaker 1: and did a couple of things for a few hours
- 5:25Speaker 1: and then came back and picked her up when her
- 5:28Speaker 1: visit was over with. Like Dayton made it entirely possible.
- 5:34Speaker 1: Them two are the only reason I got to see
- 5:36Speaker 1: my wife in person, and I got to spend that
- 5:38Speaker 1: time with her. So, you know, much love and respect
- 5:42Speaker 1: to them. It goes without saying when I'm when I'm
- 5:46Speaker 1: in a position to bless them and you know, show
- 5:49Speaker 1: my respect to them for what they did for us.
- 5:52Speaker 1: I'm absolutely going to now when she walked in, Oh
- 6:01Speaker 1: my god, I got there first. Normally the visits, the
- 6:09Speaker 1: visitors are in there in the visitation room, sitting in
- 6:13Speaker 1: the chairs and whatnot before we get there. But when
- 6:17Speaker 1: they called me like a haul ass. Normally it's about
- 6:20Speaker 1: a five minute walk from the building all the way
- 6:24Speaker 1: to the visitation like it's a long ways it takes
- 6:27Speaker 1: a minute. It took me a minute thirty tops. I
- 6:33Speaker 1: was moving, got down there, got dressed, you know, they
- 6:40Speaker 1: Lieutenant died took me into the little back room. I
- 6:44Speaker 1: had to strip down naked. I had to run my
- 6:47Speaker 1: fingers through my hair, my beard, behind my ears, I
- 6:50Speaker 1: had to run them through my gums, had to show
- 6:53Speaker 1: them my armpits. I had to lift my penis, my balls.
- 6:56Speaker 1: I had to turn around, lift my feet, squat and cough,
- 7:00Speaker 1: and you know, get dressed again. But I couldn't get
- 7:04Speaker 1: dressed in my in my my jeans and you know,
- 7:06Speaker 1: my button up shirt. I would have liked to I
- 7:10Speaker 1: make that sh look good. I had to put on
- 7:13Speaker 1: this damn brown like beige brown one piece zip up
- 7:22Speaker 1: overall jumpsuit looking things. And I had to put it
- 7:27Speaker 1: on backwards so that the CEO actually has to sip
- 7:31Speaker 1: it up the back, you know, which is just it's uncomfortable.
- 7:36Speaker 1: I don't really care for that, but at the end
- 7:38Speaker 1: of the day, I don't give up. I want to
- 7:40Speaker 1: see if my wife all tolerated. They took me in.
- 7:44Speaker 1: I went, you know, I got to the chairs all
- 7:47Speaker 1: the way in the back, right in front of the doors,
- 7:49Speaker 1: because they got an outside area before COVID, you and
- 7:53Speaker 1: your family could actually go outside if it was nice out,
- 7:56Speaker 1: and you know, have your visit outside. That was COVID.
- 8:01Speaker 1: They just they stripped all the vending machines out. There's
- 8:04Speaker 1: no more food, there's no more sodas, there's no more
- 8:07Speaker 1: outside visit any of that stuff on, which sucks, especially
- 8:16Speaker 1: if you're in there for four hours or longer, or
- 8:19Speaker 1: whatever the case may be. Is what it is. So
- 8:23Speaker 1: I'm sitting there and she comes walking in. She's got
- 8:29Speaker 1: as she calls them Addie Dass, which you know, everybody
- 8:34Speaker 1: in America knows how to properly pronounce it. It's called Adidas,
- 8:39Speaker 1: not Addie Dash. Englanders. She had on like these tight
- 8:47Speaker 1: like fake leather jeans pants sang on and it's just
- 8:53Speaker 1: a blouse with a little zip up jacket, and just
- 8:56Speaker 1: her hair was long. Makeup was phenomenal, and I mean
- 9:03Speaker 1: when she come walking in, my heart just started down.
- 9:08Speaker 1: I mean I could literally hear it in my ears.
- 9:12Speaker 1: It was just so loud. I could feel it, like
- 9:14Speaker 1: it just it reverberated through me, and I just I
- 9:21Speaker 1: stood there just watching her, just in awe. Like when
- 9:25Speaker 1: I say she's beautiful, like I know everybody says that
- 9:28Speaker 1: about their wife, but like I literally mean it, like
- 9:32Speaker 1: she genuinely physically beautiful, Like she's way too good looking
- 9:36Speaker 1: for me, and I don't care. God loves me more
- 9:42Speaker 1: than everybody else, and I can live with that. And
- 9:48Speaker 1: when she came up, I just I just took in
- 9:53Speaker 1: my arms and started kissing her. And her lips are
- 9:56Speaker 1: so soft. It isn't Oh my god, I've never I've
- 10:06Speaker 1: read so many books, thousands upon thousands of books. I
- 10:11Speaker 1: have no clue how many. And I've read there's so
- 10:16Speaker 1: many times that when during a kissing scene, and they'd
- 10:22Speaker 1: be like her lips were pillows soft, like they used
- 10:26Speaker 1: to aggravate me. Like I never understood what I mean.
- 10:29Speaker 1: I've kissed a few girls in my life. I might
- 10:31Speaker 1: be a virgin, but I've still kissed some girls. I
- 10:35Speaker 1: didn't understand what that meant. Now I do, like they
- 10:41Speaker 1: were I can still feel them, like I can still
- 10:44Speaker 1: taste her, I can still smell her. Oh, she just
- 10:50Speaker 1: she felt right. She fit my body perfectly. I mean,
- 10:54Speaker 1: we just we were made for each other. I mean, man, just,
- 11:04Speaker 1: oh my god. It was awesome. I mean it just
- 11:09Speaker 1: we sat down, you know, after we kissed for a
- 11:12Speaker 1: little bit. We spent four hours together on Saturday and
- 11:19Speaker 1: another four hours together on Sunday, and I mean we talked,
- 11:26Speaker 1: we'd laughed. It was you know, we had serious moments.
- 11:31Speaker 1: We just everything you want in a conversation. It's just
- 11:36Speaker 1: it flowed. There was not a single awkward moment for
- 11:42Speaker 1: a second. You know, even when we just like there
- 11:47Speaker 1: were several quiet moments when we just didn't talk. We
- 11:49Speaker 1: just looked at each other. And you know, I made
- 11:53Speaker 1: her blush, which is awesome because she's black. I was
- 11:57Speaker 1: still made her blush. And I didn't say anything or
- 12:01Speaker 1: do anything untoward. I just I kept looking at her
- 12:05Speaker 1: like I kept drinking her in with my eyes. And
- 12:10Speaker 1: she said, honey, stop you're making me bush. I don't care,
- 12:15Speaker 1: like I just I can't get enough of you. And
- 12:19Speaker 1: oh man, yeah, it was the greatest eight hours of
- 12:27Speaker 1: my life. I have never felt so comfortable. I've never
- 12:35Speaker 1: felt so one with another human being in my life
- 12:38Speaker 1: as I did with her. She is so much more
- 12:45Speaker 1: than I ever could have hoped for. Like if God
- 12:50Speaker 1: came down right now and gave me the power saying, look,
- 12:54Speaker 1: I will let you physically create a woman for you
- 13:00Speaker 1: that you can make her look whatever she wants, whatever
- 13:03Speaker 1: personality and whatever intelligence, whatever you want. Like you can
- 13:07Speaker 1: you can dial her into a keet. I'd sit there
- 13:11Speaker 1: and tell him I'm good, bro, already got it, man,
- 13:14Speaker 1: you already gave it to me three years ago. She
- 13:18Speaker 1: is so much more like a damn like And that's
- 13:24Speaker 1: the thing, Like everybody wants to focus on her past,
- 13:30Speaker 1: like I've told her multiple times, like money, I don't
- 13:32Speaker 1: give a fuck about your past. I care about her
- 13:35Speaker 1: future together. That's what I'm in, arrested in. That's what
- 13:38Speaker 1: I'm looking forward to because she is she truly is
- 13:43Speaker 1: one of the most special people. That's just perfect, except
- 13:52Speaker 1: for her taste in dogs. But you know, what are
- 13:58Speaker 1: you going to do? I guess she had to have
- 13:59Speaker 1: some kind of fall. Let's say the things that we
- 14:21Speaker 1: both know.
- 14:25Speaker 2: Gonna take these words and make them stone.
- 14:31Speaker 1: I know, place.
- 14:34Speaker 2: On the edge of time, Bosky and the wind body
- 14:41Speaker 2: only the sound. Let's make like atry grows some wads
- 14:49Speaker 2: do all the things that.
- 14:51Speaker 3: All who folks.
- 14:52Speaker 2: Do I you you need me?
- 15:00Speaker 1: What else?
- 15:00Speaker 2: Walk could someoney?
- 15:03Speaker 3: You've got a key and I've got a lock.
- 15:07Speaker 2: Just spill the house.
- 15:08Speaker 1: Upon no rock.
- 15:11Speaker 2: Let's build a house.
- 15:12Speaker 1: Upon no rock.
- 15:19Speaker 2: On someone the lie rely on a fly, on a
- 15:28Speaker 2: drive all night and hit out with get lost in mountain,
- 15:37Speaker 2: found the sand and.
- 15:42Speaker 3: If you're going nowhere, we're going nowhere.
- 15:45Speaker 2: Face hard times, come hard times pace.
- 15:52Speaker 1: I'll be there.
- 15:54Speaker 2: When the scott turns la honey, you when you need me?
- 16:02Speaker 1: What else small could seOne me?
- 16:06Speaker 3: You've got a key and I've got a lock.
- 16:10Speaker 2: Let's build a house upon over rock. Let's build a
- 16:14Speaker 2: house upon over rock? Body, when you need me?
- 16:48Speaker 3: What else?
- 16:48Speaker 2: Moll could sellone me?
- 16:51Speaker 3: You've got a key and I've got a lock.
- 16:55Speaker 2: Let's spill a house.
- 16:56Speaker 1: Upon a rock.
- 16:59Speaker 2: Let's build a house and pona right.
- 17:04Speaker 1: Is that world right?
- 17:07Speaker 3: Strip that'll never cross our minds? Spring on me after
- 17:15Speaker 3: the shockspoo the.
- 17:17Speaker 2: House and pono rock, Let's build the house and pona.
- 17:25Speaker 1: Oh there is. You know what was really funny was
- 17:51Speaker 1: Lieutenant Died. I got to say, like everybody up here
- 17:54Speaker 1: talks about man, Lieutenant Dies an asshole. He's an asshole.
- 17:57Speaker 1: He's a dick. No, he's not. Like dude was cool
- 18:01Speaker 1: as he could be. He came around, you know, he
- 18:05Speaker 1: checked on us, not just me, but everybody in the
- 18:07Speaker 1: visitation room. Do you need anything, you want some fresh
- 18:10Speaker 1: water or you know whatever? They you know, he stopped,
- 18:15Speaker 1: he talked for a moment, made sure that you was good,
- 18:17Speaker 1: and he kept it moving, you know, and he just
- 18:20Speaker 1: he kept stopping buying. He's like he would look at
- 18:23Speaker 1: her and then look at me, and then he's like
- 18:25Speaker 1: he would look back at her and like seriously him,
- 18:28Speaker 1: and I'm just I'm just crinting my ass off. She
- 18:31Speaker 1: kind of shyly blushes. He's like yeah, him, And I'm like,
- 18:34Speaker 1: brou God loves me more than every other man on
- 18:37Speaker 1: the planet. He's like, I knew she was going to
- 18:39Speaker 1: say that, and I was like, you know, it is
- 18:41Speaker 1: what it is, man, truth is true. I should not
- 18:45Speaker 1: be with this woman, like she's way too good to me,
- 18:50Speaker 1: but I ain't getting rid of her. And let me
- 18:53Speaker 1: tell you something. When it was time to leave Sunday
- 18:57Speaker 1: afternoon and I'm standing there, I'm kissing her and I
- 19:03Speaker 1: know she's about to leave, and I've been bussed that's
- 19:06Speaker 1: all I can say. I've been bussed. But there was
- 19:11Speaker 1: a moment that actually started to piss me off in there,
- 19:14Speaker 1: And it wasn't with my wife. It just on Sunday.
- 19:18Speaker 1: I guess word got around how beautiful she is and
- 19:21Speaker 1: you know, what she looks like and whatnot from you know,
- 19:24Speaker 1: the CEOs that were working on Saturday. So it literally
- 19:28Speaker 1: seemed like every single male officer and even a couple
- 19:33Speaker 1: of female officers like they found reasons to come into
- 19:38Speaker 1: the visitation room and walk over to the little stand
- 19:42Speaker 1: where the visitation officers sit and watch, you know, what's
- 19:46Speaker 1: going on and keep track of time and all that stuff,
- 19:50Speaker 1: you know, like they was starting to piss me. Officer
- 19:52Speaker 1: Nick was starting to get a little uncomfortable with all
- 19:56Speaker 1: of that attention, you know, and I kind of wanted
- 20:01Speaker 1: to say something, but I didn't because I know if
- 20:06Speaker 1: one of them would have said something slick like my
- 20:08Speaker 1: wife is right there, like, I probably would have been
- 20:11Speaker 1: way too aggressive and responding to him, and that would
- 20:15Speaker 1: have just it very easily could have spiraled out of control.
- 20:19Speaker 1: But yeah, I was starting to get a little pissed
- 20:21Speaker 1: off that they just kept coming over there. Not that
- 20:24Speaker 1: I mean me personally, I don't really care. Like you know,
- 20:28Speaker 1: it was a bragging moment for me, I guess, but
- 20:30Speaker 1: she was starting to get a little uncomfortable with it
- 20:32Speaker 1: when that. I didn't like that, but you know, it
- 20:37Speaker 1: is what it is. But it was great, you know,
- 20:41Speaker 1: especially because, like I said, it almost didn't happen it,
- 20:46Speaker 1: you know, freaking my wife had signed up. I owe you.
- 20:50Speaker 1: Damn I can't. I can't believe. I almost forgot about
- 20:52Speaker 1: this part right here. So my wife it signed up
- 20:56Speaker 1: months ago because she knew that she was coming, and
- 20:59Speaker 1: my Michael knew that he was coming. You know, at
- 21:01Speaker 1: that time, before you know the whole Trump and Trudeau
- 21:05Speaker 1: started fighting each other over tariffs and everything. So they
- 21:11Speaker 1: signed up. They followed the protocols for in person visitation
- 21:16Speaker 1: and they was approved to come visit. They had the
- 21:20Speaker 1: emails from DC and GTL saying they were approved for
- 21:24Speaker 1: in person visit. So two weeks before you actually show
- 21:29Speaker 1: up to the prison, you have to go to gto
- 21:32Speaker 1: in person visit and log in and sign up saying hey,
- 21:36Speaker 1: I'm going I'm going to show up on this date,
- 21:41Speaker 1: this date for this amount of time, so on and
- 21:44Speaker 1: so forth, and that way the prison. Can you know,
- 21:48Speaker 1: be prepared they can have this, you know, the slots
- 21:52Speaker 1: available and make sure that you're on the master pass
- 21:55Speaker 1: list and all that, which is not a problem, Like
- 21:57Speaker 1: that's why it should be, but you have one minute.
- 22:03Speaker 1: As soon as they signed up for that, GTL sent
- 22:08Speaker 1: them an email saying you're not eligible for in person
- 22:12Speaker 1: visits only video business. So I had to go through
- 22:16Speaker 1: hell to get that fixed. I had to go through
- 22:19Speaker 1: Gay Gardner for the Interfaith Action for Human Rights. She
- 22:23Speaker 1: jumped on the ball, immediately contacted Richmond and started talking
- 22:28Speaker 1: to them. And one good thing, I was able to
- 22:31Speaker 1: catch Warden Hamilton and Warden Owens assistant Warden Owens making
- 22:37Speaker 1: rounds and I was able to talk to them and
- 22:39Speaker 1: they were like, Wow, look, don't worry about it. Your
- 22:43Speaker 1: wife shows up to the front gates. She's coming in
- 22:47Speaker 1: because we know that you already had disapproved. You've got
- 22:50Speaker 1: the extended visit approved. Like they made it possible for
- 22:54Speaker 1: her to come see me. And it's just yeah, I
- 22:58Speaker 1: thank God because the greatest eight hours of my life.
- 23:03Speaker 1: So after we had that last kiss, you know, and
- 23:08Speaker 1: I was I was walking towards the change out room
- 23:11Speaker 1: and uh for them to shake me down and everything,
- 23:14Speaker 1: and you know we'd get dressed back in my prison clothes.
- 23:16Speaker 1: You know, we had that just that one last look
- 23:19Speaker 1: that she was walking out the door towards the front,
- 23:24Speaker 1: and I mean it's like, I don't think I've ever
- 23:29Speaker 1: hurt that much. Like you know, I know it sounds cheesy.
- 23:34Speaker 1: I know it sounds corny like you when I say
- 23:37Speaker 1: my heart went with her, I mean my heart went
- 23:39Speaker 1: with her on that Sunday night. It's just knowing that
- 23:43Speaker 1: that was it, like Wednesday next time, am I going
- 23:46Speaker 1: to see my wife? That's that just that hurt right there.
- 23:56Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not gonna lie like that. That Sunday
- 23:59Speaker 1: night was man, that was rough. You know. I just
- 24:08Speaker 1: I came back, you know, I went in the cell,
- 24:12Speaker 1: I made something to eat, and I just I sat
- 24:15Speaker 1: there and all I could do was just like I
- 24:22Speaker 1: wasn't crying or anything like that. I was sad. I
- 24:24Speaker 1: was depressed. I was hurting, There's no question about that.
- 24:27Speaker 1: But when you know, like when when am I getting out,
- 24:33Speaker 1: Like God, when when am I going to go I'm
- 24:37Speaker 1: going to get to go live with my wife and
- 24:39Speaker 1: I'm going to get to actually just spend every day
- 24:41Speaker 1: with her instead of just a couple of hours here
- 24:43Speaker 1: or there, you know, twenty minutes on the phone. Yeah,
- 24:51Speaker 1: my heart went with him. It just ya know, I could.
- 25:00Speaker 1: I'm telling you I could. I could talk about this
- 25:04Speaker 1: for hours. All right. That's uh, that's all the time
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