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4 Ways To Deflate A Narcissist's Ego · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  How do you deflate or hurt a narcissistic person's ego?
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  How do you put them in a place? How do you bring them down a
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  notch or two or three or four or five?
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  That's what we're talking about today, y'all.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist who here to just spread the words
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  and give you the perspective of a narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Bam, welcome back, welcome back, welcome back folks.
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  Yes, how on earth do you deflate a narcissist ego?
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  So in this today's video y'all, we're going to go over a few
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  different topics, a few not a few different topics, few
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  different tactics or techniques to deflate a narcissist ego.
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  If I if you imagine a narcissist ego, it's like a big balloon,
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  right? It's like a big ass inflated
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  balloon and it's easy to pop. I think a lot of people get into
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  their minds that narcissist egos are difficult to to shatter or
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  difficult to hit. No, that is absolutely not the
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  case. Narcissistic people's egos tend
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  to be very fragile. Fragile.
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  They tend to be very fragile and easy to pop.
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  So today we're going to go over the the top ways.
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  I'm gonna miss a few, but the top ways from the perspective of
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  a narcissism, how to hit a narcissist's ego the most.
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  So the very first way to hurt a narcissist ego, to deflate their
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  ego, to make them expose themselves, is using the word
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  no. That's it right there.
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  Yeah. Say the word no.
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  Now, let me, let me reel it back in a little bit.
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  Let me let me reel the fishing line in a little bit.
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  Will you say the word no to a narcissist?
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  A lot of times they can snap, right?
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  A lot of narcissistic people could absolutely lose their damn
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  minds if and when you say the word no to them because their
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  egos cannot handle the word no. Their egos cannot handle the
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  rejection. Their egos cannot handle or
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  fathom the pain that you bring to them, the shame that you, the
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  shame door that you open up and bring into their lives.
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  Their little egos cannot handle that, right?
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  So they can't handle it. They don't know what to do with
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  it. So they get angry, they lash
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  out. Or they'll try to turn it, turn
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  it into a yes. They'll try to take your no and
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  flip it into a yes somehow, because this is the mind of a
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  narcissist. This is how narcissist minds
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  work. They can't stand the word no.
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  We, I, me, I cannot stand the word no.
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  So I tried to avoid it at all costs.
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  But if I get one woo, woo. So that's the, to me, that's the
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  quickest way to deflate a narcissist's ego by using that 2
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  letter word. If that 2 letter word carries so
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  much, it carries so much, so much power, so much pop to it.
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  That's why they can't handle it. So that's the quickest way, the
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  most efficient way, the fastest way to deflate a narcissist's
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  ego is literally to say the word no.
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  And that that right there requires your action.
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  That right there requires you to take action against them, right?
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  It's not, it's not really taking action against them.
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  The word no is a boundary. You might not be interested in
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  them, whatever it is, right? So using the word no absolutely
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  can help deflate a narcissist's ego.
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  Now, the next way is going to require a little like the next
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  way doesn't even require action from you.
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  It just requires you, you to be you.
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  The next way to deflate a narcissist's ego it's yeah, this
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  is going the next way to deflate a narcissist ego is just to look
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  better than them. Y'all, if you are more
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  physically attractive or more conventionally, let's say
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  conventionally attractive, because attraction is in the in
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  the eye of the beholder, right? What I find attractive, who I
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  find attractive might be very different than what who you find
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  attractive, right? You might not find me
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  attractive. And they're cool.
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  They're cool. Or is it?
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  That's you telling me no. Go back to number 1.
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  You just told me no. So now I'm about to lose my
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  mind. You told me, Leo, are you
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  attractive? No, I'm about to lose it.
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  I'm about to lose my mind now. But you see.
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  But you see how it goes there right there, y'all?
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  So using the word no is efficient.
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  I mean, using the word no is efficient, but just you
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  naturally being more conventionally attractive than
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  them and them believing that you are more conventionally
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  attractive can hurt their can hurt their egos.
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  So even you don't even yeah, you don't even have to be in a
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  relationship with them. This could be your friend, your
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  narcissistic friends ego gets gets deflated every time you are
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  around them. If you're more conventionally
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  attractive than them. It really is.
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  If you if you're more conventionally attractive than
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  that narcissistic person, you naturally deflate their ego.
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  You're like a natural, you're like a natural repellent.
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  You know how we got those? It's about to be mosquito season
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  right here in, in North Carolina, right?
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  We had to spray that in tick seeds, whether to spray
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  ourselves with ticks and mosquitoes and stuff like that.
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  You had, you had that natural repellent, that natural
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  narcissist repellent, right? So a lot of times, even if you
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  just are more convincingly attractive than them, they will
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  absolutely, it absolutely hits their ego.
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  They hate to be around you. A lot of times they'll start to
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  pick on you, you know, if you hurt their ego, they'll try,
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  they'll try to make you the butt of the joke.
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  They'll pick on you. They'll just try to make,
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  they'll try to hurt your feelings and things like that.
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  So you'll know if you hurt their egos, some of them will just try
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  to not be around you at all. They're like, I don't really
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  like, I don't really like them. I don't want to be around there.
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  Y'all, Y'all, Is it just me or is it, is it just me that don't
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  like them or is there everybody else?
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  You see what I'm saying? But that's, that's, that's how
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  it goes right there. Y'all.
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  The next way to deflate a narcissist's ego, y'all, Of
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  course I talk about looks. The next way is to be more
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  successful than them. We talked about looks, but being
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  more successful than a narcissist absolutely deflates
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  their ego. It pops it like a damn balloon.
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  It really, really does like your success, your education.
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  Like success. I can.
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  You can mean it can be jobs. It could be whatever it is,
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  right school, your education level, your job, your promotion
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  level, whatever it is, right? Your career, whatever it is, if
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  that narcissistic person deems you that's more successful than
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  them, you are. You are in for it buddy.
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  You are a cruising for a you are cruising for a narcissistic
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  bruising because they come in for you bucko.
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  They are coming for you because how dare you be more successful
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  than me. How dare you to.
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  Your success makes their egos hurt.
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  It pops their ego. It could pop their ego like a
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  balloon, like I just said, like and you don't say again, you're
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  not like you don't even have to be trying to deflate their ego
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  here, y'all. You don't even have to be trying
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  to deflate their ego. Your success just naturally does
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  it again. It's kind of like spraying them
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  down. Spraying it down spray you like
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  your, your success is a natural narcissistic ego deflator.
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  Naturally. It naturally does it.
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  You naturally do it right. So don't be like I said, don't
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  be afraid of success. This is why a lot of times you
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  hear this right here, right? You hear this all the time in
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  the, the narcissistic abuse like niche, right?
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  About how narcissists don't celebrate your success.
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  This is why because they're jealous of it, because they
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  don't want to see you be successful.
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  They don't want you to be successful.
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  They don't want you out here doing this type of stuff.
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  They don't want you being successful because it makes them
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  feel bad. This is why they don't This is
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  why they don't celebrate your wins with you, right?
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  They don't celebrate your wins. They always try to make always
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  try to find something about you to nitpick or not show up or
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  make the situation about them. So your successes, your whatever
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  it is, will deflate their ego. And you can tell because they
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  they try to make it about them or they try to invalidate,
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  invalidate your success. They try to bring you down
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  because they're feeling down about themselves.
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  That's the big one right there, y'all.
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  That's your success. Absolutely.
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  Make their egos, make their egos hurt.
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  Do do, do, do, do, do, do The next one that we're going to go
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  over right now, y'all, This is right here.
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  Let me preface by saying it. Let me preface y'all prepare
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  y'all by saying this. Use discretion and be careful
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  when you do the next one. Use discretion and be absolutely
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  careful because the next the the the probably the craziest
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  without the craziest way. Probably the the biggest way to
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  hurt a narcissist ego outside of saying the word no is literally
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  to expose them. It really is like if you expose
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  a narcissist, their egos pop. If you expose them, if you
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  reveal what you have been experiencing, if you tell the
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  world or whoever it is that you about what you're going through,
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  they could it absolutely. It not only could cause a pop,
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  their ego deflate their ego. This could literally cause the
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  narcissistic injury, right? This gets shattered their ego
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  that not this is not popping it like a balloon, right?
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  This is like throwing a brick through a, a big, a big piece of
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  glass is going to shatter the whole thing.
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  And there's no, once you shatter their ego like that, there's no
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  putting it back together. There's no putting it back
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  together. Like once you cause a vicious,
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  vicious narcissistic injury like this, like by exposing them or
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  threatening to expose them, you really got to expose them.
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  I'm going to tell everybody what you did.
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  They can lose their mind. That's why I say you have to be
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  careful because reputation is everything for a narcissist,
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  right? Reputation is like air.
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  They cannot live without it. They want to breathe it in.
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  They want to just, I need that. I need my reputation to be the,
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  I need my reputation to precede me.
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  I needed this, I need that. So you have to prepare for that
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  'cause if you expose a narcissistic person, they
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  absolutely will, Some of them absolutely will lose their minds
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  on you and try to hurt you and harm you because there's so much
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  shame that is so is like you are already bringing shame to me
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  because you know who I am, right?
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  You already know who I am, so you bring a shame to me just
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  like to from other people hurts so damn bad.
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  It really, really just destroys that narcissistic person.
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  So if you're trying to destroy them, of course, exposing them,
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  like I said, when I say expose, it doesn't necessarily mean like
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  on a massive scale, right? It doesn't always mean putting
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  it on TikTok and you know it going viral and 75 million
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  people see see what you experienced and then you expose
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  them that way, right? It doesn't always mean that
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  exposing them could just be telling your brother or your
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  sister or your mom or your cousin or your Co worker what's
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  going on. That's all exposing them because
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  it doesn't have to be on a a macro level.
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  It doesn't have to be on a big level.
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  It could be on a micro level, small level, right?
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  You can expose it, but it's big to them.
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  All of it is big to them, right? And sometimes it doesn't even
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  matter the level of exposure. They just don't want to be
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  exposed, right? They really, truly do not want
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  to be exposed. So like I said, if you going to
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  expose them, just be careful because people just lose.
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  Yeah, people lose their damn minds.
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  People cannot take being exposed.
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  People cannot. People cannot handle others
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  knowing what they're doing. They want to be behind the
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  scenes abusive. A lot of them don't want to be
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  the public abuser because that looks horrible.
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  It sounds horrible. It is horrible, right?
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  It don't look. It is horrible.
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  You know what I mean? So exposing them is probably the
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  most vicious way yo, you know, in that and whatnot to hurt, to
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  deflate their ego, to bring them that down a notch, you know, but
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  it's just also there's also, there's little ways to if you
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  make more money than them, deflate their ego.
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  If you put them in that place, if you just tell them that
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  they're not good enough, if you tell them that they're not as
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  good as they think they are, you're, you know, you deflate
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  their ego by talking about their looks.
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  You can talk about their height, their weight, whatever it is,
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  right? Look at this somebody that's
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  childish, right? You can deflate their ego by
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  just destroying their identity. You know, if you bring their
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  identity into question, you can absolutely deflate their ego.
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  You make them into like you, not who you think you are.
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  You not as good as they think you are.
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  You understand how it goes y'all.
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