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Losing Fat is hard, so get to work and stop trying to make it as easy a gaining it · Connor with Honor: AI, Real Estate and Real Life

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  SPEAKER_00: More people aren't talking about this, but if you go online or if you're searching around and people are telling you how they've been able to conquer their fatness, what's interesting about that is they always say that it's very easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, especially if they're selling something, they of course tell you that it's incredibly easy and you should have done it a long time ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm here to tell you it's not easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's really hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, to try to get out of that rut is incredibly difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it took me a very long time of practice and failure and preparation to be able to actually finally fix it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm still on that journey, and I still fight with myself daily, and it seems like that's just going to be the new normal for me as long as I live.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is difficult to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Starting's difficult, keeping it up is difficult, and having more good time eating what you should be eating versus what you shouldn't be eating is hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, five things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Andrew Huberman says it best.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't follow him, look him up.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's fantastic.
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  SPEAKER_00: He talks about his friends talking to him about wanting to lose weight.
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  SPEAKER_00: And while it's really not his thing, he doesn't talk about dieting and all of those sorts of things, like how to lose weight, how to become thinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it is something that he mentioned on one of his podcasts, and now it's really become viral, and it's really something that makes the most sense to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: The five things that you should be eating is meat, fish, eggs, vegetables, and fruits.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I will throw my own caveat on it from my own experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can overeat fruit.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have no problem eating a lot of grapes, way more grapes than I should eat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Grapes don't really grow around where I'm at, so really that's kind of a seasonal food.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what you see, the way the world's been put together, you can go into most grocery stores and you can find grapes any time of the year, no matter where you live.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can find bananas, a tropical fruit as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can find apricots, you can find peaches, you can find plums, you can find super awesome apples that really have very little in the way of seeds, very little in the way of fiber.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, they still have the rind or the coating or the outside of the apple.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where the fiber is.
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  SPEAKER_00: But people usually take fruits and they grind them up or blend them up and they basically nullify or get rid of the fiber whatsoever.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what the fiber on the fruit is there for is to slow the absorption because you combine that that sugar, the fruit sugar, the fructose, with the fiber, and it helps in digestion.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't actually overtax the body and release a lot of insulin and create other problems associated with having a high sugar level in the blood.
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  SPEAKER_00: But so four things, really, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Meat, eggs, fish, and vegetables.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can't go wrong with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Again, before you do anything, make sure you talk to your doctor.
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  SPEAKER_00: But yes, it's hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're going into this, you're embarking on this journey, having thought that it was easy, and having also thought that maybe you should fix whatever problems you have in your past.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I was growing up, there were a lot of issues that I hold very close to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: My parents didn't have a lot of time.
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  SPEAKER_00: They were both full-time, and of course, they were trying to do their best, and they had me later in life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So really, they were kind of set and they were kind of thinking about the retirement time, and then boom, here I come along.
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  SPEAKER_00: First boy, and very much an accident.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they tell me that, well, they used to tell me that when they were alive, but in in joking and in fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: That never really took a toll on me because I knew it was just them trying to be humorous, and I understood that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But they were kind of already done.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here I come along, and that was about the time when you have uh the Seven Nations study.
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  SPEAKER_00: You had a doctor named Ansel Keys come up with an idea and postulated a theory.
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  SPEAKER_00: He thought that he had information to back it up, and then everybody took on, grabbed onto it, so oh my gosh, fat's the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: So in my house, a lot of what we ate in the very beginning was processed food, highly processed sugar-enriched food to get rid of the fat.
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  SPEAKER_00: So while it didn't have any fat in it, it had a lot of sugar in it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now what I know now, looking back, that was horrible, but my parents were doing their best.
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  SPEAKER_00: The bullying ensued, you know, couldn't really come home and tell them about it because they realistically didn't have time, they were very busy, and I was, of course, ashamed, and I wasn't sure what the answer would be, so I just kept it to myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: But all those little things, they translate into me becoming a particular type.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the food addiction itself never got taken care of.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the reason why I run to food for emotional reasons, the reason why I run to food to try to compensate for something, that has always been the case.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, if I were to have waited until I fixed all those things, made amends with my parents, well, now it's too late because they're dead, but if I would have gotten to that point to try to fix everything, I would still be at it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It would have taken years.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what I did is I changed it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I said, you know what, I'm not gonna continue on this path.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna have to get started and finish and quit failing all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I did it very gently with myself, and I realized it was gonna be hard, and it's still hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's still hard every day.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I will tell you this.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you look at where you are, and then you look at where you could be, maybe 20 pounds less, 30 pounds less, the payoff will be there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll see that it's much better for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll see that you have a much better quality of life if you were to just do that and stop and continue.
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  SPEAKER_00: The most important part of that process is the forgiving of yourself when you mess up.
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  SPEAKER_00: That could be the reason why you haven't been able to continue or you continue to do what people call failing, which I'm gonna tell you a better word for that's gonna be practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've just been practicing badly.
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  SPEAKER_00: You start practicing well, and I'm sure it will pay off.
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  SPEAKER_00: But understand this isn't easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why people are charging a lot of money and people aren't successful in dropping weight.
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  SPEAKER_00: If some of this resonated with you, I hope it did, and I wish you well.
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  SPEAKER_00: But just understand it's the hardest thing you're ever going to do, especially if you've been fat for any long period of time, as I was most of my adult years, with certain points in there of less fat.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor with Honor.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll see you in the next one.