Latest / INSIGHT FOR LIVING: Biblical Wisdom For Everyday Living / Steering Clear of Murder Msg 1424 - Pastor Chuck Swindoll Insight for Living
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- 0:01Speaker 1: When you receive your worshipfuld of this morning, you found
- 0:04Speaker 1: an outline that is in it. I'd like you to
- 0:07Speaker 1: place that at the third chapter of the Book of
- 0:11Speaker 1: James over toward the end of your New Testament. Just
- 0:15Speaker 1: place it there at chapter three. Will begin the message
- 0:19Speaker 1: there shortly, and then once you've done that, please turn
- 0:24Speaker 1: to Matthew chapter five. We're going through the Gospel by Matthew,
- 0:34Speaker 1: and we have come to the immortal Sermon on the Mount,
- 0:40Speaker 1: which Jesus delivered there most likely on the northern shore
- 0:45Speaker 1: of slope up leading up from the Sea of Galilee.
- 0:52Speaker 1: And there was a crowd that gathered his disciples and
- 0:56Speaker 1: others as well, and there he delivered a counter cultural
- 1:03Speaker 1: kingdom life message for those whose ears had never heard
- 1:08Speaker 1: such teaching. They have been used to the traditional humdrum,
- 1:15Speaker 1: monotonous kind of delivery that they have been raised with,
- 1:21Speaker 1: and suddenly they find someone passionate about a transforming message
- 1:28Speaker 1: that would change the entire direction of their lives. Once
- 1:34Speaker 1: you find Matthew chapter five, locate verse twenty one. I
- 1:38Speaker 1: will read from there through twenty six as we stand
- 1:43Speaker 1: together for the reading of scripture. Matthew five twenty one
- 1:51Speaker 1: you have heard that the ancients were told you shall
- 1:55Speaker 1: not commit murder, and whoever commits murder shall be allowable
- 2:01Speaker 1: to the court. But I say to you that everyone
- 2:05Speaker 1: who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before
- 2:09Speaker 1: the court. And whoever says to his brother you good
- 2:13Speaker 1: for nothing shall be guilty before the supreme Court. And
- 2:18Speaker 1: whoever says you fool shall be guilty enough to go
- 2:24Speaker 1: into the fiery hell. Therefore, if you are presenting your
- 2:30Speaker 1: offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother
- 2:33Speaker 1: has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar,
- 2:40Speaker 1: and go first be reconciled to your brother, and then
- 2:46Speaker 1: come and present your offering. Make friends quickly with your
- 2:51Speaker 1: opponent at law while you are with him on the way,
- 2:57Speaker 1: so that your opponent may not hand you over to
- 2:59Speaker 1: the judge, and the judge to the officer, and you
- 3:04Speaker 1: be thrown into prison. Truly, I say to you, you
- 3:08Speaker 1: will not come out of there until you have paid
- 3:12Speaker 1: up the last cent. Penetrating words that are of interest
- 3:20Speaker 1: to all of us who often struggle with anger, please
- 3:24Speaker 1: be seated. Back in the mid nineteen fifties, there was
- 3:34Speaker 1: a team of five young men. We had come to
- 3:39Speaker 1: know one another in college, and were led by the
- 3:43Speaker 1: Lord to pursue a tribe in Ecuador known as the Aucas.
- 3:53Speaker 1: In the process of time, they with their wives moved there,
- 3:59Speaker 1: and before they departed to begin that very significant connection
- 4:08Speaker 1: with the tribe of Savages, they met together for prayer,
- 4:14Speaker 1: husbands and wives, and they sang one hymn, It's for Him,
- 4:21Speaker 1: that will be played for us by the brass choir
- 4:23Speaker 1: this morning, Be still my soul, the Lord is on
- 4:29Speaker 1: thy side, taken from Psalm forty six, verse ten. Let's
- 4:37Speaker 1: be stilled before the Lord as we bow for prayer.
- 4:44Speaker 1: As was true of those five our father, we acknowledge
- 4:50Speaker 1: we also face an unknown future, each of those men
- 4:57Speaker 1: becoming martyrs in their desire to reach those who had
- 5:02Speaker 1: never known the Savior. And we move into a world
- 5:07Speaker 1: that has lost its way, has long since left the
- 5:13Speaker 1: teachings of the scriptures. And it's our desire to live
- 5:18Speaker 1: for you in this hostile environment in such a way that,
- 5:25Speaker 1: if nothing else, their curiosity would be drawn to how
- 5:29Speaker 1: we might live so differently in a world of the
- 5:32Speaker 1: majority who live the same. I pray for courage in
- 5:38Speaker 1: this congregation. I pray for wise decisions to be made
- 5:43Speaker 1: before anyone enters the workplace this week. I pray that
- 5:49Speaker 1: our hearts will be right before you, and that we
- 5:53Speaker 1: will not be ashamed of our convictions or of the
- 5:59Speaker 1: good news that has transformed our lives. We need wisdom
- 6:05Speaker 1: to do this lest we come across as prudish, holier
- 6:10Speaker 1: than thou. I pray that you will give us an authenticity,
- 6:16Speaker 1: like Christ, who lived and spoke in such a way
- 6:22Speaker 1: that people could not stay away as he drew to
- 6:28Speaker 1: himself those who would follow him if he were to
- 6:32Speaker 1: live today, Maybe may we be among those in that number.
- 6:38Speaker 1: May hear May we hear his word above all others.
- 6:42Speaker 1: May we follow his teaching more faithfully then we follow
- 6:50Speaker 1: our conscience or what we may have been taught in
- 6:54Speaker 1: years past. May we be willing to devote ourselves to
- 7:03Speaker 1: the way we should go to please You Lord, not ourselves,
- 7:10Speaker 1: not people, but maybe please you in the process, Maybe
- 7:18Speaker 1: learn how to do it in such a winsome, gracious
- 7:20Speaker 1: way that others are drawn through our good works. To
- 7:27Speaker 1: you and your son, Jesus, help us this week, especially
- 7:34Speaker 1: as we move inexorably toward that Friday night when we
- 7:40Speaker 1: gather around the cross and the tomb, and we devote
- 7:49Speaker 1: ourselves afresh and anew to him who loved us and
- 7:55Speaker 1: gave himself for us. We desire that this message go
- 8:01Speaker 1: beyond our own property and beyond our own neighborhood. And
- 8:05Speaker 1: while infiltrating this area, may we be faithful to carry
- 8:09Speaker 1: it beyond use the gifts that we give for that purpose.
- 8:16Speaker 1: And now, as we sit still before you, may we
- 8:22Speaker 1: rehearse in our minds the week that has passed. May
- 8:27Speaker 1: we prepare ourselves for the sowing of the seed. May
- 8:32Speaker 1: we not be defensive or preoccupied as we hear your
- 8:40Speaker 1: son from your word, teach us how to live in
- 8:46Speaker 1: this world for your greater glory and for your sake alone.
- 8:54Speaker 1: We pray this, and we give our gifts through Christ,
- 8:59Speaker 1: our Lord. Everyone said, amen, I have several shocking questions
- 9:08Speaker 1: to ask you, so hold on tight. Are you a murderer?
- 9:19Speaker 1: Do you do it so often that you don't even
- 9:22Speaker 1: remember the last time you took another's life? What is
- 9:30Speaker 1: your preferred method of killing? Poisoning your victim, burning him
- 9:37Speaker 1: or her, beating stabbing that individual? How long is your record?
- 9:47Speaker 1: Truth be told, some of you would qualify as a
- 9:51Speaker 1: serial killer. If those questions offend you. Those statements make
- 10:01Speaker 1: you defensive. You are a self righteous pharisee. Those are
- 10:09Speaker 1: the kind of questions Jesus would ask his audience, knowing
- 10:14Speaker 1: that they would shatter all vistages of self righteousness and hypocrisy.
- 10:25Speaker 1: If you're a follower of Jesus, if you submit to
- 10:29Speaker 1: his teaching, you would quickly acknowledge the truth he speaks.
- 10:34Speaker 1: And rather than saying, how dare you ask me, that
- 10:38Speaker 1: you would answer guilty is charged. Before we look at
- 10:48Speaker 1: some of the things he taught. I would like for
- 10:51Speaker 1: us to see what James writes in the third chapter
- 10:56Speaker 1: of his letter over here in the New Testament. And
- 11:02Speaker 1: when I do that, I want to show you where
- 11:04Speaker 1: you've been hiding your weapon. I'll cut to the chase
- 11:12Speaker 1: and say the weapon is hidden behind your teeth, going
- 11:20Speaker 1: down to your throat, all the way to your heart.
- 11:25Speaker 1: It is your tongue that kills, that poisons, that beats
- 11:39Speaker 1: and stabs others. Look please at James three in verse five.
- 11:48Speaker 1: The tongue is a small part of the body, and
- 11:51Speaker 1: yet it boasts of great things. See how great a
- 11:56Speaker 1: forest is set a flame by such a small fire.
- 12:01Speaker 1: The tongue is a fire. That's why I say you
- 12:04Speaker 1: may burn your victims. Is the very world of iniquity.
- 12:10Speaker 1: The tongue is set among our members as that which
- 12:14Speaker 1: defiles the entire body, and sets on fire the course
- 12:18Speaker 1: of our life, and is set on fire by Hell itself.
- 12:23Speaker 1: Look at the next statement. Every species of beasts and birds,
- 12:28Speaker 1: reptiles and creatures of the sea is tamed and has
- 12:33Speaker 1: been tamed by the human race. But no one that
- 12:38Speaker 1: includes you and me, no one can tame the tongue.
- 12:46Speaker 1: It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With
- 12:56Speaker 1: it we bless our Lord and father, and with it
- 13:00Speaker 1: we curse men and women who have been made in
- 13:05Speaker 1: the likeness of God. From the same mouth come both
- 13:10Speaker 1: blessing and cursing, My brothers and sisters. These things ought
- 13:18Speaker 1: not to be this way. Look at the next chapter,
- 13:25Speaker 1: Chapter four, verses one and two, equally convicting. What is
- 13:32Speaker 1: the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is it not?
- 13:36Speaker 1: The source? Is not the source your pleasures that wage
- 13:41Speaker 1: war in your members? It means your desires translated pleasures.
- 13:46Speaker 1: Is it not your desire that wages war in your members?
- 13:51Speaker 1: You lust and do not have. That's a picture of covetousness.
- 13:55Speaker 1: There's a result you commit murder. Look at that you
- 14:01Speaker 1: covet because you cannot have. You commit murder to make
- 14:06Speaker 1: it happen. You're envious and cannot obtain, so you fight
- 14:12Speaker 1: and you quarrel. The picture of not only the human race.
- 14:24Speaker 1: I'm gonna go ahead and say it many a group
- 14:28Speaker 1: of Christians, if we are known by criticism of one thing,
- 14:36Speaker 1: it is our inability to solve our own quarrels, to
- 14:42Speaker 1: restrain our tongues from saying things that make us sound
- 14:47Speaker 1: exactly like the world around us. We shrug it off
- 14:54Speaker 1: by say, well that it is the way I was raised.
- 14:57Speaker 1: That's heard it all my life. You know, get over it.
- 15:00Speaker 1: Don't be so sensit. Wait a minute. Some of you
- 15:04Speaker 1: have come from volatile homes. I acknowledge that I happen
- 15:07Speaker 1: not to have been from a home that yelled at
- 15:10Speaker 1: each other. But some of you knew yelling all the
- 15:12Speaker 1: way through your growing up. Ears. My heart goes out
- 15:15Speaker 1: to you because you not only hear it, You pick
- 15:18Speaker 1: up a habit and you're not shocked by it, and
- 15:23Speaker 1: that's why you do it. You heard cursing. I don't
- 15:28Speaker 1: believe I heard a curse word in my home. Out
- 15:30Speaker 1: throughout my growing up years. Some of you heard cursing frequently.
- 15:37Speaker 1: You witness tongue lashing, we call it. You set in
- 15:44Speaker 1: groups where other people are spoken of in such ugly ways.
- 15:50Speaker 1: It is like they are verbally assassinated and they're not
- 15:53Speaker 1: even there to defend themselves, and you participated in that.
- 15:58Speaker 1: How easy to do that. It is so accepting in
- 16:04Speaker 1: this day and age. Tragically, even in Christian circles, you
- 16:11Speaker 1: might think I've been a little hard on us. Look
- 16:15Speaker 1: at Romans chapter three on your way back to Matthew five.
- 16:20Speaker 1: This is not James. This is now Paul doing a
- 16:22Speaker 1: post mortem analysis of depraved humanity. It's an ugly picture.
- 16:29Speaker 1: As he works his way down from the head to
- 16:32Speaker 1: the feet, he's describing humanity in its raw reality. Were
- 16:38Speaker 1: it not for the power and work of Christ in
- 16:41Speaker 1: any one of our lives, this is the lifestyle we
- 16:44Speaker 1: would live, and tragically, this is the habit many have formed.
- 16:50Speaker 1: Romans three ten. There's none righteous, not even one meaning
- 16:57Speaker 1: righteous in yourself, meaning so righteous? What a deception. There
- 17:03Speaker 1: is none who understands. There's none who on his own
- 17:07Speaker 1: seeks after God, you have all turned aside. Together they
- 17:13Speaker 1: have become useless. There is none who does good. No,
- 17:17Speaker 1: not one keep reading. It's more penetrating. Their throat is
- 17:26Speaker 1: an open grave. With their tongues they keep deceiving. Look
- 17:35Speaker 1: at that the poison of asps is under their lips,
- 17:41Speaker 1: whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness. And all
- 17:47Speaker 1: the way to the feet that are swift to shed blood,
- 17:51Speaker 1: destruction and misery are in their paths, and the path
- 17:55Speaker 1: of peace they've not known. There's no fear of God
- 18:00Speaker 1: before there. That, in a thousand other reasons, explains why
- 18:10Speaker 1: I have the privilege every day of my life, and
- 18:14Speaker 1: certainly every week when Sunday comes to announce the good
- 18:18Speaker 1: news that you don't have to live like you were born.
- 18:24Speaker 1: You are not a victim of your old nature. If
- 18:27Speaker 1: you have Christ living within, he has come to deliver
- 18:32Speaker 1: you by His grace from that kind of lifestyle. Whereas
- 18:39Speaker 1: you have in your old nature always the tendency to
- 18:42Speaker 1: speak evil, to spread poison, to assault and attack, there
- 18:48Speaker 1: can be restraint through the work of God deep within
- 18:52Speaker 1: your heart, so that the tongue, like a bucket going
- 18:56Speaker 1: down into the well of the heart, can bring up
- 18:59Speaker 1: that which is beautiful and good, encouraging and lovely and affirming.
- 19:06Speaker 1: But on its own it will not do that. As
- 19:12Speaker 1: with all of this in mind that we go back
- 19:13Speaker 1: to the Sermon on the Mount, Chapter five of Matthew,
- 19:17Speaker 1: and if I may remind you of where we were
- 19:20Speaker 1: last time. Religion has a strong foothold in most people's
- 19:24Speaker 1: lives who are reared around churches and religious teaching. Much
- 19:31Speaker 1: of the teaching is incorrect. Rather than giving you a
- 19:37Speaker 1: way to live that is under the power of the spirit,
- 19:41Speaker 1: you and I were given lists things we should do,
- 19:44Speaker 1: things we should not do, so that the doing of
- 19:47Speaker 1: things characterized our lives. It was all about how we acted.
- 19:54Speaker 1: You don't do this because it doesn't look good. You
- 19:58Speaker 1: don't say that because people will form opinions. It's all
- 20:02Speaker 1: about the actions. Whereas true religion, genuine Christianity, goes deeper
- 20:09Speaker 1: than the mouth, than the fists, than the feet, goes
- 20:15Speaker 1: all the way to the inner man, where we have
- 20:18Speaker 1: a chance to realize there can be a control. And
- 20:22Speaker 1: when you come to Christ, listen to me. The Spirit
- 20:26Speaker 1: of God makes his residence in your life, and he
- 20:31Speaker 1: lives there to control your emotions, to restrain your rage,
- 20:40Speaker 1: to calm your tendency toward retaliation, and to give you
- 20:48Speaker 1: genuine peace, so that you're speaking peaceful terms, encouraging terms,
- 20:58Speaker 1: loving words. You can't do it on your own. Try
- 21:04Speaker 1: all you wish without Christ to live like Jesus teaches,
- 21:08Speaker 1: you will be one frustrated individual. You must have Jesus
- 21:14Speaker 1: living in your life for there to be the kind
- 21:17Speaker 1: of restraint that you need. Now, then all of these
- 21:24Speaker 1: who are listening to Jesus teach and his sermon on
- 21:26Speaker 1: the Mount had been reared under rabbis who learned their
- 21:29Speaker 1: lessons from the Pharisees and the scribes. They read them,
- 21:34Speaker 1: they listened to them, They were tutored and mentored by them.
- 21:38Speaker 1: So they parroted what they had been taught and seen
- 21:42Speaker 1: before their eye. Everything was about the act. So when
- 21:45Speaker 1: they address or when they address murder, they addressed the
- 21:49Speaker 1: act of murder, not the motive behind it, not the
- 21:53Speaker 1: thoughts that lead to it, not the anger that stems
- 21:58Speaker 1: from the heart and leads two assaulting others. They weren't
- 22:03Speaker 1: taught about that. They were taught the act of murder,
- 22:06Speaker 1: because that's that's what the law teaches. You shall not kill,
- 22:10Speaker 1: meaning you shall not murder. And along comes Jesus and says,
- 22:16Speaker 1: but I say to you, you are to be different
- 22:21Speaker 1: from that. It isn't simply the act. I want to
- 22:25Speaker 1: dress behind the scenes the hidden motive of the heart.
- 22:32Speaker 1: You see, the Pharisees dealt with the letter of the law.
- 22:36Speaker 1: Jesus came and taught about the spirit of the law.
- 22:42Speaker 1: I want you to pull a pen from your purse
- 22:44Speaker 1: or your pocket, and I want you to mark some
- 22:47Speaker 1: things in this fifth chapter that I want you to
- 22:50Speaker 1: remember when we get to them in days to come.
- 22:53Speaker 1: But now I just like you to mark them. You
- 22:55Speaker 1: will see on the outline where I'm going, because in
- 22:59Speaker 1: this sermon Jesus tells them what they've been hearing, and
- 23:03Speaker 1: then he corrects that teaching with his words that are
- 23:08Speaker 1: introduced by what I call a literary clue. There are
- 23:12Speaker 1: six of these clues that go together. Look at your Bible.
- 23:16Speaker 1: Chapter five, Verses twenty one and twenty two would be
- 23:20Speaker 1: the first. I'll not read at all, but simply the
- 23:24Speaker 1: first lines verse twenty one. You have heard twenty two.
- 23:30Speaker 1: But I say to you what they had heard was
- 23:33Speaker 1: what they had grown up with, what they had listened to,
- 23:37Speaker 1: what they had witnessed among the Pharisees what the rabbis
- 23:40Speaker 1: had taught them. And along comes Jesus, who says, there's
- 23:44Speaker 1: more to it than that. It's not an act, it's
- 23:47Speaker 1: an attitude, which he addresses. Look again verse twenty seven,
- 23:52Speaker 1: verse twenty eight. You can mark this you with your
- 23:55Speaker 1: pen or pencil. You have heard I say to you.
- 24:00Speaker 1: And here he addresses adulterrey twenty seven, twenty eight, twenty
- 24:06Speaker 1: nine thirty adultery. They taught this, which was about the
- 24:12Speaker 1: act of adultery. Jesus taught that, which is about lust
- 24:17Speaker 1: that leads to adultery. You don't control your lust, you
- 24:21Speaker 1: are guilty of adultery, just as if you don't control
- 24:24Speaker 1: your anger, you are guilty of murder. Until you see that,
- 24:29Speaker 1: you won't understand the seriousness of this teaching. There's a
- 24:33Speaker 1: third verse thirty one, verse thirty two. It was said
- 24:40Speaker 1: verse thirty two, but I say little change in wording,
- 24:46Speaker 1: rather than you have heard. But it was said the
- 24:49Speaker 1: same thing, but I say to you. And then he
- 24:52Speaker 1: corrects the teaching regarding divorce verses thirty three and thirty four.
- 24:57Speaker 1: Mark that, yeah, you have heard verse thirty four, but
- 25:03Speaker 1: I say here he talks about oaths. Look at thirty
- 25:10Speaker 1: eight and thirty nine. You have heard verse thirty eight,
- 25:15Speaker 1: But I say to you, and here he talks about retaliation,
- 25:19Speaker 1: an eye for an eye, or tooth for the tooth,
- 25:22Speaker 1: And that's the way the Pharisees taught. But he said
- 25:25Speaker 1: there's a better way. Let me tell you about it.
- 25:29Speaker 1: There's another. You have heard. It was said you shall
- 25:31Speaker 1: love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I say,
- 25:36Speaker 1: that's forty three and forty four. Got them, all, six
- 25:40Speaker 1: of them. We're looking at the first of six where
- 25:45Speaker 1: we learn how to steer clear of murder. Until you realize,
- 25:51Speaker 1: and that was the purpose of my shocking questions, until
- 25:54Speaker 1: you realize that you can commit verbal murder, you will
- 25:59Speaker 1: know ever really take the tongue seriously. You'll never really
- 26:05Speaker 1: give attention to how it can be restrained. You'll pass
- 26:09Speaker 1: it off with a shrug. You'll say, compared to so
- 26:12Speaker 1: and so, I'm under control, or in light of what
- 26:16Speaker 1: my dad used to say, I'm a lot better. We're
- 26:19Speaker 1: not comparing people with people. We're listening to the teaching
- 26:22Speaker 1: of Jesus. Okay, so let's deal with murder here. The
- 26:26Speaker 1: outward act is in verse twenty one. All your growing
- 26:31Speaker 1: up years, all those times in the synagogue, all those
- 26:34Speaker 1: days in church, we would say, you have heard the
- 26:38Speaker 1: ancients were told you shall not commit murder. Murderers, obviously,
- 26:43Speaker 1: the taking of the life of another, don't do that.
- 26:47Speaker 1: Whoever commits murders shall be liable to the court. What
- 26:50Speaker 1: does that mean? In small communities, the court consisted of
- 26:54Speaker 1: about three people. Medium sized communities that grew to about seven,
- 27:00Speaker 1: and in larger cities it was as many as twenty
- 27:02Speaker 1: three that filled the court. And you stood before the court,
- 27:06Speaker 1: and you suffered the consequences if you, in fact took
- 27:09Speaker 1: the life of another. The law says, don't do it,
- 27:12Speaker 1: and the Pharisees taught the law, but they never went
- 27:15Speaker 1: behind the scenes and dealt with anger. That's why many
- 27:18Speaker 1: of them were filled with anger. You question that. They're
- 27:22Speaker 1: the ones who led to the crucifixion of Jesus. They're
- 27:26Speaker 1: the ones who hated the Messiah. They're the ones who
- 27:30Speaker 1: found fault in what he taught because he exposed them
- 27:34Speaker 1: in their self righteousness. He shattered their self righteousness, and
- 27:39Speaker 1: they despised him for it. They teaming up with the
- 27:43Speaker 1: Romans nailed him to the cross, hopefully to silence him.
- 27:48Speaker 1: On the contrary, they set the message free. But now
- 27:53Speaker 1: Jesus comes along and says, there's more to it than
- 27:55Speaker 1: an act. There's more to it than putting a gun
- 27:59Speaker 1: in someone's chest and pulling the trigger. There's more to
- 28:03Speaker 1: it than poisoning someone. Let me go further. Now it
- 28:08Speaker 1: gets very convicting everyone who is angry with his brother.
- 28:14Speaker 1: So let's keep this among the family. Your brother would
- 28:18Speaker 1: be your fellow Christian. Your sister would be your fellow Christian.
- 28:25Speaker 1: Everyone who is angry with his brother or sister in
- 28:28Speaker 1: the family of God shall be guilty before the court.
- 28:33Speaker 1: He even goes into detail. Whoever says you good for nothing,
- 28:39Speaker 1: that's an insulting statement. We would call it airhead. It
- 28:43Speaker 1: means an empty headed individual. That's an insulting statement, shall
- 28:49Speaker 1: be guilty. Whoever says you fool, fool, isn't someone that
- 28:52Speaker 1: just does something mischievous. A fool says in his heart,
- 28:55Speaker 1: there's no God, you godless so and so so. It's
- 28:59Speaker 1: a it's a pronouncement of condemnation of another person. It's
- 29:05Speaker 1: what we do in a burst of temper. It's what
- 29:08Speaker 1: we do when we take off all the restraints. This
- 29:11Speaker 1: is road rage in action, except it has to do
- 29:16Speaker 1: with the tongue. Now you can begin to get the picture.
- 29:20Speaker 1: You see it. It's an inner attitude, has to do
- 29:23Speaker 1: with an anger which broods let me go further, an
- 29:26Speaker 1: anger that won't forget. Some of you could name book,
- 29:33Speaker 1: chapter and verse of an event that happened, of where
- 29:36Speaker 1: it made you anger, and you have carried that anger
- 29:39Speaker 1: to this day. You even know the words that were said.
- 29:47Speaker 1: Anger that won't forget. Or it's an anger that refuses
- 29:50Speaker 1: to forgive and be pacified, or it's an anger, worst
- 29:55Speaker 1: of all, that seeks revenge. I don't know if you're
- 30:00Speaker 1: the kind of person who holds a grudge, but if
- 30:02Speaker 1: you are, I plead with you, on this day in
- 30:05Speaker 1: your life, to break that habit. Holding grudges is a
- 30:13Speaker 1: horrible way to live, and it's a dreadful way to die.
- 30:22Speaker 1: I did a little research this week on the Hatfields
- 30:25Speaker 1: and McCoy's. There's sort of the notorious example of a
- 30:32Speaker 1: feud between two families. The Hatfields lived in Kentucky near
- 30:38Speaker 1: the Big Sandy River at the Fork, and the McCoy's
- 30:43Speaker 1: lived in West Virginia because one of the members of
- 30:48Speaker 1: a family fought for the Union rather than the Confederacy.
- 30:54Speaker 1: The group on the other side that was on the
- 30:56Speaker 1: side of the Confederates hated him when he turned. When
- 31:00Speaker 1: he returned from battle, having lost a leg, he was
- 31:06Speaker 1: killed by a Hatfield. Body was found January seventh, Get
- 31:11Speaker 1: this eighteen sixty five. Stay with me. Thirteen years later,
- 31:18Speaker 1: in an argument over the ownership of a hog. In
- 31:22Speaker 1: June eighteen eighty two, McCoy brothers killed a relative from
- 31:28Speaker 1: the other family. The few had escalated when a Hatfield
- 31:33Speaker 1: married a McCoy. I bet that was fun when the
- 31:36Speaker 1: two got together in the families. Can you imagine? August nine,
- 31:41Speaker 1: eighteen eighty two. There's the reason I'm giving you dates.
- 31:45Speaker 1: August nine, eighteen eighty two. Another murder followed a fight.
- 31:48Speaker 1: This led to a revenge killing of several that same day.
- 31:53Speaker 1: No forgiveness, no reconciliation, only loading up the weapon for
- 31:59Speaker 1: another shot. Eighteen eighty six, a McCoy shot at and
- 32:05Speaker 1: killed a Hatfield. January one, eighteen eighty eight, a McCoy
- 32:09Speaker 1: killed nine was killed by nine Hatfield attackers as a payback.
- 32:14Speaker 1: January seventh, eighteen eighty eight. A hatfield killed was killed
- 32:18Speaker 1: by McCoy January eighteen, eighteen eighty eight. Another killing February eighteen,
- 32:23Speaker 1: eighteen ninety a hanging, similar killings, acts of hatred, ongoing fights,
- 32:31Speaker 1: lingering offenses. Finally, June the fourteenth, two thousand and three,
- 32:35Speaker 1: there was an official truce declared, and one of the
- 32:39Speaker 1: members of one of the families says, sometime you do
- 32:41Speaker 1: have to fight, but you don't have to fight forever.
- 32:45Speaker 1: It was signed by more than sixty descendants from both
- 32:48Speaker 1: sides after the feud had lasted one hundred and thirty
- 32:51Speaker 1: eight and a half years. That's what happens when you
- 32:59Speaker 1: hold a gudge. Oh yeah, you're not that violin. I
- 33:03Speaker 1: know that. I know that, and I'm also I need
- 33:06Speaker 1: to clarify too. While we're all sitting here shredded and guilt,
- 33:11Speaker 1: I need to add here that not every skirmish is
- 33:15Speaker 1: a is a verbal murder. I mean you'll have arguments.
- 33:20Speaker 1: It's not talking about arguments. I mean if you're married,
- 33:24Speaker 1: if you're just married, it goes with it. And the
- 33:28Speaker 1: longer you're married. It's interesting, isn't it. The skirmishes a
- 33:34Speaker 1: cur back and forth. It's the case of the old
- 33:37Speaker 1: guy that had been married to this older lady fifty
- 33:41Speaker 1: years and he had retired and she was sick of
- 33:44Speaker 1: having him around, and she said to him, just get
- 33:46Speaker 1: out for a while. I need a break. So we leeve.
- 33:50Speaker 1: He leaves and he goes to a store and he
- 33:52Speaker 1: steals a can of peaches. And he comes home and
- 33:56Speaker 1: he opens the can of peaches and he's eating them.
- 33:58Speaker 1: She said, what are you doing? He said, I'm eating
- 33:59Speaker 1: these peach and she said, where'd you get him? He said,
- 34:02Speaker 1: I stole him. She hit the ceiling. She turned him in,
- 34:05Speaker 1: pressed charges, took him for the cops. The cops got
- 34:09Speaker 1: him for the judge, and he stood before the judge.
- 34:11Speaker 1: Judge said to him, as he got the picture, how
- 34:14Speaker 1: many peaches in that can? The old guy says six? Okay.
- 34:19Speaker 1: He said, I'm gonna teach you a lesson. O man,
- 34:22Speaker 1: I'm gonna put you in jail for six days. His
- 34:24Speaker 1: wife's in the back of the court saying he also
- 34:27Speaker 1: stole the can of peace. Little marital anger there going on.
- 34:39Speaker 1: You understand, that's why you laugh. You understand we're not
- 34:46Speaker 1: talking about that, you know better. We're talking about those
- 34:53Speaker 1: times that fire could have been coming out of your
- 34:58Speaker 1: mouth like a dragon. We're talking about those moments when
- 35:03Speaker 1: you seethe deep within and you cultivated a hatred for
- 35:11Speaker 1: another person. This is what we're talking about. We're dealing
- 35:16Speaker 1: with murder in the heart. You see, when you're a Christian,
- 35:24Speaker 1: you learn not to shrug sins. You don't do that.
- 35:31Speaker 1: Mature Christians don't shrug off sins. And even though you're
- 35:34Speaker 1: a strong believer in grace, and there's no one right
- 35:37Speaker 1: now on this planet stronger in grace than I am,
- 35:41Speaker 1: but I will tell you, as a grace loving believer,
- 35:46Speaker 1: you don't dare shrug off sins that cheapened grace. That's
- 35:54Speaker 1: why Jesus says what he does and uses words like
- 35:58Speaker 1: this that strike the heart. Let it see what it
- 36:05Speaker 1: says now, imperfect Jesus Christ fashion. He flips the story
- 36:14Speaker 1: around when he gets to verse twenty three, and he
- 36:18Speaker 1: no longer looks at you in your anger. He now
- 36:26Speaker 1: looks at the person you've offended, the person you said
- 36:32Speaker 1: those things to. Look at twenty three. It's a conditional sentence.
- 36:40Speaker 1: If and you're in church, you're reaching into your wallet
- 36:46Speaker 1: or your checkbook to write out your gift for the day.
- 36:50Speaker 1: In those days, you had a gift that you brought
- 36:52Speaker 1: and offering to the altar. That's what it's saying. If
- 36:55Speaker 1: you are presenting your offering at the altar and there
- 36:59Speaker 1: remember at that while you're engaged in worship, amazing about
- 37:06Speaker 1: the mind, you're suddenly stung with memory. You blink your
- 37:13Speaker 1: eyes and you see another face on your eyelids. You
- 37:20Speaker 1: begin to be pierced in your heart. When you're in
- 37:23Speaker 1: the middle of a song or a time of silence,
- 37:28Speaker 1: or in a sermon, you're about to present your offering
- 37:34Speaker 1: at the altar, and what happens. You remember your brother
- 37:38Speaker 1: has something against you. You are the offender, and you
- 37:46Speaker 1: remember that, oh, I've had that happen and I know
- 37:51Speaker 1: you have. What do you do? Do you sort of
- 37:58Speaker 1: shrug and pray and ask the Lord to help him
- 38:02Speaker 1: understand that it was just a bad moment. No, doesn't
- 38:05Speaker 1: say that you wait a few days and think, maybe
- 38:12Speaker 1: have a chance to make contact or doorable open. Maybe
- 38:15Speaker 1: you write a letter. No doesn't say that there's no
- 38:19Speaker 1: wait here. Do you leave it up to him to
- 38:25Speaker 1: come or her to come to you and say, you
- 38:27Speaker 1: know the other day when you said so and so
- 38:30Speaker 1: that was very hurting, that was difficult, and I can't
- 38:35Speaker 1: quite get No. No, the responsibility is not the other person's.
- 38:43Speaker 1: Please observe the verse and let the verse say what
- 38:46Speaker 1: it says. Look at the verbs. Leave you're offering and
- 38:54Speaker 1: go first, be reconciled at that order of importance. First
- 39:03Speaker 1: be reconciled, and then come and now present your offering
- 39:08Speaker 1: full circle. You're in the middle of worship and you realize, oh,
- 39:19Speaker 1: and you're convicted. It's come from the spirit of God.
- 39:23Speaker 1: You've said or done something that was cutting, and you
- 39:29Speaker 1: know you were wrong, and you know the other person
- 39:33Speaker 1: was hurt, was offended. Your mind has the ability to
- 39:40Speaker 1: picture all of that. You go, what do you use
- 39:44Speaker 1: to say? It says you go first and be reconciled.
- 39:47Speaker 1: You turn enmity into amity. You turn the offense into
- 39:53Speaker 1: a resolution. You reconcile with this brother or sister you
- 40:02Speaker 1: have heard. May I add you don't try to justify
- 40:08Speaker 1: what you did, And let me say this. You don't
- 40:11Speaker 1: blame him or her for something they had done that
- 40:16Speaker 1: caused you to do that. What caused you to do
- 40:19Speaker 1: it is your own anger, unrestrained. That's what you're dealing with.
- 40:27Speaker 1: I want you to know that I've come to realize
- 40:29Speaker 1: that what I did was absolutely wrong. I have no excuse,
- 40:36Speaker 1: and I want you to know that I care very
- 40:39Speaker 1: much that we rebuild a relationship that I have destroyed.
- 40:44Speaker 1: I don't want that. I don't want that to happen,
- 40:50Speaker 1: and I'd like you to forgive me, please, I'd like
- 40:53Speaker 1: to seek your forgiveness. I'd like to make that right.
- 40:59Speaker 1: And then what do you do? You come and present
- 41:01Speaker 1: your offering back at worship. I'm going to pause here
- 41:08Speaker 1: and let you think that through my words are saying
- 41:16Speaker 1: one thing to one person and something altogether different to
- 41:19Speaker 1: someone else. It may be something between you and one
- 41:22Speaker 1: of your children now grown. It may be with an
- 41:27Speaker 1: in law. It may be with your parents. It may
- 41:33Speaker 1: be with a former friend who's no longer a friend.
- 41:38Speaker 1: May have been a roommate in college or classmate school,
- 41:45Speaker 1: maybe a fellow soldier when you were serving in the military.
- 41:51Speaker 1: The possibilities are endless, but you don't leave it there.
- 42:00Speaker 1: You make it right. Please observe this is one of
- 42:03Speaker 1: the few times and all the scriptures, you stop your
- 42:06Speaker 1: worship to take care of a higher priority. You see,
- 42:12Speaker 1: it's a tendency of the hypocrite to stay in church
- 42:16Speaker 1: and just to go to more church services rather than
- 42:21Speaker 1: you know what, more important than my attending a church
- 42:23Speaker 1: service is attending to this offense that I've caused. And
- 42:28Speaker 1: if I may be so bold as to say it,
- 42:30Speaker 1: some of you have left a trail of offenses. You're
- 42:34Speaker 1: the serial killer, and you justify for whatever reason they
- 42:43Speaker 1: ought to grow up or well, you know you should
- 42:46Speaker 1: have seen what they did. Stop all that. Until you
- 42:51Speaker 1: come to terms with this, you will not fulfill what
- 42:53Speaker 1: Jesus is commanding. He goes further. Look at the next
- 42:58Speaker 1: two verses. Now you're no longer at church. Now you're
- 43:02Speaker 1: going to court. And now it's not another brother. This
- 43:06Speaker 1: is an opponent. I take this individual to be person
- 43:10Speaker 1: who is without Christ. May not be, but I'm suggesting
- 43:13Speaker 1: that make friends quickly with your opponent. Look at the quickly.
- 43:17Speaker 1: There's urgency written all over this instruction. Urgency, Urgency, urgency.
- 43:26Speaker 1: Make friends quickly with your opponent at law while you're
- 43:30Speaker 1: with him on the way, so that your opponent may
- 43:32Speaker 1: not hand you over to the judge. These are all
- 43:35Speaker 1: picturesque words to describe what happens. And the judge turns
- 43:40Speaker 1: you over to the officer, and then you be thrown
- 43:42Speaker 1: into prison. Truly, I'll say to you, you won't come
- 43:45Speaker 1: out of there until you paid the last cent. What
- 43:47Speaker 1: does that mean? What's the prison? What's the prison? Look
- 43:56Speaker 1: at Matthew eighteen. Hold your place here right quick. Now
- 44:03Speaker 1: turn to Matthew eighteen. This is the section where Peter
- 44:09Speaker 1: says to Jesus, how many times do I forgive my brother?
- 44:13Speaker 1: Seven times? Jesus says seventy times seven, meaning an infinite
- 44:16Speaker 1: number of times. And what if I don't, What if
- 44:23Speaker 1: I don't forgive? This is the other side of the coin.
- 44:27Speaker 1: Look at it. Look at what he says. Chapter eighteen,
- 44:35Speaker 1: verse thirty four. Toward the end of the passage, his
- 44:40Speaker 1: lord moved with anger, handed him over to the torturers
- 44:44Speaker 1: till he should repay that which was owed him. It's
- 44:48Speaker 1: a story of a debt. Now, he adds, my heavenly
- 44:55Speaker 1: father will do also to you if you do not
- 44:59Speaker 1: forgive brother from your heart. It's about forgiveness. And you
- 45:05Speaker 1: see the words in verse thirty four, handed over to
- 45:09Speaker 1: the torturers. That's the prison. That's the prison where some
- 45:16Speaker 1: of you live. You're eaten up with an acid maybe
- 45:23Speaker 1: an acid of resentment or bitterness or grudge holding or blame,
- 45:29Speaker 1: and it's all you can do to smile through a
- 45:31Speaker 1: day because this is just your lifestyle. You become that
- 45:37Speaker 1: kind of individual. You've been turned over to the torturers.
- 45:46Speaker 1: It's a horrible way to live. I know I've been there,
- 46:00Speaker 1: and I've come to realize that that is not the
- 46:02Speaker 1: way I want to live my life. That it's certainly
- 46:05Speaker 1: not the way I want to die. As a pastor,
- 46:09Speaker 1: you're with people when they're dying often, and you hear
- 46:13Speaker 1: things that you wish you could share with everyone, words
- 46:18Speaker 1: of regret. It's remarkable how death will bring all of
- 46:22Speaker 1: that to the surface. Listen to me today. This is
- 46:29Speaker 1: for you right now to prepare for the rest of
- 46:32Speaker 1: your life. I encourage your cultivating reconciliation with others. Is
- 46:45Speaker 1: it humiliating, Yes, it can be. It's certainly a humbling
- 46:52Speaker 1: you begin with. I come today to acknowledge I said this,
- 46:57Speaker 1: and I had no right to say it. You weren't
- 46:59Speaker 1: even there, but you heard about it, and I'd hear
- 47:03Speaker 1: you'd heard about it. I never made that right. Or
- 47:06Speaker 1: it may be I remember that day when we had
- 47:09Speaker 1: that terrible argument, and I made some statements that were condemning.
- 47:15Speaker 1: How wrong I was. I want to make it right.
- 47:21Speaker 1: Please forgive me. I don't want to spend the rest
- 47:24Speaker 1: of my days churning, as he would put it, in
- 47:28Speaker 1: the prison of torturing. Now, as I close this message
- 47:35Speaker 1: the serious note, I want to offer three principles that
- 47:42Speaker 1: I think will help us respond correctly to Jesus' command.
- 47:48Speaker 1: Here's the first. The principles of kingdom living go deeper
- 47:55Speaker 1: than the external. The principles of kingdom living go deeper
- 48:02Speaker 1: than the externals. You can always count on this. Jesus
- 48:06Speaker 1: does not deal with externals. Man looks on the outward
- 48:10Speaker 1: appearance the Lord what looks on the heart. You can
- 48:16Speaker 1: be sure of this. Your acts acts are not the
- 48:22Speaker 1: first focus of our savior. It's the hidden person of
- 48:26Speaker 1: the heart. It's the things you think. It's the attitude
- 48:31Speaker 1: you cultivate. It's the deep resentment. It's the revenge, it's
- 48:38Speaker 1: the grudge, it's the blame. The principles of kingdom living
- 48:43Speaker 1: go deeper than the external. Here's the second. The potential
- 48:47Speaker 1: of anger is far greater than mere words. The potential
- 48:55Speaker 1: of anger is far greater than words. You're going to
- 48:59Speaker 1: try to justify yourself by saying, I just just a
- 49:03Speaker 1: throwaway comment. No wa, wait, that's not what Jesus calls it.
- 49:12Speaker 1: And if you wonder the condition of your heart, listen
- 49:14Speaker 1: to your tongue. Your tongue is like a bucket, and
- 49:18Speaker 1: your heart is like a well, and it goes down
- 49:21Speaker 1: into the well and it brings up what's there. That's
- 49:26Speaker 1: what is a concern to our Savior. And if you
- 49:30Speaker 1: know the Lord and you live like this without concern
- 49:34Speaker 1: for that, you grieve the Holy Spirit. That's not legalism,
- 49:40Speaker 1: that's biblical truth. You grieve the Lord who wants to
- 49:46Speaker 1: give you take full control of your whole life. Believe me,
- 49:50Speaker 1: it's a great way to live. There's nothing like it.
- 49:54Speaker 1: The potential of anger is far greater than mere words.
- 49:57Speaker 1: Here's a third. The power of reconciliation is stronger than revenge.
- 50:06Speaker 1: The power of reconciliation is stronger than revenge. Saint Patrick
- 50:16Speaker 1: was a fifth century British Christian missionary and a bishop
- 50:23Speaker 1: of Ireland. He came to be known as the Apostle
- 50:27Speaker 1: of Ireland. We only know him at the holiday or
- 50:31Speaker 1: at the day we acknowledge and we're green. We call
- 50:33Speaker 1: it Saint Patrick's Day. You owe it to yourself to
- 50:37Speaker 1: study the life of Patrick. Tradition has it that he
- 50:41Speaker 1: had this prayer inscribed on his breast plate. Listen to
- 50:46Speaker 1: this magnificent prayer. Each line begins with God, God be
- 50:53Speaker 1: in my head and in my understanding. God me in
- 51:01Speaker 1: my eyes and in my looking. God be in my
- 51:07Speaker 1: mouth and in my speaking. God Be in my heart
- 51:16Speaker 1: and in my thinking. God be at mine end and
- 51:24Speaker 1: at my departing. Fast forward to your day of departing.
- 51:35Speaker 1: I know it's difficult for you, who are strong and
- 51:38Speaker 1: healthy and younger, but Russia ahead there will be a
- 51:43Speaker 1: day you depart. How great to know that there were
- 51:49Speaker 1: no skeletons left. How great to know that you're sleep,
- 51:54Speaker 1: by the grace of God, was marked by forgiveness, reconciliation
- 52:01Speaker 1: and peace. What a way to die? Thou with me?
- 52:12Speaker 1: Will you please sit very still for a few moments.
- 52:26Speaker 1: I understand that I have spoken strong words today, and
- 52:29Speaker 1: I have done so only for your good. Had I not,
- 52:35Speaker 1: you probably would not have given me the attention that
- 52:39Speaker 1: you have given, not to me but to God's word.
- 52:44Speaker 1: It's time for you to reign in your tongue. It's
- 52:49Speaker 1: time for you to come to terms with your anger.
- 52:57Speaker 1: You're envy, your bitterness, your blame. It's time. As we
- 53:10Speaker 1: read in Romans three, we discovered that we can't do
- 53:13Speaker 1: this on our own. James even says you can't tame
- 53:17Speaker 1: your own tongue, so you need help from within the
- 53:22Speaker 1: presence of Jesus. Christ can fill your life and give
- 53:27Speaker 1: you the power you need to address the things that
- 53:31Speaker 1: you know deserve your attention. If I may speak on
- 53:40Speaker 1: behalf of those you have offended, Please do what is right.
- 53:51Speaker 1: Please deal with this. If first you must come to Christ,
- 53:56Speaker 1: then come to Christ. Trust him. He will forgive you.
- 54:05Speaker 1: He will set your feet on the rock and will
- 54:08Speaker 1: give you a confidence and refreshment that you've never known
- 54:13Speaker 1: before as you clear your conscience, if you know the
- 54:18Speaker 1: Lord's a great moment for you to confess this to
- 54:22Speaker 1: him and then begin the process of urgent dealing with it.
- 54:33Speaker 1: If we can help you with that, that's why we're here.
- 54:39Speaker 1: Just call on us a father. We end on this
- 54:46Speaker 1: sober note, because this has been a serious message. Can't
- 54:53Speaker 1: imagine how Jesus must have spoken these words and how
- 54:58Speaker 1: they must have been heard by those who discovered what
- 55:02Speaker 1: they had never been taught before, and what they must
- 55:07Speaker 1: have done about it. Help us to know kingdom. Living
- 55:12Speaker 1: in a world that's lost its way, give us the
- 55:15Speaker 1: ability to live in such a different way that the
- 55:20Speaker 1: very works of our lives, motives of our hearts, words
- 55:24Speaker 1: from our mouths strike curiosity in the lives of those
- 55:29Speaker 1: who don't know you, who seek to find out how
- 55:33Speaker 1: there can be such a difference in what they are
- 55:36Speaker 1: witnessing and what they live with. I pray that good
- 55:42Speaker 1: will come from these words of counsel, that these who
- 55:47Speaker 1: hear these words will be faithful to follow through for
- 55:52Speaker 1: your greater glory. As Christ instructed his name, we pray
- 56:02Speaker 1: everyone said Amen. Amen. The preceding message, Steering Clear of Murder,
- 56:13Speaker 1: was copyrighted in twenty fifteen and twenty twenty one, and
- 56:17Speaker 1: the sound recording was copyrighted in twenty twenty one by
- 56:20Speaker 1: Charles Rswindaw, Inc. All rights are reserved worldwide. Duplication of
- 56:26Speaker 1: copyrighted material for commercial use is strictly prohibited.