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FLEXIBLE WITH THE FLOW 🌊When Life Doesn't Follow the Plan. · The Black Sheep Leadership Podcast

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SPEAKER_00: Hey everybody, I want to welcome you to the Black Sheep Leadership Podcast.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Athena Renee, here, and this is where the underdogs, Misfits, and Black Sheep come to turn pain into power so that they could be able to lie by design and leave a legacy behind.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, if this is your first time tapping in, welcome home, family.
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SPEAKER_00: Pull up a chair.
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SPEAKER_00: We're glad you finally made it here.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you're back again, welcome back.
0:52
SPEAKER_00: It's good to see you again.
0:54
SPEAKER_00: And thank you once again for trusting me with your time.
0:57
SPEAKER_00: I don't take that lightly, okay?
0:59
SPEAKER_00: So let's do this quick vibe check.
1:01
SPEAKER_00: Because if you're easily offended, sensitive, entitled, waiting on somebody to come save you, or you're allergic to accountability, get your ass up out of here.
1:09
SPEAKER_00: This ain't your safe space.
1:11
SPEAKER_00: Go ahead and tap out now.
1:13
SPEAKER_00: But if you're ready to think bigger, move smarter, and you refuse to live beneath your potential, stay locked in, my friend.
1:20
SPEAKER_00: Because by the end of this episode, you're gonna walk away with something that you can execute immediately.
1:25
SPEAKER_00: All right?
1:26
SPEAKER_00: Now, let's get to work.
1:28
SPEAKER_00: In our previous briefing, we talked about making peace with the pruning.
1:33
SPEAKER_00: We talked about accepting that not everything or everyone is meant to accompany us into the next season.
1:40
SPEAKER_00: In other words, every everybody can't go.
1:43
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes something leaves or change, and sometimes it's nothing necessarily that went wrong, right?
1:50
SPEAKER_00: It just doesn't go according to plan.
1:54
SPEAKER_00: And that's a completely different test.
1:56
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
1:58
SPEAKER_00: Our operating system for the black sheep, we are about the OAE lifestyle, and that is observe, analyze, and execute.
2:04
SPEAKER_00: Well, today's briefing sits between analyze and execute because when conditions change, intelligent people don't automatically abandon the mission, the mission.
2:12
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes they adjust the route.
2:15
SPEAKER_00: Black sheep.
2:16
SPEAKER_00: Let me tell you something really quick.
2:17
SPEAKER_00: Story time.
2:19
SPEAKER_00: So I took a trip to Chicago about a month ago, and we had a complete itinerary.
2:24
SPEAKER_00: Okay, we knew what we were doing, we had plans, we had mapped everything out.
2:28
SPEAKER_00: And one thing about Chicago, if you've ever been, or even if you've seen some of the TikToks, it is so much to do in Chicago that you literally have to be intentional.
2:37
SPEAKER_00: And number two, wear you some good walking shoes.
2:39
SPEAKER_00: And so we had everything mapped out.
2:43
SPEAKER_00: At least we thought it was, right?
2:44
SPEAKER_00: Because somewhere along the way, those plans got changed.
2:48
SPEAKER_00: The car we were driving, the brakes were just starting to act really weird.
2:54
SPEAKER_00: So we got to uh one of the places on the itinerary, but that was the last place that we would go driving this car because we were not staying in Chicago that night.
3:05
SPEAKER_00: We were planning to head to the Detroit area.
3:08
SPEAKER_00: Because if you understand that Chicago is on one end of the interstate 94, Detroit is on the other end.
3:14
SPEAKER_00: So we got all these plans.
3:16
SPEAKER_00: We're gonna go ahead and we're gonna go in Chicago and do all these different things, and we're gonna pretty much speedball.
3:21
SPEAKER_00: Then we're gonna head back up the highway the other way and go to Detroit.
3:24
SPEAKER_00: Now keep in mind we're trying to do all of this in a 48-hour time frame.
3:28
SPEAKER_00: Well, guess what?
3:29
SPEAKER_00: Those plans had changed, and suddenly we had to get a hotel downtown Chicago.
3:37
SPEAKER_00: Now keep in mind, the original first place on our itinerary, we were going to see family members.
3:43
SPEAKER_00: So we were in the suburbs visiting them when we could not drive that car anymore, and so we needed to get downtown, and that meant catching an Uber or Lyft.
3:53
SPEAKER_00: Well, guess what, y'all?
3:54
SPEAKER_00: The damn Uber almost cost a hundred damn dollars.
3:59
SPEAKER_00: Now, listen, there's a going with the flow, and then there's looking at your Uber app like, Lord, what is going on?
4:07
SPEAKER_00: Is this the flow?
4:08
SPEAKER_00: Because even though on my way to Chicago, because I had insisted that I get a rental car or I drive my car and just pretty much trail the girl that I was riding with, and that was me saying, I'll be in control and I'll be able to just go home, you know what I mean, whenever I feel like it.
4:27
SPEAKER_00: Well, she said, No, go ahead and hop in the car with me.
4:31
SPEAKER_00: So I'm like, uh, I kind of thought about it, but I said, All right, what the heck?
4:34
SPEAKER_00: Let me go ahead, right?
4:35
SPEAKER_00: And it's it's an inside joke because one thing about me that people that know me is I'm always down for a road trip.
4:42
SPEAKER_00: I absolutely love road trips.
4:44
SPEAKER_00: So I said, All right, what the heck?
4:46
SPEAKER_00: I'm in.
4:47
SPEAKER_00: So, like I said, all of a sudden, we got to catch this Uber to downtown Chicago.
4:53
SPEAKER_00: Y'all, well, first of all, if you another thing about Chicago is it is an expensive city.
4:57
SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna sit here and tell you that Chicago is a cheap city.
5:00
SPEAKER_00: Don't get me wrong, obviously, you can find great deals depending on where you're going, right, or what you're getting.
5:05
SPEAKER_00: But overall, Chicago is not a cheap city at all, right?
5:08
SPEAKER_00: We're looking at five dollars of gas instantly, okay?
5:12
SPEAKER_00: So I'm sitting here like, uh, a hundred dollars for an Uber when I was just gonna drive my car?
5:19
SPEAKER_00: Like, what the heck, right?
5:21
SPEAKER_00: This wasn't what we planned.
5:23
SPEAKER_00: This was not the itinerary, this wasn't how the trip was supposed to go.
5:27
SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
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SPEAKER_00: We had to make a decision, so we could spend the rest of the trip irritated because things weren't happening according to the original plan, or we could adjust and enjoy what was actually happening.
5:40
SPEAKER_00: And you know what, family?
5:41
SPEAKER_00: I chose, I specifically chose the second one.
5:44
SPEAKER_00: And here's the crazy part we ended up staying at a five-star hotel.
5:47
SPEAKER_00: We went downtown, we got the authentic Chicago style pizza, we had a great time, and somewhere in that experience, it hit me.
5:55
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes, family, we're so busy being upset and mad and irritated and ticked off and aggravated about the experience that we didn't get, that the one that we planned, that we completely missed the experience life is giving us.
6:07
SPEAKER_00: And that's why today's briefing is called Being Flexible with the flow and how to respond when life doesn't follow the plan.
6:16
SPEAKER_00: Let's unplack it.
6:17
SPEAKER_00: Because there are things I learned from that trip that apply to a whole lot more than just traveling.
6:23
SPEAKER_00: All right, let's get into it.
6:25
SPEAKER_00: Truth number one: a changed plan doesn't automatically mean a bad outcome.
6:31
SPEAKER_00: A changed plan doesn't automatically mean a bad outcome.
6:34
SPEAKER_00: You know, some of us have a very unrelationship, a very unhealthy relationship with our plans, and I'm saying us because I believe in planning.
6:42
SPEAKER_00: I mean, I am one of those people that is really down to take action.
6:47
SPEAKER_00: I don't want to just sit around and talk about an idea for a long time.
6:51
SPEAKER_00: And in my younger day, that type of uh ideology, when it's not balanced properly, can get you in a lot of trouble because you end up acting first and acting before you even thought something through.
7:06
SPEAKER_00: So I'll be honest with you guys, I actually turned into a chronic planner.
7:10
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna plan the hell out of some stuff.
7:12
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna give you backup plans to backup plans, backup options to backup options.
7:16
SPEAKER_00: Okay, so like I said, I believe in plan.
7:20
SPEAKER_00: I like knowing what I'm doing, where I'm going, how much it's gonna cost, what time are we leaving, what time are we getting there?
7:25
SPEAKER_00: How much is it gonna cost?
7:27
SPEAKER_00: What's the state taxes?
7:28
SPEAKER_00: Just give me an overestimation.
7:30
SPEAKER_00: At least let me know in advance, right?
7:32
SPEAKER_00: And there's nothing wrong with that.
7:33
SPEAKER_00: Planning is intelligent, but there's a difference between having a plan and believing reality has signed a contract with you, agreeing to follow it.
7:40
SPEAKER_00: See, life never signed that contract.
7:42
SPEAKER_00: Flights may get delayed, people change their minds, weather changes, opportunities fall through, traffic happens, businesses close, people get sick, money changes, circumstances change, and sometimes nothing dramatic even happens.
7:54
SPEAKER_00: The day just takes a different direction.
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SPEAKER_00: The question becomes: can you adjust without allowing the adjustment to destroy your entire experience?
8:04
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna ask you again.
8:06
SPEAKER_00: Can you adjust without allowing the adjustment itself to destroy your entire experience?
8:13
SPEAKER_00: See, that's what Chicago reminded me of.
8:16
SPEAKER_00: Because the unexpected expense, listen, y'all, it was real.
8:19
SPEAKER_00: I'm not going to sit here and tell you, oh, everything happens for a reason, and that$100 Uber was such a blessing.
8:25
SPEAKER_00: No, the hell it wasn't because number one, guys, my car wasn't the one that was having the problems.
8:30
SPEAKER_00: So why do I gotta pay for a hundred dollar Uber to go downtown Chicago?
8:33
SPEAKER_00: Right?
8:34
SPEAKER_00: I absolutely would have preferred to keep my hundred dollars, okay?
8:37
SPEAKER_00: Flexibility does not require delusion, right?
8:40
SPEAKER_00: You can say this is inconvenient, this cost more than I expected, this isn't what I wanted, and still say, okay, what do we do now?
8:48
SPEAKER_00: Right?
8:49
SPEAKER_00: And that's emotional flexibility.
8:51
SPEAKER_00: See, the circumstance does not magically become good.
8:53
SPEAKER_00: You simply refuse to give the circumstance permission to determine your entire experience.
8:59
SPEAKER_00: And because I made that adjustment, we ended up having a great time.
9:04
SPEAKER_00: Here's another thing that's so funny about that trip.
9:08
SPEAKER_00: That you know, again, my friends are always laughing at me because number one, I'm always taking a laptop somewhere.
9:14
SPEAKER_00: I always have a backpack, like we're going on a hike.
9:16
SPEAKER_00: And you know what, family?
9:17
SPEAKER_00: I did not take my backpack that time.
9:19
SPEAKER_00: Well, I did, but I didn't put all the normal things that I would put in it, and in that time, I said, see, this is why I do this because we can't control the circumstances.
9:29
SPEAKER_00: Like I said, light did not sign that contract, right?
9:32
SPEAKER_00: But there are things that could sometimes make it a little bit better.
9:35
SPEAKER_00: But check this out I had my backpack and I didn't have everything in it.
9:39
SPEAKER_00: And guess what?
9:40
SPEAKER_00: All I had was one change of clothes.
9:44
SPEAKER_00: I mean, it listen, so when I tell you, I had to make the adjustment personally for myself because I said, you know what?
9:52
SPEAKER_00: I wanted to come to Chicago and do all of these different things, and this is how this is turning out.
9:57
SPEAKER_00: I said, you know what, we're downtown in Chicago, we got a five-star hotel.
10:01
SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna screw this up, or I'm not gonna have, you know, I'm gonna adjust my attitude to what we're getting into now because I'm not gonna let that circumstance jack up the entire experience, right?
10:11
SPEAKER_00: And that's why I remembered a change plan doesn't automatically mean a ruined plan, right?
10:16
SPEAKER_00: Because the weather was perfect in Chicago, it wasn't super hot because by now, when we caught that Uber going downtown, um, by the time we caught that Uber going downtown, it was about nine o'clock in the evening.
10:28
SPEAKER_00: And if you know anything about Chicago, a lot of times when that sun goes down in Lake Michigan, oh, that's a different type of cold, it could be in the summertime, but that wind will tear you up, okay.
10:37
SPEAKER_00: And this particular evening, the weather was so perfect.
10:41
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, wow! And that's why, like I said, I said, you know what, we had a change of plans, but that does not automatically mean it's a ruined plan.
10:49
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's simply a different plan.
10:51
SPEAKER_00: And one of the things that was really crazy is because I went to Chicago with someone that I grew up with right before I graduated from high school.
10:59
SPEAKER_00: And they knew me when I was that person that was kind of like, uh, why are we doing this?
11:03
SPEAKER_00: And you know, why are we changing it now?
11:05
SPEAKER_00: Right, and I could tell they didn't say anything, but I was just so calm with just going with the flow.
11:11
SPEAKER_00: Don't get me wrong, guys.
11:12
SPEAKER_00: I was aggravated because I wanted to go home.
11:14
SPEAKER_00: I mean, I wanted to go and stick to the plans that I was on, and then I was saying to myself earlier on, like, this is why you should have drove your own car or got a rental car.
11:23
SPEAKER_00: You should have listened to your first mind.
11:24
SPEAKER_00: Because even though we're discussing this and the plans were not ruined, you're still gonna have these things playing in the back of your mind.
11:30
SPEAKER_00: That's natural, family.
11:32
SPEAKER_00: You have to continue to make a conscious decision and say, you know what, this thing is not going to ruin my entire plan.
11:37
SPEAKER_00: That is just because it changed doesn't mean everything is going to be ruined, right?
11:41
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes, like I said, family is just a simply a different plan.
11:44
SPEAKER_00: And when you learn to adjust, I'm telling you, things a lot of times really will work out in your favor or better than you expected, which brings me to truth number two.
11:52
SPEAKER_00: Life can surprise you if you leave room for it too.
11:56
SPEAKER_00: So here's where things get interesting.
11:58
SPEAKER_00: We love control because control gives us a sense of safety.
12:01
SPEAKER_00: If I know exactly what's happening, I can prepare, anticipate, or I can even protect myself.
12:06
SPEAKER_00: But complete control also has a downside.
12:08
SPEAKER_00: Nothing unexpected can happen, including something unexpectedly good.
12:12
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes life will hand you something that wasn't on your itinerary, whether it be a conversation, a person, an opportunity, a place, or an idea, right?
12:20
SPEAKER_00: And because it doesn't look like what you expected, most of the time, as a black sheep, your first reaction is rejection.
12:28
SPEAKER_00: Nope.
12:29
SPEAKER_00: Nope.
12:29
SPEAKER_00: Especially if you're tired of people pleasing and always trying to go along with just to get along, you're like hell to know.
12:35
SPEAKER_00: No, this is not what I expected.
12:37
SPEAKER_00: This is not what I planned for.
12:38
SPEAKER_00: No, this is not what I planned.
12:40
SPEAKER_00: This is not what I wanted.
12:41
SPEAKER_00: This is not the job I applied for.
12:42
SPEAKER_00: That's not the business I was trying to build, right?
12:46
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes that's not where I thought I'd be living.
12:48
SPEAKER_00: You might ask yourself that.
12:49
SPEAKER_00: Okay, but before you reject it, look at it.
12:53
SPEAKER_00: Maybe there's something there.
12:55
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
12:56
SPEAKER_00: Think about a GPS.
12:57
SPEAKER_00: You enter your destination, it gives you a route, then traffic changes.
13:00
SPEAKER_00: Road construction pop up, there's an accident, and suddenly it's recalculating.
13:04
SPEAKER_00: Family, I know you see this all the time, right?
13:06
SPEAKER_00: The GPS doesn't have an external crisis hotline, it doesn't say, Well, that's it.
13:11
SPEAKER_00: Our entire future is over, you can't go anymore, right?
13:14
SPEAKER_00: It says, Here's another route, and that's flexibility.
13:18
SPEAKER_00: See, the destination can remain the same, but the route changes based on new information.
13:25
SPEAKER_00: Okay, and that's how we have to approach certain seasons in life.
13:28
SPEAKER_00: Maybe the goal is still financial independence, but the vehicle changes.
13:32
SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're you still want leadership, but it's not happening at the company you thought it was, right?
13:37
SPEAKER_00: You wanted a certain career change and you didn't get the um you didn't get the um opportunity that you thought.
13:43
SPEAKER_00: Maybe you still want entrepreneurship, but the first business model that you learned about or you were taught it's not working, right?
13:49
SPEAKER_00: Maybe you still want a relationship and the first few didn't work.
13:53
SPEAKER_00: Maybe you still want the same destination, but life is showing you another road.
13:57
SPEAKER_00: Don't become so emotional, emotionally attached to how it happens that it's sabotage where you're actually trying to go.
14:04
SPEAKER_00: Okay, because a lot of times we put, like, you know, Black Sheet family, we're passionate people.
14:09
SPEAKER_00: We're gonna put our all into something, and sometimes we get so emotionally entangled and involved in something that if it doesn't go exactly how we thought it would go, we sometimes will throw it out or sabotage it because it doesn't look like that, right?
14:22
SPEAKER_00: We will sabotage where the actual destination just because we think we failed because of an inconvenience or it's not going along the way we thought it should go.
14:31
SPEAKER_00: Okay, so let's talk about truth number three.
14:34
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the detour is a gift, and sometimes, family, it's a lesson.
14:39
SPEAKER_00: Now, this part matters right here, okay?
14:41
SPEAKER_00: Because I don't want some of us romanticizing every inconvenience, y'all.
14:44
SPEAKER_00: I'm telling you, because every desk every detour is not destiny.
14:48
SPEAKER_00: Like, please understand, every closed door isn't God personally rearranging the universe, every bad decision isn't secretly brilliant, but sometimes you just made a bad decision, right?
14:57
SPEAKER_00: You plan properly.
14:58
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's just how it is.
14:59
SPEAKER_00: We dropped the ball, we underestimated the cost, right?
15:02
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you should have asked another question, and sometimes the only gift inside the experience is now I know what not to do next time.
15:09
SPEAKER_00: Family, that's still valuable.
15:11
SPEAKER_00: That's wisdom that you could have not gotten any other way, right?
15:14
SPEAKER_00: Because flexible people don't just adjust during the experience, they extract the intelligence after the experience as well.
15:21
SPEAKER_00: You might ask, what worked, what didn't work, what surprised me, what would I do differently?
15:26
SPEAKER_00: What do I need to prepare for next time?
15:28
SPEAKER_00: That's how a detour can become wisdom, all right?
15:33
SPEAKER_00: And this is why I love the bamboo analogy.
15:36
SPEAKER_00: See, certain bamboo species can bend considerably under pressure.
15:39
SPEAKER_00: I mean a lot, but bending doesn't mean the bamboo has no structure, it has roots, strength, anchor, and that's the kind of flexibility I'm talking about.
15:47
SPEAKER_00: Because go with the flow can sound like whatever happens, happens.
15:50
SPEAKER_00: No, it is what it is.
15:52
SPEAKER_00: No, that's not strategy.
15:53
SPEAKER_00: I don't want you floating through life like a grocery bag in the wind, okay?
15:57
SPEAKER_00: No.
15:58
SPEAKER_00: Flexibility doesn't mean directionalist.
16:01
SPEAKER_00: You still need valuable standards, goals, boundaries, a sense of directions, but your methods can move.
16:07
SPEAKER_00: See what I'm saying?
16:08
SPEAKER_00: The goal will remain the same, the objective will remain the same, but your strategy can change, okay?
16:16
SPEAKER_00: It's your strategy, even sometimes your timeline.
16:19
SPEAKER_00: I'll never forget, guys.
16:20
SPEAKER_00: I said I wanted to move out to South Florida in what was it 2020?
16:29
SPEAKER_00: Well, guess what?
16:30
SPEAKER_00: Lo and behold, I'm not staying in South Florida at this time, right?
16:32
SPEAKER_00: And sometimes I'm like, uh, should I just say forget about it?
16:36
SPEAKER_00: But no, friends, sometimes that timeline changes.
16:39
SPEAKER_00: Your expectations can change, you can bend without breaking, and you can adapt without abandoning who you are.
16:45
SPEAKER_00: That's the difference, family.
16:46
SPEAKER_00: That is a difference because you know what's so funny now?
16:49
SPEAKER_00: When I was talking about moving to South Florida earlier on, I was talking about I had a couple options, but the main one was I was looking at an area called Brickle.
16:58
SPEAKER_00: And Brickle is in a financial district, but it's a really nice area.
17:01
SPEAKER_00: Um, and it's a lot going on.
17:03
SPEAKER_00: But now I'm at a stage in life where I'm like, the outskirts is for me.
17:07
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
17:08
SPEAKER_00: See, some of us don't struggle with planning.
17:11
SPEAKER_00: We struggle with control.
17:12
SPEAKER_00: We don't just want to plan, we want everybody else to follow our plan.
17:15
SPEAKER_00: We want life to follow our plan.
17:16
SPEAKER_00: We want the opportunity to arrive on schedule, we want the money to show up when expected.
17:20
SPEAKER_00: We want people to behave the way we predicted.
17:22
SPEAKER_00: And when they don't, we get frustrated.
17:24
SPEAKER_00: Because here's the problem: there are things you can control and influence, but then there's things that you cannot.
17:31
SPEAKER_00: And wisdom is learning the difference.
17:33
SPEAKER_00: Because if your peace requires everybody and everything around you to behave exactly the way you want them to, you're gonna spend a lot of time in your life irritated and mad.
17:42
SPEAKER_00: See, sometimes flexibility sounds like this isn't what I wanted, but this is what I'm working with.
17:47
SPEAKER_00: Or what's the smartest move from here?
17:49
SPEAKER_00: See, that's power.
17:50
SPEAKER_00: That's power.
17:51
SPEAKER_00: See, some people, family, as soon as something don't go their way, they mad.
17:54
SPEAKER_00: They're tripping.
17:55
SPEAKER_00: You ever seen some people in a restaurant when their food is not right and they literally flipping out on the people cooking their food?
18:00
SPEAKER_00: Now, how intelligent is that?
18:02
SPEAKER_00: How intelligent is it?
18:03
SPEAKER_00: Seriously.
18:06
SPEAKER_00: See, when the unexpected turns out better, because sometimes family life surprises you.
18:10
SPEAKER_00: That's what I took away from Chicago.
18:12
SPEAKER_00: What I had intentionally planned, would I have intentionally planned an almost hundred dollar Uber?
18:17
SPEAKER_00: Hell to the no.
18:18
SPEAKER_00: Would that have been on my itinerary?
18:20
SPEAKER_00: No.
18:21
SPEAKER_00: But would I erase that entire experience?
18:23
SPEAKER_00: Hell no.
18:24
SPEAKER_00: Because we still got downtown, we still stayed somewhere beautiful, we got the pizza.
18:28
SPEAKER_00: I got the Chicago style popcorn from Garrett's.
18:31
SPEAKER_00: We enjoyed ourselves, we had a ball, right?
18:33
SPEAKER_00: The original plan changed.
18:35
SPEAKER_00: The experience didn't have to be, the experience didn't have to be ruined with it, right?
18:41
SPEAKER_00: So the plan changed, but I didn't let the experience ruin it.
18:45
SPEAKER_00: And I think that's a lesson that some of us need beyond travel.
18:49
SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes you're mourning the version of your life that didn't happen while standing inside a version that still has something beautiful to offer you.
18:58
SPEAKER_00: Read that again, family.
18:59
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you're mourning the version of your life that didn't happen while standing inside a version that still has something beautiful to offer you.
19:08
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you're so focused on this isn't how I thought my life would look by now, that you're missing the part that it does offer you.
19:16
SPEAKER_00: Right?
19:17
SPEAKER_00: That doesn't mean you're settling, family.
19:19
SPEAKER_00: It simply means being present enough to recognize the possibility and the things that you do have going for yourself.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
19:26
SPEAKER_00: So here's today's intelligence.
19:28
SPEAKER_00: I want you to continue on having your itineraries, your strategies, and your plans, but leave some rooms for life.
19:33
SPEAKER_00: Because when circumstances change, don't automatically label the experience as a failure.
19:37
SPEAKER_00: Evaluate it first.
19:38
SPEAKER_00: Maybe you just simply need to adjust, or something need to learn, or you'll just prepare differently the next time.
19:43
SPEAKER_00: And sometimes you need to just shut up for a minute and eat the Chicago pizza.
19:47
SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
19:47
SPEAKER_00: Because hey, I'm gonna tell you something.
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SPEAKER_00: That darn Uber trip, I believe it was like 78 bucks.
19:52
SPEAKER_00: I was throwing about it for a minute.
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SPEAKER_00: I really, really was.
19:55
SPEAKER_00: I was throwing about it for a minute.
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SPEAKER_00: But you must understand the unexpected is not always the enemy.
20:01
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the unexpected is where the memory is.
20:04
SPEAKER_00: Because when I tell y'all, that is one of one of the best memories we will have now.
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SPEAKER_00: Like the trip really came out to be epic.
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SPEAKER_00: It was just so many jokes and funny things going on.
20:13
SPEAKER_00: And like I said, we stayed at um, I believe it was like a Hilton Hotel downtown, five-star, uh, one of those five-star hotels, definitely at least a four, if not five.
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SPEAKER_00: And they had everything right there in the hotel: a lounge, bowling alley, karaoke, multiple restaurants.
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SPEAKER_00: I mean, it was superb, right?
20:34
SPEAKER_00: So let's get into these three black sheep action moves so that you can take these with you when life tests your flexibility.
20:42
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
20:44
SPEAKER_00: Number one, identify where you're over controlling.
20:46
SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself if something happens where you see that you have to make an adjustment or be flexible and you seem frustrated about it, ask yourself, where am I frustrated?
20:55
SPEAKER_00: Primarily because something isn't happening the way I expected.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, not because it's wrong, but because it's different.
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SPEAKER_00: But separate the two, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Where are you frustrated in that thing that happened the way you did not expect?
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
21:13
SPEAKER_00: Move number two.
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SPEAKER_00: Recalculate without abandoning the destination.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes, family, you must choose one goal where your original strategy isn't working and ask, is this goal wrong or does the route simply need to change?
21:28
SPEAKER_00: Don't abandon a worthwhile destination because one road closes.
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SPEAKER_00: Move number three, family.
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SPEAKER_00: Extract the intelligence.
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SPEAKER_00: Think about one more unexpected situation.
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SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself, what worked, what didn't?
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SPEAKER_00: What did I discover?
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SPEAKER_00: What would I do differently next time?
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SPEAKER_00: And was there anything good in the experience that I almost missed because I was focused on what went wrong?
21:49
SPEAKER_00: That's your intelligence.
21:50
SPEAKER_00: Take it with you, family.
21:52
SPEAKER_00: I'm telling you, because life is full of those moments where it's gonna text your flexibility, it's gonna test your flexibility.
21:58
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes life isn't ruining the plan, it's offering you a different experience than the one you planned.
22:05
SPEAKER_00: And remember, flexibility or being flexible, it doesn't mean directionalist.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay?
22:11
SPEAKER_00: Trust me, family, it really does not mean that.
22:13
SPEAKER_00: Black sheep family, I want you to plan the trip, make the itinerary, know where you're going.
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SPEAKER_00: But when life changes the route, when life changes the route that you're going, don't get so mad about the detour that you missed the whole view.
22:27
SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes life will surprise you.
22:30
SPEAKER_00: And you should let it.
22:31
SPEAKER_00: Okay?
22:32
SPEAKER_00: Until next time, family.
22:34
SPEAKER_00: Remember, information is everywhere, but execution is rare.
22:37
SPEAKER_00: I'll see you in the next briefing.
22:38
SPEAKER_00: Bye.