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One Thought Away From Your Dream Life · Giving Pain Purpose with Lyndsay Soprano

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This is Your Pain Game podcast where we talk about the game of living in
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and with chronic pain and trauma get into the heart of how to heal.
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I am your host, Lindsay Soprano. On the show, I plan on
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discussing with doctors, chronic pain patients, ballistic practitioners, loved ones, and
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anybody that is interested in having their voice heard in the chronic pain and trauma
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world that we live in. I have had some amazing aha moments in my
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life, right. I have been in the gutter more times than I'd like
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to admit. I've certainly dumps or dived in some pretty crappy places, some
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of which I put myself in, you know, unfortunately, and I've had
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to learn from, and others I had no control over. But all in
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all, I continue you to learn from all of those places that I've been
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right and in each of those places that have been ebby and flowey and good,
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bad and ugly, I have not been defeated, very very close,
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very very close to being defeated, And I give myself a little bit of
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kudos for quite frankly, pulling myself out of these some of these gnarly places
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of darkness and despair, and it was never easy and it will never be
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easy, but it is worth it when you shift your mindset and you change
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something that you doubt about yourself and you doubt your ability to do, and
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you doubt the ability to change your life, even if just for a little
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bit, those little baby steps move you towards mountains of moving. It's just
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amazing. And if you don't start taking those and you don't start making some
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mindshifts within yourself, you are going to end up being in the gutter and
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you're going to eventually die there and it's gonna suck. So I don't want
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you guys to die there, and I certainly don't want to be there with
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you. All right, So together, we're going to no more dumpster diving
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and no more living in gutters. We are going to level up. That's
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what we're gonna do. And we've all had those moments in life right where
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we look at ourselves in the mirror and we're like, oh my god,
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Lindy again again again again, Why did I do that? Why did I
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drink so much? Or why did I do this so much? And I
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know that from an eating disorder perspective, and I know it from a drinking
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perspective. And my life, as you guys all know, changed pretty significantly
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about six years ago when I got my diagnosis of CRPS. But that was
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just the diagnosis. The change is that we're happening in my life and in
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my body, and the decisions that were I was making, some of them
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pretty pissed poor. They were slowly creeping in years before my diagnosis, things
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that I could have grabbed onto and saved myself from a lot of stuff I'm
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dealing with now. And I never looked at myself honestly in the mirror when
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my body and soul were kind of whispering at me, and then they slowly
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started talking a little louder, and then finally they were screaming at you.
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Until you are, you know, asked up in a gutters. Not lovely,
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guys, it's not I mean, fannies are not up in the air.
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It's not good. And I have a lot of things that are wrong
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with me. There's a litany of things that are wrong with me from a
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health perspective. I've got some personality snap foods that I work through. But
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now I'm sitting here looking at myself honestly and I will tell you that it
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is because the way that I'm looking at myself now and the way that my
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mind has shifted over the past years has been because I started this show.
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And my guest today is she's just absolutely amazing. Get ready, guys,
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okay, and she's going to talk to us about having us be one thought
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away from something magical happening in our lives. She's kind of like our little
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personal unicorn today, which is Neat, and she's going to talk to us
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about living a life that lights you up and doesn't burn you out. So
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let's get to it without further ado. Gosh, I have so many other
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things I wanted to introduce you with, but anyways, without further ado,
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I'd like to introduce you to my guest today, Carrie Teppadino. Girl.
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Hello, Oh my gosh. I am so excited to be here, and
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I just want to say thank you because I know you don't put people in
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front of your audience. You're a mama bear to your audience and you don't
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put anybody, just anybody in front of your peeks and so it is an
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honor to be here today and you I think that was the best introduction ever,
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I would gladly be your personal little unicorn as long as you guys want
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me to. And I'm excited. We're gonna have so much fun today,
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really providing an opportunity for great breakthrough for our friends. Yeah, no kidding,
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And well we're gonna start talking a little bit about how you ended up
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in your own version of a gutter. Right, what was my bathroom floor
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moment? Is a bathroom floor moment? Yeah, because she has suffered with
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or did suffer with a personal battle with a pretty gnarly eating disorder, I
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would say, and pulled yourself off the bathroom floor. And I know that
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all of us have been there in some way, shape or form, and
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we all are still standing up here today. Guys, we're listening right,
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Yeah, the bathroom floor. We just don't want to ever end up back
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there, right, So let's actually start this whole thing with a celebration like
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I love Linday you started with that, because we're here. We made it,
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we made it this far, Like I believable. I got I got
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the just thinking about it, because we did. Because a man does my
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brain take me back to some ey eky places, and I'm like, wow,
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girl, you are so lucky, you are so lucky. And so
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here's yes. And here's the thing. I always say, Miracles don't happen
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to the lucky. Miracles happened to those with a vision that hold onto that
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vision with their life and they don't let go. And so then you know,
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some people will say, oh, she's a she's an overnight success or
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oh she just all of a sudden got herself off the bathroom floor, out
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of the fanny position in the gutter, and now look at her life.
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And it's like, yes, And you know, getting our fannies out of
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the air, out of the gutter took strategy. It took strategy, it
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took mentorship, it took community, it took commitment, it took grit,
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it took resilience, like it took a level of commitment to ourselves and to
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our own happiness and are being healthy and happy and so yes, And is
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that conversation for me around miracles and the lucky, Well, it's good because
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yeah, I know because luck is a challenging word. And I know that
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because everyone's like, oh, you're just lucky, you're lucky, But we
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are lucky and we are fortunate. That's more of the word I think I
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wanted to use for lucky, but that's a much better way of putting it.
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We are so fortunate, and we're fortunate to have even found each other.
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We're fortunate to even be in this discussion right now, in this moment
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together with our friends. You know, like we've all been led here for
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a reason. There are no mistakes, and so I honestly believe for all
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of us to be here in this moment together right now, it's because there
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was something deeper inside of us that is hungry for more, Like our soul
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is calling out for more. It's calling out for a leveling up. It's
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calling out for a reframe of how we think. It's calling out for like
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a repositioning of how we're in relationship for our emotions right because the desires in
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our heart, I always say, the desires in our heart, our lifelines
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for our souls. The desires are there because we can accomplish them. But
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we've got to get out of the limiting thinking and you know, form relationships
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with people who aren't naysayers, but people who will help lift us up.
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Like it's strategy to put all the pieces in place and then marry that to
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the you know, that commitment like that endless, limitless commitment to having the
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better life, and it is a commitment to building your own personal dream team.
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And I know that sounds kind of cliche, but for me, it's
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taken so many years to get the right people on my personal board of directors,
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right, because that's what I call it, my personal board of directors,
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where I'm like, I've got these people and if I'm gonna make some
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pretty decent life changing decisions, that's like I'm gonna get married, I'm and
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I have a kid, or I'm gonna start a new busines or whatever,
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these biggies, you know, and even some small stuff. You've got to
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have a group of people around you that support you and that love you and
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believing the same dream that you're shooting for and are there to help support you
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healthfully. And that's something that's hard to do because you bring people in and
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they have and they flow and they come and they go until you find the
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right ones. And that's doctors, practitioners, holistics, your therapist, your
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acupuncturist, your best friend, your spouse, to all of them. If
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they're not all driving to work for your dream as well as theirs. Then
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it's like we only got to kick them off the board. Yeah. Well,
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and you know what, and what I always say, what I say
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to the women that we work with is we can rise up together, but
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also without certain tools, people can pull each other down quite quickly as well.
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So I use a ton of discernment around that. That's really wonderful to
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hear, because I agree. I've had to I've had to let go of
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some people in my world that have been part of my world for twenty five
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plus years. And it took twenty five years of me just I didn't want
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to let go. It don't want to let go. And I was like
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at the end of them, like, what was it that I didn't want
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to let go? If you're a guy, I'm like, whoa, And
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it always time to crush it, right, Yeah, So I'm a crushing
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girl. And it's even like, so, I know you'll get this because
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you also I we are both recovers of eating disorders. I know that you're
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you and your audience understands what's happening for you. Yeah, but so I
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had an eating disorder for a very long time. It's why I even have
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the business I have today is because getting myself off that bathroom for a moment,
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healing my life and then wanting to go help other people, not around
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eating disorders per se, but believing in themselves, knowing that there's something different
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in regards to what they're capable of. But the reason I'm bringing this up
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is because I had my comfort foods right like your friend was your comfort food,
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per se. And so I had my comfort foods. When I would
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be really stressed or anxious or worried or whatever, I would check out,
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escaping them out with eating. But then once I actually healed the addiction or
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the dysfunctional eating or the disordered eating. Once I I healed that, I
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went back to my comfort foods, and I realized I don't even like how
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they taste. It's just that I had so programmed myself into relying on them,
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turning to them thinking I needed them, And it's it's it's like people
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like sometimes we allow certain people, we program ourselves to believe we need certain
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people, like you did your friend. But when you start to heal and
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you start to ground yourself into something bigger for yourself, we start to use
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a different level of discernment that is so wonderful because because that's so true,
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because we got to get rid of the suckers that soul suck you, you
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know, and let them go. Because that's what was happening. It came
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to the point where it was like everything I was doing, I was feeling
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bad about myself being around this person. I'm like, I'm hold on a
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second here, I'm not a bad seed. I'm not. I'm I'm like,
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I'm pretty proud of who I've become as a woman. I'm like,
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why am I still letting these old narratives that I built within myself as well
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as other narratives that other people have pressed upon me. I'm like, why
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am I allowing that to still be in my life? And as soon as
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you empower yourself and you shift your mindset just a bit, it's not like
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this huge catastrophic change that we have to do and have to move out of
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our home and change our clothing and change what we are. It's not just
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these little tiny things make huge, huge changes in our lives. Right the
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one percent tweaks. So we say, you know, even if you change,
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and I think you tupped into this too, If we just change a
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degree a day, right, one degree a day, one tweak a day.
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My gosh, by the end of this week, that's a seven degree
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shift. There's a seven percent shift there the end of this month, thirty
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percent, right, Like that's mind blowing. Okay, you talk about that
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in your book, and it's her book is one thought away, and we'll
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get to that. But she talks about so many amazing things in her book,
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including President Obama. Because I'm a lover of President Obama. You can
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get into that. But so let's talk about So you're on You're laying on
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the floor and this was Is it safe to say that you don't eat a
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lot of peanut butter anymore? So? I actually do, but he's what
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is safe to say? It's safe to say that I have a very healthy
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relationship around it. I love that, right because like, like it's not
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like I'm not reliant on it. I know. Like, so, I
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don't know if you want to explain that peanut butter story moment, but that
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did that moment whereas a defining moment where I was all my bathroom floor that
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came because I had binged on peanut butter one spoonful after the next. That
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spoon hit the bottom of that jar rope. Trust in myself, you know
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again, I betrayed myself and try to purge it all out. Never works.
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It never works to do that. It's an illusion that it works.
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But then that moment became so scary for me because my electrolytes were so imbalanced,
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my heart was racing. I knew that I was starting to impact my
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cardiovascular system. Because my dear friend from college, her mom had died of
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an eating disorder because her organs failed. So I had like a really personal
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example of what could happen if I didn't stop my eating disorder, if I
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didn't stop the binging. I'm purging the anorexia, that all the things,
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yeah, right, And so in that moment, I thank god. I
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mean, like, in hindsight, I don't know how I found the strength
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to do. It. Really was like, you know, a bigger energy
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coming in and leading the way, is what I would say in regards to
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like, Okay, I have a decision. Keep doing what you're doing,
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Carrie, and you will slowly kill yourself or pick yourself up and let's go
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figure this out, right. And it changed my whole life. It changed
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the whole trajectory of my life that moment, and I love that because we've
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all had our skippy jar peanut butter, right, or whether it's the bottom
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of the bottle of vodka, or whether it's the second that second pack of
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cigarettes, or whether it's that lasted of heroin or whatever, we've all been
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in a place you cannot deny it. If you do, then you might
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as well just shut this show off and listen to somebody that's not going to
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put up with that lie. We've all been in that place, right,
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and we've all had to look at ourselves seriously in the mirror. But are
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we all doing something with those moments? And I think that's what's so powerful
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about your story is that you took it, and you took that one moment
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on the floor and you went and I'm not doing this anymore. And now
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look at what you've done. So let's talk about what you're doing since then,
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because let's not talk anymore about Skippy. Let's talk about the whole boyfriend
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Skippy. Oh that's hilarious. But yeah, so you've gotten into this mindset
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mastery and emotional mastery and self love. So let's talk about what you're doing
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now, So what happened after that moment is I started traveling the world,
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studying with monks. I studied in India, I stay Ira Veata with an
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Indian doctor who downloaded to me. I came. I did a lot of
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studying in here in California around trauma resolution work and nutrition, and I became
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a holistic health practitioner, Like I got all the licenses and all that stuff
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right, Sure, but what really happened is in that moment, it led
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to my healing, and then my healing led to a certain sense of response
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ability inside of myself where I felt really responsible to go. Now that I
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had craft the code, I felt responsible to go give it away because I
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really felt like no woman or person right. But I speak mainly to women.
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The book is for men and women. Go enjoy the book, gentlemen,
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but nobody deserves to be broken down, crying on their bathroom floor by
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themselves feeling so defeated. And so my business, which I've been in the
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industry about twenty years, maybe a little bit longer, but my business,
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I always say, my business birthed itself. It birthed itself out of necessity
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because it was the very thing that I needed, but I couldn't find it
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when I needed it. I couldn't find it in one place when I really
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needed it. And so I've been in this industry with personal developments, putting
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women on their transformations for about twenty years different forms. You know. I
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had a brick and mortar so like an actual clinic office space in San Diego
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for ten years, I guess or so, and then discovered this online space
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and was like, whoa, what is fine boggling? Yeah, like what
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is this thing online? So that's how I got here. Yeah, that's
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great. So can you talk a little bit about So here's lindsay. I'm
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talking to you right now, and I'm like, I've hit the wall.
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I've got I run a successful marketing business right now, which is true,
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but I've been kind of like not really thrilled with what I'm doing anymore.
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I'm not that I don't want to still do marketing, not that I still
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still don't want to do the things that are here. I'm just bored of
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some particular pieces of my business that just aren't giving me joy anymore. They're
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not making me jump out of bed. What's making me jump out of bed
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is getting out and talking to you today, right, Yeah, the alarm
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clock goes off, and the first thing I thought about today was you because
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I was like, I get to talk to her in a day, you
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know, And that's how it is for any day that I'm recording, or
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any day that I've got a meet and great. When it comes to my
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clients and my agency, I'm kind of like, well, and I got
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to talk to you guys too, but listening, I can't listen because they
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know they understand this because it happens, you get burned out a little bit.
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You know. There's only so many things that you can do over and
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over and over again expecting different results. And so I'm kind of at this
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place where I'm kind of recreating myself and I've been working on it for the
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past couple of years. And it really hit me when I had a bathroom
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floor incident I'll call it bathroom floor incident with myself where I was on all
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of these meds for pain that made me want to kill myself. And so
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I was pretty scary night when the suicidal thing and it was that moment that
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shifted me, that was my skippy jar right where I was like, holy
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shit, like this is bad, Like You've got to figure out that you're
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not going to let pain win. Forget it. You're not going to let
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the rps win. Forget it. And so I decided to give my pain
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purpose. And as soon as that shift happened, this is where I'm at
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and my whole goal has been I'm going to heal myself. And by doing
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that, it's because I'm going to be helping others. So that supports exactly
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what you were talking about where you felt like you cracked your I cracked mine.
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Now I'm like, every day I'm fighting for myself and I'm fighting for
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others, and so introducing women and men to you is part of that,
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and it's just it's lovely and you. So someone like me comes in as
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like Hi Carrie, like an aa meaning Hi, I'm Lindsay right, I
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would treat about it aholic or whatever whatever that may be. So you bring
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these women on, Can you talk a little bit about what you do,
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what your work is in your mindset, mastery, and the things that you
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do with your business. Yeah, So we actually have a five step process,
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and so let me share with you the one thought away process. And
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as I'm sharing that. The other thing that I would want our friends to
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know and like if they're resoning with your with that example you just gave,
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is to just get super committed, like committed, like crazy at at creating
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the life that does light you up. And if it's podcasting, if it's
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networking, if it's being social networker and that connector because you're a great connector
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and a speaker and all those things, then you get to be really committed
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at magnetizing and creating more and more and more and more opportunities for those opportunities
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like that to find you. And it doesn't mean that you need to get
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rid of the marketing because so in our processes, what we really teaches let's
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get out of the yes but mindset and let's really commit to the and conversation
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and mindset. So if the marketing is something you want to keep without shutting
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it down, then do do delegate delete? Look at the things that you're
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doing and what truly needs to be done by you in that marketing business or
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what can you delegate out and what can you delete all together? And maybe
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it's not right away, but let's let's put a date on that, Like
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you're going to delete that thing all together by the end of the year or
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within six months or whatever that is, and then start to really only fill
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your plate with the things that you absolutely love or the thing that just must
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be done by you, which surprisingly isn't as much many things as we think,
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right, like really coming coming into a moment of honest transparency with ourselves.
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And sometimes we don't delegate things out because we say, oh, nobody's
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gonna do it as good as me, or all it's gonna take too long
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to train somebody else, or it's like, but it's second. It is
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second, your life energy, it's not worth it, right, It's just
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not. It isn't And it's so the timing of meeting you is so interesting
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because I have been working on this whole shift on not even just like raising
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my prices, changing some of my processes, looking for people to exactly to
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delegate too, and it's been hard to find good help because again, just
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like you said, it's hard to be like, well, nobody's gonna do
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it as good as me. When it comes to the podcasting thing, it
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is my baby, Like I can't have people putting words on social media on
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posting for me, not yet I'm not there yet that everything is so personal
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about this journey that I'm on regards this but everything for my mind, our
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key and agency and all of the email marketing, all of it. I'm
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like starting mcguli. I'm relinquishing control, which is really challenging for a control
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freak and somebody that's OCD and also a women's business owner that's runner business for
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almost twenty four years. That's a scary place to be. But I'm at
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this place where I'm like, I can actually do that, and I'm fortunate
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enough that I can afford to set to delegate stuff out, to take some
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of that stuff off my plate. But you know what's even scarier, Lindsay,
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is not filling your plate with all the things that you love, not
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releasing control, not believing that somebody else might be able to figure it out,
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even if it's not as good as how you're going to do it and
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you would do it. That's even scarier. What's even scarier is getting to
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our deathbed and not being morbid. We're human, so we're all in line.
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We're all in line for death. But it's not like it doesn't need
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to be a scary thing, right None of us get none of us can
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get out of line. We're all in line. And so but then like
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once we get there, if we look back, I didn't like, how
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many regrets do we have? You'll probably have regrets if you aren't building out
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your podcasts and your networking and like this part of your mission right like you
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would live. And that's even scarier than just like, okay, go take
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this project. Let me see, maybe you can actually, maybe you act.
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If I just let you go with it, maybe you'll actually come up
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with a solution that's even better than the one I would have done or I
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would have had, right Yeah, And I don't really believe that that's that
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is happening right now. There are so many people I'm starting to like open
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I've opened up this like gate of you know what, go for it,
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own this piece of my business, take it own it, love it,
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make it yours so I don't have to think about it anymore. And I
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just have to trust you. And that's a hard thing, especially when you
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come from when you come from some traumatic stuff that's happened to me in my
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life. Trust and safety are my two biggest issues, right and I've always
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been my dad raised me to be the woman that will always make sure she
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doesn't need a man to take care of her, or a woman doesn't mean
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she needs to be able to stand on her own tea feet. And so
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that was just like ingrained in me from the very beginning of time, which
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is a wonderful entrepreneurial spirit that was gifted to me by my father. But
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at the same time, it's also been fairly detrimental because I've been so laser
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focused on making sure that I am in charge and I can take care of
23:17
everything and I and all of a sudden, there's been some stuff that's happened
23:21
where I've kind of like just let things like like the water off a duck's
23:23
back. Somebody said that to me yesterday, which is strength, but I'm
23:26
using it right now. It's a really lame line, by the way,
23:29
so I apologize to your ears, but it's like, just let it go,
23:33
like it's just not that big of a deal. And the things that
23:36
I would get worked up about, I'm like, wow, Linda, you
23:38
put that much energy into something like that instead of putting all of your energy
23:42
into something that you actually really love and care about and want to do.
23:47
So it's this time right now is such an energetic time in my life,
23:51
and I'm so grateful for having met people like you. I mean, you're
23:53
just your amaze balls. So there. Oh well, so you're you're crushing
23:57
it. No, you guys are crush. You guys are our work together.
24:03
It's our personal hashtag. Yeah, personal hashtag hashtag crush. Yeah.
24:07
Well, congratulations. I hope you're celebrating that you're even aware that you're going
24:14
through this transition and you're willing, You're willing to explore what it wants to
24:19
present to you, right, yeah, and it took a while to get
24:22
there. So when you work with women, what is your like, approximately
24:26
how long do you work with people? Are you ongoing coaching? Is it
24:30
like a full like can you talk about your programs and how that all works?
24:33
Is I'm like, I'm on board. Yeah. Well I was just
24:36
saying, oh my god, you'd be so fun in our community. So
24:38
yeah. So the signature program is called Dream Life Accelerator and it's for women
24:45
only, women over twenty one who are truly ready to change their lives.
24:49
And it's by invitation only, so you can't go to our website try to
24:53
give us money. Like we talked to every single woman before she comes in
24:56
to make sure that we're a good fit for her and to make sure she's
25:00
a give fit for us. It's a year long program and our our trod
25:06
like we become family. We really really become family. I mean I've had
25:10
women who have stayed with me like six seven years as a COO. That's
25:14
a long time. Yeah, they know my family, I know their family.
25:17
And the reason they keep coming and keep going is because, like,
25:19
once you get through the Signature program, there's a mid level program. I
25:23
don't want to confuse anybody, but the mid level program, the curriculum changes
25:27
every single year because the students actually create their own curriculum. So it's super
25:33
super cool. So to stay with us six five, four, three,
25:36
four, five, six years is not that uncommon because it's continuously personalized to
25:41
exactly what they want. Yeah, it's very fun. But that Signature Program
25:45
Dream Life Accelerator is incredible. We are filling our eighteenth as the time of
25:52
this, at the time that we're speaking, we're filling our eighteenth group of
25:55
that program right now. So we've had hundreds of women go through it,
25:57
thousands and thousands of testimonials, and we really focus on supporting women to be
26:04
the the version of themselves that they really want to be and creating the lives
26:08
that really light them up with their health, their wealth, relationships, like
26:12
purpose, adventure, fun, all the different buckets of their lives. Yeah,
26:17
and you ask a lot of really good questions are fear based, you
26:19
know, questions that or things that are always like, well, what if
26:22
I'm not good enough? Or what if I fail? Or what if you
26:23
know, all the things that we do to ourselves to just be like,
26:26
oh you know that, never mind, I'm not going to do that,
26:29
because I'm not going to do you know, we give ourselves excuses, we
26:32
get our get out of jail for free card because we're like, we defeat
26:33
ourselves before we begin. It's like, come on, guys, let's stop
26:37
that kind of behavior. Because I do it. We all do it.
26:41
I know I can name ten places right now where I'm doing that. I
26:44
can name tame plan ten places where I'm not. And so when I'm working
26:48
more towards those places where I'm not in that self defeating and that self depravity
26:52
kind of like place that I find myself as the Gemini and me too.
26:56
I talk on the trouble in this angel all day. Who guys are driving
27:00
me crazy? But when you really start to focus in and like you said,
27:06
actually on notice and be aware, become aware of the work that you
27:10
are actually doing within yourself. That's been a big thing for me to see.
27:15
Oh wow, like where I was a year ago from yes day is
27:21
so incredible. The things that I have learned and the people I have met,
27:26
and the gifts that I have been given from the souls that I've been
27:30
talking to is unparalleled. I couldn't I wouldn't be able to find you or
27:34
talk to you if I hadn't started this show. And so that is my
27:38
daily gift to myself and to others. It's too like you got to get
27:41
behind the mic and you gotta just keep on chucking baby Yes and Bookcoors and
27:47
Ted talks and movies. Who knows what's gonna come of me? Yeah?
27:51
So good. And Dan, you're tapping into this this energy inside of you
27:55
that's a total that's the yes energy. Yes Cassie, Yes mindset. That's
27:59
team up with the yes energy, so that gets to flow to you with
28:03
ease. Right as long as you're staying really focus on that dream, like
28:08
that version of your life having There's millions of different versions of your life that
28:11
could happen, But if you're going to zoom in on this one, this
28:15
is the one that I want. Then the more clarity you have about that,
28:18
the more that you're watching, how you speak about that, how you
28:22
speak about yourself to others, your business, all the things. Have the
28:25
inner conversation, not have an inner toxic conversation, but really an inner conversation
28:30
based on belief then that those opportunities they have to find you. So here's
28:34
the thing, Like a law of attraction. We all know about the law
28:37
of attraction, right, and so many people question the law of attraction,
28:42
but there's other universal laws. Like they'll say, oh, the law of
28:45
attraction, that's so who woah blah blah blah. But like there's the law
28:48
of gravity and they can't see me right now, but I'm holding up this
28:52
pen and when I let go of this pen, you know the pen is
28:55
gonna draw. Guys would never question the law of gravity. We all assume
29:00
what's going to happen the law of gravity. But the law of attraction is
29:03
also a universal law. So if we don't question the law of gravity that
29:06
we know this pen's gonna drop if I like go, Why do we question
29:08
the law of attraction? So then if we're aligning ourselves constantly to this is
29:14
where I'm going, this is who I am, this is what I know
29:15
as possible for me, and we're sending out those signals like more podcasts,
29:19
more speaking gigs, fed talks, then of course whatever's out there in a
29:23
universe that is aligned to that, it's going to be attracted to that and
29:27
must get pulled to you. I literally asked for you exactly exactly you called
29:37
me. I asked for you, you called me in and of course it's
29:41
got It happened that way, and wherever my energy was aligned was aligned to
29:47
your energy, which is why we had to find each other. It could
29:51
not work another way. There's no other option. Yea, yeah, I
29:55
see you're emotional right now. I always am emotional now, My listeners know
29:59
I laugh through my tears. No, because it's because I keep finding I
30:03
mean, not every single guest on my show do I end up having these
30:07
amazing connections with, But I do find that I am making much more solid
30:11
and real connections with people that I meet, not dis guests on the show,
30:15
but just people that I come in contact with, our potential new clients
30:18
for my marketing agency, or a new podcast opportunity, or being on someone
30:22
else's show. There's been there's all of these things that just seem to be
30:25
lining up that I know I've been working towards and I know I've been asking
30:30
for, and a lot of things that I don't care as much about anymore
30:33
are just kind of fallen off the wayside and I'm just letting them drop.
30:37
I'm just letting them drop, like they're like, oh, there's another shoe
30:38
that drops. Yeah, that's a shoe that need yeah, you know,
30:44
and teaching us this women specifically, I mean, we take on the world.
30:48
We take on everybody everything, everybody's emotion, everybody's everything, you know,
30:55
And that's part of why I love being a woman. But it's also
30:59
one of the because challenge is that what you have as a woman, and
31:00
we really need to fight for ourselves before we fight for everybody else. And
31:06
not something that I've had to learn because I tend to put me at the
31:08
very bottom of the list instead of at the very top. And we've talked
31:11
about this that infantum on the snow where that's like, if you're not taking
31:15
care of yourself, you can't really take care of anybody else either. I
31:18
mean, it's just not possible. Absolutely, And then that's that whole thing
31:22
of self care is not selfish, that's right, you know, even if
31:25
it has some stigma to it. Oh, that's selfish to think of you
31:27
first, or to put yourself before your children like I have, as you
31:30
know, I have three, three young children. Yeah, and if I
31:34
didn't take care of myself first, there's no way I could be a super
31:38
happy, healthy mama to my kids. Like there's like my twins are two,
31:42
you know, like they're not like quiet kids. Like my kids are
31:45
all over the place. You know. My eldest son is eight at the
31:48
time of this recording, and I'm fifty. So I had I had my
31:52
first son at forty two, I had the twins at forty eight, right,
31:55
And so if I didn't take care of myself, what would I have
31:59
left to get them? Nothing? Nothing. I would be doing them a
32:02
disservice to not put myself first, for sure, right. Yeah, And
32:07
that's something that is not easy to swallow, you know, it's not something
32:12
that's easy for us to do because we're all used to the opposite of it.
32:15
And I'm not sure where that happened in life where we ended up being
32:20
the people at the bottom of the list, but it's somewhere along the line
32:22
that happens in our world, and that's something that we all need to shift
32:25
because we have to give me a much better place. If we all just
32:30
went, you know what, I must choose me today and then the rest
32:32
of y'all will follow. And when I wake up with that mindset in the
32:36
morning, my day goes so much better. Well, and not only that,
32:39
but if when we take care of ourselves first, and what we talk
32:42
about is at the beginning and end of your days, do AM and PM
32:45
rituals. And by doing that, though, like getting the other stuff done
32:50
usually takes less time and less effort, right whereas like if we're like just
32:54
pushing through and getting fun. Yeah, you know, we got it right,
33:01
it's gonna take like three hours versus twenty minutes when we're just like centered
33:07
and grounded. Or for our friends here who aren't entrepreneurs, you know,
33:10
maybe whatever whatever it is for you, you know, getting the house clean,
33:15
doing all the laundry or whatever it is, will take so much more
33:19
effort than if you took care of yourself first and then got it done.
33:22
And maybe you turn on some AC DC, or you your favorite music or
33:27
whatever it is, and as you're doing the laundry and you're folding, you're
33:29
dancing around and you're having a good time. Yeah, yeah, she's yourself.
33:32
First drink. I drink red wine when I iron It is like my
33:37
favorite thing. I listen to music. My sweetie goes to bed really early
33:39
because he wakes up early for his show, and we you know, he's
33:44
up at three o'clock in the morning. I'm a night alf. So he's
33:46
in bed and he's sleeping, and I've got my music going, and I'm
33:50
ironing, I'm drinking some wine, or I'm reading, or i'm journaling.
33:52
I'm doing all these things and I feel so good. But I like that
33:55
you talked about rituals in the morning and the evening, because those are so
33:59
important. My dad used to say, I had this shut down procedure when
34:02
I went to bed at night when I was a little girl, because I've
34:05
been an insomniac since i was nine, and so it was like it takes
34:07
you forever to shut down. It's like a six hour procedure. As a
34:10
little kid, like, they would come in and I'm like moving my desk
34:14
from one side of the room to the other. Wow. They would give
34:16
me paint so I could just paint at night. So I was always painting
34:21
and like doing doodles on my walls and making art and all these things because
34:23
I didn't know what to do with all of this energy. And I was
34:25
an only child, so it was like I don't have anybody else to hang
34:29
out with either. But those rituals were really important then, and they aren't
34:32
now. They're less than time. It was six hours of painting a ceiling,
34:37
but it's but I I really do believe that those things are super important.
34:42
Even if it's five minutes in the morning, that's a ritual and five
34:45
minutes at night that's a ritual. And I've also gotten better about the TV's
34:50
not on after ten o'clock just doesn't happen, that's off. I turned my
34:52
phone down. I you know, I have my study. My friends are
34:54
like, do you ever do not disturb on your phone on far more than
34:58
you're used to. I'm like, yeah, I don't want to be disturbed
35:00
as much as I normally am. I've had mine. I've had by sound
35:05
off on my phone for probably, like I don't know, nine years.
35:12
I'm serious. I'm serious. Oh my god, are you kidding me?
35:16
No, I'm not kidding because it was so distracting. I'm serious. She
35:22
has not listened to a sound on her phone for nine years. I not,
35:28
Like, I don't want my phone to ring, because what would happen
35:31
was I would try to work and my phone is dinging and pinging and calling
35:35
and whatever, and I'm like, I can get nothing now. So I
35:37
turned it off and I just took control back. I said it when I'm
35:42
ready to see who wants to talk unless it's like an emergency, you know,
35:45
like certain people who are my emergency people will call, yeah, it
35:50
doesn't matter what it vibrate, Yeah, maybe call, but vibrate and so
35:55
those people are different. But like I will choose when I'm ready to go
36:00
see who needs to talk to me or who wants to talk to me,
36:01
or and who's painting me or you know, like it like it was such
36:05
a relief when I did that. It was such a relief to take my
36:09
time back and to take my attention back. Yeah. And you know something
36:14
else that I just recently started doing was and a lot of that kind of
36:16
stummed from the podcast too, was I do not do anything with anybody on
36:22
the phone, on calls or anything until ten am. That's it. I
36:24
don't eddle anything before two am or excuse me, ten am, because my
36:29
sleep is all screwed up with my pain and all that. So I never
36:31
really get like a full night's like a great rest. But now I'm starting
36:36
to get that now that I've implemented some of these things about not getting disturbed
36:40
and turning even just turning on my screen on my phone to the to the
36:45
better, like it's like a warmer color. I don't remember what it's called,
36:49
so that it was so crazy on your eyes, and so you don't
36:52
get sucked into more. And if I'm on Instagram, like I've got to
36:54
stop. And my girlfriends and I were like, we need to stop sending
36:57
each other memes and videos until two o'clock in them, like we need to
37:00
office. But it is so easy to fall into it. And you're like,
37:07
I don't know how many more ween or dog videos I can watch tonight.
37:09
But I'm sure I've got a good two hundred more in me, for
37:12
sure. That's hilarious. And another time I did was I do not listen
37:17
to voicemail messages. Don't leave that. I don't either, I don't.
37:21
My voicemail message says, don't leave a voicemail message because I won't listen.
37:23
And people still do it, and they're like my voicemail, like, did
37:27
you listen to mine? I put a boundary up, okay, and you
37:31
are not a blot. You are not going with the moundary right. And
37:36
you know what I also did for years. I'm now back to being on
37:39
top of this. I stopped looking at emails for years. I just stopped
37:43
listening. I stopped watching emails. This is a long time ago. This
37:45
isn't that long ago. But this was like, I don't know, years
37:50
ago, a few years ago, and my team still had their emails.
37:54
Yeah, but like I just was like, I'm not interested. It's distracting.
37:59
Like if somebody really needs something, they'll call or text if they have
38:02
personal access to me, or if it's something with the business, they'll email
38:07
support. And when I find some amazing vows is that you're still successful,
38:10
you're still running a great business. You're happy as hell, you're doing great,
38:14
and you're really kind of going away from the norm of us getting sucked
38:16
into all of that. And that, my dear, is extremely inspiring for
38:21
me, because I am bogged down by a lot of that stuff. And
38:24
that's if I had my list in front of me. It's on the other
38:28
side of my studio. But I have been writing down the things that I'm
38:31
in delete that I'm not going to do anymore. And I just started this.
38:35
I'm not kidding, like a couple days ago. Is that the day
38:37
that I got your book? It may have been. That's weird timing.
38:40
I'm telling you, girl, I called for you. I did so.
38:45
I was just one thought away from finding you. Yes, you were so
38:49
okay, So let's talk about you've got some stuff coming up, You've got
38:51
an event, you've got your book. Let's talk a little bit about where
38:53
we can find you and what's coming up. Oh you're so sweet. Okay.
38:58
So the book that we keep referring to you guys one thought away,
39:00
and it came out last Mother's Day and we hit number one bestseller, number
39:06
one new release, and like so many different categories, we were really really
39:07
really blessed. So that's on Amazon and it's Kindle or paperback. So that's
39:13
that's really easy. And that's the one where Lindsay you were sharing like yours
39:15
is completely highlighted and a bogyard. It's already broken. I have to buy
39:21
another one because it's already I know because that's how I read. I read
39:25
to like study and really because if I'm if I'm highlighting the first three pages
39:30
solid, I'm like, Okay, this book is for me. And that's
39:34
legitimately what happened. I was like, because I'm like, oh, I'm
39:37
gonna read it so I can speak to it on the show. I'm like,
39:38
no, I'm reading this because this is for me, and I'm being
39:42
completely spoken too. Yeah, oh it's good. And then the other thing
39:45
that we have coming up is we had the Dare to Dream event and yeah,
39:51
it's gonna be so incredible. One thing that I feel like our team
39:53
does really well is events, and so this is an online event. It's
39:58
part of our Genius Zone. Like then online we are really good at creating
40:01
experiences, not just talking heads, right, and so really pulling people into
40:08
a transformative experience to take their lives to the next level. And we have
40:14
so many women have given us testimonials that oh my gosh, like like your
40:19
event was like a defining moment in my life, like there is before this
40:22
event and then after this event and for their life. So it's gonna be
40:25
online, so it's super easy for everybody around the world. We would love
40:30
everybody here to join us. And it's you know, Lindsey will give you
40:34
the link, and it's super affordable. It's like less than half of the
40:38
dinner. It's going to be like thirty four dollars US dollars and it's two
40:43
days of world world, world class mentorship and breakthrough. I love it.
40:47
And what are the dates for this? The dates for this are let me
40:52
pull it up. Sorry, I just looked right before the show. It's
40:54
August twenty fifth and twenty six is what we're looking at. And they're gonna
41:00
be like half days, so nine am to twelve pm Pacific. And we
41:05
really do not just speak about okay, do this, this and this,
41:09
but we give you actionable items to make very quick and easy shifts in your
41:16
life to take you further into the dreamlighte that you really want to be to
41:20
become the women that you really want to be and have the lives that you
41:23
really really want to have. So it's an online event for women, and
41:28
we like to say women over twenty one who are really ready for you know
41:32
that, are ready to get rid of being sick and tired, get rid
41:37
of the poverty mindset, get rid of I don't have enough time, get
41:39
rid of I'm a martyr or I'm a victim or nothing ever works out for
41:44
me. Like really, let's go, like we have one shot at this
41:46
life, Like let's go make some magic happen. What are we waiting for?
41:52
Ye, what are we waiting for? Exactly? Thank you for saying
41:53
that, and you can we can get that. We can sign up for
41:57
this online event at the one thought Away project dot com. Yes, just
42:01
go to one thought Away project dot com and you'll find the information there.
42:05
Excellent. Oh my gosh, I'm so excited. Well, I'm absolutely going
42:07
to be there. The twenty fifth is my sweetiest birthday. But he can
42:12
get over it because I will. I celebrate him every day. So so
42:15
good. This is what I say to that, like, you're sweetie,
42:20
is the lucky one, because you're going to roll up your sleeves and do
42:22
the work like hell wins. Yeah, he our loved ones win when we
42:29
transform. So it's never like taking anything from anybody else to really dedicate our
42:35
time and energy to our personal development. We are Our greatest return on investment
42:39
is ourselves, and then everybody around us gets to go to the next level,
42:45
gets to win because we're willing to do the work, and the work
42:47
gets to be fun. I love that. Yeah, it's like and I
42:51
think that everyone thinks like, oh, I gotta go work on myself.
42:53
It's like, no, it doesn't have to be like that. Like if
42:55
it's like, oh, I get to go work on myself, same words,
43:00
just said a little bit differently, with a little bit different like ye
43:02
behind it, you know. Yeah, we have a ton of fun doing
43:06
this. This is one reason why women stay with us year after year after
43:07
year. I think get the breakthroughs, they have the fun doing it.
43:10
Yeah, I love it. I love it so much. Thank you so
43:14
much for being here with us today. This has been this has been just
43:16
wonderful. Lyndy, thank you so much. You're like my soul sister.
43:21
Thank you so much for having me. And this was such a fun,
43:24
fun conversation and anyway that I can support you and your audience, your people.
43:30
I am here for you guys. You guys are an amazing group of
43:31
people, and I just feel so grateful that we've we have collided in the
43:37
most beautiful way we have And thank you for saying that, because ditto girl.
43:42
Yeah, I did it. All that, all of that, we
43:45
crushed it. Let's just put it that way. Crush it as I crushed
43:47
it. Thank you again, my sweet and I will be sending people your
43:52
way, including myself. Awesome. I'll see you guys at the event Dare
43:57
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