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Speaker 1: Hello, my little delicious rice Crispy.
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Speaker 2: How are you doing today? Good? Good?
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Speaker 1: From my main channel, reading some more Reddit because you
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Speaker 1: guys seem to like the longer redded videos and I
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Speaker 1: like to do those on my main channel.
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Speaker 2: But I hope you're doing good today. And I called
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Speaker 2: you a rice Crispy because I just date a Rice
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Speaker 2: Crispy and I'm terrible. Lately. I've just kind of been like, oh,
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Speaker 2: I'm an adult and I can buy the snacks I
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Speaker 2: wasn't given as a kid. No offense, mom, you know,
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Speaker 2: shout out mom. She was doing her best, but I
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Speaker 2: didn't really get all those sugary goodies that all the
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Speaker 2: other kids got. And I'm just like, I can buy
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Speaker 2: those for myself. So now I have an incrustable addiction
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Speaker 2: and a rice Crispy addiction. Okay, anyway, today we're reading Reddit,
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Speaker 2: so let's get into it. Am I the scllywag for
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Speaker 2: kicking my brother out for flirting with my wife? Oh? No,
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Speaker 2: this is bad. My twenty five male WI twenty five female.
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Speaker 2: I've been together since high school. She's sweet, smart, soft,
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Speaker 2: shy that's a lot of essays, and fiercely loyal and
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Speaker 2: this situation just proves that I'm scared this is going
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Speaker 2: to be like a I think she loves him and everything. Well, anyway,
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Speaker 2: I love her more than anything, and she's the love
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Speaker 2: of my life. My brother, thirty five male, Oh wow,
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Speaker 2: so ten years older than you guys, recently got kicked
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Speaker 2: out of my parents because he's never worked a real job,
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Speaker 2: just weird, low paying nonsense and recently quite another one
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Speaker 2: of those weird, low paying nonsense jobs. My parents understandably
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Speaker 2: lectured him again and he lost his crap. From what
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Speaker 2: my mom told me, he was going to be homeless,
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Speaker 2: so my parents begged me to let him live with
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Speaker 2: me for a while. I decided to help. My wife
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Speaker 2: also decided that maybe we could help him. Okay, you
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Speaker 2: guys are really good, Paopa, We love to hear it.
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Speaker 2: Six days ago, my wife came to me and told
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Speaker 2: me he was flirting with her. Oh no, at least
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Speaker 2: your wife came to you like not just saying she's pretty,
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Speaker 2: but more like telling her he'd give her a better
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Speaker 2: life and telling her sleep with him, give her a
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Speaker 2: better life. What kind of better life are you gonna
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Speaker 2: give her with your low paying job and living with
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Speaker 2: your parac Sorry getting kicked out of your parents, and
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Speaker 2: I bet he's like, I bet this guy really handsome.
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Speaker 2: I bet he is. I bet that's the only thing
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Speaker 2: that kind of gets him by in life. Maybe I
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Speaker 2: don't know. In my head, he's like, just like, do
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Speaker 2: she handsome guy that like doesn't work at all, but
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Speaker 2: he lives with his parents and he's kind of a
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Speaker 2: mommy's boy, and he's just like whatever, girl I want.
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Speaker 2: I can even get My brother's wife freaking losered. She
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Speaker 2: insulted him quite badly by calling him a useless old
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Speaker 2: man that's nearly forty and doesn't even own a car
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Speaker 2: or have a life or even a girlfriend. Ha ha,
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Speaker 2: you got a good what tell you what to that?
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Speaker 2: He responded by being rude to me in my own house,
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Speaker 2: telling me what to do because he's older, and my
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Speaker 2: wife telling me made me see why he was acting
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Speaker 2: like a child or he got rejected. So he's like,
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Speaker 2: you you sucking eye. Everybody sucks and eyes. I just
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Speaker 2: really wanted to sleep with a wife, and understand you're
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Speaker 2: not sleeping with me. I told him to get out
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Speaker 2: of my house. We ended up fighting, swearing and screaming
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Speaker 2: for about ten minutes. When my wife called my parents,
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Speaker 2: who came and picked him up. My wife was crying
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Speaker 2: while my parents shouted at both of us and shouted
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Speaker 2: at me for what. I really don't know. He started
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Speaker 2: the shouting, not me, mommy's boy, bet you. After they left,
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Speaker 2: I was just so angry and cried to my wife
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Speaker 2: and we both cried for a good ten to fifty minutes.
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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm so sorry. Just imagining a couple
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Speaker 2: just sobbing to each other about a situation that involves
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Speaker 2: a family member that's just so rude makes my heart hurt.
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Speaker 2: That's awful. I'm really sorry that happened. And then they
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Speaker 2: watched a movie afterwards. I chose the perfect eight. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: I'm corny, what of it? Say what you want? My
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Speaker 2: brother is back with our parents, who are now pissed
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Speaker 2: at me. Who's defending a kid like this? Dude, you
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Speaker 2: raised a loser and you're just like cradling him in
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Speaker 2: the in the in a basket and feeding him chocolate
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Speaker 2: or whatever. I don't know, I don't know baby's eat.
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Speaker 2: That sucks, But I'm glad that he's out of your
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Speaker 2: house because the dis respect. I mean that would I
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Speaker 2: wouldn't talk to my sister anymore if she talked to
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Speaker 2: my husband said hey, you should be with me and
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Speaker 2: you should sleep with me. Bye. But I don't feel
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Speaker 2: like the asshole. But at the same time, I kind
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Speaker 2: of do. Thank you for reading. I look forward to
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Speaker 2: seeing your opinions. You know, you're not the asshole. You're
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Speaker 2: not the asshole. He's the asshole. And you were just
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Speaker 2: like standing up your wife and so is she. I mean,
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Speaker 2: how what a weird situation for her to be in.
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Speaker 2: I'm like, God, yeah, I don't think you're at fault
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Speaker 2: at all. I think that's extremely disrespectful. He's in your
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Speaker 2: house and he's insulting you by going after your wife.
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Speaker 2: There's really no argument here. But well, let's read the comments.
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Speaker 2: Not the asshole. Your brother is a loser, Yeah, basically
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Speaker 2: not the asshole, but your parents sure are as well.
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Speaker 2: The way your brother behaved is no wonder where his
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Speaker 2: immaturity came from, since they enabled it. You gave him
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Speaker 2: a chance and he blew it. The way he said
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Speaker 2: he was going to give your wife a better life
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Speaker 2: was very corny, like what has he done to make
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Speaker 2: his own life better? In the terms of financial stability,
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Speaker 2: I would suggest that unless your parents and brother apologized
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Speaker 2: to you and your wife go low contacts or no
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Speaker 2: contact with them. That's what I think I have thought.
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Speaker 2: That's a relationship ruiner for me. I don't care if
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Speaker 2: your blood did cut off. Oh we have an update, right? Oh, yeah,
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Speaker 2: we have an update because it's for best friend at
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Speaker 2: her updates. I forgot what am I surprised one week later?
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Speaker 2: Long story short, basically, my parents have been cut off
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Speaker 2: by me and my wife. We love to hear it.
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Speaker 2: The day after the original post, I set up a
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Speaker 2: meeting with my parents and my brother for the Saturday.
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Speaker 2: Comes Saturday, my wife and I go to their place.
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Speaker 2: The greeting was awkward, but my wife said cut the bullshit,
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Speaker 2: and then we spoke about why I kicked him out,
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Speaker 2: and my parents shocked me by saying he had told
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Speaker 2: them about the flirting already and everything he's done. They
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Speaker 2: said it's my wife or them what, and that my
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Speaker 2: brother is more important than a girl. What he was
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Speaker 2: gonna break up their marriage and they're like wanting her
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Speaker 2: out of them. These people make no sense. Who are
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Speaker 2: these people? I then realized how they are just as
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Speaker 2: respondsible as he is for how he turned out. You
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Speaker 2: people on Reddit were right. My parents are the assholes
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Speaker 2: alone with my brother and I deserve better. Thank you
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Speaker 2: guys so much for all your advice. It truly helped
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Speaker 2: so much. My wife and I both read the comments
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Speaker 2: and it gave insight. Now I want to ask, how
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Speaker 2: do I get over cutting off my parents. It's almost
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Speaker 2: like a part of me is dead. You know, it's
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Speaker 2: one thing for somebody on reudnit to be like, cut
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Speaker 2: them off if they suck, never talk to your mommy again.
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Speaker 2: You know, that's a lot. I can't imagine having to
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Speaker 2: do that. That's I need all sorts of therapy for sure.
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Speaker 2: I mean, just it'll just take time, I'm assuming, and
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Speaker 2: you'll just kind of see how your life stops being
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Speaker 2: so toxic, and you'll see the payoff and maybe probably
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Speaker 2: they'll come crawling back and apologize and maybe you can,
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Speaker 2: you know, make up the relationship again. But it's just
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Speaker 2: going to take time, I think. And I just realized
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Speaker 2: how much control they had over me, even without me
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Speaker 2: really knowing. I don't know if I was abused or neglected.
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Speaker 2: They've done everything parents are supposed to do. I'm just
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Speaker 2: really damn confused. You're just it's just gonna take time.
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Speaker 2: And it sounds like you have a kick ass wife
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Speaker 2: and you sound great too, so I think you're just
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Speaker 2: enjoy your time with your wife. You know, that's your family.
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Speaker 2: So just enjoy time with your with your wife, you know.
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Speaker 2: But let's recomments you get over it by enjoying your
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Speaker 2: much more peaceful existence. Seriously, just move on and live
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Speaker 2: your life to the fullest without all the dramas. I
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Speaker 2: get you down. Essentially exactly what I said, okay o,
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Speaker 2: P you and your wife need to be prepared on
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Speaker 2: what to do once you have children, because if they
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Speaker 2: find out that they are going to be grandparents, they
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Speaker 2: will very likely demand to see their grandchildren. Let's assuming
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Speaker 2: if they want kids. My wife and I have been
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Speaker 2: thinking about this, but honestly, if they treated me so badly,
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Speaker 2: I definitely not want my own kids near them, and
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Speaker 2: neither would my wife. Good for you, we love boundaries,
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Speaker 2: We love boundaries. They're another update, No more update, no
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Speaker 2: more update. Yeah, that's just silly. Your brother is corny,
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Speaker 2: af that was crazy. I'll give you a little life baby.
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Speaker 2: What like it? Like a like at a box in
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Speaker 2: the middle of the street, Like, what do you have
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Speaker 2: to offer. Let's move on to something bigger and better.
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Speaker 2: But I'm glad. I'm glad you cut them off. I
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Speaker 2: think it is there better. I'm really happy you guys
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Speaker 2: have each other. And that's that. That's that. Let's me one,
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Speaker 2: am I the Scullywig. My girlfriend is angry that I
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Speaker 2: call my friend by his real name. I think it'd
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Speaker 2: be like a really bad nickname or something like an
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Speaker 2: offensive one. But it's a real name. Weird. Okay, let's
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Speaker 2: just read. Everyone who knows my ex boyfriend, thirty three
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Speaker 2: male calls him either JT or by his last name. I.
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Speaker 2: Twenty nine male was never among those people. He introduced
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Speaker 2: himself to me by his first name, Jude. I love
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Speaker 2: that name. I love that name a lot, so that's
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Speaker 2: what I've always called him. Two years ago, he and
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Speaker 2: I broke up due to him getting a promotion that
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Speaker 2: included a ton of traveling. I love him, and I
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Speaker 2: definitely didn't want him turning down an opportunity like that
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Speaker 2: for me. We tried long distance and it wasn't sustainable
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Speaker 2: for us. I'm a homebody through and through and I
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Speaker 2: like having my person home with me too. Okay, didn't
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Speaker 2: realize we were spitting rhymes out. I've been dating my
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Speaker 2: current girlfriend, twenty nine female for about eight months now.
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Speaker 2: Jude has recently transferred to within his company again and
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Speaker 2: is back in our city for the majority of the time.
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Speaker 2: It didn't end on bad terms at all, so we're
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Speaker 2: still friends. My girlfriend always said she was fine with that.
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Speaker 2: After a group outing with him, my girlfriend and some
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Speaker 2: other friends, she asked why I call him something different
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Speaker 2: than everyone else. This has since turned into a multi
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Speaker 2: day argument where she claims that calling him by his
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Speaker 2: first name what no one else does, is too intimate.
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Speaker 2: I was like, what is the problem. That's his name?
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Speaker 2: What that's his name? She said, it's a relationship thing,
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Speaker 2: and that I need to start treating him like a friend.
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Speaker 2: I said, she's being ridiculous and unbelievably insecure. It's his name,
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Speaker 2: not a term of endearment. Yeah. See, it'd be different.
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Speaker 2: It'd be different if it was like a cute nickname
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Speaker 2: or something like I don't know, like my little baked
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Speaker 2: bean or something like I don't know, I don't know
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Speaker 2: whatever qutt names you guys have for your other significant other.
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Speaker 2: I don't think. I don't think that that's you're calling
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Speaker 2: him by his name because he introduced himself by that
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Speaker 2: name to you. So I don't think there's literally anything
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Speaker 2: wrong with that, and that's just it. I really like.
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Speaker 2: I always try to play devil's advocate, but I really
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Speaker 2: think she needs to just be okay with that. That's
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Speaker 2: just that's literally his name. So how about she can
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Speaker 2: call him that name too, maybe if they're around, because
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Speaker 2: she knows him by that name, right. I don't know,
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Speaker 2: this seems a little silly. I mean, okay, Christina, take
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Speaker 2: off your shoes and put them on her shoes. Okay,
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Speaker 2: I mean so, wait, my name. Everybody calls me Chris, right,
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Speaker 2: hence the user name. My real name, My full name
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Speaker 2: is Christina. The only people who call me Christina are
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Speaker 2: my husband and my family members. They all call me Christina.
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Speaker 2: My stepdad's name is Chris, so it's weird to Chris's
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Speaker 2: and I've grown to just like my name. I used
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Speaker 2: to hate the name Christina, but now I love it.
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Speaker 2: I don't know, like if if Caleb and I, you know,
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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna would break up and then he gets
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Speaker 2: with somebody else and then he's like, oh yeah, Christina,
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Speaker 2: I just don't see that. How that's weird. I just
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Speaker 2: don't see how that's weird, Like that's just what you
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Speaker 2: call them. I don't know. I was really trying to
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Speaker 2: see it from their respective. I mean, yeah, it's a
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Speaker 2: different name, and maybe it's a little bit more intimit somehow.
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Speaker 2: Like if somebody on the street calls me Christina, which
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Speaker 2: just happened before, because people know me and they listen
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Speaker 2: to stuff I do and they've heard my name, it
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Speaker 2: freaks me out. I'm like, what the fuck. It's fine though,
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Speaker 2: because it's my name. You know, I'm on this guy's side.
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Speaker 2: I'm on o P side. I'm sorry. I just am.
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Speaker 2: And maybe I'm wrong, maybe I'm stupid. I don't know.
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Speaker 2: Let's see what the comments say. Info. How long were
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Speaker 2: you and Jude dating? I mean, I don't think that
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Speaker 2: changes the name thing necessarily, but we'll see. It's not
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Speaker 2: about the Iranian yogurt? What? What Iranian yog is? What?
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Speaker 2: I'm too dumb for that. Your girlfriend feels uneasy and
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Speaker 2: insecure because the man that you love and with whom
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Speaker 2: your relationship ended specifically because long distance didn't work, is
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Speaker 2: no longer long distance. You and she have only been
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Speaker 2: together for eight months, versus the years of you and
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Speaker 2: Jude having a connection, whether dating or not. Sure, sure, yeah,
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Speaker 2: you know I understand that with her, I mean there's
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Speaker 2: natural insecurity, like if yeah, roles reversed, I'm in her shoes,
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Speaker 2: Like you didn't break up with this person because you
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Speaker 2: guys didn't get along or you weren't compatible. It's just
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Speaker 2: it's literally only because of distance. So I can completely
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Speaker 2: see the insecurity there, and you guys are still friends,
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Speaker 2: and there's all those things. But I feel like the
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Speaker 2: name thing is just like you're just you're, you're, you're, you're, you're,
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Speaker 2: you're scrape in the bottom of the barrel there, I
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Speaker 2: don't I don't know. She's scared that you and Jude
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Speaker 2: will get back together and she will be left behind?
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Speaker 2: Is the name thing? The exact right way of expressing
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Speaker 2: your concerns now, is your response about her being insanely
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Speaker 2: insecure going to help the situation? Now? You know, you
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Speaker 2: can't talk to lot, you can't talk to people like that. Unfortunately,
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Speaker 2: you can't do that. Wow, you're insanely insecure. Yeah, don't
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Speaker 2: do that. Don't do that to a woman ever. She
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Speaker 2: needs assurance that you are choosing a romantic and intimate
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Speaker 2: relationship with her, and that you have no intentions of
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Speaker 2: trying to resume and emotionally or physically intimate relationship with
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Speaker 2: your ex. But if you still have feelings of romantic
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Speaker 2: love for Jude, you should not be in a relationship
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Speaker 2: because it's not fair to your current partner. That's absolutely true.
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Speaker 2: And this is why I like to read the comments
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Speaker 2: because I'm like, I guess it's so fixated on like
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Speaker 2: one thing, and I forget about all the other stuff
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Speaker 2: that I read. Yeah, the insecurity is definitely there. I
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Speaker 2: don't blame her for that. I think that makes perfect sense,
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Speaker 2: and she's a human being. So it's just the name thing.
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Speaker 2: It's like, is is that really the hill you're gonna
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Speaker 2: die on? Is that the name is too intimate? Or
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Speaker 2: is it just or is it just him being friends
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Speaker 2: with his previous partner of years and years and years?
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Speaker 2: You know? Potentially I think, oh, p said, we were
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Speaker 2: together for seven and a half years, so I feel
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Speaker 2: like that's probably the reason why, and less so with
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Speaker 2: the name. It's just kind of the cherry on top
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Speaker 2: of the cake for her. He goes on to say,
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Speaker 2: I appreciate the advice truly, But if this is how
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Speaker 2: she's feeling, I'd rather her tell me than pick a
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Speaker 2: fight about a name. We're both nearly thirty. Yeah, that's fair,
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Speaker 2: and you know, she needs to learn how to really
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Speaker 2: express herself. And if it's not just the name, which
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Speaker 2: I feel like it's not, then she needs to express
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Speaker 2: that to be like, you know, you were together for
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Speaker 2: this many years and he moved away, and I just
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Speaker 2: feel like, since he's back and you guys still have
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Speaker 2: a relationship even though it's just a friendship, it's just
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Speaker 2: making me feel weird and I don't know if I'm
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Speaker 2: fully comfortable with it, and then see how he responds.
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Speaker 2: You know, although this is Ope's post, I'm not talking
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Speaker 2: to the girl. Yeah, I definitely have empathy for her
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Speaker 2: and sympathy for her. Another comment says, I'm going with
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Speaker 2: not the asshole. If he wanted you to not call
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Speaker 2: him dude, I could understand it. Your girlfriend doesn't have
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Speaker 2: the right to dictate how you identify someone else. That's
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Speaker 2: kind of what I was fixated on. It's how you've
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Speaker 2: always known him. Yeah, that's that's what I was fixated on.
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Speaker 2: It's like you can't police somebody in how they call
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Speaker 2: a name, especially if it's their legal name, like on
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Speaker 2: their passport. You know, Oh Pie says exactly if it
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Speaker 2: had come from him, it would make sense. Coming from her,
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Speaker 2: it just seems like a very bizarre thing to focus on.
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Speaker 2: But now that we have the whole picture, now that
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Speaker 2: we have the whole juicy picture, with all the context,
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Speaker 2: I can understand where she's coming from, because it's really
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Speaker 2: it's really not about the name. I think therapists sound
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Speaker 2: up below. I know you watch make how sure are
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Speaker 2: you she is okay with you still being friends with
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Speaker 2: him as a fellow by person, I'm guessing you've heard
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Speaker 2: the stereotypes about us being unfaithful or only happy if
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Speaker 2: we have a boyfriend and a girlfriend, which, if that's
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Speaker 2: your bag, good for you, so long as everyone is
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Speaker 2: informed and cool with it. Personally, I am one partner
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Speaker 2: at a time person, but I won't yuck someone's yum.
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Speaker 2: I am only curious on this because it seems like
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Speaker 2: people make a lot of assumptions about bisexual people without
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Speaker 2: actually getting to know the individual. I'm wondering if there
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Speaker 2: is some bias leaking into her judgment. OPI said, I
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Speaker 2: told her even before the start of our relationship that
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Speaker 2: one I'm bisexual and two that he and I were friends,
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Speaker 2: and if that was a problem, then we shouldn't be together.
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Speaker 2: She's allowed to say okay and then not be comfortable
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Speaker 2: with it later on, but then she needs to leave
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Speaker 2: because you clearly aren't willing to get rid of that friendship,
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Speaker 2: which is fair. I think romantic partners expecting people to
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Speaker 2: cut off their friends is probably the reddest red flag
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Speaker 2: there is. She said it wasn't a problem. Everybody has
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Speaker 2: their own opinions. I don't think a romantic partner wanting
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Speaker 2: you not to be really good friends with a previous,
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Speaker 2: very long romantic partner is a red flag necessary. I
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Speaker 2: feel like that's normal, but it doesn't mean you have
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Speaker 2: to settle for that. I mean, that's just that's fine
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Speaker 2: if you don't. I feel like you guys aren't compatible
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Speaker 2: because I feel like it's not fine with her and
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Speaker 2: you aren't willing to cut off that friend, which is fine.
16:06
Speaker 2: You know, I know people that maintain relationships with exes
16:09
Speaker 2: and stuff, not necessarily like on really good, super friendly terms,
16:13
Speaker 2: but speaking term, sure, But you guys seem like Bestie's
16:17
Speaker 2: kind of which is that's gonna be hard for a
16:19
Speaker 2: romantic partner. Another comment says, you're putting your ex before
16:22
Speaker 2: any possible romantic relationship. Maybe you just should be with
16:27
Speaker 2: your ex. You are saying, at the start of the relationship,
16:29
Speaker 2: I would choose this person's friendship over you. You already
16:32
Speaker 2: kind of snuck in that little little tiny adam bomb
16:36
Speaker 2: into the back of her head that was like, I'll
16:38
Speaker 2: always choose him over you. And now it's just kind
16:41
Speaker 2: of with the you saying his name, like his legal
16:44
Speaker 2: name whatever, that nobody calls him. It's just like or
16:46
Speaker 2: at the back of her head. I think personally she
16:49
Speaker 2: knows deep down he means more to you than she does. Yeah,
16:52
Speaker 2: maybe she could handle that when he was far away,
16:55
Speaker 2: but not now that he is back and she has
16:57
Speaker 2: to watch it right in front of her with knowing
16:58
Speaker 2: that no relationship is going to last if you put
17:00
Speaker 2: your ex above your partner. I don't disagree. I don't
17:03
Speaker 2: disagree at all. Oh Pee said, that's fair. I appreciate
17:06
Speaker 2: your comment. It's something I'll think on. We love that,
17:08
Speaker 2: we love thinking on it, we love improving ourselves. It's
17:10
Speaker 2: just important to me to note that this was not
17:12
Speaker 2: just an X and this was my best friend for
17:14
Speaker 2: eight years. I understand that it was your best friend,
17:17
Speaker 2: but it was also your boyfriend, so it's like it
17:19
Speaker 2: is different. It's different than it's just being a friend
17:22
Speaker 2: like you guys were you know, intimate or whatever. But
17:26
Speaker 2: you know, I don't think it's okay for her to
17:28
Speaker 2: say you cannot call him dude and that it's weird
17:31
Speaker 2: or whatever, because I don't think it is, and she should.
17:33
Speaker 2: She should be able to express that in maybe a
17:35
Speaker 2: different way, but maybe she doesn't even realize it. At
17:37
Speaker 2: this point. You need to understand, though, that this is
17:40
Speaker 2: a weird situation, Like it's it's a bit weird, and
17:43
Speaker 2: it's fine. But if you are like not willing to
17:46
Speaker 2: put up any sort of boundaries with that friend, then
17:49
Speaker 2: maybe you just shouldn't be in a relationship with this
17:51
Speaker 2: specific person. I think because I feel like you're both
17:54
Speaker 2: just kind of dig in holes in different directions. Does
17:57
Speaker 2: that make sense? There's a there's an update though. Six
18:00
Speaker 2: days later. My girlfriend and I sat down for a
18:02
Speaker 2: long conversation. A few days ago, I went into it
18:04
Speaker 2: knowing that separation was the right choice here. Okay, wow,
18:08
Speaker 2: Still I wanted us to have a real talk about
18:10
Speaker 2: our feelings, so I tried to open up the floor
18:12
Speaker 2: for a discussion about what was really bothering her beyond
18:14
Speaker 2: the name issue. She continually insisted it truly was only
18:18
Speaker 2: about that. Maybe, and maybe it was Maybe it was
18:20
Speaker 2: you know, I love reading into things and then like
18:23
Speaker 2: tearing the page open and trying to dissect what's in
18:25
Speaker 2: the paper. I do that a lot. Maybe it was
18:28
Speaker 2: just that some of the comments on my other posts
18:30
Speaker 2: led me to do a lot of thinking. I was
18:31
Speaker 2: with Jude from the time I was nineteen until I
18:34
Speaker 2: was twenty seven. Oh my god, so like all of
18:36
Speaker 2: your formidable years, basically I spent almost all of my
18:38
Speaker 2: twenties with him. I'm now just a few months shy
18:41
Speaker 2: of thirty same. I don't want to talk about it,
18:44
Speaker 2: just kidding. I'm excited to be thirty down girl, and
18:46
Speaker 2: the next decade of my life has been on my mind.
18:48
Speaker 2: I don't know if I'll get to spend it with
18:50
Speaker 2: who I want to, but I know being alone is
18:52
Speaker 2: better than spending it with the wrong person. I'm going
18:55
Speaker 2: to be taking some time for myself. I've never been
18:57
Speaker 2: a relationship popper. My previous relationship was my friend anyway,
19:00
Speaker 2: and I think it's important the people in my life
19:03
Speaker 2: know that they're more important than that. Thank you for
19:06
Speaker 2: all the feedback. Some of the specific exchanges I had
19:09
Speaker 2: here helped spark the internal conversation I needed to have
19:12
Speaker 2: with myself to figure out what I wanted. All right.
19:14
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, it sounds like you guys aren't together anymore,
19:17
Speaker 2: and I feel like that's probably the way it should be.
19:19
Speaker 2: I feel like you need to maybe maybe spend some
19:21
Speaker 2: time with yourself since you, I mean, you had a
19:24
Speaker 2: relationship all through your twenties basically, so you got to
19:27
Speaker 2: figure out what you really want, and you know, you
19:29
Speaker 2: got to realize what you wanted a partner, what a
19:32
Speaker 2: partner might want in you, and what like expectations that
19:36
Speaker 2: you want and vice versa. You just you learned so
19:38
Speaker 2: much through every relationship you go through, you know, and
19:41
Speaker 2: this is just a stepping stone. And that's okay. And
19:42
Speaker 2: you're still young. Okay, you're only almost thirty. Okay, you're
19:46
Speaker 2: still young. We're still young. I don't know if she
19:48
Speaker 2: was heard out as much, and maybe I feel like,
19:52
Speaker 2: you know, I can speculate here, it's my own channel.
19:54
Speaker 2: I feel like, internally, you just want to be a
19:56
Speaker 2: dude and maybe it shit. You know, I feel like
19:59
Speaker 2: I feel like maybe people won't live up to the Jude,
20:03
Speaker 2: the Jude's spectation, you know, the expectations of Jude, the
20:07
Speaker 2: pedestal that he is on. Potentially, maybe I'm wrong, Maybe
20:10
Speaker 2: I'm speculating. Maybe I'm assuming and I'm making an asset
20:13
Speaker 2: of you and me. But that's just what I think,
20:15
Speaker 2: and I can pick that. What do you guys think?
20:17
Speaker 2: Am I the skullywig for getting a tattoo knowing it
20:20
Speaker 2: will upset my mummy? We live in the same lives,
20:23
Speaker 2: let's read it. I am nineteen, female and currently looking
20:26
Speaker 2: to get my first tattoo. I've always known i'd want
20:29
Speaker 2: to get tattoos, and have spent some time since coming
20:31
Speaker 2: of legal age to plan out the styles that I
20:34
Speaker 2: like and what specific designs I would want. My first
20:36
Speaker 2: tattoo is going to be a small piece of my
20:38
Speaker 2: upper inner arm of my two cats. Cute. You can
20:42
Speaker 2: never you can never rip cats or your annals. I've
20:45
Speaker 2: had them since childhood and they've gotten me through some
20:47
Speaker 2: really tough mental health periods growing up and struggling through school.
20:50
Speaker 2: As they're getting older, I want a way to keep
20:53
Speaker 2: them with me forever, and this seems like the perfect
20:55
Speaker 2: first tattoo for me. It was like me, I got
20:57
Speaker 2: a k I got a km my finger for Kevin,
20:59
Speaker 2: my baby, my first Bobby, my first puppy of my own,
21:03
Speaker 2: so love that. I'm not mad at that at all.
21:05
Speaker 2: But I'm not your mom, so my opinion doesn't matter.
21:08
Speaker 2: I'm literally typing this out with the two of them
21:10
Speaker 2: curled up next to me. I've been in contact with
21:12
Speaker 2: an artist who is sketching a design for me, and
21:14
Speaker 2: I'm so being excited. The problem my mom, who is
21:17
Speaker 2: pretty much my best friend in this entire world, hates tattoos.
21:20
Speaker 2: Her and I pretty much agree on everything except this.
21:24
Speaker 2: I love that your friends though that's adorable. When I
21:25
Speaker 2: got my eyebrapp heres a few years back, she didn't
21:28
Speaker 2: speak to me for a week, but has gradually come
21:30
Speaker 2: to accept it. I've been upfront with her about wanting
21:32
Speaker 2: tattoos since the beginning because we basically tell each other everything,
21:35
Speaker 2: and she knows that she can't stop me from getting
21:37
Speaker 2: them done, but she's not going to support it or
21:39
Speaker 2: be happy about it. I actually held off getting something
21:42
Speaker 2: done after I turned eighteen to wait until she was
21:44
Speaker 2: in a good place with her work and personal stuff.
21:46
Speaker 2: That's really sweet of you. At least, that's really nice.
21:49
Speaker 2: Not that she was in a bad place or anything,
21:50
Speaker 2: but I just wanted to make sure I wouldn't be
21:52
Speaker 2: adding anything to her play. Okay, you sound like a
21:54
Speaker 2: really good dollar. And also it's your body. You can
21:56
Speaker 2: do whatever you want, and you're like an adult now,
21:58
Speaker 2: so whatever. But you also, I'm really considerate and sweet.
22:01
Speaker 2: I'm on your side because I've been in contact with
22:03
Speaker 2: the artist. I told her today that the tattoo would
22:06
Speaker 2: be coming soon. She can barely look at me now,
22:08
Speaker 2: she says, she can't imagine something more ridiculous and irresponsible,
22:11
Speaker 2: and I'm going to be so ashamed that I haven't
22:13
Speaker 2: thought this through, et cetera, et cetera. I know a
22:15
Speaker 2: lot of her opinions are a generational thing, but I
22:18
Speaker 2: also think it's really unfair of her to say it's
22:20
Speaker 2: stupid and I'm not thinking about it when it's not
22:22
Speaker 2: like I'm getting it just for the sake of it.
22:24
Speaker 2: It has meaning that is important to me. She said
22:27
Speaker 2: that when I get it done, she won't speak to
22:29
Speaker 2: me for a while and probably won't be able to
22:31
Speaker 2: look at me. That's crazy, Mom, what are we doing?
22:33
Speaker 2: Come on, Like, I understand my mom didn't want me
22:37
Speaker 2: to get tattoos either. She did not want me to
22:40
Speaker 2: color my hair. I've actually been growing up my natural hair.
22:42
Speaker 2: This is all my natural hair here, just the little
22:44
Speaker 2: tippy tips. Those are a little bit lighter. But there
22:47
Speaker 2: you go. Mom, I'm growing up my natural hair. She's like,
22:49
Speaker 2: don't die your blog hair. I died it, Rainbow. You know,
22:54
Speaker 2: I out of an asshole. It's just, you know, I
22:57
Speaker 2: feel like Mom's especially she's like your best friend, and
23:00
Speaker 2: she just loves you, and she probably loves like everything
23:03
Speaker 2: about you and that you're so beautiful that she just
23:05
Speaker 2: doesn't want you like tainted by anything like hair color
23:08
Speaker 2: or like like tattoos or anything like that. So you
23:11
Speaker 2: know that's her perspective. I'm just assuming, you know, she
23:14
Speaker 2: probably means it out of love. But this is so toxic, Like,
23:17
Speaker 2: that's so toxic her to say she won't speak to you,
23:20
Speaker 2: so your worth is based on whether you have don't
23:24
Speaker 2: have tattoos on your body or like, what is what
23:26
Speaker 2: is the purpose of this? Like I think she thinks, like, oh,
23:29
Speaker 2: if I tell her, I won't speak to her she
23:31
Speaker 2: won't get the tattoo. Why does that matter? Mom, it's
23:33
Speaker 2: not your body, Like you can't control her. You're just
23:36
Speaker 2: gonna push her away, which sucks, Like she's just gonna
23:38
Speaker 2: push Like I think you're actually very emotionally mature for
23:41
Speaker 2: being only nineteen years old, Like you're very sweet, you're
23:43
Speaker 2: very considerate. I just I think that's a like mom
23:46
Speaker 2: can have an opinion, but going about it in the
23:48
Speaker 2: way of saying like, uh, I'm not going to talk
23:50
Speaker 2: to you actually if you do that is like, I
23:52
Speaker 2: don't know. I just don't think that's a great idea.
23:54
Speaker 2: It's one thing to say like, ah, I wish you
23:56
Speaker 2: wouldn't do that, you know, because my mom said that,
24:00
Speaker 2: and then I did it, and she's like, ah, all right,
24:02
Speaker 2: you know. It's just like she's my best friend, so
24:04
Speaker 2: like I can't do anything anyway. I know that this
24:07
Speaker 2: will break my heart because she is my absolute rock
24:10
Speaker 2: and I struggle going a day without talking to her
24:12
Speaker 2: if either of us are working or traveling, let alone
24:14
Speaker 2: if she does it out of anger or from multiple days.
24:17
Speaker 2: So am I the asshole for knowingly doing something that
24:19
Speaker 2: will cause a rift in our relationship? I feel kind
24:22
Speaker 2: of stuck. I know I want to do this for myself,
24:24
Speaker 2: but knowing that I am actively harming my relationship with
24:27
Speaker 2: pretty much my favorite person is eating me up inside.
24:29
Speaker 2: Is there any way I can make this process easier
24:32
Speaker 2: or hurt less. Have any of you been through a
24:34
Speaker 2: similar experience? Any advice would be really appreciated. But yeah,
24:37
Speaker 2: I mean I kind of already said my piece. But
24:39
Speaker 2: I think when you're an adult you can do whatever
24:42
Speaker 2: you want. You're being very considerate and like giving her
24:45
Speaker 2: heads up and you're not like sneaking behind her back
24:47
Speaker 2: and surprising her and all this stuff. She is absolutely
24:50
Speaker 2: trying to manipulate you, trying to gaslight you. She's being
24:54
Speaker 2: very toxic, like classic. I don't want to say, it's
24:57
Speaker 2: just classic mom shit. I don't know about y'all, but
25:02
Speaker 2: and I don't blame them like my mom is done.
25:04
Speaker 2: Not like I won't talk to you if you do this,
25:06
Speaker 2: but just classic like well, they'll be disappointed if you
25:09
Speaker 2: do that, you know, just like classic manipulation tactics and whatnot,
25:13
Speaker 2: which I'm gonna you know, if I ever have a kid,
25:16
Speaker 2: I'm gonna I'm going to try not to do that
25:18
Speaker 2: because I think it's I think it's just really toxic.
25:20
Speaker 2: I think it's just it's going to pull you apart,
25:23
Speaker 2: and hopefully I think you'll get it and she'll be
25:25
Speaker 2: upset for a little bit and then she'll get over
25:27
Speaker 2: it and realize you're her daughter and that the relationship
25:30
Speaker 2: means more than a thing tattoo, because that's ridiculous. So
25:34
Speaker 2: that's my two cents, not the asshole. It's your body,
25:37
Speaker 2: and she's choosing to distance to control you. That's what
25:40
Speaker 2: I literally just said. Op he said, yeah, I know.
25:42
Speaker 2: Both my parents do it as their main form of retaliation.
25:45
Speaker 2: Oh great, two toxic parents that manipulate in cast light. Fantastic.
25:50
Speaker 2: We love to hear it. Otherwise, they're both amazing with
25:53
Speaker 2: dealing with conflict, but I hate when they do this
25:55
Speaker 2: because it's so hard to get through them and reach
25:57
Speaker 2: a solution. How do I get through it? I've told
25:59
Speaker 2: her it's her before and doesn't get us anywhere. But
26:01
Speaker 2: she says she's entitled to react in a way that
26:03
Speaker 2: she wants. She's a full grown woman, adult, she can
26:08
Speaker 2: react as she wants. She doesn't need to make you
26:11
Speaker 2: feel stupid and small and like you will never be
26:15
Speaker 2: able to talk to your mother again. That's really bad
26:18
Speaker 2: in my opinion. I know I'm still going to get
26:20
Speaker 2: a tattoo because you're right, it's my body, but I
26:23
Speaker 2: wish I couldn't minimize the family follow Yeah, this really
26:25
Speaker 2: just makes me sad. Literally just makes me sad. And
26:28
Speaker 2: you know what's going to take probably with this type
26:31
Speaker 2: of person, and I hope it doesn't, but it'll probably
26:33
Speaker 2: take you putting up your own boundaries and distancing yourself
26:36
Speaker 2: and calling her out, like fully calling her out, not
26:39
Speaker 2: like the sugarcoat and calling out coming from experience. Yeah,
26:43
Speaker 2: it'll it'll take that, and then it'll just be a
26:46
Speaker 2: whirlwind probably for her to be like, you know, you're
26:48
Speaker 2: my daughter, I'm sorry, I love you no matter what.
26:51
Speaker 2: I just thought this, that and the other and that
26:54
Speaker 2: doesn't mean all that. And you know, hopefully it goes
26:56
Speaker 2: that way. Hopefully you don't have to, you know, put
26:59
Speaker 2: a a ultimatum or like a canon event in your life.
27:02
Speaker 2: But I don't know. I feel like it'll be hard
27:05
Speaker 2: but any other way. But we'll see. Because we actually
27:07
Speaker 2: have an update, so I would like to read that
27:09
Speaker 2: next day. Okay, I've gone ahead and booked my tattoo
27:11
Speaker 2: appointment for next week. I'm excited. I have a friend
27:15
Speaker 2: coming with me to support, and honestly so so excited
27:17
Speaker 2: to see what the artist has come up with to
27:19
Speaker 2: capture my boys. The cats. Well, I told my mom
27:21
Speaker 2: when I got home from UNI, very upfront. I basically said,
27:24
Speaker 2: I know this is going to upset you, but I
27:25
Speaker 2: figured you should know that my tattoo appointment is booked
27:28
Speaker 2: for next week at date and time. I won't tell
27:30
Speaker 2: you any more information if you don't want it, but
27:32
Speaker 2: I'm going ahead with it, and it's my choice and
27:34
Speaker 2: something I've thought about and really want. Good for you, Sweittie.
27:37
Speaker 2: She didn't say anything the whole time, and when I
27:40
Speaker 2: was done, just picked up her phone. So I took
27:42
Speaker 2: that as my cue to leave. You are subs digitally
27:47
Speaker 2: more mature than her emotionally. That's crazy good for you
27:51
Speaker 2: to just ignore again, Stonewall, and then ignore you and
27:54
Speaker 2: then look at her phone like That's what I would
27:57
Speaker 2: imagine if like an immature twenty year old like boy
28:01
Speaker 2: and his girlfriend were arguing, He's like whatever, like just
28:04
Speaker 2: looks at his phone. It's so odd. It's such a
28:07
Speaker 2: terrible tactic. This makes me angry. However, When I told
28:10
Speaker 2: my dad, who I thought was more chill about the matter,
28:12
Speaker 2: he sighed and shook his head, asking where I was
28:14
Speaker 2: getting it and how big it was going to be,
28:16
Speaker 2: all while huffing and rolling his eyes. He then asked
28:19
Speaker 2: me where I was getting the money from. I told
28:20
Speaker 2: him the truth. I've been keeping a small, separate fund
28:23
Speaker 2: for a tattoo that I've slowly been adding to. He
28:25
Speaker 2: then called me a liar for the times I've said
28:27
Speaker 2: I have no money. Wow, your parents here? Do you
28:29
Speaker 2: want to get adopted? I know you're nineteen, but just
28:31
Speaker 2: come to my house, hun, just come to my house.
28:34
Speaker 2: You know. I feel like it's just this just makes
28:37
Speaker 2: me mad, which, like for small frivolous purchases, is true.
28:40
Speaker 2: I work minimum wage and have a lot of weekly
28:42
Speaker 2: expenses and said something about this is how it starts.
28:44
Speaker 2: Is this really who you want to be? Unquote whatever
28:49
Speaker 2: that means. I think he thinks that when I get
28:51
Speaker 2: a tattoo, I'm going to become a horrible person. I
28:53
Speaker 2: don't even know. I know that the fallout after the
28:56
Speaker 2: tattoo is going to be worse, so I'm going to
28:58
Speaker 2: take the time leading up to it mentally prepare myself.
29:01
Speaker 2: Make sure I'm surrounded by friends and loved ones who
29:03
Speaker 2: are aren't fussed about this stuff, which is mostly my cousins.
29:06
Speaker 2: I'm very close with my older aunt and grandma, but
29:08
Speaker 2: they hate tattoos, so I don't think they'll be on
29:10
Speaker 2: my side either. It's going to suck, especially because I
29:13
Speaker 2: am truly super close with my parents. Despite what this
29:15
Speaker 2: post may suggest, three of us spend a lot of
29:18
Speaker 2: time together, not because I have no friends, lamo. I
29:20
Speaker 2: do promise, and I'm going to find their distance very hurtful.
29:23
Speaker 2: But I'm happy that I'm doing this for me and
29:25
Speaker 2: excited to start this new chapter. I'll try to update
29:27
Speaker 2: as to what happens after my tattoo if I can.
29:29
Speaker 2: Thank you so much to everyone who commented, their kind
29:31
Speaker 2: words and a courage me to pursue things that make
29:33
Speaker 2: me happy. I wish you all much love. God, you're sweet. Oh.
29:37
Speaker 2: I want to see your tattoo, and I want to
29:38
Speaker 2: tell you how beautiful it is. I just wonder. I
29:40
Speaker 2: wonder if it's like a like Since the aunties and uncles,
29:42
Speaker 2: I guess it must just be a generational thing. Maybe
29:45
Speaker 2: it's a cultural thing too, who knows. I know there
29:47
Speaker 2: are some cultures that kind of frown upon getting tattoos
29:50
Speaker 2: and all that kind of stuff or religions or what
29:51
Speaker 2: have you, but we haven't heard that, so I'm just
29:53
Speaker 2: I can only assume that it's just a maybe a
29:56
Speaker 2: generational thing, and just I don't know, I don't really
29:59
Speaker 2: know which like that. The only benefit of the doubt
30:01
Speaker 2: I'm gonna give them is like they grew up in
30:03
Speaker 2: a different time. But there are plenty of tattoos, like,
30:05
Speaker 2: you know, fifty years ago, so don't I don't know,
30:07
Speaker 2: maybe not as many, or like twenty years ago, thirty
30:10
Speaker 2: years ago. You know, I'm assuming they're like really old,
30:12
Speaker 2: but they're probably just like if she's nineteen, like forty
30:15
Speaker 2: fifty maybe, So I don't know. I just think their
30:19
Speaker 2: they're parenting skills are lacking, with the threatening and the
30:23
Speaker 2: gas lighting and the manipulation and the feeling bad for
30:27
Speaker 2: saving money and not wanting to buy just little frivolous
30:31
Speaker 2: things that you don't have to, and that means you're lying,
30:33
Speaker 2: Like what, it's just very odd, like you owe them
30:36
Speaker 2: like taxed money or something. It's just really weird. But
30:39
Speaker 2: we have another update, So let's read that five days
30:42
Speaker 2: later ooh, okay, did she get the tattoo? To answer
30:45
Speaker 2: some questions commented on my first update, No, I am
30:47
Speaker 2: not Jewish or any form of religion culture that has
30:50
Speaker 2: specific problems with tattoos, So that's not where the concern
30:52
Speaker 2: comes from. Okay, yeah, I didn't think so. I don't
30:54
Speaker 2: live in the US. I'm Australian. I think like Australians
30:57
Speaker 2: love tattoos. Man, it's so weird. I said that. I
31:01
Speaker 2: think it's a generational thing. My parents grew up in
31:03
Speaker 2: somewhat upper class. I'm not going to do this. My
31:07
Speaker 2: parents grew up in somewhat upper class areas in the
31:10
Speaker 2: seventies and eighties. They had me when they were older
31:12
Speaker 2: were the only people who had tattoos were the people
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Speaker 2: who had been in prison or people from the military. Okay,
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Speaker 2: that's fair. Or as they say, I reckon, they probably
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Speaker 2: Oh now they say I reckon, that sounds so Australian.
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Speaker 1: I reckon.
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Speaker 2: They probably more common than that, though, Yeah, they absolutely are.
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Speaker 2: I mentioned in my update, I was worried about telling
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Speaker 2: my grandma and older auntie I'm butchering. I'm so sorry
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Speaker 2: who I thought had the same views. I went out
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Speaker 2: for lunch with them yesterday, and before I left home,
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Speaker 2: my dad told me that my mom had said to
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Speaker 2: him to tell me apologies for long winded sentence to
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Speaker 2: under no circumstances mention it to my grandma something like that,
31:48
Speaker 2: she's eighty nine and doesn't need that kind of stress.
31:51
Speaker 2: I feel like I sound New Zealand, like a Key
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Speaker 2: Week kind of rather than Australian. I'm going to stop
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Speaker 2: doing that. But honestly, my grandma is one of my
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Speaker 2: biggest supporters. She was totally fine when I came out
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Speaker 2: to her as a lesbian a few years back, and
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Speaker 2: I chat to her pretty much weekly about stupid teenage gossip,
32:06
Speaker 2: which she's super cool with. We have a very special relationship,
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Speaker 2: and I think my mom forgot to take that into
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Speaker 2: account and was just thinking about the fact that she's
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Speaker 2: nearly ninety years old from a conservative background. Well, I
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Speaker 2: told my grandma and Auntie yesterday and they were super
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Speaker 2: chill about it. They said that, well, it's not their thing,
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Speaker 2: they understand it's important to me, and we're happy I
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Speaker 2: was doing something that made them happy. See, you can
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Speaker 2: still have an opinion and still be happy for someone
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Speaker 2: and still maintain a relationship. Mommy and Daddy look at that.
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Speaker 2: They asked us see the designs. My auntie, who's an
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Speaker 2: amazing artist, even offered to draw my next tattoos, and
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Speaker 2: they both encouraged me to go to them if things
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Speaker 2: are tough with my parents. They're amazing and I love them. Oh,
32:43
Speaker 2: I'm so glad you have support. So the moment of truth.
32:45
Speaker 2: Today I got my first ever tattoo. I'm so in
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Speaker 2: love with it. My artist was incredible and made the
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Speaker 2: process fun and enjoyable. I made sure to give my
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Speaker 2: parents space both today and in the days leading up
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Speaker 2: to today, not mentioning the tattoo or appointments so as
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Speaker 2: to not rub it in their faces again. Way more
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Speaker 2: emotional linerature. When I got home a couple hours ago,
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Speaker 2: we chatted like normal for a while until my mom said, well,
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Speaker 2: how to go? Well, he had it gout. I started
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Speaker 2: to say that the session went great and the artist
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Speaker 2: was lovely, and she cut me off, saying, oh, you
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Speaker 2: gonna show us or what? So I just lift it
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Speaker 2: up my sleeve and showed them. They were quite quiet
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Speaker 2: for a couple of seconds, leaning in to look at it.
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Speaker 2: My dad just said, it's bigger than I thought my
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Speaker 2: mom went much big a with the grimace or whatever.
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Speaker 2: My dad asked me if it hurt and how long
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Speaker 2: it took, so I guess that was nice, and then
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Speaker 2: just took myself off to bed, hugging and kissing them
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Speaker 2: both good night, like everything was normal. I'm just going
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Speaker 2: to give them space with it and act like normal
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Speaker 2: because it is normal. This is nothing insane or horrible.
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Speaker 2: And I can see now that my anxieties around their
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Speaker 2: reactions made me make it into something that seemed way bigger.
33:46
Speaker 2: It's my body and my decision to make, and I'm
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Speaker 2: so happy I've made it. You can take a peek
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Speaker 2: oh my tattoo here. I'm so excited. I'm so excited
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Speaker 2: to see the little kitties. Are you freaking kidding me?
33:56
Speaker 2: Are you joking me? That is a freaking adorable I
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Speaker 2: don't know why, but I was expecting it to be
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Speaker 2: way more like contrasty and thick and like crazier the
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Speaker 2: way the parents are like. But that is like the cutest, daintiest,
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Speaker 2: most beautiful little tattoo I've ever seen. That is so cute.
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Speaker 2: The fine line work is amazing because you can tell
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Speaker 2: it's like right here, on her arm like it's not
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Speaker 2: that big baby. I love your tattoo. Thank you so
34:21
Speaker 2: so much to everyone who commented to help me put
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Speaker 2: my big girl pants on and brave the consequences to
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Speaker 2: my own actions. You all really helped me put into
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Speaker 2: perspective and understand that my parents are entitled to their opinions,
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Speaker 2: but they don't have to dictate what I do or
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Speaker 2: don't do. And everyone who shared their own stories, thank
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Speaker 2: you very much. Sending you all the good vibes. Thank
34:36
Speaker 2: you for your oh your kindness. I feel like it
34:39
Speaker 2: will be fine, you know. I feel like they'll eat
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Speaker 2: it and just be like, wow, maybe we actually did
34:43
Speaker 2: make a way more of a deal than we should have.
34:46
Speaker 2: And that's actually her body, and we are living in
34:49
Speaker 2: our own bodies and we can do whatever we want,
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Speaker 2: you know. It's just I don't know, it's just silly stuff.
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Speaker 2: They really shouldn't be worrying about, and they shouldn't treat
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Speaker 2: you like that, and they shouldn't threaten you with silence.
34:59
Speaker 2: But I'm so glad that you you are so emotionally mature,
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Speaker 2: and you have to give your parents space to just
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Speaker 2: let them just deal with the fact that the tattoos
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Speaker 2: in another person's body. God forbid, two little, tiny, fluffy,
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Speaker 2: fine line babies. It's come on, I really love your tattoo,
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Speaker 2: and let me know what you guys think. Dounlow. Did
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Speaker 2: you guys get tattoos and were your parents like horrified
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Speaker 2: when you got yours? I know, I got mine and
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Speaker 2: my mom was she was okay with it. My parents
35:25
Speaker 2: were like, oh, oh interesting, But I didn't. I don't
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Speaker 2: think I told them I was getting it. Maybe I did,
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Speaker 2: but I don't know. They kind of look at me
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Speaker 2: like the black sheep of the family anyway.
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Speaker 1: I kind of like dropped at university, became a YouTuber,
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Speaker 1: you know, got tattoos, have seven dogs, four cats, and
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Speaker 1: a chameleon, and it's just kind of how I roll.
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Speaker 2: I kind of just don't. I kind of just do
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Speaker 2: what I want. And they're like, all right that they've
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Speaker 2: learned to be, like, okay, I respect their opinion though
35:51
Speaker 2: so much. I respect my parents' opinions so much, and
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Speaker 2: I will always take take their opinions into account. But
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Speaker 2: they've never threatened to not speak to me if I
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Speaker 2: did something of my own volition that is completely fine,
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Speaker 2: legal and very common, you know, so I'm sorry that
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Speaker 2: you had to deal with that, and I hope that
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Speaker 2: they come around and let me know what you guys
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Speaker 2: think and if you guys have any cool tattoos or
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Speaker 2: any cool stories, and I'll see in the next one. Okay, Bye,