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Troy Hadeed · Postcards to the Universe

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Welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa Capria. Do you believe in magic?
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What if you were told that all you had to do was get a
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little creative and work a magic spell to bring anything you can imagine into your
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life. Here on Postcards to the Universe, we will share manifesting tips,
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postcards, creativity, abundance, and prosperity. Here is your host, Melissa
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Capria. Hey everybody, and welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating
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the life you crave. How is everybody doing? I hope that you're doing
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well today. I have author, yoga teacher, and social entrepreneur Troy Haddid
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with me and he's going to join me here in just a couple of minutes.
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To all my regulars, thank you so much, which for joining me.
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Last week, I ran a replay because of the fourth of July,
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record live. And right now it is four pm, well four o five
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pm Eastern time, July tenth, here in South Florida. That's where I'm
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calling from, and I am live. Okay, so quickly, just a
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little bit about me. I am an artist. I'm an author. I
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have a book titled Postcards to the Universe, Harness the Universe's power and manifest
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your dreams. And I talk all about manifesting in my book and the thirty
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manifesting stories and postcards, I photographed all of them, and we talk about
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how to manifest in areas of love and finances and health in our careers and
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abundance in all those areas. So you can check that out. And what
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I decided to do was, since my book came out at the end of
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twenty nineteen, right before COVID, I started doing live readings of my book,
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Postcards to Theuniverse dot com. So I'm doing small clips of everybody's story sharing
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the postcards, and I just got this thing that I wanted to read from
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my book. So please, if you're interested, come along, follow along,
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now since the book came out, and the way I photographed the postcards so
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shifted as I've grown, so has the work. So you can see those
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because I do a magical message each week and I will share an affirmation with
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the postcards. So, like I said, everything is on my social media
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how to create one, where to send it, and if you do,
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let me know that you dropped one in the mail and that I should be
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expecting one. Okay, let me get to my guest, Troy Hadid,
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who has called all the way here from Trinidad, so I'm excited to talk
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to him. He is an author, He's a social entrepreneur, yoga teacher
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who is committed to authentic and vulnerable introspections surrounding all aspects of the human experience.
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Troy believes the ultimate spiritual practice lives within our everyday relationships and that Divinity
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exists in the heart of every individual. He has been practicing and teaching yoga
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for over fifteen years, but has been questioning narratives, dissolving, conditioning,
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and dissecting the human experience for far longer. He lives on the north coast
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of Trinidad, Trinidad and Tobago, nestled in a community of trees and hummingbirds,
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but thrives on an active social life, introspection, and some interesting travel
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choices. When not teaching or writing, he can be found sharing insights through
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speaking engagements, coffee shop conversations, and casual encounters in the most unexpected places.
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Troy calls for us to bring more intention to the way we live our
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lives and acknowledges that our actions, words, and even thoughts change the world.
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He hopes that, if nothing else, his words and life help individuals
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reconnect to their understanding of God and aid humanity, including himself, and remembering
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what it means to love. You can find out all about him if you
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go to his website, troyhadid dot com. That's t R O y H
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A D E E D dot com. Welcome Troy, thanks for being here
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with me today. Thanks for calling in. Yeah, Lissa, yeah,
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Pata, that was something into Well, I'm glad you made it. The
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universe lined it up so that you could talk to me today. Because you're
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you have a book out and it's titled It's All about Love. So your
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name is love, use love. So why don't you share with us,
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you know a little bit about you and your journey. Yeah, well,
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the book is called my Name is Love. We're not all that different,
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and you know it's in a nutshell. The book is reminding us what it
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means to love, because so often our sense of identity gets any way and
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inhibits our ability to love one another. And for me, they were born
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where we're born into this body that that is given a name, and we're
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told that is who we are and as we grew up I mean navigating human
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experience, that identity gathers all these labels and things and opinions and ideas and
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identities that make us separate and different. And you know what's Funny is this
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book wasn't always called My Name Is Love. It had a different name up
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to six months before publishing, and we decided that a content of the book
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was far too powerful to be to carry very previous name, which first popcorn
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in my pocket? And my Name is Love just felt right because it's it's
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the only thing I can identify with that doesn't make us different or separate.
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You know, if I identify with even a male, well then I'm separate
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from females. If I identify as in Trinidadian, will have create separation between
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you as American or you know. And I'm not that these identities don't have
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their place, they do, but I feel like you will. We live
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in it's so overcome by identity that we allow it to define us. And
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the only thing I can safely allowed to define myself is the desire to know,
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understand, and embody love. Yeah, yeah, because the separation and
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identity separates us, right, and that's what causes us to have a lot
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of conflict. So how would you define love? Let's take romantic love out
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of it, because everybody, you know, we all know what romantic love
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looks like. So love, right, how do I love my neighbor who
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is not so kind. Let me just put it that way. You know
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you're getting straight into it. Yeah, because I love this. I know
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you are about who I was, and I know you've probably expected to get
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to answered where I came from and how I grew up. I'm not.
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Yeah, I'm not. I did you broke up a little bit? I
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lost you from the moment. Tell you there, a'm ye all right,
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cool, all right, So I'm going to answer you first question. You
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know, what does it mean to love? I mean, book There's there's
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a line that during a fresh draft to be booked, it was it was
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probably last line of the booked. And I remember when I wrote it,
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I can help but start crying. Not because I was done, because I
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knew I was far from done, but because I was like, well,
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this is it. See, this is it. And Eline says that to
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embody, love is to see God and the eyes of every human being in
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all of creation, and then to be a mirror so that he can be
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in awe of his own existence. So to me, it's about seeing God
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in all of creation and the eyes of every human being and then acting accordingly.
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And you know, a lot of people, Melissa, when the hell
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love? They think flowers and rainbows, with any bind of flies and chocolate,
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there's any points And love is this. Love is courageous. Love is
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drawing boundaries. Love is standing enough for what you believe in. Love is
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holding up a mirror and telling someone and showing someone the very last thing they
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want to hear, knowing that you could potentially lose them forever. That is
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love, you know. I don't believe you can really love anyone or anything
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unless you're willing to lose them. Wow. So I think in society,
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I don't think you really understand love is a way we use a lot,
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Yes, in a lot of ways. It's really versatile. But to really
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truly understand love, yeah, I don't think a lot of us do.
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Because you can be told of something, but because you're told of it doesn't
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mean you understand it or you know it to really, no one understands something.
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You can only do that through experience, right right. And I think
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one of the greatest privileges in a world that is not spoken of often enough
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relate of knowing what love is. Yeah, And I think I don't think
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many people in the world have that, So it's kind of like God.
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You know, where we live not a switch topic at all, but we
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live in and will with generationally, So much of us have been told of
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God, what God is, what God looks like, what God wants of
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us. But to be told of God and to know God two different things,
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you know. Mm hmm. So anybody, I could talk a lot,
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So yeah, no, that's good. I want you to talk a
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lot. So for those listening who is struggling, because I agree with you.
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Love the way we have been taught and we understand is very conditional,
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meaning I will love you if you live up to my expectation of you in
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my life. I love you then, But I don't love you, yeah
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right. I don't love you if you hurt me. I don't love you
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if you're cruel. I don't love you if you have a different politics than
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I do. I don't love you if your skin is a different color than
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mine. Right. So that's how most of us are taught love. And
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I think even I don't have children personally, but I have know that from
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friends and others that even parents love their children conditionally. I love you if
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you grow up to be what my idea is for you to be right.
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But if you don't, then there's a problem. So how do we for
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those of us that are open and want to learn, how do we shift
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that? How do we change that? How do we learn to love in
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a different way then we've been taught? Yeah, well you know this,
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This convoy is so on point, Melissa, and I'm kind of glad we're
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not on video because you might see me getting really emotional. You might even
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hear it, because right now in my life, I am navigating a situation
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that has caused me some pain, right, some hits, and it's important.
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First, I want to note that for people listening, hurt and anger
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are two different things. M So because someone hurts your causes your pain doesn't
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mean you have to get angry. I means you're hurt, right, the
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two different things. So to answer your question, if we can, if
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we can move beyond the identity of physical body. Not I'm not going to
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go too far off three times on here, but okay, if I can,
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if I can understand that I am not my physical body, that I
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know that Melissa is not her physical body, right, and then I begin
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to recognize that within every physical body is a seed of God. It's a
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spark of God that has been conditioned by its experiences and his environment and all
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everything that up until that point has shaped that body. But beyond that body,
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it is an element of God, it's an element of myself. Right.
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So it's about realizing that someone's words, actions, and thoughts are not
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who they are. That is just their conditioning. And we can condemn someone's
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actions, words, and thoughts. We could condemn someone's conditioning but still love
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them. And the funny thing is, to Melissa, is that when we're
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faced with but with whoever it is to me, I'm gonna say, if
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I'm faced with someone I love daily and that person that person does something so
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hateful to me, you know, I have a choice. Whether it be
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someone I love or a stranger, I can condemn that person and judge them
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and create all this anger and resentment. That's not going to change them,
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that's not going to impart the where they live their lives. That's not going
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to really help them reprogram or recondition. Right. So the very first thing,
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Wow, I feel like I'm giving myself advice right now. The very
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first thing we need to do if we want to help someone reprogram or condition
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is to make them feel safe, seem understood and loved. And when we
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do that and we can have someone understand that we see them and we appreciate
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them and acknowledge them, then we can help them reprogram or recondition. But
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you can't have someone reprogram and recondition if you're coming at them with fire and
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brimstone all the time. Right right now, if that person, yes,
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that makes perfect sense. But what if that person doesn't want your help and
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they have to go through their own journey. What do we need to do
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Because you're not saying, and I know you're not saying that we need to
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accept cruel behavior from somebody else because we're trying to be more loving of ourselves.
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Because, like you said, love is also drawing boundaries, right,
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So if somebody is beating me, you know what I mean, I don't
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need to be in that relationship with them anymore. So I have to straw
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a boundary. So, so is it we need to also love ourselves?
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Yes, put our love ourselves? Yes, absolutely, absolutely absolutely. I'm
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so glad you brought that up to right now, here's the reality. Life
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wasn't meant to be flowers and rainbows. No human experience. It's meant meant
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to be growth and transformation. Yes, right, so if but it is
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Similissa, if I, if I on some level we to do something that's
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you. And you kept seeding me flowers and rainbows and saying that you loved
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me, that's not actually love because you're not showing me what I need to
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grow. Right, maybe what you need to really grow and transform is to
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you to walk away from me and I risk losing you forever. Yeah,
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that could be. That would be real love because if you keep anyling my
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behavior and allowing me to harm you, all you're doing is keeping me close
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because you're afraid of losing me. So your love, what you're describing as
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love, is a self saving love. It's because I might provide you security
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or a sense of comfort or a home or roof. You keep me close
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and you're afraid to tell me and show me things that I don't want to
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hear. And of course you also have to love yourself. This but because
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you can't see and acknowledge God in anyone else unless you acknowledge it in yourself,
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right, you know? And this is this is this is why I
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mentioned earlier, Melissa, You can't love someone unless you're willing to lose them,
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because then your whole relationship is going to be pandering to the fact that
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you want to keep them in your life close. Yes, And what that
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leads to is manipulation and bribing, emotional bribing, emotional corruption. And you're
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not really ever going to tell a person how you feel or what they need
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to facility their growth and transformation, right right, So love is fair.
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Yeah, love is face and sometimes love is saying no. And sometimes love
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is telling the person you really love the one thing you know they don't want
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to hear. Yeah, and you know you might lose them forever. Yeah.
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Yeah, but that's what love require. Sometimes I so agree, and
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I can see it now so much clearer after some experiences, like you said,
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you have to go through certain experiences that transform you so that when you
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look back, you can say, oh, now I understand. Now,
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I understand why I went through what I needed to go through so that I
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could show that I do love myself and I do love you to let you
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go on your own journey wherever that leads you, and it may lead you
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into a lot of pain, but that is your journey, not mine.
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Yeah, and you know, sometimes it's like I also I talk about in
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the book, I refer to what I call it voice of my own,
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voice of hot, any hot being you receive, but God, to God's
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resonance, to God's frequency. And sometimes we think, oh great, we
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can listen to this guidance. Voice will be hot, and everything's can be
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perfect and nice and life is gonna be beautiful and pleasant. And sometimes God
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and the heart will lead you on the battlefield, right, it will lead
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you into dungeon, because sometimes that is what we need to experience to understand,
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to grow, to learn to even glimpse what love really is. Yeah,
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you know, yeah, oh yeah, oh I know. So how
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for anybody who's listening right now, who may be struggling, how do they
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see God in themselves and God in others so that they cannot plug into the
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emotional story of the anger and the resentment and the rage and look at it,
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you know, because because because like anything, we need practice, right,
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we don't just these things don't just come naturally, so we need practice.
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So what would you recommend somebody who's maybe going through something with somebody and
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wants to be able to follow what you're talking about well as in a practice
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for them to do. Yeah, yeah, my my. You know,
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there's so many practices, Milita, that that can help facilitate this kind of
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journey. But I'm going to speak to two things. The main thing is,
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I think anything that that quiet in mind or helps us cultivate this relationship
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with our mind to really see what's coming up for us lessanthy hold on our
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of our identity, of our mind on us right. So again I won't
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go too far off, but I will bring it back full sacred. Okay.
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Our physical body is who we think we are a lot of the time,
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my body is called Troy. If I allow, if I allow my
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conditioning to be that I am my body. This is who I am,
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and I don't ever question that. That lives in your mind. Right,
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It's what we would call our ego, So might call it an ego.
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Right. Yes, Now, here's the thing. Your physical body has one
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certainty and that is death, right and your mind, your mind, your
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mind knows that. So your mind, the conditioning of your mind is one
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that is constantly undefensive. It's constantly looking out, looking out for his threats,
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is looking up for harm, and it perceives almost everything as a threat.
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Anything that makes us uncomfortable, it perceives as a threat, and that
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becomes our conditioning. And there's so many people in a world that have no
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relationship taughts that their minds. They can't even sit alone in a room with
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their mind because it's so scary. Yeah, this is a massive issue.
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Imagine that your mind is the one thing you can't escape. And we live
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in a will where a majority of people I would event sally maybe ninety percent
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of people on the planet cannot even sit in a room alone with themselves.
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They are scared of their minds. Yeah, because your mind has this hole
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on them. So I would explain it like this. The more you cultivate
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a relationship with your mind, it's like for a lot of people in mind
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is really overactive. In mind screams, it shows it's on constant, constantly
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created anxiety, you worry, stress, depression, all these narratives. Right,
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think of your mind like a lover, like an clean up partner.
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If you want to use your marriage, use it with marriage, right,
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but there's no separation and divorces you on your mind for the rest of your
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life. Right now, For any relationship to be holistic, compassionate, loving,
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and understanding. There must be quality time. That's how you get to
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know your partner. So I like to describe the relationship with your mind as
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you seem unless you start to spend time and more you start to spend time
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with your mind and start a question and understand why do I feel this way?
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Why it is coming up, and just set your mind and your thoughts
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unless it has to scream and shout at you, unless it has to scream
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and shout at you, because you're cultivating a relationship. Is the more you
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can now start to hear the frequency of God, frequency of your heart,
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which tells you you are not your body. That we are all conditioning.
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And once we start even begin to glimpse that, then we no longer take
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things as personal because if I were to do something, if you, Melissa,
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were to do something to me, I know not to take it personally
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because that is just your conditioning. You're doing it best you can at this
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time in your life with what you're carrying. And I just happen to be
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anyway. I just happen to be part of your curriculum. But I honestly
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believe you know they have this thing that says. I think it's Maya Angelo.
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She says, if someone knows better, they'll do better. Yeah,
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right, yep. And I think that that's true to to extent. But
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it's also part of that that hasn't been said, and that's that if somebody
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knows better, they will do better. If they aren't doing better, it's
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because they haven't been taught, they haven't been shown, or they don't know
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any better. However, even if I know better, sometimes, depending on
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what I'm navigating in my life and the pain and suffering and the wait I
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am carrying at that point in time, even though I know better, I
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might not be able to do better. That is so true. That is
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so true. We're going to take our break before you finish. Let's take
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our break here because this is really important and I want to get into this
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even more so, we have to take our commercial break. So let's do
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I'm speaking with author Troy had to eat and we're talking about love really and
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what the real meaning of love is. And Troy, before the break,
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you were talking about and this is so true because just looking at my own
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and I was thinking during the break, during the personal break, looking at
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my own life, I know so much better now. You know, obviously
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we're all you know, we're all gross in progress. We're always constantly transforming
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and growing. But I know so much better now than I did me let's
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say, even five years ago. But I can still find myself getting triggered,
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right, Like, I know this, I know what you're saying to
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me. But there's and there's certain people that are triggers in my life and
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can still trigger me. And I know they're my greatest teachers. Yeah yea,
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So how do you so? What? Yeah? So, even though
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we know better, depending on what's going on, and if I'm very stressed
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out and i have a lot on my plate and I'm doing a million things
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at once, and whatever's going on, you know, with me, someone
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can say or do something and I feel my anger just go whoosh, you
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know, like rise up right? Yeah, Yeah, Well I'm going to
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I'm going to reverse your rules a little bit and speak to that please okay?
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Which is which is that if I know I am in any kind of
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relationship or interacting with someone that reacts to me inner suit and we and they
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I know what they know better? Yeah, like I know what they know
32:55
better, then my first question should not My face response should not be an
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attack to them. It should be like are you okay? Like what what's
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really going on? Are you okay? It's like it's like a workplace.
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If you have an employee at w in a in an employee environment, in
33:19
a work environment that is people centered, are not profit centered, then and
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I have an employee with that is not performing and I know they can do
33:29
better, my face response should not be coming down on them. It should
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be coming to them and be like, yo, are you okay? Like
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what's going on? Like how can I help? How can I support you?
33:43
Right? It's the same thing in real life is that if we know
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someone knows better and we see that they they what they're they're how they're showing
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up is not aligned with with what they stand for or or their knowledge of
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the world and life, we we can ask them out are you okay?
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Like are you how can I help what's going on? This isn't normally you?
34:08
Right? And now I'm gonna go back to the rule of if.
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Like you mentioned, if I know I knew better, I know better,
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and I get triggered or whatever it is you know I have. There's some
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analogy I love to use, which is a curriculum of life. It's like
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life is a school, right, not a new analogy. Imagine that every
34:34
individual has a very specific curriculum to walk, yes, and that we are
34:42
all part of one another's curriculum. If you are in my life, even
34:45
the briefest moment, that means you are part of my curriculum. Right.
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And let me put it this way, if when if we if you're in
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my life, letter, and you're part of my curriculum. And like many
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times in my life, I show up in a way in which I am
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ashamed of. And I look back on that and I say, oh,
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my gosh, I knew better. What the hell did I do? I
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knew better than to do that. I imagine that sometimes it's almost like we're
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puppets to God's brilliance, and God is setting us up. He's manipulating us
35:27
sometimes to create and supply a curriculum where maybe in that instance I get to
35:36
learn how to deal with shame and guilt, or you get to learn how
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to deal with compassion, forgiveness, empathy. So it's almost like every experience
35:49
we have, every relationship we have, is part of our curriculum and someone
35:54
else's curriculum. And so that's one aspect of it for me is I don't
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I don't come down too hard on myself because I'm like, all right,
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I did my best, that's your reality. Like I commit to love every
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single day, I commit to being a positive and jo Anthony, we running
36:15
people around me every single day. If I do or say something or show
36:21
up in a way that I know was out of alignment or I am ashamed
36:23
of, I acknowledge it, I see it. I take accountability, I
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apologize if necessary, and I try to do better. Yeah, And I
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think it's so it's so important for us to remember too that if we had
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it all figured out, we would not be here. No, we wouldn't,
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right, we wouldn't. Wouldn't we wouldn't. I want to ask you
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because I'm really interested in you said something in your things that you talk about
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in your when you get interviewed and says, I talk about manifestation. I
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want to know what the inconvenient truth of manifestation and prayer is from your perspective.
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Yeah, because I find that's fascinating. So I want to know what
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you're Yeah, good question. When I heard you talk about your books,
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like I want next, You're going to bring that up? Oh yeah,
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yeah, inconvenient truth? Melissa, is this again? And entertain me.
37:37
I'm not going I'm not going too far off off the topic. I want
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him to understand that the word spirit like holy spirit, it comes from Latin
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with spirit us and it means to breathe mm hmm. And through my Google
37:58
practice and my practice in general and understanding, I've come to really believe that
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there is a divine agency in the air we breathe. It's the only thing
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that connects all of us. It's the only thing that makes us all the
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same, that has no boundaries or labels, that is not associated with identity
38:22
or form. The air we breathe. So I've come to view that and
38:28
understand that there is some define agency in that, and that has affected my
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yoga practice in any sense that I have begun to. I began to view
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and understand that my yoga practice was a form of prayer. And my yoga
38:44
practice became very intimate, very slow. And as I began to practice in
38:51
that way, I realized that in my practice I felt so close to spirit,
38:55
so close to God. But then I I thought to myself, as
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several hold on, I break twenty seven thousand times a day on average,
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as that God is constantly moving in and out of me. And I realized,
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I wow, I am a living embodiment of prayer. Prayer is not
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something I do in the morning or I do any afternoon, or I do
39:23
when I go to Jewish temple or mosque, or when I hold a ritual
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like I am a living embodiment of prayer. Now, manifestation to me,
39:35
melissa is a new age word for prayer. It's been around for a long
39:43
time. Manifestation. A lot of people, I think, sus this new
39:47
age spiritual new thing. It's not new, It's eons old, right,
39:54
and it points to this. Every word, action and thought changes and shifts
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your reality everyone. The inconvenient truth is this that people love to say,
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Oh, I'm going to sit down indoor manifestation ritual in the morning or manifestation,
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meditation, any evening, But what about all the space in between to
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right? So to understand our real power of every word, action and thought.
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That is inconvenient because it comes with great responsibility. It means that every
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single thing I do, every word, action and thought, is changing the
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world. Every single moment, I am manifesting constantly. So with that that
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means that I have to bring so much more intention and awareness the way I
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lived my life. Absolutely, manifestation and prayer is not something we do when
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we drinle or when we write or when we pray. It's something we are
41:15
living embodiments of that. Yeah, and for a lot of people that carries
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a massive responsibility, and we a lot of us aren't ready technology that just
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yet. Yeah, that's true. I'm glad you said that, because what
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I have people do is fun. It's the light, it's the making the
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cards, it's the imagination. But when people come to me and say,
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well I did this, and I said, you know, and this is
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just to put a visual spin on it and give it a creative edge.
41:45
But the real manifestation comes from what are you thinking about after you created this
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this little card that you sent me? What do you. Are you thinking
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you don't deserve it? Are you thinking it's never going to happen to you?
41:58
Are you thinking of how you you can't stand your life and you're so
42:02
unhappy? And is that where your energy is? Is that where you're vibrating
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at? If that is, it doesn't matter how many vision boards you do,
42:10
cards, you make, affirmations, you say, it's it's you have
42:15
to catch yourself and your thoughts. And we don't realize, like you said,
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our brains, our minds, how many thoughts we are having in a
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day, and how many of them are our negative thoughts? Are our disempowering
42:30
thoughts, I should say, are disempowering thoughts because we're so unconscious of our
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minds, are so unconscious. So yes, yeah, I love that you
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said that, because that's the truth. Yeah, And there you know,
42:45
there's also I mean not everyone would agree with this, but to me,
42:49
there's also an element of action. Yes, And it's like I can sit
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on a couch and right fitmentally managed has a billion dollars right my entire life.
43:04
But yes, you have to take action, you know, an if
43:07
Boca explain it simply, I'm like, if I want my favorite pizza for
43:12
dinner. I have to order it. I can't just I can't just try
43:19
to will pizza man to show up at my door with my favorite pizza.
43:22
Maybe some of us can't. I show can't not yet anyway, you know
43:28
that the you need. It's like universe, yes wants the co conspire to
43:35
create for us, but we need to engage. Yes, we can't just
43:39
put a hand. Action. Yeah yeah, yeah, absolutely inspired action for
43:46
sure. Well hopefully what happens is is once you connect to God, prayer,
43:52
manifestation, your higher self, whatever you want to call it, it
43:54
doesn't matter. Source is that you feel like you want to take the action.
44:01
You know, you should feel the excitement of wanting to take that next
44:07
action that's going to get you there. Yeah, because there's an excitement behind
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it, at least for me. Yeah yeah, yeah, absolutely absolutely.
44:17
It's like, you know, it's like, how dare we not try?
44:21
I mean, I know we all we all have moments in our lives when
44:25
we get down And I was asked this once when I get I was asked,
44:30
where you get down the passed and inspired? Do you feel bummy?
44:34
It's like, of course, there are times the times when I want to
44:37
walk away from you will and disappear, you know. But then there's a
44:43
voice in my head that goes, how dare you, with all that you've
44:46
been given and all your opportunity you have and all in knowledge you have to
44:52
share an impact you can make on this way? How dare you just throw
44:58
your hands up and walk up? And I feel like that is something I
45:04
equal to myself so many times, how dare you not atalas try? Just
45:07
try? How dare you not try? I like that? How dare you
45:12
not try? Yeah? I wanted to ask you, what do you think
45:16
one of the biggest issues is that is plaguing humanity? What do you think
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are good that we Yeah? I try not to be too esoteric and ou
45:32
wu, but I think the biggest problem plague in our world is the issue
45:39
of identity. It's the issue that we think we are separate, that we
45:45
associate ourselves with our bodies. Because as long as I do that, everything
45:52
becomes my land, my house, my people, my property, my money
45:58
right, and we start to create all this separation. And even if even
46:04
if we have a WII, a lot of the time that wei is a
46:07
collective wei, so that we still create them, right, so we've lost
46:15
sight of the collective, We've lost sight of the fact that we are apart
46:20
of something so much bigger than ourselves, and we've become so consumed by this
46:25
individual sense of identity that we've forgotten that we are love, that we are
46:32
God, yeah, and that that lives within everyone else. And if we
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can only begin to glimpse that again, that would solve so much of what's
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happening in our ways. Yeah, I agree with you. I can see
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that, because if we really understood it even a little bit, how could
46:52
we hurt other people? How could we hurt our yet? How could we
46:57
cause harm? Right right? Because if I'm harming you, I'm harming myself.
47:04
Yeah right, absolutely from you, I'm taking from me right right.
47:09
And and people don't really understand what that means. They can read the words
47:15
and understand the sentence, but not what the the implication of what that idea
47:22
actually really means. That's what people have, yeah, yeah, And you
47:28
know it's like you know, and yoga. We love to use this with
47:30
my mast and it signifies a lot of people loves us through it around.
47:38
But to me it means it God, and me lives in God and you
47:42
acknowledge that it goden you can I see God in the eyes of every human
47:46
being, even a strange right homeless pace and at echnistry. And if I
47:52
can, how would that change my interaction. It doesn't mean no, no,
47:58
that's it coming back full cycle. It doesn't mean I can't condemn their
48:02
conditioning and their actions right right, But I need to understand that's not who
48:10
they are. So I can still love someone and condemn everything how they show
48:16
up in a world and still love them. And even if I see eyes
48:22
of I see God in the eyes of someone, that doesn't mean I have
48:28
to bring flowers and rainbows. That means I can still be in conflict.
48:35
I can still drop my boundaries. I can still stand up for what I
48:37
believe in. I can still hold a mirror up and show that that person
48:43
what it is they need to see to grow and transform. But in doing
48:47
that, I'm compassionate, I'm understanding, and I come from a place of
48:54
love. You know, there's a beautiful quote that I touchooed on my arm.
48:59
I wish I found it twenty years ago, but it says I have
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not come to teach, I have come to love, and love will teach
49:07
m H. And it's beautiful, I think, yeah. And you know,
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I asked ch gpt who wrote it? And I did so much reteach
49:15
and no one really knows. I keep getting different authors, so I think
49:20
I have to say it as an unknown author. Mmmm. Yeah. So
49:25
Troy, how are you in your journey? Like? Where did you?
49:30
I didn't touch on your background, but where did you come from? Were
49:34
you always this in touch and intuitive and as a child or like that you
49:44
got to where you are now? And how do you feel you are in
49:46
your journey with being you know, living what you're speaking? Yeah? Yeah,
49:55
Well I try my very best, Melissa. Every day I try my
50:01
very best to live with things I teached and I speak of. But I
50:07
make it very clear that I am human. And it's a week in progress
50:09
and we don't see I don't see things all the time. I'm a yeao,
50:15
you know, but it's a content we can progress. I'm from Trinida
50:22
to answer maybe your face question, and I've grown been born here, I've
50:25
grown up here. I've had really amazing and supportive friends and family that,
50:32
even while they don't quite understand all the time or agree with my perspectives and
50:39
views have always given me love and support. So I've always felt that and
50:47
that has had a huge impact on me from a young age. I think,
50:52
you know, I'm at ten years old, I wrote a letter to
50:57
editor about Nashville newspaper and this was during the Gulf War, and that letter
51:05
was pleading for and war and fighting and for people to just live in peace,
51:10
you know. And a copy of that letter is not greatly written.
51:15
And I was ten, but a copy of that letter for the help of
51:20
my mom, my center, Sadah Musi, President Bush, Mikol Govachov,
51:24
and our Prime min study time. And I often asked myself at ten years
51:30
old, what any will possessed me to want to do that? And the
51:38
only I mean, I had really powerful influences as a child. One was
51:45
Jesus. One was Jesus outside the context of religion. And I try to
51:51
make that clear when I speak of God and Jesus, I speak outside of
51:53
the context of religion. And Bob Marley, Bob Marley and Rastafarian movement had
52:00
a huge impact on my life right now, So I often wonder why did
52:07
I write a letter ten years old? And right now? The only thing
52:13
I could put my finger on is that I used to sit down and watch
52:16
news with my dad on TV every night at seven pm, and so I
52:23
was not in any way sheltered from what was happening in the restable world.
52:30
And I think right now we have so much people that shelter their kids,
52:36
and I have no kids, so I can't speak to them, and I
52:37
won't tell anyone how to bring up their kids. But I think being exposed
52:44
to what was happening outside of my bubble of privilege and safety, along with
52:51
my influence of Rastafarai and Bob Marley and Christ, it gave me almost a
52:58
responsibility to at least try to make a difference, to try to seek there
53:05
something bigger, there's something that is more inclusive, and at least try to.
53:10
I took that junior, I would say, from a young age.
53:14
You know, yeah, I love that. I love that well. Bob
53:19
Marley was definitely prophetized in his music, so I can see, I can
53:23
see. It's a shame we lost him so young, but I guess his
53:29
job here was finished and he had other things to do, right. That
53:35
is so cool. He's still so very much alive. Oh God, I
53:40
know, and my nephew who is autistic. I have an autistic nephew and
53:46
he can't he's he he verbalizes, but he can't speak. But one of
53:51
his favorite, yeah song is Bob Marley. He loves Bob Marley. So
53:57
put Bob Marley on. He danced it. He like connects to the music
54:00
and it's so beautiful to say, so I love I love that. So,
54:05
Troy, we only have a couple of minutes. If people want to
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connect with you, or do you like are you on a lot of shows,
54:15
or they want to listen to you more, or you know, tell
54:16
them how they can find you and get your book. Of course, yeah,
54:22
of course, Well my book is on Amazon dot com and the audiobook
54:27
comes out in Auga end of August September as well. Corract, they could
54:32
thank you. They could also buy a book, of course, at any
54:36
bookstore. They could if they don't have it in stock, they could order
54:38
it on it from band and no book. They could find me at Troy
54:43
Haddi dot com and they can also buy my book at Troy Haddy dot com.
54:47
There's a shop link where I will tell me it's nice and clothing and
54:52
that kind of stuff, and maybe I can even hook them up with a
54:54
little discount through your radio show. Maybe you could talk for that on off
54:59
of that in some way. But I'm also really active on Instagram. It's
55:05
my social media profile of choice, So I would if anybody wants to reach
55:10
out Troyhaddy dot com or Instagram, I would love to hear from them.
55:16
Okay, great, is there anything you want to leave us with? As
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we have like a minute left before we don't get to say yeah, well,
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I'll just say this, Melissa, You know this comes to mind.
55:30
I think a lot of listeners don't always recognize the work that goes in to
55:37
a radio show or podcast, and I think I don't think he holds always
55:44
get a credit in me. So I would like to tell you thank you
55:50
for giving me a platform and a voice and giving our listeners such beautiful content.
55:54
Oh, thank you so much. It was such a pleasure actually today
55:59
talking with you. Thank you so much for being here with me. All
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right, everyone, thanks for listening to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating
56:07
the life you crave. And I'm wishing everyone a wonderful week filled with joy,
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abundance and love. Peace,