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- 0:00Speaker 1: Wake up with a bang and the club on nine
- 0:05Speaker 1: four seven.
- 0:07Speaker 2: So I said earlier on when we kicked the show off,
- 0:09Speaker 2: and if we said good morning, I said, if you
- 0:14Speaker 2: and your siblings relationship is on the rocks.
- 0:17Speaker 3: Yea, if it's a little bit tasty at the moment, a.
- 0:20Speaker 2: Little tasty, you know, if it's partly cloudy with a
- 0:23Speaker 2: great chance of thunder showers. This conversation is not going
- 0:27Speaker 2: to help. But I have to ask this question anyway,
- 0:32Speaker 2: Should your children receive equal inheritance?
- 0:37Speaker 1: So should you if your parents are older, receive equal
- 0:40Speaker 1: inheritance with your siblings?
- 0:42Speaker 2: Look at your siblings, Look at yourself, Look at your siblings,
- 0:47Speaker 2: look at yourself. Should you guys receive equal inheritance?
- 0:53Speaker 3: Absolutely? I'm going to say absolutely.
- 0:56Speaker 1: I don't want to receive equal inheritance, obviously, I'd like
- 0:59Speaker 1: to receive more, a little bit more. But let's just
- 1:02Speaker 1: stop by saying there's not a lot of inheritance to
- 1:04Speaker 1: go around, right, So we're not fighting over a wine farm, you.
- 1:08Speaker 3: Know, just a couple of thousands. It's not like half
- 1:10Speaker 3: of Cappy deck who.
- 1:13Speaker 2: Who's getting this fifteen thousand rounds?
- 1:15Speaker 3: Exactly? But still, no, it's got.
- 1:17Speaker 2: To be equal oh one one eight thirty eight nine
- 1:20Speaker 2: four seven centers a voice not zero eight four double
- 1:22Speaker 2: zero double zero nine four seven. And if you say
- 1:25Speaker 2: it shouldn't be equal, I'm interested to find.
- 1:27Speaker 4: Out why you think that.
- 1:29Speaker 5: I think sometimes here's the thing. People feel it shouldn't
- 1:33Speaker 5: be equal because a especially his parents get older. Not
- 1:37Speaker 5: everyone puts in as much effort in the relationship with
- 1:40Speaker 5: the parents and caring for what maybe an aging or
- 1:43Speaker 5: even sickly parent. And then you've got the other element
- 1:46Speaker 5: where you know that Frank is your brother. But if
- 1:49Speaker 5: Frank you got more than you, if he got seventy percent,
- 1:52Speaker 5: then you got thirty he would run through that seventy
- 1:55Speaker 5: so quickly to supplement him going.
- 2:00Speaker 2: Forward, because I find do you know what's always tricky
- 2:02Speaker 2: with parents? It's like, well, we leave you the house
- 2:04Speaker 2: in Bryanston, but you're just.
- 2:05Speaker 3: Like, oh, yeah, we four kids, do.
- 2:07Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Before now, one person wants
- 2:10Speaker 2: to keep it, one person wants to sell it, one
- 2:11Speaker 2: person once I'm maintained, the other one doesn't want to
- 2:13Speaker 2: pay levies on it. It's like, just just leave something
- 2:17Speaker 2: that's not going to cause a fight.
- 2:18Speaker 5: Afterwards, Guys, you have nice problems. They you worried about
- 2:21Speaker 5: levies Where I'm from, you're worried about your parents leaving
- 2:23Speaker 5: to the kid will sell the door frames a week
- 2:26Speaker 5: after the funeral, You're like, wow, there go the windows.
- 2:29Speaker 4: We used to have a door here. Well, who took
- 2:32Speaker 4: the stove? We don't need to cook in the corner?
- 2:37Speaker 2: Delivery on one one eight thirty eight ninety four seven
- 2:44Speaker 2: zero eighty four double zero double zero nine four seven.
- 2:47Speaker 2: Should your children receive equal inheritance?
- 2:50Speaker 6: I think we all need to. And I had this
- 2:52Speaker 6: conversation recently. Get over the fact that insurance, I mean
- 2:55Speaker 6: insurance listened to me.
- 2:56Speaker 3: Inheritance is not.
- 2:57Speaker 6: Something that you are entitled to. Rightbody just assumes, Oh,
- 3:01Speaker 6: I'm entitled to insurance.
- 3:02Speaker 4: No you're not.
- 3:03Speaker 3: I mean, why can I keep saying insurance?
- 3:05Speaker 2: Because inheriting hers inherent insurance.
- 3:08Speaker 3: It is.
- 3:09Speaker 6: It is something that you don't necessarily get. I think
- 3:11Speaker 6: where it gets tricky. Money is easy to split. It
- 3:14Speaker 6: obviously does cause fights. I think the problem comes down
- 3:16Speaker 6: to jewelry the smallest, so like who gets Like in
- 3:21Speaker 6: Frankie's case, let's say Frankie had to have two daughters.
- 3:24Speaker 6: Now his sister's got two daughters who should get Frankie's
- 3:27Speaker 6: mom's jewelry. And I think that's where and what and
- 3:31Speaker 6: how do you split it? So I think that's where
- 3:34Speaker 6: it starts to get tricky money.
- 3:35Speaker 4: I mean, we can fight for.
- 3:36Speaker 6: A while and it goes, but it's the actual the
- 3:39Speaker 6: things I wanted.
- 3:40Speaker 4: My grandmother's jacket, No, she used to give it to me.
- 3:43Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 3:44Speaker 4: I think that was the case with my mom and
- 3:45Speaker 4: her designer bags.
- 3:47Speaker 3: Did you take them?
- 3:48Speaker 2: No, somebody else got in.
- 3:49Speaker 3: Before you got feeling and you're upset right after.
- 3:53Speaker 2: I just felt like it should have been something where
- 3:54Speaker 2: we sit in we discussed, yeah, like these are mom's
- 3:57Speaker 2: bags because my mom never bought herself designer bags with
- 3:59Speaker 2: all the gift for my dad, so there's there was
- 4:01Speaker 2: a story behind every bag, right, So I just I
- 4:04Speaker 2: just felt like we should have just sat down and
- 4:05Speaker 2: be like, Okay, this one goes there, this one goes there. Oh,
- 4:08Speaker 2: let's let's give this one to mom's sister because they
- 4:11Speaker 2: were close like this and they travel together.
- 4:13Speaker 3: You know, things like that, and you're trying to buy
- 4:15Speaker 3: one back.
- 4:17Speaker 1: Yeah, So I just right, it's a daughter version of
- 4:21Speaker 1: the door frames.
- 4:22Speaker 4: Yes, but this will never happened to me.
- 4:24Speaker 5: I can't imagine my brother's and I browling over that
- 4:26Speaker 5: Forshemi handbag she got her birthday.
- 4:30Speaker 2: Should your children receive equal inheritance? And right now, as
- 4:34Speaker 2: a children, when you're looking at the situation, should you
- 4:37Speaker 2: guys be receiving equal inheritance?
- 4:39Speaker 3: Like you're not banking on it, but think about it.
- 4:41Speaker 1: If it had to be split, does everyone get split
- 4:44Speaker 1: equally because you've been looking after your mom for the
- 4:46Speaker 1: last fifteen years.
- 4:47Speaker 2: Oh, you started the family business with your dad exactly
- 4:50Speaker 2: Now somebody's just gonna come and go.
- 4:53Speaker 7: So we are three at home. I've got two brothers.
- 4:56Speaker 7: When my dad passed away and it was time for
- 4:58Speaker 7: us to share his inheritance, they told me that I
- 5:02Speaker 7: must get less because I'm married and I'm not sharing
- 5:06Speaker 7: a surname with them anymore.
- 5:08Speaker 8: I'm very happy to make smart brothers and sisters take
- 5:12Speaker 8: everything because it's probably more gonna be date than anything else.
- 5:16Speaker 9: My family has already drafted their contribution of inheritance, and
- 5:22Speaker 9: there is four of us and we are definitely not
- 5:25Speaker 9: getting an ECO.
- 5:26Speaker 4: And guess who gets the.
- 5:27Speaker 9: Most More Childiefer his name is actually more CHILDI, for
- 5:31Speaker 9: which directly translated into English is the inheritor.
- 5:36Speaker 3: Alam and he was born to do it right, the eater.
- 5:39Speaker 4: Of the Inheritor.
- 5:40Speaker 2: Basically, if you're looking for total translation there.
- 5:44Speaker 4: Oh that's tricky. And also should your kids know before
- 5:48Speaker 4: you pass away what it's going to look like. I
- 5:50Speaker 4: think that's really.
- 5:53Speaker 3: There must be for once you're gone.
- 5:54Speaker 5: What do you want to put yourself through the suffering
- 5:56Speaker 5: of seeing the rivalry?
- 5:59Speaker 4: I've feen the reason.
- 6:00Speaker 6: Just do your kids a favor, tell them what you've got.
- 6:02Speaker 6: Where are you leaving everything pass?
- 6:04Speaker 3: Where is?
- 6:05Speaker 6: Just be honest and upfront, guys, trust me, saving a
- 6:08Speaker 6: lot of headaches and Edmund afterwards.
- 6:10Speaker 5: I think that makes a very boring funeral week hours
- 6:12Speaker 5: likely when we fall out at the mortuary and someone
- 6:15Speaker 5: leaves with the death certificates and the body with event
- 6:20Speaker 5: loaded loaded.
- 6:21Speaker 4: You like, whoam Ian? You're in Benoni? What's your take?
- 6:25Speaker 10: Yeah? Morning early in the club morning. Yeah, just going
- 6:28Speaker 10: over the subject. My mom's sadly passed in February. We're
- 6:33Speaker 10: all from the UK, so she passed away in the UK.
- 6:36Speaker 10: I personally believe no matter. I mean, it's just two
- 6:40Speaker 10: of us, myself and my sister. I think how it
- 6:43Speaker 10: goes in life, no matter what you mean to your
- 6:47Speaker 10: parents or if one's favored over the other. I personally
- 6:50Speaker 10: believe it should be fifty to fifty, in which in
- 6:53Speaker 10: my case it is. But the thing that we agreed about.
- 6:57Speaker 10: My mom obviously when she passed, left a lot of
- 6:59Speaker 10: jewelry and necklaces and so forth, so forth, And obviously
- 7:04Speaker 10: I agreed with my sister being the lady. I agreed.
- 7:08Speaker 10: I mean, what.
- 7:08Speaker 3: Mysta do with the jewelry?
- 7:10Speaker 10: So I personally handed well accepted saying the jewelry should
- 7:15Speaker 10: all be for my sister, which I personally believe it.
- 7:19Speaker 10: There's no need to fight about things like this. It
- 7:21Speaker 10: should be you should both come to agreement, and you're
- 7:24Speaker 10: my personal belief fifty fifty.
- 7:26Speaker 2: But now wait, so when you say, because your sister's
- 7:28Speaker 2: the girl between the two of you, she can have
- 7:30Speaker 2: the jewelry, then what is the equivalent to you? Do
- 7:32Speaker 2: you get like the lifetime tickets to loft this or
- 7:34Speaker 2: something I.
- 7:36Speaker 10: Alwish, alwish, No, No, it's just it's just the way
- 7:40Speaker 10: I feel. You know, my mom, my mom. Knowing my mom,
- 7:44Speaker 10: she would have wanted my sister to take the jewelry
- 7:47Speaker 10: and I just personally believe because my sister's the lady
- 7:51Speaker 10: or the female, she should get the jewelry. There's no
- 7:53Speaker 10: there's no need for me to keep it. I know
- 7:56Speaker 10: it's in good hands with my sister.
- 7:57Speaker 4: Okay.
- 7:58Speaker 2: I think that's the reason why you also about it,
- 8:00Speaker 2: because you know it's in good hands and she's not
- 8:02Speaker 2: going to offer the cash crusaders for sure.
- 8:05Speaker 10: And also the relationship that my sister and my sister
- 8:08Speaker 10: and I have is very very close.
- 8:10Speaker 4: So so you.
- 8:11Speaker 2: Know that one day when I don't know, do you.
- 8:12Speaker 10: Have daughters, I have a daughter. Yeah, she currently works
- 8:17Speaker 10: in the UK.
- 8:17Speaker 2: You see one day when maybe she's getting married or
- 8:20Speaker 2: the's something special happening, you know that her aunt and
- 8:22Speaker 2: your sister's going to say, my mom left me this
- 8:25Speaker 2: necklace and I want you to have it on this day.
- 8:27Speaker 4: That's the relationship you guys.
- 8:28Speaker 10: Have, for sure, and that's the possibility.
- 8:32Speaker 3: Until she doesn't. Yeah, stop it.
- 8:35Speaker 4: Guys like you get along and you could.
- 8:37Speaker 3: Have sold today.
- 8:42Speaker 10: What do you you know this this day and age?
- 8:44Speaker 8: What do you get for you jewelry in this Now?
- 8:47Speaker 4: I'm on your side.
- 8:48Speaker 2: I'm on your side, I think for the first time
- 8:50Speaker 2: in a very long time, Frank, and I agree that
- 8:54Speaker 2: I think it should be split. You know, I can
- 8:56Speaker 2: tell you why already. Already your kids are going to
- 9:01Speaker 2: have fall out over nothing anyway, especially after you pass away,
- 9:04Speaker 2: because the emotions are just.
- 9:05Speaker 4: Like so you know they're there and the grief and
- 9:08Speaker 4: all of that.
- 9:08Speaker 2: Do not add on to that by saying that one
- 9:11Speaker 2: gets system, that one gets system, that this one is
- 9:14Speaker 2: getting ten percent, that one is getting forty percent, because
- 9:17Speaker 2: you are literally going to make your kids not get
- 9:20Speaker 2: along for the rest of their lives. And then then
- 9:23Speaker 2: because an inheritance is also you inherit a good name, right,
- 9:26Speaker 2: you inherit a good family inherit like you know, you
- 9:29Speaker 2: inherit a big unit of a family. And if in
- 9:33Speaker 2: your inheritance you split that up, then did you leave
- 9:36Speaker 2: them in inheritance?
- 9:37Speaker 1: Well that's exactly what I was going to say. You
- 9:38Speaker 1: don't want your party and give to be a family fuse. Yes, right,
- 9:42Speaker 1: And that's that's how I look at it. And if
- 9:44Speaker 1: you are going to leave a family feud, you must
- 9:46Speaker 1: leave it now. Yeah, you must tell everyone now this
- 9:48Speaker 1: is what it is, so that you are present.
- 9:51Speaker 3: That's not boxing now exactly.
- 9:53Speaker 7: I don't think siblings actually fight for too long.
- 9:56Speaker 10: It's the outlaws that caused the problems.
- 9:59Speaker 11: I am the only girl of four children, and our
- 10:04Speaker 11: parents have evenly split for the most part. I mean,
- 10:08Speaker 11: I get all of my mom's things as the only girl,
- 10:10Speaker 11: and my brothers are going to split my father's things.
- 10:12Speaker 12: So my father had two sons from his previous marriage
- 10:15Speaker 12: and then me and my sister from my mom. My
- 10:18Speaker 12: brothers took everything and didn't share with me and my sister.
- 10:21Speaker 12: My father wanted to updt his world, but at that
- 10:24Speaker 12: time he actually passed away.
- 10:26Speaker 4: Oh that's tricky, Tomelo. You and Alberton, good morning.
- 10:31Speaker 13: Good morning, and I'm good in you.
- 10:36Speaker 4: We're good you you. You have a different take to this.
- 10:39Speaker 14: I have a very controversial take.
- 10:42Speaker 13: I say that inheritance not even be a thing. When
- 10:45Speaker 13: you die, the statements just take over.
- 10:48Speaker 4: No, not those guys.
- 10:51Speaker 13: Guys.
- 10:52Speaker 8: No, you cannot get up on the stage. We cannot.
- 10:55Speaker 2: I haven't given up. No, I haven't given up. I
- 10:58Speaker 2: haven't given up a name. But I'm just think they're
- 11:00Speaker 2: not taking more.
- 11:01Speaker 4: From me than they than they already are. That's all
- 11:03Speaker 4: I'm saying to you. Go with out here. Forty five percent.
- 11:06Speaker 8: No, no, no, no, no, it's meant for himself.
- 11:10Speaker 13: You know, your kids will have to work for themselves
- 11:12Speaker 13: because the settlements.
- 11:13Speaker 14: That inheritance, the a is a problem, the court are
- 11:18Speaker 14: sort of a burden.
- 11:19Speaker 13: Siblings are fighting, girlfriends and mols are fighting.
- 11:22Speaker 14: You know, juste might just work for themselves.
- 11:25Speaker 1: Why don't you just spend it, then, spend all your
- 11:28Speaker 1: money before you pass away.
- 11:30Speaker 13: Yeah, just just.
- 11:30Speaker 14: Spend it or give it to the stage.
- 11:32Speaker 4: No, I'm currently spending mine. I'm currently making sure that
- 11:37Speaker 4: I leave this.
- 11:38Speaker 2: Life on a negative banks The bank's gonna have to
- 11:41Speaker 2: come find my family for my overdraft. That's how I'm planning.
- 11:45Speaker 4: Look, I hear what you're saying.
- 11:47Speaker 2: But in the instance where there is a family home
- 11:51Speaker 2: or a family farm, right, Oh, yeah, you can't just
- 11:54Speaker 2: give that to the stage, because where do you guys
- 11:56Speaker 2: go as a family.
- 11:57Speaker 4: Where do you guys go you.
- 11:58Speaker 2: Know or maybe like I know I speak, you know,
- 12:02Speaker 2: in the Eastern Cape with our home states. That's where
- 12:04Speaker 2: we bury our you know, our loved ones, right because
- 12:07Speaker 2: you buried in the same place.
- 12:09Speaker 4: Now, now you're saying that I must just give to
- 12:12Speaker 4: the state.
- 12:13Speaker 14: Yeah, let's just will just see you what's best for
- 12:15Speaker 14: for that particular family. Because poem is when we now
- 12:18Speaker 14: share the inheritance, and then you get and I get
- 12:22Speaker 14: they then there's family feud.
- 12:24Speaker 13: We don't need all of that.
- 12:25Speaker 6: You know.
- 12:26Speaker 13: We don't need you running to court with with with
- 12:29Speaker 13: with the siblings fighting over what they left us and
- 12:32Speaker 13: why they didn't leave us. We don't need all of that. Yeah,
- 12:35Speaker 13: it's girlfriends and wives doing each other.
- 12:37Speaker 14: Are the sisters to be doing each other over the sea?
- 12:40Speaker 13: List of things, like, guys, let's just live in peace.
- 12:44Speaker 13: The fighting? This person is gone.
- 12:46Speaker 4: Why is your take like this? What happened?
- 12:50Speaker 14: No, I'm in the little space right and I do
- 12:52Speaker 14: a lot of these men and I'm like, ah, where
- 12:54Speaker 14: are you guys fighting?
- 12:56Speaker 4: You guys are game.
- 12:57Speaker 1: You have to sit and listen to someone talk about
- 12:59Speaker 1: the king size baby, you know, and you're like, why
- 13:01Speaker 1: are you fighting? O?
- 13:02Speaker 3: This is a baby.
- 13:03Speaker 13: Why are you and the kids do the Yeah? Why
- 13:07Speaker 13: is a girlfriend taking the cards? I mean? How dare you?
- 13:11Speaker 11: Like?
- 13:11Speaker 13: How dare you?
- 13:12Speaker 3: Who are you?
- 13:13Speaker 4: I want to say?
- 13:14Speaker 2: I want to say though that when when someone gets
- 13:18Speaker 2: forty percent and someone gets ten percent, because we now
- 13:23Speaker 2: saying yeah, but that's going to cause feard feud. The
- 13:26Speaker 2: fact that somebody was getting ten and someone's getting forty
- 13:28Speaker 2: means that there was already some sort of a different
- 13:32Speaker 2: behavior from the kids towards the person who's leaving the inheritance,
- 13:36Speaker 2: So which means there was already a feud.
- 13:38Speaker 10: Yeah.
- 13:39Speaker 1: Look, I mean if that's happening, then the parents is
- 13:41Speaker 1: obviously deciding, like your mom is deciding that your brother
- 13:44Speaker 1: maybe is better at looking after this thing.
- 13:46Speaker 2: You are.
- 13:47Speaker 3: But I mean that's not helpful, that's not helpful.
- 13:50Speaker 2: You're not there, you go now, No, but why are
- 13:52Speaker 2: you irresponsible? Why are you the one the family contrasts
- 13:54Speaker 2: with anything?
- 13:55Speaker 3: Yeah, I just don't. I don't know about that.
- 13:58Speaker 1: I think this causes life feud if you don't just
- 14:01Speaker 1: say split Nikki.
- 14:05Speaker 8: How's it going, guys?
- 14:06Speaker 2: Good morning Nikki from Krugustov's going there?
- 14:09Speaker 8: Good good, Thank you very much.
- 14:11Speaker 4: Okay, talk to us.
- 14:13Speaker 8: Yeah, so my mom mentioned our inheritance and then took
- 14:18Speaker 8: it back a few years ago. Settle some deck. Yeah,
- 14:24Speaker 8: come complete you know, shockers. She said, you guys are
- 14:29Speaker 8: never going to wear it anyway. She's going to tell
- 14:32Speaker 8: it the jury.
- 14:34Speaker 4: Okay, but you usual was selling it.
- 14:37Speaker 8: Yeah, but like sort of on the day that she
- 14:40Speaker 8: had arranged the meeting with the seller for.
- 14:44Speaker 4: The you know, so, Nikki, I'm going to allow.
- 14:48Speaker 2: I'm going to allow because up until the you know,
- 14:51Speaker 2: up until she dies, right, it's still hers.
- 14:54Speaker 8: And look, I agree, I was never banking on it.
- 15:00Speaker 8: If I'm being leary on it, you know, it's just
- 15:03Speaker 8: for me. It's more like here it is. But I'm
- 15:06Speaker 8: taking it back. I'm like, you should have just not
- 15:09Speaker 8: given it.
- 15:12Speaker 3: Ask this though. Was there any inherited pieces of jewelry
- 15:15Speaker 3: in that stash?
- 15:18Speaker 10: Yeah?
- 15:18Speaker 3: So does that?
- 15:19Speaker 8: So we my sisters and I each had a ring
- 15:22Speaker 8: with a gold ring with diamond or two in it.
- 15:25Speaker 8: So that was pretty much slip equally with it's of
- 15:28Speaker 8: the same value. I've got an idea. But yeah, So
- 15:32Speaker 8: she just took it all back and was like, sorry.
- 15:35Speaker 4: Nikki, the jewey that you did get, do you still
- 15:39Speaker 4: have it?
- 15:40Speaker 8: There's nothing, It all went everything, Alice. Everything.
- 15:46Speaker 3: What I'm asking NICKI is, did is that some of
- 15:50Speaker 3: that stuff from your grandmother? M No, okay, but it
- 15:55Speaker 3: could have.
- 15:56Speaker 7: Yeah.
- 15:56Speaker 8: Yeah, so I think there was one that was like
- 15:58Speaker 8: her twenty first being given to our appearance or something.
- 16:02Speaker 3: Okay, But it's all hers. It's not it's not grandmother's ring,
- 16:06Speaker 3: and now she sold it.
- 16:08Speaker 2: Oh, the one that was supposed to pass through the thing. No, guys,
- 16:10Speaker 2: there's always one hygena, there's one hyena generation.
- 16:13Speaker 4: It's going to be passed down to them, and they're.
- 16:15Speaker 3: Like one piece of the DNA to year and no further.
- 16:20Speaker 2: Its back to making your morning in La and the
- 16:23Speaker 2: club I Love on nine four seven