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Season 2 - Episode 119 - Do you think you sacrificing yourself? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, so I want to ask you a question.
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  How much do you think you're sacrificing yourself every day
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  for your job? Your family, your, you know,
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  your whatever it might be in your world?
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  How much do you think you're sacrificing yourself and is that
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  a bad thing? The question came up with a
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  client recently about how her belief is that she's constantly
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  sacrificing herself for her. Husband and her children and her
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  boss and she never ever takes care of herself and my
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  perspective was to ask her. The question, what's the reason
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  that you do that? What's the reason that you
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  believe you're sacrificing yourself, not just the fact that
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  she is doing it. But what's the reason she
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  believes? She is doing that because
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  there's a big difference. Is she actually doing that?
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  Or does she just believe she's doing that?
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  And how are you? You know, when you're
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  sacrificing yourself how do you know when you're not sacrificing
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  yourself? Well, it all comes back to our
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  guiding principles of emotions, right?
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  What our emotions are teaching us information.
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  They are giving us is to help us guide us and to move us closer,
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  or further away from the actions we're doing in order to get the
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  outcomes that we eventually want be and most of the time.
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  So to ask you the question, do you think you're sacrificing
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  yourself and if so what does that mean?
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  Is that something that makes you happy?
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  Because again it's all about perspective on it.
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  So if I sacrifice some of my personal time to spend with my
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  child, is that something that I have to feel resentful about?
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  Well only, if I feel like I'm sacrificing it and it's causing
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  me pain, then I have to go to a place of saying, well, you know
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  what? I don't feel good about this.
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  But if I do it and I say, I sacrifice this time with Him but
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  I absolutely love and enjoy it and I'm grateful for the fact
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  that I get to do that because I know I won't have him forever.
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  He's 13 and I know he's going to eventually have a girlfriend and
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  a wife, and a life and move on. So I don't look at the time that
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  I spend with him. Now, as something that's taking
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  away from me and what I'm doing. Because I appreciate the fact
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  that I have this guide Force inside of me that says, I can
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  spend time doing things, physically and gain gratitude
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  for it emotionally as to be outcomes.
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  I don't look at working with my clients, the number of hours
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  that I work with my clients. It's a sacrifice from my
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  personal time or my family. I look at it like it's a
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  blessing that one I get to help people.
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  And to that I have the ability to see See it as a gift.
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  And ingratitude, route back to the question and so you can
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  understand where I'm coming from.
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  If you feel like something is constant sacrifice, then you
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  feel like you're being ripped off.
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  If you feel like you're being ripped off, then you can never
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  get past the fact that you're starting out from a depleted
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  level. And if you're starting off
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  something in depletion, it just feels like crap.
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  Every time you start that down that road.
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  So if you walk into work everyday and you are saying to
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  yourself, you know, I feel like I sacrifice myself coming here
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  every day, and I feel like this and I feel like that even though
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  they're paying you right there, they've agreed to give you money
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  and your Trading. Time for money.
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  So you entered into this agreement, whatever money you're
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  getting, whether it's a salary or hourly, you have agreed to
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  trade time for money. So are you really sacrificing
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  yourself because you agreed to it?
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  And it's a great simple thing to just start there because that's
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  where the beginning of it all started, they offered you
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  something. You accepted it and you're doing
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  it. Point one point two is you're
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  making an emotional connection and attachment to it.
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  If you're being in the state of I'm sacrificing myself for this
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  job, I hate this job. I feel like I come here every
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  day and a little piece of me dies, I understand that the job
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  might suck and it might not be what they told you but you still
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  have the ability to change that. Nobody else can change it for
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  you. You can decide.
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  I want to go somewhere else. I want to do something else and
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  maybe, Maybe that's the lesson in this.
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  Maybe that's what you're supposed to be doing.
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  Maybe you're supposed to be figuring out something else for
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  yourself. And the pain is the here to
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  teach you something. And it's not just about you
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  sacrificing yourself. It's about you learning that
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  you've got to go beyond it but nobody can answer those
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  questions. But you the point of this
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  conversation is if you believe that you're sacrificing
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  yourself, any everyday. Are there moments where we all
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  have to like give a little bit of ourselves and we Say, oh, you
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  know, that sure those happen. But if your predominant state is
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  that of sacrificing yourself, it's not about the thing or the
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  person or anything else, it's about you and your perspective,
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  and you taking responsibility and changing your own mindset
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  and your own situation because nobody can else can do either
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  for you. Nobody else can make you get a
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  different job. Nobody else can change your
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  mind. It's all an internal job and if
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  you're starting from sacrifice, you're already starting in a
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  place of depletion. So I'm going to challenge you to
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  go and look and say, you know, my really sacrificing myself
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  every day or is this just an agreement.
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  I've entered into and I've become complacent about it now.
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  I'm angry about it and now I'm just I got to get out of it.
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  That might be more accurate than you're sacrificing yourself
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  every day and when you get clear on it, then you can change it.
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  Otherwise, you'll just be angry and you'll do nothing.
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  So hopefully you guys will be able to take some wisdom from
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  this and go out and shift, any situations that are not working
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  for you, any longer and move forward.
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  I hope you guys have a very blessed day and I will see you
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  tomorrow.