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Episode #277: Another Phase of Transformation · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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  Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, Welcome to Tea Time with Amy and Bevre.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we are.
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  Speaker 1: Back episode number two.
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  Speaker 3: So you mentioned perspectives last time and how we look
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  Speaker 3: at things and you know, kind of in that route
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  Speaker 3: in our last video and something that I don't know
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  Speaker 3: if I've mentioned this before, but something that's changed for me.
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  Speaker 3: And of course my office is closing August thirty first,
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  Speaker 3: but something has changed for me as like.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going to work anymore. I'm going to see
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  Speaker 2: my friends. And so before I.
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  Speaker 3: Would always say I'm going to work. Well, when you
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  Speaker 3: say that, how does that feel.
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  Speaker 1: For me?
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  Speaker 2: I recognize that I was.
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  Speaker 3: It worked to me felt like I'm going to work,
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  Speaker 3: and it's like, how would my client feel, Oh, I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to work. Kyle Seas was talking about his daughter Vivi,
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  Speaker 3: and he was talking about like what if we talked
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  Speaker 3: about our grandkids or our kids, like like like it
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  Speaker 3: was our job. Oh, I'm gonna go, I'm going to work,
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna go see I gotta go take care of
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  Speaker 3: some things like how would that feel to together person,
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  Speaker 3: even to my clients? And it's recognizing that that's not
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  Speaker 3: even true. It's it was a perspective thing. Change your perspective.
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  Speaker 3: How do you shift it? Well, you're gonna that's an
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  Speaker 3: inside job. We can give you guys all kinds of pointers,
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  Speaker 3: but really a lot of this stuff. It was a
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  Speaker 3: perspective shift for me just to be like, I'm going
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  Speaker 3: to see my friends, because every single person that comes
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  Speaker 3: into my office door, we have great conversations or we
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  Speaker 3: have a great interaction or maybe something you know, there's
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  Speaker 3: always there's always an ebb and flow.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe that the person's extra quiet because.
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  Speaker 3: I needed that quiet because I because I'm doing something
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  Speaker 3: and it puts me more into a meditative space when
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  Speaker 3: it's silent, but also being open like that. And then
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  Speaker 3: the more that I'm just being myself, the more information
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  Speaker 3: is flowing in to do different things. We Like I said,
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  Speaker 3: I'm closing my doors on August thirty first, and.
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  Speaker 2: I've got these different things that are coming through.
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  Speaker 3: Like I saw a person just recently and and I
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  Speaker 3: was guided to do different things to this person.
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  Speaker 2: I was not trained and massage like all these things.
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  Speaker 3: And she's like, she says, I really see you being
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  Speaker 3: able to teach others how to teach these things because
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  Speaker 3: you've done things that no one else has done. For
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  Speaker 3: that person, you know, just different ways of working things.
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  Speaker 3: And it's and it's like I told her, the more
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  Speaker 3: that we tune into each other, we're going to present
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  Speaker 3: things differently. Anyways, things are going to be different because
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  Speaker 3: it's what that person needs or what we need in
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  Speaker 3: that moment, because we're.
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  Speaker 2: There for that ebb and flow.
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  Speaker 3: There's there's that just the balance and harmony that flows
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  Speaker 3: together the whole time. One more we're or can flow
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  Speaker 3: the whole time over together. Even if you're angry, there's
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  Speaker 3: still something that's transpiring from the situation. But really noticing
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  Speaker 3: our perspectives on things and then asking ourselves if we
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  Speaker 3: have a feeling that's bad about something, asking within ourselves,
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  Speaker 3: how can we perceive this differently.
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  Speaker 2: That would make me feel good about doing it?
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  Speaker 3: As long as this, you know, it's intemporal, and that's
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  Speaker 3: something that's warking other people.
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  Speaker 1: Yep, I've been I've been having recently. I go through
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  Speaker 1: these phases. And I came through the phase again of
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  Speaker 1: questioning where I'm at with my life, where I'm working,
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  Speaker 1: Why am why am I not more fully into my
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  Speaker 1: coaching like all the things I've just been sitting and
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  Speaker 1: swirling in that and the frustration and the irritation not
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  Speaker 1: with life, but with myself has come up. And so
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  Speaker 1: I'm in a Mastermind group and so I asked my
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  Speaker 1: mentor coach. You know, I'm not asked her, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: telling her this is the way I'm feeling. And and
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  Speaker 1: she's like, well, I said, And don't get me wrong,
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  Speaker 1: I really enjoyed my job. I did. I like it.
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  Speaker 1: It's like interesting, it's so much variety. There's so many people,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I get to be around that I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: have been around if I would have not taken this job.
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  Speaker 1: And and so, and then there's some good things that
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  Speaker 1: are coming up with the organization that I work for
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  Speaker 1: that's going to be beneficial for our community. And that's
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  Speaker 1: She's like, okay, So you're meeting a lot of people, right,
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  Speaker 1: And I said yeah. She's like, okay, So give yourself
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  Speaker 1: a deadline maybe next July. Let's say July twenty twenty six.
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  Speaker 1: And in the meantime, just enjoy the journey and meet
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  Speaker 1: the people and have the conversations, because when that day
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  Speaker 1: comes that you're not there, you have all these people
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  Speaker 1: that know you, and you have all these people you
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  Speaker 1: have contacts with and and you're you're creating these these
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  Speaker 1: other experiences through where you work, and so they're going
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  Speaker 1: to remember you and if and it's okay. She she's like,
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  Speaker 1: it's just it's where you're at for now, and utilize
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  Speaker 1: the information you're gaining to help you when you decide
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  Speaker 1: to make do something different. And I'm like, thank you.
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  Speaker 1: I just needed that. It was just it was like
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  Speaker 1: a maybe a five minute conversation, and all I needed
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  Speaker 1: was just somebody to flip a switch in my brain
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  Speaker 1: to go, look what you're gaining from this? And so
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  Speaker 1: I had to change my perspective with what I had
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  Speaker 1: been swirling in. And this is the thing I coach
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  Speaker 1: people on this stuff, Like I give people different perspectives
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  Speaker 1: about their life circumstances and all that. But what happens
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  Speaker 1: with us is we get stuck in our own mind
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  Speaker 1: and emotions and we say, and it's not when I'm
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  Speaker 1: in the heavy emotions of what we would call negative emotions,
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  Speaker 1: I'd call that like mud mucking guck. I didn't feel
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  Speaker 1: like it was in that. I was just swirling in
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  Speaker 1: a space where it was uncomfortable. I couldn't see, I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't get myself to see differently, and I just needed
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  Speaker 1: somebody outside of myself, outside of my story to look
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  Speaker 1: in and go, well, what if you did this? And
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  Speaker 1: I went, oh, yeah, that's great.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks.
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  Speaker 1: Right, It's like sometimes we need that. So we need
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  Speaker 1: that person who's standing over here with no attachments to
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  Speaker 1: listen and flip the switch for you. And that's life experiences.
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  Speaker 1: We can do that with any of our life experiences
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  Speaker 1: in the past or in the present. Shift the way
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  Speaker 1: we are perceiving things. It changes like the entire experience totally.
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  Speaker 3: And the thing is if we can't get there because sometimes,
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  Speaker 3: like you were just saying, sometimes we can't get there
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  Speaker 3: because we are in our own stuff. And if we
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  Speaker 3: have people that we can talk to that are a
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  Speaker 3: match for us with these conversations and then can help elevate,
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  Speaker 3: they're going to have a different perspective and they are
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  Speaker 3: going to give me something else.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 3: When you're telling me this story, what I see is
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  Speaker 3: like you're and I and I would say you're a butterfly.
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  Speaker 3: But maybe maybe it's maybe it's like a phoenix, because
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  Speaker 3: that goes over and over and over again, right, it
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  Speaker 3: creates and it dies, that creates, it dies. But I
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  Speaker 3: saw you as like this this. You know, you're the
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  Speaker 3: worm in the cocoon, but you're at a point now,
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  Speaker 3: this new version, this new butterflies and.
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  Speaker 2: To come out.
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  Speaker 3: You've came through the cocoon phase many times, but you're
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  Speaker 3: getting ready to come through another phase of it and
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  Speaker 3: you're like ready to stretch out go. So it's like
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  Speaker 3: it's gonna happen. Yeah, and I can see you're you're
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  Speaker 3: are right now. It's so funny with my mind seeing
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  Speaker 3: but I see like that it's opening and I can
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  Speaker 3: see the butterfly it's coming out. The wings are all
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  Speaker 3: wet and stuff still, but you're like, you're it's there's
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  Speaker 3: a there's an opening. There's already the opening is already
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  Speaker 3: there and you're about to walk through it. So that's
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  Speaker 3: how things are changing so much for you. Yeah, which
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  Speaker 3: is pricking awesome, But that's how it feels when you're
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  Speaker 3: getting ready to go through another change. And that's the
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  Speaker 3: thing to recognize, like because I because I have to
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  Speaker 3: remind myself this bed, you're feeling this way again because
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  Speaker 3: you're getting ready.
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  Speaker 2: To go through another phase.
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  Speaker 3: You're getting ready to spend some more stuff or you're
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  Speaker 3: gonna totally transition the way you see things. And it
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  Speaker 3: can be as simple as recognizing that no one really
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  Speaker 3: can ever abandon you. You know, it could be as
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  Speaker 3: simple as I don't have to control things anymore. The
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  Speaker 3: only thing I need to control is make sure I
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  Speaker 3: don't pop that person in the head of there.
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  Speaker 2: When I'm dancing around in the grocery store.
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  Speaker 1: And they're playing our jams, now, I will say they father.
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  Speaker 3: Actually, and I told the story of recently, I was like,
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  Speaker 3: you guys, you guys are really playing much better music now.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't feel like it's before.
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  Speaker 3: I want to get in the store and get the
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  Speaker 3: hell out because the frequency just felt it was rating
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  Speaker 3: on me.
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  Speaker 2: And it's like they shifted it.
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  Speaker 3: And it's like they're like, yeah, ever since we did
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  Speaker 3: the remodel, they changed the music.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, well, this is great.
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  Speaker 1: I know. I'm mean, you know what, happy people spend
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  Speaker 1: more money.
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  Speaker 3: They know that well see themselves. Was rushing me out
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  Speaker 3: the door, so yes, I hear you.
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  Speaker 1: This is why you have no offense to anybody who
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  Speaker 1: is not an alcohol or doesn't enjoy alcohol. Alcoholic but
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't enjoy alcohol. But when you're having auctions and
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  Speaker 1: things like that, happy people spend more money. And that's
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  Speaker 1: a benefit of having alcohol, I'm just saying, and happy
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  Speaker 1: without the alcohol too. Just but people who are inebriated,
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  Speaker 1: they if they're having a good time, I tell you.
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  Speaker 3: What, they're a little more free with the with the
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  Speaker 3: wallet another thing too.
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  Speaker 1: But I was as you were saying that, I was
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  Speaker 1: actually sitting in my chair yesterday and I was feeling
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  Speaker 1: and seeing, like thinking about a butterfly and what they
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  Speaker 1: go through and and the cocoon. And what it came
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  Speaker 1: down to is as I was sitting there was just
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  Speaker 1: just having that internal awareness and dialogue and all the things.
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  Speaker 1: Is how am I feeling in my confidence? So when
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  Speaker 1: we're when we're having these opportunities to blossom and a
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  Speaker 1: door opens, how confident do I feel to step through
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  Speaker 1: that door? How confident am I finally feeling to be Okay,
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  Speaker 1: the cocoon is open? Am I gonna have trust and
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  Speaker 1: faith that my wings are going to carry me?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 1: So I And so it's it's interesting but not interesting
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  Speaker 1: that that you wouldn't say that, because I was just
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  Speaker 1: thinking that yesterday. And uh, And I'm like, you know
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  Speaker 1: what you have? You have so much? I have so
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  Speaker 1: much in me so much information and knowledge, and I
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  Speaker 1: will say wisdom in me that can help so many people,
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  Speaker 1: and it's uh, it's a it would be selfish. And
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  Speaker 1: I think we've had this conversation before, like a long
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  Speaker 1: time ago. It would be selfish of me to keep
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  Speaker 1: that to myself and not share it, not share the
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  Speaker 1: information knowledge wisdom that I have within myself with other
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  Speaker 1: people who are seeking the information to help themselves heal
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  Speaker 1: and grow and expand and build their confidence and release
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  Speaker 1: the shame and guilt and all the things. It's like,
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  Speaker 1: that would be very selfish. And so it's kind of
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  Speaker 1: my it's like my right, my responsibility. I'm not going
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  Speaker 1: to say it's an obligation. I don't feel like it's
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  Speaker 1: an obligation, but it's it feels like almost like a
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  Speaker 1: responsibility that I have all this stuff in, all this
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  Speaker 1: information inside of me, that it is my responsibility to
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  Speaker 1: now share it. And they say that the place with
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  Speaker 1: the most wisdom, information and knowledge is a cemetery. It's
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  Speaker 1: all the stuff people have stored within themselves and never
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  Speaker 1: shared it. That's like when you think about that, do
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  Speaker 1: I want to go to my grave and never help others?
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  Speaker 1: Like and I don't get me wrong. I help others
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  Speaker 1: on a regular basis. They come to me. They know
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  Speaker 1: what I do, and they'll just come and pose a
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  Speaker 1: question to me or just talk to me in confidence.
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  Speaker 1: They're like, I need to share something, but I I
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  Speaker 1: don't know who to talk to. And I had a
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  Speaker 1: lady just about a week and a half go She goes,
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  Speaker 1: I feel safe with you, and I feel like you're
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  Speaker 1: not going to say anything, and so can I share
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  Speaker 1: something with you that I haven't told anybody yet? I
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  Speaker 1: was like, uh, sure, shut the door, this was at work, Sure,
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  Speaker 1: shut the door, sit down and I'll listen. I said,
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  Speaker 1: do you want feedback or do you just want me
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  Speaker 1: to listen? She goes, I just need to share this
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  Speaker 1: with somebody because I haven't told anybody yet. No, that's
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  Speaker 1: so good, A MEA, because I don't think I ever
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  Speaker 1: and we'll go back to that part of it, but
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  Speaker 1: it's I don't think i've ever.
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  Speaker 3: I don't I've never asked the person do you want
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  Speaker 3: me to just listen? Or do you want me to
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  Speaker 3: share feedback? And that right there is huge for anybody
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  Speaker 3: talking to somebody else instead of assuming that you think
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  Speaker 3: that you know what they need. And so it's asking
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  Speaker 3: because I have one person that she'll just wait me
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  Speaker 3: tell me, bev. I don't need anybody to fix anything.
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  Speaker 3: I just need I just need to be heard, and
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  Speaker 3: I go okay, And so that's how she'll do it.
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  Speaker 3: But you just presented another way that I can present
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  Speaker 3: it to her so that it feels more at ease
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  Speaker 3: and comfortable actually for both for both parties. Yeah, and really,
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  Speaker 3: when you don't have to do if you just have
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  Speaker 3: to listen.
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  Speaker 2: That's easy. That's so easy. Just just just sit there
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  Speaker 2: and listen.
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  Speaker 3: You don't have to have an opinion, you don't have
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  Speaker 3: to figure out how to fix it. You don't have
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  Speaker 3: to figure out how to tune in so that information
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  Speaker 3: can flow through you. You just sit with it and then
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  Speaker 3: let whatever comes in. And when you're sitting like that
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  Speaker 3: and that neutral space, if any advice needs to come
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  Speaker 3: through that that person's needs, it's going to come through
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  Speaker 3: you anyways.
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  Speaker 2: So that's awesome. So thank you for the rest of
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  Speaker 2: the story.
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  Speaker 1: And she realized she wanted a safe space to be
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  Speaker 1: able to do that, just to get it off of her,
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  Speaker 1: so it wasn't the secret she was hanging on to
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  Speaker 1: and it has to do with the transformation in her
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  Speaker 1: own life, and she just wasn't ready to tell certain
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  Speaker 1: people yet, and but she needed to tell somebody. I
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  Speaker 1: told her, I said, you know what, that makes me
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  Speaker 1: feel very I'm very honored that you even came to me.
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  Speaker 1: That means a lot. So yeah, so people consense that
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  Speaker 1: you know that you create, you can create a safe
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  Speaker 1: space for them, and they have developed that trust within you,
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  Speaker 1: and so it's like, be honored, be honored that they
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  Speaker 1: do they feel that way about you, And this isn't
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  Speaker 1: something I would even have thought would have thought that
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  Speaker 1: way about me. So you never know, just saying you
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  Speaker 1: never knew I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Going before about you? Not sure in your stories.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like you help people just by showing up
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  Speaker 3: and being yourself because just by you just being yourself
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  Speaker 3: and expressing that story, I gained information, so so did somebody.
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  Speaker 2: Else watching this.
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  Speaker 3: So to me, it's like all you have to do
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  Speaker 3: is show up and be yourself, live the path that
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  Speaker 3: you're learning.
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  Speaker 2: Like that's that's it, You're doing it already. Yeah yeah, man,
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  Speaker 2: oh man, oh man, you're so good.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I do my best. It needs a moment, friends,
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  Speaker 1: you never know what you're gonna say that's going to
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  Speaker 1: spark somebody else with an idea or or a different
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  Speaker 1: perspective or whatever it might be. You might just brighten
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  Speaker 1: their day in ways that you had no idea it
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  Speaker 1: would happen. So just go out and the people that
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  Speaker 1: are going to connect with you are your people. Don't
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: try to appease everybody because it doesn't work. So with that,
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  Speaker 1: Any final words.
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  Speaker 3: We're all birthing into something that's new, and it's going
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  Speaker 3: to feel unfamiliar, and I feel like a lot of
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  Speaker 3: times we're trying to connect with our old patterns that
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  Speaker 3: are familiar to those feelings. But just be okay and
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  Speaker 3: know that we're just shifting through a lot of stuff
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  Speaker 3: right now.
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  Speaker 2: We're all butterflies, right We're all.
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  Speaker 3: These yeah, these cocoons, and we're all birthing out into
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  Speaker 3: something new. It's not going to be the last time,
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  Speaker 3: and it certainly isn't the first time.
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  Speaker 2: That's what. We're all here for each other.
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  Speaker 1: So absolutely, and that is true. We're not here to
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  Speaker 1: be to go through it alone. We're here for each other.
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  Speaker 1: So all right, my friends, thanks for hanging out with us,
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  Speaker 1: teach time with Amy and Bev, and we'll see you
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  Speaker 1: next time.