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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just- Purifying Character: A Lifelong Endeavor 5.22.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  So these are the words on 2/28, Mahina adhana de bardi minksata
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  mitzvot mashana rohim shimran Adam nursholi Ibrahim.
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  Up until this point, we've discussed just a few of them as
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  what honesty, who Hashem, mikidoshi Hashem, etcetera,
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  etcetera are of. These are the ones that people
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  usually struggle with. Lash Mara fine revenge was one
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  of them, hating another person was one of them.
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  These are the ones that have challenges.
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  O male and the model the whole shot Alavina.
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  From these you can learn the concept that applies to any
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  topic. There's no topic that doesn't
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  have many details. There's no interesting as saying
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  I'm good in that area. Case closed.
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  I haven't handled. I'm good at character, I'm good
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  at humility, I'm good at generosity, I'm good at kind
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  words. We're all good at all these
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  things, and we're also all sometimes struggle with these
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  things. The job is to realize that there
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  are layers to work at. Ma'am Khamarim or Mahane Kelly.
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  Some topics are serious, and some topics are not such a big
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  deal. Or me, Should I say liot not
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  key. A person really wants to reach
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  this level level. In Chapter 11 of this book, the
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  level of being a person is not key, which means I'm really
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  good. I'm working on myself to the
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  point that I'm I don't have any of the elements of these
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  troubling topics. I'm not just a good Jew.
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  I'm really worked these out. I removed hate from my system
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  and I removed revenge from my system.
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  I really removed my system desecrating Shabbat.
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  I got out of my system Salikshi and Naqi mukulam With Taun
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  Mukulam. He has to really work on himself
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  to become pure and to reach the status of Naqi.
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  It sounds like it works. Clean really is not as means
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  person who purifies himself to work.
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  Sounds like you never really. You always have to consider
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  yourself not there. You always have to work exactly
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  what? Well, I don't think, I think
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  there's like a handful of people that actually all.
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  True, because to be not key, it means you've completely
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  distanced yourself. You don't have anything to do
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  with that topic, you know? No struggle at all.
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  Who doesn't ever struggle with hating, with revenge, with
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  jealousy, with not sure. We didn't ever struggle with
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  Shabbat, with anger. These are all part of our
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  system. We worked them through.
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  Now what happens like this? We worked them through.
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  We, number one, recognize this idea that it's a very long
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  topic. We recognize the idea that it's
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  a long lifetime of work to work at this topic.
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  And then step by step, we worker and we don't allow ourselves to
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  say, OK, look, I was calm there. I don't get angry.
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  Never allow yourself to believe you don't get angry because then
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  it comes and you're like, hey, this is not me.
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  It's what you're angry. All right?
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  Instead, you have to work on yourself to a point.
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  And you are dressed if I get exists and step by step, you
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  remove that trigger and the other trigger.
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  And he said, that's not going to get me.
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  And I know it's coming from the left and that's not going to put
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  me down. And you work on yourself and
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  over time you become a more calm, peaceful person who
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  doesn't have that much anger in his system.
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  Which is the best? That's not key.
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  You wanted us on Sometimes they used to be feel that if they're
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  too calm means that you don't. Care.
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  Yeah, people have to say sometimes.
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  You know. Yeah, there are certain areas.
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  If you calm about things that are wrong, that means you don't
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  care. It's.
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  True. Oh, you know.
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  People overly passive sometimes to be taken advantage of in
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  general. There are times obviously a
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  person has to get upset, has to protest, has to say his opinion,
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  but in in overall, in general, being calm and working at that
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  is obviously a better trait than the opposite.
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  Our teeth are like the flocks of what do they mean like the
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  flocks of these animals and saying about the Jewish people
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  they were modest. What is a comment to this topic?
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  We're modest and we're a pure people, people and we're all
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  just fall for temptation. I know where that comes in,
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  where we're not. She's like, there was a time
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  that we were so good that we never made the smallest mistake,
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  like putting the role to feline on first small mistake.
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  No one could even make that mistake.
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  She had the people at that time made so small mistakes like
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  that, they wouldn't have given such high praise and they
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  wouldn't have succeeded in life so much.
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  What's he bringing small examples of how people at
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  certain times were borderline perfect gives another example
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  when they usually went out to war and they won the wars.
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  It says about them that they did not speak and talk between
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  Shabbat and the of prayer vision before Shema.
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  Now that's considered a very high level because if a person
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  does talk, they have a difficult time at war.
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  That's fine. So if the people won wars in the
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  old days, it means they didn't talk.
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  Point being, these are random examples.
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  The point is that there are levels of perfection which you
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  believe are above our reach, which were able to be attained.
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  There's such a thing as being a person who is not key.
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  And you take this mindset and you say to yourself, I don't
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  know I'm going to get to that point.
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  But I do know that every jewel has the capability of fulfilling
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  the words in the book, which means I have the capability of
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  cleansing myself on these topics.
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  And if it's written and it's told to me and we're expected to
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  reach perfection in these areas, we work at it.
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  We work. Just say my Shabbat's covered,
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  my character's covered. Overall, I'm a good guy.
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  Zoo and Zeddy said, let's work. Let's analyze it step by step.
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  And then he build and he builds one on top of the other and let
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  me get myself and character and observance better and then
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  better and then better. It can happen, as he's telling
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  you. It's clear.
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  Happy with us, people that just talk.
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  We can annoy you, you know, they say, Frank, you don't want to
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  hear that too much. Too much.
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  So much. Well, on both ends, we have to
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  be Nike. From being that kind of talker.
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  The more you talk, the more risk you're at of saying something
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  not smart or maybe something destructive and at the same time
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  the the recipient. Again, this is an area where you
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  have to avoid getting nervous. So how they are our characters
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  attest you have people that are very annoying people are very
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  difficult and they drive us crazy and again, part of our
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  characters to handle these people too.
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  That's a good Nike. Who you in there?
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  Kimosa's turning to page 230. The same way a person needs to
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  cleanse themselves in actions, they also need to work at
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  themselves to develop themselves to be great in character or come
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  out as possible. She'll take a show on a cute
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  when we daughter Masho Masim. We've hinted at this point, but
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  it's more difficult to cleanse yourself, to really develop fine
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  and refined character than it is to develop fine and refined
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  observance. It's maybe harder to develop
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  real good character, Kiateva Poel by midot, because our human
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  nature is working against us when it comes to character.
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  You're Ted in Marshall Pueba Masim.
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  It's working against us more than it is when it comes to our
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  mitzvot. You overcome, then you say yarn.
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  You overcome the challenge. It keeps you bad.
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  That doesn't mean then on that level you're going to avoid
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  getting angry or jealous or hate. 1 does not at all play a
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  role in the other. And just because a person is
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  super observant doesn't mean you worked at his character.
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  Because it's a different human nature.
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  They have to fight different types of challenges we all miss
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  because. That's.
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  Also possible sure you're not missing about him or Messiah him
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  the same old man again couldn't be learned by that lab because
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  our our system, our body are very anti good character and
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  good traits or very helpful. Certain traits have a lot of
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  assistance from our upbringing from our styles and certain
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  proper character traits are they don't fit with our our makeup
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  and they require real fighting. The coal and the Hamashi
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  negative theatre Taylor and any time have to go against human
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  nature. Muhammad Hazakahi It's an
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  unbelievable fight. Whether it be addiction, whether
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  it be character traits, whatever it is, human nature has our
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  greatest enemy who is born really who's to find the strong
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  person? Hakovic it did so if someone can
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  overcome his negative character traits because it's so difficult
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  to overcome all right is the idea I'll work at this
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  visitation lifetime so that's.