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BBNaija Winner Ilebaye Cries Out For Help After Altercation With Her Father · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to the episode about it.
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  Lorenzi, how are you all doing if you're doing great?
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  For today's episode, I want to talk about Ilebai, former Big
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  Brother, Nigerian winner Ilebai Odinia.
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  Now we're just intermoding our business.
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  When Ilebai went on live, she had a swollen face.
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  She was crying, saying that she's tired, people should help
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  her, she wants to live. Now people started wondering
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  what is going on, who must have done this to Illy by now.
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  According to reports and according to sources, it was her
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  father that did this to her. According to what they had said,
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  today's her birthday. So she went to her father's
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  house. Now, her father and mother had
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  been divorced since 2024. And according to the story, the
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  mother ran out of the house because of the way the father
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  was battering the mother. And he was, she was able to just
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  go with Ellie Baye while the two boys remained with the father.
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  Now, Ellie Baye, from pictures that we've seen online, she has
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  a good relationship with dad or we thought because we've seen
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  pictures of, you know, her and the dad smiling.
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  So today's her birthday. And according to resource
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  sources, she went to her father's house to celebrate her
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  birthday with her brothers. Now, for whatever reason,
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  something went wrong and the dad pounced on her, locked the door,
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  did not want to let her leave. So the mother, according to the
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  story, advised her to go live so that people can know people can
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  help or rescue her out of the house because the mother
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  couldn't go to the house because she knew or she she.
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  According to the story, if she had gone to the house, she would
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  receive even more beating than Ilibae.
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  The video went viral, people started reporting to the police
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  and according to the story, the police actually went to Ilibae's
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  house. But according to the story, the
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  father is a very known politician in Abuja, so the
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  police couldn't break in. You know, if if it was a poor
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  man house, they could have broken in, they could have done
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  everything, they would have thrown tear gas, you know, you
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  know how Nigerian police operate.
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  But because he's a politician, they couldn't do any of those
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  things. So they just sat and waited
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  outside. According to the story,
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  eventually Elie Baye had been released.
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  She's in the hospital receiving treatment.
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  The police eventually arrested the father.
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  According to Linda KG, the father was arrested at the
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  police station. The mother couldn't go to the
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  police station because she feared for her life.
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  And then according to the story, he has also been released and
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  the two boys had come back with him.
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  And according to the story, the reason why Elie Baye went to the
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  house was because she heard that her two brothers were being
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  maltreated by the father, who had also been who had also
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  remarried, by the way. So she got stories or she heard
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  stories that her brothers are not being treated well.
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  So she went there to kind of maybe see things for herself.
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  Or this was happening around 22 AM.
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  So we don't know, maybe she sneaked into the house and the
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  father found out. We don't know the situation, but
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  she was, she was beaten. Now it is shocking because we,
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  we've heard about domestic violence, but most times it's,
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  it comes from the, the, the female part of, you know, I've
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  had uncles, I've had dads, you know, my father never laid his
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  hands on me. My uncles never laid their hands
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  on me. So for me it's foreign.
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  You know, my mom and the aunties on the other hands, you know,
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  that's a different story. So it's kind of strange for a
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  father to, to, to beat his daughter to that level.
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  Now the what people are failing to understand, because people
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  are portioning blames, you know, blaming the father, they're
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  blaming the mother, they're blaming her.
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  Why did she go to the house and all those kind of things.
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  How do you protect a child who you yourself had put in that
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  situation? If let's say he, Levi gets
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  married to somebody else and that person is beating her, what
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  would you as a father do when you've done the same thing to
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  your child? I think this is where the
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  psychological damage comes in. You know, your mother can beat a
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  child. You know, it's it doesn't
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  really. Yes, there's that trauma, but
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  it's not as traumatic as the fact that your father laid your
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  his hands on you. It's a different story.
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  That is where you hear daddy issues.
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  You know there are ladies who in relationship will say if he
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  doesn't beat you, he doesn't love you, where does that come
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  from? You know, you start asking all
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  these questions, you start peeling all the layers and you
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  see that this is deep rooted in families.
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  They learnt it from somewhere. I hope you lay by your heels
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  now. Every family have their own
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  family drama because Tacha came out, she was blaming the father.
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  How could the father put his hands on, you know, his daughter
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  and Fina unusual Fina, who is also a winner of the Big Brother
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  house, She's also had her own issues with her family.
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  She had his own. She also had issues with her
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  dad, to be honest with you. In fact, she disowned her dad.
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  She she disowned her family. On her page, she said she's an
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  orphan. So Fina has had her own fair
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  share with family drama and she's coming out to say, listen,
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  people should not blame the father, you know, for putting
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  his hands on her, which I found strange because I mean, Fina,
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  you've had your own issues. In fact, you every day you're
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  coming out online to drag your family.
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  So saying that they should settle it as a family issue to
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  me is kind of, you know, I, I don't even get it because if
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  it's, if it was a family issue, you would have settled your
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  family issue offline without bringing it online.
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  You wouldn't be dragging your father wouldn't be dragging your
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  siblings. OK.
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  It would have been family issues where you settle online.
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  So I, I, she, she tried, according to the story, she
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  actually tried. She was the first person that
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  called the police to help Ilebai, which we appreciate.
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  But saying that this is a family matter is these, these are the,
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  these are the problems. If things get swept under the
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  carpet, swept under the rug, deal with it as a family.
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  Nobody should talk about it. You know, bully people into
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  silence. That is where the problem
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  starts. That is where the problem
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  starts. And yes, every family have their
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  drama. Every family might not be
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  domestic violence. It might not be beating
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  children. It might not be Listen, there
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  are so many that Peter, Peter, Peter B Square has changed his
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  birthday. Peter B Square is twins to Paul
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  Okoye, rude boy. He has literally changed his
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  birthday. He said he's no longer
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  celebrating his birthday with his twin brother.
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  Just to show you the level of detachment that these two twins
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  have. Paul is not saying anything.
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  Peter is the one, you know, screaming online, which
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  sometimes the the person talking would look like the dramatic
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  one. But maybe he's the one being
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  bullied and all he the way he knows how to fight is to come
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  out and say something. So I think regardless of
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  whatever family drama anybody's called going through, anybody
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  that brings their own online, we as the online potatoes, we'd
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  have microphone and ring lights. We have to we have to talk,
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  which is I've said that listen, Fina, it's not about families
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  settling privately. This is now a public matter.
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  According to the story, Eli by his mom told her to go on live
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  to show what is going on with her, to show how her dad had
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  battered her just for people so that people can even rescue her.
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  Because the mother knew she couldn't go to the house that
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  level, even by one Big Brother. We never heard anything.
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  She was not posted, she just went blank.
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  And according to the story, it was the father's influence
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  because he's a politician. According to the the story, he
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  doesn't want her to disgrace him online.
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  And she did everything she was not.
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  She was, she was so private. So if you go to her page, she
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  had about just three pictures. She's not even up to me.
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  This is a Big Brother winner. She doesn't have up to 1,000,000
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  followers because she's trying to protect whatever.
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  We don't know. And we're just getting a peek
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  into what is actually going on behind closed doors.
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  This is sad. Now, men, our fathers, our
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  brothers, our uncles, our sons. Domestic violence is not the
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  solution. It is not.
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  It actually make things worse. We read every day.
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  Where married men beat their wives even to the point of no
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  return. And we talk about these things
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  online, but these are people's fathers.
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  These are people's sons. These are people's brothers.
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  Violence is not, it's not, it's not the solution.
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  People can sit down and have conversation.
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  And for me, honestly, the, the way I handle things is if I'm
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  trying to have a conversation with you and you know, it feels
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  like I'm banging my head on, on a concrete wall, blocking walks.
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  Block, block everybody before it gets to that extent, before it
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  gets to that level. Use your block.
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  We have not seen the 90s where you cannot block your phone
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  line. You cannot block people.
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  Listen, the world has evolved and the fact that this is her
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  father, people have been calling for justice for for illy by
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  justice, which is why I understand what finna is saying
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  that this is a family matter. On the other hand, she she kind
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  of makes sense because what do you want to do to the dad?
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  If you lock him up, there's a possibility that Ellie BAE will
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  still be the one to come and bail him out because he is her
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  father. So what do you think?
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  Do you think that probably the way his marriage ended with the
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  mother, he is taking out that aggression on Ellie BAE and
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  because he was used to beating the mum, whatever Ilibae does
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  maybe triggers him and he remembers whatever happened
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  between the the wives and or the himself and her mother that
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  triggers him and he is lashing out on her.
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  Regardless of what is going on, don't bring it on the children
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  don't. It doesn't end well.
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  It does not end well because one day you're going to need that
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  person. One day you're going to listen.
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  Family, you cannot run away from them.
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  At the end of the day, at some point, at some point, you guys
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  are still going to come come together.
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  Let me know what you think. Do you think that people crying
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  for justice for anybody are right?
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  Or do you think that according to FINA, this is a family matter
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  and should be settled within the family?
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  Regardless of, you know, how sad everybody is or how people are
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  just traumatised and triggered by this whole thing?
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  Do you think that the family should settle whatever went
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  wrong or is going on in their family?
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  Or do you think that people should still cry for justice for
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  Libya? Let me know what you think.
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