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How Narcissists Use Storytelling To Manipulate You · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, Beautiful people.
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  Today on Thanksgiving, we're going to be talking about what
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  happens when narcissists tell you a story.
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  Like what's the meaning behind these stories and what you
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  should listen to, what you should look out for when they're
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  telling you these stories and what not.
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  Stories about people from work, story about people, people from
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  school, that type of stuff. You know, hear my name is Lee
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  Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Oh my goodness, welcome back, welcome back, welcome back folks
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  yes First off, happy Thanksgiving.
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  I hope y'all having a great, great day so far hope it's going
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  to get hope it only gets better for you and whatnot.
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  But yes, y'all, what I mean by when a narcissist tells you a
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  story is when they go out of their way to tell you that to
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  tell you stuff about somebody else, right?
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  To tell you things about other people that you really didn't
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  care about. Like a story about somebody at
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  work that's cheating on their spouse or cheating on their
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  partner and their partner has no idea a story about somebody
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  stealing from from their partner or whatever it may be.
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  Watch out for these stories, y'all, because when a narcissist
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  or toxic person, whoever tells you a story, there's always a
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  little bit of truth to it. And a lot of times that truth
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  applies to themselves. Like a lot of times narcissistic
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  people want to confess to whatever they are doing, to
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  whatever they've done behind the scenes, whatever they have going
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  on, right? They literally want to confess.
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  They want to tell, they want to tell the world.
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  It's like, it's like this insidious thing that goes on
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  inside narcissist minds. Like I want to tell the world of
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  what I've done. I want to show you what I've
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  gotten away with, but if I tell you it's me, I'll get in
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  trouble. You see what I'm saying?
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  You see what I'm saying? But that's really the mindset of
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  the mentality that goes into it. They will tell you straight up
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  that this is how things are going to happen.
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  They will literally get into that.
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  Get it into your mind that things are going to, you mean
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  that they want to just get out. They want to get out of
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  themselves. It's like they're bursting at
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  the seams to tell you what they've done.
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  So in order to tell you what they've done, they'll put it in
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  story format and just change the characters around.
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  I bet you I've had this happen before where they'll tell you
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  this fantastical story about a friend that they know that has
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  done something horrible like a friend that they know years from
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  years ago that got off for some crazy charges like my friend.
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  Like beat the everliving hell out of their partner and they
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  should have went to jail. They really, really should have
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  went to jail, but they scared their partner into not
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  testifying and the charges got dropped so nobody would ever
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  know what happened. Crazy friend, right?
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  Whole time it's them. Whole time it's them just
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  confessing to you and letting you know what they're capable
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  of. Because a lot of times if they
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  know, if they tell you this directly, you'll leave.
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  Now, will some narcissists just tell you the truth about what
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  they've done to you and that you think you're going to stay
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  because maybe you stayed before? Yeah, some of them will just
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  outright tell you the horrible stuff that they've done and just
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  expect you to stay regardless. They'll expect you to just be
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  there and stay through it and deal with it regardless.
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  This is the mindset, this is the mentality of narcissistic
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  people, right? This is what happens and this is
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  the type of mindset and the the dynamic that goes into it.
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  They want to tell you y'all, So just listen if you like this
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  doesn't have to be for the future.
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  No future notice y'all If they've told you a story in the
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  past, past, right? If they told you a story in the
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  past about somebody doing something, think about it.
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  Could it be them if it's something that they would do,
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  I'm not telling you to try to find a way to hold them
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  accountable because, or get them to confess and say it's them
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  because they really, really they rarely would ever happen.
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  Y'all, you drive yourself crazy trying to dig up the truth from
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  them because they, you know, a lot of times, well, not a lot of
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  times, you know, you'll get a pathological liar.
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  You have a pathological or compulsive liar that you're
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  dealing with and it's very, very difficult, very hard, damn near
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  impossible even to get them to tell the truth about anything.
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  So good luck trying to get them to tell the truth about
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  anything. Because they don't want to tell
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  the truth. They enjoy doing what they've
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  been doing. They like, they want to just
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  cover it up with a lot. They want to cover it up with a
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  story. They want to cover it up as a
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  joke. So it's not just the stories, it
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  could be the jokes as well. They'll tell you a hypothetical.
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  Watch out for the hypothetical stories as well.
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  Y'all hypothetically speaking, if it's just hypothetical,
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  remember don't get angry if I went out and got pregnant by
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  someone, let's say let's say your best, your best friend from
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  childhood, y'all grew up together.
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  Y'all you know best the best man in our wedding.
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  Let's say I went out and got pregnant by him and you found
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  out. Would you stay with me and help
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  me raise that baby? And you were, you were like what
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  the hell kind of question is that?
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  No, why? What?
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  No wait, wait, what? Well, who?
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  Well, we, you see what I'm saying?
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  That's this part that they'll get into right there.
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  That's the part of that's the mentality.
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  This is what they will do to you right there, y'all?
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  That's how they handle things. That's how they go about doing
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  stuff, right. They will tell you straight up
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  that narcissistic people will do this type of stuff that you do.
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  They'll put you in this like damn near narcissistic pretzel
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  and twist you all the hell on them.
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  They would twist you all up right here, right And they'll
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  just like do this type of stuff to you, like hypothetical.
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  Oh, I was just joking whole time.
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  They're not joking, y'all whole time they're telling you the
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  truth. They just want to see how you're
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  going to react to it. What if I told you I got your
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  best friend, your mom, your sister and your cousin all
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  pregnant at the same time? What do I tell you that same
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  night? I'm just joking.
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  He's a hypothetical. Remember whole time it's true.
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  Your mom, everybody's like we are all pregnant.
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  You like wait, what? Everybody pregnant with you
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  whole time, watch out for these stories.
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  And it's hypothetical job because they want like they want
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  to tell you the truth. It's like this insidious thing
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  inside of narcissistic people, including myself.
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  I'd be going to I used to want to tell.
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  I will cover it up with a joke. I, I, I make a lot of jokes on
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  the channel. So I would cover stuff up with a
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  joke because I know it, I know it works, right.
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  It's a way to get it off your chest.
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  And well, I kind of, I kind of told what happened, you know, I
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  kind of confess. I kind of told what happened.
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  So they can't say I never mentioned it.
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  I did. I did bring it up.
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  They can never say I didn't bring it up because I clearly
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  did. I bought it.
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  I just bought it up. We had, we had the conversation
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  about what would happen. So I didn't, we had a
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  hypothetical conversation about what would happen.
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  I didn't like what would happen if I told, if I confessed.
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  So I'm not going to confess for real.
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  At least they know, at least they know it's possible.
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  At least at least they know it's possible that it could happen.
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  They can't prove that it did happen, but at least they know
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  it's possible that it could happen because could could
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  matter so much. Goods matter so much to
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  narcissistic people. Y'all.
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  Like seriously, this is the mindset, This is the mentality
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  that so many people face. It really is y'all.
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  So it's like you have to get ready to deal with this type of
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  stuff when you're dealing with an abusive, manipulative,
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  narcissistic person. Because at the end of the day,
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  they really, I'm not, I'm not saying they don't care about you
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  at all. I'm not, I'm not saying that
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  y'all. I know a lot of people, they,
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  because they're doing this type of stuff that they don't care
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  about you. Narcissistic people, some of
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  them care about you more in the beginning than they do right
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  now. And it's tough for them to
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  actually truly, deeply care about somebody like that, right?
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  It's tough for narcissistic people to truly, deeply care
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  about somebody else. Again, I'm not making excuses
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  for their behaviors. I'm not making excuses for what
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  they say and what they do. This is me just telling you,
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  this is the mindset. This is the mentality of how it
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  all goes. Y'all like watch out when they
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  tell you these stories, watch out when they give you these
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  hypotheticals. Watch out when they tell you
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  this. You couldn't they, they tell you
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  these wild ass jokes about certain things.
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  Y'all watch out when they do this type of stuff because
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  they're trying to tell you the truth or they're trying to
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  they're trying to get you to read between the lines like a, a
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  good romance novel, right? It's like a very a good romance
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  novel that you wish you'd never read.
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  I wish I never read this book. It's a horrible, you know, this
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  is a horrible book. I can't believe that this is
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  happening right here. I can't believe it, you know,
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  but this is what goes on, right? I tell y'all narcissistic
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  people, toxic ass people. This is what this is what they
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  do. Yeah.
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  They want to tell you the truth. They want to confess to you.
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  Just got to listen. Can I put your can I kind of put
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  your ear to the ground like you're listening for the Buffalo
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  coming Like you're listening for the Buffalo.
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  You're like, what if they just when they tell you this stuff,
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  y'all just just put them in a story.
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  Whatever character they create, a friend, a family member, a Co
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  worker, their boss, their brother, whoever it is, put them
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  in the don't tell. I'm, I'm not saying to say this
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  out loud, just change the character to them when I tell
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  you telling you a story or they tell you the hypothetical.
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  Just I'm going to tell you a story.
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  Just imagine them in the them in that character's place and ask
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  yourself, is it possible that they would do that?
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  And then when they tell you these hypotheticals, just
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  imagine that the hypothetical has already happened, not that
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  it would happen, that maybe it's already happened, and that this
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  is them trying to see how you will react if you found out.
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  Like, seriously, this is the mentality, the mindset of toxic
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  narcissistic people. This is the mindset of abusive,
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  manipulative people. This is how they go about doing
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  things, y'all. So you have to, you really do
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  have to watch out, protect your peace and protect yourself.
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  Because like these stories they get, yeah, they can get wild.
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  They can get, they, they can get, they can get out there.
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  They can get up there, out there, whatever you want,
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  whatever euphemism you want to use.
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  That's how it works out anyway. I ain't gonna hold y'all too
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