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This Book Works! Date Like A Spartan Breakdown · Black Girls Are Easy Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Asha Christina Foster one of my good friends. She has
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  Speaker 1: a bummed YouTube page that she also have checked out
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  Speaker 1: by now or if not, you're gonna want to check
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  Speaker 1: out after the show. So Asha, my dear, how are you?
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  Speaker 2: Hello? Hello? I'm doing very well. How are you good?
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  Speaker 1: Can I get a hello?
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  Speaker 2: And jeles hi angels. I love that.
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  Speaker 1: I love that.
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  Speaker 2: I love that.
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  Speaker 1: Ashia is so cool. I met you through a weird
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  Speaker 1: way because someone sent me a message about your video.
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  Speaker 1: This girl was taking a spartan word and making her
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  Speaker 1: own and I'm like, all right, I'll check it out.
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  Speaker 1: And I've forgotten if somebody else sent me a thing.
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  Speaker 2: So I actually went to it and I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Like, no, no, no, this isn't because you know, I
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  Speaker 1: know when somebody is regurgitating my shit, like it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: take me long. And I'm like, this is actually great.
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  Speaker 1: Like I ended up watching the whole video and it's
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  Speaker 1: like she's saying some stuff. I was like, I gotta
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  Speaker 1: meet her and I gotta hang out here. She is awesome,
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  Speaker 1: Like I love when a woman thinks the way you think.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that's how we became like real life friends.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I know, I know.
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  Speaker 3: It's crazy because we were friends on the internet and
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  Speaker 3: then yeah, we ended up becoming real life friends and
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  Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, I remember I texted you,
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  Speaker 3: and I was like.
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  Speaker 2: I made it.
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  Speaker 3: I officially am officially your friend now because we are
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  Speaker 3: texting in real time now, it's not just over Instagram now.
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  Speaker 4: This is going to be inspired by the book that
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  Speaker 4: I read from my dear friend Gelle Lambert.
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  Speaker 2: He has a book called Date Dating.
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  Speaker 4: Like a Spartan or Date Like a Spartan, and I
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  Speaker 4: pulled some of the best tips that I possibly could.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, it's such an amazing book. There are so
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  Speaker 4: many different things to highlight, so hopefully I do it justice.
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  Speaker 4: I will link his website down below, as well as
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  Speaker 4: the link to his book that I am extracting this
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  Speaker 4: information from. And I kind of just wanted to to
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  Speaker 4: pull together and highlight some of these points to really
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  Speaker 4: help you guys and really kick some things into gear here,
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  Speaker 4: because you guys know, I had like that little dainty experience.
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  Speaker 4: I took a year off of dating anybody completely, and
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  Speaker 4: I always get so many questions about what to do
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  Speaker 4: with dating and the mindset with that. So we're gonna
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  Speaker 4: dive all into that in two Day's video. Make sure
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  Speaker 4: that you give this video a big thumbs up. I'm
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  Speaker 4: going to be reading from my iPad, so if you
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  Speaker 4: guys see me looking down, that is what I'm looking at.
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  Speaker 4: And I really just want to highlight why dating is
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  Speaker 4: so important. I know there's this is such a controversial
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  Speaker 4: type of topic where people have their opinions about whether
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  Speaker 4: or not you should have a roster, and you know,
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  Speaker 4: does dating really matter.
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  Speaker 2: All these different types of things.
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  Speaker 4: And I believe that this expresses my perspective on this
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  Speaker 4: subject in its entirety, and I do agree with you know,
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  Speaker 4: the things that gl has said in his book as well.
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  Speaker 2: I just want to preface this by saying that if.
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  Speaker 4: You were genuinely a sensitive person, I don't even know
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  Speaker 4: how you got here because you are definitely on the
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  Speaker 4: wrong channel.
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  Speaker 2: This is not the plays for you.
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  Speaker 4: So if you don't like tough love, you don't want
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  Speaker 4: to hear about what it is that you should be
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  Speaker 4: doing and face some cold, hard truths.
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  Speaker 2: Click off. Thank you, now go to sleep weed.
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  Speaker 4: Now, for all my angels that genuinely want to progress,
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  Speaker 4: let's get into it.
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  Speaker 2: Dating is extremely important.
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  Speaker 4: And in chapter two of Jill's book, he asks a
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  Speaker 4: thought provoking question of what is your mindset as it
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  Speaker 4: pertains to dating? And he goes on to challenge that
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  Speaker 4: mindset of being bitter and lazy.
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  Speaker 2: As it pertains to dating. And we all know women
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  Speaker 2: who complain and say, oh, I hate men. Men are
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  Speaker 2: all trash.
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  Speaker 4: Men are this and meta that, and that has always
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  Speaker 4: confused me. I don't care how many men play games
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  Speaker 4: and do whatever it is that they are doing.
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  Speaker 2: I don't hate men. I have a father, I have
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  Speaker 2: a brother, like.
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  Speaker 4: I know, like that just doesn't make sense, as I'm
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  Speaker 4: sure many of you have siblings as well. I think
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  Speaker 4: when we make such strong, definitive terms such as that,
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  Speaker 4: it's really no wonder that that becomes basically the primary,
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  Speaker 4: you know, principle of our experience.
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  Speaker 2: Right. But don't get me wrong, I understand.
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  Speaker 4: I get that it's exhausting and you want to cut
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  Speaker 4: to the chase, and you don't want to waste your time,
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  Speaker 4: and you just want to figure out what this means
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  Speaker 4: right here, right now.
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  Speaker 2: You don't have time for games, all these different things.
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  Speaker 2: I hear you.
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  Speaker 4: But like she said, weak women make excuses and spartans
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  Speaker 4: make corrections. Why is it that in spite of our
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  Speaker 4: beauty and our confidence and even our academic achievements and
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  Speaker 4: our awareness of it all. Do we compromise when we
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  Speaker 4: feel like someone that is our type is in.
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  Speaker 2: Pursuit of us. Yeah, ask yourself that question.
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  Speaker 4: We're still going on the house dates, or we are
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  Speaker 4: sexting too early. We're not asking deep questions because we
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  Speaker 4: don't want to be too much, don't want to put
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  Speaker 4: too much pressure on him, and we want to just
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  Speaker 4: go with the flow. Now, if there's anything I've learned,
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  Speaker 4: it's that dead fish go with the flow. The man
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  Speaker 4: that truly wants to be with you is not going
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  Speaker 4: to be scared of you asking him deep questions. Yes,
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  Speaker 4: we are aware of the fact that, yeah, men lie,
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  Speaker 4: they can manipulate to get what it is that they want.
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  Speaker 4: But if you're equipped for these types of things already,
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  Speaker 4: then their tactics simply don't work, and they won't work.
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  Speaker 4: They will try, or they can try and they will fail.
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  Speaker 4: So if you're never contacted again, and okay, so what
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  Speaker 4: block them? If a guy's pressuring you for sex, don't
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  Speaker 4: give into those lusty desires just to make him happy.
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  Speaker 4: That I'll tell you what that is right there, that
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  Speaker 4: is a fear response or some weird pity type of thing.
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  Speaker 2: Oh well, I mean I don't want to.
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  Speaker 4: I don't want them to just come here and like
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  Speaker 4: we do nothing, Like I kind of want to just
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  Speaker 4: like show him what I could do, like give him
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  Speaker 4: a reason to kind of stay.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no no no. Let the circus commence.
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  Speaker 2: We don't need you to do We don't need you
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  Speaker 2: to do the trips, flip it in reverse. We don't
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  Speaker 2: need you to do it. We don't need to break
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  Speaker 2: it down right now. We need you to be still.
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  Speaker 2: That's it.
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  Speaker 4: If he applies that pressure, guess what, so do you
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  Speaker 4: he can wait? And this is a part that I
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  Speaker 4: love that G says. He says that relationships fail when
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  Speaker 4: we as women forget that we should be the center
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  Speaker 4: and as a spartan and dating like a spartan, you
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  Speaker 4: don't get tired of dating because you understand that it's
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  Speaker 4: only through dating that you prove your mastery essentially over
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  Speaker 4: men and honestly the world.
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  Speaker 2: And here's the thing that I love that he mentions.
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  Speaker 4: Dating actually isn't supposed to be transparent and simple the
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  Speaker 4: way that we.
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  Speaker 2: Perceive it to be.
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  Speaker 4: It's actually meant to test our intelligence and heighten our
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  Speaker 4: intuition and force us out of our comfort zone to
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  Speaker 4: flex our power. Your confidence is going to build with
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  Speaker 4: every man that you're able to break down and figure out,
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  Speaker 4: and that next level of confidence leads you to a
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  Speaker 4: better man. And to be quite honest, the ease of
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  Speaker 4: your success depends on how quickly you're able to learn
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  Speaker 4: these skills not be complaining getting discouraged. Oh see, this
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  Speaker 4: is why I don't even try anymore, Like okay, girl,
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  Speaker 4: Like I don't understand things like this. Like you ever
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  Speaker 4: see people post things and it's like I want to
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  Speaker 4: do it's like a nice guy and then it's like
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  Speaker 4: a meme where it says hey and then the girl
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  Speaker 4: saying no, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: It's like.
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  Speaker 4: That perspective has always intrigued me because it's like, of
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  Speaker 4: course we're not going to be attracted and you know,
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  Speaker 4: converse with every single person that you know just fall
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  Speaker 4: into our lap. But at the same time, you can't
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  Speaker 4: have this like approach of oh my gosh, like see
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  Speaker 4: this is why I and even do this because in
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  Speaker 4: a way, saying that basically means that subconsciously, in some
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  Speaker 4: way or another, you were looking for that. So it's like,
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  Speaker 4: if you're gonna look for it, we're well, then it's
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  Speaker 4: gonna find you. If you're gonna knock, then someone's gonna
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  Speaker 4: open the door. Now here's what it's interesting. Men actually
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  Speaker 4: do have a fear of choosing the wrong woman as well.
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  Speaker 2: I mean we all do. We have a fear of.
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  Speaker 4: Choosing the wrong man. Men have a fear of choosing
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  Speaker 4: the wrong woman, and they don't want to overpay. So
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  Speaker 4: men are going to try at times to choose dates
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  Speaker 4: to expose a basic type of chick.
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  Speaker 2: Because after all, like she says.
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  Speaker 4: They don't want to offer filet mignon to a chicken
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  Speaker 4: nugget chick.
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  Speaker 2: Why would they so?
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  Speaker 4: In efforts of a man testing his choices and to
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  Speaker 4: see what type of woman you are, he's going to
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  Speaker 4: analyze it from these three points, listen closely.
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  Speaker 2: One is privacy.
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  Speaker 1: Men.
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  Speaker 4: They want to make it easy to kiss on you,
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  Speaker 4: to touch you, to have a conversation with you, have
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  Speaker 4: that romantic type of vibe. So usually they'll choose a
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  Speaker 4: place that maybe won't be crowded because the intent is
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  Speaker 4: to get us either alone at ultimately our place or theirs.
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  Speaker 4: Next is drugs or alcohol. Now this is like a
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  Speaker 4: huge test. Obviously, these vices they dull our inhibitions. Right,
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  Speaker 4: if you're tipsy or drunk, you're not going to be
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  Speaker 4: as guarded. And as a man, yeah, you're probably gonna
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  Speaker 4: want to get a girl drunk or high because if
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  Speaker 4: she's easy sexually, then that will reveal itself. I remember
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  Speaker 4: I went on a date with this guy. I probably
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  Speaker 4: said this in a story time in the past, where
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  Speaker 4: this guy lived pretty far from me, drove from where
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  Speaker 4: he was, picked me up in my house, drove us
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  Speaker 4: to the city, drove me.
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  Speaker 2: Back home, and went all the way back home.
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  Speaker 4: And when we were at this restaurant he chose it
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  Speaker 4: was a vegan restaurant. He asked me if I wanted
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  Speaker 4: to order a drink, and I was like, I don't drink,
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  Speaker 4: so I don't want anything to drink, and he goes,
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  Speaker 4: you know, I guess I kind of figured that about you.
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  Speaker 4: And if I thought you were like I don't know
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  Speaker 4: what's the term you use, but like a floozy type
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  Speaker 4: of girl, we would have ubered here and I'm like, wow,
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  Speaker 4: So I don't know if that's some sort of trick
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  Speaker 4: or whatever the case.
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  Speaker 2: Is.
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  Speaker 4: But it's like, I guess, if he ubered the both
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  Speaker 4: of us to that location, then more than likely there
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  Speaker 4: would have been a higher chance of one he'd be drinking,
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  Speaker 4: I would be drinking and we would go back to
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  Speaker 4: you know, his place or something like that, if he
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  Speaker 4: had that perception of me already. But the fact that
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  Speaker 4: he was driving and did all that stuff, he already
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  Speaker 4: decided in his head, okay, that I was this type
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  Speaker 4: of woman already. Do you guys understand what it is
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  Speaker 4: that I'm saying. I just thought that was very interesting.
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  Speaker 4: Last is limited price. This refers to the cost of
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  Speaker 4: taking you out on a date.
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  Speaker 2: And here's where the hard truth comes in.
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  Speaker 4: Now, a thirsty girl will be, you know, making out
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  Speaker 4: with you, doing all this extra stuff right simply because
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  Speaker 4: of the attraction. So naturally a guy's gonna think, wait
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  Speaker 4: a second, why spend a ton of money to impress
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  Speaker 4: her when she's already impressed. So obviously, from a male perspective,
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  Speaker 4: you don't want to waste time taking every single little
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  Speaker 4: girl you know out on a date to an expensive
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  Speaker 4: dinner in hopes that maybe you'll get lucky that night.
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  Speaker 4: So you have to test and for a lot of men.
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  Speaker 4: The only way to figure that out is to lower
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  Speaker 4: the bar and see her reaction. And this is honestly
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  Speaker 4: the reality of the situation.
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  Speaker 2: I get it.
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  Speaker 4: We're queens, we're quality queens. Oh, princess treatment are nothing
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  Speaker 4: at all, all these different types of things. But here's
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  Speaker 4: the real, cold, hard truth. Men, especially in the beginning,
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  Speaker 4: they don't know you enough to understand like, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 4: like you must be like exactly.
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  Speaker 2: My dream girl.
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  Speaker 4: Whatever case is. They don't know you, they're just taking
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  Speaker 4: out on a first date. Whatever the case is. You
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  Speaker 4: have to at least.
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  Speaker 2: Understand that it's a very minimum, it's a hustle. So
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  Speaker 2: you laugh, and then you teach them how to treat you.
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  Speaker 4: It is our job to show what we will and
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  Speaker 4: will not deal with and set those boundaries very clearly.
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  Speaker 2: It is our job to do that.
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  Speaker 4: Unfortunately a lot of us are in messy dynamics and
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  Speaker 4: messy types of relationships because the tone was not set
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  Speaker 4: and the value wasn't set in the talking stage. During
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  Speaker 4: the dating stage. You have to ask questions, you have
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  Speaker 4: to do vets. And I always say this, you ask
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  Speaker 4: the tough stuff in the beginning, because why not and
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  Speaker 4: ge even says, on the first date, you should know
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  Speaker 4: like specific things, and by the third date, honestly, you
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  Speaker 4: should be all in his business, whether it makes him
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  Speaker 4: uncomfortable or not. And this is why I don't understand.
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  Speaker 4: Some girl commented on my video the other day and
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  Speaker 4: she was like, oh my god, Like what is this
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  Speaker 4: like an interview? Like you should just like chill and
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  Speaker 4: like let things like flow. Mmm, girl, by you heard
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  Speaker 4: it from the male perspective. Dates are not a chore.
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  Speaker 4: They are mandatory. Questions are necessary. The more you like someone,
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  Speaker 4: the more you may be prone to kind of toning
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  Speaker 4: it down and not saying what it is that you
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  Speaker 4: want to say. But if that bond is super shallow,
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  Speaker 4: you're just meeting someone you have like no connection to
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  Speaker 4: them literally at all, at least the way I perceive
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  Speaker 4: it too, I'm gonna ask whatever it is that I
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  Speaker 4: want to ask now. Over Thinking is the result of
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  Speaker 4: wanting someone to want you and trying to figure out
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  Speaker 4: ways how to get that across before you blow the opportunity,
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  Speaker 4: rewind that and play it again.
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  Speaker 2: A man must figure out how to.
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  Speaker 4: Get our attention, how to keep our attention, getting access
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  Speaker 4: to our Friday night We're dressing up where girl, do
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  Speaker 4: you know how much you know it costs, even monetarily
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  Speaker 4: for me to just put this plain face on. Okay
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  Speaker 4: likes It takes effort, especially if a guy knows, Okay, like,
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  Speaker 4: I know she's gonna come looking her best, Like that's
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  Speaker 4: why he wants to hang out with us. He knows
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  Speaker 4: you're gonna be cute. He knows you put time and
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  Speaker 4: effort into your outfit, and you're just gonna just give
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  Speaker 4: away those you know, those week days and whenever and
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  Speaker 4: move around your schedule.
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  Speaker 2: And do all this stuff.
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  Speaker 4: No, people have to really prove, especially the older that
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  Speaker 4: you get over the age of twenty five, people have
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  Speaker 4: to really prove, like, hey, there are so many other
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  Speaker 4: things that could be doing, especially if you have a
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  Speaker 4: very filling, you know life.
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  Speaker 2: I have a very fulfilling life.
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  Speaker 4: It's you can't just be like, hey, uh, Friday, you
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  Speaker 4: mean yeah, we're on Like, no, like, I have a
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  Speaker 4: lot of things to do, Like this has to make
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  Speaker 4: sense for me. This has to be very much worth it.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I'm not just gonna cut down my you know,
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  Speaker 4: weekday and rearrange everything and you're taking me to Red
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  Speaker 4: Lobster or something.
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  Speaker 2: Like it's not gonna happen.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 4: Remember this that you're always in control. So as soon
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  Speaker 4: as your mind begins to shift to I wonder if
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  Speaker 4: he likes me, you need to check in with yourself
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  Speaker 4: and wonder whether or not you like them to look
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  Speaker 4: means lack. Remember that now the primary goal when you
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  Speaker 4: are dating someone, which is why dating someone is super
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  Speaker 4: important and dating in general is super important.
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  Speaker 2: I think, especially the younger day.
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  Speaker 4: That we are, we tend to have this perception of
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  Speaker 4: I like you, you like me, woo, we're together, because
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  Speaker 4: that's the experience. That's how it was when you were
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  Speaker 4: in middle school in high school. It's like the only
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  Speaker 4: thing you guys had to worry about was seeing each
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  Speaker 4: other in school and maybe seeing each other after school,
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  Speaker 4: like you know what I mean, real life circumstances didn't
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  Speaker 4: take into effect, which is why at that time you
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  Speaker 4: guys were probably recreating the same I mean, you didn't
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  Speaker 4: have much of, like anything to do besides go to
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  Speaker 4: school and go home, you know, and report home to
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  Speaker 4: your parents whatever.
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  Speaker 2: The case is.
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  Speaker 4: But as an adult, as you've cultivated your own life,
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  Speaker 4: you have jobs, careers, like genuine interests that are literally
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  Speaker 4: the essence of your being that has to be compatible
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  Speaker 4: with another person. This is why it's important to have
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  Speaker 4: that data and experience with different people and not have
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  Speaker 4: this mentality of Okay, well, the next person that I
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  Speaker 4: date better be the one I'm done playing like that.
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  Speaker 4: You can't have that type of mentality as it pertains
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  Speaker 4: to dating.
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  Speaker 2: You just can't.
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  Speaker 4: So, yes, you want to find someone that embodies the
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  Speaker 4: same qualities. You want to find someone that exhibits the
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  Speaker 4: you know, the emotional potential to grow via deep talks,
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  Speaker 4: bonding outside of a house type of thing or an apartment.
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  Speaker 4: Let me also be specific and also in between dating,
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  Speaker 4: communicating why because you want to peel back the layers.
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  Speaker 4: Dating is not about falling in love I know, crazy right.
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  Speaker 4: That is actually at a relationship level, dating is simply
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  Speaker 4: a test to see if that individual is worthy of
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  Speaker 4: your exclusivity. And it's not so much about having everything
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  Speaker 4: in common either. It's about mutually coming together to elevate
• 16:27
  Speaker 4: one another. And this is a major key. Never try
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  Speaker 4: to be what you think a man wants. Like I
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  Speaker 4: always say, anything that you try to be is not sustainable.
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  Speaker 4: So when we date, we have to understand rushing is
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  Speaker 4: never the answer, and I think in this day and age,
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  Speaker 4: the way society is and all the games that are
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  Speaker 4: actually being played, it can be really discouraging.
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  Speaker 2: So the first sign of charm for.
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  Speaker 4: Longer than two months, you're hooked, and then the attraction
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  Speaker 4: is there, so then you sleep with them with no commitment,
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: and this is still just the dating stage.
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  Speaker 2: And then the mask drops.
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  Speaker 4: And you realize that you rush into things and that
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  Speaker 4: lust was acting as the glue and the shield and
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  Speaker 4: taking place of all the other forms of bonding that
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  Speaker 4: should have gone on in that dynamic. And this is
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  Speaker 4: going to be confusing because things were once great, and
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: I just have to reiterate this again. Sex too soon
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  Speaker 4: without a commitment is always going to cloud your judgment,
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  Speaker 4: always because you would be shocked to know how easy
• 17:27
  Speaker 4: it is to be naked with somebody and they actually
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: know nothing about you, and vice versa.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that interesting?
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  Speaker 4: So in conclusion, Angels dating is a very important vetting
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  Speaker 4: process and we mustn't get discouraged with this process because
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  Speaker 4: the only thing that comes out of that is quitting
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  Speaker 4: or can lead to desperation like recycling an X, which
• 17:47
  Speaker 4: is worse actually because the same issues occur but even
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: sooner because you're less likely to be cautious because you're thinking, oh,
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: why not just stick with the devil that I know regardless,
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: revisionist history is strong when you are cycling an X,
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  Speaker 4: but you'll only go back to realize that that memory
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: doesn't actually measure up with reality. And also know this
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  Speaker 4: that men don't have more game than us, regardless of
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  Speaker 4: their status, financial establishment, or education.
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  Speaker 2: We are quality queens. We are the prize, and we
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  Speaker 2: must be impressed.
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  Speaker 4: And any smart man truly understands the value of a
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  Speaker 4: good woman. I really hope that this was thought provoking
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  Speaker 4: for you, because I really wanted to reiterate why it
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  Speaker 4: actually is important to date, and also go over a
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: little bit of a man's mindset from a male perspective
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  Speaker 4: of how guys sort of vet us and test us
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  Speaker 4: in that dating process and to not give up as
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: it pertains to dating, because hey, like they say, like,
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: you have to kiss a lot of frogs, you know
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: what I mean, before you meet your prints of family.
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