Latest / Wired To Hunt Podcast / Ep. 774: Foundations - How to Live a Hunting Life with No Regrets
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- 0:01Speaker 1: Welcome to the Wired to Hunt Foundations podcast, your guide
- 0:05Speaker 1: to the fundamentals of better deer hunting, presented by first Light,
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- 0:14Speaker 1: First Light, Go Farther, Stay Longer, and now your host
- 0:19Speaker 1: Tony Peterson.
- 0:20Speaker 2: Everyone, welcome to the Wired to Hunt Foundation's podcast, which
- 0:23Speaker 2: is brought to you by First Light. I'm your host,
- 0:25Speaker 2: Tony Peterson, and today's episode is all about how to
- 0:28Speaker 2: not regret your hunting decisions. The old window is closing
- 0:44Speaker 2: for non resident hunting opportunities, which is no surprise to
- 0:47Speaker 2: anyone who's been paying attention. There's a lot of reasons
- 0:51Speaker 2: for this that I don't really need to get into,
- 0:53Speaker 2: but what I do want to talk about is how
- 0:56Speaker 2: this is affecting my decision making process around hunting opportunities
- 1:00Speaker 2: and how regret in general containt our experiences. I know
- 1:03Speaker 2: that's pretty vague, so you just have to bear with
- 1:06Speaker 2: me and hear the rest of this talk just to
- 1:09Speaker 2: kind of get it, you know, and hopefully I can
- 1:11Speaker 2: put it in a way that will help you make
- 1:13Speaker 2: some better decisions that will leave a positive mark on
- 1:16Speaker 2: your psyche instead of a bunch of remoor, set of
- 1:18Speaker 2: missed opportunity, the quality of the entire human experience for
- 1:32Speaker 2: us as individuals hinges on so many things beyond our control,
- 1:37Speaker 2: and so many things that are totally in our control.
- 1:41Speaker 2: And of course the decisions we make that we think
- 1:45Speaker 2: are in our best interest, and the decisions we make
- 1:48Speaker 2: that we know aren't in our best interest, but we
- 1:50Speaker 2: want to do them anyway, knowing full well we'll probably
- 1:54Speaker 2: regret them later. Life is muddy and it's hard. I
- 1:59Speaker 2: don't know if it's harder today generally than it was
- 2:02Speaker 2: ten years ago, or it'll be ten years from now.
- 2:05Speaker 2: My suspicion is that it's going to keep getting worse
- 2:07Speaker 2: until we all collectively toss our smartphones into a bonfire
- 2:10Speaker 2: and to touch a little grass, which I'm going to
- 2:12Speaker 2: talk about in a few episodes. But since that's not
- 2:15Speaker 2: likely to happen, our course almost feels set. Now, maybe
- 2:20Speaker 2: that's a bad way to look at it, but reality
- 2:22Speaker 2: rarely jives with our most positive hopes and dreams. That's
- 2:26Speaker 2: just how it goes. And if there's one component of
- 2:29Speaker 2: that which can really kind of haunt you, it's having
- 2:33Speaker 2: some serious regrets. Now, regret is a negative emotional state
- 2:38Speaker 2: that basically involves us blaming ourselves for bad decisions. If
- 2:42Speaker 2: it's not handled correctly, and it's often not, regret can
- 2:46Speaker 2: turn into rumination and cause chronic stress, the kind of
- 2:50Speaker 2: stress that o't you know, not only messes with your
- 2:53Speaker 2: mind but has physical implications for your body. You know,
- 2:58Speaker 2: this is a no bueno. It's also a consequence of
- 3:02Speaker 2: life that you'll make decisions that you regret, maybe for
- 3:04Speaker 2: the rest of your life. That's a heavy toll to
- 3:07Speaker 2: pay just because you want, you know, with heads instead
- 3:10Speaker 2: of tails. But it doesn't matter. As my old podcast
- 3:14Speaker 2: editor like to say, it do be like that sometimes,
- 3:18Speaker 2: and he was right. Now, you can't go back in
- 3:21Speaker 2: time and ask your crush out or talk to a
- 3:23Speaker 2: struggling buddy who is thinking about hitting the eject button
- 3:26Speaker 2: on life, or not drink the drinks or say the
- 3:30Speaker 2: nasty things or whatever. No one makes it through life
- 3:33Speaker 2: unscathed in this department, my friends. It's also true that
- 3:37Speaker 2: some regrets are a little lighter mental lift than others.
- 3:40Speaker 2: In the hunting realm. Regrets come in many forms. I
- 3:44Speaker 2: want to start with one of the big ones to
- 3:46Speaker 2: highlight this whole concept. The I didn't go when I
- 3:51Speaker 2: should have. Regret. I'm dealing with this heavy right now,
- 3:55Speaker 2: and I haven't even made a decision yet. You see,
- 3:59Speaker 2: I want to go to Caller Rotto to elk hunt
- 4:00Speaker 2: in September. You probably do too, if you're listening to this.
- 4:04Speaker 2: I know that getting elk tags when you live nowhere
- 4:07Speaker 2: near the Rockies is only going to get way more difficult.
- 4:11Speaker 2: I also know that I'm not going to get any younger.
- 4:13Speaker 2: I know that all it takes is one simple thing
- 4:15Speaker 2: to ruin your health or at least keep you from
- 4:18Speaker 2: the gym and working on elk hunting shape. I know
- 4:21Speaker 2: that the amount of elk hunts I have in front
- 4:23Speaker 2: of me isn't very many and might only be a
- 4:26Speaker 2: couple at this point. Now that's a first world problem,
- 4:29Speaker 2: I know, but it's also something I'm just kind of
- 4:32Speaker 2: mine grinding over. If I go el hunting, I know
- 4:36Speaker 2: what it'll take more months of workouts, which doesn't really
- 4:40Speaker 2: bother me. But elk hunting is also expensive, even for
- 4:43Speaker 2: an over the counter DIY hunt. There's that consideration in
- 4:47Speaker 2: this world that seems to be getting more expensive by
- 4:49Speaker 2: the hour, even though we're told everything's peachy. Then there
- 4:53Speaker 2: is the time to give yourself a fighting chance, and
- 4:56Speaker 2: elk hunt needs time. I found that if I don't
- 4:58Speaker 2: have between at least ten to twelve days for travel
- 5:01Speaker 2: and hunting, I feel like I don't have enough time. Now,
- 5:05Speaker 2: that's a lot of days away from the family right
- 5:07Speaker 2: at the onset of hunting season, which is not ideal
- 5:10Speaker 2: to confound my personal situation. Further, one of my daughters
- 5:14Speaker 2: has a bear tag this year. The opener is in
- 5:17Speaker 2: early September, when I would be off in the mountains. Now,
- 5:21Speaker 2: what will I regret more missing one of the few
- 5:24Speaker 2: elk hunts I'll probably ever do, or missing the opportunity
- 5:28Speaker 2: to hunt bears with my daughter, which is another opportunity
- 5:31Speaker 2: that just might not come around too often. Again, first
- 5:35Speaker 2: world problems, but they're my problems, so I'm going to
- 5:38Speaker 2: talk about them. I know that if I do go
- 5:40Speaker 2: el hunting, I'm not going to regret it. History has
- 5:43Speaker 2: proven that for me every time I've gone, and I've
- 5:46Speaker 2: been on some absolute clunkers of hunts, but I've never
- 5:49Speaker 2: regretted a single one where it was me and a
- 5:51Speaker 2: buddy or two doing our thing in the wild somewhere,
- 5:55Speaker 2: especially in the mountains. It's always been worth it. Now
- 5:59Speaker 2: you should pay attention to that last sentence, because I'll
- 6:01Speaker 2: bet you probably feel the same way, knowing that I'm
- 6:06Speaker 2: wondering if I'm being stupid for even considering not going.
- 6:10Speaker 2: But it's just not so simple. The fear of regret
- 6:13Speaker 2: is real, but the reality of life is too. I
- 6:17Speaker 2: probably won't make a decision for months yet, but I
- 6:20Speaker 2: probably will think about it ten thousand times a day
- 6:23Speaker 2: between here and there. This is a weird example of
- 6:26Speaker 2: how much we can fear regretting our decisions. When I
- 6:29Speaker 2: think back on the four elkunts I've done, they were
- 6:32Speaker 2: all incredible in their own way, the successful ones, of course,
- 6:37Speaker 2: but even the unsuccessful ones too. So I just don't
- 6:40Speaker 2: know what to do. And you might find yourself in
- 6:43Speaker 2: a similar situation this year. Now, maybe instead of elk
- 6:47Speaker 2: it involves buying your first preference point in Iowa to
- 6:51Speaker 2: give yourself a chance at a once in a lifetime
- 6:53Speaker 2: hunt and the promised land. I can almost guarantee that
- 6:57Speaker 2: you won't regret drawing a tag down there, but most
- 7:00Speaker 2: folks they're not even gonna try. The price for a
- 7:03Speaker 2: non resident tag is high, and the juice just doesn't
- 7:06Speaker 2: seem to be worse to squeeze for a lot of people,
- 7:08Speaker 2: and that's okay, But also think about your best days
- 7:12Speaker 2: on stand or your most enjoyable hunting seasons. I'll bet
- 7:17Speaker 2: they involved a lot of action, probably with some good
- 7:20Speaker 2: bucks mixed in there. Now, if there is a better
- 7:23Speaker 2: place to go for that than Iowa, I'm all ears.
- 7:27Speaker 2: The thing is, we think we'll regret spending the money
- 7:30Speaker 2: on the tag, and we're scared we won't fill that tag.
- 7:34Speaker 2: That would be a regretful situation in our eyes, so
- 7:38Speaker 2: it's easier to not even try. But there might come
- 7:41Speaker 2: a point when you can't get a tag there at
- 7:43Speaker 2: all if you don't live there, or something might happen
- 7:47Speaker 2: in life. We're getting away for an over the road
- 7:49Speaker 2: hunt just won't or can't happen. When opportunity goes away,
- 7:55Speaker 2: regret comes calling. We've seen this time and time again
- 7:59Speaker 2: in the outdoor space. Will you regret the trips you
- 8:03Speaker 2: take more than the trips you don't take? Probably not,
- 8:06Speaker 2: but it's easy to believe that might be the case.
- 8:10Speaker 2: And regret comes in other forms too. I just had
- 8:13Speaker 2: a conversation with a buddy of mine who wants to
- 8:15Speaker 2: buy a hunting ground in the worst way. He loves
- 8:17Speaker 2: to deer hunt, and he has a daughter who is
- 8:19Speaker 2: likely to love deer hunting too. He knows that owning
- 8:23Speaker 2: land is his ticket to a sure thing lifetime of
- 8:26Speaker 2: both and you know, a lifetime of just not living
- 8:30Speaker 2: under the threat of having no place to hunt. This
- 8:33Speaker 2: is probably pretty relatable to most of you, fine listeners.
- 8:38Speaker 2: The problem with him, and honestly a lot of us,
- 8:41Speaker 2: is that he's waiting for land to get more affordable.
- 8:44Speaker 2: We all know how that's going to go. He's also
- 8:47Speaker 2: like a lot of us in that he wants a
- 8:49Speaker 2: certain type of land, you know, a certain type of woods,
- 8:52Speaker 2: which is great, but it's also the kind of woods
- 8:56Speaker 2: that everyone wants, because no one wants shitty land, no
- 8:59Speaker 2: one except me anyway. I don't care what the land
- 9:02Speaker 2: looks like now, because I know what you can do
- 9:05Speaker 2: with it, you know, with some elbow grease in some
- 9:07Speaker 2: time at least most land. I also know that deer
- 9:20Speaker 2: don't care that you own only a beautiful deciduous forest
- 9:24Speaker 2: is a straight out of a Disney movie. Hell, they
- 9:27Speaker 2: like the shitty land quite a bit in my experience.
- 9:30Speaker 2: But here's the thing. If that's a goal of yours.
- 9:33Speaker 2: It's generally not an easy one to achieve, but it
- 9:37Speaker 2: is doable for some folks, even if that feels like
- 9:39Speaker 2: a stretch. If you do your homework and you figure
- 9:42Speaker 2: out how to make some level of that dream happen,
- 9:45Speaker 2: usually a level that is far below but you know
- 9:47Speaker 2: kind of what you really want, you're not going to
- 9:50Speaker 2: regret it. In fact, you'll probably be real happy you
- 9:53Speaker 2: ignored that internal warning and stuck to the plan. And
- 9:56Speaker 2: even if you know, settled for something that you could
- 9:59Speaker 2: just barely afford, that has some potential. Another way to
- 10:03Speaker 2: look at this is that buddy of mine. Do you
- 10:05Speaker 2: think he'll regret it more if ten years go by
- 10:08Speaker 2: and he doesn't buy any land, or if he buys
- 10:11Speaker 2: something small and in his price range that he can
- 10:14Speaker 2: work on and take his daughter to. Sure it could
- 10:18Speaker 2: break either way due to unforeseen circumstances, but if we're
- 10:21Speaker 2: playing the odds game, I know where I'm placing my bet.
- 10:25Speaker 2: So far, I've just talked about big regrets take the trip,
- 10:29Speaker 2: or don't buy the land, or wait. But hunting is
- 10:32Speaker 2: full of situations we can regret on so many levels.
- 10:36Speaker 2: I'll give you a couple of examples from my life
- 10:38Speaker 2: which highlight the dynamic nature of regret. Sometimes you feel
- 10:43Speaker 2: dumb for what you do, but sometimes you feel dumb
- 10:45Speaker 2: for what you don't do. For me, some of my
- 10:48Speaker 2: most shameful moments in the woods are from things that
- 10:51Speaker 2: I did but shouldn't have, Like the time in high
- 10:54Speaker 2: school when my buddies and I got hammered, which wasn't unusual,
- 10:58Speaker 2: so it wasn't unusual when I woke up to go
- 11:01Speaker 2: hunting and felt super hungover and like a total turred
- 11:05Speaker 2: sandwich of a human. I went out to still hunt
- 11:08Speaker 2: around in the early season with that hangover, which is
- 11:11Speaker 2: something I just kind of did then. It's also one
- 11:15Speaker 2: of the many, many reasons why I rarely killed a
- 11:17Speaker 2: deer back then. Well, anyway, as I was sneaking around
- 11:21Speaker 2: with a throbbing headache and the vague threat that I
- 11:23Speaker 2: might ruin my underwear if I try to suppress a
- 11:25Speaker 2: sneeze because that pressure is going to go somewhere, I
- 11:28Speaker 2: ended up at a small pond, tucked into a standing cornfield,
- 11:32Speaker 2: the spot you know, it's always a good place to
- 11:34Speaker 2: run into a deer, So I tucked into the first
- 11:37Speaker 2: row of corn to try to catch a deer coming
- 11:38Speaker 2: back to bed. After a while, I laid right down
- 11:41Speaker 2: in the dirt of that cornfield and fell asleep. And
- 11:45Speaker 2: when I woke up, two does were standing at the
- 11:47Speaker 2: far side of that little pond, probably wondering what kind
- 11:51Speaker 2: of animal makes the kind of noise a hungover idiot
- 11:53Speaker 2: with a crooked nose does when he's snoring away. I
- 11:57Speaker 2: clearly wasn't dealing with the deer's top brass then, because
- 12:00Speaker 2: they both watched me pick up my bow, take poor
- 12:03Speaker 2: aim at that lead dough, and then shoot. And when
- 12:07Speaker 2: that arrow hit I knew immediately that I'd never see
- 12:10Speaker 2: her again because I had backstrapped her. The number of
- 12:13Speaker 2: regrets in that sixteen seventeen hour period of my life
- 12:17Speaker 2: were many, and I regret it to this day, even
- 12:20Speaker 2: though it's been like thirty years since then. Another time
- 12:24Speaker 2: I climbed into a tree stand in December to try
- 12:26Speaker 2: to fill an antler list tag when I was in
- 12:28Speaker 2: my early twenties, you know, hunting after the gun season
- 12:31Speaker 2: then on the farm I was on. You know, it
- 12:33Speaker 2: was almost always a lost cause, but I went anyway,
- 12:37Speaker 2: and as the sun started to set, I heard deer
- 12:39Speaker 2: walking in the leaves and saw some does headed in
- 12:42Speaker 2: my direction. I stood up, picked up my bow and
- 12:45Speaker 2: got ready. When one of the doughs offered me a shot,
- 12:48Speaker 2: I took it and I hit her way too low.
- 12:51Speaker 2: It was entirely my fault, and I just screwed up
- 12:54Speaker 2: the shot. Now that happens. But what happened next is
- 12:57Speaker 2: what I really regret. I knew I probably wasn't going
- 13:01Speaker 2: to find that dough, but I also knew that I
- 13:02Speaker 2: had hit her, so I was going to have to
- 13:04Speaker 2: try real hard, and since I had multiple tags, I
- 13:08Speaker 2: knocked another arrow and shot at one of the other
- 13:10Speaker 2: doughs that stuck around. It was a shot I didn't
- 13:14Speaker 2: need to take, but I was frustrated after totally botching
- 13:17Speaker 2: the first shot. Well, when you get greedy and the outdoors,
- 13:21Speaker 2: it rarely works out well, and this time was no exception.
- 13:25Speaker 2: I made almost the exact shot on that second dough,
- 13:28Speaker 2: and I can tell you that I felt pretty small
- 13:29Speaker 2: when the sun fully set and I climbed down. The
- 13:32Speaker 2: regret of taking that shot stuck with me bad, and
- 13:36Speaker 2: I felt it the whole next day when I followed
- 13:38Speaker 2: one blood trail and then another to absolutely zero dead
- 13:42Speaker 2: deer grid searching put up a big old goose egg too.
- 13:47Speaker 2: I honestly don't know if I've ever regretted not taking
- 13:50Speaker 2: a shot, but I sure regret taking quite a few
- 13:53Speaker 2: of them in my career, especially when I was starting out.
- 13:56Speaker 2: There's a good lesson in there. In fact, I think
- 13:59Speaker 2: it's why I try to only shoot now where I
- 14:02Speaker 2: feel like I have one hundred percent confidence that it's
- 14:05Speaker 2: going to be all over. I don't like the feeling
- 14:07Speaker 2: of crossing my fingers when I draw my bow because
- 14:10Speaker 2: I know where that goes and it almost always sucks.
- 14:13Speaker 2: Now there are other regrets too. I think cell cameras
- 14:17Speaker 2: contribute to a fair amount of them. I mean, how
- 14:20Speaker 2: often have you decided you'd stay home and clean the garage,
- 14:23Speaker 2: or maybe just watch TV because you don't want to
- 14:26Speaker 2: sit in a stand during a rainstorm, when suddenly a
- 14:29Speaker 2: notification pops up on your phone and mister big and
- 14:31Speaker 2: antleery decided he was going to walk by your stand
- 14:34Speaker 2: with two hours of daylight left. It happens when you
- 14:38Speaker 2: pick one stand and have a camera by a different
- 14:40Speaker 2: one too. Those don't really bother me much, because you know,
- 14:44Speaker 2: what are you going to do? You know, the deer
- 14:46Speaker 2: out there and they're going to walk somewhere. You also
- 14:48Speaker 2: know that they might not have showed up had you
- 14:50Speaker 2: been there, So the regret on that situation can be
- 14:53Speaker 2: pretty minimal. I guess the one thing that would change
- 14:56Speaker 2: it is if it was a real giant, But then again,
- 14:58Speaker 2: who cares. You weren't there and he was. So how
- 15:02Speaker 2: do you live a regret free hunting life? Well you can't.
- 15:07Speaker 2: You're gonna make bad decisions for a variety of reasons
- 15:09Speaker 2: and you're gonna have to live with them. But you
- 15:12Speaker 2: can also take a deep dive into the not so
- 15:14Speaker 2: great decisions you've made around hunting and ask yourself which
- 15:18Speaker 2: once do you regret the most. This is a not
- 15:21Speaker 2: so fun exercise that can put you in a spot
- 15:24Speaker 2: where you're going to make better decisions. Like I mentioned,
- 15:27Speaker 2: I try to be super picky now in my shot
- 15:30Speaker 2: selection at this point in my life, because I always
- 15:32Speaker 2: regret taking a shot that I'm not super confident. That's
- 15:37Speaker 2: way worse than letting one walk and then not filling
- 15:39Speaker 2: a tag or killing something smaller later. Maybe you need
- 15:44Speaker 2: to think about what you want out of hunting. What's
- 15:47Speaker 2: something you wish you could do just once, instead of
- 15:51Speaker 2: living with that dark cloud hanging over your head. Can
- 15:54Speaker 2: you do something to change your future and make it happen, then,
- 15:57Speaker 2: I'd suggest that. Or do you find yourself with low
- 16:01Speaker 2: grade regret for not hunting in September or October when
- 16:04Speaker 2: you could, just so you can battle it out during
- 16:07Speaker 2: the rut with every other hunter. There's a pretty simple
- 16:10Speaker 2: lesson in that one, my friends, and you know how
- 16:12Speaker 2: I feel about that. Even when I blank, Hell, even
- 16:16Speaker 2: when I blank for a week or two or three
- 16:18Speaker 2: in a row, I never regret just going hunting, But
- 16:22Speaker 2: I often regret not going. Sometimes I regret not churming
- 16:26Speaker 2: a branch, or not getting a good range reading on
- 16:28Speaker 2: a deer, or not looking up for my stupid phone
- 16:31Speaker 2: in time to see something walking in, or not doing
- 16:33Speaker 2: the extra work to set up where the wind is
- 16:35Speaker 2: damn good instead of you damn questionable. The way to
- 16:40Speaker 2: do this is to think about the things that bother
- 16:42Speaker 2: you about yourself as a hunter and work on them.
- 16:46Speaker 2: I know. The way we often look at this stuff
- 16:48Speaker 2: is to find someone else to blame for our failures,
- 16:51Speaker 2: and if we can't find them, we sometimes even make
- 16:54Speaker 2: them up. But the truth is we are responsible for
- 16:57Speaker 2: a hell of a lot of what happens to us
- 16:58Speaker 2: in the white Tail. Would are responsible for making the
- 17:01Speaker 2: decisions that can make us heroes or zeros. Think about
- 17:05Speaker 2: this in the off season. It might change how you
- 17:08Speaker 2: approach your shooting sessions, or your scouting missions, or the
- 17:12Speaker 2: times you head to the woods to hang a camera,
- 17:14Speaker 2: set a stand. The more you get ahead of this stuff,
- 17:18Speaker 2: the less likely you are to call an audible during
- 17:20Speaker 2: the hunt and find out you're about to get your
- 17:22Speaker 2: head torn off by a blitzing linebacker. Do this come
- 17:26Speaker 2: back next week because I'm going to talk about how
- 17:29Speaker 2: thinking like a deer can help you sort of kind
- 17:32Speaker 2: of become like a deer, or at least maybe you'll
- 17:36Speaker 2: become a better deer hunter for it. Anyway, that's it
- 17:41Speaker 2: for this week. I'm Tony Peterson. It's been the Wired
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