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- Alexa Pena: What if the reason you feel lost isn't because you don't have purpose, but it's actually because you've been waiting for life to tell you who you are instead of realizing that life is actually asking you to recognize what it's asking from you. A lot of us spend years asking, why is this happening to me? We stay in a victim mentality. What am I supposed to do with my life? Why do I feel empty even accomplishing things? But one of the deepest lessons that I've learned is that your purpose isn't something that you magically discover one day. Your purpose is something you respond to based on your experiences. Now, this is something that has really changed my mindset because I stopped asking why me, and I really started shifting to what is God trying to grow through me? What is God trying to prepare me for? And how is this actually tied into my sole purpose in life? Now, I want to really help you dissect this because I truly believe that so many people don't actually lack potential, they lack meaning. And this is really where when people lose meaning, we lose ourselves. Now, the first thing I want to go into is the real reason why people feel lost. And this is actually driven from frameworks of Viktor Frankl. He's a psychologist who survived the Holocaust and he created something called logotherapy. Now, one of the powerful things that he said is that man should stop and actually understand that we should stop asking what is the meaning of life and actually recognize what he is being asked from life. And that's really where things start getting interesting because most people are sitting around waiting for clarity to magically appear, right? We're waiting for the perfect sign, the perfect opportunity, the perfect feeling, the perfect timing. But clarity doesn't come before movement. Clarity comes through movement. And I think that's one of the biggest misconceptions people have about purpose. Purpose is not always loud. Sometimes purpose looks like showing up anyway, healing, forgiving, building discipline, learning how to love yourself again, learning how to trust God, learning how to stop abandoning yourself. Sometimes purpose starts with becoming the person capable of holding the life that you've been praying for. And I really want you to understand what that means because a lot of the times we believe I don't have a purpose. I am just a normal person. I don't have anything to give. But I want you to stop and ask yourself, where have you been and where are you now? I remember there was a time that all I wanted was to have a house. All I wanted was to have a house where water wouldn't come in through the floor. where it wouldn't be super hot in the summer and super cold in the winter. I wanted a place where I can shower and not see mold all over the walls. This is the kind of thing that when I look at my life now and I'm like, wow, look at what I've been able to manifest through the blessings of God. And I really believe that the second point here, purpose requires responsibility. One of the things that I've had to realize is that manifestation without responsibility really becomes delusion, right? When you're just talking about the vision boards and the manifestation techniques and calling in more abundance and quantum leaps, but then you don't talk about the discipline, right? How you also need to stay consistent, the sacrifice that sometimes it takes when you let go of old habits that are not serving you. the identity shifts that you need to make from the habits that you've created your whole life, emotionally healing the self that you've abandoned and neglected, and actually regulating our nervous system. And this is where people sabotage themselves. And I know that I've done this many times because they pray for more, right? We pray for more abundance. We pray for more beautiful blessings. But then, because we haven't become the person capable of holding the relationship, the business, the abundance, the opportunities. Now internally, we are still operating from fear, from scarcity, from insecurity, self-doubt, comparison, survival mode. And your nervous system is always, and listen to this part, your nervous system is always going to return to what is familiar, even if it is painful. This is why people sabotage those healthy relationships, money, success, opportunities. because their identity hasn't caught up yet. Now, the next part here is how to find yourself through service. One of the deepest concepts in logo therapy is something called self-transcendence. This basically means that if you find yourself when you stop obsessing over yourself, and this is really where, if you understand this, you actually find yourself when you release control. Because I think a lot of us are stuck. in cycles of overthinking, hyper analyzing everything, comparing ourselves to somebody else's chapter 100 while we're in chapter 20, self criticizing ourselves. And the more that we focus on the fact that we need to understand the more we're focusing on ourselves, the more empty we feel, but something actually can change. And being of service allows you to become somebody that is in alignment with something greater than yourself. This is why some people genuinely do not feel fulfilled, regardless of having everything. They're the people that actually received the abundance that they wanted, but because they haven't really understood who they are, what they want out of life, they don't internalize it. Now, the people that are connected with meaning, they're connected to service, impact, purpose, family, contribution. faith, creation. This is why I'm always talking about building something bigger than yourself. For me, this is walking manifestator. Helping people, creating impact, changing lives, building communities, helping women reclaim their feminine essence, stop being in survival and start creating an abundant life, something that is inspired from your God given gifts. Because this is really where you understand that money alone is not going to fulfill you. You need meaning. Now, the biblical connection here is that we need to understand that deeper spiritual aspect of this because the Bible says, as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he, which means your internal world eventually becomes your external reality. And no, this does not mean that your life is just going to be perfect. I'm not saying that trauma isn't real, that pain isn't real, that loss isn't real. What I am saying is that your response to life is what matters. Your thoughts matter, your beliefs, your identity. One of the biggest shifts that I've had in my life is when I stopped seeing God as someone that was punishing me. And I started seeing him as someone that was actually refining me, someone that was making me stronger, someone that was allowing me to see my flaws as my virtues. This is the moment where I really started feeling like my life was changing. Because before that, I felt confused, broken, lost, and it just felt like... No matter what I did, there was nothing that was changing. But looking back, those were the seasons that were actually building me. They were humbling me. They were strengthening me. They were awakening me. So I want you to ask yourself, how does this season of your life humble you? How is it straightening you? How is it awakening you? How is it becoming the best version of you, even through the moments of adversity? Now, we don't need to... Sabotage ourselves. We just need to be willing to identify with a new identity that we want to create and you don't need less pressure Okay, a lot of people think healing means never feeling uncomfortable But here's the bottom line discomfort is not always bad and sometimes discomfort is the tension between who you are and who you are becoming growth is actually stretching you and if you avoid every uncomfortable thing You are actually avoiding your evolution. At one point, walking was uncomfortable. Public speaking can be uncomfortable for you. Maybe starting something new is uncomfortable. Setting new boundaries can be uncomfortable. But this is the part where you grow through it. Fear is not always a sign of stopping. Sometimes fear is a sign that expansion is happening. And here's the crazy part. The things that you feel so uncomfortable doing right now, are the very things that at one point, if you continue to do them more than one time, you will eventually feel comfortable doing them. So I want you to stop waiting for your life to begin. I think this is one of the saddest things that we can do in our life, which is waiting. Waiting to feel ready, to feel healed, to feel confident, to feel worthy. ⁓ well, I'm going to wait until I lose more weight. I'm going to wait until I have more money. I'm going to wait until I have the perfect relationship. I'm going to wait until I feel like I'm ready. But your life is happening. right now. And purpose is not one giant magical moment. It's daily choices, daily alignment, daily obedience, daily devotion. The small things really matter. The habits, the conversations that you're having, the environment that you're in, the words that you're speaking over yourself. Everything is compounding. You see, a lot of us don't like to realize that The habits and the people that we're surrounding ourselves with are actually the very thing that is holding us back. The words that we're telling ourselves, ⁓ look at you, look at how ugly you look, you're never going to make as much money as this person, ⁓ look at you, you're broken, look at what happened when you were a child. That is the part that keeps you in survival. So if you've been feeling lost lately, I need you to understand that you're not behind. You're not forgotten. You're not broken. You're simply in a season. where life is trying to awaken something deeper within you. And maybe instead of asking, what is my purpose? Why don't we start asking, what is this season asking me to become? Because purpose is not something you find. It's actually something that you align with. Now, if this episode spoke to your heart, make sure to share it with someone that you think needs this reminder. And I want you to remember, a dream is simply a thought and energy brings it to life. I love you guys so much and I can't wait to see you guys on the next episode.