Latest / Student Of Life / What Happened To Community | Student Of Life Ep 10 (JTT)
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- TRE: When was the last time you genuinely felt like you truly belong somewhere? Hi y'all, Trey here, sitting for another week with the Twisted Tea Drinking, two-time amateur award winning Yodeler Tim. Tim S: Hello TRE: that was not his ⁓ award winning Yodel. ⁓ I've heard it. I've heard it. And his award winning yodel will put all other Yodelers to shame. Okay, I'm gonna to admit something. Tim S: No. TRE: And, know, it's really not to you, ⁓ to our listeners and viewers out there. Student Life is definitely an authentic company. And yes, yes, yes. I'm going to talk about ourselves for a little bit here. Because here's the truth. This is our third attempt at recording this episode. We are not without any fault. deal with technical difficulties. ⁓ We're honest and authentic, right? I will say Johnny V, the one and only, has been with us on the other two times that we've recorded, ⁓ we definitely had some technical difficulties, but we are still showing up and we're going to make sure that we hit our points because we wanna connect and we're building a sense of community here. So Tim, Tim, are you ready to dive into this for a third time? ⁓ Tim S: Yes. I am. am. TRE: Are you? Are you? Because I know we touched on some pretty, you know, deep impactful topics, you know, when when we were going over this episode. So you said you're already, right? Tim S: Yeah, I am. My my other producer says yes, we're I'm ready to go. TRE: right. You know what? I'm gonna take the cue from your producer because ⁓ my producer is definitely on a hiatus. And you know, we were talking about ⁓ community, know, and how it just seemed ⁓ as it was a lot stronger when we were younger. In in my opinion, you know, it just seemed that way, right? Let me ask you, I mean, did it seem like There were a lot more resources or organizations that were out there when you were younger t versus today. Tim S: I don't know if the resources there were more so of those back then, but I think you look at it so from a a childhood standpoint. I I remember I was constantly involved in in sports or after school activities, neighborhoods were always having, you know, gatherings. So it always seemed like every weekend or every week there was something going on throughout, you know, the entire year. You know, being from Minnesota, the winter time's a little different. you're a little bit more limited with that. But I I feel like ⁓ there there is a little bit of a drop in overall sense of ⁓ community aspect. you know, just my short time living here even. So I I do think it's kind of decreased on what I've seen and what I've experienced over, you know, the last decade, ⁓ if not more. TRE: And and when you say ⁓ your short time of living here, do you mean on this earth? Because, you know, relatively we have been here for a relatively short amount of time, right? Are you talking about this world? Are you talking about the United States of America? Tim S: Well the the great state of Ohio, you know, great state of Ohio. TRE: There it is. There it is. Okay, I had to pull it out of you. You know what like worse here? Tim S: Yeah. That's true. It'd be there or over there. But it's right here. TRE: You know, it's right here. Right there, actually, because I'm not there and you're not here. you know, i it's kind of a weird thing to say here, there and everywhere, right? I'm here ⁓ and the I won't call it the great state. And ⁓ the only reason why I'm not going to call it the great state of California is because I'm not from California. it is a state, ⁓ I know that people that were born here probably think it's the great state of California. Me personally, Ohio is the great state of Ohio. ⁓ moving forward, you know, so ⁓ amount short amount of time that you've been there, you haven't seen as many. organizations are are you saying for children or are you saying for like yourself? Tim S: ⁓ adults, children, know, neighborhoods. I think the the big thing in neighborhoods, you know, growing up and even into early adulthood, you know, there was always stuff, there were always ⁓ you know, big gatherings, whether it was ⁓ you know, a festival ⁓ or know, some sort of like small thing that ⁓ occurred out there. But even like from a an actual like neighborhood standpoint. Like everyone got together. Like you'd have, you know, ⁓ fourth of ⁓ you know, fourth of July or ⁓ Memorial Day, you know, these different holidays, or even just on the weekends alone, you'd have the neighbors, you know, we lived in a cul-de-sac, so we would all get together in the summertime and, you know, swap out, you know, cooking out ⁓ or, know, ⁓ if had a pool would go over there and enjoy, you know, some time of that. So it just doesn't seem as prevalent and I don't know if it's just the areas that I've lived hidden here in Ohio over time that I haven't been exposed to it a whole lot. but even I I think on the adult aspect of it, I think there's been a decline ⁓ you know, those big social groups and gatherings that ⁓ you know, used to have and used to see all the time. TRE: Yeah. So so I will say, like, you know, even 'cause I grew up in Ohio, born and raised in Dayton, Ohio, all of my family, a good majority of my family, not all. I don't wanna say all my family is in Ohio, but the bulk of my family on my mother and my father's side are still in Ohio. And I remember, you know, growing up and there being ⁓ things like you know, the boys and girls club after school, we would go there, you know, right after school. You know, hey, w something for us to do is especially during the summertime. And and we would do that. I'm not even sure if that is a major organization as it used to be, like something that kids really aspired to try to go to. ⁓ I know there's the YMCA that's out there. But even I mean, is that really something that parents really take their kids to nowadays or that you hear them talking about, like after school events and stuff? ⁓ Tim S: So for me personally, you know, both our kids go to the Y. They they've taken swim lessons there. They've done, you know, athletic type of things throughout the the year there. ⁓ I will say that I did see a pretty large group of the boys and girls club at the Dayton Draken Stadium, I believe a weekend or two ago. so there was a huge ⁓ you know, group of that, but that was the first time I've really seen them out and about or or really kind of heard about it. But yeah, around here, you know, unless something's advertised or, you know, it's a word of mouth from other parents or other people, yeah, I I see a I see kids kind of just out and about on their own and instead of, you know, troving around in in large groups like we used to when I was growing up. TRE: Yeah. Hmm. Yeah, it's just curious to me, right? And you know, g going back to, you know, just that sense of community, you know, the military, ⁓ brotherhood and sisterhood that we had there in the military, right? Even ⁓ that seems to be just degraded just a little bit. ⁓ I mean, you have a stronger sense of community because of those military related facets, right? ⁓ you have different walks of life that are all brought in together to work towards a common goal, you know? The mission itself, mission focused, mission driven. I do s think that the Navy had a stronger sense of community than the Air Force. Okay, here we go, let's fight. know I'm gonna have someone who's gonna be like, ⁓ no, you know, the Air Force was so much better. Yes, you guys had better facilities, but we had better community. Would agree or disagree with that, Tim? Tim S: So as an ⁓ only ⁓ from the Air Force, and now you had a different experience of multiple branches. granted, you active duty navy and then we're over into the the only the reserve portion of the Air Force. I came from active duty Air Force, went over to the reserves. I will say from an active duty air force standpoint, there was a huge sense in community, at least like the time that I was in. I don't know how it is now. Because I haven't really spoken to a lot of them. but I think the the reserve and the guard, I think it makes a huge difference because these are people that have their regular jobs Monday through Friday throughout the week. And then once a month they come together for, you know, a 72-hour period to do whatever during a drill weekend. And then they leave and they go back to, ⁓ know, wherever it is. We had some that were from out of state or just out of the local area. ⁓ So they're just coming there to do their thing, get their their points and their time and and move on. Active duty, you're around each other constantly. You know, you're you know, whether you're working a six on, three off schedule or w you know, whatever your hours you're working, you deploy together, you you know, you're you're on that base, you know, if you're in the dorms or so I think from ⁓ my active duty air force, there's a a ⁓ a lot bigger of a sense of kind of that camaraderie in the community. ⁓ reserve and guard, not as much, at least from what I experienced in the the time that I was in over there. but I always ⁓ you know, assumed looking from the outside for the Navy, you guys are on ships, you know, out at sea, you guys are on subs, you know, it's different than us who are, you know, on a landlocked base all the time and have the freedom to kind of go do a lot more things versus you guys that are TRE: Mm. Mm-hmm. Tim S: out in the middle of the ocean for, you know, months up to a year at a time. So TRE: And having to depend on one another. So you know, so I I yeah, I maybe it it's all about perspective and and the the position that you're put in. you know ⁓ Tim S: Yeah. TRE: I'm glad to have actually have this conversation with you in regards to the difference between you know, active duty side of the Air Force, right? And then also the reserve side, because that's something that most people don't really think about is that, you know, it's only, ⁓ know, one week in a month, two weeks out the year, really, you know, or or ⁓ you have, you know, other types of workups or ⁓ that gets cut or whatever. so ⁓ pretty you have been thinking about self. Anyway, don't want to dive into it because I d I'm not trying to disparage any one side, you know, of either branch or anything like that. It was just my experience, right? it one team, one fight, and the branch ⁓ is the Yes, yes, I'm gonna go ahead and say it. I'm putting it out there in the Navy. You can sell the seven C's. In the Navy ⁓ I ⁓ Tim S: You beat me to it. Thank you. TRE: to do that because there's so many Navy jokes out there, you know. Y y y you have to you have to have fun with it and and make light of it. But you know, getting back to this whole point, you know Where I'm saying that organizations in that sense of community and camaraderie, it really does feel like it's been degraded a little bit or or degraded, if that's a better term to use. even though ⁓ like we're so much more connected. You know, i I just feel like everyone feels or at least I feel like we're more isolated in our in inside of our own silos than being connected, even though we're super connected with social media and such, right? How does that happen? And how how can we get over that feeling of being isolated? Tim S: Mm. TRE: We're gonna talk about this deeper. We're we're we're definitely going to jump into it and have an honest conversation in the full package. Because, you know, I mean, I know you have some thoughts on it, Tim. I know you do. I mean, we we talk about this pretty much all the time. I know you do. Tim S: No, absolutely. Yep. TRE: you know, the this whole online community versus real life relationships. One thing I notice right now is that you're wearing a shirt that I know ⁓ from a real life, you know, connected ⁓ community that's out there in cigar community. You might have, you know, dressed up very fancy with that same shirt at the Smoke in Florida. Tim S: Yeah. TRE: You might have done it. I don't know. I don't know. Maybe you could tell me more about that shirt. I know I've seen it before. Tim S: I c I could maybe fill you in a a little bit later. TRE: Okay. And you know, I I'm I'm wearing something from, you know, the area that I'm currently in right now. we're not sponsored by, you know, the Padres, ⁓ it is a Padres jersey because I'm here in San Diego and I have to support the community. and I said, we're gonna talk more and and dive deeper in how we can, in my ⁓ break this ⁓ So, I do want to try something a little bit different with you, Tim, okay. I'm going to give a rapid fire answer why think community is dying, okay? And I want to tell me which one do you feel personally is more at fault, know? Or if none of them are at fault. Just give me a quick reason why, okay? Do you think that it's technology, politics, work culture, or individualism? Tim S: Individualism. TRE: Mm. Okay. Okay. Yep. We're gonna dive into that because I think I have a different take on it. ⁓ know, ⁓ like to take this time to read a comment from one of our full package members. And this one comes by the way of Patreon from Crit G20, who says, I'm enjoying the chat so far. It's like Guy's Night, but asking the hard questions. Let's normalize this. Keep this going. And that's the thing. You know, we are more connected now than ever in history. And sometime, somehow, sorry about that. Sometimes, sometimes and somehow, we definitely feel a little bit lonelier. And, you know, we're gonna dive into why I think that is and why you might think it is and how we might be able to overcome it. And that's gonna be in the full package, which is now up and available on Patreon. We'll be talking about this and our perspectives. And if you have some thoughts out there, go ahead and leave a comment. if you haven't already done so, feel free to hit those like, subscribe, notification bell, and share it with someone who you believe will benefit in these conversations. But all, let's continue to learn, grow, and live together. Tim, do you have anything else to say before we transition? Tim S: Nope, we'll see you guys on the other side. TRE: See you guys on the other side.