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When Strangers Cheer Louder: Why Your Circle Stays Silent · J&B Live Podcast

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All right. Thank you guys for joining us this evening.
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Thank you for being a part of the J&B family.
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Before we get started, I want you to go ahead and drop your city and state and
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let us know where you're from.
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We've got an interesting topic for you. This is one that's probably going to,
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ruffle some feathers tonight. We're talking about why people support strangers,
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but won't support the people that they know.
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You know, some of you may feel the exact same way. You often get support from
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complete strangers instead of getting support from those you know.
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Particularly your family and your friends.
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Okay? So, welcome.
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Go ahead and drop that city and state, as I mentioned earlier.
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This is going to be another powerful episode of the JMU Live podcast.
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We're going to tackle conversations that people are thinking about,
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but sometimes they just hate to say it out loud, but we're going to say it out loud.
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So tonight we're discussing something that can affect entrepreneurs,
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families, it can affect friendships,
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the different relationships, whether it be family and friends,
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churches, creators and everyday people that are trying, they're out here trying,
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y'all, to build something meaningful.
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Have you ever noticed that sometimes the people that are closest to you will
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watch every single thing you
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do, see how hard you work, know exactly what you're trying to accomplish,
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but still never support you?
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It's a shame. It's like they say, it's a low-dying, dirty shame,
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yet complete strangers, people that you don't even know.
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Personally, will often support you in the biggest way.
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So why does this happen, people? Why did we not get support from those that
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are closest to us? Is it jealousy?
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Is it familiarity? Is it competition?
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It could be that they don't even want you to succeed, or is it simply human nature?
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Tonight, guys, Broker J3 and I are asking that uncomfortable question that everybody
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has experienced at some point in their lives.
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Why do strangers often support you more often than the people that know us best?
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Let's talk about it, Broker J3. All right. Welcome, everybody. Broker J3 here.
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As Doc B said, you know, that's an amazing topic that we're talking about today because.
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We realize, and I'm sure you guys do as well, a lot of people tend to support
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strangers, get support from strangers as well, more than they do from the people that they know.
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Me and Doc B know that firsthand. A lot of our day ones are not even our closest
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friends. Yeah. But nonetheless, let's talk about why does this happen so often?
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Dr. B, I think almost everybody listening tonight has experienced this,
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as I just said a moment ago.
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I think so. You start a business, you launch a project, you write a book,
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you create content, like me and Dr. B, and you chase your dream.
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And suddenly, people closest to you, they become very quiet.
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They don't even support you.
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And what makes this so frustrating is that these are the same people,
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guys. These are the same people that, you know, say they care about you or they'll
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use that term, they got you. You know, oftentimes they'll tell you that. They love you.
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They tell you that they support you. But when it comes time to actually show
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some support, guess what?
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Silence. You can hear a pin drop.
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That's exactly what they do, Doc B. You know, somebody can know you for 20 years,
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but never buy a single product that you sell.
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Never share any of your content that you post. Never attend any event that you
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have and that they've been invited to.
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And never tell anybody about what you're building.
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Now, one thing I can say about me broke day three. I'm going to get this out the way off the rails.
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I'm going to support everybody and I'm going to give everybody an opportunity.
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It's just like when somebody posts something, I don't mind sharing it because
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I know that I want somebody to support me. So I'm going to treat people like I want to be treated.
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Yes, I am. So let's think about this, guys. Sometimes you can have complete strangers online.
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It's like we got a lot of fans. I can name several of them that was supporting
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us day one back in and out, in and out.
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But, you know, family members, friends not tuning in.
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They don't know some of these strangers that we're talking about.
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They don't know our history.
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They don't know how we started. But somehow they see the value in what we do,
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faster than the people who have known us for years. Exactly, Dobby.
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Let me see the stand real quick, Dobby.
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Now, I think about familiarity, how it changes perception. You know,
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let's talk about how it changes perception.
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You know, sometimes people know us for so long that they stop seeing us grow.
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And I don't know if that's, you know, if you think that's what it is,
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you know, I think they may remember who we were.
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You know, they're looking at the past. Maybe some of them are looking at how
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we grew up. They still see us as a childhood friends or they remember us from back in the day.
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They do that instead of recognizing who we are becoming and how we're trying
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to grow. They don't see that part of us.
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And that's sad. I totally get you.
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Big shout outs to everybody that's joining us tonight make sure you guys drop
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your city and state in the comments and let us know where you guys are coming
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from we have a few people that done joined us verily maris.
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Sim all right thank you for joining us solomon mitchell thank you guys for being
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i think that's plug saying
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saying thank you for being a part of the jmb family we appreciate your support
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guys we may not be getting our family and friends support but
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we appreciate your support we really do so thank you so shout out to you tonight
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for those of you who are joining us drop your city in the comment your city
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and your state in the comment section for us okay all right guys so,
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and if you've ever felt unsupported by people close to you i want you to tap
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that screen let me know because i want you to know that you've experienced the
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same thing I have. If you've experienced.
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Not feeling supported by the people that are close to you. I want you to tap
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yes in the screen and let me know.
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All right. Sim said he's from Baltimore, Maryland. Hey, Sim.
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Welcome. 99 Lane Cornball.
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Okay, guys. Let us know if you've ever felt unsupported by people that are close
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to you. I'm talking about people who say they got you, but they don't support
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you at all. Yeah. But they got you, though. So tap that screen.
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Yeah. If I had a chance, I'd be just tapping like crazy right now.
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I would. It's tapping like crazy right now. Yeah.
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Anyway, guys, let's talk about the people watch. You know, we're talking about
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the people that watch you but never engage.
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You know, I'm going to tell a true story real quick, you know,
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on the same topic, believe it or not.
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I had a friend of mine. He used to be my best friend.
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And we parted ways probably about four years ago.
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He's just a low-down, dirty dog. I'm just going to put it like that without,
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you know, saying the wrong words.
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But I noticed the other day, you know, some apps, platforms letting you know
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who's watching you. Who's following you, yeah.
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And he's on my page. Okay.
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So, you know, of course, yes, I did block him. But it's just the fact that it
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just goes to show with this topic on this section that we're dealing with right
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now, how people watch, but they never engage.
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Let's talk about it, Doc B. Okay, let's talk about this social media.
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Yeah because this is where people really
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notice the pattern okay that's what we're talking about broker j3 so don't forget
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guys stop that city and state and let us know where you come where you're from
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i want to know we want to know where you're chiming in from okay
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so we can give you that special shout out sam i am and t and tj and johnny that's
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not the tj you were talking about i home,
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okay no that's somebody completely okay okay.
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All right, so this part right here, again, it's going to hit home for a lot
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of people. Yeah, because somebody can watch every single thing you post.
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And there's somebody out there, guys, believe me.
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You all know it. Yeah, there's somebody that's following you,
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that's watching every single thing that you do.
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They're looking at every single video, every live stream, every update,
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and they're looking at all of your successes. They're looking at it now.
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Now, they may not hit the like or the love or nothing, but they know what's
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going on with you. You better believe that.
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That's right. They sure do. But they never hit that like button, as Doc B said.
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Okay. Sam says, some people are in your corner, so they have a front row seat
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to see you. Yeah, that's true. To see you struggle. Yeah.
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And someone want to see you fall. Yeah. That's what they're saying.
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Oh, she ain't going to do nothing. Yeah. That's what they do sometimes.
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Okay, guys. But, you know, they never like, they never comment either.
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And they never share. They ain't sharing. And then guess what?
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They never engage. They never engage. I'm saying to myself, you could at least
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drop a heart or something. Yeah, but you know what? A like or something.
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This is what gets interesting right here. The same person will support complete
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strangers online every single day.
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People that they don't even know.
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That's what kills me, which makes people start asking a dangerous question.
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What question are they asking, Broker J. Why are you watching me but refusing to support me?
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Say it again, Broker J. Why are you watching me but refuse to support me?
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You know how many people come in the live and they'll sit there and watch,
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and some of them will be watching the whole episode. They don't tap that screen.
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They don't send a gift. They don't even comment, but they're there the whole time.
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You know, most of these platforms let you know the people that stay with you
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from the time you went live to the time you go off.
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So we see it so often. It's just so weird how that happens. Yeah.
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And then sometimes silence speaks louder than words. It really does.
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Because let's think about it. You know they're there, but they're there just
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watching and not seeing or not liking anything that you do.
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That's right. Okay, guys. So Tatiana, thank you for joining us.
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Real man, we appreciate you. Thank you for those gifts. We appreciate you.
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Thank you for following us We will follow you back And go ahead guys,
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Terminator Go ahead and drop.
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If this has happened to you before, guys, where you're not getting support,
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it could be anything that's going on in your life from the people that say they got you.
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I want to know. Yeah. And welcome, Real Man Backstage. Thank you so much for
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joining the J&B Live show.
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So have you guys ever had people close to you watch your journey but never support you?
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Put a yes in the comments if that happened to you. Let us see.
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Let us see. Put a yes in the comments.
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I probably had to put 10 yeses. I know, right? You know, that won't even scratch the surface of it.
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Okay, guys. So does success make people uncomfortable?
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Does really your success make people uncomfortable? I think that's what it is, Dot B.
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They don't want you listening to me. I think when you're succeeding past where
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they are, they tend to get to a certain point.
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Hold on this sounds like a this sounds like an interesting topic that a lot
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of people can relate to and sometimes you're absolutely right sim is this this,
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this topic hits home like we said for a lot of people because there are a lot
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of people that's on social media
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content a lot of people starting businesses and it is just so amazing
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because when you first start your business or start pushing your content the
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first thing you do is call your family and friends hey
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i got a podcast You know, this is when I'm live Please, you know,
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subscribe, join You know, the support Or better yet, guys, not just for social
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media It could be a new job I got a new job
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I got promoted You know, you want people
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that support you To be
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in your corner, guys That's what you really want,
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Okay, guys, so go ahead and drop that like, that share, and subscribe,
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and let us know what's going on with you guys.
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All right, you know, because, you know, some people, they want access to you,
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but they don't actually want to see you win.
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Go ahead, Broker J3. I can't believe that they don't want you to win.
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That's a powerful statement. Very, very powerful.
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But, you know, people celebrate you as long as they feel comfortable around you.
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But once your growth starts changing your life and you start surpassing them,
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some people get uncomfortable real fast.
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OK, guys, because your success forces people to look at their own choices.
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And that's sad to say, you know, I think people should support each other on
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in every different aspect.
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Just like for us, we've been talking about the podcast that we have and family
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and friends not getting the support. I have maybe one or two that may support me every now and then.
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But you ain't even got to listen to the episode you can turn it on you can listen
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to the audio it's several different things that you can do yeah you don't have
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a comment just listen to it turn it on yeah.
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And, you know, that's just how it is, Doc B. You know, your discipline becomes
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a reminder of their lack of discipline. That's really what it is, Doc B.
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Yeah, yeah. Okay, guys, so your consistency, guess what? It can become a reminder
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that they've stopped pursuing their own dreams.
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And that's sad because if they want to do something, they should pursue their
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dreams. But that doesn't mean that they can't support me.
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Yeah, but instead of celebrating your growth, Doc B, they distance themselves
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emotionally. Okay. And sometimes, guys, that support disappears when progress becomes visible.
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Just like, for instance, you know, even though we have a podcast,
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and I'm using that because that's the primary focus right now,
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they can even ask, how's your podcast going? They don't even ask.
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And Sim said, if it is a podcast, they can share it as well as word of mouth,
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best form of advertising.
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You know, let me tell you something, Sim. I totally agree with you.
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Like, here's an example.
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You know, me and Doc B, we're older people. You know, it's evident, you know.
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But we connect to a lot of people. Now, can you imagine some of our children,
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you know, the millennials that have so many people following them on their social platforms.
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It's amazing that you can't get the support from your own children to share the.
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You know, your live or to push your podcast out so more of their friends and followers can follow.
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And then, see, this is the key to it. Even if they don't really want to follow,
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but if they push it out, maybe their friends, family members would want to follow us.
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And, you know, what we talk about on our podcast. That could be embarrassing,
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Dr. B. Well, no, we don't care nothing about doing anything.
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No, no, no, no. That could be embarrassing. Can you imagine if you go over your
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friend's house and like, yeah, I just, I just saw your uncle's podcast.
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It was fire, man. Did you see the episode when they was talking about it?
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Yeah, well, that's embarrassing because they're not watching it.
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They're not watching it, so they don't know anything. Yeah, but not only do
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we discuss, we have topics that relate to 50 and over, but we have topics that
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relate to everyone, that everybody can get involved in and engage in.
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So it's not age-specific at this time.
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And actually, guys, our demographics or our analytics actually show that our
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audience is actually from age 25 to 45.
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Now, we do have older people that watch us, but from 25 to 45,
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that's our core audience. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's true. That is true.
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So, you know, we're just sharing with you guys because we're talking about.
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You know, why we don't get the support.
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But some of you may be experiencing other things. it doesn't necessarily have
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to be social media podcasts or whatever it could be anything else in your life
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that's going on but you're not getting that support from the your loved ones
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the ones that say that they love you and the ones that are always talking about
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they got you that's what they usually love to use all the time but they don't
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got you they don't have you they don't they're not supporting you because
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they're not re and you know,
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involved in your rejoicing in your accomplishments. I'm going to use that term.
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Or they're not supporting you and try to help build your content.
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I'll be real quick saying get a little plug and plug your thing up real quick.
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If I had a chance before we get to the next section, why do we celebrate celebrities
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more than people we know?
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Yeah, it's over on the side, I'll be. Okay.
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Yeah. urgent. No, for your laptop. For your laptop.
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Yeah. Alright, guys. Give us just a... It's on the floor, baby.
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Just give us just... No, no, no. No, no. Just give us... You have to go around.
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Give us just a moment, guys.
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Apparently, one of our laptops' battery is going low. We realized we didn't
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have it plugged up, so we don't want to disappear on you guys.
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So we appreciate you know your support all right guys thank you so much uh,
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for that short technical break all right so anyway again dot v so let's get
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into again why do we celebrate,
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celebrities more than the people that we actually know let's talk about that
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okay let's ask the question why do people spend money,
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supporting several celebrities every single day yeah i don't know you know if
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a celebrity is marketing a particular product listen they're gonna buy it listen
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dot b i don't i don't been on vigo i don't been on on on tiktok,
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and i've seen where you had celebrities that came on,
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and people are sending,
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uh uh gifts they're they're they're they're sending trophies they They're sending
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all kind of gifts that's flying all across the screen for these people that's rich.
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They got plenty of money already.
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They may never even see these people in person, ever.
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But the people that they know, they don't send them anything.
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You'll be lucky if they even tap the screen. I know, right? You know,
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but they won't support the local people they personally know.
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And that's what the issue is, Dot B. And just think about it, Broker J3.
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People buy concert tickets all the time they buy these tickets to get in these
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clubs 30 and 40 dollars just to get in the club okay yeah seeing say in today's
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time i think people spend more time
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on their phone than they do with people they know yeah you're right sim you
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know it's funny because we actually talked about that in about two podcast episodes
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that we had so you need to make sure that you go to
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at live with jmb on youtube sim.
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And subscribe because we have so much content i think you would absolutely love
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some of our content that's there and you're right dr b and they'll buy these,
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expensive merchandise and tickets and stuff like that,
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and then they support million dollar brands these people already got plenty
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of money but you won't even spend money on us
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or your family and friends to support them they buy all them products and don't
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mention them designer bags don't mention that now you don't want me to go there
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they buy all them products from
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them uh influencers yeah yeah they sure do and don't let them see the newest
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trend on tiktok they're gonna buy that too
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okay but won't spend ten dollars.
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Supporting somebody that they personally know and this is sad guys and like
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i said this is going to hit somebody some of you may be in that category when you're doing that
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but we're just keeping it real we're keeping it real raw and relevant and we're
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telling the truth it is what it is and i'm not gonna lie,
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you know i support family members that don't necessarily support me the same,
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now i may go to their their site they may be live i'll throw them some gifts
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You know, tap the screen as much as I can and I might be gone.
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But I support because I know what they're trying to do.
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Now, I do have some family members. They're like my day ones.
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Yeah, they are. He does. They're always going to be there. And if they realize
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we are live, they are going to jump on live to make sure they support.
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You know, one of our supporters, Miss Empowered, if she was available right
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now, if she was live, she'd be our number one gift supporter.
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Because she tries to make sure that nobody outdo's her every time that she's
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online with J&B Live. And, you know, those are the kind of things that make
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you say, OK, I appreciate it. Thank you so much, you know.
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And that's why what Sam just said is this is why black businesses are struggling
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because black people just don't know how to support black people.
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They just don't do a good job of it.
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And if we were to use our buying power, especially black women.
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Especially black women, We could control the narrative every single time.
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At one time, our communities held its own.
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We bought from each other. You may have,
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a barter you may have a korean a hair store or or a chinese restaurant in your
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neighborhood and you'll go support them,
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they may cuss you out talk trash to you but you'll keep going back buying that
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food buying the hair buying the products
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but then when a black person opens up a shop nail shop or whatever oh y'all
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too expensive oh y'all this here but you you want a discount from the black
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people but you'll go to the nail shop and pay 120 for your nail for your feet and nails, but,
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if the black shop told you, hey, $100, can you give me a discount?
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You know, we don't support each other like we really should.
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And, you know, hopefully we'll get back on track on that one day. Yeah, I hope so.
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And a lot of people say that they don't do that because black prices are too high.
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But just imagine if we all bought from black-owned businesses,
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that would bring the price down.
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You know, the thing is, sometimes people value popularity.
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More than the relationship they have with people. And then people get impressed
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by status rather than by substance.
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That's what's happening to a lot of us. That kind of mindset,
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Dr. B, it destroys communities. Yeah, so we've got people watching from all
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over tonight, guys. So we thank you guys for joining us, Sim.
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We appreciate your gifts. We appreciate your comments.
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We need everyone, Skeleton Archer, to join in on this conversation. We got visitor.
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We got one in a million. Welcome back. So we need you guys to drop those comments
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because they do affect the algorithm. So, Brian, let us know what you're thinking.
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Keep those comments coming, guys, because we want to hear from you.
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And don't forget to drop that city and state.
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Yeah, we appreciate it, guys. Hey, we love the comments you guys are giving
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tonight. We appreciate the interaction. Thank you guys so much.
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So if this conversation is hitting you, you know, hit that share button right
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now because somebody needs to hear this discussion.
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We really appreciate it. And shout outs to our top gifters.
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So, you know, guys, you know how J&B Live has been doing it since day one.
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We support our top gifters. So make sure everybody that's in the live right
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now, go to the top of the screen, hit that top gifter button,
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and make sure you follow.
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We like to make sure that we support our top gifters and help them to grow their
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communities as well. So now let's get into this.
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Let's get into this. Stop expecting support from everybody. Yep.
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We know that. That's what you're going to have to do because you're going to
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realize no matter what you do, whether it's a business or whether you,
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you know, you got a new place, you know, whether you, you know,
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you became a content creator.
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You're going to realize, hey, everybody's not going to support you.
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So stop expecting that support from everybody. Everybody not going to bask in
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your accomplishments. They're not going to be happy for you. I don't care who it is.
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Everybody is just not happy for you. Everybody not happy when you succeed. Yeah.
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That's the part of life. And Sim, you're right.
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Those companies, they take from our community and they don't give back.
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Yeah. You know, you won't see them shopping at our shops.
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That's right. You won't see them coming to our stores.
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Yeah. They will not spend money in our neighborhood. They'll go spend it in
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theirs, but not ours. You're so right about that. And then this is what gets
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me now. I'm just telling you guys, I told y'all we're keeping it real.
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You know, I love to get my nails done. What average female, black female,
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don't like to get her nails done?
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All nationalities, really. But I'm speaking particularly about the black female
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because we known for getting our nails done.
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We get our nails done by the Asians most of the time to have the nail shops.
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But guess what? They live in.
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In a rich area while most of us are struggling. And their shops are in poor areas.
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And be in poor areas, but some of them in nice neighborhoods as well.
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But the key to that is they're not pouring back into your community.
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They're not doing that, Dobby. They're not doing that. You know,
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I've learned something important over time, you know.
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And it's you really, again, like this particular section talks about,
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you really have to stop expecting support from everybody.
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You know, it don't matter whether
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it's family, friends, or people that you think love you or support you.
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You have to stop expecting that and just tell yourself, I'm going to keep doing
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this regardless, regardless who supports me.
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Okay, guys. So I want you to explain exactly, go into a little bit more detail about that. Okay.
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Well, first of all, you have to stop building expectations, Dot B,
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around people simply because they know you. Yeah. You know, just because somebody
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is family, it doesn't mean that they understand your vision or even want to
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be a part of it. Yeah. They don't really know.
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And just because somebody is your friend doesn't mean they value what you're
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trying to do. They don't, they don't, they may not value what you're trying
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to build. Of course not, Dr. B.
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And disappointment comes when they expect loyalty simply because of a relationship
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title. Oh, that's my cousin.
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Oh, that's my brother. Oh, that's my uncle. That's my auntie.
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Well, that's what gets me, Broker J3.
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You building, and then they didn't support you while you're on your way to the top.
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But once you get to the top, then where they at?
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Yeah. Then they claim, that's my cousin. I did this and I did.
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Ain't did nothing support you along the way.
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Why don't you put me on your podcast? You know, we network now.
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Why don't you put me on your podcast?
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Yeah, but they want to glorify. They want to be a part of your accomplishment
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or your success when you get to the top.
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But they help you build nothing. And this is what gives me something.
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And sometimes strangers become your tribe faster than your family. And Sim said that.
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Sim says, someone said, families and friends won't support you until they see
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strangers celebrating.
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And that is so true that that that is so true
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oh gosh sim you hit it on them that's why we're having this conversation today
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support is not always connected to proximity that means that it doesn't matter
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whether people are close to you or not
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support don't necessarily come from the people that are the closest to you well
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you know i've said it on another podcast episode,
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Okay, guys, this is one of the very important lessons of life.
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That a lot of people can't digest. Sometime your people that you don't know,
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that's not a part of your family, can be closer to you and treat you better than your own family.
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I'm just keeping it real. I hate to break that down to some people,
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but some people have probably already experienced that in their lives.
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But some people are closest. I have some friends that are just as close to me as a sister.
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Yeah. Sometimes it does not necessarily mean that you have to be blood for somebody
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to treat you well. It's powerful. Sometimes they treat you better than your
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own family. It's powerful.
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Yeah. OK, guys. So that's a lesson that people learn painfully,
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unfortunately. OK, so let's let's get into this.
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So let's. So even though we know that people are not going to support us.
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Everybody ain't in your corner, right? Regardless of whether how close we think
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they are or related, whatever the case may be. What do we do after that?
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So, guys, ask yourself, so what do people do when support never comes?
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What if that support never comes from that family or friends that say they love
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you and say that they got you?
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You have to keep building anyway, Doc B. You got to. You can't stop.
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You have to keep building. You cannot stop because your family and friends do
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not support you. You cannot stop your dream, your vision, because your family,
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your friends do not support your vision. Okay.
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Even when your family and friends, they stay silent. They don't say nothing.
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Keep building. They don't do no likes. Keep building.
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No shares. No subscribe. No heart. Keep building.
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Even when nobody shares your work. Keep building. Okay.
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Why? Why broken track? Why must we keep building? Because sometimes success
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is built by strangers who simply believe in your value.
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In your value before people close to you ever do.
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And that's a shame, but that is the truth. So guys, never stop simply because
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support doesn't come from the expected places. Those expected places are your family and friends.
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If they don't support you, you keep moving. You keep it moving and you keep
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building and you stay focused. That's right, Dobby.
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Keep moving into the right people. Find what you built.
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That's exactly right. So guys, we had a real engaging conversations.
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I'm so glad you guys stuck around for this conversation.
30:51
So shout out to every entrepreneur out there. Shout out to all of you creators,
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business owners. We got ministry leaders and dream chasers. Those of you who
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just recently got promoted for whatever reason. Say this and you bought your new house.
31:06
Keep building. Keep it moving. Don't worry about them haters that's not supporting
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you. That's right, guys. And if nobody told you today,
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J&B Live is telling you right now, keep going.
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Keep going. Keep it moving, guys. Don't stop. Don't stop. Okay,
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guys, tonight's conversation reminds us.
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It's very important to me. This is one of the episodes that really touched me and it hit home.
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You know, when we bring you these topics, like I said, we believe in keeping
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it raw, real, and relevant.
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But guess what, guys? it's a learning process for us. And sometimes, guess what?
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We get hit too. We get hurt too because of the fact that we see ourselves in this conversation.
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And we fall victim to some of this in the process.
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So it's not all about educating you, but it's about us growing as well.
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So guess what, guys? It reminds us that support does not always come from those
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familiar places. The one that love us, the ones that we think should have our
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back or say they have our back.
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We should see value because they remember old versions of who we used to be.
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But that should never stop our progress, guys.
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Learn to appreciate those genuine supporters, no matter where they come from.
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Guys, I want you to continue building. I want you to continue growing and never
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allow Disappointment to kill your purpose Stay in the game guys,
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Keep building Keep growing I just totally agree with everything you just said
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guys Sim says sometimes with family And friends and even strangers They may
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want to support Can't support at that time You know what,
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we totally understand But I'm going to show you,
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If you had somebody That was on live right now And said he couldn't send a gift,
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You know, you know what they can do that's free? They can tap that screen. Yep.
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You know what they can do that's free? Share. They can share the lie, you know?
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So it's things that they can do, but they just don't.
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If you have an opportunity to do something that's free and you don't do it,
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you know, you can't tell me, well, I didn't have any money to send you anything.
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Well, of course, you didn't have any money to send me anything,
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but you didn't tap the screen.
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You didn't share the lie. you know and these these uh these platforms they show
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us who share the line yeah they show us who like they show us who's tapping
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the screens so if you tell me i ain't got no money so i couldn't i couldn't uh you know,
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send you a gift but i didn't see you tap the screen yeah and guess what broker day three sometime
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and i'm just gonna add this before your final thoughts the uh hearts and some
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of the gifts that they may give they ain't but like a couple of dollars not even that.
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Much not even that much most of the people that own these platforms already
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know that most of them gives not even,
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at all that much money you know and it's just so strange because here's an example today,
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today our top gifter is Sim he's our top gifter today I think let me let me,
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let me see Sim is our top gifter today Sim is our top gifter,
34:23
today is sim's first time joining
34:24
us yeah i don't remember ever seeing sim before today he joined us today,
34:29
he followed us and then he just told us live with jmb and he's gonna subscribe,
34:36
now he said he was gonna do that we've never seen sim before and he's our top
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gifter today but yet we have family and friends that had that that don't have
34:46
subscriptions which are free come,
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on now They said, come on, y'all.
34:51
So here's my final talk. Let me take a drink real quick.
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Okay, here's my final thought, guys. You know, I want everybody that's listening
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tonight to remember one thing.
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Stop measuring your worth by who refuses to support you.
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Sometimes people closest to you are not aligned to help or build your future.
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Strangers may become the biggest supporters because they see something valuable.
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Before familiar people recognize it.
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Keep working, you know, keep growing, keep believing.
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And understand that silence from others, it does not mean failures, guys.
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Sometimes it simply means that your journey requires a different audience.
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Oh, God, I like that last one. I like that last one.
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Meaning it requires a different audience. Okay, Rob Jones says, are you two preachers?
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No Rob I am a retired educator I say this Rob you know it's strange that you
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say that you know my father is a preacher so,
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oh lord oh lord I'm trying to tell you it is what it is that's funny Rob though
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take another drink Rob that's funny.
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Okay guys thank you thank you this has been a powerful episode.
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This was a learning experience for me. I hope you guys learned a lot as well.
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It's all about, for me, it's about growing. This is why we decided to do this
36:36
podcast, because we wanted to empower and engage others.
36:40
In the process, we wanted to learn ourselves. And this is one of the episodes
36:46
I mentioned earlier, guys, that hit home for me. I learned a lot.
36:49
And it's not always learning about other people. It's also learning about self.
36:55
This is what you're doing. You're protecting self. You want peace.
36:58
And sometimes when you know better, you do better. Yeah. Okay.
37:01
And guys, I can contest Dot B, you know, when we, you know, was talking about
37:08
the podcast, putting it together, you know, she was not ready to do it.
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I wouldn't say this. No, let me take that back. It's not that she wasn't ready.
37:19
It's just, it just wasn't something that she was thinking about doing.
37:23
It's a priority. She's been used to talking to literally thousands of college
37:28
students on a college campus without a thought in mind.
37:33
But when it came to seeing herself, you know, on that screen and in front of
37:38
thousands of people, you know, that just wasn't her thing.
37:41
But as you guys see, you know, Dot B, Ben Pat, came out of that shell a long time ago.
37:48
I hear you. A long time ago she came out of that shell. So, nonetheless,
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39:18
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