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Walking the Razor’s Edge - Hypnosis for Handling Conflict with Strength and Clarity · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here and you're about to listen to a hypnosis
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  session all about dealing with conflict and unfortunately in
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  the world not everyone is good-natured and agreeable.
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  Some people like to take advantage of others, some people
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  like to exploit, some people like to argue.
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  And having the skills and the ability to deal with difficult
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  people in situations is quite useful.
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  And it's a fine line because if you are too agreeable with pushy
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  people, you become a walkover. And if you become
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  confrontational, things can escalate.
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  So this uses a metaphor of a mountain of a razor's edge, a
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  very narrow, almost rocky precipice that could go either
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  way, to highlight that there is a sweet spot where you can get
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  the best of both worlds. That you can hold yourself to
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  high standards, that you can have confidence in your own
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  abilities, that you can have boundaries, that you don't have
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  to be pushed around. And that's a very, very healthy
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  way to deal with conflict, to know that you don't have to say
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  yes, that you can have other options and you can stand your
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  ground and state your own perception on things.
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  So if you like the idea of feeling more confident, if
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  generally you avoid conflict and that has had negative
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  consequences for you from being averse to conflict, or if you
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  just want to feel more confident generally in your life and your
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  future. Because this was created for a
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  client that was going to be moving from one part of the
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  world to a different part of the world and they wanted to feel
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  that they had all the resources to make that transition.
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  This session might be for you. Now, if you want something more
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  bespoke about you and your situation, have a look in the
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  description or my website, adamcox.co.uk and there you'll
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  be able to schedule a consultation call with me.
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  For now, though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be distracted or disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the. Session Take a deep breath in,
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  and as you breathe in, breathe in a feeling of freshness, of
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  energy, of resourcefulness. And as you exhale, give
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  permission to release. As you slow down that outward
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  breath, give permission to let go of any feelings of
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  frustration, anger, or uncertainty.
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  Just allow it to melt away and leave your body as tiny crystals
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  of ice melting into the atmosphere, breathing in
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  relaxation and exhaling tension. Each breath takes you to the
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  next level of depth, deeper down to a place where change can take
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  place in wonderful and positive ways.
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  And when you breathe in, breathe in for deeper.
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  And as you breathe out, allow the body to settle.
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  Not by forcing relaxation, just by allowing that whatever
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  tension is there, you can let go of that tension.
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  And each outward breath allows a little more to let go with each
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  breath. And sometimes the mind becomes
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  busy, especially when life is in transition.
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  Loose ends, unfinished conversations, perhaps potential
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  or unresolved conflicts. And every now and then there are
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  situations that feel unfair, times when someone else's
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  behaviour reveals something about them.
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  But perhaps you would never choose to become yourself.
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  There are Silver Linings because moments like these are also
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  thresholds. And there are points in life
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  where a person moves from 1 chapter into another.
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  And sometimes that's at a key milestone, like a certain
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  birthday or a new year, or moving from one place to live to
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  another. And with your eyes closed, just
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  feel the heaviness of your eyelids getting heavier and more
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  relaxed. And I wonder if you can imagine
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  something familiar to you. Not a house, not an apartment.
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  I want you to imagine perhaps something familiar from a dream
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  or a thought or an idea. I want you to imagine wearing
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  clothing that is warm and finding yourself high up in the
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  mountains of the Pyrenees. Imagine walking on the border
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  between France and Spain. Perhaps you can imagine rocky
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  paths, peaks, valleys, snow and ice, and sometimes high up
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  lakes. This is the kind of place where
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  people walk for days at a time. But I want you to imagine you
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  have the stability of a mountain goat as you walk there high up
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  in the mountains. I want you to connect without
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  feeling of stability and yet feel that you are moving forward
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  to a clear destination. And every now and then, just
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  allow yourself to follow a trail.
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  Explore what you explore and then return to your route that
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  moves you forward. And I want you to imagine
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  sensations there in the mountains.
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  Imagine feeling the wind, the quiet, the vastness of it all.
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  And perhaps you can imagine walking alongside one of those
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  mountain paths and notice any insights, thoughts or feelings
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  that arise because some sections of a mountain are wide and easy
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  and other sections narrow. Almost like walking along a
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  Ridge, a thin path between two slopes.
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  But feel the stability of that mountain goat.
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  Connect with feeling balanced, focused, present.
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  That's it. Connect with a feeling of
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  absolute stability, even though you are walking on a path that
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  some people call the Razor's edge.
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  Not dangerous for someone who walks carefully with that
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  stability. Not frightening for someone who
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  understands balance. Because the razor's edge is
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  simply the place where clarity and confidence lives.
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  The place where a person walks forward without being pulled by
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  anger on one side or the resignation of that weak
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  acceptance on the other. Just steady, balanced.
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  And as you imagine walking along this mountain path, you might
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  notice that earlier in the journey, there were moments of
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  frustration, moments where anger appeared.
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  And maybe that anger was about unfairness, someone's behavior,
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  being unreasonable, disrespectful, entitled, or just
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  exploitative. And when someone tries to take
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  advantage, any anger sometimes is reasonable.
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  Because anger is not weakness. Anger can be energy.
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  When something you value is being violated, something you
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  hold to be true is being misconstrued or exploited,
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  perhaps the mind's way of saying something matters.
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  Something deserves protection. And the problem about anger is
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  never anger itself. The emotion is fine.
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  It can only be a problem with what people do with that anger.
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  Some people explode with it, and some people suppress it.
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  I want you to tap into the third option.
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  The third option is discipline, because a person walking along a
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  mountain Ridge doesn't waste energy shouting at the wind, and
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  they don't allow themselves to just fall.
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  They simply place the next step carefully, steadily forward, and
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  as you continue walking along this Ridge, give permission to
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  feel a change. That anger that once felt heavy,
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  anger that led you to feeling unbalanced begins to transform.
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  And not disappearing, just transforming.
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  Like a fire that once burned wildly being placed inside a
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  furnace field of focus. The energy being contained,
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  harnessed and useful. That fire of anger now becomes
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  clarity, strength, resolve and boundaries.
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  Because dealing with difficult or entitled people doesn't
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  require rage. It requires structure, evidence,
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  sometimes documentation, or calm confidence with a quiet
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  knowledge and belief that truth still matters.
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  What's true is more important than what someone believes.
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  And as you continue walking along the Ridge, the razor's
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  edge, notice that behind you is the place you are, leaving that
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  apartment with space you never used, the landlord causing
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  difficulty, the conflict or tension.
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  And as you think back from this vantage point, something becomes
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  clear. That chapter of your life was
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  never meant to be permanent. It was simply a crossing point,
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  a stepping stone, perhaps. A place where you learned about
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  resilience, about fairness, that you achieve something
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  magnificent that you had set out to do.
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  Publishing a book and making it available to the world.
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  All of that matters. But you also learned about how
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  to stand your ground without losing your balance, without
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  resorting to unnecessary anger or rage.
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  The feeling is fine if it's harnessed in the right way and
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  ahead of you. Now the path begins to widen the
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  razor's edge. The Ridge opens into a valley, a
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  new place, a new home. Not just physically, but
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  energetically. Because when someone moves
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  homes, they aren't only changing walls and furniture, they're
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  changing the atmosphere and the very ambience of their life.
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  A wonderful reset, a recalibration, a lighter
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  chapter. And as you begin walking toward
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  that new place, maybe you notice how the body feels lighter,
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  clearer, less entangled. Because you realize you don't
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  need to carry resentment or frustration into the next
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  chapter. You can carry something far more
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  powerful. Self respect, inner strength,
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  the ability to say that I'm compassionate, but I am no
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  pushover. I am fair, but I am not weak.
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  I can understand people without allowing them to take advantage
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  of me. And that balance is the razor's
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  edge. And perhaps you can imagine
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  arriving at the front door of your new apartment.
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  The door opens, a blank canvas, a clean slate, the ability to
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  make it exactly as you wanted. Because when a space is empty,
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  it can be designed intentionally, just like a new
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  phase of life where you decide what belongs there and what gets
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  left behind, what energy enters, what habits grow, what seeds
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  you're planting to bear fruit in the future.
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  And as you imagine walking around that space, notice how
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  calm it feels. This move is not a retreat or a
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  set back. It's a transition, a step
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  forward, and with the money you save, you create freedom,
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  adventures and travel. And when you travel to those
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  places in Japan or Switzerland, it will come from a place of
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  discernment. You chose this to facilitate
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  what you value more and as you allow yourself to feel that you
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  are on the brink of a new chapter, an empowering phase, a
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  springboard into wonderful new opportunities, it's time to
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  return. And you return with all of those
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  resources coming with you. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 Waking up 456 more alert 7-8 Open your
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  eyes, open your eyes 910 Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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