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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: You Are Strong, You Are Capable, You've Got This · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hi, Emily, it's ken. I just want to say good
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  Speaker 1: luck in the half tomorrow. I'll be reading for you.
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  Speaker 2: I registered my ten year old in the kids race
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  Speaker 2: for tomorrow, and we went out today to practice the
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  Speaker 2: one point five k and as we rounded up this hill,
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  Speaker 2: he turned to me and he said, I am strong,
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  Speaker 2: I am capable. This run is going to be great,
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  Speaker 2: and I was so happy. I wanted to share that
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  Speaker 2: with you. I have a picture of you with that
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  Speaker 2: mantra from one of your instagrams taped in my closet,
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  Speaker 2: so I love that he conjured up his my mantra
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  Speaker 2: from my closet for our hurdle moment together.
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  Speaker 3: Like, honestly, how could I not start five Minute Friday
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  Speaker 3: with that story.
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  Speaker 4: I am sitting here in the AG studio in my feelings.
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  Speaker 4: You all know who it is. It's Emily here, just.
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  Speaker 3: Looking out my gloomy window, reflecting on a crazy week
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  Speaker 3: and I am just having so many yeah, so many feelings.
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  Speaker 3: I ran a half marathon last weekend. It was a
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  Speaker 3: great time, and not just an actual great time and
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  Speaker 3: that it's the fastest I've ever run a half marathon,
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  Speaker 3: but it was a great time because I went into
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  Speaker 3: last week weekend. I went into last weekend wanting to
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  Speaker 3: have fun and focused on fun of time. Talked about
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  Speaker 3: this briefly on the show before, but my biggest takeaway
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  Speaker 3: from the New York Marathon last year was that I
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  Speaker 3: wasn't in it for what felt like the right reasons
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  Speaker 3: in the moment. In the moment, I was so wrapped
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  Speaker 3: up in pace and worried about performance that I forgot
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  Speaker 3: why it is that I toe the line in the
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  Speaker 3: first place. I run because of the feeling that it
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  Speaker 3: gives me, and because it's a reminder that I am capable,
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  Speaker 3: and because of the community and so many things, and
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  Speaker 3: because I wasn't focused on that stuff. I like, look
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  Speaker 3: back on that experience and I'm proud of me. But
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  Speaker 3: I learned because now that I know better, I can
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  Speaker 3: do better. And so I went into what felt like
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  Speaker 3: this fun opportunity last weekend with the mindset that fun
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  Speaker 3: was priority number one. If quote unquote running fast wasn't fun,
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  Speaker 3: then that's not what I wanted to do last Saturday.
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  Speaker 3: What I wanted to do last Saturday, it was go
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  Speaker 3: out and have a good time with my city. That's
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  Speaker 3: what I wanted to do, and that's exactly what I did,
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  Speaker 3: and it all paid off. I feel like I've been
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  Speaker 3: rambling about this for three minutes and twenty seconds and
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  Speaker 3: that's not actually what I came to talk to you
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  Speaker 3: about today, So I digress five minute Friday here.
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  Speaker 4: I am. What I actually really want to.
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  Speaker 3: Wrap about here today is abundance and manifestation, and I
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  Speaker 3: totally understand that this is one of those things that
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  Speaker 3: can feel really fluofy.
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  Speaker 4: I think that's a real word. I'm going to use
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  Speaker 4: it here.
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  Speaker 3: But lately, there are a lot of things that are
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  Speaker 3: going on in my life that are beyond my control.
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  Speaker 3: A prime example of this would be something like my
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  Speaker 3: rent going up by an exorbitant amount of money.
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  Speaker 4: Long sigh.
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  Speaker 3: I am not leaving this apartment. I worked way too
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  Speaker 3: hard to put together. I'm happy here, and so I
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  Speaker 3: tried to counter the rent moment. It didn't work, And
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  Speaker 3: now I am just accepting that this is something that's
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  Speaker 3: happening in my life, and I am going to come
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  Speaker 3: into a circumstance by doing the things that are within
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  Speaker 3: my control to make this work for me. Sitting here
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  Speaker 3: and worrying about the things that I can do absolutely
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  Speaker 3: nothing about.
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  Speaker 4: Does me no good.
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  Speaker 3: And it was interesting, right because instead of sitting here
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  Speaker 3: angry about the rent thing, it was as if magic
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  Speaker 3: happened yesterday and opportunities that I didn't expect started to
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  Speaker 3: come my way. And I'm not saying that I'm going
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  Speaker 3: to sit down at my desk every day and there
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  Speaker 3: are going to be like dollar signs in my inbox,
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  Speaker 3: but it was one of those days where things just
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  Speaker 3: kind of started rolling. Granted, for every like one of
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  Speaker 3: those days, there's a zillion days that doesn't happen.
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  Speaker 4: I feel the need to reiterate that again, But you
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  Speaker 4: just got to trust.
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  Speaker 3: So I continually ask myself, how can these situations that
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  Speaker 3: are beyond my control?
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  Speaker 4: How can I make them work for me?
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  Speaker 3: Another really good example of where I had to come
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  Speaker 3: into this mindset understanding that these things in my life
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  Speaker 3: that might be difficult are happening to work in my favor.
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  Speaker 3: I was trying to get a doctor's appointment last month,
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  Speaker 3: and after finally securing one, the day of the appointment.
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  Speaker 4: I got a call that the doctor had to cancel.
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  Speaker 3: And oh my god, if you saw me sitting in
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  Speaker 3: this exact spot when that happened, I was beside myself,
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  Speaker 3: just in tears, so frustrated at the system and how
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  Speaker 3: much money I pay for health insurance that feels like
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  Speaker 3: it does.
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  Speaker 4: Nothing for me.
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  Speaker 3: And I was texting with someone and she asked me
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  Speaker 3: that question, why do you think that maybe this is
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  Speaker 3: happening for you in that moment? Well, in retrospect, now,
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  Speaker 3: that moment led me to joining one medical here in
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  Speaker 3: New York. I ended up being able to get in
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  Speaker 3: same day to see a doctor. Now I've seen that
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  Speaker 3: doctor twice and I really like her. I feel like
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  Speaker 3: it was all supposed to happen this way, but in
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  Speaker 3: the moment, it can be extremely frustrating when it feels
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  Speaker 3: like the world is out to get you. So circling
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  Speaker 3: back on this idea of manifestation and understanding that life
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  Speaker 3: can happen for you if you open yourself up to possibility,
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  Speaker 3: I encourage you to maybe do some thinking about how
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  Speaker 3: you can be proactive instead of reactive. How can you
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  Speaker 3: put more trust in what's going on in your day
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  Speaker 3: to day, and how can you feed what it is
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  Speaker 3: that you really want into the world so that you
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  Speaker 3: open up the pathway for these things to come back
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  Speaker 3: to you.
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  Speaker 4: Again.
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  Speaker 3: I know it's a little flufy, but I feel as
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  Speaker 3: though when I have started to surrender her a little
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  Speaker 3: bit more lately and trust the process and be upfront
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  Speaker 3: with myself and trust so that the things that I
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  Speaker 3: am doing that are within my control are enough. Things
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  Speaker 3: I've started to seem like they're working out a little
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  Speaker 3: bit for me in that way, and it feels really good.
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  Speaker 3: So my prompt for you this week, what's something that
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  Speaker 3: maybe you can reframe in your life right now that
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  Speaker 3: is happening for you instead of to you. What is
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  Speaker 3: something that maybe you can reframe in your life right
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  Speaker 3: now that is happening for you instead of to you?
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  Speaker 4: And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, Emily, this is Steph. I'm a huge fan of
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  Speaker 1: the podcast and I wanted to let you know how
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  Speaker 1: much you've helped me overcome hurdles even in sports outside
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  Speaker 1: of running. One of the many things I admire about
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  Speaker 1: you is your mental strength, and so my question for
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  Speaker 1: you is how do you build that mental strength and
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  Speaker 1: endurance needed to be an athlete through all the ups
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  Speaker 1: and downs and triggers that you may go through. It
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  Speaker 1: may be easy to have a setback, but how do
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  Speaker 1: you build that mental strength and maintain it in a sport?
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  Speaker 1: Especially if it's competitive. Is there anything that you do,
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  Speaker 1: or that you read, or maybe that you say to
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  Speaker 1: yourself that can help you maintain it for the long run.
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  Speaker 1: Any advice or tips would be helpful. Thank you so much,
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  Speaker 1: appreciate it.
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  Speaker 3: What's going on, staph. It's always good to hear your voice.
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  Speaker 3: Mental strength in sport. Mental strength in sport is a muscle.
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  Speaker 3: Your mind is a muscle just like your calves, your biceps,
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  Speaker 3: your quads, and that muscle grows with exercise. That muscle
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  Speaker 3: grows when you work it. So when it comes to
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  Speaker 3: building fortitude and strength to push through hard moments, that's
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  Speaker 3: not something that's just going to happen overnight, although I
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  Speaker 3: think a lot of us wish that it worked that way.
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  Speaker 3: What I've learned through all of the tough moments that
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  Speaker 3: I've gone through is that these moments happened to teach
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  Speaker 3: me something, And when you approach future tough moments with
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  Speaker 3: that understanding and with that mindset, then you know when
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  Speaker 3: things get hard that there is opportunity in that. Again,
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  Speaker 3: it's not something that you can automatically fall back on
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  Speaker 3: this idea in a hard moment that this is happening
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  Speaker 3: for me even though it feels like I actually want
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  Speaker 3: to die right now.
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  Speaker 4: It doesn't work like that.
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  Speaker 3: But what I encourage you to do the next time
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  Speaker 3: that something feels hard or it feels like you quote
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  Speaker 3: unquote can't even is ask yourself if you have a
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  Speaker 3: little more gas in the tank. This morning, for instance,
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  Speaker 3: I was doing an interval workout, and the interval workout
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  Speaker 3: was four reps of eight minute efforts, and at the
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  Speaker 3: beginning of the first effort, I'm like, something like two
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  Speaker 3: minutes in and it feels absolutely impossible, and so I
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  Speaker 3: start to break it up into smaller, little doables. Those
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  Speaker 3: small little doables will change your life. I started every
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  Speaker 3: minute changing the song that I was listening to, and
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  Speaker 3: as a result to this thing that I was dreading,
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  Speaker 3: it started to breeze by. And when it's done and
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  Speaker 3: the effort is done, you realize and are reminded of
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  Speaker 3: your strength, even though there was a moment when you
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  Speaker 3: doubted yourself, and that, oh, that's the best damn feeling
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  Speaker 3: in the world. And so if you can muster up
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  Speaker 3: the courage the bravery to start and actually start and
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  Speaker 3: be present in that moment and be proud of yourself
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  Speaker 3: and keep pushing little by little as the challenge persists.
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  Speaker 4: Then you have the opportunity.
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  Speaker 3: And I use that word all the time, but you
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  Speaker 3: know that it is to be true, that it is
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  Speaker 3: an opportunity to prove to yourself your capability and what
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  Speaker 3: you can do if you put your mind to it,
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  Speaker 3: little doables, self belief, and the rest of the pieces
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  Speaker 3: will slowly fall into place.
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  Speaker 4: That's it for this week.
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  Speaker 3: Make sure you're following me over at Emily a Body
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  Speaker 3: and also hurdle over at Hurdle Podcasts. I'll see you
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  Speaker 3: on Monday for episode two hundred. Trust me, it's a
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  Speaker 3: good one. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.