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SPECIAL BONUS EPISODE: The Most Important Person In Your Life Is YOU · Naughty But Nice with Rob Shuter

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  Speaker 1: Advice Nice. Hello, Hello, Hello, welcome to the Naughty but
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  Speaker 1: Nice Show. I know you were expecting to hear Rob's
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  Speaker 1: lovely British accent today, but this is Corey Andrew hosting
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  Speaker 1: a very special episode today. Now I'm going to be
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  Speaker 1: turning the tables on Rob and I'm asking the questions
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  Speaker 1: to celebrate his new book, The Foreword Answer, which you
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  Speaker 1: can order right now on Amazon dot Com. Now. Rob
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  Speaker 1: has worked with some of the biggest stars in the world,
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  Speaker 1: Jennifer Lopez, P Diddy, Alicia Keys, Jessica Simpson, Jon bon Jovi,
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  Speaker 1: even British Royalty, and now in his first book out
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  Speaker 1: this week, Rob promises to make you the star of
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  Speaker 1: your own life. So Hello Rob, Hello, I love a
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  Speaker 1: love a life. Hey, I'm loving this already. Villa. When
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  Speaker 1: you opened this show with a lava la la la,
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  Speaker 1: I know it saunds even better in an American accent. Corey.
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  Speaker 1: You can ask anything you want. You've got the book
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  Speaker 1: a couple of days ago. Thank you for being so kind.
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  Speaker 1: You texted me just after you've finished it. So we're
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  Speaker 1: doing these special bonus shows really based on the book
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  Speaker 1: and what the takeaway is in that book. So honestly, Corey,
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  Speaker 1: nothing off record, nothing confidential, nothing scripted, whatever you wonderful. Look,
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  Speaker 1: I'm really excited to do this interview, so thank you,
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  Speaker 1: and we will just dive right in. Let's just begin
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  Speaker 1: with something very simple. Explain what is the foreward answer? Oh,
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  Speaker 1: the perfect question to begin with. So every smart person
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  Speaker 1: that I ever met in my life, every successful person
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  Speaker 1: I ever met over all the years I've been doing this,
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  Speaker 1: they could describe themselves in just for herds one to three, four,
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  Speaker 1: four words. If you think about it, it's the most
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  Speaker 1: important question you're ever gonna ask or answer. Who are you?
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  Speaker 1: Who are you? I would ask every one of those
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  Speaker 1: big celebrities you mentioned when I first started working with them,
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  Speaker 1: who are you? Tell me who you are? And this
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  Speaker 1: is amazing. Only those that are comfortable in their own
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  Speaker 1: skin could answer that question, and only those that could
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  Speaker 1: answer the question Corey would go on to be successful.
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  Speaker 1: I knew immediately which of my stars would go on
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  Speaker 1: to be superstars. A lot of the big names, you know,
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  Speaker 1: but I also worked with people very early on in
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  Speaker 1: their career. As one of the first first Tyra Banks,
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  Speaker 1: before she became Tyra Banks, I represented her when she
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  Speaker 1: was really a model, but she was not a supermodel.
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  Speaker 1: Yet I knew she was going to be successful because
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  Speaker 1: Tyra knew exactly who she was. If you think about it,
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  Speaker 1: just for a second, entire marketing departments, branding departments, even
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  Speaker 1: PR departments are created with just one job is to
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  Speaker 1: figure out who their client is in as few words
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  Speaker 1: as possible, and then sell it and promote it. I
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  Speaker 1: promise in the foreword answer You're going to figure out,
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna find out, You're going to discover who you
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  Speaker 1: are in just four worlds. That is amazing. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: reading the book right now and the chapter that I
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  Speaker 1: cannot stop thinking about rob is the chapter about believing
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  Speaker 1: you are important. So let's chat about that for a moment.
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  Speaker 1: Important is such an essential word. It's really a word
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  Speaker 1: that did he used a lot, p did? Who was
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  Speaker 1: my client for for a long time. Did He taught
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  Speaker 1: me that the most important person in your life is you,
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  Speaker 1: no body else, Puffy. Puffy showed me that when you
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  Speaker 1: believe you are important, you become important. In fact, believing
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  Speaker 1: you are important, though, has to start with you. It's
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  Speaker 1: not a gift you can give somebody. I wish I
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  Speaker 1: could put it in a little package, put a bow
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  Speaker 1: on it, and give all my friends this gift because
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  Speaker 1: they could open it up and then be important. It
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  Speaker 1: doesn't work like that. I can't give it you, a
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  Speaker 1: friend can't give it you, a teacher can't give it you.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to give it yourself because nobody's coming along
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  Speaker 1: to save you. You've got to believe you are important
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  Speaker 1: and no one can make you feel unimportant without your consent.
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  Speaker 1: You let people make you feel unimportant. And after you've
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  Speaker 1: read the foreword answer, that isn't gonna happen anymore. You've
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  Speaker 1: got to start believing you are important. There's a whole
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  Speaker 1: chapter on this, Corey, and I think it's also to
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  Speaker 1: one of my favorite chapters in the book. Oftentimes we're
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  Speaker 1: always trying to find someone to s wort who we
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  Speaker 1: are and what we're doing. But you say that by
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  Speaker 1: the time others support you, this happens. What is that
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  Speaker 1: please share with us. That is, by the time they
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  Speaker 1: support you, you realize you never needed them at alls.
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  Speaker 1: So once you've read the forward answer, you will realize
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  Speaker 1: that at the moment I know it, there are people
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  Speaker 1: in your life that you want to support you. You
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  Speaker 1: want them to adore you and love you. They're not
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  Speaker 1: going to. So many of us we tone it down,
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  Speaker 1: hoping to tone up the support of others. It never
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  Speaker 1: ever works. Be yourself because trying to win people over
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  Speaker 1: who are not on board it's a full time game,
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  Speaker 1: and it's a game that you are guaranteed to lose.
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  Speaker 1: You're not gonna win this battle. When you start living
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  Speaker 1: your life without needing approval from anybody else, you get
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  Speaker 1: back not only an enormous amount of time that you're wasting,
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  Speaker 1: but also an enormous amount of joy. In the forward answers,
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  Speaker 1: we teach you how to shine. Never never dim your spotlight,
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  Speaker 1: tell somebody else to put on a pair of sunglasses.
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  Speaker 1: Be you, because you are important enough to be you. Yes. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: Well that leads to my next question, which is very,
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  Speaker 1: very similar and related. Now you have some great advice
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  Speaker 1: for when people don't like you. Do what Hey, walk
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  Speaker 1: away away. You're not going to win them over. Don't
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  Speaker 1: hang out with people who don't like you. Just don't
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  Speaker 1: do it. But I can tell you why you're doing it.
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  Speaker 1: We really dig deep in the book. The reason you
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  Speaker 1: hang out with people that don't like you is because
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  Speaker 1: you don't feel important enough to stop. I said it.
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  Speaker 1: You don't feel important enough to have people around you
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  Speaker 1: that support you. I built an amazing network of friends,
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  Speaker 1: knowing that like a bider and all, well, I'm the
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  Speaker 1: center of my world. I really am. It all starts
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  Speaker 1: with me. My life starts with me, Your life starts
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  Speaker 1: with you. You're the center of your own network, so
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  Speaker 1: you're responsible for building it. Surround yourself by the best
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  Speaker 1: friends in the world, surround yourself by people that really
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  Speaker 1: cheer you are, and that all starts with you, and
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  Speaker 1: it all starts with the leaving. You are important enough
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  Speaker 1: to have this network of friends, Corey. It's very daring
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  Speaker 1: to meet new friends at any age, but I promise
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  Speaker 1: you your tribe exists. There are people out there who
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  Speaker 1: are gonna love you. You just haven't found them yet.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to find them. And we have so many
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  Speaker 1: different ways that you can go about that. In the
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  Speaker 1: forward answer lots of really solid information. So it's not
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  Speaker 1: just a book about feeling good. We also, which I'm
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  Speaker 1: so proud about, in the book, we give you steps
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  Speaker 1: to turn this into reality. Stop hanging out with people
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  Speaker 1: that don't like you, because now you are important enough
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  Speaker 1: to have people around you that adore you. You can
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  Speaker 1: do it. Oh that's great advice. I'm going to take
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  Speaker 1: that to heart absolutely. Now you also really get deep
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  Speaker 1: in the book and you talk about the power of rejection,
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  Speaker 1: and I have to tell you that I really find
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  Speaker 1: your perspective on this to be life changing. It will
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  Speaker 1: be yeah, so yeah, So share with me your thoughts
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  Speaker 1: on on rejection and the power of rejection. It's so important.
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  Speaker 1: This is one of my favorite parts of the book.
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  Speaker 1: And when I realized this, a light bob went off,
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  Speaker 1: and once again I gotta thank did he for it? Did?
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  Speaker 1: He really is dominating this chapter. So rejection is a gift.
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  Speaker 1: It's a gift. Puffy taught me how all rejection really
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  Speaker 1: is is a gift telling you that whatever you thought
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  Speaker 1: you actually wanted wasn't right for you. So, growing up,
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  Speaker 1: I had the biggest crush on a guy in my
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  Speaker 1: school called Craigs with He didn't want me. He rejected me.
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  Speaker 1: Thank goodness he did, because now I found Bruce, the
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  Speaker 1: love of my life. When I was growing up, I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to go to Oxford or Cambridge, two of the
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  Speaker 1: best universities. I failed the exam. I'm so glad I
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  Speaker 1: did because I went to Edinburgh. I met Bruce in
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  Speaker 1: Edinburgh and all my wonderful friends in Edinburgh. And the
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  Speaker 1: reason I'm doing what I'm doing now is because I
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  Speaker 1: went to Edinburgh. So that school you wanted to get
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  Speaker 1: into that you didn't, It's a blessing that guy a
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  Speaker 1: girl you wanted to date who didn't want to date you.
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  Speaker 1: It is a good, good move because rejection, it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: strip away your dreams. It leads you towards them. So
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  Speaker 1: don't think of rejection anymore, as I know, but rather
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  Speaker 1: a yes towards something that is better and right for you.
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  Speaker 1: Rejection it's simply redirection, really is. Honestly, I have been
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  Speaker 1: rejected so many times in my life. I constantly get
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  Speaker 1: back up, and we talk about that in another chapter
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  Speaker 1: with Jessica Simpson. But I refuse to give in. Jessica
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  Speaker 1: told me the path to success is paved with failure.
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  Speaker 1: Keep trying rejections. Okay, And in the long run, it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't feel like it in the moment, but big picture,
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  Speaker 1: in the long run, it's the best thing that will
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  Speaker 1: ever happen to you. Because if you get accepted into
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  Speaker 1: a place a life that isn't right for you, it's
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  Speaker 1: never gonna work out. So before you start down that path,
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  Speaker 1: better have the door shut. It really is, Corey. Think
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  Speaker 1: about an audition or something, Corey that you really really
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  Speaker 1: thought you wanted and you didn't get. I bet in
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  Speaker 1: the moment it felt terrible. However, in the long run
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  Speaker 1: it worked out great because he was shining, shining, shining, Caney.
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  Speaker 1: So do you think of it like that? I know
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  Speaker 1: it's difficult to me to talk about it a lot
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  Speaker 1: in the book, But it's sort of mind changing, isn't it.
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  Speaker 1: And no and no is a yes to what is
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  Speaker 1: right for you? Yes, and it makes us rewire our
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  Speaker 1: thinking and turn a negative into a positive. And we
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  Speaker 1: are struggle with rejection absolutely. So that's why I think
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  Speaker 1: that chapter is really going to be life changing, every changing. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And it's sort of like for me in the book,
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't believe we didn't know this stuff. Nobody taught
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  Speaker 1: us this at school, Like instead of dude, the class
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  Speaker 1: ahead with the eighth from school, shouldn't we have done
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  Speaker 1: a class on these skills in life essential? And this
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  Speaker 1: is why some of the names you mentioned are such
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  Speaker 1: massive stars because they figured all this out. I was
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  Speaker 1: so lucky, Corey, I had a front row seat watching,
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  Speaker 1: actually being paid to watch the most extraordinary people in
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  Speaker 1: the world. And I know it's easy to put down celebrities,
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  Speaker 1: but they're at the top of their game. When you're
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  Speaker 1: talking j Loo, Jessica Simpson, did he Alicia Keys? These
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  Speaker 1: are at the top of their game. And having the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to watch them observe them, I realized really fast, Corey,
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  Speaker 1: it's not just talent that makes them extraordinary, it's that
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  Speaker 1: they know who they are in foward absolutely Wow. Well,
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  Speaker 1: you know, with that said, it makes me wonder then,
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  Speaker 1: if it's that simple, why do so many of us
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  Speaker 1: doubt ourselves? Oh question, Let me give you the answer,
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  Speaker 1: because we were taught to. That's why we doubt ourselves.
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  Speaker 1: Get away from those people in your life who tell
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  Speaker 1: you to doubt yourself, the people that remind you all
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  Speaker 1: the time of what you're insecure a bound, those nasty
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  Speaker 1: voices in your head telling you you can't, you shouldn't,
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  Speaker 1: why are you doing this, You're not enough, you are enough.
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  Speaker 1: Those people, they've damaged you enough already. Get away from
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  Speaker 1: and never ever again allow those thoughts to invade your mind.
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  Speaker 1: So if you don't. You will constantly, constantly have these
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  Speaker 1: people in your life. And get this, the people that
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  Speaker 1: tell you terrible things, it becomes so familiar that you
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  Speaker 1: start seeking them out. You were comforting by being around
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  Speaker 1: people who tell you to doubt yourself, and then it
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  Speaker 1: goes from being sabotaged to you self sabotaging yourself. You've
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  Speaker 1: got to remember that you were taught to doubt yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And a good news here, Corey. If you could be
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  Speaker 1: taught to do something, you can be untaught. And that's
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  Speaker 1: what we go through in the fourword answer. Those mean
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  Speaker 1: voices in your head, you know what they are. They're
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  Speaker 1: an echo of a lie that somebody told you before,
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  Speaker 1: told you so many times, you leave its. Celebrities don't
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  Speaker 1: have this voice in their head. They can turn it down. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: we all have doubts, but they don't let their doubts,
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  Speaker 1: those nasty voices, those nasty liars, stop them from feeling important.
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  Speaker 1: Just to put a button on this, the best way
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  Speaker 1: to eliminate doubt is to be prepared. Nobody is more
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  Speaker 1: prepared than did he. His success is not an accident.
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  Speaker 1: His success is worked for Corey. He prepares, he prepares,
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  Speaker 1: He prepares, and that's why he is successful. Let's face it,
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  Speaker 1: the queen of pop dare I say? Madonnason might disagree,
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  Speaker 1: but probably most of you will not. She's a superstar.
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  Speaker 1: She still does a sound check wherever she goes in
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  Speaker 1: the world. She gets to the venue before we do,
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  Speaker 1: and she practices. You would think at this point singing
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  Speaker 1: Vogue or material girl is in her bones. It probably is.
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  Speaker 1: She's still does the work, and that's how you eliminate
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  Speaker 1: doubts by being prepared. I never go on a TV
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  Speaker 1: show without a good half hour to read my notes.
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  Speaker 1: When you see the celebrities pull up an award shows
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  Speaker 1: in their limos, I've been in many of those limos
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  Speaker 1: with the stars. They're reading their message points. They know
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  Speaker 1: what they're going to say to Entertainment Tonight, they know
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  Speaker 1: what they're going to say to Access Hollywood. And if
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  Speaker 1: they don't know, we circle the block, keep going, We'll
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  Speaker 1: come back. That's why they're always later all the time.
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  Speaker 1: You would not believe the amount of celebrities I've seen
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  Speaker 1: practice with the hair brush in front of them. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: there you go, Mariah Kerry does it. J Lo does it?
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  Speaker 1: Did he does it? So? If they do it, you
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  Speaker 1: can do it to come prepared, and when those doubts
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  Speaker 1: creep back into your head, they will tell them to
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  Speaker 1: go away, to shut up, because the only reason we
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  Speaker 1: doubt ourselves is because somebody taught us to. Oh, I
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  Speaker 1: love it the forward answer everyone so so good. So
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  Speaker 1: one of the closing chapters of the book sort of
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  Speaker 1: piggybacks on that as well. And I love this. You
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  Speaker 1: have a quote. I want to make sure I get
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  Speaker 1: the quote correct. You say, if you're not doing the work,
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  Speaker 1: you don't deserve the results. Now that's some tough love. Rob,
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  Speaker 1: Explain what you mean by that. Did he told me that? Pet?
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  Speaker 1: He told me that over and over again. Listen, the
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  Speaker 1: only currency that success accepts is effort. Effort. The more
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  Speaker 1: you're willing to spend, the more you will received. Once again,
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  Speaker 1: success is not an accident. You succeed because you're willing
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  Speaker 1: to turn up one more time than the person who quits.
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  Speaker 1: Make an effort, do the work, show up, and success
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  Speaker 1: will come. And then it's a matter of being there
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  Speaker 1: until it does. I stand in the rain longer than anybody.
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  Speaker 1: Are not the most talented, I'm not the most gifted.
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  Speaker 1: I work the hardest. I'll say it. That's my talent.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I'm successful. I get up an hour before
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  Speaker 1: everybody else to practice. I go to bed an hour
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  Speaker 1: after everybody else because I'm practicing. There's a big party
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  Speaker 1: tonight that I really want to go to. I can't
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  Speaker 1: because I'm on the Today's Show in Australia tomorrow and
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  Speaker 1: I have to go to bed. Be sensible, be smart,
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  Speaker 1: be disciplined, put in the work. And can I tell
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  Speaker 1: you why you should do all this? Because you are important?
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  Speaker 1: You brought it all the way back to one of
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  Speaker 1: the big keywords from P Diddy. Well, that is so wonderful.
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  Speaker 1: And the book is wonderful. I'm having a wonderful time reading.
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  Speaker 1: And I should just say it's not just are these
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: great anecdotes for life. It's very witty, darling. You have
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  Speaker 1: some a little funny funny moments in there too, very funny.
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  Speaker 1: You can't. You can't work with all these people and
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  Speaker 1: not tell a little bit of gossip. I mean, we
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  Speaker 1: love to spill the tea, so there's lots. I give
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  Speaker 1: Jessica Simpson's code name what you did? Yes, I hope
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  Speaker 1: she has changed that name. Testif listening a lower, lower, low.
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  Speaker 1: So there's lots of funny, funny stories and hopefully some
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  Speaker 1: touching stories about working for celebrities. I got to say, Cory,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't think this response would happen. A week were
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  Speaker 1: number eleven on Amazon. We've sold so many books this
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  Speaker 1: week that they're rushing out another prints were almost soldlation
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  Speaker 1: and so we're rushing out. So if you if you
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  Speaker 1: want to order it and there's a slight delay, it
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  Speaker 1: will be filled very quickly. But I'm told that that
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  Speaker 1: has now been fixed. A couple of days ago we
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  Speaker 1: had people trying to buy it and there was not
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  Speaker 1: a booklet in the country. I know, I had two
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  Speaker 1: into my bed. You can get more for them short.
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  Speaker 1: They're in short supply because of the amazing demand, and
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  Speaker 1: that's because of the Naughties and and the friends of
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  Speaker 1: this show. They're wonderful an my foundation. I'm so grateful
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  Speaker 1: for all of this and for all of you. Thank you,
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  Speaker 1: thank you, thank you, and Corey too. I'm so grateful
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  Speaker 1: for you. Thank you for doing this bonus episode, Oh
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  Speaker 1: my pleasure, and thank you for the opportunity. I'm so
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  Speaker 1: glad to spend this time with you. Rob, and thank
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