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Ay Por Favor: Peter Covers for Marysol · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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  Speaker 1: I put with Alexi Napola and Marissa Patton an iHeartRadio podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Ola, Hi, guys, how's everyone? So Marathon will not be
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  Speaker 2: with me here today because she's having a fabulous time
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  Speaker 2: on a cruise with her hobby in Europe.
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  Speaker 1: She's actually renewing her vows Peter, Hi.
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  Speaker 2: Put fouer Mariso, did you hear that? But we're missing
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  Speaker 2: you and it's not going to be the same without you.
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  Speaker 2: Peter will try to fill in for you, and it's
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  Speaker 2: going to be a lot of fun because I've actually
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  Speaker 2: never co hosted with my son Peter. I've never done
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  Speaker 2: a podcast with him. So wa Mohamed, Let's see how
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  Speaker 2: it goes for us. You guys be the judge of it.
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  Speaker 2: I hope you like it. I think that a good
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  Speaker 2: question to start off would be, what do you think
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  Speaker 2: is the best piece of advice that I've.
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  Speaker 1: Ever given you?
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  Speaker 3: I wish I would have taken all of your advice,
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  Speaker 3: but unfortunately that's not how it works. You know, I've
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  Speaker 3: had to, you know, go through a lot of hardships
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  Speaker 3: and you learn, unfortunately. But I always had your little
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  Speaker 3: voice in my head, like, don't do that, Peter and
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  Speaker 3: English or Spanish it Spanglish, so you always guided me
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  Speaker 3: in the right direction, even though my actions never you know,
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  Speaker 3: really matched with it. But as the years have progressed
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  Speaker 3: and everything, I'm very grateful for your advice. I know
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  Speaker 3: you only meant the best and stuff right.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I think as a mom, right and especially being Latina,
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  Speaker 2: I feel that we're always giving advice and you know,
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  Speaker 2: whether you take it or not, it's just about you
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  Speaker 2: listening and then realizing. You know, I realize also that
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  Speaker 2: you have to go through it yourself because I actually
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  Speaker 2: had to do.
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  Speaker 1: The same thing. My mom gave me a lot of
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  Speaker 1: advice that I didn't.
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  Speaker 2: Take at the time, and after looking back, I was like, oop,
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  Speaker 2: like I wish I would have listened to my mom.
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  Speaker 2: And I can think of like one thing, you know,
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  Speaker 2: specifically like my mom when you know your mom, you know,
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  Speaker 2: and my mom, which is your aguela, would always tell
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  Speaker 2: me as many times as you want, like you can
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  Speaker 2: get married and divorced as many times as you want.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for finishing this sentence.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so you even remember my mom's advice, of.
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  Speaker 1: Course, but you see it so it's thinking in because you.
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  Speaker 2: Know what I like, who you married so you can
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  Speaker 2: have and you didn't have children, So basically, Peter's just
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  Speaker 2: finishing the line so you can get married and divorced
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  Speaker 2: as many times as you like, even though we like
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  Speaker 2: it to be one. But who you have children changes
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  Speaker 2: your entire life, and there will be part of your life.
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  Speaker 1: For your entire life.
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  Speaker 2: And I think that we know that because you know,
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  Speaker 2: your father still plays you know, a big role, you know,
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  Speaker 2: in our lives. So, like we said, that was one
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  Speaker 2: of the advices that I think of my mom all
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  Speaker 2: the time. And it's true, you know, you it's somebody
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  Speaker 2: when you have children, it really changes your life and
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  Speaker 2: you really you adopt him and his family as your
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  Speaker 2: family as well.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm glad.
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  Speaker 3: You'd say, well.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't take it.
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  Speaker 2: I married your dad, but in a good way, because look,
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  Speaker 2: I have two beautiful children. I have you and your brother,
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  Speaker 2: you know, And that's how I see it. It's it's
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  Speaker 2: actually like how you see things, right, You can see things.
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  Speaker 1: However you want to see them. But no, I don't
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  Speaker 1: think she's.
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  Speaker 2: No because you know, we worry about right, which is
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  Speaker 2: like what I worry about with you two now.
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  Speaker 1: It's like you know, yes, you're super in love and
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  Speaker 1: you get married and blah blah blah.
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  Speaker 2: But then you have kids and it's really forever, like
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  Speaker 2: your relationship might not work out, but once there's children involved,
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  Speaker 2: everything changes. And I think that that's you know, a
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  Speaker 2: very good advice, you know, but again, you never I
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  Speaker 2: never took it.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 2: It's kind of like, oh, you know, I'm in love,
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  Speaker 2: I'm still gonna get married, I'm still gona have kids
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  Speaker 2: and whatever. But you know, at the end, it's kind
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  Speaker 2: of like, you know, you pay for everything, like by
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  Speaker 2: a bordeaux, you know, and you learn from it. It's
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  Speaker 2: really not in a way like I know back then,
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  Speaker 2: you know, the parents used to say that like oh,
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  Speaker 2: you know, like you're going to pay for it, But
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  Speaker 2: you know, I like to see it like a life lesson,
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  Speaker 2: you know, and you learn from it. And I think
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  Speaker 2: that you you do listen to my advice.
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  Speaker 1: And maybe not at the moment right when.
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  Speaker 2: I tell you, but I feel like, you know, it's
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  Speaker 2: it's somewhere in there and it's like it sings in
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  Speaker 2: and I think and you know, in the last year,
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  Speaker 2: for example, you've been listening to it.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 3: We have a small, close type family, so I don't
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  Speaker 3: just take it as advice. I take it as everything
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  Speaker 3: speaking to you just some you know, I think that.
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  Speaker 2: We're like in a relationship now, you know where you're
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  Speaker 2: obviously older, so we're like we're friends and I give
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  Speaker 2: you advice, you know, not only as your mother, but
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  Speaker 2: like as a friend, as a woman.
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  Speaker 3: Like somebody that she doesn't set me down on the
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  Speaker 3: counch to be like Peter. No, we talk, we go
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  Speaker 3: to lunch. It's completely different.
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  Speaker 2: Right, the dynamics are have obviously changed because with age
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  Speaker 2: and maturity, and you know, we we've established that my mom,
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  Speaker 2: you know, so my mom was just like kiatrist and
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  Speaker 2: you know that Peter, we missed her so much because
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  Speaker 2: my mom was so therapeutic, Like she would be talking
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  Speaker 2: and giving us advice and therapy without us even realizing it.
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  Speaker 2: So we literally had like our free psychiatrists the whole time,
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  Speaker 2: you know, giving us, giving us advice. But even my mom,
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  Speaker 2: as a psychiatrist, knew that even though people paid her
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  Speaker 2: to give her such good advice, she would give it
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  Speaker 2: to me for free and I wouldn't take it. So
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  Speaker 2: with some moral of the story that we have to
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  Speaker 2: go through like our own life, lessons and learn from
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  Speaker 2: it ourselves.
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  Speaker 1: So that was my mom.
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  Speaker 2: So my dad, for example, my dad would always tell
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  Speaker 2: me like I had to have a degree, no matter what.
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  Speaker 2: I had to graduate, you know, from college, and I
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  Speaker 2: had to have a degree because a degree was so important.
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  Speaker 2: So my dad always really reiterated the fact that a
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  Speaker 2: woman must have a career and be self sufficient and
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  Speaker 2: that would really be you know, life changing. And you
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  Speaker 2: never knew, you know, because obviously back then, you know,
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  Speaker 2: your parents always wanted for you to be married forever,
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  Speaker 2: but really not as a career. You know, they wanted
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  Speaker 2: to maybe will want to be a stay at home
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  Speaker 2: mom and a housewife. You still have to have a
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  Speaker 2: degree and something to fall on. So I think that's
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  Speaker 2: the best advice that my dad gave me, and I
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  Speaker 2: totally took it.
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  Speaker 1: I regret not going to law school because.
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  Speaker 2: My father passed away and I was accepted into law
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  Speaker 2: school and everything, but I had the conflict that I
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  Speaker 2: didn't know that I wanted to, you know, be an
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  Speaker 2: attorney and work all these hours and maybe not spend
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  Speaker 2: as much time with my kids. So I just decided
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  Speaker 2: to get my master's in special led and have a
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  Speaker 2: career where I can, you know, take my kids to
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  Speaker 2: school in the morning, spend more time with him, have
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  Speaker 2: summers off. So that was a personal decision, but my
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  Speaker 2: father always the best advice was like, you have to
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  Speaker 2: go to school and have a degree, which I also
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  Speaker 2: told you.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like all the advice that A will, A,
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  Speaker 1: Nancy and my dad gave me.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm sure I'll give some of it to my
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  Speaker 3: kids one day.
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  Speaker 1: I hope.
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  Speaker 2: So, I hope so, because you know, all we as
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  Speaker 2: parents do is, you know, we try to protect you
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  Speaker 2: and save you.
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  Speaker 1: And and I think.
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  Speaker 2: Especially us, like Latina moms, I think we're a little
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  Speaker 2: bit more overbearing, aggressive one in the delivery or in
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  Speaker 2: the advice right because someone we passionate.
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  Speaker 1: We're very passionate, you know.
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  Speaker 2: And I think that and that it shows I have
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  Speaker 2: some of the questions that I feel like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: some of the people listening to us and that have
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  Speaker 2: been watching you, you know, and been watching me you
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  Speaker 2: know on TV and the Housewives, and have been watching
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  Speaker 2: you since you were a young boy. Every teen experience
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  Speaker 2: is growing paints. But do you resent the fact I
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  Speaker 2: think we've talked about this, like you and I sometimes
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  Speaker 2: do you resent the fact that you had to grow
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  Speaker 2: up on national TV because honestly, it was something I
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  Speaker 2: wanted to do, and you were still a young boy,
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  Speaker 2: and I never really asked you and your brother I
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  Speaker 2: kind of did. I said, oh, you guys want to
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  Speaker 2: be on the show.
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  Speaker 3: I was cast for a show, and I was the
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  Speaker 3: one that recommended it to you.
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  Speaker 1: Like, hey, you told me about it, and I.
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  Speaker 3: Already knew all of that entailed, and I was already casting,
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  Speaker 3: doing the casting for a TV show, and I knew
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  Speaker 3: everything that was going to come with that. So since
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  Speaker 3: the beginning, I honestly never had a problem. And I
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  Speaker 3: had to model and made for the camera and commercials, editorial,
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  Speaker 3: all this stuff, so it really it made no difference
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  Speaker 3: to me, honestly, right, No.
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  Speaker 2: You were pretty comfortable with it, you know. I think
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  Speaker 2: also though you were really young and you didn't know.
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  Speaker 2: I remember when this talk came about the show. My
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  Speaker 2: concern was that it was going to open our lives
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  Speaker 2: to be so public, and with that a lot of
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  Speaker 2: things from maybe our past or our family's past was
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  Speaker 2: going to come out. And since I had always raised
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  Speaker 2: you in a way to protect you from all that,
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  Speaker 2: I said, well, maybe now's the time to have the
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  Speaker 2: conversation with you and tell you a few things you
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  Speaker 2: didn't know about our family because I was afraid that
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  Speaker 2: it was going to come out. So that's what was
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  Speaker 2: holding me back. But truthfully, you know, I never asked
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  Speaker 2: you or your brother. Your brother was only thirteen years old,
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  Speaker 2: whether you know, it was okay, and I mean not
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  Speaker 2: that at that age you would have really, you know,
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  Speaker 2: had like power over me. But I think if you
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  Speaker 2: both would have said no, like we hate it, we
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  Speaker 2: don't want to be part of this, then maybe I
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't have done it. But you know, because already as
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  Speaker 2: growing up as teenagers, it's tough to be on a
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  Speaker 2: show like that, you know. And sometimes I feel like, well,
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  Speaker 2: you know, you don't resent me, That's what I want
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  Speaker 2: to know.
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  Speaker 3: I think you're just different Bread And honestly, it doesn't matter.
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  Speaker 3: He loved it. He was young, and he loved dressing up.
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  Speaker 3: He yeah, he was like, yeah, I'm on a TV show,
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  Speaker 3: what's up?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: So he still loves it, by the way, and Frankie
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  Speaker 2: is a favor. He's always been like that kid that
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  Speaker 2: loved the camera, that you know, that loved people, that
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  Speaker 2: loved expressing himself and.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I thought it was fun. To be honest,
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  Speaker 3: I got I mean, it's a great platform. So whatever
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  Speaker 3: you're doing, whether it was music, modeling, baseball, whatever it was,
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  Speaker 3: I saw it as something cool. There's some kids get
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  Speaker 3: nervous or this. What are they going to think? Oh
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  Speaker 3: I didn't. Me and Frank you were just like, we're
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  Speaker 3: just not like that, and we were could have been
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  Speaker 3: anything TV show, And I.
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  Speaker 2: Mean I felt the same, And as a parent, I
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  Speaker 2: did it, you know, thinking it was going to be
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  Speaker 2: something good and positive for both of you. And I
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  Speaker 2: think as a parent, you know, as long as you
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  Speaker 2: when you make the decisions that it's always you know, something
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  Speaker 2: positive about it.
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  Speaker 1: That's that's why I did it.
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  Speaker 2: I thought it was going to be something good for
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  Speaker 2: our family and for us. Like you said, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you were an athlete, you were modeling, you know. I
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  Speaker 2: thought it was going to be a great platform for
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  Speaker 2: you and your brother the same. Your brother liked to
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  Speaker 2: sing and and perform and do all that kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 2: So I really did it for those reasons. I had
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  Speaker 2: the magazine at the time. I thought it was a
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  Speaker 2: great platform as well. But you know, sometimes it doesn't
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  Speaker 2: always turn out that way right, and sometimes, like everything
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  Speaker 2: in life, there's pros and there's cons.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean the only ones that are opposed to
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  Speaker 3: doing the show always are the husbands. And I think
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  Speaker 3: we all know that.
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  Speaker 2: But I mean as a child, as a teenager, you
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  Speaker 2: were okay with it. It's not like my mom made
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  Speaker 2: me do it.
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  Speaker 3: No. I mean eventually, you know, it kind of gets
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  Speaker 3: annoying you oh hell ives, oh like your son. So
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  Speaker 3: after a while, you know, kind of gets annoying. But
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  Speaker 3: that it comes with it. You know, your pros and cons.
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  Speaker 3: Any little thing you do, you know you have to
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  Speaker 3: double think what you're doing and what you post and
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  Speaker 3: all that. And I definitely made a mistakes when I
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  Speaker 3: was younger and I didn't think about any of that,
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  Speaker 3: and that was definitely difficult for me. And it took
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  Speaker 3: me a while to kind of like grow up and
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  Speaker 3: you know, get some sense into my head. But you know,
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  Speaker 3: so I would say that was the most difficult part
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  Speaker 3: for sure. And then as life starts to get more
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  Speaker 3: serious and intense and problems come about, those problems become public,
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  Speaker 3: so you know, all the worst things like that kind
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  Speaker 3: of just like intensifies it. A lot more people come
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  Speaker 3: up to you, you know, and something, oh, Lex, how
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  Speaker 3: are you feeling? You know, It's it's a lot, but
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  Speaker 3: it makes you stronger. And I feel like once you
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  Speaker 3: persevere and you're able to go through that, people see that,
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  Speaker 3: and there's people out there that need to hear that
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  Speaker 3: or are in similar situations.
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  Speaker 2: So but it's something as a mom that I've always
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  Speaker 2: like thought too, like, well, maybe if I wouldn't have
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  Speaker 2: done the show, like you know, your lessons wouldn't have
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  Speaker 2: been so public, or maybe those things wouldn't have even happened,
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  Speaker 2: you know, as a result of the show, and as
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  Speaker 2: a result of our family being more public, sometimes they
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  Speaker 2: kind of like pick on us or like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: they make things worse instead of better. And I think
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  Speaker 2: that that's why it's so easy for me to talk
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  Speaker 2: on these topics that we're going to talk about today,
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  Speaker 2: as far as you know, Hayley Beaber and Jonah Hill
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  Speaker 2: and the other things we're going to talk about today,
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  Speaker 2: because you know, all these people are growing up in
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  Speaker 2: the public eye and now with social media, there's no secrets,
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  Speaker 2: and everybody's just like made it a point to be
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  Speaker 2: oversharing and to you know, take o their personal lives
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  Speaker 2: you know, onto social media.
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  Speaker 1: You know, at least they pay us for it. I'm kidding,
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  Speaker 1: but it's true.
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  Speaker 2: I mean it's kind of like, you know, I feel
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  Speaker 2: like if you want to be like, if you want
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  Speaker 2: to be so public.
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  Speaker 1: About it, then just having a reality show, right.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know, but like it's ridiculous when you see
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  Speaker 3: all these successful, happy people whatever they want to just
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  Speaker 3: post it on the Instagram and all this.
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  Speaker 2: Right, Well, I think funny about our family now that
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  Speaker 2: you say that, is that, for example, one a reality show.
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  Speaker 2: But we're I'm pretty I'm pretty private when it comes
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  Speaker 2: to like social media. On Instagram, I post the minimal
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  Speaker 2: and we're going to be talking about that today, you know,
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  Speaker 2: as far as the other topics we're going to talk about.
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  Speaker 2: And people are like, but you're so open, like on
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  Speaker 2: your show when you're in a reality show, and like,
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  Speaker 2: why don't you like post more on social media?
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  Speaker 1: And I said, because I don't like it. I don't
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  Speaker 1: enjoy it.
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  Speaker 2: And I mean, I think a lot of the social
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  Speaker 2: media now is like is a fraud and it's fake.
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  Speaker 2: And I've spoken to Marisol about this and other times
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  Speaker 2: you've done the podcast, and it's something that I'm not
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  Speaker 2: comfortable about yet. You put the camera in front of me,
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  Speaker 2: like when we're doing the show, and I'm so genuine
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  Speaker 2: and transparent and just you know, and just honest. And
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  Speaker 2: that's a different, you know, a different platform or I guess,
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  Speaker 2: you know, than social media.
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  Speaker 1: So I've always wanted to ask you that.
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  Speaker 2: I know we've talked about it sometimes before, but I
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  Speaker 2: just want to make sure that you don't resent me.
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  Speaker 2: I know when sometimes in your life that things have
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  Speaker 2: happened to you in a way you're like, mom, that's
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  Speaker 2: because I was on the show with you.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, on the show. I mean probably would.
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  Speaker 1: Have not done that kind of attention.
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  Speaker 2: And usually, by the way, it's negative attention, right, because
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  Speaker 2: nobody wants to read about or hear about how great
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  Speaker 2: you're doing in life and how successful you are and
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  Speaker 2: how you know, people just like to hear like the
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  Speaker 2: bad news.
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  Speaker 1: Unfortunately, that's what it is, right.
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  Speaker 2: You grow thick skin, and you know, and like you said,
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  Speaker 2: you know, through pain and life lessons and maturity and
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  Speaker 2: all that, you just you know, you it's growth. I mean,
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: like that's what happens. And you've been doing this for
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: a long time, so it's kind of like okay, so okay,
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: who cares what else?
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: I mean?
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: You know, it's just like you know, you handle it
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: pretty well done, you do. Some people don't believe me,
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: and there's some like you know, older people that don't
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: handle it very well.
• 15:37
  Speaker 3: Just our family history. You think of reality TV show
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: is going to make me flinch?
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: Okay, it's just right. Well, my life has been like
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: a telling overla.
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: So we know that it is on TV. So I think, right,
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: you have a lot of stories, stories, but a lot
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: of insight to give to people, and if it wasn't
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: for the show, you.
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: Wouldn't, right, right, So with that you take the good
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: and the bad. And that's like what I say.
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: Okay, Well, you know, I'm sharing my life and I'm
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: being vulnerable and I'm opening up my life and you know,
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: different things that have gone through in my life and
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: hopefully I can inspire people and help people, and that's
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: why I do it. And you know, when when I
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: don't have that story anymore, nothing good to offer, then
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: you know, I'm just I guess it'll be the time
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: that I won't do it anymore, because you know, I
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: feel like I have a responsibility as a public person.
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: To do that, you know, And that's like what I
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: try to tell you too. So my social media is
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: very like boring. It's just like whatever. I don't really
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: care for it, and I tell you to, you know,
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: to post as little because you know, unfortunately people only
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: want to make a comment like something mean and bad.
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: I'm like, and I've always had the rule, if you
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: have nothing to say nice, then don't say it. I'm
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: another question for you, Like, I don't even know if
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: I've ever asked you this, do you what was your
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: reaction that we're talking about a little bit about everything.
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: What was your reaction when you saw cocaine Cowboys?
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: We were always trying to like get the when I say,
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: we as me and my dad, and I was really
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: the only one that supported it. My mom supports will
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: always support them. You know. Well, I don't know about
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: the story. I don't yeah, yeah, yeah, well we can
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: get into that after you just happened to be part
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: of it. So but so basically, no.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: I'm just like, how did you feel when you saw that?
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: Because you're we're talking about about youth growing up as
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: a teenager on national TV, but then now your father
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: comes out on Netflix without anybody knowing by the way,
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: when I saw the trader with myself and I dropped
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: to the floor. So how did you feel? What was
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: your reaction when you saw cocaine cowboys?
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: Zero reaction?
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: Really?
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: Since high school? Oh your dad, Pete? Your dad? Is they?
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: Since ninth grade, it's been like this, so it came
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: out everyone already knew, Oh it's Peter's dad. Oh, they
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: already knew half of the stories.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: You know, But how did you feel? Seeing like you're the.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: Only thing that made me feel a different type of
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: way was finding out all these stories and putting all
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: these like puzzle pieces together that were like not there.
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: Had all these questions in my head when I grew up.
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: Why did I go to Spain? Why was I here?
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: Why did we move here? Why wasn't why wasn't my
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: dad at my baseball games? Why was you know? So
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: all these things I just didn't understand while growing up.
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: And I would see like other families and this and that,
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: and I was like, I was just I always told you.
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: That your dad was in school, he was like in
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: a ten year program in college.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: No five year program.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And then I start like so little by little
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: watching it you know, I started to hear all these
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: stories and I'm like, WTF, and basically, were you ashamed that?
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: For example?
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: I was like, like, I've said this before, Like I
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: was ashamed before about that story about you know, about
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: many things in my life have been ashamed, and I
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: think being on my reality show has helped me talk
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: about a lot of things that I felt uncomfortable and
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: ashamed about before, you know, in my family and about
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: decisions that I had made and how I had lived
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: my life. But now after your brother's accident that I
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: started writing my book, which is not finished by the way,
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: When I started writing things down, it was therapeutic and
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: actually felt better, and I said, wow. I'm like, so
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: I've gone through like all these things in my life
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: and I've gone back up and I've come back even stronger,
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: and I've been a great mom and doing good and
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: being good, you know. And I was just kind of
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: like a victim of falling in love with somebody that
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: happened to have that life, which, by the way, I
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: don't know about it. To me, a lot of the
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: stuff was new too. I was like, what.
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: A lot of people come up to me, They're like, hey,
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: your dad's a gangster. But you know who the real
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: gangster is, your mother.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, yes, but yeah, I don't really consider
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: myself that I do.
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: But you're real and you held it down, and yeah
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: I did. People really took that into account and noticed that,
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: you know, and yeah.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: I'm always going to hold it down. And even when
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: things are terrible, like you see a smile, put on
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: my red lipstick and I go out there and I
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: figure it out, and you know, and and I fight
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: for everything I have because that's that's how it is.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: You know, you have to do that. That was another
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: advice my my parents gave me.
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: But I was never seen.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: Never let people see what you're going through. You go
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: through it on your own. You put that smile on
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: your face and you go out there and you do
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: what you have to do.
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: But we were always pushing waiting for someone to pick
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: up the project. So as soon as it happened, it
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: was like dream come true and we were ready to go.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think it was. I thought it was
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: important for him to say so out of the story.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: I didn't like that he didn't get paid for it,
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: or that, you know, it took advantage that way. Again,
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: him being you know what else or whatever. But you know,
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: I've always like I wanted to ask you that, like,
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: how do you feel like? You know, we're besides that,
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: you know, we're on this reality TV show, and then
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: your dad, you know.
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: Has Ya he's on Netflix.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: A docuseries, you know on Netflix.
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: So it's like, okay, like you know, not Peter, you know,
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: because you know your mom and dad you know this,
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: but you know, like I want to see how how
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: you felt.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: So you're You're good with it, You're.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: Even though there's terrible things that I wish never happened,
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: but another day, it's your family and that's your blood
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: and they love you no matter what, and so you should.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: You should love your father, you know, unconditionally. You know
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: that that that's what it is.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: But we're not. That's not the conversation.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: I just wanted to know how you felt when you
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: saw I was surprised because this was something that he
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: talked about and that I went and I did an
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: interview kind of to like support. They wanted to interview me,
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: and I said, of course, I do you want anything
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: to help you out?
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: Why not?
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: And they asked me some questions and then seven eight
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: nine years later, it's on it's a Netflix, so like
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: for me, and it was kind of like at the
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: same time that our show had come back season four,
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: so I was like, Okay, I wasn't waiting for this
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: or expecting this, but then again, you know, yeah, neither.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: My life is like that, so that's fine.
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: No. It was the reason why I say I was
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: really happy is because finally something paid off for him, because.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: A lot of times people never have that chance, never
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: have that opportunity. So I'm happy for him that he
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: got to say his story. Yeah, well, speaking about what
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: we want to know about, do you want to know
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: anything about Hailee Berry?
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: Hailee Berry?
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: Wait no, Hailey Bieber? Sorry, missus Bieber, missus Bieber.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: Okay, well, apparently they are Auandola of a first trap
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: if she's doing what she's posting bikini picks, Like what do.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: You think that happened?
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: For example, she posted the pic of like the little
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: teeny waity bikini and then she deleted it moment like instantly.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: People want to say it's because he's controlling and he
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: made her like take it off, like oh yeah, Gita,
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: so you know, like.
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: Deleted, Yeah, she was going to the story would be completely.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: With a Canadian Canadiano. But you know, I don't want
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: to think that. I don't want to think why are
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: we always blaming other people? So why are we blaming
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: Justin bab for telling her like, take it off, take
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: it down, because he's controlling, you know. Sometimes you know,
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: maybe she had a shot or she had like too
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: much to drink, and she was feeling some sort of
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: way so she posted like you know that that picture
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: and then she's like and then you're feeling like insecure
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: and you're like, oh, let me delete it, right. I mean,
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: that's how That's how I want to see it. But
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: I feel like Laine, like they're always looking for a problem.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: They're like, oh, he's it's you know, it's just In
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: Baber that Like he's so controlling, he made her take
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: it off, take it down. I mean, I feel like
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: Kaylee Beaver's had it really difficult as far as being
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: married to Justin because I felt like everybody loved Selena
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: Gomez so much. Okay, she was never gonna like be
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: Selena and she was never going to get receive that
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: love that everyone had with Selena and Justin when they
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: were together.
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: I mean, they were always in the friend group between
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: like Candle Justin David Candle, He's he's slept with all
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: of her friends and little Mary and Haley.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: They ask her, that's what I always say.
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: I've never heard that one.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: We say it, okay here in Miami, that's what I
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: say my friend group.
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: Okay, well I don't want to hear it, but.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: That's what it is.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: But yeah, but again, you know, I think that you
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: know that she's young, she's a model.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: This is what she does.
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: You can have a change of heart, a change of
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: you know, the moment, and you're like, oh shit, like
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: I shouldn't have posted that, let.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: Me delete it. But I don't.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: And I think that it's because he's controlling, you know,
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: And I feel like she has a lot of pressure.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: Like all her friends are like posting half naked pictures,
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: you know what I mean, even like you know, Gomez
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: was like posting pictures of like her boobs. So it's
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: kind of like, you know what, me, all my friends
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: are doing the same thing that are my age, So
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: let me be a little bit more provocative.
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I just think we should just
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: get rid of the Instagram.
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: Truthfully, I would give it up right now? Can anybody
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: come just shut down the whole thing? No, I don't
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: need it, you know. I think it's like a lot
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: of these girls need the validation. You know a lot
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: of people on social media. That's what they're looking for.
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: That's validation. Get get it, get Haley. What do you
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: think they're going to tell Haley? Oh my god, you're
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: so high? Oh my god, the emoji, the file.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: It's how many privileged girls that go to good schools
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: come from good families. They have all the connections, they
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: could do whatever they want, but nothing makes them feel
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: better than looking like woll now.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: But really, well, you know, it's a very sad thing
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: for me. It's a very sad thing.
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: And instead of coming out with more apps and more
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: stuff like that, they need to find a way shut
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: them all down because no boil. I can't like honestly,
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: it just makes me like very sad. So of course
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: I follow Sophia Regatta, and Sophia and Joe are going
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: their separate race. I get you know, is it a
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: seven year rich? I think in those are we agreeing
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: that the seven year itch exists? Went between Sophia and Joe,
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: It obviously did, because they're announcing that they are separating.
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: I did find it strange though, And you see that's
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: where people are looking at the fact that he said,
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: you know, Felicuo Sophia and the picture was a blurred picture.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: That's kind of like a sign.
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: I didn't see the picture either, but now I'm looking
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: at it and it's like a blurry. It's kind of
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: like it was in the past. It's kind of like
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: an indication. Oh deeople.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: Still he knew exactly what he was doing.
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: Look at Shakira with Jimmy Butler. Now, so who knows
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: what Shakira.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: I love about Shakira.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: Jimmy Butler came with some news today in me see
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: men Ganta.
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: Uh uh yeah, so let's see what what Sophie gets
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: gets into, you know, different different in her life, you know.
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: So yeah, listen, I'm very happy for Shakida.
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: I talk about her here all the time because we
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: love her, and I love that she moved to Miami
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: and then she's you know, dating different people because you
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: know what I mean, it's important, you know, as a
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: woman especially I feel like women. I mean, in this case,
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: I don't know she Sophia or Jodeja, Sophia or with
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: something mutual. We don't have any information at this point.
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: With Shakira, it was like her husband was cheated on her,
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: So you know, I haven't in that case, even though
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: people think I have. It was different and it was
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: with a different sex, so that doesn't county very different
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: and I prefer it that way, by the way. So
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: but in this case do not. You don't know who
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: left too, And sometimes that makes a difference. A lot
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: of times, I want to say it makes a difference
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: because you know, you feel as a woman, you feel
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: like you feel bad about yourself.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: You know, your self esteem is affected.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: And even though you're a mega superstar like Shakira and
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: you're beautiful and you have a great body, and you
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: can sing and and you have everything else going for you,
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: it makes you feel bad about yourself when a man
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: that you never expected that you love doesn't, you know,
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: it's a betrayal.
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: And it's between her and Jimmy. It's a thirteen year difference.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: She likes him young.
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: I like that, Maita likes the young the young one,
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: Ladina Latina or everything.
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: They're saying that what went to the game, Like that's
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: when Jimmy started to play bad Game three against Boston.
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: So there's all these people Miami.
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: She went to the gate, Na, we're eliminating you because
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: Miami heat is.
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: The way the playoffs come. I'm sorry.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can come to my house. We can watch together.
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: Here.
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: We'll be ruining for Jimmy and they able the point.
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, how much fun. But you know what,
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: So you know, some people are happy, like Shakira and Jimmy,
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: but then some other people are sad, like Sophia and Joe,
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: because no matter what, a breakup is always very sad.
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: Hopefully it's amicable. Maybe maybe they could get back together.
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: Look at Sylvester Stallone and and Jennifer Plumb then went
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: back together. No, Sophia has a son, Manolo. I think
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: he's thirty one or thirty two, like you, from her
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: previous husband. Uh now, actually she never married him, I think.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: But it's the father of her son. And and with Joe,
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: she has no kids.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: Maybe that was the problem.
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: You guys should have had kids, because they don't have kids.
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: Joe and so I don't have kids. I don't want to, regardless,
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: I wish some of the best. How do you feel
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: about what's going on with with Jonah and Sarah. I
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: know that she claims that Jonah Hill is a misogynist.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: And how did you say that in Spanish?
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: No, missoni, no, nota It sounds like masoita, but that
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: would be a masacist. But this is the misogynist all
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: the land. People love to say that, by the way, anyways,
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: but a misogynist is a person who dislikes or despises
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: or strongly prejudiced against women. I mean, I think that's
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: like really hard words. You know what she was calling Jonah,
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: where again, she's just showing what what Sarah, what his
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: ex girlfriend is trying to show is his text, and
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: his text is stayed.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: That he has boundaries, so you know, he's.
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: Trying to establish the boundaries in his relationship with Sarah.
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: The fact that she would go publicly on her Instagram
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: and take a screenshot of it and put something that
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: was so personal between her and Jonah, which was a
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: boyfriend at the time, I found that really rude, disrespectful
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: and immature.
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: Definitely.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: I mean, you're young and way younger than me, but
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: how do you feel about that?
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: And to me, this has no words. I mean, I
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: can't just believe that somebody could do that, like that
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: should not even be allowed.
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  Speaker 3: First of all, that's why I thought Jonah Hill was
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: in the right at first, because I saw her post
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: this and his text about the boundaries, and he was
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: being very quote unquote nice, a little bit passive aggressive
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: because that text, yeah, from Jonah to her, because he
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: came off as, hey, these are my boundaries, but they
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: were kind of like, hey, these are my rules.
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: Okay, So I'm going to read one of the text
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: from Jonah plain and simple. If you need the following
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: surfing with men boundary less inappropriate friendships with men to model,
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: to post pictures of yourself in a bathing suit, to
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: post sexual pictures, friendships with women who are in stable
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: places from your wild's recent past, beyond getting lunch or
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: coffee or something respectful.
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: I am not the partner for you.
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: If these things bring you to a place of happiness,
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: I support it and there will be no hard feelings.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: These are my boundaries for romantic partnership, my boundaries with
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: you based on the ways these actions have hurt our trust.
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: So, first of all, I think that she's misusing the
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: term boundaries. As a matter of fact, I feel like
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: nowadays in social media, a lot of people are just
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: misusing terms like gas lighting, like I tell you something
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: you don't like, Oh, you're gaslighting me.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: I mean even in my friend group.
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: By the way, I feel like all these girls are
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: alway is like, you know, inappropriately using the terms. So
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: I mean, boundaries I think are very important in any
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: kind of relationship. You know, whether it's husband and why
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: for like family, you know the family dynamics. I mean,
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: there's boundaries, and there's reasons why there's boundaries, right, Boundaries
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: and a relationship are kind of like this. They help
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: each person figure out where one person ends and the
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: other begins. In short, boundaries help you define what you're
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: comfortable with and how you would.
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: Like to be treated by others.
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: It's definitely a conversation that I think all couples and
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: all mature couples have. But boundaries are really not used
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: to tell the people what they can and they cannot do,
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: because then that would be controlling, Like you can't tell
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: the person you can't do this and you can't do that,
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: because that could be a little bit like manipulative and controlling.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: That's right, But I feel like he was very clear
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: in telling her, Listen, I'm not the guy for you, Like,
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: if you want to do all these things, then I
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: can't be in a romantic relationship with you, right, I mean,
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: obviously she was already a surfer, and I guess if
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: you look at her Instagram, she already took bikini pictures
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: and surfing. And you know, I think the biggest problem
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: here is that if you already have those predisposed things
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: in your head, you should not be dating that, Like,
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like if I don't want to,
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: you know, I feel like before you get into that relationship.
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: You should already have an idea of what to expect.
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: What you're getting into can change someone. So if you
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: see what she's doing this and that upsta, don't date
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: her or deal with it and talk about it. But
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: I mean, just for seeing Jonah Hill, no offense, Jonahill,
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: but you seem very insecure the way you act and
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: all these things about the go to the beach with her,
• 34:53
  Speaker 3: serve with her. It's not the end of the world.
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: So I think he's in security and his boundaries. He
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: really just wants to control her.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: Okay, So you do have to make a lot of
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: sense what you're saying. Okay, and I'm glad that you're
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: saying something like that, right, because I'm more old school,
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: I'm more traditional, and I'm a little bit more mature obviously,
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: so with my relationships. I mean there's ways of course
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: saying things right, and I think like writing them down
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: like a to do list, you know. I think that
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: that's really like immature too and controlling and it could.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: Come across wrong.
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: But it really bothered me that she goes on social
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: media to share this. So to me, a relationship is sacred.
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: It's between you and me, it's like between two people,
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: so like to say that publicly like that, to post
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: something like that, no.
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: One did you know who she was before she posted it? No, Well,
• 35:42
  Speaker 3: neither did anyone else, and that's why she did it.
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: Well, I think that that's the problem here too, right,
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: that he is the well known and you know, and
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: the actor and the celebrity there, and then she just
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: happened to be his girlfriend. And this is what she wants.
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: She started getting all this attention when she started dating him,
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: and now she she wants to take it to another
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: level and by doing something like that. But you see,
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: this is where I have a problem, like if you
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: have this kind of a problem, like, don't try to
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: make him look bad, don't try to make yourself look
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: good by making him look bad.
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: And I think a lot of women are really taking
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: advantage of like the woman's empowering thing nowadays.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: And let me too, this whole movement, and let me
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: tell you something.
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: I'm like super like, you know, women, I'm all about
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: women and empowering women and all that, But you know,
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: I think that a lot of these women are really
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: taking it to a different like level, like why do
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: you have to do that?
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: Why do you have to put that and then make
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: him look bad?
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: No, you're immature and you're stupid, and you're handling just
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: really wrong. And it's really unfair to him because you know,
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: he has a career. You know, you're trying to picture
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: him in a way. Yeah, you're trying to picture him
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: in a way like he's abusive and manipulative and he's
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: affecting your mental health?
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? This text is affecting your mental health?
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: Omal I mean, how could you how can you take advantage?
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: And then the society is like okay with.
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: This, Yeah, so they take her side.
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because she's a woman, right, and oh my god,
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: you should like that should be a flag.
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: That's such a red flag, like you need to run
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: from a guy like this, Really you need to run.
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: No, my love, You're going to be many situations like
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: this where you learn, you need to learn how to
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: communicate and you know, and I think that he was
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: the mature one telling her, listen, I'm not the guy
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: for you. I support you in every way, but I'm
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: just not don't want to be in a romantic relationship
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: with somebody that.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: Can make me happy because you know what, you know
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: what happens, Peter Kenna.
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: Pili konga, because all these things are going to hurt
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: and and you know, and disrespect the relationship. So he's
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: being honest and he's like, listen, if you you know
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: this is what I need, If you can give that
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: for me, then good.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: Luck with with your life. And that's it. We're good.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: I didn't see it in any negative way, but she
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: decided to turn it into Oh, I needed to talk
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: about this because it was affecting my mental health. All
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: these terms that they're using today, there's real mental people
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: with real mental health issues. I don't have mental health
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: issues exactly. So everybody's different. But what I'm trying to
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: say is that I think a lot of people are
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: using you know, these terms you know about mental health,
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: and mental health is a serious thing, and you're going
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: to tell me what badass excuse, like, oh, I had
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: to do it, I had to have to share with
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: the entire world, you know the boundaries you told me
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: because it was affecting my mental health in a negative way.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: No, you're the negative one.
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: You're trying to make him look bad and look like
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: a negative person when it's really you. So my question
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: to you is like, how would you have responded or
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: reacted if you had a partner that was making you
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: do the same or similar demands as Jonah Hill. So like,
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: let's say you're dating a girl and then she would
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: tell you like, in order for you to have a
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: romantic relationship with me, you can't.
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: Do a B and C and X Y Z Oh
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: definitely since always.
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: You've had a lot of those women that I told
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: you that.
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: Of course, Mama, Well, first you need to follow why
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: do you only follow girls? Hey? Do you know this one?
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: You know this? They go through every single thing.
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: Well, because it kind of says a lot about you.
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: I know, but like this is this is years of
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: like Instagram and this, and I want something that's really
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: serious then and like sense of like respect.
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: Well that's timing. That's a good point too, then, yes,
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: and that's.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: I think that Jonah and Sarah were only dating for
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: a year, But I think that after a year, I
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: think it's enough time, right where you can tell your partner, like,
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: you know what.
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: I don't like that you post these pictures.
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: I don't like I think that's a fair amount of
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: time because in the beginning you sound like a cycle.
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like you don't even.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: Know the person you're right, But I think like after
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: a year there should be like this mutual respect, right
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: and communication where you can tell your part listen. You know,
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: I know you do this, but like it bothers me
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: a little bit. Now we're in a relationship, and you know,
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: I feel kind of uncomfortable that you're doing this, and
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: I know you're like, you know, going out with other guys,
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: because I mean, when you're like happily in love with somebody,
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: you don't have to be going out with other guys
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: or doing other stuff. I think that there's like, you know,
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: there should be mutual respect. Again, I'm like, what's good
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: for the geese is good for the gander. I'm not
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: saying the man could do it to the woman and
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: the woman. I think it's a fair thing. It doesn't
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: matter what your sex is.
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: It is.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: But what would you do?
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: You would break up with the girl too? No, you
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: would say you were trying to talk to them. It
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: depends on how much.
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we would talk to them, Like, you're right, I
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: don't know any.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: Of these girls. No, you don't know any of those.
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: They just happen to be there. I follow them, let
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: me go through, you know, follow all of them.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: You would make changes.
• 40:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it doesn't mean anything to me. Do I care
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: who I follow? Do I know this? No? Follow and
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: follow them, follow them all if I have to.
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: That's what makes you If you were like a model,
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: and you would you know, post like pictures for models.
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: Different your career, your career. That's for example, Sidney Prauto,
• 41:09
  Speaker 3: she's your girlfriend, what are you gonna tell her? Hey,
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: I don't like those bikini pictures?
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: So would you go out with somebody like her? Like,
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: that's the question.
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: I've had that conversation where you know, you date someone
• 41:18
  Speaker 3: that's not used to this whole entertainment lifestyle social media,
• 41:22
  Speaker 3: so they're just they see it as something bad there.
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: They see it a completely different way than than we do. So,
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: you know, let's say I we're to date a girl
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: with two hundred thousand followers and she does Fashionova and
• 41:39
  Speaker 3: Celsius and all these things. She makes her money, she
• 41:42
  Speaker 3: has all her little platforms. I gonna hate on her
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: for having all that in bikini, you know what, that's
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: what she does. She's not doing it for She's not
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: just doing it for that.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: That's her job.
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: That's her job if she's an a.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: But you would be okay with it.
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: I would be okay with it, and I will support
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: it one hundred percent. But now if you're just you know,
• 42:00
  Speaker 3: Jane from down the street and you want to post
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: your ass to get forty seven likes, that's a whole
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: different story and I'm not okay with that.
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: Again, well, I think that that's why it's very important
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: for anybody that's entering a relationship.
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: And I didn't realize it when I was younger.
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: That was some other advice actually that my mom, you know,
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: and dad would give me.
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: You know, when you're young and you're just dating.
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: Obviously at seventeen and eighteen, it's like usually the man
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: you're going to marry or have a family with. But
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: once you're like in a certain time in your life
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: and that you know, a certain stage in your life,
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: you should be dating the kind of person that's who
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: you want to have a family and a life with.
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: So you're not going to be wasting your time with that.
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: So if that's I mean, I'm not in Jonah's head
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: or heart right now. So I don't know if he
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: was looking for like a serious commitment, you know, to
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: have a family and get married. But if he was,
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: then you know he figured out it wasn't going to
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: be her. But you shouldn't be looking for that.
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: It depends what you know, point you are in your
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: life and whether you're trying to settle down, whether you
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: just got to out of something seriously, you just want
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: to enjoy it, so you know right now. For example,
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: for me, whoever I end up dating, it's long term
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: and I have to see them, and.
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: You're going to look at their Instagram and please share
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: it with me so I can stop their Instagram obviously,
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: because you know there's no time to waste.
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