Latest / The Breakfast Club / Nia Long & Ime Udoka are in a good coparenting space after his alleged Celtics coworker cheating scandal

Transcript

Nia Long & Ime Udoka are in a good coparenting space after his alleged Celtics coworker cheating scandal · The Breakfast Club

• 0:02
  Speaker 1: I'm a homegrowd that knows a little bit about everything
• 0:04
  Speaker 1: and everybody you don't know if you don't lie about that. Right, Hey, y'all,
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: what's up.
• 0:10
  Speaker 2: It's Lauren l Rosa and this is the latest with
• 0:13
  Speaker 2: Laura L Rosa. This is your DELI dig on all
• 0:16
  Speaker 2: things pop culture, entertainment, news, and all of the conversations
• 0:20
  Speaker 2: that shake the room.
• 0:21
  Speaker 1: Baby.
• 0:22
  Speaker 2: Now, today we are going to dive into an article.
• 0:25
  Speaker 1: That was honestly just released.
• 0:27
  Speaker 2: As I was heading here to the podcast, I saw
• 0:30
  Speaker 2: that this article was released and a major announcement about
• 0:33
  Speaker 2: this celebrity was released. So we're going to get into
• 0:36
  Speaker 2: all things nia Along today. And for those of you,
• 0:39
  Speaker 2: I mean, if you're listening to this podcast, I don't
• 0:41
  Speaker 2: know how you would be unfamiliar with nia Along. But
• 0:45
  Speaker 2: for those of you who are unfamiliar with nil honestly,
• 0:47
  Speaker 2: I don't even want to do that because if you
• 0:49
  Speaker 2: listen to this podcast and you're familiar with ni Along,
• 0:51
  Speaker 2: the rock you live under is not my problem.
• 0:53
  Speaker 1: We are not going to do that today. So nia Along, you.
• 0:57
  Speaker 2: Know, actress, you know, just man like nia Along is
• 1:03
  Speaker 2: literally when I think I just saying actress to me
• 1:07
  Speaker 2: is a is an underscore is an undersell. I think
• 1:10
  Speaker 2: when you talk about Nia Long and what her career
• 1:12
  Speaker 2: has been, Nia Long has been. I'll just speak for
• 1:15
  Speaker 2: me personally, like she is an actress, and you know,
• 1:19
  Speaker 2: I visually when I say actress, see all of the
• 1:23
  Speaker 2: roles that she has played on camera, from Boys in
• 1:26
  Speaker 2: the Hood to I mean even even like recent things
• 1:30
  Speaker 2: she's done, Like you know, there's a movie I forget
• 1:34
  Speaker 2: what is it called. It's it's about uh. I only
• 1:39
  Speaker 2: remember her name in the movie CC Bloom because my
• 1:41
  Speaker 2: best friend Sierra that's what her family calls her.
• 1:44
  Speaker 1: Hold on one second Beaches.
• 1:46
  Speaker 2: Yes, so from Boys in the Hood to I mean
• 1:50
  Speaker 2: fresh Prince of bel Air and of course Love Jones.
• 1:53
  Speaker 1: I mean it's Nia Along like Love Jones.
• 1:55
  Speaker 2: Like I just I literally just watched Beaches again on Netflix.
• 2:00
  Speaker 1: Ne Along remade the ninety I.
• 2:03
  Speaker 2: Think it was an eighty film, the eighty film Beaches,
• 2:06
  Speaker 2: and she played CC Boom in the film. But I mean,
• 2:10
  Speaker 2: I just think of her as a nineties culture like architect,
• 2:18
  Speaker 2: and I feel like with Neil Long and she talks
• 2:21
  Speaker 2: about it, We're going to get into an interview that
• 2:25
  Speaker 2: she did for The Cut magazine and the headline of
• 2:28
  Speaker 2: the article says, ne Along isn't romanticized in the past.
• 2:32
  Speaker 2: She'd rather live in the moment and lift up the
• 2:34
  Speaker 2: next generation in Hollywood. And you know, I just think
• 2:38
  Speaker 2: about everything that Nia Long like stood for right as
• 2:43
  Speaker 2: a black woman in television, just a woman, a powerful,
• 2:46
  Speaker 2: beautiful but like sexy, not afraid to say how she
• 2:51
  Speaker 2: feels and show a powerful woman in Hollywood. For me,
• 2:56
  Speaker 2: just watching her and I think about, you know, down
• 2:58
  Speaker 2: to They just announced that she is going to be
• 3:02
  Speaker 2: Este Lauder's first ever an ambassador for North America exclusively,
• 3:06
  Speaker 2: which means she'll get to do like TV deals and
• 3:09
  Speaker 2: her TV campaigns and digital campaigns and all the things
• 3:13
  Speaker 2: for the brand.
• 3:13
  Speaker 1: But I'm like, duh, Like Nia Long not only is.
• 3:17
  Speaker 2: A person that I watched on camera because she was
• 3:19
  Speaker 2: great at playing these characters in these roles and storytelling
• 3:23
  Speaker 2: and really just being the girl, you know, the girl
• 3:26
  Speaker 2: next door and the girl from around the way who
• 3:28
  Speaker 2: was so smart.
• 3:29
  Speaker 1: You know, I remember boys in the hood.
• 3:30
  Speaker 2: I always thought that it was so fire that like
• 3:33
  Speaker 2: she was the girl that was like beautiful and she
• 3:35
  Speaker 2: was like there and she's around, but she's headed to
• 3:38
  Speaker 2: college and her head is on straight and she's fly
• 3:40
  Speaker 2: and she's sexy, and you know, I think for a
• 3:43
  Speaker 2: lot of us, you know, for me as a black
• 3:45
  Speaker 2: woman looking at that on TV, it was like, okay, cool,
• 3:48
  Speaker 2: Like I'm growing up as a girl around the way,
• 3:50
  Speaker 2: but there's more to just my neighborhood. But it's also
• 3:54
  Speaker 2: okay for me to still be very intertwined and indulged
• 3:57
  Speaker 2: and engulfed in my neighborhood. But when it's and set away,
• 4:00
  Speaker 2: it's time to step away. But also just being I mean,
• 4:03
  Speaker 2: I don't know her beauty. To me, I'm like, duh
• 4:07
  Speaker 2: at Stay Louder and whoever else cover girl, all the brands, right,
• 4:11
  Speaker 2: But that came out today as well. So she did
• 4:13
  Speaker 2: this interview with The Cut and they talk about, you
• 4:16
  Speaker 2: know her and everything she's doing with Esday Louder, but
• 4:19
  Speaker 2: then they also get into just what being a woman
• 4:23
  Speaker 2: in her role.
• 4:25
  Speaker 1: Has meant for her.
• 4:27
  Speaker 2: So she's speaking with The Cut and they just starn't
• 4:29
  Speaker 2: really getting into her life.
• 4:30
  Speaker 1: And one of the things that is starting.
• 4:31
  Speaker 2: To go superviral already is one of the quotes from
• 4:37
  Speaker 2: a part of the interview. So this part of the
• 4:39
  Speaker 2: interview they're talking to today along about balancing work and love,
• 4:43
  Speaker 2: and she says, I don't think there's ever been a
• 4:45
  Speaker 2: time in my life where I was willing to give
• 4:47
  Speaker 2: up my life to be someone's wife or girlfriend ever period.
• 4:52
  Speaker 2: And then she laughs. She says, I don't care how
• 4:54
  Speaker 2: difficult the journey has been. I think you can have both.
• 4:57
  Speaker 2: And she's talking about the love and the career, which
• 5:00
  Speaker 2: has always been a conversation, especially you know, I mean
• 5:05
  Speaker 2: ni Al Long has been in this game for a
• 5:06
  Speaker 2: long time. Lean Long has kids. Nia Long has been
• 5:09
  Speaker 2: in a very public, you know, situation where her partner,
• 5:14
  Speaker 2: I May, I May. I'm probably saying his name wrong.
• 5:16
  Speaker 2: I May, who was coaching for the Celtics, you know,
• 5:19
  Speaker 2: at the time when all this stuff was going down
• 5:21
  Speaker 2: and there was the cheating allegations, and Neil Long like publicly,
• 5:26
  Speaker 2: that's like finding out you got cheated cheated on when
• 5:28
  Speaker 2: you at work and it's like it's nothing you can
• 5:30
  Speaker 2: do because you got to finish the shift.
• 5:31
  Speaker 1: But she's so pissed and your heart is broken.
• 5:33
  Speaker 2: Nia Long would do some things publicly with her youngest
• 5:36
  Speaker 2: son's father.
• 5:37
  Speaker 1: She has two sons. Her youngest son's father.
• 5:40
  Speaker 2: I May, I believe it's I May I may, I may,
• 5:44
  Speaker 2: I may. If I'm saying it wrong, I apologize. I
• 5:48
  Speaker 2: say a lot of people's names wrong, My bad.
• 5:51
  Speaker 1: So okay, my bad. But yeah, so she's been doing
• 5:54
  Speaker 1: a lot publicly.
• 5:55
  Speaker 2: But you know, even before that, she had the career,
• 5:59
  Speaker 2: she had the husban, been, she had the family, all
• 6:02
  Speaker 2: of the things. And she says, I never wanted to
• 6:03
  Speaker 2: wake up in my thirties and forties and say, well,
• 6:06
  Speaker 2: what is the value of my life? She says, Now,
• 6:09
  Speaker 2: don't get me wrong, I my are women who are
• 6:11
  Speaker 2: committed to being stay at home wives and running a
• 6:14
  Speaker 2: house and raising the children. That's a job. But I
• 6:17
  Speaker 2: also know that those children grow up, and when they
• 6:19
  Speaker 2: grow up, whether you're working, whether you're a working mom,
• 6:22
  Speaker 2: a single mom, or stay at home mom, there's a
• 6:24
  Speaker 2: moment that every woman feels like, Okay, now it's time
• 6:27
  Speaker 2: to recreate who I am. Now it's time to tap
• 6:29
  Speaker 2: into my passion because there's so much pouring out.
• 6:33
  Speaker 1: It's like to give or take.
• 6:34
  Speaker 2: It's basically like, okay, now your cup is empty and
• 6:36
  Speaker 2: you got to refiel it.
• 6:37
  Speaker 1: So you got to give back somewhere.
• 6:40
  Speaker 2: She says, I just have never been willing to give
• 6:41
  Speaker 2: up my career and my dreams and my aspirations for
• 6:44
  Speaker 2: a man. I think it's beautiful to have a partnership,
• 6:47
  Speaker 2: but I don't need to be taken care of. It's
• 6:49
  Speaker 2: nice to be treated, it's nice for a man to
• 6:50
  Speaker 2: financially be giving. I love all of that. I'm here
• 6:53
  Speaker 2: for all of that, and it's actually like a prerequisit right, Yes, girl,
• 6:58
  Speaker 2: I am. That's one of the biggest things I'm learning.
• 7:00
  Speaker 2: It's nothing wrong with that being a prerequisite. The twenty
• 7:03
  Speaker 2: twenty five and this whole list of where people won't
• 7:06
  Speaker 2: eat and will eat on the date.
• 7:07
  Speaker 1: I ain't going to a chain restaurant.
• 7:09
  Speaker 2: All that will make you feel like having prerequisites or
• 7:11
  Speaker 2: things that you want when it comes to finances is
• 7:14
  Speaker 2: a bad thing as a woman, which is crazy to me.
• 7:17
  Speaker 2: You don't got to be you know. I'm not the
• 7:19
  Speaker 2: type that's like if my men don't.
• 7:21
  Speaker 1: Or can't, I won't.
• 7:23
  Speaker 2: But you do want it, and I want to be
• 7:25
  Speaker 2: honest about the fact that I want that, So I
• 7:26
  Speaker 2: love the Neolong said that. Here she says, you got
• 7:29
  Speaker 2: to come with all the presents, she laughs, the offerings,
• 7:33
  Speaker 2: The surprise is the trips. That's the icing on the cake.
• 7:36
  Speaker 2: That's where I get to be soft. That's where I
• 7:38
  Speaker 2: get to be a girl's girl. I'm sorry, That's where
• 7:40
  Speaker 2: I get to be a girly girl. Felt feltic. So
• 7:44
  Speaker 2: when I think about Neolong and I think about, you know,
• 7:47
  Speaker 2: since the nineties, how long Neolong has been in this
• 7:51
  Speaker 2: industry and been relevant in this industry. I mean, the
• 7:55
  Speaker 2: minute I think about ni Along, I think about the
• 7:56
  Speaker 2: line short hair like Neolon, like her beauty has been
• 8:00
  Speaker 2: focus short hair, night like ne Along. People think of nineties,
• 8:04
  Speaker 2: you know, beautiful brown skin, brown lip, brown glass, soul food,
• 8:09
  Speaker 2: love Jones, the flipped up Bob. Anytime I do short hair,
• 8:13
  Speaker 2: brown lip, it's all even my shirt today, my shirt today.
• 8:18
  Speaker 2: I don't know if you guys can see it well
• 8:19
  Speaker 2: because I'm sitting down, but it's very much na Along
• 8:22
  Speaker 2: soul Food inspired.
• 8:23
  Speaker 1: When I put this on today, I was like, oh,
• 8:24
  Speaker 1: I just.
• 8:25
  Speaker 2: Want to do brown lip, natural glow vibes very much
• 8:28
  Speaker 2: reminiscent of ne Along.
• 8:29
  Speaker 1: Always an inspo. But it's not just about her look.
• 8:33
  Speaker 2: I think it's always for a lot of us, you know,
• 8:37
  Speaker 2: women that are trying to figure this out.
• 8:39
  Speaker 1: We model and or we model and we look at
• 8:42
  Speaker 1: women who.
• 8:44
  Speaker 2: Seem like they have it all figured out, And I say,
• 8:46
  Speaker 2: I say it seem like not as a knock to
• 8:48
  Speaker 2: what Neilong may have or may not have figured out.
• 8:50
  Speaker 2: But you know, I just know people always say I
• 8:53
  Speaker 2: look like I haven't figured out, but I don't not
• 8:54
  Speaker 2: about me. But like she would probably I'm assuming she
• 8:57
  Speaker 2: would probably say that because everybody, and she said in
• 9:00
  Speaker 2: this article when she talks about co parents and having
• 9:02
  Speaker 2: to figure out her situation after that very public separation
• 9:06
  Speaker 2: that we talked about, nobody has it all figured out,
• 9:08
  Speaker 2: but eventually you get to a place of peace and understanding.
• 9:11
  Speaker 2: And for n a long and looking at her career
• 9:13
  Speaker 2: in the way that people have regarded her as a
• 9:15
  Speaker 2: nineties beauty and all the.
• 9:17
  Speaker 1: Things that's something to aspire to.
• 9:20
  Speaker 2: I think the way that people talk about you, in
• 9:22
  Speaker 2: my opinion, in this industry carries you in how you
• 9:27
  Speaker 2: are or how you are perceived when you walk in
• 9:30
  Speaker 2: before you're able to open your mouth and do so.
• 9:32
  Speaker 2: And I think, if you know nothing else about Nia Long,
• 9:35
  Speaker 2: you know she is gorgeous. You know she has had
• 9:37
  Speaker 2: some of the most iconic roles. She's been one of
• 9:39
  Speaker 2: the most impactful and iconic black faces actress wise, you
• 9:44
  Speaker 2: know since the nineties, and you know that there are
• 9:47
  Speaker 2: generations of women, especially US brown skinned girls that have
• 9:51
  Speaker 2: looked at nia Along for inspo. So we're we're not
• 9:53
  Speaker 2: just doing it because of beauty. It's like, Okay, she
• 9:56
  Speaker 2: getting money, she looks good. The family unit is, they're
• 10:00
  Speaker 2: just all the things. And I think we saw a
• 10:02
  Speaker 2: lot of how people regard Nia Long when the situation
• 10:07
  Speaker 2: with her ex in, her child's father, her youngest child's father, happened.
• 10:12
  Speaker 2: Because when everything came out, you know about the allegations
• 10:16
  Speaker 2: that were being thrown his way, and in real time,
• 10:20
  Speaker 2: Nia Long was being put in conversations of what was
• 10:24
  Speaker 2: done to her and her relationship as far as you know,
• 10:27
  Speaker 2: his infidelity, his alleged infidelity. The world came out swinging
• 10:31
  Speaker 2: like don't play with her like that. We not don't
• 10:33
  Speaker 2: play with our girl like that. And also Nia Long
• 10:36
  Speaker 2: has talked about I remember she did to sit down
• 10:38
  Speaker 2: with Jeezi and she talked about how she didn't feel
• 10:42
  Speaker 2: protected in that situation and not by us. Because again
• 10:46
  Speaker 2: we the people came out swinging for n Along, like
• 10:48
  Speaker 2: why is this even a public conversation, Why is this
• 10:52
  Speaker 2: being leaked to press into media at all, but she
• 10:57
  Speaker 2: said she felt she didn't feel protect or that the
• 11:01
  Speaker 2: necessary steps were taken by the organization he was working
• 11:04
  Speaker 2: with at the time and just people involved to protect
• 11:07
  Speaker 2: her in their situation in the the you know, the
• 11:10
  Speaker 2: fact that a lot of this should have remained anonymous,
• 11:12
  Speaker 2: But we move on. She also talks about co parenting
• 11:25
  Speaker 2: in this article. And to my surprise, because I'm be
• 11:27
  Speaker 2: honest with y'all, if I was knee along and I
• 11:30
  Speaker 2: had to go.
• 11:30
  Speaker 1: Through what she had to go through.
• 11:31
  Speaker 2: Because she's a public figure and this was you know
• 11:34
  Speaker 2: you're talking about. You know, he's a coach for the
• 11:38
  Speaker 2: Celtics at the time, and it's a very high profile situation,
• 11:42
  Speaker 2: it would be a bit hard for me to figure
• 11:44
  Speaker 2: out co parenting in the way she's describing in this article.
• 11:48
  Speaker 2: I get it, they have kids and they gotta figure
• 11:49
  Speaker 2: it out, but I.
• 11:50
  Speaker 1: Think I don't know.
• 11:53
  Speaker 2: There would just be a level of hurt and distrust
• 11:55
  Speaker 2: that I don't know I would be able to as
• 11:57
  Speaker 2: easily get over. But maybe it's different when you got kids.
• 11:59
  Speaker 2: I don't have kids, Yeah, but she says. Neilong says,
• 12:02
  Speaker 2: this summer I travel with my youngest son and my ex.
• 12:05
  Speaker 1: Emay, we had a great time.
• 12:07
  Speaker 2: And that's what I mean by I don't know if
• 12:08
  Speaker 2: I could get to this point where yall are seeing
• 12:09
  Speaker 2: us out in public traveling together. You know, we've shown
• 12:12
  Speaker 2: up at like basketball, soccer ball, soccer ball, basketball soccer
• 12:16
  Speaker 2: games together.
• 12:17
  Speaker 1: That's one thing.
• 12:19
  Speaker 2: That's easy to say, Okay, they're both here because of
• 12:21
  Speaker 2: like whatever, but traveling on trips together. Her kid can
• 12:25
  Speaker 2: easily go with his father and take that same trip.
• 12:28
  Speaker 2: It's a very big step for you guys to be
• 12:30
  Speaker 2: doing that together, she says. This summer, I travel with
• 12:33
  Speaker 2: my youngest son and my ex. We had a great time.
• 12:36
  Speaker 2: I've never walked that much in my life, but it
• 12:39
  Speaker 2: was really beautiful because we've had a very public journey
• 12:42
  Speaker 2: that has found its way to peace and understanding, and
• 12:45
  Speaker 2: there's a lot of mutual respect that we have for
• 12:47
  Speaker 2: each other. The most important gift you can give your
• 12:50
  Speaker 2: kids is to.
• 12:51
  Speaker 1: Heal your trauma.
• 12:52
  Speaker 2: And that's what I mean by Look, I don't have kids,
• 12:54
  Speaker 2: so me right now, I'm speaking from a place of
• 12:56
  Speaker 2: that trauma will still be sitting very deep at the
• 12:59
  Speaker 2: top of my stomach, and every single time I would
• 13:02
  Speaker 2: have to engage. It would just come up like that
• 13:05
  Speaker 2: look that come up like the spirits in me. Okay,
• 13:08
  Speaker 2: it would hit me like the Holy ghost every single time.
• 13:11
  Speaker 2: I had to just see the person in real life.
• 13:14
  Speaker 1: Anyway. But listen, maybe.
• 13:15
  Speaker 2: Kids give you a different sense of strength that I
• 13:17
  Speaker 2: don't have yet, in a different sense of needing for peace,
• 13:22
  Speaker 2: because I'm all here for peace. But my piece is
• 13:24
  Speaker 2: I never have to see you again nor talk to you.
• 13:26
  Speaker 2: They don't have a choice here, She says. I don't
• 13:28
  Speaker 2: talk much about my personal life because it's no one's business,
• 13:31
  Speaker 2: but every now and then people speculate on social media,
• 13:35
  Speaker 2: and it's like me and Coach are good. I hope
• 13:38
  Speaker 2: he wins. He deserves to win. He really, he's really
• 13:41
  Speaker 2: great at what he does. We can have experiences with
• 13:43
  Speaker 2: our son and make him the priority. They're still healing
• 13:47
  Speaker 2: to be done and understanding to be had. But the
• 13:49
  Speaker 2: past is the past. And that's what I think to me,
• 13:51
  Speaker 2: is that is what is so like, Oh my god, Lauren,
• 13:55
  Speaker 2: you might need to grow up like so remarkable and
• 13:58
  Speaker 2: profound here because I can understand piece is piece. There's
• 14:03
  Speaker 2: no issue. But I think that's easier said than done.
• 14:06
  Speaker 2: When again, I don't have to deal with anybody that
• 14:09
  Speaker 2: I've dealt with in the past, I don't have to
• 14:11
  Speaker 2: deal with them.
• 14:11
  Speaker 1: We have no strings attached, not a thing. Okay, love
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: that for me.
• 14:17
  Speaker 2: Love it like I really.
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: At this point, I don't even have an ex.
• 14:22
  Speaker 2: I've never dated anybody besides the date, but a person
• 14:24
  Speaker 2: I'm dating right now. That is how I handle, you know,
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: life at this point, and.
• 14:28
  Speaker 1: That brings me peace.
• 14:29
  Speaker 2: But it's a bit different here, especially too, I think
• 14:31
  Speaker 2: even if they didn't share a son together, it's a
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: bit different because again, it was so high profile, so
• 14:37
  Speaker 2: you're always attached to that person once it's high profile
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: and it hits the media and it becomes a storyline.
• 14:43
  Speaker 2: She says, they're still healing. It needs to be done,
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: and I understanding to be had. But the past is
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: the past. I'm not going to carry burthen some energy
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: with me because that just transfers to my children and
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: it transfers to everything else in my life. I'm working
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: on menia, all right, I hear you speaking. I'm proud
• 14:56
  Speaker 2: of myself. I think we're proud of each other as parents,
• 15:00
  Speaker 2: and we're able to make this an annual thing and
• 15:03
  Speaker 2: commit to these last sweet years of him being in
• 15:05
  Speaker 2: grade school and high school before he goes off to college.
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: We're both going to be standing there and watching him graduate.
• 15:11
  Speaker 2: And I mean, I think this is the place that
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: you have to arrive to, especially with a kid grade
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: school ages that's a big kid. Your kid is on
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: social so your kid is hearing things, seeing things, and
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: even if your kid is not directly on social, their
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: friends are. We just talked today at the Breakfast Club
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: about Blue Ivy and when Blue Ivy was doing the
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: Cowboy Carter tour. Y'all remember in the beginning of the tour,
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: people were, you know, having some things to say about
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: her dancing and her choreography, especially because I mean, Beyonce
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: is her mom. But Matthew Knows told Carlos King on
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: Reality with the King that social media was the reason
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: that Blue Ivy went basically got in a gym.
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: So I think at this point, when you you have
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: a kid that is.
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: This old and also too you know nia long and
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: you know her ex were together for some time and
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: they're just in different spaces a lot more mature than
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: I am, you don't have a choice but to get
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: to this place and I think that it's important because
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: you have so much going on day to day. And
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: don't get me wrong, I'm not harboring any bad feelings
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: or ill will for anybody in my past. I think
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: I've gotten to a point too where I'm like, I
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: don't even know if these people deserve that energy, but.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: I don't interact with anyone. I think if I were
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: to have to interact.
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: With any X that I had any bad breakup situation with, honestly,
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: like my my last situation, if I were to walk
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: past him to day or tomorrow, it would be nothing
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: like literally even if you were to speak and just
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: be like, oh hey, what's up.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: But it's taking time for me to get there.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: And I've had the luxury of not having an interact
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: and just acting like he fell off the edge of
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: the earth because it's what I needed and I'm sure
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: it's what he needed as well too. But I'd also
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: gotten to a place by the end of that where
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: like it wasn't like abrupt like it seems like me
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: a long situation with her ex and her child's or
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: her youngest son's father was very like she didn't have
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: a choice, Like it was like everything hit the news
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: and it was just like, Okay, is Nea Long gonna
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: go back? Is she not gonna go back? And I
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: think she did have a choice. Let me not say
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: that she did have a choice, but I think there
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: is pressure when you know you got the whole world
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: and all these girls who are doing a short hair
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: like Na Long and a brown lip line and looking
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: up to you about what are you gonna do in
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: this situation? And people forget that celebrities are only humans.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: So it's like you could take your baby father back
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: like ten eleven times, right, he don't come pick up
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: the kids. He got about four or five baby mamas.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: You arguing and fussing and fighting with all of them,
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: you can take them back. Cool the men in nia
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: along decides to take anybody back, or we get a
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: photo of them on this vacation and it's picked up
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: the wrong way as if they might be trying to
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: figure things out. Baby you The same person in the
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: comments like I cannot believe her. She is a role
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: model for black people. Forget that celebrities are human. But
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: I mean Neolong stood in where she stood in, and
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: I think that's always been one of the things again
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: that you know, you look at people when you admire
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: about them, It's like it seems Neia don't take no shit,
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: is what it seems like, and be it as it may.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: She's grown up in an industry where she can't, so
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: that goes into so many other parts of her life.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: She continues to.
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: Say, I talk about my kids a lot because they
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: take up so much space in my life and my heart.
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: Everything I do is for them. I'm not a perfect mother.
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: I've made any mistakes. My kids have seen me go
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: through it. But that's the type of mother I am.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: If I'm pissed, everyone knows. See, that's so crazy that
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: I said that. I hadn't even read this paragraph in
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: prep for today's episode. I just I've never met Nia long,
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: but just from watching her in interviews and how she's
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: navigated her career in her characters too, and I like
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: in her characters. But I think it gets to a
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: certain point where you know, when you're in a certain
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: part of your career, you get to pick and choose
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: kind of what you're playing and why you're playing it,
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: and you know you're very mindful about what you're picking.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: And she's been able to craft almost like a brand
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: or a conversation for herself through her characters. Now this
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: next part of the article, and we want to end
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: here because I want to open it up for conversation
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: from you guys. This next part of the article hit
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: me very close to home. So they talk to me
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: along about being in her thirties, and then they talk
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: to me along about being in her fifties. So she says,
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: your thirties are time to experience everything around you, so
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: that by the time you get to the age where
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: you decide I want to get married or I want
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: to have kids, or I don't want to get married,
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: but I still want to have children, you've been open
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: enough to have these experiences to narrow down your purpose.
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: I think thirty is definitely the time where you start
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: thinking purpose, Like you think you know purpose and you
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: think you know, Oh my God, this is why God
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: put me here and the world deserves to get this
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: version of me.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: No, I think thirty is where you at least.
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: I don't think you get it fully in your thirties,
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: but I think you start thinking about it in a
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: real way and things start hitting you differently, especially if
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: you're coming into your thirties with kids or thinking about
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: half them.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: She says.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: When I was thirty, I was like, and I'm thirty three.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: That's why it just hit me so close to home.
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: She says, When I was thirty, I was like, Okay,
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: I want to have my first child by thirty. I
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: thought I was going to have my first child at
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: twenty five, like that was always my thing before I
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: got to college. When I got to college, I was like,
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: twenty five is not happening. Okay, I need my years
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: back that I just spent in college. We're gonna look
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: at thirty five. Now I'm thirty three, and I'm like,
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: oh god.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: She says.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: When I was thirty, I was like, Okay, I want
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: to have my first child by thirty. And it was
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: always weird because I never said I wanted to be married.
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: Marriage was secondary because I felt if it was meant
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: to be, that would happen. I had my first child
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: at thirty and my second one at forty. I was
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: so hyper focused on surviving that I probably should have
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: had more fun. So I think there's a healthy balance
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: between being intentional about your focus, your passion into just
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: say fuck it and have fun. You're gonna have plenty
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: of years to grind it out. That part hit me
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: because one of my biggest things right now is, you know,
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: I'm open to the idea of beginning to plan having
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: my children.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: I don't want to have children right now. This is
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: not the time. I think.
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: I'm just beginning to build like foundation in a real
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: way for myself career wise, and that's very important for
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: me to I know it won't be all figured out,
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: but I do want a certain.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: Foundation before I have my kids.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: But when she said she at one point was planning
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: her children, and she was just like, you know, if
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: marriage happens, it happens.
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: I want to be married. I want the family dynamic.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: That is something I've always said, but I realize this
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: year that I've been even though I've always said that.
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: And a big part of that is because I didn't
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: grow up with my father in my house. I met
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: my dad when I was like thirteen. I can pick
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: up the phone and call him. He may or he
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: may not answer. It depends on what he's going through
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: that day.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: And if he.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: Answers, how well our conversation goes depends on him his
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: energy that day. And I mean my dad watches and
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: listens to everything gets upset when I say things like that,
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: but it's the honest truth and the reason why I
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: bring that up. It's not a stab at him. It's
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: just that I realized this year has created an idea
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: in my mind of like, Okay, I want to be
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: married and I want the family dynamic because it's not
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: what I had traditionally in my house.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: My brother's dad was around, I have a lot of
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: uncles and like all of that, so I was straight.
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: I never knew I needed for a man in the
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: household until I met people who had their dads in
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: their house. But it's so it's created this idea that, yes,
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: I want all of this stuff because I didn't have it,
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: and I know it's needed, but I.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: Don't even really know why, like like what is the need?
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: Like like why am I saying that?
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: Like I'm saying it because traditionally that's what's supposed to happen.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: But I think this past so not this past summer.
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: It was the summer prior to that about yeah, the
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: summer when I came home from LA and I was
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: in transition, so it was you know, I had done
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: a little bit of a guest host in twenty twenty
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: three breakfast Club. That was the first time that me
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: and my dad spent like actual real time together because
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: he was helping me renovate an event space that I
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: had at the time. And I remember one day we
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: were on the phone with a contractors or it was
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: like a painting company. It was a painting company, like
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: a paint store. And my dad has an interior decorating
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: business that's painting and all the things, so that's why
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: he was there helping me. And there were two conversations actually,
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: so this is the first one. So I was on
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: the phone with the paint store and I'm talking through
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: things and he's telling me what to say, and I
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: think I said something wrong or like they told me
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: they didn't have something that like it didn't make sense
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: for them not to have, and he took the phone
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: and the way that they talked to him, it was
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: a guy on the phone, the way that he talked
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: to my dad, and just I don't know the level
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: of understanding that happened in the conversation instantly because a
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: man got in the phone, got on the phone and
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: kind of just like took over and I was able
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: to sit back. I remember literally the feeling of like, oh,
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: this is what having a dad around is like. And
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: for like, I literally remember that, and that's something as
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: small as like ordering paint from a paint store, but
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: I just remember the reassurance of like, my dad got it,
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: and like the reassurance of oh, a man is here.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: So it feels like like there's like a safer space
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: or like a you know, like I never felt that before,
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: so I didn't really understand because it's different when it's
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: your father versus like, you know, my brother's dad, and
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: even that him and my mom weren't together getting too personal.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: My whole point is is that when I read this
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: from Nia Long, I realized that when she says and
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: it was always weird because I never said I wanted
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: to be married.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: That's different for me.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: I've always said I wanted to be married, but she
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: says marriage was secondary because I felt if it was meant.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: To be, that would happen.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: I think, in my mind, I'm saying this is what
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: I want, but my actions I was moving like, I mean,
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: I can deal with whoever, even if I don't see
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: my forever or this being the father of my children,
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: because that's just gonna find me like the great man
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: who's the father of my children, but not just the
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: father of my children, but my life partner and my husband.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: Oh, that'll just find me.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: I don't need to be intentional because it'll just snap
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: into or it'll just happen.
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: No.
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: I got to a certain point being single and being
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: in my thirties and really starting to like think through
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: what I want my like this thing over here on
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: the left of me that I'm saying I want like
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: marriage and children, and like I don't just want a
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: man in my house and to be married because I
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: didn't see that. I want a real life partner. I
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: want my kids to see me happy. I want my
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: kids to see me working through things and it actually
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: working out when I'm not happy. I want my kids
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: to see me being respected, valued, and I want my
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: kids to see me doing that to someone as well.
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: And I, oh, my god, Like this past year has
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: just been even the way I speak about kids, I
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: say my kids, and I've had to learn how to
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: be like our kids and our because in my mind
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: marriage and all that, it was just like I'm gonna
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: do that because it hasn't been done and I haven't
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: seen it, not because I truly felt like I was
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: ever gonna find a person that was my actual like, Okay,
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: this is my partner, We're equally yoked. This is what
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: my children need, not just this is what I want
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: for them. That whole little line right there, Oh, it's
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: just gonna happen. It'll just fall in the place. Felt that,
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: And that's where I was up until this year thirty three.
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: And then she compares it to her her fifties, and
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: she says, I'm turning fifty five this year. My sixties
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: are around the corner. It sounds crazy to me, but
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: I still feel like I'm in my thirties. I felt smarter,
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: I feel safe. I've practiced a lot of forgiveness over
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: the past couple of years. Most of my relationships are
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: in a really good place. And I did it for myself.
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: I didn't do it for anyone else.
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong. There are days that I want
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: to go in we all have that.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: But when I feel that pressure or that angst, or
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: that anxiety, or that need to have a deeper understanding
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: of something or someone, I tend to get quiet and
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: think about what I'm going through rather than whatever the
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: outside circumstance is and then you can approach things differently.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: I'm not in my fifties, but I feel like I've
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: begin to do that a bit differently. And maybe it's
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: too it's because of like Nia Long has been famous
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: and has been had platform and success in a public
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: eye for a really long time. Everything's just starting for me,
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: like and I'm such a I'm like, you know, small fish,
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: huge pond on this platform that is.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: Like, you know, elevating things every single day for me.
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: So I'm beginning to think about how I deal with things,
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: how I respond to things, so much more and so
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: differently than how I've ever been because my only thought is,
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: you can't f this up.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: This is your shot.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: You cannot mess this up, and anything you do can
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: has a chance to hear the public. You cannot mess
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: this up. So I mean this article, and I didn't
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: even fully go through everything, but this article in reading
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: about Nia along and just you know where her thinking
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: is today, from where she's come from and where she's
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: been and where she's going. She talks about you know,
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: she's dropping a memoir soon, she has a project coming
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: up with Lorenz Tape.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: It was a great read. It was a great read,
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: and I think you know here on.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: The last with Laurena Rosea, I think one of the
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: things that it's beautiful is that we get to talk
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: about things in pop culture and in conversations, in conversation, but.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: We get to really have a conversation. This was, you know,
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: something that made me reflect.
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: Would love for you guys to go read the article
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: on the cut, the feature on Nia along. Let me
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: know what you guys think, Get in the comments, get
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: in you know, the tweets. Take it to the streets
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: and the tweets.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: You call the truths. We outside, we outside, we outside outside.
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: Every other page, I want to hear from you guys,
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: ladies especially like the ladies. I would love to hear
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: from you guys because I think that conversation of like
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: have it all.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: We're having it a lot more now and we.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: See people who do it like I commend Cardi b
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: I commend all of the women, Beyonce, all of the
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: women that are able to because it's not easy whatsoever,
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: but it's scary. That is one of the things that
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: I am most scared of doing. Someone asked me a question,
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: what is the dream that you are scared of most,
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: And I said becoming a mom. And I'm not scared
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: because I don't think I'll be a great mom. I'll adjust,
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: I move in shape. You can take care of your
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: mother and your grandmother because the older people get, the
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: more you can't tell them nothing. If I can figure
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: that out, I can figure out a child, especially with
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: a great partner on which I have. But the biggest
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: thing for me is how will it impact my career?
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: You know, you got to be fit.
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: You gotta show it physically, mentally in ways like never
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: before when you're a woman on a platform and I'm
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: new here, so my girl, you only got one shot
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: comes in to thought so much when I think about
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: when am I gonna have kids? I want kids, twins
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: to start twin girls and they're gonna be all over YouTube.
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: But that's a whole another story. But yes, like that's
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: the that's one of my biggest Like I'm scared. It's
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: like I'm playing double dutch, like all right, when, all right?
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: When?
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: Because I do want to plan it. I think my
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: career deserves a plane, a plan a bit. But I'm down,
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: you know, if not playing.
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: But I'm scared. So hearing her talk about you know
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: just the way she.
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: Used to think about marriage, and you know she's okay
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: with having a career while having the family, and she's
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: always been that way, and she's always set out to
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: be that way.
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: It's encouraging to hear because it's tough. So, ladies in
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: the streets, in the tweets, let me know what y'all think.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: Is anybody else out there scared like me? Is this
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: thing going? I'm the only one. Let's talk.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: At the end of the day, you guys could be
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: anywhere with anybody having a conversation about all these things,
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: but you choose to be right here with me, my lowriders,
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: and I appreciate you guys for that.
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: I'm Laura l.
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: Rosa.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: This is the latest with Laura L. Rosa, and I
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: will see you guys in my next episode.