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WHAT WOULD YOUR EX'S SEARCH HISTORY BE? · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatable.
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  Speaker 2: There's definitely there's one hundred percent places where it's so
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  Speaker 2: normal to get rejected and all your friends go, hey,
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  Speaker 2: I try, Yeah, like we've been there.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate the effort, like we've been there.
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  Speaker 2: But then in Australia, for some reason, if you go
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  Speaker 2: up and put yourself out there trying to get a
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  Speaker 2: I have been hell bent, like I'm I'm I'm setting
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  Speaker 2: my ways of with a few things just before we're
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  Speaker 2: talking about like Spotify, Yeah, is like the one I
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  Speaker 2: prefer to use, right and hell bent, I'm like, gott
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  Speaker 2: you spotifylah blah blah. But like an Apple iPhone, hell
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  Speaker 2: bent on you got to use an Apple iPhone or
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  Speaker 2: else that's just gross, weird judge. Yeah, big coals guy,
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  Speaker 2: same coals over Woolies, always have been, went to Willies
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  Speaker 2: on the weekend, hands up, kind of better than Coal's no,
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  Speaker 2: no way we're not gonna lie, Bro, I have options
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  Speaker 2: on options on options, and it's cheaper. No it's not,
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  Speaker 2: it is, No, it actually is. And I was like
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  Speaker 2: wigging out. I was like saying to Beth while we're
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  Speaker 2: in there, because we just ran in there. We went
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  Speaker 2: somewhere that had a woolies and we were just gonna
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  Speaker 2: run and get stuff dinner. I was like, yeah, a couple,
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  Speaker 2: we're doing this, but whatever, the green the same. I
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  Speaker 2: don't like the green.
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  Speaker 1: But but while.
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  Speaker 2: I was in there, I was looking around and I
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  Speaker 2: was going, what the fucket that it calls for?
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  Speaker 1: Way? I was like, Beth, what's going on? She's like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: well this is actually pretty sick because she's also cold.
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  Speaker 2: Cole's girly. But Bro, I that.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like change. So you right now look at
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  Speaker 1: you when we record this podcast, and you normally have
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  Speaker 1: long hair and it's luscious, like like Tamblin. Don't to him, bro,
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  Speaker 1: long blonde hair. But now I don't like the change.
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  Speaker 1: I got a yeah, who are you?
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  Speaker 2: I just really humans we hate change, we do, isn't
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  Speaker 2: it weird? So humans hate change but also love change,
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  Speaker 2: So we hate change, but we also like we always
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  Speaker 2: want something new.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we're always think the grass is green. Yeah, like
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  Speaker 1: nothing's ever good enough. We always we always want something better.
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  Speaker 2: But if it's the equivalent, like you, Yeah, but I
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  Speaker 2: went and I yeah booked in a restyle restyle. That's
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  Speaker 2: actually what I booked in on the website for the
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  Speaker 2: barber like hair blah blah blah blah blah. Bookedn't restyle
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  Speaker 2: and it was cost more and I know it's best
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  Speaker 2: like you ward friends like restyle. I shot him a
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  Speaker 2: video and he was like, yeah, cool, we have a
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  Speaker 2: crack a crack, but no, I just was snocking. Lie
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  Speaker 2: sick of my hair in the winter too, Yeah, cold,
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  Speaker 2: kind of stupid, but.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just sick of the long hair.
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  Speaker 1: It's just hard for me.
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  Speaker 2: The moment I almost I almost kind of got your haircut,
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  Speaker 2: not surprised, And you know it's wild. The shorter hair
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  Speaker 2: hides my hairline better than the long hair because it
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  Speaker 2: sits on the widow's peak. One gust of wind and
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  Speaker 2: my hair will go and you can see.
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  Speaker 1: My fucking hairline. Bro, like that Pilot game.
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  Speaker 2: It's like hair, yeah, where you can get DHD blockers,
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  Speaker 2: but your libido plummets. But I just I just keep
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  Speaker 2: telling people, just gonna go Turkey.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, where I hat.
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  Speaker 2: It'll get to the point where I'm always wearing a hat,
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  Speaker 2: and then get to the point where I go, I'm
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  Speaker 2: just gonna do that all inclusive thing Turkey.
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  Speaker 1: Why not? You can come with me, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: You can get something done. I'll record it, you can
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  Speaker 1: record it. I'll get like my beard done, get your
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  Speaker 1: beard done.
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  Speaker 2: But also we can just go get like some baby
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  Speaker 2: botocks in the forehead so we don't have wrinkles.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, come back looking like Michael Jackson while we're there.
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  Speaker 1: While we're there, we may as well get our teeth done.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's probably like a full service like hair, teeth,
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  Speaker 2: nose everything. What you can do in Turkey though, is
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  Speaker 2: that full? You can spend like forty eight hours with
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  Speaker 2: a doctor or maybe it's like seventy two hours and
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  Speaker 2: they test you for everything.
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  Speaker 1: Remember on Patreon how you asked me what I would
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  Speaker 1: do if we were to escape prison. Yeah, I'll go
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  Speaker 1: to Turkey, hair transplant, change everything, ye, teeth, get boatocks, mate.
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  Speaker 2: I would come back a fucking different Yeah, like our
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  Speaker 2: Turkey doctors would just say yes to everything if you
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  Speaker 2: wave a check in front of him. But today we
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  Speaker 2: are kicking things off hot. Yeah with the ig question
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  Speaker 2: of the week. Yeah, let's get fucking sexy. Eight.
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  Speaker 1: This one is juicy juice, sexy sex. What would your
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  Speaker 1: ex boyfriend search history be? This one got a lot
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  Speaker 1: of views, I won't lie. It got heaps. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: got like seventy five has some views on the story.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know why. And it took me just to scroll. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I was looking for a while and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I want the best. Yeah, yeah, I went.
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  Speaker 2: I went in depth as well on the toilet getting
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  Speaker 2: worked my best place to get work.
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  Speaker 1: I'm there a lot. You're not disturbed there, no exactly,
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  Speaker 1: I'm there a lot.
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  Speaker 2: I actually want to say why something Beth, does Cassie
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  Speaker 2: really like your opinion on outfits?
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  Speaker 1: Not really?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Ben has this thing where she loves my opinion
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  Speaker 2: on an outfit, which is cute, and and I'll always
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  Speaker 2: say like, yeah, I love this one, you know, blah
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  Speaker 2: blah blah. But like it's to the point where my
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  Speaker 2: opinion and her needing my opinion. Trump's anything else that's
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  Speaker 2: going on. You got to drop everything I got. You
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  Speaker 2: got to like if I if I'm working, tell me
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  Speaker 2: you were taking a ship. And she's like, I was
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  Speaker 2: taking a ship the other day, and and you know
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  Speaker 2: how my house is set up.
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  Speaker 1: I was downstairs in that toilet just because I was downstairs.
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  Speaker 1: I was fucking.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, closed downstairs that toilet and she comes down,
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  Speaker 2: just opens the doors.
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  Speaker 1: Ship boundaries, Babe, this is my save place. Looks great
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  Speaker 1: when you close it. What other response a you're going
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  Speaker 1: to give? I just didn't. I just think And then
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  Speaker 1: I was like, Wow, nothing trumps the need opinion on
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  Speaker 1: current outfit. Like the smell of your ship doesn't even trumpet.
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't believe. It's hilarious. That's funny. Okay, sorry, you
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  Speaker 1: can kick things off.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, what would your ex boyfriend's search history be?
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  Speaker 1: It would be my new boyfriend's name. Wait, you don't
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  Speaker 1: get it. What do you mean? Oh, he's looking like
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  Speaker 1: he's like looking what the new Yeah, seeing if he's
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  Speaker 1: upgraded or downgrade. Yeah, there'd be that many exes like
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  Speaker 1: living like what they wish they could of the new man.
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  Speaker 2: One thing I've proud of myself about is that I
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  Speaker 2: have never gone to look at an x at an
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  Speaker 2: ex's new boyfriend. I don't know, So I don't know
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  Speaker 2: what any of.
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  Speaker 1: Them look like.
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  Speaker 3: Oh I do, like you're one, but you meant your
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  Speaker 3: ex your no no, So I actually don't know if
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  Speaker 3: I have one X yeah fair, I mean I've got two.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't think I ever looked them up. It's
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  Speaker 1: like if you knew who they were, like, if you
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  Speaker 1: knew them, you know what they look like.
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  Speaker 2: But the two exes have had when they've both moved on,
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  Speaker 2: they've moved on to people that I've never met and
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  Speaker 2: art from around here. So I basically scared them out
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  Speaker 2: of our own through and I never could say and
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  Speaker 2: I never went I reckon. We could say this on it,
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  Speaker 2: I'll delete it if not. After I said girlfriend one
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  Speaker 2: massive down grade.
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  Speaker 1: So really that's my first girlfriend. Yeah, people have told
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  Speaker 1: me that. People have told me that second girlfriend was
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  Speaker 1: like there's no comparison. Okay, yeah, a downgrade though, that's
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  Speaker 1: good tonight. It's like it's like comparing like apples to oranges.
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  Speaker 1: So it is different people. So she basically just changed
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  Speaker 1: her tea. I ruined for it. Ruined. Okay, what would
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  Speaker 1: your ex boyfriend search history be? How to tell if
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  Speaker 1: you're a narcissist. Quiz If you're asking the question, you
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  Speaker 1: know the answer. If you're asking the question, you walked
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  Speaker 1: in on your boyfriend and what are you doing? Or
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  Speaker 1: your ex boyfriend and he's got a quiz and it's
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  Speaker 1: just like, am I a narcissist? That's crazy? I'm not
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  Speaker 1: going to lie. This might sound crazy, but I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: mind taking one. I reckon being realistic. I think everyone
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  Speaker 1: has good narcissist has narcissistic traits just a little bit,
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  Speaker 1: but I wouldn't call everyone lse.
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  Speaker 2: Now again, the word we need to be using is
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  Speaker 2: self efficacy. Everyone has some sort of self efficacy.
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  Speaker 1: And you need it in life. But the word nas
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  Speaker 1: sounds better. Let's throw that out there. Yeah, it's way better.
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  Speaker 1: What would your ex boyfriend's search history be? How to
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  Speaker 1: disappoint a woman? Why is he looking that up?
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  Speaker 2: Is he doing it on purpose? I think that's what
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  Speaker 2: I think. That's what she's trying to say. Is this
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  Speaker 2: man straight up was so shit? He was trying. He
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  Speaker 2: must have been trying to We.
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  Speaker 1: Must have been trying, all right. What would your ex
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend search history be? How to be on hint without
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  Speaker 1: your girlfriend finding out? Fuck? Heavy, so that happened. I
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  Speaker 1: saw a lot of these were cheating, like different types
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  Speaker 1: of cheating, like, yeah, he's a cheating one.
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  Speaker 2: What would your ex boyfriend searches three be? Is it cheating?
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  Speaker 1: If? Once again, if you have to ask the question, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's cheating. What can the end of that sentence be?
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  Speaker 1: Is it cheating if I kissed another just got her number? Yes? Yes, emotional?
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  Speaker 1: What's one that isn't Is it cheating if she grabbed
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  Speaker 1: my butt? No?
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  Speaker 2: To be fair, no, like if you if it was
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  Speaker 2: you were just like standing there talking to a mate
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  Speaker 2: and some girl comes to gradual ass and use.
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  Speaker 1: Have you seen that trend on TikTok? And I was like,
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  Speaker 1: girlfriends go up to their boyfriends really quickly and be like,
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  Speaker 1: pretend I'm going the club. Oh yeah, And then guys
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  Speaker 1: like the way I'd fail that the ones where the
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend spits in the girlfriend's face obviously is stage. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they're all staged ones.
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  Speaker 2: The way that if I was cooking in the kitchen
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  Speaker 2: and someone and Beth has her friend they're filming, and
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  Speaker 2: comes up behind me and goes pretend I'm I go
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  Speaker 2: in the club and she tries to kiss me I'd
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  Speaker 2: fail straight away, but not because if I'm in a club,
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  Speaker 2: a girl's gonna come up, because like you can't no
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  Speaker 2: one's reactions act quickly. I'd be like, uh yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: would be going like this just of the like how
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  Speaker 2: in fast paced Beth is coming.
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  Speaker 1: Also the my current boyfriend Trent, yeah did that to me.
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  Speaker 1: I saw one. What was your reaction?
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  Speaker 2: She so?
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  Speaker 1: She said, like my current boyfriend thinks, I what are
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  Speaker 1: you talking about? Mine wasn't great. If I didn't see
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  Speaker 1: the TikTok I don't reckon, I would have picked up
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  Speaker 1: on it. Oh really, I would have been like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she's not lying. I saw one person, Leo Skepi, he
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  Speaker 1: said if my boyfriend did that to me, I would
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  Speaker 1: clock him behind the face. And then like two days
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  Speaker 1: later on TikTok, I saw this like little girl and
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  Speaker 1: she had like a larger male boyfriend and he did
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  Speaker 1: it to her and she like back slapped his neck.
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  Speaker 2: Small women to be to be afraid of, yeah, force
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  Speaker 2: to be reckoned.
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  Speaker 1: It was crazy. I think it might have been planned
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  Speaker 1: scripted ral videos of script today it has to be
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  Speaker 1: is me, Yeah, this one's good. What would your ex
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend search history be how much protein does it take
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  Speaker 1: to be a dick? It's a double shot, so what
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  Speaker 1: how much protein is in a dick? I think it's
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  Speaker 1: all this bro cares about is the gym. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 1: then he's also a fucking dick. How much protein does
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  Speaker 1: it take to be a dick?
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  Speaker 2: My our housemates just got a new boyfriend and randomly
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  Speaker 2: she's just started like eating protein because he's like real
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  Speaker 2: into the gym and stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And they're both pretty young.
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  Speaker 2: And I was thinking, like when I just got into
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  Speaker 2: the gym, like I probably would have done the same,
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  Speaker 2: but been like he got off your protein.
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  Speaker 1: You gottap your protein.
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  Speaker 2: And now I was just like, yeah, I don't give
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  Speaker 2: a fuck, Like I'll eat it. I know I need
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  Speaker 2: him off protein, so I'll eat it. But I'm not
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  Speaker 2: going to force it upon you. And so my roommate'll
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  Speaker 2: come home and she'll cook a dinner and I'll be like, oh, yeah, go, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: she's gotta get my protein.
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  Speaker 1: Like what happened to you? Don't get into subconscious influence.
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  Speaker 1: Probably he's just like, babe, let me introduce you to protein.
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  Speaker 1: I reckon.
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  Speaker 2: He's like, no, you gotta get it. What would your
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  Speaker 2: ex boyfriend's search history be Can all my mistakes be
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  Speaker 2: absolved if I claim it's because of my poor mental health?
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  Speaker 1: No, it's not a get our jail free card. Nah.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like that's like a go to for all.
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  Speaker 2: It's not an excuse you should use in that way.
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  Speaker 2: Nah either, No, because it's not an excuse. Yeah, facts
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  Speaker 2: two separate things. What would your ex boyfriend's search history
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  Speaker 2: be signs your ex is happier without you? That's actually heavy,
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  Speaker 2: I like sign What would the signs be that your
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  Speaker 2: ex is happier without a post?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, and she's living her best life?
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  Speaker 2: What are the signs signs your ex is happier without you?
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  Speaker 2: She went traveling?
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  Speaker 1: M I reckon, Yeah, she went traveling, signs you let
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  Speaker 1: she posts less? Yes. I was going to say Instagram
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  Speaker 1: and influencers and ship is a facade. Yeah, but if
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  Speaker 1: she's not posting anything, she's happy.
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  Speaker 2: She doesn't feel the need to like show everyone she's
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  Speaker 2: happy because she is happy.
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  Speaker 1: I think if you're posting too much on Instagram, you're
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  Speaker 1: not happy. Yeah, it looks hard to tell, but yeah,
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  Speaker 1: especially if you're like not if you've got from zero
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  Speaker 1: to one hundred and you start posting heaps as soon
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  Speaker 1: as break up, Like we can see.
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  Speaker 2: What he's okay, signs your ex is happier without you.
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  Speaker 2: She doesn't reply to your messages like she doesn't. She
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  Speaker 2: doesn't play the game with you anymore.
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  Speaker 1: She's mad on. Yeah, you're you're just a waste of time,
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  Speaker 1: Like a waste of time. That's such a hard way
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  Speaker 1: to say, a waste of time.
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  Speaker 2: What would your ex boyfriend's search history be? If you
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  Speaker 2: delete Instagram? Will the message still show up?
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  Speaker 1: He said something?
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  Speaker 2: So many dudes are out here cheating just through mainstream
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  Speaker 2: social media sources.
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  Speaker 1: What the fuck? Like, I don't want to like condone cheating,
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  Speaker 1: but like I was gonna say, do better, Like tell
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  Speaker 1: me you want to get caught. Put an efford in,
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  Speaker 1: Like tell me you want to get caught without telling
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  Speaker 1: me you want to get caught. Yeah, do it on Instagram?
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  Speaker 1: What would your ex boyfriend search history be? Can you
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: be in a relationship with your mum?
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  Speaker 2: Bro?
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  Speaker 1: I think the answer is yes. It's illegal for some
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  Speaker 1: of these men. Yeah, they don't ship. The moms don't care.
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  Speaker 2: The mom doesn't clearly, what would your ex boyfriend search
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  Speaker 2: history be? Where is the glitterists? And how does it
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: work with diagrams.
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  Speaker 1: I have one better. What is a clip? Not even
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: where is it? What is a clip?
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  Speaker 2: Just up there's a fucking there's a funny as there's
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: such a He's seen in Clarkson's farm.
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  Speaker 1: When he's got pigs. Have you seen the newest season?
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  Speaker 1: I have?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, so he's got the pigs and he's got to
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: get like a helper in because Caleb is on tour. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and so he gets this young girl farmer from like
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  Speaker 2: a while away, and then there over it with the
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  Speaker 2: pigs him, Lisa is missus and this young girl I
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  Speaker 2: don't remember a name, and they had to separate the
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  Speaker 2: boy piglets from the girl piglets. And he's like, okay,
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  Speaker 2: you sure they're all good? He goes, yeah, you can
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  Speaker 2: see the little clips on the back of the girl
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  Speaker 2: once and he goes, what the glitterest He's like what
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  Speaker 2: He looks at the cameray goes, I woke up this
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: morning not knowing that pigs had a clitteress. And then Lisa,
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  Speaker 2: his misses in the background, tries something. He goes, so
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: he got the little farm helper, the new one he's got,
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  Speaker 2: goes over Lisa and goes Oh, he didn't know. I
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: see that that's the clip and he was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: he's not very good at finding it either.
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  Speaker 1: Just full on the TV. I can believe that. For
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  Speaker 1: Jeremy Clarkson, it's fucking crazy. He's a funny, funny guy,
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  Speaker 1: so funny. He's got the weirdest beald too. It's just
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  Speaker 1: like straight and then big. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: His diet is literally like coffee and beer. I don't
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  Speaker 2: think I've ever seen him eat something on that show.
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  Speaker 1: I'm surprised, how like he's not that active, but like
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  Speaker 1: how active he is for how bad he looks, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know what I was thinking, because I was thinking that right,
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  Speaker 2: like he's very active and if he is, like doing
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: all this farm work, he's either eating so much food
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: and drinking so much beer or it's actually all upfront
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: and he's not doing that much of the farm.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think he is. He can't be. I
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: don't think you feel that much. He makes it sound
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: like he does a heats and I'm like, I want
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: to believe it. I want to believe it. Oh God,
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: that show is so good. I love it too. When's
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: the new season coming out? It's no.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: The season four is the one that's been coming out. Oh,
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: maybe you might have episodes to watch, bro I do, Yeah,
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: I'm watch to season four.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: I've only watched season three. Oh no, no, no, there's episodes.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: It's all out. What's all the episodes are out your Yeah?
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: No, you got yours?
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: Watching? That means you haven't seen that? Okay, yeah, you're
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: what's funny? Okay? Sorry I thought that was season three? Okay?
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: What would Jake Craig's search history be? How do not
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: finish before I put it in? That was me the
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: other night. We should do them as I g questions
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: like when our personal Like what would class?
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: Mine's just going to be like because of you your dog,
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: everyone's like just how to grow.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: Taller and ship? What might be mine would be like
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: how to read? How do I get recent to teach
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: me to read? I wish I had someone like that
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: in my life. Tell me, yeah, I'd pretend to be
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: even more literate. Yeah, time with you?
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: Right? Yeah? And then I start like touch wearing less
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: and less clothes each time he comes to a reading lesson,
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: I'd be like, can we do this one of my bedroom?
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: Let's get under the covers. Can you heat up the beds?
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: That looks good.
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, or this one's I don't know if anyone's
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: actually lose like this his facts? What would your ex
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: boyfriend's search history be? How to get her back without
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: changing a single thing, without changing.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: A single thing? Wow? Well, well wow, I think you
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: need to grow up. Yeah? I feel like how many
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: men do you reckon, get broken up with, and then
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: don't want to change anything but want the person back? Yeah?
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: All the time? You see there's an issue there though,
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: Like I'm still doing something wrong. It's been a couple
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: of weeks. I've changed. Yeah, it doesn't take change that quick.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: I'm a new person. God. Okay, what would your ex
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: boyfriend search history be? How to say I'm not ready
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: for a relationship mid relationship that's fucked, he's in too deep?
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: That is fuck way too deep.
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: Okay, I've got a What would Audie Clark search history be?
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: How do I like foods that aren't chicken nuggets and chips?
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: I stand by that. Hey, I bought a new aircraft,
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: a new one because they just got one. They cook
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: like Nuggies and anything like that. Frozen foods the best,
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: and it doesn't cook as quick as my last one. Oh,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: I'm Devo day brand. I got one from Audi and
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: it's one of those double ones and I was like
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: stoked with it, like learn how to use it. It's got
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: all that new technology. And I was like this thing sick.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: I was like, show a moment past Phillips, mate. Yeah,
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: I had a Phillips one and it was a little one.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: It wasn't that like big. And I'm like, damn, it
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: takes like an extra five minutes to cook everything. And
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: I'm like, my my life is over. Wait five minutes
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: adds up every single day. Go have a wank or something.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: Is that all I do? Eat chicken nuggets and wank?
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: That's what I picture. That's all I do. God, it
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: think it's your time. What would your ex boyfriend's search
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: history be? Top ten ways to ruin my girlfriend's mental health?
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Oh my god. Bro mm.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: The way that some boyfriends act is as if this
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: would be their search history legit.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah they do legitimately. They act like they don't care.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: They're too nonchalant, way too nonchal Yeah. It's like icy Yaddy,
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: It's like did icy eady? I like that?
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: What would your ex boyfriend search history be? Chatch ept
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: write me a sincere breakup text?
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: OI crazy? How many people do you reckon are using
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: chat ebt when I do romantic thing? When I read this,
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: I thought this, fuck, that's the game changer. Nah. No
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: one can beat the personal touch.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, they cannot imagine that.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: Like you write your girlfriend like chat gbt, right, my
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: girlfriend is sincere for like a good night message, and
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: then you just got me past and sending your girlfriend
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: look better than nothing. Keep it hidden, just make sure
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: she doesn't check your chat topt history. It just can't
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: be personal though, kind of Nah.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: I don't think it'd be that bad if you got
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: them to like write one and then you changed it
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: and added your personal touch a little bit of.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: Getting so lazy humans. Yeah, so lazy AI is scaring me.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: AI is scared AI is scaring me? Have you been
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: getting those the sasquatch vlogs? I don't understand what that is.
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: It's I just thought you would like it, and it's
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: just well I don't. I don't. I don't like or
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: dislike it.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: But it's just like obviously people are getting the new
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: that that Google thing that came out where it like
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: can make it something looks so real and they're like
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: pretending sasquatches of fucking vlogging, just like smashing z in
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: and like getting maggot and it's just like they keep
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: coming up on my.
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: Saw one bungee jumping. It's got like one million lines.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: Really yeah, it's fucked bro. Fuck that's crazy. It is
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: scary to be honest. Okay, what would your ex boyfriend
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: search history be? How to get a girl well having
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: commitment issues?
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: Damn, I wonder what the answer would be, should we
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: like ask that.
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: Get a girl with commitment issues? Let's see what type
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: of advice chachipt please say? It says it's not a
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: good time to get in a relationship if you have
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: commitment How to get a girl while having commitment issues?
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: Commit issues? If you have commitment issues and you're trying
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: to get into a relationship or even just connect meaningfully
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: with a girl, the key is honesty, clarity, and self awareness.
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: Here's a no bullshit breakdown.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: A number one.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: Figure out what you actually want if you're not ready
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: to commit own that.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: This is actually good advice.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: Okay, it's actually good advice.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: I wonder if you'd been the same if you went
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: to Google though, I like how Google now gives you
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: a little aie AI.
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: Honestly, I think.
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: I got one more same. What would your ex boyfriend
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: search history B? How to be top one percent of
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: all men?
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: Just videos and you take them up and all that. Ship.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: Bro, here's my online course. Just be yourself, man, know
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: how to be top persent? How to be top percent
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: of all men?
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Started on like, Okay, this is my last one. I
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: wasn't going to put it in because you understand why,
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: but I think it's so real that I have to
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: put it in. Damn. Okay. I think a lot of
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: curls might relate. What would your ex boyfriend search his
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: three B? How young is too young? WHOA? Yeah?
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: Wow fuck that's crazy. The answer is like super obvious.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah obviously wow. It gives you the he I reckon.
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: If someone's like asking that question, that's when the FBI
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: agent on the other side should should really intervene.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, do you reckon? That's the thing like when people
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: search like scary stuff like police or something, there's no
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: way of knowing. Is that no? Ikon?
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: There is there's probably there's like ways to search stuff
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: up without being tracked.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: But if you're stupid and you do it.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: Just on like an open Safari or Google or whatever
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: you'd hope. So I reckon that they can figure shit
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: out and be like stuff gets flagged. Yeah, I reckon
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: stuff will get flagged all the time.
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: Imagine your ex boyfriend is flagged.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: That was nice and juicy, that was sexy, that was fun. Anyways,
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: what you know, are you going?
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah? How am I going? I feel like I've asked
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: you that today. I feel like you haven't asked me
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: that in a while. I'm kidding. Ah, Overall, I'm feeling fine,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: but I actually have this weird feeling at the moment.
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna try and describe that I haven't really felt
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: before in my life. And I think it's a relatable
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: feeling actually, and I don't think. I don't want to
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: speak for you. You tell me how you feel at
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: the end, you feel the same way. So this feeling, firstly,
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: my analogy is like a Scuby Do kind of scene. Right,
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: it's good, that's good. I'm like stuck in the middle
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: and there's two walls like coming from each side with
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: pressure and they're about to squish me, and I put
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: like a broomstick in the middle I'm like, scuby, you
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: can be shaggy, and it's like starting to split. Yeah,
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: it's starting to split, and the walls are coming together,
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: and the pressure is just building up on me and
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: I'm feeling like I don't know what to do.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: I'm shay, yeah, I want to Scubyu, be cool, please
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: be fred what nah?
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: True? You look like man, I'm shaggyry. Yeah, I'm a dog.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: But still so I'm feeling the pressure and I don't
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: know what to do in this situation, like I'm stuck here.
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: And the analogy I just said is so right now,
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: I'm twenty four and coming up in my life. I
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: think these things I'm looking forward to are like having
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: a house, having kids, moving out with my girlfriend, maybe renting,
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: all a lot of things that take a lot of
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: financial commitment and lock said person down. And I am
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: looking forward for all of that, but also right now
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: I don't have any of that, and I'm kind of
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: in this unknown pressure zone where I feel the urge
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: that I got to do something before I commit to
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: all of that.
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: Oh, like some I'm crazy, Yeah yeah, so do you
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: mean like go overseas or some shit.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: Like kind of it's kind of the same mindset we
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: had before we traveled for three months up the East
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: coast of Australia. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, And I don't
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: think it has to be the same answer of going
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: traveling for a long period of time. But I think
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: I have this feeling that I have to do something
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: before I get locked in. But I'm also not scared
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: of being locked in. Yeah, but I'm just in this
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: middle ground of the broomsticks just holding on.
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: I don't know how long it's going to hold before
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: all those pressures just fucking.
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah you feel because I know you're right, I
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: don't feel like that, and I have and I am renting, yeah,
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: and I live with my girlfriend, and I don't feel
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: like that.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: Well, I think maybe you should do it, because you won't.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: I don't feel like that. You probably no, But I'm
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: thinking I want to do these things before. Like, so
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: maybe you're a few steps ahead of me. You live
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: with your girlfriend, that's life on a race, Yeah exactly,
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: but you have a dog, you're renting. Like theoretically, if
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: you were to said to have that feeling of going
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: to do something, you kind of not being mean you
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: can't do it. No, No, no, I think I can't
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: do something on a whim. Yeah, so, like I can
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: still do whatever the fuck I want. The only thing
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: to be fair.
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: The only thing I can't do when the women is
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: go away, like unless Beth and I, like, because Beth
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: and I we could well for my job, at least
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: we can up and leave best jobs. She would have
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: to give some notice. But like if we just wanted
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: to go away in Australia, we could take Henry. So
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: to be fair, the only thing I can't do is
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: go overseas is because we'd just have to get someone
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: to look after Henry.
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, so.
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: You still there are still solutions yeah yeah, yeah.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: So like I think I just don't look at it
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: as like.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: To me, as like a problem because if I really
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: really wanted to go.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: Do something, I would still go do it. I still
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: don't see it as a problem. Like I'm looking forward
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: to all those things in my life, but I'm at
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: the phase where I haven't made a single bit of
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: commitment to anything. We have, like obviously my.
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: Girlfriend girlfriend, Yeah, but we got car, we work together,
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah, that commitment.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean kind of like financial commitment and that
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: stuff is just like because like for example, these example
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: is when I buy a house, I'm going to have
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: like a fucking by the time I buy one, a
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: million dollar alone. Yeah yeah, I'll have a fucking a
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: hund to underka and then it'll be a million dollar alone.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah. And at that point, yeah, I've got a
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: gold brother. That point, I'll be like, I'm logged in.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: I'm sure there's ways around it, but I don't know.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: I just feel like that's a relatable feeling, especially for
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: a young person.
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: Anyone listening. It's like a lot of people listening would
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: still live.
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: With their parents. I do. I've made that conscious decision.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: I have a nice little setup which is my own
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: space at home, and I'm saving a lot of money.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I don't know how many commitment and one
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: of the also another purpose of that is I can
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: go away and not have to pay rent. And I
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: don't know just before I commit and do all those
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: things that are beautiful in life, and I admit that
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: I just have this feeling that I've got to do something,
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: but I don't really know what it is. I wonder
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: what you should do. I don't know. I don't know
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: what it is. I've got to get thinking because also, like,
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: like a ten day trip somewhere doesn't do anything for me.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: I don't like that, Okay, Like I feel like I
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know what it is.
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: But like here's the thing is, like I guess to
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: be fair, if you want to go do something and
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: train and get rid of this fucking urge.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: But you know the urge I'm talking about when we
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: weren't traveling before that, how were you feeling like I
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: had to do something? Yeah?
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: Right, I don't have that feeling right now.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie like I don't want to do anything.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: I love being home, my favorite place. I was supposed
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: to go play golf with Beth Dad and I was
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: I just like worked up until then. And then Beth
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: called me like perfect timing as I was walking out
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: the door to leave, and I was like, oh, she's like.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: I was like, I was about to walk out of
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: the door to leave. She goes, it's.
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: Raining, and I was like, oh fuck, I haven't left
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: all day. It's like it's been a good day for me,
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: Henry mate, it just been a good day for me
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: and Henry.
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: But then I had to cancel golf, but so like, yeah, genuinely,
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't do anything. Maybe you were just like an
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: old person golf, not leaving the hair. Maybe I don't
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: know that urge trying.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: I remember the urge because I had a girlfriend, and
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: I remember we were like twenty twenty one, we might
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: have been twenty one, and I do remember having a
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: girlfriend at the time, and the urge I had for
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: some random reason, which is probably an immature feeling and thought,
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: was I need to go do this without a girlfriend.
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: So you're not having that exact feeling, but you have
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: a feeling of like before you feel like you need
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: to go do something.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: Okay, But so I actually I do relate to the feeling.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: But what could it be. I think the solution might be.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: I definitely want my girlfriend to be involved. Maybe we
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: have on the cards going to England and maybe doing
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: a business trip and then after that go do a
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: little bit of soul searching. Okay, so balance a little
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: bit of a balancing act, because I do want to
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: go to Europe, and it's a lot easier before you
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: have all the financial commitments. But I reckon, If I reckon,
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: you should fucking do a couple of little short trips.
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: I am pimping my car out to do camping trips. Yeah,
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: I see what I really want to do is ayahuasca. Okay,
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: I really want to do that.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: That don't help?
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like that's a trag.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: I think you should do a little one weeker to
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: New Zealand and just look at the ones because it's
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: like you could do a lot of little ones that
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: aren't too expensive. But again, like you're saying, like you're
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: saving money, right, You've been saving good money living at home,
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: and so we've always had like if you're unless you're
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: gonna actually properly save for a house, or you're gonna
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: put all the money you have into fucking stocks or something.
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: I don't know, it's like, what's that money doing for
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: you apart from just sitting there. You may as well
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: go get experiences with it. You should do a bunch
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: of short little trips. Do a short trip to like
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: you can do Japan in a week, you can do China.
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: You're probably in more than a week. But like, just like,
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: spend all your fucking money while you have no financial commitment,
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: and then come back, save again, and then move out.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: I've always had the mindset that I need to be
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: like confident in myself as a person. Yeah, and experiences
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: I've had before I get locked in completely.
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you can definitely still make experiences when you have
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: said commitments, but it is a lot harder, like there's
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: a lot more planned.
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just more planning yea. Yeah, yeah, bit more saving.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: Like I'm just a free soul at the moment, and
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: I got to use it.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: So it's like, to be fair, you have a great problem. Yes, yeah, yeah,
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: it's like you have a great problem. I reckon, bro,
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: I reckon. Just fuck for the next year. We'll just
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: like every now and then you'll just go away and
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: we'll pre record for when you're away.
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: Just go do shit.
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah I know, I know, because that's that's at least
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: the only thing I can think of, because everything else
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: right when it comes down to because I guess the
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: main thing is like the financial Like you're saying you
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: don't have any proper financial commitments yet, like rent or
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: a house payment or or a car payment stuff like that.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: So if it's about finances, yeah, I fuck, it's spend
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: all your money.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: That's what I mean. Yeah, I think I need the
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: experiences and my body or my subconscio subconscious is asking
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: for something. But maybe I'll think about it a little
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: bit more. I definitely think there's gonna be a lot
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: of camping trips on the cards, but maybe I'll come
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: back with a little plan and see, yeah, I'm feeling it.
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: Give us an update. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah about
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: Youah Bro, I'm chilling. I'm not gonna lie. I'm chilling.
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: I'm still in my appreciation of life phase. Hopefully that
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: doesn't leave. Can I ask you a question? So to interrupt,
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: you spoke on when we went on our trip, you
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: left said girlfriend here, maybe an immature decision. What do
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: you reckon? The mindset shift was because I know you
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: are definitely in a more healthy and happy relationship now.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: The shift was to be like an entity with said
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: girlfriend now and do everything together m opposed to you
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: were still on your solo journey and felt like you
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: had to travel alone back then.
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: I don't know, I maybe just like life experience. Maybe
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: like maybe I just actually love.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: Beth and my ex girlfriend. It just like wasn't real love.
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: Maybe do you reckon? Your version of love was different though? Yeah,
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: because when you were dating the xous I felt like
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: you in love. Yeah, yeah, and I felt very heartbroken
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: when I tried to get it back and she said no,
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: like genuinely, I'm not afraid to admit that yet. And
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: I went through it, and you know what, maybe I
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: actually don't. I don't have a proper answer.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: I do remember just thinking, like when I met Beth,
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: and she'll say the same thing. It's like, we obviously
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: love each other, but at the same time, I'm still
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: not afraid to be alone. If I broke up, I'd
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: be probably sad for a while, but I'm like genuinely
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: not afraid to be alone. And there's like some sort
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: of freedom in knowing that.
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: So I guess not speaking for you, but you hadn't
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: found your independence yet prior to that, and you were
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: searching for it. I don't know.
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: It's an interesting it's a good question. I don't know
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: what's different about me now.
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: I definitely remember the mindset, the immature mindset when we
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: were younger, feeling there's some like masculine urge to be
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: alone and do things by yourself. There's definitely that stigma
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: that men should do things by themselves and be completely competent.
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, And we've said before that I went through
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: a phrase where I was like thinking I had to
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: go do Europe on my own backpacking, But the thought
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: of it back then was like I feel like I
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: want to do it. I convinced myself I wanted to
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: do something that because I thought that's what's like people.
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: Needed to do to grow as a human. Yeah. Same,
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: But now I'm more than.
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: Happy to admit that I I literally will never spend
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: a night in the hostel.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: I refuse, I'm not.
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: I've never been in one, and I don't think it
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: sounds appealing. I think people that do it actually have
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: a lot of respect from me. I couldn't do it well.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: I think there's definitely that stigma, especially for young men,
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: like I was saying, to be completely independent and competent
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: on your own. But like now, I how do I
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: say what I'm thinking? I couldn't think of anything better
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: than doing a six week Europe trip with my girlfriend.
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: But that back then my mindset would have been like
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: I've got to do this alone. Yeah, I have to
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: be independent. I'm a man to figure this out. Yeah. No,
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: you're right, I like I would prefer to do something Beth. Now, Yeah,
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: it's weird. Maybe it is we found our independence and
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: we don't know where we found it, and we're confident
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: in ourselves unknowingly. Yeah shit. I think there's something really
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: special about also being a man and being able to
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: ask for help or ask your partner, anyone in your
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: life to give you a hand. I think there's definitely
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: something really special about that as a man. Because a
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: lot of men bottle things up, I know they do,
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: and think that they need to have all the answers
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: by themselves. They definitely do. Yeah. Fuck interesting, And what's
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: with the whole like male loneliness epidemic? Is that because
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: of that? Do you think?
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: Because they're supposedly a male b lonlyness epidemic. But at
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: the same time, it's like there's like all these people
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: talking about how men so they need to talk more,
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: they don't talk enough. They need to be given the
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: tools to talk. But like, in my mindset is just
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: like what do you have to do? Hand it to
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: them on a silver platter, Like what needs to be
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: done for them to actually like it's like, okay, cool,
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: you've been taught that it's okay to talk about your feelings, right,
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: so what do you want me to do, like literally
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: pull it out of you.
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: I saw humanmen talk about it recently because on the
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: episode we were talking about with the von Actually and
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: I don't think it's an excuse, but a lot of
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: men on the male loneliness epidemic. I think it's really
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: good what's happened with social media and how it's highlighted
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: terrible men, but also the positive effect of that has highlighted.
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: The positive effect is like calling out hitmen. Negative effect
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: of that is it's scared good men who were afraid
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: to have a crack because afraid they're going to be
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: shamed publicly online. Yeah, a little hard thing for a male,
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: I think, because the worst thing is like a nice
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: guy goes on a date and he does something dumb
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: or does not not I'm not obviously saying anything terrible,
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: like I don't ye like any of the bad shit.
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: He just fucking I don't know far it's or like
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: I don't know, falls over and then he gets publicly
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: shamed online.
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: I mean though, it's like I hear that, yeah, and
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: I can understand that that would be a frightening thing, right,
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: Like you're scared to make a single mistake because you
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: are comparing yourself to people online. You're comparing yourself to
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: relationships online that's look quote unquote perfect, but they aren't.
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: So like you feel as though you need to be perfect.
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: But it's the same for girls. Like my cousin messaged
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: me yesterday saying she was going on a date and
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: she was like, why is it so nerve wracking to
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: go on a date?
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: I was like, it just fucking is bro like, it
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: is what it is. Just think of it as like
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: a roller coaster.
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: It's not nerves, it's excitement, Like, but I just don't
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: it's kind of hard, Like I feel like I would
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: need to speak to someone that genuinely feels as though
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: like they can't go talk to someone like a girl
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: or go on a date and they would fall into
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: this male loneliness epidemic. So I could actually like see
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: hear how it feels. Because sometimes it's like, yes, social
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: media can be blamed, but I think if you, if you,
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: if you're someone that doesn't have a social media following,
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: what's the point of someone trying to make a fool
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: of you on social media when no one knows who
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: you are, but they're making a fool of themselves just
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: being a bully.
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: Well, it gets views. Everyone likes views.
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like I want to date with this guy
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: last night. Yeah, and then you just so happen to
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: see his video and then you're that guy.
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah exactly. I also think your mindset is coming from
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: a confident male, whereas a lot of men don't have confidence.
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: I guess your throwaway piece of advice there you just
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: said it was actually a really good tip for the
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: male loneliness epidemic. The nervousness of before a date, but
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: also like making a fool of yourself is what makes
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: a date special. I remember when I was seeing girl
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: she lives in Newcastle, meeting like halfway. I went on
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: like three dates with her and I went on one
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: and I was shit nervous, like fucking so it worse
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: because I had to drive like an hour and a half.
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: So I was nervous for like an hour and a
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: half because the dates on and I went on the
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: first one and I definitely could have called it there
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: and been like I don't want to do that again,
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: But I thought to myself, I was like, no, this
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: is a time to grow for me. I was like,
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: I'm going to give this another chance. I'm going to
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: like dwell on these feelings. Let's go on another date,
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: and like I didn't get a full picture of what
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: she was like, and we went on two or three more.
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: When you like talk and stuff, nothing of it. We
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: didn't even care if nothing happened. But it was a
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: really good experience for me to learn about the nervousness
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: and like talk to a complete random about your feelings
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: and stuff. Yeah, I think that's what dating is about,
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: is like figuring out about yourself as much as it
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: was about figuring out someone else.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: I feel like one more thing I want to say
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: about it is is like I don't again, obviously we
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: have don't have answers, But I feel like part of
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: it is that a lot of people don't want.
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: To own their perfections. Yeah.
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: I think a lot of people are frightened to own
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: their imperfections because of what they maybe see online or
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: what they're maybe told by friends.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: I don't know, but.
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: So people are afraid to hide their imperfections.
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: But I don't know.
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: I just think that like imperfections and somebody making fun
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: of their own imperfections to me is the funniest thing ever.
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: I think imperfections are what make people special.
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, one hundred percent, because everyone else would
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: just be a cookie cookie cucka same version of everyone
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: else exactly.
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: Like I get like my biggest security is my hairline.
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: But at the same time, it's like, I know, it's
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: not that fucking bad, and so it's like funny to
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: talk about it. We'll we'll talk about it, like you know,
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: it's we're not two males out here going like, oh,
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: you know you gotta you gotta fucking make you go
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: come every time or else why would you call yourself?
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: Mainly there's people that are like that. It's like where
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: I feel like you've got to be.
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: More than happy to admit it, your imperfections. That's like
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: the one thing people are too afraid to admit their
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: I just have to be real and realize you're not perfect. Yeah.
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: No one's perfect.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: No, no, by no means is anyone perfect.
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And it comes back to have self efficacy of
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: yourself but also others.
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I guess it's like, well, how do you
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: teach someone that has no self efficacy and confidence issues? Yeah,
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: that it's actually gonna be okay, and that like no
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: one actually expects you to be perfect, and someone that
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: expects you to be perfect is a hypocrite because they're
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: not perfect, so you wouldn't want to be with them anyway, exactly.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: It's like it's fucking yeah, yeah, you can just only
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: person who can be is yourself. Yeah, and that person's
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: not perfect. When I was a kid, I used to
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: I did it. I farted an assembly once and I
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: was so embarrassed. Yeah, and looking back on it, like
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: I kind of just wish I had just like owned
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: it and laughed at it. And I wish that every
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: time I needed a fart at school, you just did it,
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: because it's actually pretty fucking funny.
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy, fighting hilarious. In school, I used pimples
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: like on my neck and stuff and everything, and I
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: used to try and hide them, and you're creaming, like
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: wap it on there. It was like skin color and
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: shit because I was so ashamed of my pimples and
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: I was like the most normal, I mean, fucking puby, like.
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: The absolute mist of puberty. Yeah, and like I was
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: ashamed of it. I was like, what we just think
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: of the weirdest shit. Yeah, and it's just so unvalid
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: leading on from that conversation. Actually, because I've got a
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: deep question for today, and the deep question is what's
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: a valuable lesson you have learned from a past relationship?
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: And I and I put it in our notes so
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: you could read it yesterday, Yes, so you actually could
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: think about it.
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: I do have an answer, yeah, yeah, yeah, say I
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: actually have tooth Yeah, boys, but I just.
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: Thought that actually leads on pretty well. Is that from
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: each relationship?
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: Nah, just kind of like stuff that I've learned. Okay, okay,
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: you go first, if you've got two. Okay, mine is
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: pretty simple.
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: But like for some reason, it took like years for
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: me to learn this and like actually have to like
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: live by it.
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: I also think this is a good tip too, because
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: when you're going through high break, like it's really hard
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: to feel anything, but like it is a learning experience, Yeah,
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: like takeaways from what you did wrong or what they
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: did wrong or what they taught you facts.
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: So first one that for some reason, these are both
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: from the first relationship I learned the most there, I
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: won't lie, But being scared of your significant other's reaction
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: to like being scared of the reaction of you bringing
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: something up of like how it's something they did makes
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: you feel. Is like if anyone experienced if anyone's scared
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: of talking about their like how they feel because their
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: boyfriend or girlfriend did something that hurt their feelings, If
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: you're scared of their reaction, that's fucked.
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: It took me a long time to realize that healthy
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: dynamic at all. Ism.
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because you're gonna bottle that up now, you're too
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: scared to bring it up.
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: You're like, I don't want, I don't want to start issues,
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: but it shouldn't be an issue.
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: If someone you love has accidentally like you have to
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: they've accidentally hurt your feelings. And if they know they
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: accidentally did it and you're bringing it up, that all
• 47:09
  Speaker 2: they're gonna say is like, oh, I'm so sorry about that,
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: Like thank you for bringing that up. Yeah, But if
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: you're too scared to bring it.
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: Up, well, I think what a lot of people do
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: in relationships is avoid the conversation not only to not
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: like have the conflict of their reaction, but also the
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: problems never solved, but it's also never answered. Yeah, so
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: it just like goes under the doormat and you don't
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: even think about it and just move on. But eventually
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: all that shit just comes out. Yeah, it's fucking I
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: just yeah, I don't know it to be so long. Yeah,
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: I don't know why man react and it still is
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: like I've spoken about it before, like it's still scared.
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: You think that's on you for not bringing it up
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: or them for how they react, though I think it's both, right,
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: So I think it's like.
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: Emotional immaturity from both spectrums of the fact, where it's
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: like the person that is getting upset because as they've
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: upset their partner, it's like that's pretty immature. Yeah, take
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: some ownership and apologize, but then me so doing it once,
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: them getting upset and me just thinking like it's just
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: kind of like a normal It's like I just won't
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: bring it up again.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: It's like, okay, well that's also on me.
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: It's like I haven't recognized responsibility. Yeah, it's like takes
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: two to tango. So I think it's both in that sense.
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: But so my next one is that manipulation can be
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: camouflaged by a simple sentence like it's because I love you, and.
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: That one took me out. While Yeah, yeah, a lot
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: of people throw that word love around and hide it
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: within a ball of toxicity. A. Yeah, because I love you.
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: It's fucking in love. Yeah, it's just ship, bro. Yeah
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: that's crazy. So that's just a couple of things I learned.
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: Those are bad things, but I learned I've learned great
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: things about relationships, but I went with the bad.
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: Well, I think the bad are the best takeaways my
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: past relationship. The one thing I immediately thought of was
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: my first relationship, I didn't have i'm going to call
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: it emotional intelligence to talk about what the relationship was
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: or what it meant to myself. And I think she
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: also didn't have that emotional intelligence. And what I learned was.
• 49:36
  Speaker 2: To be completely honest and transparent with how I was
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: feeling and take that into my next relationship. I think
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: when I was younger, it sounds simple as well.
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: I guess this is just how simple it sounds. Yeah yeah, yeah,
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: as I'm saying it, I might sound so simple, But
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I like I think I didn't
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: want to become like come across as over the top,
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: or like too in love or like obsessed, but we
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: both were. Isn't that crazy that saying that out loud?
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: It's like, why would you not do that. Yeah, and
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: then that just like caused this ball of confusion and
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: I took into my next relationship. Now one was like,
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: I never want to be confused with how we feel
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: about each other, Like I always want to be completely
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: transparent with how I'm feeling. Like that goes I'm so
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: in love with you right now, or you're really pissing
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: me off, Like I'm always going to be transparent no
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: matter what. And I think I've built or we've built
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: a healthy relationship where I'm not scared of her reaction
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: by any means she's just scared of mine. Yeah, and
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: I can say anything like maybe it is as well,
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: Like I didn't know what the fuck her reaction was
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: going to be if I told her like I'm so
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: in love with you. Yeah, so I just didn't tell her.
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: It's it sounds so simple. I mean, I guess you've
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: got to do it to learn it. I mean, you know,
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: trial and error. Yeah, yeah, that's why I think, Like,
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: I guess it's hard though, because what can someone do
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: who's never been in a relationship. I was going to say,
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: like it's good to get in a relationship when you're
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: younger because you learn so much and most of the
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: time it doesn't work out because you are young and
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: do something dumb. But what can someone do because there's
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: a lot of girls probably listening, maybe two or three
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: guys that have never been in a relationship and had
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: the opportunity to learn and make mistakes, and now they
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: are our age and we've learned from that. How can
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: someone go into a relationship for the first time and
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: be expected to know all these things or they can't.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good question, because so they can't be
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: expected to know these things, but they are expected to
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: know these things, or maybe they expected of themselves. I
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: guess I think a lot of pressure would come from yourself,
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: and hopefully you get a healthy partner who's there to
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: not necessarily teach, but be a supportive network for you
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: to figure things out.
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: On your own. I guess the one thing you don't
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: want to happen is, especially in toxic relationships, it's someone
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: who's been in a relationship before and someone who hasn't
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: gets in a relationship and forms toxic tendencies because of
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: the first relationship they get in. Some dude or some
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: girls just mad toxic and has a terrible attachment style.
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say, it's like you just you's
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: got to be like a hard on your sleeve type situation,
• 52:18
  Speaker 2: doesn't it. Yeah, that's like, hey, it's my first time actually,
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: like you know, I know things from friends I've I've
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: listened to complain, but I've never experienced these things. Yeah,
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: so it's like it's almost you've just I don't know.
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: I think it's also a blessing. We like to flip
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: things glass half full because if you've never been in
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: a relationship, you don't have any trauma, whereas a lot
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: of people out there are fucked up and do fucked
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: up things, especially when a lot of men's frontal lobes
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: aren't developed and they do things just out of like instinct,
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: and we don't know what the fuck's going on. We
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: don't have any excuses for them. No, no, no, but
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: that's what happened. So I guess lass half full. If
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: you've never been in a relationship and you're listening right now,
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: it's also a blessing because you get to go into
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: it with hopefully a man who has some brains, some
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: brain capacity. And maybe it's better too, because girls do
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: develop quicker than men. Hopefully the man has learned along
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: his journey.
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: Get a relationship fingers crossed, That's what I'm saying. Yeah,
• 53:24
  Speaker 2: this is hard to answer those questions, Isn't it like
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: it's all like a.
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: Lucky dip too, because you don't really know a person
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: untill like I don't know three six months down the track.
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I guess that's where that whole that whole
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: three month rule could have some pretty strong footing, like
• 53:42
  Speaker 2: in the in validation.
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: Or whatever the world. Because I was seeing a girl
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: and I was like three or four days in it,
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: and I was whipped. I was like, this girl's sick,
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: and then like it started to come out like I
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: was like, shit, I didn't see it.
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: So it's like it's like that three month rule could
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: be could be good. Yeah, I've been a good thing
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: to live and die by.
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: I think it definitely is something good.
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's also just like last week apparently. The
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: other thing is it's sometimes it's hard to take advice
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: from parents, Yeah, because like parents will literally give your
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: relationship vice, sorry, give your relationship advice, but they were
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: engaged after three fucking months too. It's like, you know,
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: it's just not really not the smartest thing.
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's hard.
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: But I guess my advice is someone that's like, oh,
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: I never have been a relationship, and I'm older and
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: I'm scared, and I would say, imagine yourself as still
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: young and trial and error still still is like a
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: thing you're going to have to go through. Like, just
• 54:49
  Speaker 2: because you waited till twenty six to get your first
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: boyfriend doesn't mean you're not going to go through the
• 54:53
  Speaker 2: same person as someone who had their first boyfriend at sixteen.
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: You're still going to learn things for the first time
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: along the way. And what about said that we said
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: as a lucky dip, Like if the man or woman
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: is a good person, where do you think you could
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: potentially find someone if you've never been in a relationship,
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: and like you don't like dating apps for example, I.
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: To be fair, I haven't really got any experience in that.
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: Boys of Instagram.
• 55:24
  Speaker 2: Yeahship, Yeah, Like we both met our girlfriends through Instagram. Yeah,
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: so it worked out for me.
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: And you have you ever seen a girl from seeing
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: her in person? Nah? Another one from the gym was
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: that in person or not? Yeah, you went on like
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: two dates of.
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: Us Yeah, but it was again, so it's like I
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: went on a date. Yeah, I went on a date
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: with a girl from the gym. And but it was again,
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: it was like through a friend of a friend, like
• 55:54
  Speaker 2: our friend his girlfriend was friends with her. And then
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: he said to me, like, what do you think? So
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: it's like neither and I went up to each other
• 56:00
  Speaker 2: at the gym. Yeah, okay, yeah, I guess also crazy weird.
• 56:04
  Speaker 2: It turns out we were like literally family friends and
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: we did it for someone we didn't know each other,
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: And like I was.
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: Like fuck, uh nah no, no, no, no, no. I was
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: gonna say, I guess it's cliche, but you always get
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: in a relationship when you least expect it. Yeah, that
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: happened for me. And when I heard that, I was like, oh,
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: I don't want to do that.
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: Shit.
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: It really does, like when you've never been in a relationship,
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: and I guess if you are asking these questions of
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: like where do I find these men or where do
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: I find a relationship, maybe a slight little mindset shift
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: of like fuck it, I'm gonna keep grinding, like I'm
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: just gonna keep working on myself and when it comes,
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: it comes, yeah, because like it really does come when
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: you least expect it, and like when you're the best
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: version of yourself, like it just puts off this aura
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: that other people see and then it comes to you. Yeah.
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: I'm not saying you don't have that ora now, no,
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: but you just don't know when it comes. So just
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: keep keep ticking away, getting one percent better every single day,
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: and eventually it does come, and then that dream boy
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: or girl turns up. It's fucking odd.
• 57:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I met I met a listener on the weekend.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: Her name is Andressa.
• 57:21
  Speaker 2: She was sucking Legend again Andres Andress is Brazilian, Andress
• 57:24
  Speaker 2: that's cool, and she was It was the best interaction
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: with a listener I've ever had really. I was at
• 57:30
  Speaker 2: a cafe with Beth and her dad and her brother
• 57:33
  Speaker 2: and Lex Beth. Beth went to the toilet and she
• 57:37
  Speaker 2: we sat down and she came out as our waiter
• 57:39
  Speaker 2: and she like straight. It was like, oh, she was
• 57:41
  Speaker 2: like Jake from the Relatables and I was like yeah, yeah,
• 57:44
  Speaker 2: yeah yeah, and she was just like super nice and
• 57:48
  Speaker 2: she said, she said, you guys should talk about what
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: it's like for a someone that's like like multicultural, so
• 57:59
  Speaker 2: like a Brazilian with an Australian like you know what
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: I mean.
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: She said that.
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: It's so she's thirty four and she she says, really
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: hard to meet someone. And especially this keeps coming up
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: this theme because guys in Australia do not approach.
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we don't know at all. So I was like,
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: that's completely apparently Brazil is a fucking crazy place for that.
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: Brazil is different.
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: We even have just had like dilemmas from Americans, as say,
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: I'm in Australia and I can make eye contact with
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: the guy at the at the club and he won't
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: come up to me.
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: And eye contact doesn't mean shit. I eye contact means nothing. Yeah,
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: and and and I just don't know.
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: I don't have an answer as to why guys in
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: Australia are like that, because when I was singing, when
• 58:45
  Speaker 2: I was single, I also wouldn't go up to a girl,
• 58:47
  Speaker 2: even if I thought she was the most beautiful girl ever,
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't do it.
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: Best said, the only people that approach her are from Europe.
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: Do you think Australian men aren't confident in themselves enough.
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: I don't know, fear of rejection. Yeah, that's a tough
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: one too, the multicultural dynamic. I've never thought of that.
• 59:07
  Speaker 2: Again, It's like the fear of rejection thing is crazy
• 59:09
  Speaker 2: because it was probably sort of bred into us. It's
• 59:12
  Speaker 2: like when you're a kid and we get get coddled
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: by our mums, like if they hate saying no.
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So it's like, but they.
• 59:21
  Speaker 2: Do that everywhere, surely I don't know, though, it's like
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: a thing of At the same time, what's the best
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: in terms Also, there's probably cultural society differences, so it's like.
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: No, I tell you what it is. I think I
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: figured it out, okay, right now, Oh yes, Australia has
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: tall poppy syndrome massively. Take so back in the day,
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: when a man went up to a woman and like
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: I said, hey, can I get your number? He went
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: back to all his mates and they bosted the fuck
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: out of him, Whereas in other cultures he went and
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: did that, yeah, he say, he did it in Europe's
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: nupies get your number and she's like no, sorry, Like
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: I have a boyfriend. He would go back to his mates.
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: They'll be like next time.
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: Brother, Yeah, yeah, you got next Like it would be.
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 2: There's definitely there's one hundred percent places where it's so
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 2: normal to get rejected and all your friends go, hey,
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: must try.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like we've been there. I appreciate the effort, Like
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: we've been there.
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: But then in Australia, for some reason, if you go
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: up and put yourself out there trying to get a
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: girl's number and she says no, and you go back
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: to your friends, they're like, dude, you should.
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: Jump off a clip. Yeah. Literally, dudes in Australia are fucked.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: That'd be like you're hideous. Yeah.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 2: Literally, that's the biggest message anyone's ever sent to you
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 2: get in the gym, you fat, ugly fuck Like that's
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 2: what Australian dudes would like do in a group sense.
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: Like honestly, it's insane. It's so toxic. I'm healthy. Yeah, ah,
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: it's not. It's fucking insane.
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 2: Like I remember when I was younger, I had a
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 2: mad crush on this girl at our school.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: I won't name her, but I remember.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: Do you remember so when we were younger? I don't
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 2: know if what if? Basically so you could either you would.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: This is before the word like oh, they're talking like
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 2: if you around the whole world. Now I'm pretty sure
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: it's like this, but like it's like, oh, if you
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: and such and such a talking it's like you guys
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: are can't have a thing.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: When we were younger, it was called tuning that you
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: would be like yeah, yeah.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 2: You'd say, oh, me and me and Jenna are tuning,
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 2: you know. But and that was kind of like before
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 2: you started dating. And so I remember having a mad
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 2: crush on this girl and then you work at the
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 2: coach like you know, messager after school just like a
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: random like hey, a little conversation.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: And then the way that you would like secure tuning.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: Someone is like you chat to them for a bit,
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 2: maybe a couple of days, and then one afternoon you'd
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 2: be like, oh, I'm off to bed, like good night X.
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 1: And if they sent a good night X back bro,
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 1: you were working, you would tune.
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 2: Oh my god.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: It was crazy.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: And if you hit him with if you went good
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: night X and they hit you with a good night XX, bro,
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 2: you may as well ask her to be your girlfriend
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: the next day. Okay, So I remember doing this. I
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 2: had crushed this girl, and I remember I remember doing that,
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 2: and that she the way that you send the message
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: of like no I'm not into it, like that is you.
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 2: So I said good night X and then she sent
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 2: good night's smiley face to try and be nice.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: But that's how you get the message.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 2: Like, that's how the message you sent without actually like
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: talking about your feelings.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: Were all too scared to That's what I was, baby, And.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 2: So I remember, I don't know, I remember I did
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: it one night and the next day I got to school.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 2: I swear I hadn't told a soul, but like one
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 2: of my best bats at the time comes up to
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 2: me and he just fucking laughed at me. He somehow
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 2: found out I must have told someone, but he just
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 2: basically somewhere I found out and just came up and
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 2: just fucking laughed at me. And I mean I kind
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 2: of like laughed it off, and I was like, yeah, yeah,
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 2: you know what is blah blah blah. But again it
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 2: was like, well I'm not trying that again.
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah exactly, you never tried that again. Every single man
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 1: has an experience like that. And so that's what happens
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: in astraa. You guys, I think that might be the answer.
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: And I was going to say too, is we're all toxic.
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 1: We are all toxic.
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 2: And again, sorry to interrupt, but probably guilty of giving
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: a friend shit. Sam for putting themselves out there and failing.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: Sam, I was going to say, I think our friendship group,
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 1: especially yours and eyes tight knit friends, were lucky enough
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: to be somewhat sheltered. And that's why the podcast has worked.
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: Because I know a lot of people, especially in Sydney
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 1: and like the Northern Beaches, like that stigma. I think
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: Melbourne's even worse, probably around trying something new or getting rejected.
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 1: Everyone just roast the fuck out of you, or even worse,
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: they talk behind your back. Yeah, and then you just
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 1: hear little whispers of it. Yeah, and you're like, oh,
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: well that's not very nice. Yeah. I just want to
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: know a number of it. I just try to try
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 1: my best. Yeah. So, like I don't know, I guess
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: the problem is ourselves and men and how we're brought up.
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 1: But taking away I've definitely been responsible of it in
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 1: the past. Ye, but reflecting everyone can learn to be
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: a support It just comes back to being a supportive friend.
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it needs to be known that, like rejection
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 2: is a thing. It's normal, and like, yeah, it is
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 2: what it is. Like, here's the thing is, you know,
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 2: I don't want to go out here and tell all
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 2: these girls that I haven't struggled like troubles with not
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 2: being approached to do the approaching. But I will say this,
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 2: if you're if you can get in your head and
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 2: and convince yourself that even if I get rejected, it
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 2: is what it is like, I still love myself. I'm
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 2: telling you right now, if you're a girl that's like
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 2: out here saying why am I not getting approached?
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: Why A'm not getting approached?
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: You know all my friends have like a boyfriend, blah
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 2: blah blah blah blah.
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 1: I just I don't know.
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 2: I'm like a one hundred percent confidence if you if
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: you've wanted a boyfriend, you could you could do some
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: approaching and get one.
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 1: But just I just I don't like that answer. I
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: think my solution was going to be learn to be
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: a more supportive friend for two males. I think one
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: thing I really like about our relationship is not only
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 1: the support, but you are able to kind of read
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 1: when I'm sad or angry or upset, and like for example,
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: other friends, if I went up to a girl like
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: now and got ridsale single, got rejected, you would be
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: able to read in my demeanor that I was a
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 1: little bit cut.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and you'll be like you would Maybe you wouldn't
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 2: say like get them next time and be like, ah,
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 2: it's all.
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  Speaker 1: Right already, Hey may I would have I would have
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 1: been the one that was convincing you. Yeah, but I
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: would have been like, my bad. Yeah. I know a
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 1: lot of one of my friends would be like, you're
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 1: a fucking idiot it and I think they wouldn't be
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: able to read me very well. So I guess it's
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: working on the male. You know how male relationships are
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 1: so surface level. I think you are able to read
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 1: me because we know each other so well. But true,
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 1: the friendship dynamic of men who don't talk about their feelings,
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 1: they can't read each other's emotional state when something like
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: that happened and they just roast the funk out of him.
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: I guess the takeaway is get.
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 2: A more emotional connection with your friends, sh because.
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: Then you wouldn't tell them to go jump off a
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 1: cliff that they did that. Just it's a joke. It's
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 1: a joke, bro, every fucking dude. So just don't don't
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 1: take it's not that deep. Don't take it so seriously.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: Off again, it's like you think, in hindsight, you feel
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 2: bad forever doing it to someone. But you gotta learn,
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 2: You gotta at least you can you can notice it and.
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 1: See that.
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's the wrong thing to do, but I guess
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 2: feel like that's like a pretty good the takeaways the
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 2: girls not the issue, no, no, but at a.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: Pretty enough Yeah, cool enough, got the best personality. The
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 1: dude is the issue. It's how we've been brought up. Yeah,
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: it's our society Australia has. It's a very crabs in
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: a bucket society. It's exactly.
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 2: You know, if someone tries to fucking climb out, everyone
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 2: else is going to drag him back down with him,
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: because it's like, why would you think that you can
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 2: go do that? Yeah, Like who fucking gave you the
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 2: authority to have some sort of self efficacy to put
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 2: yourself out there and actually try something?
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 1: You think your top ship? Yeah, you think your top ship?
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 2: That you think and it's like, fuck, even if I do,
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 2: like at least I love myself and like you, you
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 2: fucking depress all. Seriously, it's disgusting, it's embarrassing. It's actually
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 2: embarrassing to think about it.
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, guys, As you know, I've been reading some comments.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: I like, I actually don't like as well.
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 2: So if you want to get a message out of
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 2: the bat's yeah, comment in the Yeah, okay, I got one.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: Tell you what, let's you start doing? Do you reckon
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: the ten percent of male listeners are like nice men.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: I was gonna say, like, put your dating.
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 2: Problem, put your I G in there, put your Instagram
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 2: in there. From Ella Hartas, why is shitting yourself under
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 2: the Manhattan Bridge kind of iconic?
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 1: Though it is iconic, it is a story. Yeah, that
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 1: was a story, bro. I still I think. Yeah, I'm
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 1: sticking with my vote that that was the worst one. Yeah, same, same,
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: all right. Shanayas said I'm a dental assistant and you
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 1: should steer clear of alcohol based mouthwash because it dries
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: out of your mouth and saliva is the key for
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 1: protecting your teeth. I think that was in regards to
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 1: you going to the dentist for the first time in
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 1: eight years.
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you said you should use my mouthwash.
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 1: And I checked my mouth wash. It's our coal free.
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 1: Oh damn.
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 2: Okay, So don't use an alcohol one fair, Emma, just Emma.
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, but I vote for last weeks when you've
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: got to go.
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 1: You gotta go. Yeah, she was voting for. I mean, hey,
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: look it's I reckon. It would be a pretty like
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 1: split down the middle time. We got one in the emails,
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 1: Like I said, if you want another one, you gotta go,
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: you gotta go. Yeah, we can do it a confession session.
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah.
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 2: Relatable sixty nine at gmail dot com. Send us your story,
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 2: yeah exactly. And if we think it's on path, get
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 2: your ear.
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 1: But now it is bad. He sign off time. And
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 1: before we do that, Jake, we got to plug plug Patreon.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we always forget to plug Patreon, guys.
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 1: Patreon has been turning up with the addition of the
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 1: early release of Baddies book Club. You get that five
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 1: days early, but also you get a full extra hour
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: long episode the same as this every single Thursday. And
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 1: it's five dollars au D a month, which is cheap
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 1: because if you live somewhere where for some reason Australian
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: currency sucks, you are paying like two dollars.
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you live in England, that's two pound fifty yeah,
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 2: two pound fifty.
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 1: Pence, yeah exactly. So there's some cool things going on
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 1: over there, shilling. Yeah.
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 2: But yeah, we've said it a couple of times. Now
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 2: thousand paid members, and.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 1: We will do a live show. Yeah, so we will
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 1: do it. We will do it. We men of our words.
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 1: But today, Jake, we are calling Hayley to sign off
• 1:09:55
  Speaker 1: the episode. Damn, let's do it.
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 4: Come on, Hi, how are we are we speaking?
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 1: Hailey? It's Jake and Oddie. How are you?
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 4: Oh my god?
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 1: Hi?
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 2: How are you glad to hear your voice?
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 4: Holy ship? Am I I'm thinking?
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 1: Yes, you certainly.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 4: Pregant word.
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 1: You have won. You have won the chance to sign
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 1: off our episode.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 4: Wait, okay, just ship? Do I do it?
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 1: Now?
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 4: Do I do it?
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 1: Well? Here's the thing, Hailey, Okay, okay.
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 2: You can sign it off whatever way you like. You
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 2: can say you could give some advice. You could give
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 2: a quote some people stay bad because they stay bad,
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 2: or yeah, totally, I could do it everywhere.
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 1: You could be the first person to do something totally.
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: You can do a roast. You can roast Jake if
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 1: you want. Oh yeah, yeah.
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 4: No no no no no no no no, You're You're
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 4: too good to be roasted. Oh is it? Okay? So
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 4: I recently just learned something from work because I'm of people.
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 4: Please off and I I hate it because I am
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 4: doing like a managing role and whatnot. I always say
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 4: yes to people and me and I was the one
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 4: that's being taken advantage. So here's the thing. When you
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 4: feel like you're being back to people, like when you
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 4: say no, it doesn't mean that you're you're a bad person.
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 4: It just means that you're being fair to everyone else.
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 4: That's about it.
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: Damn I got that. Yeah. I think that's a lot
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 1: of people pleases out there.
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, I'm saying no. Yeah for yourself.
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 1: Easy, there you go. You did good on the pressure.
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 1: That was good. Yeah, thank you.
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 2: Oh my god.
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 4: Relatable.
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 1: That was good. What a legend. Stay bad, Stay bad.