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102. Present (Not Perfect): How to Enjoy Spring Break Without Letting Your Business Fall Apart · Burning Brightly

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  When
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  you
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  are
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  creative,
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  your
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  brain
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  doesn't
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  know
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  when
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  to
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  stop
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  being
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  creative.
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  You
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  sit
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  down
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  to
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  build
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  a
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  puzzle
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  with
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  your
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  kid
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  and
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  your
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  brain
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  is
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  still
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  like,
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  oh,
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  but
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  what
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  if
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  we
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  did
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  this
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  for
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  the
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  next
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  launch?
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  What
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  if
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  we
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  wrote
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  this
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  for
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  the
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  email?
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  What
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  if
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  this
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  was
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  the
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  next
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  Instagram
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  post?
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  And
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  getting
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  it
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  to
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  shut
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  off
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  is
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  challenging.
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  And
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  unfortunately
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  our
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  kids
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  notice
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  and
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  they
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  feel
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  when
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  we're
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  not
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  present.
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  And
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  then
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  you
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  start
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  to
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  feel
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  guilty,
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  which
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  then
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  tanks
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  your
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  ability
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  to
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  focus
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  when
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  you
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  sit
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  down
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  to
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  work,
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  because
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  then
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  your
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  mind
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  is
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  running
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  on
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  all
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  the
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  things
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  you
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  should
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  have
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  done
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  and
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  said
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  when
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  you
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  were
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  with
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  your
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  kid.
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  then
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  you're
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  distracted
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  when
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  you're
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  with
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  your
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  kids
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  and
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  you're
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  guilty
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  when
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  you're
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  working,
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  and
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  it
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  is
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  a
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  losing
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  battle
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  on
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  both
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  fronts.
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  None
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  of
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  us
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  want
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  that,
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  This
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  is
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  Burning
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  Brightly,
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  a
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  podcast
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  for
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  Christian
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  moms
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  who
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  are
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  feeling
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  called
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  to
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  build
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  a
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  business
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  and
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  share
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  their
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  light
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  with
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  the
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  world.
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  I'm
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  Bonnie
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  Wiscombe,
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  a
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  life
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  coach,
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  mom
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  and
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  entrepreneur,
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  and
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  I'm
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  honored
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  to
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  be
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  your
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  guide
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  as
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  you
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  face
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  this
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  business
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  building
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  adventure
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  full
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  of
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  highs,
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  lows.
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  And
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  everything
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  in
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  between.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  we
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  help
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  each
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  other
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  find
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  the
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  courage
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  to
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  shine.
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  Hey
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  friends.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Bernie
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  Brightly.
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  I
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  am
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  so
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  glad
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  you're
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  here
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  today.
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  I
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  wanna
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  talk
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  today
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  about
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  being
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  present
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  in
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  your
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  life,
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  and
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  I
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  don't
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  want
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  you
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  to
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  click
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  away
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  because
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  you
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  feel
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  guilty
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  about
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  this
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  because
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  Sister,
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  I
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  am
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  right
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  there
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  with
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  you
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  mom
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  guilt
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  when
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  it
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  comes
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  to
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  trying
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  to
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  build
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  a
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  business
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  around
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  a
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  busy
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  family.
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  But
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  if
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  you're
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  listening
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  to
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  this
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  during
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  spring
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  break
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  season,
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  then
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  I
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  see
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  you
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  and
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  I
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  see
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  you
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  trying
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  to
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  do
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  all
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  the
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  things,
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  being
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  present
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  with
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  your
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  kids,
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  having
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  some
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  fun,
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  maybe
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  going
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  on
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  vacation
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  and
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  still
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  keeping
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  your
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  business
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  up
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  and
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  running.
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  It
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  is
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  not
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  an
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  easy
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  feat.
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  Very
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  often
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  you've
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  got
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  kids
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  under
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  foot
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  or
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  someone
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  has
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  asked
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  you
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  for
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  a
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  snack
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  17
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  times,
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  and
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  your
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  to-do
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  list
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  did
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  not
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  get
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  the
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  memo
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  that
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  it
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  is
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  spring
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  break.
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  It
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  still
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  is
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  asking
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  you
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  to
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  do
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  all
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  the
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  things
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  you're
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  supposed
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  to
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  be
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  doing.
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  Now,
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  I
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  will
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  say
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  that
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  for
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  me,
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  spring
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  break
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  is
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  more
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  chill
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  because
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  we
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  only
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  recently
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  started
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  putting
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  kids
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  in
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  school.
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  So
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  I'm
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  used
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  to
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  having
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  kids
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  home
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  all
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  the
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  time
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  as
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  a.
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  Former
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  full-time
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  homeschooler
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  and
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  no
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  school
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  means
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  that
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  no
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  carpool
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  and
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  no
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  extracurriculars.
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  That's
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  kind
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  of
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  nice,
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  right?
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  Less
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  of
• 1:51
  the
• 1:52
  grind
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  of
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  the
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  day
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  to
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  day.
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  But
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  it
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  also
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  means
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  that
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  less,
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  there's
• 1:54
  less
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  structure.
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  So
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  for
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  me,
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  what
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  that
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  looked
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  like
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  was
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  cousins
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  coming
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  over
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  to
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  play
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  and
• 1:59
  then
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  somebody
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  asking
• 2:00
  for
• 2:00
  a
• 2:00
  ride
• 2:01
  to
• 2:01
  the
• 2:01
  trampoline
• 2:01
  park,
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  and
• 2:02
  then
• 2:02
  somebody
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  else
• 2:03
  asking
• 2:03
  for
• 2:03
  a
• 2:04
  ride
• 2:04
  to
• 2:04
  their
• 2:04
  friend's
• 2:04
  house,
• 2:04
  right?
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  So
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  less
• 2:06
  structure,
• 2:06
  more
• 2:07
  doing
• 2:08
  things.
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  On
• 2:08
  a
• 2:08
  whim,
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  which
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  can
• 2:09
  be
• 2:09
  fun,
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  but
• 2:10
  can
• 2:10
  be
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  kind
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  of
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  the
• 2:11
  death
• 2:11
  of
• 2:11
  a
• 2:11
  business
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  if
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  we're
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  not
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  really
• 2:12
  careful.
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  And
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  here's
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  the
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  thing,
• 2:14
  I
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  know
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  what
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  you're
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  thinking
• 2:15
  'cause
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  I'm
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  thinking
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  the
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  same
• 2:16
  thing.
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  Part
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  of
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  you
• 2:17
  genuinely
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  wants
• 2:18
  to
• 2:18
  just
• 2:18
  sit
• 2:19
  there
• 2:19
  and
• 2:19
  soak
• 2:19
  up
• 2:19
  every
• 2:19
  second
• 2:20
  with
• 2:20
  your
• 2:20
  kids.
• 2:21
  You
• 2:21
  wanna
• 2:21
  be
• 2:21
  present,
• 2:21
  you
• 2:22
  wanna
• 2:22
  make
• 2:22
  memories.
• 2:23
  You
• 2:23
  don't
• 2:23
  wanna
• 2:23
  look
• 2:23
  back
• 2:23
  and
• 2:23
  go,
• 2:24
  why
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  did
• 2:24
  I
• 2:24
  spend
• 2:25
  all
• 2:25
  my
• 2:25
  spring
• 2:25
  breaks
• 2:26
  working
• 2:26
  on
• 2:26
  my
• 2:27
  dumb
• 2:27
  business
• 2:27
  when
• 2:27
  I
• 2:27
  could
• 2:28
  have
• 2:28
  been
• 2:28
  with
• 2:28
  my
• 2:28
  kid?
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  It.
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  But
• 2:29
  the
• 2:29
  other
• 2:30
  part
• 2:30
  of
• 2:30
  you,
• 2:30
  I
• 2:30
  see
• 2:30
  that
• 2:31
  part
• 2:31
  too.
• 2:31
  The
• 2:31
  part
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  that's
• 2:32
  like,
• 2:32
  actually
• 2:33
  these
• 2:33
  kids
• 2:33
  are
• 2:33
  driving
• 2:33
  me
• 2:33
  crazy.
• 2:34
  I'd
• 2:34
  rather
• 2:34
  go
• 2:34
  be
• 2:34
  in
• 2:34
  my
• 2:35
  office
• 2:35
  and
• 2:35
  write
• 2:35
  some
• 2:35
  emails.
• 2:36
  I'd
• 2:36
  rather
• 2:36
  go
• 2:37
  talk
• 2:37
  to
• 2:37
  a
• 2:37
  client
• 2:37
  because
• 2:38
  they
• 2:38
  appreciate
• 2:38
  me
• 2:39
  and
• 2:39
  they
• 2:39
  don't
• 2:39
  throw
• 2:39
  cereal
• 2:40
  at
• 2:40
  me.
• 2:40
  No,
• 2:41
  just
• 2:41
  me.
• 2:43
  So
• 2:43
  it's
• 2:43
  okay
• 2:44
  to
• 2:44
  want
• 2:44
  both.
• 2:45
  It's
• 2:45
  okay
• 2:45
  to
• 2:46
  know
• 2:46
  intrinsically.
• 2:46
  You're
• 2:46
  supposed
• 2:47
  to
• 2:47
  do
• 2:47
  both.
• 2:48
  It's
• 2:48
  okay
• 2:48
  to
• 2:48
  feel
• 2:49
  that
• 2:49
  tension,
• 2:49
  that
• 2:49
  tug
• 2:50
  and
• 2:50
  that
• 2:50
  pull.
• 2:51
  That's
• 2:51
  normal.
• 2:51
  Welcome
• 2:52
  to
• 2:52
  being
• 2:52
  a
• 2:52
  human.
• 2:52
  You
• 2:53
  are
• 2:53
  normal.
• 2:54
  We're
• 2:54
  all
• 2:54
  right
• 2:55
  there
• 2:55
  in
• 2:55
  it
• 2:55
  with
• 2:55
  you,
• 2:56
  okay?
• 2:56
  Both
• 2:56
  of
• 2:56
  these
• 2:56
  things
• 2:57
  can
• 2:57
  be
• 2:57
  true.
• 2:57
  You
• 2:57
  can
• 2:57
  wanna
• 2:58
  be
• 2:58
  a
• 2:58
  great
• 2:58
  mom
• 2:58
  and
• 2:59
  wanna
• 2:59
  be
• 2:59
  a
• 2:59
  business
• 2:59
  owner
• 3:00
  and
• 3:00
  wanna
• 3:00
  fulfill
• 3:01
  the
• 3:01
  calling
• 3:01
  that
• 3:01
  God
• 3:02
  is
• 3:02
  calling
• 3:02
  you
• 3:02
  to
• 3:02
  do.
• 3:03
  It's
• 3:03
  a
• 3:03
  really,
• 3:04
  really
• 3:04
  hard
• 3:04
  thing
• 3:04
  to
• 3:05
  do.
• 3:05
  Let's
• 3:05
  just
• 3:05
  all
• 3:05
  acknowledge
• 3:06
  that
• 3:06
  upfront,
• 3:07
  but
• 3:07
  today.
• 3:08
  Instead
• 3:08
  of
• 3:09
  trying
• 3:09
  to
• 3:09
  find
• 3:09
  work-life
• 3:10
  balance,
• 3:10
  I
• 3:10
  wanna
• 3:10
  talk
• 3:11
  to
• 3:11
  you
• 3:11
  about
• 3:12
  a
• 3:12
  different
• 3:12
  goal,
• 3:13
  and
• 3:13
  that
• 3:13
  is
• 3:13
  that
• 3:13
  of
• 3:14
  being
• 3:14
  mentally
• 3:15
  present
• 3:15
  wherever
• 3:16
  we
• 3:16
  are.
• 3:17
  Okay?
• 3:17
  Because
• 3:18
  there
• 3:18
  is
• 3:18
  no
• 3:18
  balance
• 3:19
  when
• 3:19
  we're
• 3:19
  trying
• 3:20
  to
• 3:20
  split
• 3:20
  our
• 3:20
  time.
• 3:20
  50
• 3:21
  50,
• 3:21
  that
• 3:21
  just
• 3:21
  looks
• 3:21
  like
• 3:22
  a
• 3:22
  time
• 3:22
  management
• 3:22
  nightmare.
• 3:23
  That's
• 3:23
  never
• 3:23
  gonna
• 3:24
  happen,
• 3:24
  and
• 3:24
  I
• 3:24
  don't
• 3:24
  think
• 3:24
  it
• 3:25
  should,
• 3:25
  but
• 3:26
  being
• 3:26
  present
• 3:26
  is
• 3:26
  a
• 3:26
  different
• 3:27
  thing
• 3:27
  to
• 3:27
  be
• 3:27
  truly
• 3:28
  present
• 3:28
  in
• 3:28
  one
• 3:28
  place.
• 3:29
  It
• 3:29
  actually
• 3:30
  frees
• 3:30
  you
• 3:30
  up
• 3:30
  to
• 3:31
  be
• 3:31
  fully
• 3:31
  present
• 3:31
  in
• 3:32
  other
• 3:32
  places,
• 3:33
  right?
• 3:33
  Because
• 3:33
  your
• 3:33
  brain
• 3:33
  is
• 3:34
  not
• 3:34
  constantly
• 3:34
  churning,
• 3:34
  thinking
• 3:35
  you
• 3:35
  should
• 3:35
  be
• 3:35
  somewhere
• 3:36
  else.
• 3:36
  So
• 3:36
  that's
• 3:36
  what
• 3:36
  we're
• 3:36
  gonna
• 3:37
  dig
• 3:37
  into
• 3:37
  today.
• 3:38
  Alright,
• 3:38
  so
• 3:39
  the
• 3:39
  main
• 3:40
  problem
• 3:40
  that
• 3:40
  most
• 3:41
  of
• 3:41
  us
• 3:41
  deal
• 3:41
  with
• 3:41
  is,
• 3:41
  especially
• 3:42
  during
• 3:42
  school
• 3:43
  breaks,
• 3:43
  when
• 3:43
  kids
• 3:43
  are
• 3:43
  home
• 3:44
  and
• 3:44
  there's
• 3:44
  chaos
• 3:44
  and
• 3:44
  less
• 3:45
  structure
• 3:45
  than
• 3:45
  normal,
• 3:46
  is
• 3:46
  not
• 3:47
  a
• 3:47
  time
• 3:47
  scarcity
• 3:48
  problem.
• 3:49
  It
• 3:49
  is
• 3:49
  a
• 3:49
  mental
• 3:50
  focus
• 3:51
  problem.
• 3:52
  We
• 3:52
  know
• 3:52
  that
• 3:52
  we're
• 3:52
  all
• 3:53
  overly
• 3:53
  busy.
• 3:53
  We
• 3:53
  know
• 3:54
  we
• 3:54
  say
• 3:54
  yes
• 3:54
  to
• 3:54
  too
• 3:54
  many
• 3:54
  things,
• 3:55
  but
• 3:55
  I
• 3:56
  don't
• 3:56
  think
• 3:56
  it's
• 3:56
  busyness
• 3:57
  or
• 3:57
  even
• 3:57
  a
• 3:57
  lack
• 3:57
  of
• 3:58
  self
• 3:58
  care
• 3:58
  that
• 3:58
  is
• 3:58
  the
• 3:59
  real
• 3:59
  problem.
• 4:00
  It
• 4:00
  is
• 4:01
  mental
• 4:01
  juggling.
• 4:02
  It
• 4:02
  is
• 4:02
  mental.
• 4:03
  Multitasking.
• 4:05
  Okay.
• 4:05
  Remember
• 4:05
  when
• 4:06
  we
• 4:06
  thought
• 4:06
  multitasking
• 4:06
  was
• 4:06
  good
• 4:07
  and
• 4:07
  then
• 4:07
  all
• 4:07
  the
• 4:07
  research
• 4:07
  came
• 4:07
  back
• 4:08
  and
• 4:08
  said,
• 4:08
  no,
• 4:08
  actually,
• 4:08
  people
• 4:09
  who
• 4:09
  multitask
• 4:09
  are
• 4:10
  10
• 4:10
  times
• 4:10
  less
• 4:10
  efficient
• 4:11
  than
• 4:11
  those
• 4:11
  who
• 4:11
  go
• 4:11
  all
• 4:12
  in
• 4:12
  and
• 4:12
  focus
• 4:12
  on
• 4:12
  one
• 4:12
  thing
• 4:12
  at
• 4:13
  a
• 4:13
  time.
• 4:13
  That's
• 4:14
  what
• 4:14
  our
• 4:14
  brain
• 4:14
  is
• 4:14
  trying
• 4:15
  to
• 4:15
  do,
• 4:15
  unless
• 4:16
  we
• 4:16
  really
• 4:16
  rein
• 4:16
  it
• 4:16
  in.
• 4:17
  And
• 4:17
  here's
• 4:17
  what
• 4:17
  I've
• 4:18
  noticed
• 4:18
  in
• 4:18
  my
• 4:19
  own
• 4:19
  life
• 4:19
  and
• 4:19
  the
• 4:20
  lives
• 4:20
  of
• 4:20
  the
• 4:20
  creatives
• 4:20
  that
• 4:21
  I
• 4:21
  work
• 4:21
  and
• 4:22
  hang
• 4:22
  out
• 4:22
  with.
• 4:23
  When
• 4:23
  you
• 4:24
  are
• 4:24
  creative,
• 4:24
  your
• 4:24
  brain
• 4:25
  doesn't
• 4:25
  know
• 4:25
  when
• 4:25
  to
• 4:25
  stop
• 4:26
  being
• 4:26
  creative.
• 4:27
  You
• 4:27
  sit
• 4:27
  down
• 4:27
  to
• 4:28
  build
• 4:28
  a
• 4:28
  puzzle
• 4:28
  with
• 4:28
  your
• 4:28
  kid
• 4:29
  or
• 4:29
  to
• 4:30
  do
• 4:30
  an
• 4:30
  art
• 4:30
  project
• 4:31
  and
• 4:31
  your
• 4:31
  brain
• 4:31
  is
• 4:31
  still
• 4:32
  like,
• 4:32
  oh,
• 4:32
  but
• 4:32
  what
• 4:32
  if
• 4:32
  we
• 4:32
  did
• 4:32
  this
• 4:33
  for
• 4:33
  the
• 4:33
  next
• 4:33
  launch?
• 4:33
  What
• 4:33
  if
• 4:33
  we
• 4:34
  wrote
• 4:34
  this
• 4:34
  for
• 4:34
  the
• 4:34
  email?
• 4:34
  What
• 4:35
  if
• 4:35
  this
• 4:35
  was
• 4:35
  the
• 4:35
  next
• 4:35
  Instagram
• 4:36
  post?
• 4:36
  What
• 4:36
  if
• 4:36
  I
• 4:36
  told
• 4:37
  my
• 4:37
  client
• 4:37
  this
• 4:37
  or
• 4:37
  we
• 4:37
  tried
• 4:38
  this
• 4:39
  and
• 4:39
  getting
• 4:39
  it
• 4:39
  to
• 4:39
  shut
• 4:39
  off
• 4:40
  is
• 4:40
  challenging.
• 4:41
  And
• 4:42
  unfortunately
• 4:43
  our
• 4:43
  kids
• 4:43
  notice
• 4:44
  our
• 4:44
  kids
• 4:44
  are
• 4:44
  really,
• 4:45
  really
• 4:46
  intuitive
• 4:46
  and
• 4:46
  they
• 4:47
  feel
• 4:47
  when
• 4:47
  we're
• 4:47
  not
• 4:47
  present.
• 4:48
  And
• 4:48
  then
• 4:48
  you
• 4:49
  start
• 4:49
  to
• 4:49
  feel
• 4:49
  guilty,
• 4:50
  which
• 4:50
  then
• 4:50
  tanks
• 4:51
  your
• 4:51
  ability
• 4:51
  to
• 4:51
  focus
• 4:52
  when
• 4:52
  you
• 4:52
  sit
• 4:52
  down
• 4:53
  to
• 4:53
  work,
• 4:53
  because
• 4:54
  then
• 4:54
  your
• 4:54
  mind
• 4:54
  is
• 4:54
  running
• 4:55
  on
• 4:55
  all
• 4:55
  the
• 4:55
  things
• 4:55
  you
• 4:55
  should
• 4:56
  have
• 4:56
  done
• 4:56
  and
• 4:56
  said
• 4:57
  and
• 4:58
  participated
• 4:58
  in
• 4:58
  when
• 4:59
  you
• 4:59
  were
• 4:59
  with
• 4:59
  your
• 4:59
  kid.
• 5:00
  So
• 5:00
  then
• 5:01
  you're
• 5:01
  distracted
• 5:01
  when
• 5:01
  you're
• 5:01
  with
• 5:01
  your
• 5:02
  kids
• 5:02
  and
• 5:02
  you're
• 5:02
  guilty
• 5:02
  when
• 5:02
  you're
• 5:02
  working,
• 5:03
  and
• 5:03
  it
• 5:04
  is
• 5:04
  a
• 5:04
  losing
• 5:04
  battle
• 5:05
  on
• 5:05
  both
• 5:05
  fronts.
• 5:06
  None
• 5:06
  of
• 5:06
  us
• 5:06
  want
• 5:07
  that,
• 5:07
  and
• 5:07
  I'm
• 5:07
  sure
• 5:07
  most
• 5:08
  of
• 5:08
  you
• 5:08
  listening
• 5:08
  have
• 5:09
  felt
• 5:09
  that,
• 5:10
  but
• 5:10
  here
• 5:10
  is
• 5:11
  the
• 5:11
  kind
• 5:11
  of
• 5:11
  shift.
• 5:12
  The
• 5:12
  mental
• 5:12
  shift
• 5:13
  I
• 5:13
  wanna
• 5:13
  give
• 5:13
  you
• 5:13
  guys
• 5:14
  presence
• 5:15
  has
• 5:15
  nothing
• 5:16
  to
• 5:16
  do
• 5:16
  with
• 5:16
  time,
• 5:17
  absolutely
• 5:18
  nothing.
• 5:19
  It's
• 5:19
  about
• 5:20
  where
• 5:20
  your
• 5:20
  mind
• 5:20
  is
• 5:21
  when
• 5:21
  you
• 5:21
  do
• 5:21
  show
• 5:22
  up.
• 5:22
  All
• 5:22
  of
• 5:23
  us
• 5:23
  are
• 5:23
  good
• 5:23
  moms.
• 5:23
  If
• 5:23
  you're
• 5:23
  listening
• 5:24
  to
• 5:24
  this,
• 5:24
  I
• 5:24
  know
• 5:24
  you're
• 5:24
  a
• 5:24
  good
• 5:24
  mom
• 5:25
  if
• 5:25
  you're
• 5:25
  listening
• 5:25
  to
• 5:25
  this.
• 5:26
  I
• 5:26
  know
• 5:26
  you
• 5:26
  wanna
• 5:26
  make
• 5:26
  your
• 5:26
  business
• 5:27
  work,
• 5:28
  but
• 5:29
  reigning
• 5:29
  your
• 5:29
  brain
• 5:30
  in
• 5:30
  to
• 5:30
  stay
• 5:31
  focused
• 5:31
  where
• 5:32
  it's
• 5:32
  at
• 5:32
  is
• 5:32
  one
• 5:32
  of
• 5:33
  the
• 5:33
  hardest
• 5:33
  things
• 5:33
  we'll
• 5:34
  ever
• 5:34
  learn
• 5:34
  to
• 5:34
  do
• 5:34
  and
• 5:35
  one
• 5:35
  of
• 5:35
  the
• 5:35
  most
• 5:35
  rewarding.
• 5:36
  So
• 5:37
  an
• 5:37
  hour
• 5:37
  or
• 5:38
  even
• 5:38
  15
• 5:38
  minutes
• 5:39
  of
• 5:39
  being
• 5:39
  fully
• 5:39
  present
• 5:40
  and
• 5:40
  laughing
• 5:41
  and
• 5:41
  connecting
• 5:41
  with
• 5:41
  your
• 5:41
  kids
• 5:42
  does
• 5:42
  way
• 5:43
  more
• 5:43
  for
• 5:43
  your
• 5:43
  relationship
• 5:44
  than
• 5:44
  an
• 5:44
  entire
• 5:45
  day
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  you
• 5:45
  being
• 5:46
  half
• 5:46
  there.
• 5:46
  How
• 5:47
  do
• 5:47
  I
• 5:47
  know?
• 5:47
  Because
• 5:47
  I
• 5:47
  do
• 5:47
  it
• 5:47
  all
• 5:48
  the
• 5:48
  time,
• 5:48
  right?
• 5:49
  I'll
• 5:49
  have
• 5:49
  day
• 5:49
  after
• 5:50
  day
• 5:50
  after
• 5:50
  day
• 5:50
  of
• 5:50
  just
• 5:50
  kind
• 5:51
  of
• 5:51
  being
• 5:51
  half
• 5:51
  there,
• 5:52
  and
• 5:52
  then
• 5:52
  when
• 5:52
  I
• 5:52
  finally
• 5:53
  focus
• 5:53
  on
• 5:53
  my
• 5:53
  kid
• 5:53
  for
• 5:53
  just
• 5:54
  a
• 5:54
  few
• 5:54
  minutes,
• 5:54
  it
• 5:55
  is
• 5:55
  so
• 5:55
  much
• 5:55
  more
• 5:55
  rewarding
• 5:56
  for
• 5:56
  both
• 5:56
  of
• 5:56
  us
• 5:56
  and
• 5:57
  for
• 5:57
  the
• 5:57
  relationship
• 5:58
  than
• 5:58
  me
• 5:58
  being
• 5:58
  there
• 5:59
  all
• 5:59
  day
• 5:59
  long,
• 6:00
  sort
• 6:00
  of,
• 6:01
  but
• 6:01
  my
• 6:01
  mind
• 6:01
  being
• 6:01
  somewhere
• 6:02
  else.
• 6:03
  And
• 6:04
  conversely,
• 6:05
  two
• 6:05
  hours
• 6:06
  of
• 6:06
  guilt-free,
• 6:07
  highly
• 6:07
  focused
• 6:08
  work
• 6:08
  time
• 6:08
  moves
• 6:09
  the
• 6:09
  needle
• 6:09
  way
• 6:10
  more
• 6:10
  in
• 6:10
  your
• 6:11
  business
• 6:11
  than
• 6:11
  an
• 6:12
  entire
• 6:12
  day
• 6:12
  of
• 6:12
  being
• 6:13
  half
• 6:13
  distracted.
• 6:14
  That
• 6:15
  is
• 6:15
  why
• 6:15
  we
• 6:15
  cannot
• 6:15
  be
• 6:15
  moms
• 6:16
  and
• 6:16
  business
• 6:16
  owners
• 6:17
  at
• 6:17
  the
• 6:17
  same
• 6:17
  time.
• 6:18
  We
• 6:18
  have
• 6:18
  to
• 6:18
  choose
• 6:19
  every
• 6:19
  minute
• 6:19
  of
• 6:20
  the
• 6:20
  day.
• 6:20
  Am
• 6:20
  I
• 6:20
  a
• 6:20
  mom
• 6:21
  right
• 6:21
  now
• 6:21
  or
• 6:21
  am
• 6:21
  I
• 6:22
  a
• 6:22
  business
• 6:22
  owner?
• 6:23
  Right
• 6:23
  now
• 6:23
  as
• 6:23
  I'm
• 6:24
  recording
• 6:24
  this,
• 6:24
  I'm
• 6:24
  in
• 6:24
  my
• 6:24
  office
• 6:25
  alone
• 6:25
  with
• 6:25
  a
• 6:25
  door
• 6:26
  locked.
• 6:26
  I
• 6:26
  am
• 6:26
  not
• 6:27
  a
• 6:27
  mom.
• 6:27
  If
• 6:28
  someone
• 6:28
  were
• 6:28
  to
• 6:28
  text
• 6:28
  and
• 6:29
  say
• 6:29
  someone
• 6:29
  was
• 6:29
  bleeding,
• 6:30
  well,
• 6:30
  then
• 6:30
  I
• 6:30
  would
• 6:30
  hop
• 6:30
  up
• 6:31
  and
• 6:31
  go.
• 6:32
  we're
• 6:32
  always
• 6:32
  moms
• 6:32
  in
• 6:33
  the
• 6:33
  background,
• 6:33
  right?
• 6:34
  But
• 6:34
  we
• 6:34
  have
• 6:34
  to
• 6:34
  be
• 6:34
  very,
• 6:35
  very
• 6:35
  careful
• 6:35
  about
• 6:35
  those
• 6:36
  boundaries,
• 6:36
  mostly
• 6:37
  for
• 6:37
  our
• 6:37
  own
• 6:37
  brain's
• 6:38
  sake,
• 6:38
  so
• 6:39
  that
• 6:39
  it
• 6:39
  doesn't
• 6:39
  have
• 6:39
  to
• 6:39
  do
• 6:39
  a
• 6:39
  million
• 6:40
  things
• 6:40
  at
• 6:40
  once,
• 6:40
  but
• 6:40
  also
• 6:41
  for
• 6:41
  the
• 6:41
  sake
• 6:42
  of
• 6:42
  our
• 6:42
  families
• 6:42
  and
• 6:43
  our
• 6:43
  businesses.
• 6:44
  So
• 6:45
  it's
• 6:45
  not
• 6:45
  about
• 6:45
  the
• 6:45
  clock
• 6:46
  at
• 6:46
  all,
• 6:46
  actually
• 6:47
  has
• 6:47
  very
• 6:47
  little
• 6:47
  to
• 6:47
  do
• 6:47
  with
• 6:48
  the
• 6:48
  time
• 6:48
  we
• 6:48
  spend.
• 6:49
  So
• 6:49
  much
• 6:49
  more
• 6:49
  to
• 6:49
  do
• 6:50
  with
• 6:50
  the
• 6:50
  quality
• 6:51
  of
• 6:51
  time
• 6:51
  where
• 6:51
  we
• 6:51
  are.
• 6:52
  Lemme
• 6:52
  just
• 6:52
  give
• 6:52
  you
• 6:53
  an
• 6:53
  example
• 6:53
  of
• 6:53
  this
• 6:53
  that
• 6:53
  I've
• 6:54
  noticed
• 6:55
  when
• 6:55
  my
• 6:55
  kids
• 6:55
  were
• 6:55
  little.
• 6:56
  Church
• 6:56
  was
• 6:57
  always
• 6:57
  kind
• 6:57
  of
• 6:57
  chaotic,
• 6:57
  right?
• 6:58
  It
• 6:58
  still
• 6:58
  kind
• 6:58
  of
• 6:58
  is.
• 6:58
  Let's
• 6:58
  be
• 6:59
  honest.
• 6:59
  And
• 7:00
  I
• 7:00
  spent
• 7:00
  a
• 7:00
  lot
• 7:00
  of
• 7:01
  time
• 7:01
  in
• 7:01
  the
• 7:01
  hall,
• 7:01
  like
• 7:01
  walking
• 7:02
  a
• 7:02
  baby
• 7:02
  or
• 7:03
  changing
• 7:03
  somebody's
• 7:03
  diaper
• 7:04
  or
• 7:04
  pulling
• 7:05
  a
• 7:05
  toddler
• 7:05
  out
• 7:05
  of
• 7:06
  Sunday
• 7:06
  school
• 7:07
  who
• 7:07
  was
• 7:07
  having
• 7:07
  a
• 7:07
  meltdown.
• 7:08
  Now
• 7:09
  that
• 7:09
  my
• 7:09
  kids
• 7:09
  are
• 7:09
  older
• 7:10
  and
• 7:10
  can
• 7:10
  all
• 7:10
  handle
• 7:10
  themselves
• 7:11
  in
• 7:11
  church,
• 7:11
  okay,
• 7:11
  let's
• 7:11
  be
• 7:12
  honest,
• 7:12
  they
• 7:12
  should
• 7:12
  be
• 7:12
  able
• 7:13
  to
• 7:13
  handle
• 7:13
  themselves
• 7:13
  in
• 7:13
  church.
• 7:14
  I
• 7:14
  find
• 7:14
  myself
• 7:15
  getting
• 7:15
  bored
• 7:16
  really
• 7:16
  easily.
• 7:17
  And
• 7:17
  the
• 7:17
  first
• 7:17
  time
• 7:17
  it
• 7:17
  happened
• 7:18
  I
• 7:18
  was
• 7:18
  like,
• 7:18
  whoa,
• 7:18
  what
• 7:19
  is
• 7:19
  wrong
• 7:19
  with
• 7:19
  me?
• 7:19
  Why
• 7:20
  am
• 7:20
  I
• 7:20
  so
• 7:20
  distracted?
• 7:20
  Why
• 7:21
  can
• 7:21
  my
• 7:21
  brain
• 7:21
  not
• 7:21
  focus?
• 7:22
  Why
• 7:22
  do
• 7:22
  I
• 7:22
  wanna
• 7:22
  pick
• 7:22
  up
• 7:22
  my
• 7:22
  phone
• 7:23
  and
• 7:23
  go
• 7:23
  check
• 7:24
  an
• 7:24
  email
• 7:25
  in
• 7:25
  the
• 7:25
  middle
• 7:25
  of
• 7:25
  church?
• 7:26
  Because
• 7:27
  I
• 7:27
  was
• 7:27
  out
• 7:27
  of
• 7:27
  the
• 7:27
  habit
• 7:28
  of
• 7:28
  focusing,
• 7:28
  and
• 7:29
  it
• 7:29
  has
• 7:30
  been
• 7:30
  a
• 7:30
  personal.
• 7:31
  A
• 7:31
  goal
• 7:31
  of
• 7:31
  mine
• 7:32
  recently
• 7:32
  to
• 7:32
  stay
• 7:33
  as
• 7:33
  focused
• 7:33
  as
• 7:33
  I
• 7:33
  can
• 7:34
  at
• 7:34
  church
• 7:34
  because
• 7:35
  it's
• 7:35
  only
• 7:35
  a
• 7:35
  couple
• 7:35
  hours
• 7:35
  a
• 7:35
  week.
• 7:36
  I
• 7:36
  wanna
• 7:36
  really
• 7:36
  stay
• 7:37
  focused.
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  really
• 7:37
  wanna
• 7:37
  really
• 7:38
  give
• 7:38
  God
• 7:38
  that
• 7:39
  and
• 7:39
  it
• 7:39
  happens
• 7:39
  everywhere,
• 7:40
  right?
• 7:40
  In
• 7:40
  this
• 7:40
  day
• 7:41
  and
• 7:41
  age
• 7:41
  of
• 7:41
  constant
• 7:42
  distraction,
• 7:43
  the
• 7:43
  most
• 7:44
  popular
• 7:44
  entertainment
• 7:45
  option
• 7:45
  we
• 7:45
  have
• 7:46
  are
• 7:46
  15
• 7:47
  second
• 7:47
  videos,
• 7:48
  you
• 7:48
  guys,
• 7:48
  15
• 7:49
  seconds.
• 7:50
  No
• 7:50
  wonder
• 7:51
  our
• 7:51
  brain
• 7:51
  needs
• 7:51
  constant
• 7:52
  stimulation.
• 7:53
  We
• 7:53
  are
• 7:53
  nonstop
• 7:54
  distracted
• 7:55
  by
• 7:55
  something
• 7:55
  new.
• 7:56
  Shiny
• 7:56
  object
• 7:56
  syndrome
• 7:57
  has
• 7:57
  never
• 7:58
  been
• 7:58
  worse
• 7:59
  in
• 7:59
  the
• 7:59
  history
• 7:59
  of
• 7:59
  humankind,
• 7:59
  so
• 8:00
  it
• 8:00
  requires
• 8:00
  some
• 8:01
  extra,
• 8:02
  extra
• 8:02
  discipline
• 8:03
  and
• 8:03
  focus
• 8:03
  to
• 8:03
  stay
• 8:04
  present
• 8:04
  wherever
• 8:05
  we
• 8:05
  are.
• 8:06
  So
• 8:06
  let
• 8:07
  me
• 8:07
  share
• 8:07
  with
• 8:07
  you
• 8:07
  what
• 8:08
  I
• 8:08
  did
• 8:08
  this
• 8:08
  weekend
• 8:09
  that
• 8:09
  I
• 8:09
  was
• 8:09
  really
• 8:10
  proud
• 8:10
  of.
• 8:10
  Doesn't
• 8:11
  happen
• 8:11
  super
• 8:11
  often
• 8:11
  like
• 8:11
  this,
• 8:12
  but
• 8:12
  I
• 8:12
  had
• 8:12
  made
• 8:12
  a
• 8:12
  concentrated
• 8:13
  effort
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  really
• 8:13
  have
• 8:13
  quality
• 8:14
  time
• 8:14
  with
• 8:14
  my
• 8:14
  kids.
• 8:15
  So
• 8:15
  it
• 8:15
  was
• 8:15
  Sunday.
• 8:15
  My
• 8:16
  husband
• 8:16
  was
• 8:16
  actually
• 8:16
  outta
• 8:16
  town.
• 8:17
  And
• 8:17
  so
• 8:17
  I
• 8:17
  was
• 8:17
  feeling
• 8:18
  overwhelmed
• 8:18
  about
• 8:18
  that.
• 8:18
  Of
• 8:19
  course,
• 8:19
  single
• 8:19
  mom
• 8:19
  for
• 8:19
  the
• 8:20
  day.
• 8:20
  But
• 8:20
  I
• 8:21
  decided
• 8:21
  about
• 8:22
  halfway
• 8:22
  through
• 8:22
  the
• 8:22
  day
• 8:22
  that
• 8:22
  I
• 8:22
  was
• 8:22
  gonna
• 8:23
  take
• 8:23
  a
• 8:23
  nap,
• 8:23
  and
• 8:23
  then
• 8:23
  I
• 8:23
  was
• 8:23
  gonna
• 8:24
  get
• 8:24
  up
• 8:24
  and
• 8:24
  spend
• 8:24
  the
• 8:24
  entire
• 8:24
  evening
• 8:25
  really
• 8:26
  present
• 8:26
  with
• 8:26
  my
• 8:26
  kids.
• 8:27
  So
• 8:27
  we
• 8:27
  made
• 8:27
  a
• 8:27
  great
• 8:27
  meal
• 8:27
  together,
• 8:28
  we
• 8:28
  ate
• 8:28
  together,
• 8:29
  then
• 8:29
  we
• 8:29
  made
• 8:29
  brownies,
• 8:30
  then
• 8:30
  we
• 8:30
  went
• 8:30
  to
• 8:30
  the
• 8:30
  park,
• 8:31
  and
• 8:31
  then
• 8:31
  we
• 8:31
  put
• 8:32
  the
• 8:32
  little
• 8:32
  kids
• 8:32
  to
• 8:32
  bed
• 8:32
  and
• 8:32
  we
• 8:32
  watched
• 8:33
  a
• 8:33
  fun
• 8:33
  movie.
• 8:33
  With
• 8:34
  the
• 8:34
  big
• 8:34
  kids
• 8:34
  and
• 8:35
  I
• 8:36
  loved
• 8:36
  all
• 8:36
  of
• 8:37
  it.
• 8:37
  Now,
• 8:38
  did
• 8:38
  that
• 8:38
  mean
• 8:39
  I
• 8:39
  was
• 8:39
  playing
• 8:39
  with
• 8:39
  them
• 8:40
  every
• 8:40
  second
• 8:40
  at
• 8:40
  the
• 8:40
  park?
• 8:40
  No.
• 8:41
  When
• 8:41
  I
• 8:41
  was
• 8:41
  at
• 8:41
  the
• 8:41
  park,
• 8:41
  I
• 8:41
  was
• 8:41
  actually
• 8:42
  reading
• 8:42
  a
• 8:42
  conference
• 8:42
  talk
• 8:43
  and
• 8:43
  I
• 8:43
  felt
• 8:43
  pretty
• 8:43
  good
• 8:43
  about
• 8:43
  that
• 8:43
  'cause
• 8:44
  they
• 8:44
  were
• 8:44
  playing
• 8:44
  and
• 8:44
  entertained
• 8:45
  and
• 8:45
  I
• 8:45
  got
• 8:45
  to
• 8:46
  do
• 8:46
  a
• 8:46
  little
• 8:46
  bit
• 8:46
  of
• 8:46
  spiritual
• 8:47
  education
• 8:47
  myself.
• 8:48
  But
• 8:48
  it
• 8:48
  did
• 8:49
  mean
• 8:49
  that
• 8:49
  the
• 8:49
  predominant
• 8:50
  focus
• 8:50
  of
• 8:50
  the
• 8:50
  afternoon
• 8:51
  and
• 8:51
  evening
• 8:51
  was
• 8:51
  for
• 8:52
  my
• 8:52
  kids.
• 8:52
  Now,
• 8:52
  this
• 8:52
  doesn't
• 8:53
  happen
• 8:53
  very
• 8:53
  often
• 8:53
  for
• 8:53
  me
• 8:53
  'cause
• 8:54
  like
• 8:54
  I
• 8:54
  said,
• 8:54
  I'm
• 8:55
  distractible
• 8:55
  very
• 8:55
  easily.
• 8:56
  There's
• 8:56
  always
• 8:57
  something
• 8:57
  to
• 8:57
  do.
• 8:57
  And
• 8:57
  frankly
• 8:58
  right
• 8:58
  now
• 8:58
  I
• 8:58
  have
• 8:58
  a
• 8:58
  leadership
• 8:59
  position
• 8:59
  at
• 8:59
  church,
• 8:59
  which
• 8:59
  means
• 9:00
  my
• 9:00
  Sundays
• 9:00
  are
• 9:00
  very
• 9:00
  often
• 9:01
  full
• 9:01
  of
• 9:01
  meetings.
• 9:02
  And
• 9:02
  luckily
• 9:02
  it
• 9:02
  wasn't
• 9:03
  on
• 9:03
  Sunday.
• 9:03
  So
• 9:04
  that
• 9:05
  was
• 9:05
  a
• 9:05
  good
• 9:05
  example
• 9:06
  to
• 9:06
  my
• 9:06
  brain
• 9:06
  of,
• 9:07
  oh
• 9:07
  look,
• 9:07
  I
• 9:07
  can
• 9:08
  be
• 9:08
  present
• 9:08
  when
• 9:08
  I
• 9:08
  really
• 9:09
  want
• 9:09
  to
• 9:09
  be.
• 9:09
  So
• 9:10
  starting
• 9:10
  Monday,
• 9:10
  I
• 9:10
  thought,
• 9:11
  okay,
• 9:11
  well
• 9:11
  I
• 9:11
  normally
• 9:11
  don't
• 9:12
  work
• 9:12
  on
• 9:12
  Sunday,
• 9:12
  so
• 9:12
  that
• 9:12
  was
• 9:12
  easy
• 9:13
  to
• 9:13
  be
• 9:13
  present
• 9:13
  with
• 9:13
  my
• 9:14
  kids.
• 9:14
  What
• 9:14
  do
• 9:14
  I
• 9:14
  do
• 9:14
  when
• 9:15
  work
• 9:15
  comes
• 9:15
  back
• 9:15
  in
• 9:15
  on
• 9:15
  Monday?
• 9:16
  How
• 9:16
  do
• 9:16
  I
• 9:16
  make
• 9:16
  this
• 9:17
  work
• 9:17
  during
• 9:17
  spring
• 9:17
  break?
• 9:18
  So
• 9:18
  I
• 9:18
  decided
• 9:19
  to
• 9:19
  do
• 9:20
  one
• 9:20
  small
• 9:20
  thing
• 9:21
  and
• 9:21
  I
• 9:21
  created
• 9:21
  a
• 9:22
  task
• 9:22
  in
• 9:22
  my
• 9:22
  to-do
• 9:22
  list
• 9:23
  that
• 9:23
  just
• 9:23
  said
• 9:24
  Spring
• 9:24
  Break
• 9:24
  ideas,
• 9:25
  and
• 9:26
  I
• 9:26
  created
• 9:26
  a
• 9:26
  small
• 9:27
  little
• 9:27
  list
• 9:27
  of
• 9:27
  options
• 9:28
  we
• 9:28
  could
• 9:28
  have
• 9:28
  every
• 9:28
  day.
• 9:29
  They
• 9:30
  were
• 9:30
  not
• 9:30
  all
• 9:30
  exciting,
• 9:30
  you
• 9:31
  guys.
• 9:31
  It
• 9:31
  was
• 9:31
  like.
• 9:32
  Sketch
• 9:32
  with
• 9:32
  one
• 9:32
  of
• 9:33
  my
• 9:33
  kids.
• 9:34
  It
• 9:34
  was
• 9:34
  do
• 9:35
  flashcards
• 9:35
  with
• 9:35
  another
• 9:36
  one
• 9:36
  of
• 9:36
  my
• 9:36
  kids
• 9:36
  who
• 9:36
  needs
• 9:36
  help
• 9:37
  with
• 9:37
  math
• 9:37
  facts.
• 9:38
  It
• 9:38
  was,
• 9:38
  do
• 9:39
  a
• 9:39
  puzzle
• 9:39
  with
• 9:39
  another
• 9:40
  one
• 9:40
  of
• 9:40
  my
• 9:40
  kids,
• 9:40
  right?
• 9:41
  Super
• 9:41
  simple
• 9:41
  things
• 9:42
  that
• 9:42
  I
• 9:42
  could
• 9:42
  carve
• 9:43
  out
• 9:43
  a
• 9:43
  half
• 9:43
  an
• 9:43
  hour
• 9:44
  to
• 9:44
  do
• 9:44
  with
• 9:45
  a
• 9:45
  child
• 9:45
  or
• 9:45
  multiple
• 9:46
  children
• 9:46
  to
• 9:46
  satisfy
• 9:47
  that
• 9:47
  need
• 9:47
  to
• 9:47
  connect
• 9:48
  with
• 9:48
  my
• 9:48
  kids,
• 9:48
  and
• 9:49
  that
• 9:49
  is
• 9:49
  the
• 9:49
  goal,
• 9:49
  is
• 9:49
  to
• 9:50
  just
• 9:50
  be
• 9:50
  completely
• 9:50
  present
• 9:51
  during
• 9:51
  those
• 9:51
  few
• 9:51
  minutes.
• 9:52
  and
• 9:52
  what
• 9:52
  is
• 9:52
  so
• 9:52
  cool
• 9:53
  is
• 9:53
  once
• 9:53
  that
• 9:53
  is
• 9:53
  done,
• 9:54
  once
• 9:54
  we
• 9:54
  had
• 9:55
  our
• 9:55
  connecting
• 9:55
  time
• 9:55
  today,
• 9:56
  we
• 9:56
  made
• 9:56
  deviled
• 9:57
  eggs
• 9:57
  with
• 9:57
  one
• 9:57
  of
• 9:57
  my
• 9:57
  kids
• 9:57
  who
• 9:57
  really
• 9:58
  wanted
• 9:58
  them.
• 9:58
  And
• 9:59
  then
• 9:59
  we
• 9:59
  ate
• 9:59
  a
• 9:59
  piece
• 9:59
  of
• 9:59
  cake
• 9:59
  together,
• 10:00
  and
• 10:00
  then
• 10:00
  I
• 10:00
  guilt
• 10:01
  free,
• 10:01
  went
• 10:01
  into
• 10:02
  my
• 10:02
  office
• 10:02
  and
• 10:03
  spent
• 10:03
  the
• 10:03
  afternoon
• 10:03
  there.
• 10:03
  I.
• 10:04
  Now,
• 10:04
  trust
• 10:04
  me,
• 10:04
  there
• 10:04
  are
• 10:05
  plenty
• 10:05
  of
• 10:05
  negative
• 10:05
  examples
• 10:06
  in
• 10:06
  my
• 10:06
  life
• 10:06
  of
• 10:06
  not
• 10:06
  connecting
• 10:07
  with
• 10:07
  my
• 10:07
  kids.
• 10:07
  But
• 10:07
  these
• 10:08
  few
• 10:08
  positive
• 10:08
  examples
• 10:09
  in
• 10:09
  the
• 10:09
  last
• 10:09
  few
• 10:09
  days
• 10:10
  have
• 10:10
  changed
• 10:11
  some
• 10:11
  things
• 10:11
  for
• 10:11
  me.
• 10:11
  They've
• 10:11
  made
• 10:12
  me
• 10:12
  realize
• 10:12
  that
• 10:12
  connecting
• 10:12
  with
• 10:13
  my
• 10:13
  kids
• 10:13
  does
• 10:13
  not
• 10:13
  have
• 10:13
  to
• 10:14
  happen
• 10:14
  every
• 10:14
  minute.
• 10:14
  In
• 10:14
  fact,
• 10:15
  it
• 10:15
  probably
• 10:15
  shouldn't
• 10:15
  because
• 10:16
  then
• 10:16
  your
• 10:16
  kids
• 10:16
  would
• 10:16
  be
• 10:16
  like,
• 10:17
  mom,
• 10:17
  leave
• 10:17
  me
• 10:17
  alone.
• 10:17
  You're
• 10:17
  being
• 10:18
  annoying,
• 10:18
  right?
• 10:19
  But
• 10:19
  it
• 10:19
  does
• 10:19
  have
• 10:19
  to
• 10:20
  happen
• 10:20
  enough
• 10:20
  that
• 10:20
  we
• 10:20
  both
• 10:21
  feel
• 10:21
  it
• 10:22
  and
• 10:22
  the
• 10:22
  relationship
• 10:23
  stays.
• 10:23
  Healthy
• 10:24
  and
• 10:25
  like
• 10:25
  a
• 10:25
  cup
• 10:25
  that
• 10:25
  is
• 10:26
  full.
• 10:26
  When
• 10:26
  that
• 10:26
  cup
• 10:27
  is
• 10:27
  full,
• 10:27
  you
• 10:27
  can
• 10:27
  go
• 10:27
  pour
• 10:28
  your
• 10:28
  heart
• 10:28
  into
• 10:28
  your
• 10:29
  business,
• 10:29
  into
• 10:29
  your
• 10:29
  work
• 10:30
  because
• 10:30
  you
• 10:30
  know
• 10:30
  your
• 10:31
  kids
• 10:31
  are
• 10:31
  taken
• 10:31
  care
• 10:31
  of.
• 10:32
  You
• 10:32
  know,
• 10:32
  this
• 10:33
  tension
• 10:33
  between
• 10:34
  work
• 10:34
  and
• 10:35
  family
• 10:36
  was
• 10:36
  a
• 10:36
  huge
• 10:37
  reason
• 10:37
  that
• 10:37
  I
• 10:37
  wrote
• 10:37
  my
• 10:37
  book
• 10:38
  Burning
• 10:38
  Brightly.
• 10:38
  That
• 10:38
  is
• 10:38
  coming
• 10:39
  out
• 10:39
  so
• 10:39
  soon.
• 10:40
  It
• 10:40
  is
• 10:41
  written
• 10:41
  specifically
• 10:41
  for
• 10:41
  latter-day
• 10:42
  Saint
• 10:42
  Women
• 10:42
  who
• 10:42
  feel
• 10:43
  that
• 10:43
  pull
• 10:43
  between
• 10:44
  something
• 10:44
  God
• 10:44
  is
• 10:44
  calling
• 10:45
  them
• 10:45
  to
• 10:45
  do
• 10:45
  outside
• 10:45
  of
• 10:45
  the
• 10:45
  home.
• 10:47
  This
• 10:47
  business
• 10:47
  that
• 10:47
  they
• 10:48
  know
• 10:48
  they
• 10:48
  can
• 10:48
  help
• 10:48
  people
• 10:49
  with
• 10:49
  and
• 10:50
  their
• 10:50
  family
• 10:50
  that
• 10:51
  they
• 10:51
  love
• 10:51
  so
• 10:51
  much,
• 10:52
  and
• 10:52
  also
• 10:52
  know
• 10:52
  is
• 10:52
  a
• 10:53
  pivotal
• 10:53
  part
• 10:54
  of
• 10:54
  their
• 10:54
  life.
• 10:55
  Because
• 10:55
  building
• 10:56
  a
• 10:56
  business
• 10:56
  without
• 10:57
  feeling
• 10:57
  like
• 10:57
  you're
• 10:57
  failing
• 10:58
  your
• 10:58
  family
• 10:58
  is
• 10:58
  not
• 10:59
  an
• 10:59
  easy
• 10:59
  thing
• 10:59
  to
• 10:59
  do.
• 11:00
  And
• 11:00
  those
• 11:00
  two
• 11:01
  don't
• 11:01
  have
• 11:01
  to
• 11:01
  be
• 11:01
  in
• 11:01
  conflict,
• 11:02
  but
• 11:02
  they
• 11:02
  can
• 11:03
  feel
• 11:03
  like
• 11:03
  that
• 11:04
  when
• 11:04
  no
• 11:04
  one
• 11:04
  has
• 11:04
  given
• 11:04
  you
• 11:05
  a
• 11:05
  framework
• 11:05
  or
• 11:05
  a
• 11:05
  map
• 11:06
  for
• 11:06
  how
• 11:06
  to
• 11:07
  figure
• 11:07
  those
• 11:07
  out.
• 11:07
  So
• 11:07
  that's
• 11:08
  why
• 11:08
  I
• 11:08
  wrote
• 11:08
  the
• 11:08
  book.
• 11:08
  It's
• 11:08
  coming
• 11:09
  out
• 11:09
  so
• 11:09
  soon.
• 11:09
  If
• 11:09
  you
• 11:09
  want
• 11:10
  to
• 11:10
  be
• 11:10
  one
• 11:10
  of
• 11:10
  the
• 11:10
  first
• 11:11
  to
• 11:11
  learn
• 11:11
  about
• 11:11
  it,
• 11:12
  click
• 11:12
  the
• 11:12
  link
• 11:12
  in
• 11:12
  the
• 11:13
  show
• 11:13
  notes
• 11:13
  to
• 11:13
  get
• 11:13
  on
• 11:13
  the
• 11:13
  wait
• 11:13
  list
• 11:14
  and
• 11:14
  you
• 11:14
  will
• 11:14
  be
• 11:14
  the
• 11:14
  first
• 11:15
  one
• 11:15
  to
• 11:15
  find
• 11:15
  out
• 11:15
  when
• 11:15
  it
• 11:15
  drops.
• 11:17
  All
• 11:17
  right,
• 11:17
  so
• 11:17
  let's
• 11:17
  talk
• 11:17
  about
• 11:17
  a
• 11:17
  few
• 11:18
  practical
• 11:18
  reframes
• 11:20
  shifts
• 11:20
  for
• 11:21
  getting
• 11:21
  ourselves
• 11:21
  into
• 11:22
  a
• 11:22
  present
• 11:23
  mindset
• 11:24
  no
• 11:24
  matter
• 11:24
  what
• 11:24
  we
• 11:25
  are
• 11:25
  doing.
• 11:25
  I've
• 11:25
  got
• 11:26
  three
• 11:26
  of
• 11:26
  them
• 11:26
  for
• 11:26
  you
• 11:26
  today.
• 11:26
  Okay.
• 11:27
  The
• 11:27
  first
• 11:27
  one,
• 11:28
  shift
• 11:28
  number
• 11:28
  one,
• 11:29
  schedule
• 11:30
  your
• 11:30
  presence
• 11:31
  instead
• 11:31
  of
• 11:31
  just
• 11:32
  hoping
• 11:32
  for
• 11:32
  it.
• 11:33
  This
• 11:33
  happens
• 11:34
  to
• 11:34
  me
• 11:34
  a
• 11:34
  lot.
• 11:34
  My
• 11:34
  kids
• 11:35
  are
• 11:35
  home
• 11:35
  and
• 11:35
  I'm
• 11:35
  like,
• 11:35
  oh,
• 11:36
  we'll
• 11:36
  do
• 11:36
  this
• 11:36
  together.
• 11:37
  We'll
• 11:37
  do
• 11:37
  this
• 11:37
  together,
• 11:37
  but
• 11:37
  I
• 11:37
  never
• 11:38
  actually
• 11:38
  make
• 11:38
  a
• 11:38
  plan
• 11:38
  for
• 11:39
  it
• 11:39
  or
• 11:39
  I
• 11:39
  don't
• 11:39
  schedule
• 11:39
  it,
• 11:40
  and
• 11:40
  by
• 11:40
  the
• 11:40
  end
• 11:40
  of
• 11:40
  the
• 11:40
  night.
• 11:41
  We're
• 11:41
  all
• 11:41
  yelling
• 11:41
  at
• 11:42
  each
• 11:42
  other.
• 11:42
  I'm
• 11:42
  mad.
• 11:43
  I'm
• 11:43
  distracted.
• 11:43
  I
• 11:44
  haven't
• 11:44
  gotten
• 11:44
  anything
• 11:44
  done,
• 11:44
  and
• 11:45
  I
• 11:45
  didn't
• 11:45
  have
• 11:45
  any
• 11:45
  good
• 11:46
  connecting
• 11:46
  time
• 11:46
  with
• 11:46
  my
• 11:46
  family,
• 11:47
  and
• 11:48
  then
• 11:48
  I'm
• 11:48
  just
• 11:48
  frustrated.
• 11:49
  I
• 11:49
  used
• 11:49
  to
• 11:49
  try
• 11:49
  to
• 11:49
  be
• 11:49
  present
• 11:50
  all
• 11:50
  the
• 11:50
  time.
• 11:50
  When
• 11:51
  I
• 11:51
  was
• 11:51
  homeschooling
• 11:51
  all
• 11:51
  my
• 11:52
  kids,
• 11:52
  I
• 11:52
  thought,
• 11:52
  well,
• 11:52
  everyone's
• 11:52
  home
• 11:53
  all
• 11:53
  day
• 11:53
  long.
• 11:53
  We'll
• 11:53
  just
• 11:53
  do
• 11:53
  all
• 11:54
  these
• 11:54
  fun
• 11:54
  things
• 11:54
  all
• 11:54
  day
• 11:54
  long.
• 11:55
  Yeah,
• 11:55
  no,
• 11:56
  that
• 11:56
  doesn't
• 11:56
  work.
• 11:57
  First
• 11:57
  of
• 11:57
  all,
• 11:57
  your
• 11:57
  brain
• 11:58
  cannot
• 11:58
  be
• 11:58
  a
• 11:59
  hundred
• 11:59
  percent
• 11:59
  with
• 11:59
  your
• 11:59
  kids
• 12:00
  all
• 12:00
  day
• 12:00
  long.
• 12:00
  It's
• 12:00
  unsustainable.
• 12:02
  And
• 12:02
  not
• 12:02
  realistic,
• 12:03
  especially
• 12:03
  if
• 12:03
  you
• 12:03
  have
• 12:03
  a
• 12:03
  business
• 12:04
  to
• 12:04
  run.
• 12:04
  And
• 12:05
  so
• 12:05
  then
• 12:05
  I
• 12:05
  started
• 12:06
  having
• 12:06
  to
• 12:06
  schedule
• 12:07
  that
• 12:07
  time
• 12:07
  in
• 12:08
  which
• 12:09
  coincidentally
• 12:09
  is
• 12:09
  not
• 12:10
  easy
• 12:10
  to
• 12:10
  do
• 12:10
  when
• 12:10
  kids
• 12:11
  are
• 12:11
  always
• 12:11
  in
• 12:11
  your
• 12:11
  face.
• 12:13
  So
• 12:13
  now
• 12:13
  what
• 12:13
  I've
• 12:13
  done
• 12:13
  is
• 12:14
  I've
• 12:14
  picked
• 12:14
  one
• 12:14
  or
• 12:14
  two
• 12:15
  really
• 12:15
  intentional
• 12:16
  connecting
• 12:16
  moments
• 12:16
  per
• 12:17
  day.
• 12:17
  This
• 12:17
  is
• 12:17
  actually
• 12:18
  really
• 12:18
  simple
• 12:18
  to
• 12:18
  do
• 12:18
  when
• 12:18
  your
• 12:18
  kids
• 12:19
  are
• 12:19
  in
• 12:19
  school
• 12:19
  because
• 12:19
  it
• 12:19
  tends
• 12:20
  to
• 12:20
  look
• 12:20
  like
• 12:20
  sending
• 12:21
  them
• 12:21
  off
• 12:21
  in
• 12:21
  the
• 12:21
  morning.
• 12:22
  Kisses,
• 12:22
  hugs,
• 12:23
  Telling
• 12:23
  them
• 12:24
  to
• 12:24
  have
• 12:24
  a
• 12:24
  good
• 12:24
  day
• 12:25
  and
• 12:25
  off
• 12:25
  they
• 12:25
  go.
• 12:25
  Right?
• 12:25
  Same
• 12:25
  thing
• 12:26
  when
• 12:26
  they
• 12:26
  come
• 12:26
  home,
• 12:26
  have
• 12:26
  a
• 12:27
  snack,
• 12:27
  tell
• 12:27
  me
• 12:27
  about
• 12:27
  your
• 12:27
  day,
• 12:27
  a
• 12:28
  carpool
• 12:28
  ride,
• 12:28
  whatever.
• 12:29
  But
• 12:29
  when
• 12:29
  kids
• 12:30
  are
• 12:30
  home,
• 12:30
  it's
• 12:30
  a
• 12:30
  little
• 12:31
  bit
• 12:31
  harder.
• 12:32
  Could
• 12:32
  it
• 12:33
  maybe
• 12:33
  just
• 12:33
  be
• 12:33
  dinner?
• 12:34
  Could
• 12:34
  it
• 12:34
  just
• 12:34
  be
• 12:34
  having
• 12:34
  dinner
• 12:34
  as
• 12:35
  a
• 12:35
  family?
• 12:35
  That's
• 12:35
  when
• 12:35
  you
• 12:35
  connect.
• 12:36
  Could
• 12:37
  it
• 12:37
  be
• 12:37
  going
• 12:37
  for
• 12:37
  a
• 12:37
  little
• 12:38
  walk
• 12:38
  around
• 12:38
  the
• 12:38
  block
• 12:38
  after
• 12:39
  lunch
• 12:39
  or
• 12:40
  could
• 12:40
  it
• 12:40
  be
• 12:40
  just
• 12:40
  sitting
• 12:40
  down
• 12:41
  with
• 12:41
  your
• 12:41
  7-year-old
• 12:42
  to
• 12:42
  stack
• 12:42
  some
• 12:42
  blocks?
• 12:43
  Once
• 12:44
  those
• 12:44
  moments
• 12:44
  are
• 12:44
  scheduled
• 12:45
  in,
• 12:45
  then
• 12:45
  you
• 12:45
  can
• 12:46
  peacefully
• 12:47
  and
• 12:47
  without
• 12:48
  guilt
• 12:48
  sit
• 12:48
  down
• 12:48
  at
• 12:48
  your
• 12:49
  laptop
• 12:49
  and
• 12:49
  start
• 12:49
  working.
• 12:50
  You've
• 12:50
  basically
• 12:51
  given
• 12:51
  yourself
• 12:51
  permission
• 12:52
  to
• 12:52
  work
• 12:52
  because
• 12:53
  you've
• 12:53
  been
• 12:53
  the
• 12:53
  mom
• 12:54
  that
• 12:54
  you
• 12:54
  wanted
• 12:54
  to
• 12:54
  be.
• 12:54
  You
• 12:54
  don't
• 12:55
  have
• 12:55
  to
• 12:55
  feel
• 12:55
  guilty.
• 12:56
  You
• 12:56
  planned
• 12:56
  the
• 12:56
  connecting
• 12:57
  moments.
• 12:57
  You
• 12:57
  executed
• 12:58
  them.
• 12:58
  It's
• 12:58
  happening.
• 12:59
  You
• 12:59
  can
• 12:59
  go
• 12:59
  do
• 12:59
  your
• 12:59
  thing.
• 13:01
  All
• 13:01
  right,
• 13:01
  so
• 13:01
  that's
• 13:01
  shift
• 13:02
  number
• 13:02
  one,
• 13:02
  scheduling
• 13:03
  times
• 13:03
  to
• 13:03
  be
• 13:03
  present.
• 13:04
  Shift
• 13:05
  number
• 13:05
  two,
• 13:06
  create
• 13:06
  a
• 13:07
  mental
• 13:07
  ritual
• 13:08
  that
• 13:09
  helps
• 13:09
  you
• 13:09
  shift
• 13:10
  from
• 13:10
  one
• 13:11
  role
• 13:11
  to
• 13:11
  another.
• 13:13
  I
• 13:13
  was
• 13:13
  actually
• 13:13
  just
• 13:13
  reading
• 13:14
  an
• 13:14
  article
• 13:14
  that
• 13:15
  suggested
• 13:15
  that
• 13:16
  people
• 13:16
  who
• 13:16
  work
• 13:17
  away
• 13:17
  from
• 13:17
  home
• 13:18
  have
• 13:18
  some
• 13:18
  sort
• 13:19
  of
• 13:19
  a
• 13:19
  transitioning
• 13:20
  threshold.
• 13:20
  When
• 13:21
  they
• 13:21
  come
• 13:21
  home,
• 13:21
  they
• 13:21
  drive
• 13:22
  home,
• 13:22
  and
• 13:22
  maybe
• 13:22
  they.
• 13:23
  Park
• 13:23
  the
• 13:23
  car
• 13:24
  and
• 13:25
  do
• 13:25
  some
• 13:25
  meditation
• 13:26
  in
• 13:26
  the
• 13:26
  car
• 13:26
  or,
• 13:27
  or
• 13:27
  they
• 13:27
  get
• 13:27
  a
• 13:27
  drink
• 13:27
  on
• 13:28
  the
• 13:28
  way
• 13:28
  home
• 13:28
  or
• 13:28
  something
• 13:29
  that
• 13:29
  transitions
• 13:30
  them
• 13:30
  out
• 13:30
  of
• 13:30
  work
• 13:30
  mode
• 13:31
  into
• 13:31
  family
• 13:32
  and
• 13:32
  home
• 13:32
  mode.
• 13:32
  Well,
• 13:33
  we
• 13:33
  have
• 13:33
  to
• 13:33
  do
• 13:33
  the
• 13:33
  same
• 13:33
  thing,
• 13:33
  but
• 13:34
  unfortunately
• 13:34
  we
• 13:34
  don't
• 13:34
  go
• 13:34
  anywhere
• 13:35
  except
• 13:35
  for
• 13:35
  maybe
• 13:35
  in
• 13:36
  a
• 13:36
  home
• 13:36
  office
• 13:36
  if
• 13:36
  you're
• 13:36
  lucky.
• 13:38
  So
• 13:38
  everything
• 13:39
  tends
• 13:39
  to
• 13:39
  bleed
• 13:39
  together
• 13:40
  at
• 13:40
  home.
• 13:40
  The
• 13:40
  physical
• 13:41
  space
• 13:41
  is
• 13:41
  the
• 13:41
  same,
• 13:42
  right?
• 13:42
  Your
• 13:42
  brain
• 13:43
  doesn't
• 13:43
  know
• 13:43
  when
• 13:43
  to
• 13:43
  switch
• 13:43
  modes,
• 13:44
  so
• 13:44
  you
• 13:44
  need
• 13:44
  to
• 13:44
  give
• 13:45
  it
• 13:45
  a
• 13:45
  signal.
• 13:46
  And
• 13:46
  you
• 13:46
  can
• 13:46
  create
• 13:47
  one.
• 13:48
  When
• 13:48
  you
• 13:48
  close
• 13:48
  your
• 13:48
  laptop,
• 13:49
  you
• 13:49
  cross
• 13:49
  a
• 13:50
  line,
• 13:50
  okay?
• 13:51
  Work,
• 13:51
  brain
• 13:51
  off,
• 13:52
  mom,
• 13:52
  brain
• 13:52
  on.
• 13:53
  So
• 13:53
  ask
• 13:54
  yourself,
• 13:54
  what
• 13:54
  can
• 13:55
  I
• 13:55
  do
• 13:56
  to
• 13:56
  help
• 13:56
  me
• 13:56
  create
• 13:56
  a
• 13:56
  ritual
• 13:57
  that
• 13:58
  shows
• 13:58
  my
• 13:58
  brain
• 13:59
  when
• 13:59
  I'm
• 13:59
  moving
• 13:59
  from
• 14:00
  one
• 14:00
  role
• 14:00
  to
• 14:01
  another?
• 14:02
  It
• 14:02
  can
• 14:02
  be
• 14:02
  as
• 14:03
  simple
• 14:03
  as
• 14:03
  a
• 14:03
  deep
• 14:03
  breath
• 14:04
  and
• 14:04
  a
• 14:04
  mantra
• 14:04
  that
• 14:04
  you
• 14:04
  say,
• 14:05
  time
• 14:06
  to
• 14:06
  go
• 14:06
  be
• 14:06
  a
• 14:06
  mom,
• 14:07
  or,
• 14:07
  I
• 14:07
  am
• 14:08
  fully
• 14:08
  here.
• 14:09
  Anything
• 14:09
  you
• 14:09
  come
• 14:10
  up
• 14:10
  with.
• 14:11
  It
• 14:11
  can
• 14:11
  be
• 14:12
  a
• 14:12
  cup
• 14:12
  of
• 14:13
  herbal
• 14:13
  tea
• 14:14
  or
• 14:14
  a
• 14:14
  soda
• 14:14
  or
• 14:14
  something
• 14:15
  that
• 14:15
  you
• 14:15
  love
• 14:15
  to
• 14:15
  drink
• 14:16
  that
• 14:16
  helps
• 14:16
  you
• 14:17
  decompress
• 14:18
  after
• 14:18
  you're
• 14:18
  done
• 14:18
  working
• 14:19
  or
• 14:19
  done
• 14:19
  being
• 14:19
  with
• 14:19
  your
• 14:19
  kids
• 14:20
  and
• 14:20
  ready
• 14:20
  to
• 14:20
  shift
• 14:20
  into
• 14:20
  the
• 14:20
  next
• 14:21
  mode.
• 14:22
  It
• 14:22
  just
• 14:22
  needs
• 14:22
  to
• 14:22
  be
• 14:23
  something
• 14:23
  intentional
• 14:24
  that
• 14:24
  your
• 14:24
  brain
• 14:24
  recognizes
• 14:25
  as
• 14:25
  time
• 14:25
  to
• 14:26
  move
• 14:26
  on.
• 14:27
  Now,
• 14:28
  if
• 14:28
  at
• 14:28
  all
• 14:28
  possible,
• 14:29
  creating
• 14:30
  a
• 14:30
  separate
• 14:30
  space
• 14:31
  away
• 14:31
  from
• 14:31
  your
• 14:31
  family
• 14:32
  can
• 14:32
  be
• 14:32
  so
• 14:33
  helpful,
• 14:34
  even
• 14:34
  if
• 14:34
  it's
• 14:34
  just
• 14:34
  a
• 14:34
  place
• 14:35
  to
• 14:35
  set
• 14:35
  up
• 14:35
  your
• 14:35
  laptop
• 14:36
  inside
• 14:36
  your
• 14:36
  bedroom
• 14:37
  where
• 14:37
  you
• 14:37
  can
• 14:37
  lock
• 14:37
  the
• 14:37
  door.
• 14:39
  And
• 14:39
  then
• 14:40
  again,
• 14:40
  if
• 14:40
  at
• 14:40
  all
• 14:40
  possible,
• 14:41
  putting
• 14:41
  a
• 14:41
  sign
• 14:41
  on
• 14:41
  that
• 14:42
  door
• 14:42
  that
• 14:42
  says,
• 14:42
  mom's
• 14:42
  work
• 14:43
  time
• 14:43
  Only
• 14:44
  text
• 14:44
  in
• 14:44
  case
• 14:45
  of
• 14:45
  blood.
• 14:45
  Okay?
• 14:46
  Because
• 14:46
  kids
• 14:47
  don't
• 14:47
  honor
• 14:47
  those
• 14:47
  boundaries,
• 14:48
  although
• 14:48
  they
• 14:48
  can
• 14:48
  be
• 14:48
  taught.
• 14:49
  I
• 14:49
  had
• 14:49
  to
• 14:49
  teach
• 14:49
  my
• 14:50
  kids.
• 14:50
  How
• 14:50
  to
• 14:50
  honor
• 14:50
  those
• 14:51
  and
• 14:51
  eventually
• 14:51
  they
• 14:51
  got
• 14:52
  there.
• 14:52
  Not
• 14:52
  always,
• 14:52
  and
• 14:53
  not
• 14:53
  always
• 14:53
  the
• 14:53
  little
• 14:53
  ones,
• 14:53
  but
• 14:54
  they
• 14:54
  get
• 14:54
  better
• 14:55
  as
• 14:55
  you
• 14:55
  teach
• 14:55
  them
• 14:55
  that.
• 14:56
  No,
• 14:56
  this
• 14:56
  is
• 14:56
  mom's
• 14:56
  work
• 14:57
  time.
• 14:57
  I'm
• 14:57
  not
• 14:57
  to
• 14:57
  be
• 14:57
  interrupted.
• 14:59
  For
• 14:59
  those
• 14:59
  of
• 14:59
  you
• 14:59
  who
• 14:59
  are
• 14:59
  LDS,
• 15:00
  think
• 15:00
  about
• 15:00
  the
• 15:00
  concept
• 15:01
  of
• 15:01
  being
• 15:02
  anxiously
• 15:02
  engaged.
• 15:03
  Doesn't
• 15:04
  that
• 15:04
  sound
• 15:04
  so
• 15:04
  much
• 15:04
  better
• 15:05
  than
• 15:05
  being.
• 15:05
  Busy
• 15:06
  and
• 15:06
  distracted
• 15:07
  being
• 15:07
  anxiously
• 15:08
  engaged,
• 15:08
  insinuates
• 15:09
  being
• 15:09
  wholly
• 15:10
  focused
• 15:10
  and
• 15:11
  present
• 15:11
  on
• 15:11
  what
• 15:11
  you're
• 15:11
  doing
• 15:12
  right
• 15:12
  now.
• 15:13
  Whether
• 15:13
  that's
• 15:13
  being
• 15:14
  a
• 15:14
  mom,
• 15:14
  making
• 15:15
  lunch,
• 15:15
  hugging
• 15:15
  a
• 15:15
  kid,
• 15:16
  or
• 15:17
  writing
• 15:18
  an
• 15:18
  email,
• 15:18
  being
• 15:18
  with
• 15:19
  a
• 15:19
  client,
• 15:19
  planning
• 15:20
  a
• 15:20
  course.
• 15:20
  So
• 15:21
  being
• 15:21
  anxiously
• 15:21
  engaged,
• 15:22
  looks
• 15:22
  like
• 15:22
  being
• 15:23
  all
• 15:23
  in,
• 15:23
  right,
• 15:24
  fully
• 15:24
  invested
• 15:25
  in
• 15:25
  what
• 15:25
  you're
• 15:25
  doing,
• 15:26
  making
• 15:27
  that
• 15:27
  your
• 15:27
  standard
• 15:28
  becomes
• 15:28
  so
• 15:28
  much
• 15:29
  more
• 15:29
  satisfying
• 15:30
  than
• 15:30
  being
• 15:30
  halfway
• 15:31
  in
• 15:31
  and
• 15:31
  halfway
• 15:31
  out
• 15:31
  of
• 15:32
  everything
• 15:32
  we
• 15:32
  do.
• 15:33
  Okay?
• 15:34
  So
• 15:34
  that's
• 15:34
  shift
• 15:34
  number
• 15:34
  two.
• 15:35
  Shift
• 15:35
  number
• 15:36
  three
• 15:36
  is
• 15:36
  stop
• 15:37
  measuring
• 15:37
  your
• 15:37
  presence
• 15:38
  in
• 15:38
  minutes.
• 15:39
  Measure
• 15:40
  it
• 15:40
  in
• 15:40
  level
• 15:40
  of
• 15:40
  connection
• 15:41
  instead.
• 15:42
  So.
• 15:43
  If
• 15:43
  you
• 15:44
  tend
• 15:44
  to
• 15:44
  feel
• 15:44
  guilty
• 15:45
  about
• 15:45
  how
• 15:45
  little
• 15:46
  you
• 15:46
  connected
• 15:46
  with
• 15:46
  your
• 15:47
  kids,
• 15:47
  stop
• 15:48
  asking
• 15:48
  yourself
• 15:48
  how
• 15:48
  much
• 15:49
  time
• 15:49
  you
• 15:49
  spent
• 15:49
  with
• 15:49
  them.
• 15:50
  Start
• 15:51
  asking
• 15:51
  yourself,
• 15:51
  did
• 15:52
  I
• 15:52
  laugh
• 15:52
  with
• 15:52
  somebody
• 15:52
  today?
• 15:53
  Did
• 15:53
  they
• 15:54
  tell
• 15:54
  me
• 15:54
  something
• 15:54
  that
• 15:54
  mattered
• 15:55
  to
• 15:55
  them?
• 15:55
  Did
• 15:56
  I
• 15:56
  see
• 15:56
  something
• 15:56
  that
• 15:56
  they
• 15:57
  accomplished
• 15:57
  and
• 15:57
  compliment
• 15:58
  them
• 15:58
  on
• 15:58
  it?
• 15:59
  Did
• 15:59
  we
• 15:59
  have
• 16:00
  at
• 16:00
  least
• 16:00
  one
• 16:00
  exchange
• 16:01
  where
• 16:01
  we
• 16:01
  were
• 16:01
  both
• 16:02
  fully
• 16:02
  there?
• 16:03
  Now,
• 16:03
  I'll
• 16:03
  be
• 16:03
  honest,
• 16:04
  you
• 16:04
  guys,
• 16:04
  this
• 16:04
  is
• 16:04
  nearly
• 16:05
  impossible
• 16:05
  with
• 16:06
  nine
• 16:06
  children
• 16:06
  at
• 16:06
  home
• 16:07
  to
• 16:07
  have
• 16:07
  an
• 16:07
  engaged
• 16:08
  connecting
• 16:09
  moment
• 16:09
  with
• 16:09
  each
• 16:09
  child.
• 16:10
  That's
• 16:10
  why
• 16:11
  we've
• 16:11
  started
• 16:11
  doing
• 16:12
  highs
• 16:12
  and
• 16:12
  lows
• 16:12
  at
• 16:13
  the
• 16:13
  dinner
• 16:13
  table.
• 16:13
  You
• 16:13
  guys
• 16:13
  probably
• 16:13
  have
• 16:14
  something
• 16:14
  similar
• 16:14
  to
• 16:15
  this
• 16:15
  where
• 16:15
  each
• 16:16
  child
• 16:16
  goes
• 16:16
  around
• 16:16
  the
• 16:16
  circle
• 16:17
  and
• 16:17
  says
• 16:17
  the
• 16:17
  high
• 16:18
  and
• 16:18
  the
• 16:18
  low
• 16:18
  of
• 16:18
  the
• 16:18
  day.
• 16:18
  Right.
• 16:18
  Something
• 16:19
  amazing
• 16:19
  that
• 16:19
  happened
• 16:19
  to
• 16:19
  them
• 16:20
  and
• 16:20
  something
• 16:20
  that
• 16:20
  was
• 16:20
  a
• 16:20
  little
• 16:20
  bit
• 16:20
  disappointing.
• 16:22
  That
• 16:22
  is
• 16:22
  so
• 16:22
  powerful
• 16:22
  because
• 16:23
  we
• 16:23
  all
• 16:23
  get
• 16:23
  to
• 16:23
  look
• 16:23
  at
• 16:23
  the
• 16:24
  person
• 16:24
  we
• 16:24
  all
• 16:24
  get
• 16:24
  to
• 16:24
  connect
• 16:25
  it
• 16:25
  with
• 16:25
  them,
• 16:26
  at
• 16:26
  least
• 16:26
  for
• 16:26
  a
• 16:26
  couple
• 16:26
  of
• 16:26
  minutes.
• 16:28
  get
• 16:28
  to
• 16:28
  feel
• 16:28
  like
• 16:28
  they
• 16:28
  have
• 16:28
  everyone's
• 16:29
  attention
• 16:29
  on
• 16:30
  them.
• 16:30
  It's
• 16:30
  really,
• 16:30
  really
• 16:30
  powerful,
• 16:31
  especially
• 16:31
  in
• 16:31
  a
• 16:31
  very
• 16:31
  large
• 16:32
  family,
• 16:33
  so
• 16:33
  that
• 16:33
  can
• 16:34
  happen
• 16:34
  in
• 16:34
  just
• 16:34
  a
• 16:34
  few
• 16:34
  minutes.
• 16:35
  It
• 16:35
  can
• 16:35
  also
• 16:36
  happen
• 16:36
  in
• 16:36
  a
• 16:36
  couple
• 16:36
  of
• 16:36
  hours
• 16:37
  if
• 16:37
  a
• 16:37
  kid
• 16:37
  needs
• 16:37
  more
• 16:37
  time.
• 16:38
  But
• 16:38
  the
• 16:38
  clock
• 16:39
  isn't
• 16:39
  the
• 16:39
  point.
• 16:39
  The
• 16:40
  point
• 16:40
  is
• 16:40
  the
• 16:41
  intensity
• 16:41
  of
• 16:42
  the
• 16:42
  connection.
• 16:43
  So
• 16:43
  if
• 16:43
  I
• 16:43
  ask
• 16:44
  myself
• 16:44
  that,
• 16:44
  at
• 16:44
  the
• 16:44
  end
• 16:44
  of
• 16:45
  the
• 16:45
  day,
• 16:45
  did
• 16:45
  I
• 16:45
  connect
• 16:45
  with
• 16:46
  a
• 16:46
  child
• 16:46
  today?
• 16:47
  I'm
• 16:47
  not
• 16:47
  counting
• 16:47
  how
• 16:47
  many
• 16:48
  minutes
• 16:48
  we
• 16:48
  did
• 16:48
  it.
• 16:49
  I'm
• 16:49
  just
• 16:49
  asking,
• 16:49
  did
• 16:50
  something
• 16:50
  real
• 16:50
  happen
• 16:50
  between
• 16:51
  us?
• 16:51
  Did
• 16:51
  I
• 16:51
  look
• 16:51
  them
• 16:51
  in
• 16:52
  the
• 16:52
  eyes?
• 16:52
  Did
• 16:53
  I
• 16:53
  give
• 16:53
  them
• 16:53
  a
• 16:53
  hug?
• 16:53
  Did
• 16:53
  I
• 16:53
  tell
• 16:54
  them
• 16:54
  I
• 16:54
  love
• 16:54
  them?
• 16:55
  And
• 16:55
  when
• 16:56
  the
• 16:56
  answer
• 16:56
  is
• 16:56
  yes,
• 16:56
  then
• 16:57
  I
• 16:57
  can
• 16:57
  feel
• 16:57
  at
• 16:57
  peace.
• 16:59
  I
• 16:59
  will
• 16:59
  give
• 16:59
  a
• 16:59
  quick
• 16:59
  example
• 17:00
  of
• 17:00
  this.
• 17:00
  Last
• 17:00
  night
• 17:00
  I
• 17:00
  was
• 17:01
  putting
• 17:01
  my
• 17:01
  6-year-old
• 17:01
  to
• 17:02
  bed,
• 17:02
  and
• 17:03
  he
• 17:03
  really
• 17:03
  wanted
• 17:03
  to
• 17:03
  tell
• 17:04
  me
• 17:04
  something
• 17:04
  exciting.
• 17:04
  I
• 17:04
  can't
• 17:05
  even
• 17:05
  remember
• 17:05
  what
• 17:05
  it
• 17:05
  was
• 17:05
  now,
• 17:06
  but
• 17:06
  usually
• 17:07
  I
• 17:07
  am
• 17:07
  in
• 17:07
  a
• 17:07
  rush
• 17:07
  at
• 17:07
  bedtime
• 17:08
  because
• 17:08
  everybody
• 17:09
  needs
• 17:09
  to
• 17:09
  get
• 17:09
  to
• 17:09
  bed
• 17:09
  around
• 17:09
  the
• 17:10
  same
• 17:10
  time
• 17:10
  and
• 17:10
  I'm
• 17:10
  stressed
• 17:11
  out
• 17:11
  and
• 17:11
  overwhelmed
• 17:12
  by
• 17:12
  the
• 17:12
  day
• 17:12
  and
• 17:12
  I
• 17:12
  just
• 17:12
  wanna
• 17:13
  lay
• 17:13
  down
• 17:13
  and
• 17:13
  relax
• 17:13
  myself.
• 17:14
  But
• 17:14
  for
• 17:15
  some
• 17:15
  reason
• 17:15
  last
• 17:15
  night,
• 17:16
  I
• 17:16
  just.
• 17:16
  Was
• 17:16
  there
• 17:17
  with
• 17:17
  him
• 17:17
  and
• 17:17
  I
• 17:17
  tried
• 17:18
  so
• 17:18
  hard
• 17:18
  to
• 17:18
  be
• 17:19
  present
• 17:20
  and
• 17:20
  we
• 17:20
  sat
• 17:20
  and
• 17:21
  we
• 17:21
  talked
• 17:21
  about
• 17:21
  this
• 17:21
  thing
• 17:22
  that
• 17:22
  was
• 17:22
  important
• 17:22
  to
• 17:22
  him
• 17:23
  and
• 17:23
  we
• 17:23
  giggled
• 17:24
  a
• 17:24
  little
• 17:24
  bit
• 17:24
  and
• 17:24
  I
• 17:24
  said,
• 17:25
  wow,
• 17:25
  that
• 17:25
  sounds
• 17:25
  amazing.
• 17:26
  And
• 17:26
  then
• 17:27
  he
• 17:27
  snuggled
• 17:27
  down
• 17:27
  to
• 17:27
  bed
• 17:28
  to
• 17:28
  go
• 17:28
  to
• 17:28
  sleep.
• 17:29
  Now,
• 17:29
  was
• 17:30
  anything
• 17:30
  drastically
• 17:31
  different
• 17:31
  from
• 17:31
  other
• 17:31
  nights?
• 17:32
  No,
• 17:33
  except
• 17:33
  my
• 17:33
  brain
• 17:34
  was
• 17:34
  there.
• 17:35
  I
• 17:35
  was
• 17:36
  fully
• 17:36
  present
• 17:36
  even
• 17:37
  for
• 17:37
  just
• 17:37
  the
• 17:37
  five
• 17:38
  minutes
• 17:38
  it
• 17:38
  took
• 17:38
  for
• 17:38
  him
• 17:39
  to
• 17:39
  tell
• 17:39
  me
• 17:39
  the
• 17:39
  story.
• 17:40
  So
• 17:40
  as
• 17:40
  a
• 17:40
  reminder,
• 17:41
  shift
• 17:41
  one
• 17:41
  is
• 17:41
  to
• 17:42
  schedule
• 17:42
  your
• 17:42
  presence
• 17:43
  instead
• 17:43
  of
• 17:43
  just
• 17:43
  hoping
• 17:44
  it
• 17:44
  happens.
• 17:44
  Shift
• 17:45
  two
• 17:45
  is
• 17:45
  to
• 17:45
  create
• 17:46
  a
• 17:46
  mental
• 17:46
  ritual
• 17:47
  where
• 17:47
  you
• 17:47
  are
• 17:47
  changing
• 17:48
  the
• 17:48
  guard
• 17:49
  between
• 17:49
  being
• 17:49
  a
• 17:49
  mom
• 17:49
  and
• 17:50
  being
• 17:50
  a
• 17:50
  business
• 17:50
  owner.
• 17:50
  And
• 17:51
  then
• 17:51
  shift
• 17:51
  three
• 17:51
  is
• 17:52
  to
• 17:52
  stop
• 17:52
  measuring
• 17:52
  your
• 17:52
  presence
• 17:53
  in
• 17:53
  minutes
• 17:53
  and
• 17:54
  measure
• 17:54
  it
• 17:54
  in
• 17:54
  connection
• 17:55
  instead.
• 17:56
  Now,
• 17:56
  before
• 17:56
  I
• 17:56
  go
• 17:56
  on,
• 17:57
  let
• 17:57
  me
• 17:57
  just
• 17:57
  say
• 17:57
  this
• 17:57
  right
• 17:58
  now,
• 17:58
  this
• 17:59
  episode
• 17:59
  is
• 17:59
  not
• 18:00
  meant
• 18:01
  to
• 18:01
  evoke
• 18:02
  guilt,
• 18:03
  okay?
• 18:03
  We
• 18:03
  have
• 18:04
  so
• 18:04
  much
• 18:04
  guilt
• 18:05
  as
• 18:05
  it
• 18:05
  is.
• 18:06
  Every
• 18:06
  time
• 18:07
  I
• 18:07
  think
• 18:07
  about
• 18:07
  being
• 18:07
  present
• 18:07
  with
• 18:07
  my
• 18:08
  kids,
• 18:08
  I
• 18:08
  feel
• 18:08
  guilty
• 18:08
  probably.
• 18:09
  'cause
• 18:09
  there's
• 18:09
  so
• 18:09
  many
• 18:09
  of
• 18:09
  them,
• 18:09
  it
• 18:09
  feels
• 18:10
  impossible.
• 18:11
  Instead,
• 18:11
  it's
• 18:12
  just
• 18:12
  meant
• 18:12
  to
• 18:12
  give
• 18:13
  you
• 18:13
  a
• 18:13
  reframe
• 18:14
  to
• 18:14
  acknowledge
• 18:15
  that
• 18:15
  you
• 18:15
  don't
• 18:16
  need
• 18:16
  more
• 18:16
  time,
• 18:16
  you
• 18:17
  don't
• 18:17
  need
• 18:17
  more
• 18:17
  energy.
• 18:18
  You
• 18:18
  just
• 18:18
  need
• 18:19
  a
• 18:19
  little
• 18:19
  bit
• 18:19
  of
• 18:20
  focus.
• 18:21
  When
• 18:21
  you're
• 18:21
  doing
• 18:21
  each
• 18:22
  one
• 18:22
  of
• 18:22
  these
• 18:22
  roles
• 18:23
  to
• 18:23
  feel
• 18:23
  so
• 18:23
  much
• 18:24
  more
• 18:24
  satisfied
• 18:25
  in
• 18:25
  them,
• 18:25
  that's
• 18:25
  all
• 18:25
  it
• 18:26
  takes.
• 18:26
  Okay?
• 18:27
  Now,
• 18:27
  if
• 18:28
  you
• 18:28
  are
• 18:28
  feeling
• 18:28
  like
• 18:29
  I
• 18:29
  can't
• 18:29
  give
• 18:29
  my
• 18:29
  kids
• 18:29
  anymore,
• 18:30
  I
• 18:30
  really
• 18:30
  just
• 18:31
  need
• 18:31
  to
• 18:31
  spend
• 18:31
  time
• 18:31
  on
• 18:31
  my
• 18:31
  business,
• 18:32
  maybe
• 18:32
  you're
• 18:32
  already
• 18:33
  giving
• 18:33
  them
• 18:33
  plenty
• 18:33
  of
• 18:33
  connecting
• 18:34
  time.
• 18:34
  And
• 18:35
  you
• 18:35
  really
• 18:35
  do
• 18:36
  need
• 18:36
  to
• 18:36
  carve
• 18:36
  out
• 18:36
  more
• 18:36
  time
• 18:37
  for
• 18:37
  your
• 18:37
  business
• 18:37
  and
• 18:37
  be
• 18:37
  more
• 18:38
  all
• 18:38
  in
• 18:38
  on
• 18:38
  that.
• 18:39
  Or
• 18:40
  maybe
• 18:40
  your
• 18:40
  weakness
• 18:41
  is
• 18:41
  a
• 18:41
  little
• 18:41
  bit
• 18:41
  more
• 18:41
  like
• 18:42
  mine.
• 18:42
  You'd
• 18:42
  rather
• 18:42
  work
• 18:42
  on
• 18:42
  your
• 18:42
  business
• 18:43
  all
• 18:43
  day
• 18:43
  long
• 18:43
  'cause
• 18:43
  your
• 18:43
  kids
• 18:44
  are
• 18:44
  driving
• 18:44
  you
• 18:44
  crazy.
• 18:45
  And
• 18:45
  it's
• 18:45
  a
• 18:45
  real
• 18:45
  challenge
• 18:46
  to
• 18:46
  sit
• 18:46
  and
• 18:46
  be
• 18:46
  fully
• 18:47
  present
• 18:47
  without
• 18:48
  being
• 18:48
  distracted
• 18:49
  by
• 18:49
  business
• 18:49
  ideas
• 18:49
  and
• 18:49
  goals
• 18:50
  in
• 18:50
  your
• 18:50
  brain.
• 18:51
  Regardless
• 18:52
  of
• 18:52
  which
• 18:52
  way
• 18:52
  you
• 18:52
  usually
• 18:53
  swing,
• 18:53
  no
• 18:54
  guilt
• 18:54
  is
• 18:54
  necessary.
• 18:55
  Or
• 18:55
  if
• 18:55
  you
• 18:55
  have
• 18:55
  a
• 18:55
  little
• 18:55
  guilt,
• 18:56
  just
• 18:56
  use
• 18:56
  it
• 18:56
  as
• 18:56
  a
• 18:56
  reminder.
• 18:57
  That's
• 18:57
  gonna
• 18:57
  be
• 18:57
  a
• 18:57
  goal
• 18:58
  for
• 18:58
  me
• 18:58
  this
• 18:58
  week
• 18:58
  to
• 18:58
  be
• 18:59
  a
• 18:59
  little
• 18:59
  bit
• 18:59
  more
• 18:59
  present
• 18:59
  in
• 19:00
  one
• 19:00
  space
• 19:01
  or
• 19:01
  another.
• 19:01
  We're
• 19:02
  all
• 19:02
  just
• 19:02
  trying
• 19:02
  to
• 19:02
  be
• 19:02
  a
• 19:02
  little
• 19:03
  bit
• 19:03
  better
• 19:03
  today
• 19:03
  than
• 19:03
  we
• 19:04
  were
• 19:04
  yesterday,
• 19:05
  and
• 19:06
  this
• 19:06
  only
• 19:07
  applies
• 19:07
  to
• 19:08
  times
• 19:08
  of
• 19:08
  life
• 19:09
  when
• 19:09
  nothing
• 19:09
  major
• 19:09
  is
• 19:09
  going
• 19:10
  wrong.
• 19:10
  so
• 19:11
  those
• 19:11
  connecting
• 19:11
  moments
• 19:12
  are
• 19:12
  few
• 19:12
  and
• 19:13
  far
• 19:13
  between
• 19:13
  when
• 19:14
  you
• 19:14
  have
• 19:14
  a
• 19:14
  brand
• 19:14
  new
• 19:14
  baby
• 19:15
  or
• 19:15
  when
• 19:15
  you
• 19:15
  are
• 19:16
  launching
• 19:16
  a
• 19:16
  massive
• 19:17
  business
• 19:17
  project
• 19:17
  or
• 19:17
  when
• 19:18
  you're
• 19:18
  traveling
• 19:18
  for
• 19:18
  work
• 19:19
  or
• 19:19
  something.
• 19:19
  So
• 19:20
  be
• 19:20
  kind
• 19:20
  to
• 19:20
  yourself.
• 19:21
  Be
• 19:21
  patient
• 19:21
  with
• 19:21
  yourself.
• 19:22
  Look
• 19:22
  at
• 19:22
  your
• 19:23
  life
• 19:23
  scenario.
• 19:23
  Ask
• 19:23
  yourself
• 19:24
  what
• 19:24
  is
• 19:24
  possible?
• 19:25
  How
• 19:25
  can
• 19:25
  I
• 19:25
  be
• 19:25
  out
• 19:26
  just
• 19:26
  a
• 19:26
  little
• 19:26
  bit
• 19:26
  better
• 19:27
  and
• 19:27
  give
• 19:27
  yourself
• 19:28
  plenty
• 19:28
  of
• 19:28
  grace.
• 19:29
  All
• 19:29
  right,
• 19:29
  friends,
• 19:30
  this
• 19:30
  is
• 19:30
  what
• 19:30
  I
• 19:30
  want
• 19:30
  you
• 19:30
  to
• 19:30
  walk
• 19:30
  away
• 19:30
  with
• 19:31
  today.
• 19:31
  You
• 19:31
  do
• 19:32
  not
• 19:32
  have
• 19:32
  to
• 19:32
  choose
• 19:33
  between
• 19:33
  your
• 19:33
  family
• 19:33
  and
• 19:34
  business
• 19:34
  or
• 19:34
  your
• 19:34
  faith
• 19:35
  if
• 19:35
  we're
• 19:35
  gonna
• 19:35
  talk
• 19:35
  about
• 19:35
  that
• 19:36
  as
• 19:36
  well,
• 19:36
  considering
• 19:36
  how
• 19:37
  distracted
• 19:37
  I
• 19:37
  am
• 19:37
  at
• 19:37
  church.
• 19:38
  But
• 19:38
  you
• 19:38
  do
• 19:38
  have
• 19:39
  to
• 19:39
  choose
• 19:39
  where
• 19:39
  your
• 19:40
  mind
• 19:40
  is
• 19:41
  in
• 19:41
  each
• 19:41
  moment.
• 19:42
  We're
• 19:43
  not
• 19:43
  trying
• 19:43
  to
• 19:43
  be
• 19:43
  perfect.
• 19:43
  We're
• 19:44
  just
• 19:44
  trying
• 19:44
  to
• 19:44
  be
• 19:45
  present.
• 19:46
  Instead
• 19:46
  of
• 19:46
  being
• 19:46
  constantly
• 19:47
  in
• 19:47
  one
• 19:48
  way
• 19:48
  or
• 19:48
  area
• 19:48
  or
• 19:48
  the
• 19:49
  other,
• 19:49
  we're
• 19:49
  just
• 19:49
  trying
• 19:49
  to
• 19:49
  be
• 19:49
  intentional
• 19:50
  when
• 19:50
  we
• 19:50
  are
• 19:51
  in
• 19:51
  that
• 19:51
  place.
• 19:52
  That's
• 19:52
  it.
• 19:53
  That's
• 19:53
  the
• 19:53
  whole
• 19:53
  thing.
• 19:55
  When
• 19:55
  we
• 19:55
  pray,
• 19:56
  we
• 19:56
  are
• 19:56
  fully
• 19:56
  there
• 19:57
  with
• 19:57
  God.
• 19:58
  When
• 19:58
  we
• 19:58
  are
• 19:58
  hugging
• 19:58
  our
• 19:58
  kid,
• 19:59
  we
• 19:59
  are
• 19:59
  fully
• 19:59
  there
• 20:00
  with
• 20:00
  our
• 20:00
  kid,
• 20:00
  and
• 20:01
  when
• 20:01
  we
• 20:01
  are
• 20:01
  in
• 20:02
  our
• 20:02
  office
• 20:03
  trying
• 20:03
  to
• 20:03
  help
• 20:03
  another
• 20:04
  human
• 20:04
  being
• 20:04
  with
• 20:04
  the
• 20:04
  transformation
• 20:05
  we
• 20:05
  offer,
• 20:05
  we
• 20:05
  are
• 20:06
  fully
• 20:06
  there
• 20:06
  as
• 20:07
  well,
• 20:08
  but
• 20:08
  we
• 20:08
  are
• 20:08
  human
• 20:09
  and
• 20:09
  we
• 20:09
  make
• 20:09
  mistakes.
• 20:10
  And
• 20:10
  every
• 20:10
  time
• 20:10
  we
• 20:10
  feel
• 20:11
  a
• 20:11
  little
• 20:11
  out
• 20:12
  of
• 20:12
  alignment,
• 20:12
  that's
• 20:12
  a
• 20:12
  great
• 20:13
  reminder
• 20:13
  to
• 20:13
  ask
• 20:13
  ourselves,
• 20:14
  have
• 20:14
  I
• 20:14
  been
• 20:14
  present
• 20:15
  today?
• 20:15
  Wherever
• 20:15
  I
• 20:16
  was,
• 20:16
  was
• 20:16
  I
• 20:16
  all
• 20:17
  there?
• 20:17
  Because
• 20:18
  that
• 20:18
  is
• 20:18
  the
• 20:18
  goal.
• 20:19
  if
• 20:19
  this
• 20:19
  episode
• 20:20
  resonated
• 20:20
  with
• 20:20
  you,
• 20:20
  if
• 20:21
  you
• 20:21
  are
• 20:21
  a
• 20:21
  woman
• 20:21
  of
• 20:21
  faith
• 20:22
  who
• 20:22
  is
• 20:22
  trying
• 20:22
  to
• 20:22
  do
• 20:22
  all
• 20:22
  the
• 20:22
  things
• 20:23
  at
• 20:23
  once.
• 20:24
  And
• 20:24
  to
• 20:24
  do
• 20:24
  what
• 20:24
  the
• 20:24
  best
• 20:25
  way
• 20:25
  she
• 20:25
  knows
• 20:25
  how.
• 20:25
  I
• 20:25
  really
• 20:26
  think
• 20:26
  that
• 20:26
  my
• 20:26
  book
• 20:26
  was
• 20:27
  written
• 20:27
  for
• 20:27
  you.
• 20:27
  It's
• 20:27
  called
• 20:28
  Burning
• 20:28
  Brightly,
• 20:29
  and
• 20:29
  the
• 20:29
  wait
• 20:29
  list
• 20:29
  is
• 20:30
  in
• 20:30
  the
• 20:30
  show
• 20:30
  notes,
• 20:30
  so
• 20:30
  don't
• 20:30
  forget
• 20:31
  to
• 20:31
  sign
• 20:31
  up
• 20:31
  for
• 20:31
  that
• 20:31
  so
• 20:31
  you
• 20:31
  can
• 20:31
  be
• 20:31
  the
• 20:31
  first
• 20:32
  one
• 20:32
  to
• 20:32
  know
• 20:32
  when
• 20:33
  it
• 20:33
  comes
• 20:34
  out.
• 20:34
  Thanks
• 20:35
  so
• 20:35
  much
• 20:35
  for
• 20:35
  spending
• 20:35
  time
• 20:35
  with
• 20:35
  me
• 20:36
  today,
• 20:36
  my
• 20:36
  friends.
• 20:37
  Go
• 20:37
  out
• 20:37
  and
• 20:37
  enjoy
• 20:37
  your
• 20:37
  kids.
• 20:38
  Enjoy
• 20:38
  your
• 20:38
  business.
• 20:39
  You
• 20:39
  are
• 20:39
  doing
• 20:39
  a
• 20:39
  great
• 20:40
  job.
• 20:42
  Are
• 20:42
  you
• 20:42
  ready
• 20:43
  to
• 20:43
  start
• 20:43
  or
• 20:43
  grow
• 20:43
  your
• 20:44
  dream
• 20:44
  business?
• 20:44
  Click
• 20:45
  the
• 20:45
  link
• 20:45
  in
• 20:45
  the
• 20:45
  show
• 20:45
  notes
• 20:46
  to
• 20:46
  download
• 20:46
  the
• 20:46
  free
• 20:46
  starter
• 20:47
  guide
• 20:47
  to
• 20:47
  building
• 20:47
  a
• 20:48
  business
• 20:48
  or
• 20:48
  to
• 20:48
  schedule
• 20:49
  a
• 20:49
  free
• 20:49
  coaching
• 20:49
  call
• 20:49
  with
• 20:50
  me.
• 20:50
  And
• 20:50
  if
• 20:50
  you
• 20:51
  loved
• 20:51
  this
• 20:51
  episode.
• 20:52
  Don't
• 20:52
  forget
• 20:52
  to
• 20:52
  leave
• 20:52
  a
• 20:52
  review
• 20:53
  and
• 20:53
  share
• 20:53
  it
• 20:53
  with
• 20:53
  a
• 20:53
  friend
• 20:54
  who
• 20:54
  might
• 20:54
  be
• 20:54
  feeling
• 20:55
  the
• 20:55
  call
• 20:55
  to
• 20:55
  burn
• 20:56
  a
• 20:56
  little
• 20:56
  brighter.