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Why I chose to not keep making excuses about me being born with #autism . · The Facts with Jamal 🇺🇸🦅👊

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  You can only make some things an excuse or you should have to
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  clutch until you come to a realization.
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  Is it really as bad as you think it is, or are you not seeing
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  things differently now? What do you think I'm relating
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  that to? So earlier this week I had
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  talked about how for whatever reason, people like to use
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  mental health. In a lot of cases he has an
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  excuse or a clutch to try get a get out of trouble free card.
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  But, and again, every situation varies, OK, that's just the
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  reality. But you can't use that as an
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  excuse thinking it's gonna help you in life.
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  Now, if you're talking about yours truly, I will put myself
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  out on Front St. OK, so in case many of you know
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  or probably don't know, I was born autistic.
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  Yep, I was born autistic. And you know, when you're as
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  young as I was, you know, trying to understand what really meant
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  as a kid, you know, really anything.
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  But of course, you know, as you get older, you start to
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  understand really what it means and what it meant ultimately.
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  Now, mind you, in my instances are my form of autism or beehive
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  functioning from what I was told, but what have you?
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  And the reason I know is shared it with pretty much anyone else,
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  kid, as far as you know, my peer group, was I afraid of game, you
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  know, retaliation or picked on even more?
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  Absolutely. I mean, if you were in my
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  possession, you probably would feel the same way.
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  And did I use that times as an excuse?
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  I'm not gonna lie to you, I actually did.
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  I mean, I'm not gonna sugar coke.
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  I mean, I did at one point use it as an excuse, but then I
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  kinda have like a moment to myself.
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  I had to really sit back. Now, mind you, this was when I
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  was almost about to turn pretty much 18.
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  It was at that point, well, I really had to, you know, when I
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  had a moment to myself, I had to think it's being autistic really
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  as bad as, you know, some people try to tell me, but more
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  importantly, what's it as bad as I thought it is?
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  You know, 'cause while you watch, you know, TV, you know,
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  scrolling social media will go out in public.
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  I see a lot of people that you have no mobility means absolute
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  no mobility anywhere or in wheelchairs, some with cerebral
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  palsy, some that can't even speak, or in the rare case of a
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  few, how many absolutely none of their realms mean arms, legs,
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  what have you. Or, unfortunately, in the
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  occasional days, ALSAKA, Ruth. Karen's disease.
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  And I had to think to myself, wow, you know, here I am
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  thinking that being someone with a, or be it my own form of
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  autism. But, you know, again, this is
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  when I was as a kid, you know, high functioning.
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  I had to really sit back and think to myself, was I looking
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  at all of this this whole time the wrong way?
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  Was I looking at from the perspective that here I am able
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  to do things that a lot of people, you know, just in the
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  few examples that I named probably can't do 'cause they
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  have a voice than me. That I didn't really see it all
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  the way. And that moment probably stuck
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  with me more than 8. And it was at that point I said,
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  you know what, I was looking at it, you know, in the wrong way
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  that I didn't really take into account everything.
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  And I didn't especially outweigh, you know, things that
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  I probably should have at one point but was too naive to
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  understand. So I decided no more no more
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  playing yet as a clutch and certainly not use it as an
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  excuse anymore. And since that day again when I
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  was almost turning 18, I never looked back on its sets.
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  And let me tell you something, this could've easily been a
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  thing. Why I could've like broke me as
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  far as me being artistic and as far as, you know, my mind, my
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  spilling way. I couldn't let those things
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  happen. But if I did that, that would've
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  been the ultimate cop. And it would've been in some
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  ways the easiest way to try to be more sorry for myself, but I
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  couldn't do that anymore 'cause I would have been used this
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  service to myself if I continue to even did so.
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  So I wasn't going to let it break me any longer, but instead
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  I was going to let it refine me and make me a better person.
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  Because at the end of the day, and I've kind of adopted this
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  kind of thought process and I actually get this more for my
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  dad 'cause he actually reminds me more often than I actually
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  need. And I'm actually grateful.
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  He said. He always says to me, as long as
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  I'm given life and I'm healthy, that's more than enough reason.
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  Let me say that again if I'm given life and if I'm healthy
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  has more than enough ovaries and since he since he told me that
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  I've not only adopted that I've go by cause luck.
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  We all have our shortcomings and the first season life and we
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  could easily let these things be the back breaker for many of us.
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  But it's all about my same approach.
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  How do you manage to approach these kinds of things without
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  essentially trying to feel sorry for yourself?
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  Because as I said, not only could that be an easy cop out,
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  continue to feel sorry for you and continue to use as an
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  excuse, but that's when the mindset part of it comes into
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  play. Because at the end of the day,
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  you have two choices. You can either let wherever you
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  think it's a set back in or the efficiency for you break your
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  mind and spirit. Or you can do the smart thing
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  and you can find a way you use it as a method to be better.
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  Don't use the first option. Always go to 2nd.
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  At the end of the day, you can still make something out of your
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  life. You can still make a lot of good
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  things happen. And why don't you have your
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  shortcomings, deficiencies, whatever, doesn't matter.
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  You can make something out of nothing because if you give a
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  life, that is all that matters. But again, it's all about how
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  you approach it. It is what's gonna be the define
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  of four.