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SELF CHECK How To NOT Be A Toxic Person · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Psych2Goers. Have you ever wondered if you were the
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  Speaker 1: toxic one in the relationship? We probably all know someone
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  Speaker 1: who is difficult to be around. The types who thrive
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  Speaker 1: on conflict and drama, whipping up trouble for themselves and
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  Speaker 1: those around them. It takes courage to admit that you're toxic,
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  Speaker 1: but it's even more courageous to take the necessary steps
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  Speaker 1: to right the wrongs you've done and challenge yourself to
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  Speaker 1: become a better person. It's also a big leap forward
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  Speaker 1: to have the mindset to want to improve yourself, a
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  Speaker 1: trait that not everyone possesses. So if you're interested in
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  Speaker 1: making a positive change in your life, here are six
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  Speaker 1: tips on how to not be a toxic person. Number one,
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  Speaker 1: check your ego. The first step to not being toxic
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  Speaker 1: is acknowledging that you have certain traits that may be toxic.
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  Speaker 1: They don't necessarily define you, but these behaviors have come
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  Speaker 1: up more than once in your past interactions. If you're
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  Speaker 1: the type of person who always has to be right,
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  Speaker 1: who can't stand to be challenged, or who gets defensive
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  Speaker 1: at the drop of a hat, it may be time
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  Speaker 1: to check your ego. Arrogance and lack of humility are
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  Speaker 1: big signs that you're a toxic person. They show that
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  Speaker 1: you lack the mental flexibility to see things from another
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  Speaker 1: person's perspective. It's not easy to let go of your ego,
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  Speaker 1: but you need to be open to the idea that
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  Speaker 1: you might not always be right. Try seeing things from
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  Speaker 1: other people's points of view and be willing to change
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  Speaker 1: your opinion. Being able to admit when you're wrong is
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  Speaker 1: a key trait of successful and well-liked people. Number two,
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  Speaker 1: don't test others. Do you often find yourself challenging others
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  Speaker 1: to test their loyalty? If you do, it's time to
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  Speaker 1: reassess your methods. Testing others is a toxic way to
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  Speaker 1: try to control the situation and those around you, whether
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  Speaker 1: it's by making final ultimatums, asking trick questions, or by
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  Speaker 1: making false temptations for your partner. Testing others may seem
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  Speaker 1: reassuring to you at first, but it can be utterly
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  Speaker 1: draining for those around you. It shows insincerity, insecurity, and
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  Speaker 1: a lack of trust. If you wanna build healthy and
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  Speaker 1: lasting relationships, it's important to be genuine with your intentions.
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  Speaker 1: Try building trust and openly communicating with others. Show others
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  Speaker 1: that you trust them by being vulnerable yourself. This way,
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  Speaker 1: you won't have a big expectation for them to live
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  Speaker 1: up to, but instead, foster a more healthy relationship that
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  Speaker 1: creates trust from both sides. Number three, don't gossip. Do
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  Speaker 1: you find yourself regularly engaged in gossip? Gossiping may seem
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  Speaker 1: fun and engaging but it's not the best way to
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  Speaker 1: build rapport. When you gossip, you're tearing someone else down
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  Speaker 1: in order to feel better about yourself. It certainly won't
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  Speaker 1: do your image any favors either. No one wants to
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  Speaker 1: be branded as a gossip. And not only is gossiping
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  Speaker 1: hurtful to the person you're gossiping about but it also
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  Speaker 1: shows a lack of maturity on your part. It's important
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  Speaker 1: to be able to have mature conversations about things that
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  Speaker 1: don't involve putting others down. Number four, don't be a doormat.
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  Speaker 1: There's a big difference between being respectful and being a doormat.
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  Speaker 1: When you're a doormat, you don't stand up for yourself
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  Speaker 1: and you don't voice your opinion. This not only shows
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  Speaker 1: a lack of self-respect, but it also sets you up
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  Speaker 1: to be taken advantage of by others and allows others
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  Speaker 1: to walk all over you. On the other hand, being
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  Speaker 1: respectful doesn't mean you have to agree with everything someone
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  Speaker 1: else says. It's okay to voice your opinions and stand
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  Speaker 1: up for yourself. But when moments of disagreement do happen,
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  Speaker 1: try to calmly express yourself without putting the other person down.
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  Speaker 1: Number five, don't control people's mindsets. Do you often tell
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  Speaker 1: others to calm down, relax, or don't take things so seriously?
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  Speaker 1: While it may sound rational to tell others not to
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  Speaker 1: let their emotions get a hold of them, Trying to
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  Speaker 1: control other people's emotional reactions can be a very toxic
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  Speaker 1: behavior because it's an attempt to invalidate someone else's emotions
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  Speaker 1: under the guise of sounding rational. These phrases can stifle
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  Speaker 1: an emotional conversation and further alienate the person you're talking to.
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  Speaker 1: Instead of trying to control how someone else is feeling,
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  Speaker 1: validate their emotions and provide comfort and emotional support. This
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  Speaker 1: can go a long way in strengthening the bond between you.
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  Speaker 1: And number six, don't avoid or delay difficult conversations. Think
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  Speaker 1: about it. Is there something you've been wanting to talk
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  Speaker 1: to your friend or partner about? but you keep putting
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  Speaker 1: it off because you're not ready or it's not the
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  Speaker 1: right time, there's no question about it. Conflict can be
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  Speaker 1: uncomfortable because navigating difficult situations is never easy. But if
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  Speaker 1: you wanna have a healthy and successful relationship, it's important
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  Speaker 1: that you're able to openly communicate with each other. And
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  Speaker 1: that includes having tough conversations. Avoiding difficult conversations will only
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  Speaker 1: create more tension and resentment in the long run. Leaving
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  Speaker 1: these negative feelings unresolved won't lead to anything good. So
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  Speaker 1: it's important to address them as soon as they arise.
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  Speaker 1: It can be difficult to change your behavior, especially if
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  Speaker 1: you've been engaging in these behaviors for a long time.
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  Speaker 1: But it's important to remember that change is always possible.
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  Speaker 1: You'll experience new things, build more memories, and establish more
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  Speaker 1: relationships as you move through life. Why let your less
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  Speaker 1: than stellar habits define you? Can you relate to any
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  Speaker 1: of these points? I'll admit, I can. Let us know
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  Speaker 1: in the comments and share this video with others who
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  Speaker 1: might find it helpful. The references and studies used are
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  Speaker 1: listed in the description below. Until next time, friends, thanks
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  Speaker 1: so much for watching.