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No Ceilings: Conversations About Dating A Woman & Her Ego · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Watch up and welcome back to another episode of No
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  Speaker 1: Sealers Podcast with your hosts Now fuck that with your
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  Speaker 1: load glasses Malone.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, baby, what you need?
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  Speaker 3: What you need, daddy, Like okay, you know, and it's been.
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  Speaker 4: We've been like we've been like good, like of course, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: we're gonna get into a little like a but it's
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  Speaker 4: it's nothing like nothing. And I do find myself like listening, listen, listening, like, Okay.
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  Speaker 1: You just gave us that's the truth, right, And the
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  Speaker 1: truth is this is why you have to communicate, right,
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  Speaker 1: But you have to communicate effectively, right, because.
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  Speaker 2: You can't have two men. Ego is a man.
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  Speaker 1: That's why men have egos. Is that fair to say, Pete?
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  Speaker 1: Men have egos?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean everybody has something, but I mean in
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  Speaker 5: the relationship dynamic, I mean it's the issue is it's
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  Speaker 5: like to me, women want to be led, but they
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  Speaker 5: don't want to not they don't want to acknowledge that
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  Speaker 5: there is a leader in the room and they're not it.
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  Speaker 6: I don't think that's necessarily always true. Now, there are
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  Speaker 6: women that do need or think they need to lead.
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  Speaker 6: I was one of them. I am not no, I
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  Speaker 6: am no longer one of them. But I do know
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  Speaker 6: a lot of women that I absolutely don't want to
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  Speaker 6: lead shit. They absolutely are okay with the man leading
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  Speaker 6: and doing and providing and doing everything.
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  Speaker 3: They are okay.
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  Speaker 1: That's not I'm sure they okay with somebody taking care
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  Speaker 1: of them.
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  Speaker 2: There's not a it's just taking okay with.
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  Speaker 1: The man taking care of her, not be okay minding
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  Speaker 1: somebody right now. And because because of the connotation of
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  Speaker 1: minding right like listening to somebody give you directions.
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  Speaker 6: I'm good with that now. I just be like, hey,
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  Speaker 6: don't go here, okay. But I think that also comes
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  Speaker 6: with the trust in the relationship and who you're with.
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  Speaker 6: And that's that's where I fucked up. I was dealing
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  Speaker 6: with motherfuckers that I really didn't trust like that. And
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  Speaker 6: that's that's the honest to god truth. Because if I
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  Speaker 6: really trusted my man, I'm going to let him leave
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  Speaker 6: me and he's going to tell when he tells me something,
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  Speaker 6: I'm gonna be like, okay, babe, you're right, okay or whatever.
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  Speaker 6: But before I was dealing motherfuckers, and I'm like, nigga,
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  Speaker 6: you could do that, then why would I listen to you?
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  Speaker 1: Would why would you sleep with anybody, you wouldn't listen
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  Speaker 1: to it.
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  Speaker 3: I know that that makes it, that sounds it makes
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  Speaker 3: a lot of sense.
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  Speaker 4: But yeah, you know when you say that. But these
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  Speaker 4: are these are things that we were learning as we're growing.
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  Speaker 1: It's like a man sleeping with somebody he doesn't want
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  Speaker 1: you get pregnant.
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  Speaker 3: No, don't get it right. I stand in my ship.
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  Speaker 3: I know what time it was.
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  Speaker 6: I knew, and it took me a while to understand
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  Speaker 6: that because I'm dealing with you and my question like
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  Speaker 6: the guy I told you can't get right, and you're like,
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  Speaker 6: why the hell you call them? Why are you dealing
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  Speaker 6: with Mike King? As I got older, yeah, I laugh
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  Speaker 6: at it now, like why was I.
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  Speaker 3: Dealing with this person?
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  Speaker 6: Like what the hell was wrong with you? You saw
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  Speaker 6: all the red flags? You something the game? The man
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  Speaker 6: can't get right the niggas name is, can't get right
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  Speaker 6: in your phone, like can't get literally not think like so.
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  Speaker 3: And and that's that's where we have to learn to say,
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  Speaker 3: you know what we can be by o women.
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  Speaker 1: We don't need to you know, some women come from
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  Speaker 1: a background where again they lead a poly relationship. They're
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  Speaker 1: dating their ego and their men, and some women are
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  Speaker 1: dating their ego, their man and their kids.
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  Speaker 4: Mm hmm, yeah, I think that with with me, I
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  Speaker 4: was I'm just so used to leading, like making decisions
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  Speaker 4: and just kind of doing my own thing. At the
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  Speaker 4: same time, It's like then I'm wondering, like, okay, well
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  Speaker 4: what are you you know, what are you bringing to
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  Speaker 4: the table, Like we can't talk on the same level
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  Speaker 4: or we're not interested in the same things. But once
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  Speaker 4: I realized, like, okay, you know, you got to take
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  Speaker 4: this ego out of the relationship because you're you're not
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  Speaker 4: a man, like you can't do or be anything close
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  Speaker 4: to you know, what a man can be. And I
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  Speaker 4: didn't want to be a woman, so.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I disagree, you can you.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure you and Briad have did the same things
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  Speaker 1: that a man have done.
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  Speaker 4: What I'm saying with the feeling as far as the
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  Speaker 4: feeling that I want from somebody else, a man, a
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  Speaker 4: woman can't give that to me, so unless I want
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  Speaker 4: it to be by myself, I'm like, Okay, I gotta
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  Speaker 4: but what is.
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  Speaker 1: The feeling specifically? Is it to be cared for or
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  Speaker 1: is it just the fact that he has a penis?
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  Speaker 1: Biologically is different, you know what I'm saying, Like he
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  Speaker 1: can the puzzle is different, and that's what these are. No,
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  Speaker 1: but these is real questions, you know. I mean that
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  Speaker 1: people need to ask.
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  Speaker 3: I want to feel protected, like wow, So.
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  Speaker 2: Then you know, and that's important right here to feel protected.
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  Speaker 1: Guess what, like like your child, right, so like like
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  Speaker 1: let's say Roland, right, like you have to Hey, he
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  Speaker 1: can't like imagine you trying to protect him and he's
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  Speaker 1: doing the things that you know could cause him danger.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 1: That's how it is being a man dealing with a woman.
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  Speaker 1: So that's why sometimes men tone, especially when you're being
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  Speaker 1: stubborn like a child, can take the form of talking
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  Speaker 1: to a child, because that's what it starts to feel like.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm sure for some women that's what it starts
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  Speaker 1: to feel like.
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  Speaker 2: When a man starts to do the wrong thing, he.
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  Speaker 4: Starts acting like your kid, definitely, yeah, And that's where.
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  Speaker 3: That's when it goes like that's just like wait.
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  Speaker 2: What Yes, and kids are kids.
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  Speaker 1: The only reason they're kids is because they can't be
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  Speaker 1: accountable for themselves.
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  Speaker 2: Like that's the problem.
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  Speaker 1: The problem is like I'll argue with friends who have
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  Speaker 1: grown kids and I'm like they keep trying to treat
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  Speaker 1: their kids like kids, right, they'll do whatever the kid
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  Speaker 1: want them to do. But these kids are fucking because
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  Speaker 1: they're nineteen or twenty. And I tell Mohmi, like, that's
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  Speaker 1: not no kid, Like, they only plan you to take
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  Speaker 1: care of them for them to make their own decisions.
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  Speaker 1: So you gotta find a space in the middle, or
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  Speaker 1: you're taking care of an adult that you're fucking dating. Right,
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  Speaker 1: think about it, right, if your son, if your job
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  Speaker 1: is to protect your son, britt, If like if he's
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  Speaker 1: trying to go to a a Hoover party and you
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  Speaker 1: know this is a Hoover party, Well, all the gang
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  Speaker 1: members are there, and you know that other people know
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  Speaker 1: they might come shoot it up, and your job is
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  Speaker 1: taking me.
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  Speaker 2: Like, don't go to that party.
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  Speaker 1: And he goes to that party, Guess what you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: say to him when you figure out he was at
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  Speaker 1: that party. You're Finnah, fly off the handle because you're
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  Speaker 1: making my job hard of protection. Well, for women, they
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  Speaker 1: should think of that the same way when they're talking
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  Speaker 1: to a man, like if you want you don't want
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  Speaker 1: to go somewhere Withcauz and you know somebody start to
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  Speaker 1: put hands on you and he don't help you. But
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  Speaker 1: if he tell you don't walk in his room with
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  Speaker 1: all these fucking boxers and tripping ass drunk people and
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  Speaker 1: your stupid.
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  Speaker 2: Ass walking, you're gonna get both are ass kid.
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  Speaker 1: So women cannot date their own ego and a man
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  Speaker 1: at the same time, a man like a man is
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  Speaker 1: going to come with an ego because that's what he
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  Speaker 1: needs to propel himself to the position to take care
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  Speaker 1: of his family. That's what he should be using it for.
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  Speaker 1: He should be using it to define his reputation. He
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  Speaker 1: should be using it to define his credit, should be
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  Speaker 1: using it to build this economic you know, portfolio is base.
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  Speaker 2: What are you doing. That's the only thing that's good for.
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  Speaker 4: So the ego not with with us with women, but
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  Speaker 4: with everybody else or the outside bro because you know,
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  Speaker 4: I think men sometimes they don't want to be well,
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  Speaker 4: they don't want to be vulnerable because they want to
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  Speaker 4: carry this ego. But we need to, you know, we
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  Speaker 4: want to fill and see and you know know that
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  Speaker 4: we can be there for you at those those vulnerable times,
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  Speaker 4: you know, aside from God. But you know you don't
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  Speaker 4: have to carry an ego with us all the time
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  Speaker 4: you know.
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  Speaker 1: Well, yes, that they shouldn't be what you'd still do
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  Speaker 1: because again you want somebody You're you're asking for women
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  Speaker 1: to have this weird sense of demand.
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  Speaker 2: They want a bunch of stuff that don't really go together.
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  Speaker 1: Imagine your man like, well, I want to know you
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  Speaker 1: could take care or yourself too, so I could take
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  Speaker 1: care of you, So you should pay the mortgage every
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  Speaker 1: other month. You wouldn't see it that way, right, So
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  Speaker 1: that's how it feels like you're asking your man to
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  Speaker 1: wanting to be hell of tough. But then he comes
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  Speaker 1: crying to you because somebody you know at the ice
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  Speaker 1: cream parlor.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not talking about that though, because you don't think.
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  Speaker 2: It's that deep.
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  Speaker 1: Right, Well, we feel the same. We are the same, right,
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  Speaker 1: Men and women are the same, right. We all feel
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  Speaker 1: the same thing. We have extrogen, like y'all have testosterone,
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  Speaker 1: So we feel certain certain things hurt our feelings that
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  Speaker 1: probably are not worthy of you know, on the social
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  Speaker 1: status of your feelings being hurt, but it's still hurts
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  Speaker 1: your feelings. As I get older, certain scenes in movie
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  Speaker 1: that I saw a million times could make me feel
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  Speaker 1: like emotional as I get older, Like I might look
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  Speaker 1: at like I watched last night. I watched, uh, what's
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  Speaker 1: the movie with Will Smith when he was trying to
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  Speaker 1: get the job in San Francisco Peak.
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  Speaker 2: And he got the job. Almost cried.
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  Speaker 3: I cried that So we have.
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  Speaker 1: The same feelings, right, because it emotionally moved me. I
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  Speaker 1: was like, damn, so happy.
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  Speaker 2: Like it's a rap story.
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  Speaker 1: But again it's like, so we have the same things,
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  Speaker 1: but you ask us to use the testosterone driven emotions.
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  Speaker 1: You ask that, but then sometimes you'll be like, well,
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  Speaker 1: when you with me, you should let the estrogen no,
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  Speaker 1: because then you ad judge later, you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: Like you you know, he has these feelings and he
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  Speaker 1: should be treated as us, just like I know. A
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  Speaker 1: woman could take care of herself. I'm not stupid. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not doing something that no woman couldn't.
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  Speaker 2: Do for herself.
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  Speaker 1: True, women take care of themself just fine. Women could
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  Speaker 1: change a tire, change the engine, bench press waits.
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  Speaker 2: My mom had hands. Some woman could fight, you know,
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  Speaker 2: women are construction workers. Women do the same thing men.
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  Speaker 2: But you want to be put into a space where
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  Speaker 2: you can lean on your estrogen. You want that space,
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  Speaker 2: That's true? Right? Actually, great, no ceilings gl Pete was
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  Speaker 2: heading just here for the convo, Red Red, what's haddening? Hey,
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  Speaker 2: what's wrong? Pete? You I know, but I text you
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  Speaker 2: a couple of times everything. Okay, I was taking a nap. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: how's that? As you get older, naps are they important?
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  Speaker 2: They can be. So I'm down forty five pounds, Pete.
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  Speaker 1: Once I get to fifty pounds down, that's what I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna start bringing in my weight training. What I've been
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  Speaker 1: thinking about is more like flyweights, like more calistatics like
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  Speaker 1: push ups, pull ups, all of that stuff, not so
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  Speaker 1: much weight. I don't really want to get a bunch
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  Speaker 1: of muscles like I don't because I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: be My goal was to not be heavy if I
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  Speaker 1: make it to sure, So I want to be as
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  Speaker 1: lean as possible right now. It ain't about the muscles,
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  Speaker 1: it ain't about the look. It's just about the health part.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So but that was my point. So back to the
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  Speaker 1: I digress. But that becomes the problem. So like sometimes
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  Speaker 1: when you would complain, I would say, like, hey, you
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  Speaker 1: are letting way too much ego rule. This part like
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  Speaker 1: to be in a righteous situation because you have to
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  Speaker 1: kind of remove that, like Yeah, he gonna be frustrated,
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  Speaker 1: because this is how it is being a man when
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  Speaker 1: you always like as a man, Like I'm only viewed
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  Speaker 1: as a real man if I take care of somebody completely.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not even viewed as a real man if I
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  Speaker 1: pay half, like I'm viewed as a male because I
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  Speaker 1: have a penis right, that's my initial thing. But I'm
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  Speaker 1: not viewed as a man if I pay half. If
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  Speaker 1: I go half with a woman, I'm not viewed as
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  Speaker 1: a man who by society and even by your old lady,
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  Speaker 1: she not don't respect you the same way. She's not
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  Speaker 1: gonna treat you like you're leading anything.
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  Speaker 3: You think. Do you think that? I mean, what do
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  Speaker 3: you think.
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  Speaker 1: Your son is a man right now? Do you think
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  Speaker 1: he's a man he could make his own decisions? No,
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  Speaker 1: because he don't take care of himself.
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  Speaker 3: That's true.
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  Speaker 2: And that Nigga is a man. He probably bigger than you.
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  Speaker 1: And everything is who your ass and all kind of shit,
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  Speaker 1: change your tie and everything.
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  Speaker 4: There's a lot of men that go have with their girls,
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  Speaker 4: I'm sure with step So would you say that that's
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  Speaker 4: britt Would you say that's a man?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 6: I don't think that. I don't think that that would
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  Speaker 6: be less of a man. I don't think so. I've
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  Speaker 6: never been in that situation, but I don't think I
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  Speaker 6: would have been like, oh shit, you're not You know
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  Speaker 6: what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: You respect, You would respect your man the same as yeah,
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  Speaker 4: you're a lie.
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  Speaker 6: I'm so so what so I would take that away
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  Speaker 6: because of something.
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  Speaker 1: Imagine your men couldn't stand up for you if you're
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  Speaker 1: in the street, somebody start.
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  Speaker 2: That's different.
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  Speaker 3: That's different different. You can't How is that different.
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  Speaker 1: Protect and provide or how men are defined socially? Is
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  Speaker 1: that fair to say protecting provided?
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  Speaker 2: I would say so.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but if you can't. We already had this discussion before.
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  Speaker 6: I told you about how the dude I've watched get
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  Speaker 6: carried away, and after that it was done though for me,
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  Speaker 6: I told you about that because like, what the hell?
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  Speaker 4: Which means as long as it can protect you, that
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  Speaker 4: that's basically number one protecting you and then yourself.
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  Speaker 2: You just don't got great hands.
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  Speaker 3: Damn, that's unfortunate. She ain't about to be with nobody.
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  Speaker 1: So again, like, I do know that there's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of men, some of my friends are in these same relationships,
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  Speaker 1: but I also know how women treat them, you know
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  Speaker 1: what I mean, It is kind of considered a slight
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  Speaker 1: in society to go half with your old lady, even
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  Speaker 1: though these California bills are insane stupid. So yes, but
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  Speaker 1: I do think more women than not are making it work.
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  Speaker 1: But again, the goal for women is to find somebody
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  Speaker 1: who could take care of them and protect them. That's
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  Speaker 1: their goal. That's the most successful women socially. Now again
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  Speaker 1: the reality is something is different. Reality is a lot
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  Speaker 1: of this shit is expensive, and it's not just gonna
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  Speaker 1: be most guys gonna be able to do it, you know.
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  Speaker 1: And me and Pete had a great conversation about this
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  Speaker 1: where he was like, man, really you should move.
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  Speaker 3: He's saying out of the state or wherever.
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  Speaker 1: Now you gotta move where we both agree you should
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  Speaker 1: move to a place where you could take care of
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  Speaker 1: your family as a man, right, because again it defines you.
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  Speaker 1: It's not worthy of being anywhere where you can't look
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  Speaker 1: up and say you're not putting a roof over your
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  Speaker 1: family head. But again my perspective is not dominant, because
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  Speaker 1: I understand if you ain't California even the thought of moving.
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  Speaker 1: But Pete told me the story of how his family
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  Speaker 1: moved out here because it was like that before that
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  Speaker 1: where they was at it was a little tougher out here.
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  Speaker 1: Was your grandfather was able to take care of his
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  Speaker 1: family because it was cheaper.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well it was.
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  Speaker 5: It wasn't cost cheaper, but it was so much opportunity.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, there was more. It was more on the on
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  Speaker 2: the income side.
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  Speaker 5: I was for both sides of my family. I mean
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  Speaker 5: that's why everybody like, like like your grandparents who moved
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  Speaker 5: out here, it was the same thing. It wasn't like
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  Speaker 5: what it was cheaper in La than Alabama. But it's
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  Speaker 5: like everyone's getting paid out there. There's no economy. We
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  Speaker 5: are here now, so we move either either move to avoid.
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  Speaker 2: Costs or to pursue revenue. See, and that's like a
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  Speaker 2: brilliant model that none.
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  Speaker 1: Of nobody told us. Well, white people kind of are aware.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't get me wrong. I do think the
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  Speaker 1: generation above ours they were better humans. Like our generation
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  Speaker 1: is worse humans. Even the generation now they feel like
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  Speaker 1: they're but they're actually.
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  Speaker 2: Much worse humans, you know what I mean? They because
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  Speaker 2: they don't like I was talking to my nephew about.
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  Speaker 1: The Diddy ship and he didn't even can he starts
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  Speaker 1: saying just making it up, like, oh, you know he
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  Speaker 1: put a hit out on the pocket. I'm like, do
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  Speaker 1: you not care that that's not true? Like you care
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: that's not what they're not charged. Well, he slept with
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: some minors. Do you not care that that's not true?
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: They're not charging me with that?
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: Like what part of a fact do you care about?
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: They don't.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: They only care about whatever is going on socially within
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: the conversation that's social sphere is where they're convicting people
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: at Like the fans came out and said the the
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: fas talked about that, the surviving r Kelly.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: It made the fast start to investigate.
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: Right, I did see something like that, and so this,
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: the cassielawsuit is what made them.
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: Yes, really the the dude that the attorney that's on
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: social media heat and it's that's true because there you
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: gotta remember DA's case.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: Looking for that type of exposure.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: Definitely, But it.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: Reminds me of a time where like when the community
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: was kind of going through some stuff, we was coming
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: out of the crack era or kind of in the
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: very very last part of the Twilight of where it
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: was peaking at and you know, people were doing anything
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: to get cracks.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: So crime in Los Angeles was a little rampant.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: It was a lot going on, and instead of the
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: community finding a solution, they turned to the white justice
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: system to find a solution. So hence Joe Biden and
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: certain people responded back with the Crime Bill right of
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: ninety four. Right, the instituted three strikes. And immediately when
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: you hear about how three strikes work, it's really a
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: double jeopardy law. It's like if you if you went
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: to jail for two felonies before, if you did this
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: and then you steal something, we're gonna put you in
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: prison for twenty five years to life. So at that time,
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: people thought they were doing the right thing because they
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: were so in their emotions.
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: That's why.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: A buddy of mine's us on clubhouse. I met him
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: and I would call him a buddy. His name is Gary,
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: but from Atlanta. He was saying that like he felt
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: like the Black Church spearheaded that movement with Biden. And
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: now and again, whenever you turn to forgive me Pete,
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: because I don't mean every white person, but you know, right,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about the power structure in existence. When you
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: turn to unjust people for justice, it's going to look
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: bad on people that's poor, that look like us, that
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: look like me.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: Right, So the same thing is happening now.
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they're like like again, like we're looking at r Kelly,
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: were looking at Puff and it kind of fits into
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: the same conversation even with Cassie, Like Cassie is like
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: they talked about it like and this is really I know.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: That's the details.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: They tried to shake Puff down with the book, the
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: threat of the book to get the thirty million. Yeah right,
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: Puff felt it was a shakedown. I ain't gonna give
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: you nothing. Puff actually was in a relationship with Cassie.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: Cassie stayed with Puff for years, not just out of fear.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: I'm sure there's a level of fear there. She stayed
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: with Puff because Puff had money, right, He's powerful, he Puff.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: She wanted to be successful in the music business. When
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: you look up her past, she's been trying to be
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: in a music business and kind of ahead of her
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: age for a long time, you know what I mean.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: So she found somebody she thought could enhance her career,
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: and maybe they fell in love. Maybe they didn't, you know,
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm not an a personal relationship, but
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: they was together for years. You knew this nigga was
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: weird within the first probably six.
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: Months, you know what I mean.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: And not to call did he weird, but it's like
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: you knew he was a deviant for sure, within the
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: first six months, because I knew, didd he was a
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: devent before you dated him. So maybe he played it
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: all for a couple of months, but eventually the DV
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: inside came out, you could walk.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: But then again, because she was looking for that level the.
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: Eighteen, sure she was.
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: But again that's the problem too.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: That's if you're gonna have a legal ramification of age
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: and responsibility and accountability eighteen, then it has to be eighteen.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: It can't just be like, well, you know what, she
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: is fucking with that and he had money and she
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: was just young as stupid.
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: No women gonna be like that till they fucking seventy,
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: you know what I mean.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: But it's like, man, it just puts us in a
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: weird situation, like they're charging these two dudes with racketeering.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: Harvey Weinstein actually was using his business as a racket.
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: And what does that mean when they say they're charging
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: them for racketeering.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: So racketeering or Rego Act people talked about as a
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: law created in nineteen seventy. I think it's nineteen seventy.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: So when they couldn't catch before nineteen seventy, America had
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: to catch you committing crimes. They had to charge you
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: with the crime that you committed. The mafia bosses or
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: the mob bosses who were organizing all of the crimes. Right,
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: the mafia bosses, the mob bosses who organized the crime,
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: they weren't actually out committing crimes. They couldn't prove that
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: they did a crime, but they knew it. They had
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: the power to organize and make a crime happen. So
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: they created a law which kind of conspiracy and all
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: these different things they all rooted in all of this
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: same idea. It's like thought into laws, thought into crime,
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: like the thought of crime. And that's how they started
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: taking down mafia's and mob bosses. And America probably should
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: have actually, America probably in nineteen seventy should.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: Have stood up.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: The people should have stood up against that law because
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: that began the problem, right, like where you don't have
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: to catch nobody doing the crime. Now if I make
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: you do a crime, that's the crime. No, it's there's
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: accountability for adults. I can tell you to do whatever
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: the fuck I tell you to do. I could pay
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: you to do whatever I pay you to do. If
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: your ass do it, it's your fucking fault. But again
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: to you know, you avoiding accountability. And they did that
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: to take down the mafia and the mob bosses. And
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: you have to respect because, I mean.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: They be in those situations where they can't say no.
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: You can always say no. You don't actually have to
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: be a protect.
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: I mean you can bet if you're gonna get killed
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: or you know what I'm saying, your family's gonna get hurt.
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: I'm not talking and I'm talking about with the mob
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: things like that.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like, of course, nobody gonna hurt your family because
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: you can do what I said.
• 23:32
  Speaker 6: Who says who in the mom What are you talking about?
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: Oh no, it's that it's only a power Okay, that's
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: that's not.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: Said, is not that's not how.
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: You There's intimidation, there's you know.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: But you can't be like being a coward should be
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: against the law. If somebody threatens your family, go to
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: the police because if you in the underworld. Are somebody
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: threatening your family, you know what you're supposed to do
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: if you in the underworld, you know, like if you don't,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: if the law is not the ultimate sense of justice
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: and you have you know, your own sense of justice,
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: like the in the street underworld. If somebody threk in
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: your family, you're supposed to kill that person on the spot.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck. If it's the greatest mid
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: boss in the world, cut his fucking head off. But
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: we gotta stop this weird law of making it okay
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: for people to be a bitch is crazy, Like, oh,
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: you could be a mark.
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: Somebody could mark you out and they call that coercion. No,
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: you was a mark. I was just talking about it
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: on Twitter with Gen Deal.
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: Gen Deal is running around like he's a hero because
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: he been talking about what Puff did.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: Now Puff got arrested.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Nigga, he was paying you, doing it in front of you,
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: and you didn't do nothing to him. Now, and the
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: reason you didn't do nothing to Couzin is because you
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: was getting paid. The reason you doing these interviews talking
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: about cuz it's because you getting paid. Who is this
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: This is one of the main people that was working
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: for him. That was they call it an early whistleblower.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: Puff was doing something bad. But it's like I couldn't
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: be next to Birdman he was doing some buster ass shit.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: If Birdman was next to me and he was you
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: know what I mean. Look, if Birdman was beating up
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: his old lady, I have stopped him.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: Like if that's me and that's.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: Birdman with his with Tony Braxton in that fucking elevator
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: video and Birdman, but I'm finna push stud hey, Stuna,
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: what's up?
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: Come hold up? Bro? No, bro we finna get down now.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: If I broke it up the first.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: Time and then you still with this dude, I'm not
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: either gonna be around for sure, I'm gonna stop hanging
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: with y'all.
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: If I don't leave from being around you, I ain't
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: finna watch you whip your old lady multiple times.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: So even if like a gen deal saw that situation
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: happening with them and you broke it up and then.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: They kept doing it, now, I'm not finna be around y'all.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: I don't be around nobody committing no crime. I don't
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: want to go to jail four, that's right. I don't
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: hang around nobody. Me and my big Homy got into
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: argument because he wanted to kill some taxi cab driver
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: for call him a nigger. And I'm like, nigga, everybody,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to prison for that. They're not gonna
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: be like what you in jail for. Oh Man, the
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: Hommy knocked this nigga down. My Gammi Homy knocked this
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: taxi cab driver down because he called him the N word.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: And I'm not finna go to prison for that. And
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna get the rest of my life for that
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: dumb ass shit. No fuck that No, And that was
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: me as a kid. I'm not you can't. I don't
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: know fuck how tough you is. If something I don't
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: want to do, you ain't gonna make me do it.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: Let alone take dick like some of the people in
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: that case, You're not gonna kill you, nigga.
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: Some people just don't have that.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: It's not that some people don't see it.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: No, some people just care about money. Yeah, and money
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: means everything.
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: That's why puff this is happening.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: The reason you go buy them prostitutes is because prostitutes
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: are for sale.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: The reason you go buy people is because people are
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: for sale.
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: The reason Gene Deal didn't actually do nothing to puff
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: or stop Puff when he was doing this, or you.
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: Know, as an ex probation officer go to.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: The police is because he was bought and paid for it.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: And I'm tired of people acting like the problem is
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: the people paying.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: The problem.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: Ain't the people paying the problem. Ain't people want to
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: have sex with a prostitute. The problem is the fucking
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: prostitute selling pussy for money. If there is a problem,
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: if there is a problem, like we could get to
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: the real problems.
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: Mm, yeah, that's naster. But then that said, I just
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: wouldn't have been around.
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: And I'm like, there would be no pimps if there
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: was no prostitute.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: Man. I mean, look at the end of the day,
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: I mean.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: If they ain't no proud that's true. But then, well,
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: there's a lot.
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: Of used bucks needs selling. You said, what, So there's
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: a lot of used buicks needs selling.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: A lot of used buicks that need to be sold.
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: What's the coercion charge?
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: Like, Well, from my understanding is that he had these parties. Yes,
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: people are coming to the parties, but they're not knowing
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: that the bottles are laced. They're drinking alcohol, but it
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: is laced and that there's cameras, Like.
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: They can't charge you for that.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: You know why because people can have as many fucking
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: cameras in their house as they want.
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: And you know what.
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: I have a friend who just went through a situation where, yeah,
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: they told her that this man can have his cameras
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: in his own house. Yeah the law, but the recording though,
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: that's not against the law without their consent.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: If you come in mind, what is the Okay, No,
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: I can't.
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: Fuck We'll just explain that part to her.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: Okay, So did these three charges? There's only three?
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: Right, There's racketeering, there's sex trafficking, there's traumputation for prostitutions.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: Yep, Okay.
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: Now they're saying.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: Those three indictments are built by these different crimes, right.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: Coersion is how it is detailed in the indictment. Is like, well,
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: he would threaten to take people's finances away if they
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: didn't do what he said, Like he would fire people
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: if they didn't do what he said do. Okay, I'm like,
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: that's how job works. They're saying the racketeering charges. What
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: they're saying is all alone the time over the last
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: since two thousand and eight, which they he really wasn't investigating,
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: but based off of what they've been able to figure
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: out what the witnesses since two thousand and eight different
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: crimes Puff has done home enterprises becomes like a criminal
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: underwel because they're blocking things. Prime example, when they got
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: into the little squabble in the hotel because when the
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: somebody saw it, the the maid saw it and you know,
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: you know saw it. Instead of letting her call the
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: police or maybe she doesn't, Puff says, look, don't call
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: the police. I need to deal with this ourselves. I'm
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: gonna pay you. Can you get the video? I'll pay
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: for that too, They saying. They combining that with that,
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: and they're saying, okay, because his team helped facilitate that
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: to some degree. I don't quite know what this team.
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: Then maybe they called after to get the video or whatever.
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: And then the next thing is like, okay, well he
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: blew up kid cutting cars. So they're talking about Arson, like, oh,
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: so they're making all of these crimes together to charge
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: him like a crime boss, got it. That's when in reality,
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: that's not While the letter can fit, that's not the
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: spirit of it.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: You just talking about a really.
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: Nasty older man who has money and power, you know
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: what I mean, in a really turbulent relationship with women. Again,
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: his enterprise would be built off buying women. More like,
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: he don't have rate charges and he didn't force nobody
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: to do nothing, even like even if they're charging him
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: per se with Let's say.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: Oh, people talk about the alcohol was lace.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: These are common things people knew going to Diddy parties,
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: Like you kind of knew that they party a little harder,
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: Like I knew that walking up, like they party harder.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: So if I don't party as hard as them, I
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: probably don't need to be partying with them. So again,
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: but now in hindsight, and you know, it's like, oh
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: that's you know, that ain't right. But people knew that.
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: People who went to Diddy's parties knew how did he party?
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: Did he is on? You know, he take drugs, he drinks.
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: But I don't think I don't think all the say
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: the young girls, because you know, you'll have somebody like, oh,
• 32:13
  Speaker 4: we're going to a party at Diddy's and then all
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: the you know.
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: What that was, Well, the person that brought the part exactly,
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: that was.
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: The person that because there's a lot of girls fresh
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: out of heights, very naive I'm going to Diddy's.
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: House to party.
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: They go to other people's house to party, so they're like,
• 32:37
  Speaker 4: I'm going to Diddy's house to party. Yes, we're going
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: to party. But then they end up the bottles are laced.
• 32:42
  Speaker 4: But the person who brought him, they know what's cracking,
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: or they should have known.
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: It's a lot of people.
• 32:52
  Speaker 4: I have a young daughter and she you know what
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: I'm saying. She's just like, I'm not gonna go.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: But we all, we've all since we were probably in
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: our he's been hearing about how Diddy parties.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: None of us have not heard how Diddy party.
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: But we're older, but we're since.
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: In our twenties, we've been here about how Diddy party. Right,
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: all of us and.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: Everybody's aspiration was to go to a Diddy party, knowing
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: it was crazy, because you.
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: Know, it's gonna be banana, it's gonna be a gang people.
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: It was gonna be the party though. But I didn't
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: think that.
• 33:19
  Speaker 4: I I didn't think that I was gonna go to
• 33:21
  Speaker 4: the party and get lace drinking some alcohol.
• 33:24
  Speaker 6: That no, well, see, the only reason why I knew
• 33:27
  Speaker 6: about that. Told you was because I actually seen that,
• 33:30
  Speaker 6: not at Diddy's house, but at another Hollywood Hills home
• 33:33
  Speaker 6: where I actually seen them join it.
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh, this is you told me yep.
• 33:37
  Speaker 6: And after that that's when I knew, like, Okay, this
• 33:40
  Speaker 6: is what's really going on.
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: But had I not I think that happens.
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: Why would you go to Diddy's party and drink alcohol?
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: Why are you knowing your inhibition?
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: What are you doing?
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: Like?
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: And see, this is where the questions get really hard.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: They stopped being like lack of accountability. They stopped being like, oh,
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: you know, why the fuck would you go to a
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: strange house and drink alcohol?
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: Because when you go to a party, you're going to
• 34:07
  Speaker 4: a party, not every this. Okay, this is Diddy, so
• 34:10
  Speaker 4: I do know this person, but there's several parties that
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: we've been to that we don't We don't know whose house.
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: It is we're going to somebody.
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: I mean, not now. But we're talking about younger, younger ages.
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: Okay, you remember dating when you was younger? Yeah, you
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: know why men brought you liquor?
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: And I wasn't drinking it with them, you know what
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: I'm saying. But you're going to a party, you're twenty one.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: I'm not saying, why would you take awareness? And these
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: are real you're.
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: Going if they're if they have the liquor gy at
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: the bar and they're making drinks and this drink is late.
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: Even in a place where other people are You don't
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: really want me to ask the questions that I really
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: want to ask. You know why I don't drink red
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: because I don't never want to not know what the
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: fuck is going on. And you know why you drink
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: because you don't want to know what's going on. You
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: want to enhance whatever it is you want to feel.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: And I'm not Look, I'm not trying to come down
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: on the world that drinks or smoke weed or do
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: cocaine or or pop eggs. That's not what I'm saying.
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: I'm saying y'all have to start being honest with what
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: the goal is in the first place, of why you're
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: doing what you're doing, and then you can say, oh,
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: this is too far. I didn't want this particular thing
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: to happen. But this can only happen because you are
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: not in your mind, like why why are you I
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: never drank nothing that nobody party because I always wanted
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: to be in.
• 35:33
  Speaker 4: Control and that's great, and those you know, everybody isn't mindful.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: So then again that's the accountability part that goes back
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: into the hole.
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: I get it, but where's the accountability for the person
• 35:49
  Speaker 4: that you know, what I'm saying is why are you
• 35:53
  Speaker 4: spiking Liquorsay? Everybody knows you want and even if he
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: wasn't want everybody so they can say the house.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: Yes, because again you know how people feel about sex
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: and feel like, oh man, they feel special about themself. Look,
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: I'm not saying by no means again for the fourth,
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: for fifth, six seven podcasts, I am not saying that
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: I think Diddy is not He don't he don't have
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: things he should be charged with. But again there's a
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: lot of missing accountability that creates a mafia like figure
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: that don't make no sense. Like we have to go
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: to we have to get to a place in society
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: where people actually start to have accountabit. Why is him
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: and R Kelly the only rego charge were they're the
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: only two people charged. Every other rego charge they charge
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: a thousand other people. Why is only them charge? Why
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: is this the first reason? Why is R?
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: Kelly.
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: Why Wystein get charged with racketeon Weinstein was using his
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: business to actually rate women.
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: He got charged with rape multiple times.
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: He doesn't have a no.
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: Why the fuck did not a cousin get charged Epstein
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: he actually was actually running that type of business.
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: Puff is just nasty. He's a nasty old bastard.
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: They got a bad drug problem and he's on alcohol
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: really bad. So he's making bad decisions. That's not John
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: Gotti's thing. That's not what John got John gotty sober
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: is the motherfucker making these decisions and he getting people killed.
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: Puff is just nasty and it's his way of to me.
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: This is kind of like I hear the term because
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: Puff considers himself a man of God, right, and.
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: I think in his heart he.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: Feels that, but his mind is kind of a little different,
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: Like it's more stuff going on.
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: Like people say, even in an indictment, they talk about.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: How to fact certain some of the pills you know,
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Oh well, you know he used drugs to control people.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: He didn't stuff no drugs down people's mouth.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: Like we got to eventually get back to a space
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: of accountability. That's the beginning of this conversation that we
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: even talking about where women want to date their ego
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: and a man, So then you got you know again,
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: you you you don't have space for the man. If
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: you got your ego, if you need to be a
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: proud human, a proud uh provider, and what you need
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: a man for, maybe you know, you could be like
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: Diddy and.
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: Just buy one, just.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: Buy one, you know what I'm saying. So it's it's
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: just it's just frustrating. It's frustrating, you know. And then
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: the world is happening in front of the world and
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: on all levels, even from the beginning of this conversation,
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: where women are being taught to be like, oh, you
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: know from the independent songs like why would you have
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: to brag you take care of yourself?
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: I E and D E.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: Why is that a good song? Like, there's no songs
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: like that for men? I pay my own bills. Well,
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: what is our song like that, I take care of myself.
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: That's I pay my own rent, I got my own car.
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: That's not a cool man a song.
• 39:00
  Speaker 4: Because it's it was always aspected for you guys to
• 39:04
  Speaker 4: do that.
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: It was women weren't supposed to work.
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: Well, women didn't work, and you know they weren't taking
• 39:12
  Speaker 4: care of themselves, so now.
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: You have to brag for being in a That's what happened.
• 39:17
  Speaker 4: They shouting it out from the ceiling.
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: To know what I'm saying, Like, what are we doing?
• 39:23
  Speaker 5: I take it it's equivalent to celebrating a birthday?
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like everybody has this is what?
• 39:29
  Speaker 5: Yeah I'm not almost looking at me. Hey I didn't
• 39:33
  Speaker 5: die in the last year, look at me.
• 39:34
  Speaker 4: Well, we didn't always have that, So when when did
• 39:37
  Speaker 4: women not have jobs?
• 39:42
  Speaker 3: Should? All the women in my family always had jobs.
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: So I mean, I'm just you know, going back, I guess.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: That's the job to that.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: Equal pain and ship like, oh, you know what, we're
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: making all of them now we're making as much money. Okay, cool,
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: But you're bragging about the ability to take care of
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: yourself as an adult.
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: It's crazy.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: Even a term single moms, Like, I don't know what
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: that really means.
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: What do you mean single mom?
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: What the fuck is that you was fucking? That's how
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: you had a kid?
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: She's a single mom. Single she's single.
• 40:20
  Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, she fucking she had a kid, but she's
• 40:22
  Speaker 6: a single daddy.
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: Not there title.
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: All that shows is that you was fucking and you're
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: not with the nigga you was fusing. Okay, that's not
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: nothing to brag about the.
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: Term single mom.
• 40:36
  Speaker 5: When you use the term failed wife.
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: Vibe what.
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: Oh man?
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just it's just we we we started maneuvering
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: society to a really weird space. I mean like it's
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: just really like I said, were men. You know, you're
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: not supposed to brag that you that's a flex when
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: you bragging that you know you take care of a woman.
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: It's not a flex to say you take care of yourself.
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: Wait, it's a flex when you're saying you take care
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: of a woman.
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you take care of your family. And that didn't
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: used to be a flex, But that's a flex now.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: If you pay all the bills, that's a flex.
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: Oh for sure, y'all. I take care. I take care
• 41:33
  Speaker 3: of you.
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: If a woman took care of a man, she is
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: considered a failure in society.
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: You'd be liked.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: Imagine you have to take care of that dude, like
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: you have to take care of him everything he do,
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: every dumb ass mistake he make. That's how I feel
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: every time you do some dumb shit. He wrecked his car,
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: you gotta fix it keep they cy on.
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: When you go in and work, you gotta pay the bill.
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: That's how it is being a man.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: A woman is expecting you to take care of her,
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: no matter what silly mistakes she make.
• 42:14
  Speaker 3: That's fright. Yeah, So sorry for y'all the.
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: I mean, it's all good. It's all good.
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's just the society we live in. I
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: just don't want people to forget.
• 42:28
  Speaker 6: Well, if they didn't know, they know now it's you know,
• 42:32
  Speaker 6: you're taking care of.
• 42:34
  Speaker 4: Physical things, you know, stuff like that, but we're taking
• 42:37
  Speaker 4: care of the house.
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: Look, I think a whole household.
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong, I think I don't think a
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: woman don't pull her own way, even if a man
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: is paying all the bills.
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: It's not about that.
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: But if you don't have a true appreciation for that,
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: then you forget the gratitude portion of it.
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: I mean, I do think taking care of a house
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: is a ton of work.
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: I think washing and and making sure the kids and
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: all that is a ton of work.
• 43:02
  Speaker 2: I don't think it's a lack of respect for that work.
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: But obviously you know the the work that's tough because
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: you don't you know the work.
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: You don't want to do.
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: I bet you you could find a man who would actually,
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: you know, he wouldn't mind ironing your clothes for you
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: to get up and go make all the money, and
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: he just get to sit at home and go get
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: his hair cut to look nice for you when he
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: come home and cook dinner. Still a different job. You
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: still wouldn't even if you you know, if Couz lost
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: his job and you and he making all the food,
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: it might be cool for the first few months, you know,
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: I mean, you're like, damn, you know this ain't Then
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: eventually you're gonna look and you know, he left his
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: moon roof open, and now you gotta pay for his
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: interior and electronics get fixed. That shit gonna start to
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: come out. You're gonna be like, hold up.
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: Bro, have you ever watched I mean, did you ever
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: see mister mom?
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: I was just a second. Wasn't there a movie called
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: Decades Ago?
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: As basically she wasn't feeling it after a while, was
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: like it was reverse.
• 44:01
  Speaker 6: The man had to stay home the woman, and he
• 44:03
  Speaker 6: got laid he got furloughed, and the woman ended up
• 44:06
  Speaker 6: getting a job in advertising, so she started going to
• 44:09
  Speaker 6: work every day.
• 44:09
  Speaker 3: She was a stay at home. I don't care.
• 44:11
  Speaker 6: So he he was like fucking up shit, like fucked
• 44:14
  Speaker 6: up the washing machine, all kinds of stuff. It was
• 44:17
  Speaker 6: funny though, like he messed up like how to take
• 44:19
  Speaker 6: them to school, like he was all lost and stuff.
• 44:21
  Speaker 3: That's funny.
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: No looten any So so I do think there is
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: a lesson that men need to know for women who
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: actually take care of the house, Like there definitely needs
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: to be a real gratitude because I ain't no pump
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: cooking and cleaning and shit and caring for children on
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: the consistent.
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: But that's tough.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: But it got to be an appreciation. And that's the point.
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: It needs to be gratitude. It's not enough gratitude, you know,
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: Like imagine you making some food, nigga telling you like, yeah,
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: I could cook my own food.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: That shit would make you feel like.
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well yeah, especially made.
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: This food or you supposed to.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: Cook the food, right, oh yeah no, And that becomes
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: your attitude.
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: Who So you gotta define it in yourself. That's the trick.
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: You have to define it in yourself.
• 45:08
  Speaker 3: Take the ego out.
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: Women definitely don't need pride or ego in a in
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: a in a and while they're dating a man. You
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: need pride of ego if you're taking care of yourself.
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: I mean, you definitely need it when you're taking care
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: of yourself, but you don't need it if you have
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: a man taking care of you that that ain't gonna.
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: Work for you. But both people do need gratitude.
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: I agree with that, Like that's I think there's men
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: who don't really have the right gratuitous attitude towards the
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: old lady for you know, carrying that, you know, turning
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: the house into a home. That's just to maintaining a
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: home and some shit maintaining a home and some ship.
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: It's not no pump m h.
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: Yes, I agree,