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Do What You Do, Do When You Can — A Busy Person's Guide · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is another Winning Wednesday episode.
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  Do what I do and do when I can. Listen, this one is for my busy folks,
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  and especially for my busy moms wearing multiple hats.
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  You know the ones, employee, mama, partner, entrepreneur, caregiver,
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  creator, problem solver, appointment keeper, bill payer, dream chaser.
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  And somehow in the middle of all that, you're supposed to find time to take
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  care of yourself, pursue your purpose, build your dreams, drink your water,
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  and get some sleep to maintain your sanity.
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  Child, listen, sometimes we just have to do what we do and do when we can.
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  And can I let you in on a little secret? That is the sauce for success.
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  Matter of fact, if I'm even more honest, sometimes that's the winning strategy
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  because success doesn't always look like having four uninterrupted hours,
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  the perfect schedule, unlimited resources, and everybody cooperating with your plans.
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  Sometimes success looks like I had 30 minutes, so I used 30 minutes.
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  Sometimes it's I couldn't finish it today, but I moved it forward.
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  Sometimes it's, this wasn't my best day, but I still did something. That counts.
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  Because you have to do what you do when you can and believe that in doing so,
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  you will develop your desires into dynamite.
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  Stop waiting for the perfect window. One of the biggest lies we tell ourselves
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  is, I'll do it when I have more time. When?
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  Because somehow Monday turns into Friday, Friday turns into next month,
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  next month turns into next year, and the perfect window of opportunity apparently missed its flight.
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  Listen, sometimes there isn't going to be a perfect time. There is only the time you have.
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  And winning requires learning how to work what you have.
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  Where you are when you can. If you have an hour, use the hour.
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  If you have 20 minutes, use 20 minutes. If all you can do today is send the email, send it.
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  If all you can do is outline the idea, outline it.
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  If all you can do is walk one mile instead of three, walk the one.
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  If all you can do is save $20 instead of $200. Save the $20.
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  Stop disrespecting small progress because it doesn't look impressive enough.
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  Small progress is still progress. Doing what you can isn't an excuse.
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  Now hold on because somebody heard do when I can and was about to turn that
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  into what Coach C said, whenever I get around to it, uh-uh. That's not what I said.
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  When I can, is it permission to procrastinate?
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  It's permission to stop punishing yourself because your capacity changes.
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  There is a difference between, I genuinely don't have the capacity today and
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  I don't feel like doing it.
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  Winning requires knowing the difference. Some days you need rest,
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  some days you need to rearrange, and some days you need to tell yourself,
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  girl, get up, we have work to do.
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  That requires honesty.
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  Let determination fill you. When you're doing what you do and doing when you
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  can, let determination fill you.
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  Determination says, I may have to slow down, but I don't have to stop.
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  I might not get everything done today, but I'm going to get something done.
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  I may need another route, but I'm still headed toward the destination.
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  I may have responsibilities competing for my attention, but my dreams deserve some attention too.
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  Determination keeps you connected to the why when your circumstances interfere with the how.
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  Because sometimes life will interrupt the plan.
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  Kids need something, work goes sideways, somebody gets sick,
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  the car starts making a noise that sounds expensive,
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  the money gets funny, your energy disappears, your schedule gets rearranged,
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  and determination says,
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  okay, What can I do?
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  That's a powerful question. Not why can't I get anything done?
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  Not why is everybody else ahead of me?
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  Not why is this taking so long?
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  Ask what can I do with what I have today?
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  That's how winners adjust without abandoning the assignment.
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  And let discipline ground you because determination might get you moving,
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  but discipline keeps you moving. Motivation is cute.
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  I love motivation. I built a whole Monday around it, but motivation has moods.
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  Discipline has instructions.
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  Motivation says I feel inspired.
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  Discipline says it's on the schedule. Motivation gets excited about the goal.
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  Discipline handles the Tuesday afternoon when nobody is clapping and you're tired.
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  And when life is busy, discipline doesn't always mean doing more.
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  Sometimes discipline means knowing what matters most.
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  That's where we get ourselves in trouble. We think productivity means touching everything.
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  No, sometimes productivity means identifying the one thing that actually needs
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  your energy today and giving it what you've got.
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  Your capacity can change without your commitment changing.
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  Oh, somebody needs to hear this.
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  Your capacity can change without your commitment changing.
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  Let me say it again. Your capacity can change without your commitment changing.
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  Just because you couldn't give something 100% today doesn't mean you're no longer committed to it.
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  Some days you have 100. Some days you have 70. Some days you have 40.
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  And some days life hands you a raggedy little 12% and says, good luck.
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  Give the 12. Because here's where people lose momentum.
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  They think, if I can't do it all, there's no point in doing anything.
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  Yes, there is. 20 minutes today plus 20 minutes tomorrow plus 30 minutes Friday
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  is still 70 minutes invested in your future.
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  One page today becomes pages. One workout becomes workouts.
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  One episode becomes episodes. One customer becomes customers.
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  One deposit becomes savings.
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  One class becomes credits.
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  One decision becomes a completely different direction.
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  Consistency doesn't always mean doing the same amount.
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  Sometimes consistency simply means I keep coming back.
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  Don't compare your capacity to somebody else's.
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  And busy people, please hear me, stop comparing your output to somebody whose
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  life doesn't require what yours requires.
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  You don't know what support they have.
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  You don't know what responsibilities they don't have. You don't know what resources are available to them.
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  And you don't need to know because their capacity isn't your assignment.
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  Your job is to steward your capacity well.
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  Do what you do. Do Do when you can and keep building because what looks like
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  tiny progress from the outside might actually require tremendous discipline
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  from where you're standing.
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  Desire plus determination plus discipline.
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  Now, let's put this thing together. You have the desire. Determination says, I'm going after it.
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  Discipline says, I'm going to keep showing up for it.
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  And doing what you do when you can says, I'm going to use the opportunities
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  available to me instead of waiting for perfect conditions.
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  That's the formula.
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  Desire, determination, discipline, doing.
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  And when those things start working together, you can develop those desires into dynamite.
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  Not overnight, not magically, but piece by piece, decision by decision, day by day.
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  Here's your fearless homework. The When I Can Challenge.
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  This week, we're getting rid of all or nothing.
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  I want you to choose one desire you've been struggling to make time for.
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  Your health, your business, your education, your finances, your creativity,
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  your home, your healing, whatever it is.
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  Then answer these three questions. One, what can I do?
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  Identify the smallest meaningful action that moves this desire forward.
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  Not the entire plan, just the next move.
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  Number two, when can I do it?
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  Find three small windows in your week. Maybe it's 15 minutes before work, 30.
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  Minutes during lunch, 20 minutes after the kids settle down,
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  Saturday morning before everybody starts needing something.
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  Don't wait for time. Claim some.
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  Number three, what will keep me grounded? Write this somewhere you'll see it.
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  My capacity may change, but my commitment doesn't have to.
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  And every time life rearranges your plan, don't immediately abandon the goal.
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  Ask, what can I do today? Then do that.
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  Listen, winning isn't always loud.
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  Sometimes winning looks like somebody sitting at the kitchen table at 10.47
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  at night working on something everybody else forgot they dreamed about.
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  Sometimes winning is the exhausted mama who still carved out 20 minutes for herself.
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  Sometimes winning is choosing progress when perfection isn't available.
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  Sometimes winning is adjusting the plan without abandoning the purpose.
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  And sometimes winning is simply
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  being able to say, I did what I could with what I had when I had it.
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  So stop beating yourself up because you can't always do everything. Do what you do.
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  Do when you can. Let determination fill you.
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  Let discipline ground you, let your desire direct you, and then do the work.
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  Because little by little, day by day, decision by decision, you're developing
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  those desires into dynamite.
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  And that family is how we win. This is real talk for real life.
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  Remember, the word for this winning Wednesday or the words, decide, commit, succeed.
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  And as always, live fearless, keep learning, keep living.
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  This is Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always learning
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  and living your full experience.
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  This is Coach C I'll see you in the next one.