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Episode #238: Going & Growing Together · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome to tea time with Amy and Bevay.
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  Speaker 1: We're back because we have more to say. So you
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  Speaker 1: met two other recordings where we're wearing the exact same yep.
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  Speaker 1: We hit stop and then we start another recording, so
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  Speaker 1: I don't cut I don't cut videos at this point.
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  Speaker 1: So we record a segment, stop, start again, record a
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  Speaker 1: segment so that we have content readily available for those
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  Speaker 1: times when when Bev and I are living life and
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  Speaker 1: we have lots going on, and so we always have
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  Speaker 1: content available because we show up every single week with
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  Speaker 1: a recording for the last almost four and a half years,
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  Speaker 1: which every time I say that, I'm just like, dig
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  Speaker 1: it's been that long. Get out. I don't even believe it, Like,
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  Speaker 1: no way, it's not been that long, but it has.
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  Speaker 2: It's been. It's been nice. It's been a nice journey,
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  Speaker 2: especially when I when we we've talked a little bit
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  Speaker 2: about the beginning since like the beginnings where it's like
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  Speaker 2: I talk about resisting I was resisting it, but you
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  Speaker 2: must mentioned it so many every time we would sit
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  Speaker 2: down and have a conversation, like in between clients or
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  Speaker 2: in between whatever, it's like the conversations would be so
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  Speaker 2: great and you're like, yeah, we should do this. I'm like, man, okay,
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  Speaker 2: you know, I'll pick up my pocket, you know, like
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  Speaker 2: you know whatever, but didn't do it. And it's like
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  Speaker 2: all the way up to the time of just doing it,
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  Speaker 2: and then the time of where we're at right now,
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  Speaker 2: this it's been a it's been an awesome journey, really has.
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  Speaker 2: Even though there's been some sad times and there's been
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  Speaker 2: some ups and downs, you know, in our lives, and
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  Speaker 2: we've had experiences, it's still it's still been a blessing.
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  Speaker 2: All it's been a blessing.
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  Speaker 1: And there's there's a handful of videos that we did
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  Speaker 1: where one of us got triggered and you can see it.
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  Speaker 1: You can hear it in our tone and you can
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  Speaker 1: see it in my face, and and we still put
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  Speaker 1: it out there because that was life at that time.
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  Speaker 2: And and we're we're still journey.
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  Speaker 1: We're still friends, we're still having conversations, we're still sharing
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  Speaker 1: because those were moments of learning and growing and then
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  Speaker 1: the moment we sometimes we hear things that we don't
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  Speaker 1: want to hear, and and but we know we know,
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  Speaker 1: like we know it was something we didn't need to hear,
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  Speaker 1: but we didn't want to hear. And we take that
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  Speaker 1: information and I know that if either one of us
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  Speaker 1: got triggered by the other, conversation comes to the close.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say end, but to a close, and
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  Speaker 1: then we go and process our stuff and then we
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  Speaker 1: come back together and go, Okay, this is what I got,
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  Speaker 1: and we process again together and we've had this great
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  Speaker 1: relationship in doing that. And it's so grateful for this
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  Speaker 1: journey over this period of time because it began even
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  Speaker 1: before the before the podcast started, and we've been through
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  Speaker 1: a lot, and it's a even wrapping my brain around
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  Speaker 1: where we were and where we are, whether whether it
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  Speaker 1: was together or in our own lives. It's just like, wow,
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  Speaker 1: it got us go right because it's so exciting.
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  Speaker 2: So it is true, it's true, And it's like recognizing
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  Speaker 2: when you're triggered by another person it doesn't have anything
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  Speaker 2: to do with the other person. They just it's like
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  Speaker 2: a light bulb went off in your body and it's
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  Speaker 2: like there, this this is It's a time for you
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  Speaker 2: to look at this now. It's not a time to
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  Speaker 2: keep burying it. And it's like we've talked about so
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  Speaker 2: many times as we're doing the journey, and as we're
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  Speaker 2: going through these processes that it gets easier and easier
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  Speaker 2: because you're not looking, you're not stuff's not hidden and
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  Speaker 2: buried and stuff like it used to be. So it's
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  Speaker 2: being able to look at a lot of those things
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  Speaker 2: and then have those experiences and move beyond them, and
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  Speaker 2: and it's very freeing. Really, all of it's very freeing.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, And in that time, Bev and I have remained
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  Speaker 1: with our relationship over a period I don't even know
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  Speaker 1: how long has it been, like right right around ten years,
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  Speaker 1: because didn't you say ten years ago when you did
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  Speaker 1: the reiki or massage or how long.
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  Speaker 2: You've been doing About about ten years and.
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  Speaker 1: We met or became we connected. We met before that,
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  Speaker 1: but not one of us was out in the space,
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  Speaker 1: but we connected right around the time you got license.
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  Speaker 2: Right, it was probably not long after that because I
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  Speaker 2: started off in Phoenix and I went through esthetics, so
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  Speaker 2: probably about another year after that, so you if you were,
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  Speaker 2: probably about nine years because then when I got here,
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  Speaker 2: I kind of reached out because you guys were doing
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  Speaker 2: something and I thought, I don't know what I thought.
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  Speaker 2: I was guided, I don't know, and I and I
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  Speaker 2: took that guidance and went that direction, even though I
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  Speaker 2: was still resisting things. But it was okay because that
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  Speaker 2: was just where I was at, And so it was
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  Speaker 2: we all kind of have the match in vibrational frequency
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  Speaker 2: to a point otherwise we would never have come together.
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  Speaker 2: It was It was all divine, all of it was.
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  Speaker 1: And some of the people that that was in the
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  Speaker 1: mix of us being connected are no longer in in
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  Speaker 1: these conversations, like not even I don't have conversations with
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  Speaker 1: them anyway, And so had some of well that the
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  Speaker 1: people that were involved at that time that there was
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  Speaker 1: discord and those relationships for me basically ended and Bev
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  Speaker 1: and I states to stay connected. So even though there
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  Speaker 1: was discord from those relationships, the outcome is this dynamic,
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  Speaker 1: incredible relationship. And so we don't always see in the
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  Speaker 1: middle of chaos the gems that that the outcome the
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  Speaker 1: rewards I feel because of so many different aspects of
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  Speaker 1: experiences that I've had in my life. I look back
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  Speaker 1: now and it's incredibly amazing how every one of those experiences, good, bad,
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  Speaker 1: or indifferent, contributed to me being where I am now
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  Speaker 1: within myself and with my relationships and so out of
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  Speaker 1: the discord, there's look for the incredible changes that are
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  Speaker 1: being revealed, and we can even take that not just
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  Speaker 1: in our own relationships, but in the world that there are.
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  Speaker 1: You may perceive it as bad, horrible, wrong. You might
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  Speaker 1: be perceiving that, but that's because that's what you're focused on.
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  Speaker 1: But if you think about, man, what good is going
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  Speaker 1: to come out of this situation, and then watch it unfold,
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  Speaker 1: it's a really fascinating story.
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  Speaker 2: It's a surrendering story, it's a letting go story. It's
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  Speaker 2: also knowing that when you're changing and you're going through
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  Speaker 2: these shifts and you're growing and expanding, that not everybody
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  Speaker 2: is going to be there like they were before. Not
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  Speaker 2: the same people are going to be there, and it's
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  Speaker 2: not a bad thing.
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  Speaker 1: It's just a changing thing.
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  Speaker 2: And it doesn't mean that they cann't show up later
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  Speaker 2: on because I don't have conversation, I'm not involved with
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  Speaker 2: anybody from our group that was part of the group before.
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  Speaker 2: It's because it's evolved and it's being okay with that,
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  Speaker 2: because it's again letting go of control and it's knowing
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  Speaker 2: that things are happening and it's just going with that flow.
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  Speaker 2: For it's always for the greater good. It always is
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  Speaker 2: because we in our groups, we no longer have our
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  Speaker 2: our families or any of that kind of stuff. We
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  Speaker 2: don't have a there's not a connection that can be
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  Speaker 2: maintained anymore because you're not vibing at the same frequency.
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  Speaker 2: And if you don't, as long as you just know
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  Speaker 2: it and you're neutral about it, you're not putting it
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  Speaker 2: as a good or a bad thing. It's just an
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  Speaker 2: evolution thing. It's awesome because I've heard so many mediums
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  Speaker 2: talk about, like because Alex Ferrari from Next Level Soul
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  Speaker 2: is always asking the questions like how do your life
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  Speaker 2: change after you came out of the spiritual closet or
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  Speaker 2: your mediumship closet or your channel closet whatever that looked like.
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  Speaker 2: And it's like, yeah, that we did lose friends, but
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  Speaker 2: you don't lose friends. You just shift. There's a vibrational
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  Speaker 2: frequency change, and it's like you can't still maintain the friendship.
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  Speaker 2: You can try, and then it becomes a struggle because
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  Speaker 2: you're trying to control it, but try to maintain those
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  Speaker 2: friendships and stuff. It's like I don't even for like
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  Speaker 2: my own family, for my stepdad. I haven't talked to
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  Speaker 2: him for over four years, and it's like, it's not
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  Speaker 2: I have a different feeling about our relationship and stuff
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  Speaker 2: like that, but it's not a relationship that I vibe with.
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  Speaker 2: It's not a friendship because it's not a friendship. It's
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  Speaker 2: not a there's not a connection, there's not a vibrational
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  Speaker 2: frequency match. And that's okay. But I don't have the
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  Speaker 2: same angst or the same hatred or the same hatred
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  Speaker 2: would be very strong. But I'm just using that as
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  Speaker 2: an example because I didn't feel hate towards this person.
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  Speaker 2: I just didn't feel that that person. I just didn't
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  Speaker 2: have the feelings. They didn't feel good. So but all
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  Speaker 2: that's shifted now and I see things differently. So it's
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  Speaker 2: like I a lot of times we'll say, oh, I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to call them up and tell them I forgive them,
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  Speaker 2: and it's like, how how asshole is does that sound?
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to call someone up and tell them, Hey,
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  Speaker 2: I forgive you, And that's not a it's not an
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  Speaker 2: out and it's not an exterior job. It's an interior thing.
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  Speaker 2: It's it's an inside job recognizing and forgiving because then
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  Speaker 2: it's also forgiving myself because I showed up and contributed
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  Speaker 2: in that relationship too. So it's like looking at all
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  Speaker 2: these relationships and knowing that it's okay to let them go.
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  Speaker 2: You don't have to hold them, hold on to them
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  Speaker 2: because it's a familiar, right. Just because it's familiar doesn't
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  Speaker 2: mean we need to stay in that same place. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: if you think about it, you might have been familiar
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  Speaker 2: with disease, you might have been familiar with cancer, you
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  Speaker 2: might have been familiar with abuse, you might but it's
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  Speaker 2: like you kind of come to terms with a lot
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  Speaker 2: of those things and you kind of move on because
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  Speaker 2: they no longer have They don't serve you in any way.
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  Speaker 2: There's nothing to learn from them or to grow from them.
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  Speaker 2: You've grown from them. And so it's knowing that I
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  Speaker 2: also know that we were all souls and we're all
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  Speaker 2: part of the same body, and there is no You
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  Speaker 2: can't disconnect, You can't you can take off the leg,
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  Speaker 2: but the energy is still there of the lair of
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  Speaker 2: that leg. That leg still has feelings, you still feel it.
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  Speaker 2: Not that I've had that as a personal experience, I've
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  Speaker 2: heard others talk about it in the same way, and
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  Speaker 2: even through going through massage and how you can mirror
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  Speaker 2: their leg in order to facilitate the feeling of that
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  Speaker 2: leg being massage so that it brings peace to that
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  Speaker 2: that person's body because the energy is still there. The
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  Speaker 2: energy never left. So it's just recognizing there's such a
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  Speaker 2: bigger picture, and it's being okay and letting go and
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  Speaker 2: then seeing what that picture looks like later on and
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  Speaker 2: not having control of it because you aren't going to
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  Speaker 2: get there with control. You're going to staminate. You're going
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  Speaker 2: to slow things down, and you're going to have a
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  Speaker 2: bigger wanting and a desire. This angst will be inside
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  Speaker 2: of you to kind of push it forward. And that's
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  Speaker 2: kind of a lot of the things that I would
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  Speaker 2: say that I felt. You know, you feel it feels
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  Speaker 2: like an angst when you're going through these processes, but
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  Speaker 2: it's okay, and it's not going to feel so bad
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  Speaker 2: when you just learn to let go of things and
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  Speaker 2: be like, Okay, I'll see you around. I'll see you
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  Speaker 2: around the you know, around the other side of the
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  Speaker 2: moon later on or something. I don't know. It's a
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  Speaker 2: small piece and ease.
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  Speaker 1: And the relationships serve their purpose. So the discord of
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  Speaker 1: the group that we were part of, the discord of
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  Speaker 1: your stepdad, the discord of the stepdad's I had was
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  Speaker 1: all part of that learning and growing, And the learning
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  Speaker 1: and growing is continuing to live in that space of
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  Speaker 1: you have to be angry at them or hate them,
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  Speaker 1: or live with the idea that they criticized you and
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  Speaker 1: judged you all the time, and so now you just
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  Speaker 1: think you're a worthless piece of shit. And here you are,
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  Speaker 1: as an adult living your life. You want to be happy,
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  Speaker 1: but because you're living by the seeds that were planted
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  Speaker 1: from these people when you were little, that you're still
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  Speaker 1: hanging on to that in your subconscious mind and you
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  Speaker 1: don't know how to be happy. So what do you
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  Speaker 1: do with that information? Well, you watch people who are happy,
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  Speaker 1: You read books about happiness, You read books about love
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  Speaker 1: and healthy relationships, You read, you listen to people who
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  Speaker 1: are coaching these types of things. They have lots and
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  Speaker 1: lots of free content on the web now, and so
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  Speaker 1: you find the information that you feel is going to
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  Speaker 1: help you along your journey and implement it. So you
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  Speaker 1: have to practice. You've got to practice in order to
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  Speaker 1: get better within yourself. If you're miserable and you want
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  Speaker 1: to be happy, you have to practice being happy, and
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  Speaker 1: that might just mean just practicing put a smile on
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  Speaker 1: your face more often and then let that smile over
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  Speaker 1: time be there longer and longer and longer periods of
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  Speaker 1: time throughout your day, and then their body starts to
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  Speaker 1: respond to that. So feeding yourself the information that's going
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  Speaker 1: to help you shift your energy, your being from what
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  Speaker 1: you are or what you have been and it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: feel good to what you want to be. You find
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  Speaker 1: the resources that's going to help you get there. If
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  Speaker 1: I hadn't found the resources to pull me out of
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  Speaker 1: the anger and the guilt and the shame and the
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  Speaker 1: fears and the judge, if I wouldn't have, if I
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  Speaker 1: would have just stayed in that mindset of that's all
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  Speaker 1: I am, that's all I will ever be, and there's
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  Speaker 1: nothing more I can do, and there's nothing more about
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  Speaker 1: life than crap. I wouldn't be here with Bev. There's
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  Speaker 1: no way her and I would have connected, not in
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  Speaker 1: this space like we are now. We might have connected
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  Speaker 1: in our in our lower we'll call lower vibrational emotions,
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  Speaker 1: We would have connected there. But if she would have
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  Speaker 1: taken the journey at that time doing what she's doing now,
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  Speaker 1: learning about spirit, learning about meditation and channeling and all
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  Speaker 1: the things. Her and I would not be friends right
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  Speaker 1: now because her and I would not have vibrationally connected anymore.
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  Speaker 1: She'd been like listen, it wouldn't even have been a conversation.
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  Speaker 1: She would have just went off onto her own life
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  Speaker 1: and doing her own thing, and I would be stuck
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  Speaker 1: in my own misery. And so the relationships serve their purpose, good, bad, indifferent.
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  Speaker 1: They serve a purpose, and you get to utilize that
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  Speaker 1: information to decide what you want to do within yourself
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  Speaker 1: and decide what type of life you want to live
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  Speaker 1: and how much joy is incorporated in that life that
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  Speaker 1: is strictly on you and your responsibility.
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  Speaker 2: It's all a choice always, which is actually probably going
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  Speaker 2: to have been a part of the conversation for all
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  Speaker 2: these videos that we've done in the last this is
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  Speaker 2: the third one, and it's because everything is a choice,
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  Speaker 2: all of the videos maybe we've ever done, it's really
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  Speaker 2: always been a choice. It's always been a choice. I
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  Speaker 2: can sit here and say I'm right, I'm right, I'm
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  Speaker 2: right about something and eliminate hearing anything else and that's
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  Speaker 2: a choice, or I can be like I'm right, but
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  Speaker 2: there's other other views, there's other perspectives, and everybody's right
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  Speaker 2: in their own ways there. I mean, really, they can
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  Speaker 2: fight for their they can argue for their own righteousness.
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  Speaker 2: But it's like it's it's just been a journey of surrendering,
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  Speaker 2: really surrendering and seeing other sides, surrendering control, surrendering and
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  Speaker 2: thinking I know what's best because I don't know what's best.
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  Speaker 2: I only know what's best from what I've learned in
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  Speaker 2: this experience, what someone else might have told me that, hey,
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  Speaker 2: you need to do this, because this is being able
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  Speaker 2: to let go. You know. One of the things that's
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  Speaker 2: popping into my mind right now. I was so much
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  Speaker 2: present with my first grandson. I was very present with
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  Speaker 2: my granddaughter, and now my third grandchild, my second grandson
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  Speaker 2: is here, and I haven't been in every part of
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  Speaker 2: his experience, and I've seen how maybe it is because
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  Speaker 2: I've not been into every part of it, but he's
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  Speaker 2: very flowing. He climbs on everything, he climbs down. I
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  Speaker 2: would have been worried about him being hurt about all
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  Speaker 2: these things. So it's like it allows him to have
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  Speaker 2: that growth, and then he's teaching me things even when
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  Speaker 2: I'm not around him all the time, and I get
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  Speaker 2: to see him and I get to have the experience
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  Speaker 2: of you know, even going to visit to pick up
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  Speaker 2: with my granddaughter and because my daughter's homeschooling, or but
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  Speaker 2: to even be able to sit there and my grandson
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  Speaker 2: climb up onto a chair, climb into my lap, turn
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  Speaker 2: around and set us back against me, get all cozy
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  Speaker 2: and just like sit and snuggle in, or even to
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  Speaker 2: climb up when I give him when I pick him up,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh hi, And how he'll just lay
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  Speaker 2: his chest, you know, lay his whole body into me
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  Speaker 2: to have that experience. Before I thought I had to
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  Speaker 2: be part of all that cool experience all the time
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  Speaker 2: because I need to be there to plant seeds, and
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  Speaker 2: I need to be there. It's divine timing and it
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  Speaker 2: all happens at the right time, and he's planting seeds
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  Speaker 2: within me with this love that he shows up and
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  Speaker 2: gives me, and with how he doesn't take anything seriously
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  Speaker 2: when someone yells or does anything, he doesn't it's not serious.
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  Speaker 2: The victim inside of me would come out before me
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  Speaker 2: like that's not right. Or whatever, and because what was
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  Speaker 2: it triggering was inside of me, is something that happened
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  Speaker 2: to me when I was a child. But he's just
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  Speaker 2: letting it roll off his back. He doesn't really care
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  Speaker 2: about that stuff. So as long as we recognize all
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  Speaker 2: this whole everything that's happening around us is for us. Really,
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  Speaker 2: it's showing us so many beautiful things depending on where
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  Speaker 2: we're looking at, depending on what we're feeding and we're
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  Speaker 2: feeding black, Are we feeding abundance? Are we you know,
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  Speaker 2: are we filling our heart up? Are we feeling like
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  Speaker 2: we're being hateful or being a victim. It's like there's
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  Speaker 2: everything's a choice, and every moment is an opportunity to
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: make a choice, every moment, and we can make a
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  Speaker 2: choice to be the one that's controlling all that and
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  Speaker 2: then miss out on things, or we can be the
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  Speaker 2: one that sits back and witnesses all of it and
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: enjoys it and fills our cups up. Because it's so
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: overflowing right now. To be able to have these experiences,
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: to be able to watch my kids how they are
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: with their kids, and to be able regardless no matter
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: how they're showing up, because they're still here and they're
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: still showing up. So it's like there's there's beauty that's
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: happening all around us all the time that we miss
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  Speaker 2: out on if we're trying to orchestrate and control and
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  Speaker 2: simulitate every single thing that's going on in our experience.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: And the and how does that control work out exactly?
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: There there's no defining words. It's just an action. That
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  Speaker 2: was it.
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  Speaker 1: I So at my my place of employment, there's a
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: lady in the that works there as well, And over
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  Speaker 1: the course of the past couple of weeks, I have
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  Speaker 1: listened to her conversations outside outside of my presence. I
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: can overhear conversations with different people. I watch her body language,
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: I listen to the words she uses, and over the
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: past couple two three weeks, I'm just like, mh, this
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  Speaker 1: is a snowball that's gonna come and you ain't gonna
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  Speaker 1: like Like I haven't said that to her, but in
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: my own internal knowing, I'm like, oh, she's she's got
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: some stuff coming and she ain't gonna like it type
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  Speaker 1: of thing, but whatever, that's her journey. And I can
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: plant seeds. But if she's not in a space to
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: receive the seeds, to nurture them. They're just they're getting
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: they're just laying on top of the soil with no water.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: They're just gonna dry up and be done. And sure enough,
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  Speaker 1: the other day she sent me a text. I didn't
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: quite understand the text, but I knew it meant In it,
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: she says she's gonna be late, and then she puts
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: some other stuff. I'm like, I don't even know what
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: this means. Well, she calls me a little bit later
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: and she's telling me and running down a list. Now,
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: this is mind you. This is by by a little
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: bit after eight am. She is running down a list
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  Speaker 1: of things that had already happened that morning, and she's
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: in tears, and it's the worst day, and it's everything's
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: bad and horrible and I and I'm this is like, okay,
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: it is not the worst day. It's not a horrible day.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: It's a moment in time where there's a little bit
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: of a hiccup and it's okay, So just take a breath.
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  Speaker 1: You're just gonna handle each segment the best you can.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: You're gonna get through it. It's gonna be okay. It's
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: all gonna work out. You gotta breathe. You gotta breathe
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: through it. If anything, you just gotta breathe through it.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: It's okay that you're not I don't take the day off,
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: take care of whatever you need to do. You work
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: a lot of hours, and it's okay, take the day.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: We're gonna survive a day without you. I mean, I
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: seriously think that was the worst thing that she was
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: seeing of was she was going to be late for work.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: I'm like, well, first of all, you're already late, it's okay.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: And second of all, if you have all this stuff
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: going on, there is no point of you being here
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: at your job. So just go doke care of what
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: you need to take care of. And then that evening,
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: that same evening, we had a funny event planned with
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: this organization that I'm in, and it was it was
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: a lot of fun. It was costumes were encouraged and
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: all the things, and and somebody had bought her like
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: a week before, a ticket to tend and so she
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: was a couple of us asked you are are you
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: going to come tonight and she was just beside hers
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: She's like, I don't know, I don't know, I'll see
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  Speaker 1: and just okay, well, she did come and I watched
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: her and she had she was laughing and having a
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: good time. And then the next day she came into
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: my office and she said, I'm really glad I came
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: last night because I had so much fun, and it
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: was it was really what I needed. And so the
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: difference in her energy was like night and day. You know,
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: part she's just a mess wrapped up in all the chaos.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: And then she went to an event that redirected her focus,
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: raised her energy, put joy in her heart, like laughter
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: and being around like almost like fifty to sixty people
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: in a room just having a great time, and it
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: just noticing. So it takes sometimes well okay, usually always anyway,
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: it takes the things that we don't like to really
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: get our attention to really like we are so in
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: it and so focused that we recognize how much it
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: sucks and we don't want to be that way. And
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: then you have these experience is so elating and fun
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: and exciting and exhilarating, and you want more of that.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: Well you've got to practice more of that if that's
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: what you want. And so just just tell that story.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: It's a little lengthy, but to tell that story so
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: people understand what you focus on. Growth, your language, your words,
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: your your body language, your emotions, your thought process. If
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: the world's against you, that's all you're going to talk about.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: That's all you're going to see. That's all you're going
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: to perceive, and that's what you're going to get. That's
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: all you're going to see. Now, if you said, you
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: know what this happened, sucked, I don't like it. I
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: want to do something different. And you start doing something different,
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: it feels good. It starts raising your vibration and put
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: a smile on your face, and you're like, I want
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: more of that. I want to keep doing more of that.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: We'll keep practicing and keep practicing, and keep practicing, and
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: then you'll see all the things that are going right,
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: all the things to be grateful for. You'll notice your
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: conversations are different. You'll notice your mindset's different. You notice
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: your physical body is different. You know your spiritual connection
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: is different. But you've got to practice what you want.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: And either way is okay, because either way you're gonna
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: learn something if you're open to learning.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's that whole story that you talked about.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: It's like you can sit and talk about the stuff
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: from the morning, which which is another way of saying
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: exactly what you said and maintain that energy. Or you
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: can talk about that the fun you had at that
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: party and how uplifting and how motivational it was and
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: how like those that could be your conversation and it
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: totally don't you forget about the other stuff. It just
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: kind of falls away, It doesn't. It never even happens.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: It's it's never even it's like, what was wrong with
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: you the day? Nothing? Nothing, well, I don't even remember.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: But it's like I had such a great night. That's
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: the focus. So it's like whatever you like you were saying,
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: but I'm just saying in different ways or along the
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: same way. It's just what if you want to focus
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: on the good that felt that same day, the same day,
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: how great it felt that evening, or how it felt
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: that morning. It's like there are two different two different
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: zip codes, like it's two different sides of the planet. Yeah,
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: it's like it so it can be whatever you want
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: it to be. And like you said, there's no right
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: or wrong. It's not it's not good or bad either
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: way because either way you're gonna evolve, and it's going
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: to create an asking withinside of you. The nighttime was
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: such a blast, it's going to create an asking for more.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: I want more. I'm giving more of that place. So
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: it's awesome.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: And as she shifted that from from the whole experience
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: and she shifts into this joyful state, then things start
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: working out. Thing exactly got better and she was more
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: relaxed and enjoying an So I was a witness to
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: all of that, and it was a reminder for me.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: And sometimes we need those reminders to be like, oh, okay,
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: I see where this is going. It's not going to
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: turn out well. All right, Well, how am I doing that?
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: How is that showing up at me? Have I been
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: doing it? Or it's a well if you do this,
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: you continue this, things snowball and it doesn't turn out well.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: Am I being intentionally focused with my energy? So it
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: was just I don't need to have the experience. Just
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: seeing it and observing it, witnessing it makes me be
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: even better with my intentions of Okay, I can continue
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: with the focus of things aren't going my way, This
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: isn't the path I thought I was going to be
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: on right purpose whatever, or I can say, you know,
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: what I'm a trust the process at the universe, because
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: everything happens for a reason, and I'm here for a reason,
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: and I'm just going to see how this unfolds and
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: be intentionally focused with my energy to practice being more
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: in a joyful state as often as possible, and embrace
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: this journey and just see where it leads life. Two
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: different perspectives, same freaking life, two different perspectives, which one
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: feels better. I'm gonna trust to process the universe and
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: enjoy the ride, keep my hands and feet the vehicle
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: at all times, because it's going to be amazing.
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: Yes, absolutely, And it takes you from one joyful thing
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: to the next joyful thing.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And the amount of people I've met, and the
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: journeys that they're on and the things that are happening
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: and the collaborations, it's just really fun to be a
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: part of all of it and witness it and see
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: things unfolding with a different perspective. So I had to
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: change in order to see life differently. And that's the
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: same for anybody listening to this or living life. You're
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: in a human body. If you want your world to change,
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: you have to change your perspective. It's true, and that's
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: the word.
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: It's a choice. I like that sea word.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: I used to get frustrated with it, but now I'm like, oh,
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: that was my choice. That's what I chose. Here we go, Yeah,
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: ride this one out.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because you become neutral to it because you've already
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: learned from it.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a lot of fun. It is all right,
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: my friends, doemmi final.
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