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John Okafor's Wife & Jasmine Clash Over Donated Funds · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of Banter
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  Laurencia. How are you all doing?
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  I hope you're doing great. Now, for today's episode I am
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  going to be talking about the situation between Mr Ibu's wife
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  and his adopted daughter Jasmine.
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  Now anybody that knows this family or if you've been
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  following Mr Ibus crisis online, you will know that himself and
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  his wife they have been at loggerheads.
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  The wife has made several videos or ran to just love accusing Mr
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  IBU of not taking care of him and all that Mister Edward the
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  other hand he has also made videos accusing the wife of
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  being money hungry even before this current medical situation.
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  Now we thought that previously when they had those problems
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  that they resolved the issue because the wife was accusing
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  Jasmine as in Mr Wolf dating Jasmine.
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  Messy messy messy messy, messy situation.
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  But they came out, they made-up online and there was a video
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  that was released. They thought, we thought that
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  you know, the Miserables family, everything is now OK and they're
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  living together until this current health challenges that
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  Mister abuse currently going through.
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  When he was in the hospital asking for donations, we saw
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  videos of Mr Abel's wife feeding him, shaving him, taking care of
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  him and you know, you know the usual thing that husband and
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  wife does and everybody thought they are coming together now
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  that he is not feeling fine to help him out.
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  I think when people started noticing cracks was when Mr
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  Abuse wife made a video saying that AGN had abandoned them.
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  They've not given her any financial assistance.
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  Now Kitten Show actually came out online and said Jasmine
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  should confirm that, you know, they have been supporting Mr
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  Ibu. Now we're just thinking, OK let
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  us just and from the video she was just talking about like he
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  just like self entitled. You know, you're supposed to do
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  this for me. You're supposed to do that for
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  me and all that. I made a video then actually
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  analysing that video that she released online.
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  And I talked about how this woman is just money hungry.
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  She's just like you have children and you're just sitting
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  down. You're not doing anything.
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  You're just waiting for people to be giving you money.
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  You're waiting for your husband that is sick to be still taking
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  care of the responsibility of the kids.
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  I had to edit out all those things.
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  I just thought this family, they are going through a lot right
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  now. There's no need for me to to
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  include all these things, you know, talking about the wife.
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  Let me just allow them. Let's talk about his current
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  health challenges and people should just help.
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  So I had to cut out all those things.
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  But ladies and gentlemen, we're just sitting down minding our
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  business thinking, OK, they've caught off Mr Abu's leg.
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  He is recovering from the several surgeries that he's had
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  and hopefully the second leg will not be cut off because they
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  were talking about flying him abroad for more medical
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  treatment. So we're just praying for Mr Ibu
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  and then just lover released a chat between Jasmine's friend
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  and Jasmine between herself and Jasmine telling discover that
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  Jasmine is going through a lot beside who's wife is fighting
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  tooth and nail for access of monies that have been donated
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  for Mr Abuse Health. According to that story, she
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  wanted to buy a car because according to her, it will help
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  her to transport, you know move herself from whom like to visit
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  Mr the hospital. It will help her to visit Miss
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  Taliban in the hospital. So when she said when those
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  chats were released, people were like kind of you were very
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  insensitive, started talking about your husband is online
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  seeking financial support to assist him.
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  One of his leg has been cut off. He's going to need medical
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  assistance for the rest of his life.
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  He's going to need rehabilitation because of his
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  age. That comes with a lot of
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  challenges. He may not be able to walk, walk
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  or walk again. So what is your your problem is
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  car through and through from hospital like 50 million.
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  She was actually requesting for 15,000,000 to buy a car.
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  So miscible did not like the way that the whole conversation was
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  going. So she released her own
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  statement saying that ohh she that was supposed to be a
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  private conversation that was not supposed to have been
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  released. That Jasmine.
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  There was no audio. I don't think I've I've heard
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  the audio but according to her Jasmine recorded that
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  conversation and released it online.
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  She said that it was herself and her brother.
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  They were just saying that oh, she, she will need a car.
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  She will need a car to transport her from home to, to ease her
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  transport to the hospital, like people could read.
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  In between the insensitivity in her tone, the entitlements and
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  according to her, the Jasmine is a stranger.
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  Her brother has been with her living in her household since
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  2013, talking about 10 years and I just I was like your brother
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  living with you. He's jobless, you're jobless.
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  You all are relying on Mr Abu who is currently sick and
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  seeking medical attention. The best thing that your brother
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  can advise you to do right now is to leave hospital first of
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  all and go and get a job so that you can take care of your kids.
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  What if this, Mr Abu, God forbid, dies?
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  What are you going to do? What are you going to do?
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  She's busy saying no. Her brother has been there.
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  Jasmine has not been there. She wants access to the money.
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  She just want transparency. She just want this.
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  More revelations came out. They said that Mississippi
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  they've not been talking terms for months now.
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  And Mr Abu actually left the house and was sleeping on the
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  couch in a friend's house. So it was not like the family
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  was OK. They were not in good terms.
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  But because of the situation, Jasmine begged me Sibiu to allow
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  Mississippi U to you know, just for optics.
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  So she came to the hospital. I think that was when she was
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  feeding her husband and all those kind of things.
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  But now she's feeling like I am the wife.
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  I should have access to the money.
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  I should have this, I should have that.
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  I should even said she wanted money to do and Yash this is
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  what they wanted to do. Bom bom.
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  She wanted BL. In fact they said that somebody
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  came to visit Mr Ibu and wanted to donate money.
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  But because Jasmine was not there ohh she said she needed
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  some money. She gave her own account number.
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  The money was 1,000,000 was paid into her account.
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  She refused to bring that money. She said she had bills to pay.
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  The next day she came with a fake bomb Bomb.
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  You give me the thing, boom, boom.
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  She said that she's still young. Go.
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  She need money to maintain her lifestyle.
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  She need money to do this. And she like the insensitivity.
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  And according to people, she sold the cars, Mr Able car.
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  That was why she was asking for money to buy cars.
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  She has already sold off this man's car.
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  She was even planning to sell the house they were living in
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  because she said she needed money.
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  And I'm just looking at this whole thing, I said.
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  Even if she saw this house now and they give you the money
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  because you're not working, in the next 2-3 years, you're still
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  going to come online and start begging.
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  Hey Mr Mr Abuse kids, they are not in school.
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  They are not this. They are not that.
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  I look at this whole thing and I'm like Mary right to, because
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  I see a lot of people who say I want to, I want to be
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  breadwinner. I want to marry somebody that is
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  not working. I want to marry somebody that I
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  can provide for. I don't want to marry a career
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  woman. I don't want to marry a what if
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  I marry somebody that has a career now?
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  How are we going to do the family?
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  If I marry somebody now that is any more than me and she's going
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  to new me down or she's going to disrespect me.
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  She's not going to be submissive.
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  She's not going to do this. She's not going to do that.
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  And then you marry somebody. I mean marry somebody who
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  doesn't have a job at that time. There's no problem with that.
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  But marrying the mentality or somebody who says I need to be
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  provided for, I need to be taken care of, I need my man to do
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  everything for me. I'll tell my friends, family,
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  brothers, sisters, the the danger there is the mentality.
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  Because if you look at Mr B's wife now, the mentality is my
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  husband should provide for me. I want to live a certain
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  standard or when you married me this was my expectation and I
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  expect you in sickness or in health to be able to provide
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  that standard for me. That is the dangers according to
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  her. She said when she got married to
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  Mr Ibu, Mr who said she should not work, she should just sit
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  down and take care of the kids. I can understand at that point
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  he was making money. Well, right now you're looking
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  at your husband. Your husband is in a seabed
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  begging for money online to be able to take care of his medical
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  bills and after care he's going to require aftercare for the
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  rest of his life. And all you could think about is
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  boom boom. Or you could think about is 50
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  million car. Or you could think about is
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  maintaining your life that you are still a baby girl go and get
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  a job. I was with a few friends and
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  we're talking about, you know, what do women bring to the
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  table. Yeah, I know this conversation
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  as you know, very long time, but when you hear what do women
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  bring to the table, You have two different group of people.
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  You have the ones that said they want.
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  Like a woman will say, I'm bringing my vajayjay to the
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  table. But even if you're bringing that
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  to the table, what are you? Can you take care of yourself?
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  Because at the end of the day, it is if you marry somebody that
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  has not ever taken the responsibility of catering for
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  themselves, not to talk of extending that to maybe the
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  children, to maybe the family, to maybe you as a husband, in
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  case anything happens, there is a danger there.
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  Now that does not mean you cannot marry somebody who is
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  just fresh out of school, who is not working.
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  It is the mentality. It is the mentality.
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  You know, I have cousins, have brothers, I have nephews that I
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  will tell. Listen, you want to get married,
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  the first thing I will ask you is what is she doing?
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  It's not about what money she will bring to the table, but
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  it's just about responsibility. See, if you see somebody who is
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  above 25 and they are not working and they're not doing
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  anything, that person, it's it's a mentality.
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  Something. It's it's all about mentality.
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  Even if you're 25 and you're still in school and you're
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  telling me and you're a student, you're not doing anything.
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  It's a mentality thing. It's not about the job.
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  It's about the mentality. And then you now marry that
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  person thinking, OK, I have money now I can take care of
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  you. You don't have to do anything.
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  You're not thinking about the future.
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  What if they cut off your leg? What if they cut off your hand?
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  What if you lose your job? What if you fall sick?
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  Can that person wake up in the morning, go out there, get a job
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  to cater for the family? Or will that person just be
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  like, oh hey, so when I married you, this was not what I
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  expected. I expected you to take care of
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  everything just the way that Mister's wife is doing.
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  He took care of her, not just her, because according to her,
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  the younger brother has been in the house since 2013, for over
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  10 years now, and he has not gotten a job.
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  According to her, he helps out with things in the house and
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  herself. She's not working.
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  This is the mentality. This is the the, the, the
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  enabling environment that we all support and breathe.
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  Because you're going to say, oh, I cannot marry somebody who's a
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  career woman. No.
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  And she's going to. I'm going out.
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  She's going out. No, that's not going to work.
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  Have you thought about the future One day?
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  You're not going to be there. How are your kids going to be
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  taken care of? One day you're going to lose
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  your job. What is going to happen to the
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  responsibilities in your family? Is your wife going to happily
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  wake up dust whatever CV or dust whatever dust have behind and go
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  out there to get a job? Who should do it?
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  Or will she be like, ah, go and beg you, ask you and your
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  friends, Ask your family, ask this one.
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  Bring money. I am just here to take care of
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  the children. Is that the mentality that you
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  want? There are so many Mr Abu or
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  Mississippi out there and there are younger people who are still
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  going to fall into that category or fall into that situation.
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  I am not saying don't marry. You know you must marry for
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  money. In fact, I am saying marry for
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  money, married for more new, marry for money.
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  But as you'll marry for money, make sure that you yourself, you
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  may not have money but you have the, the, the it's about.
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  It's a mindset thing. It's a mindset thing because
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  some people will tell you, oh I cannot do it. 5000 job, how much
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  is 5005 thousand is not going to do me anything.
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  And they will sit down and no work.
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  But you see somebody else go out there and work for 3000 knowing
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  that OK, I am earning 3000 today, there's a possibility
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  that tomorrow is going to be 5000.
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  There's a possibility that OK, I am just doing this the tomorrow
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  somebody can tell me ohh your energy, this amount of money I
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  will pay you this amount of money you put yourself out
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  there, but you see those ones that will be like, no, my mom
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  must take care of you, my brother.
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  If my brother choose to go out marry that kind of person, that
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  is his business. I would just sit there and be
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  looking. I will see that because
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  definitely I will say something. Before that, I would definitely
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  say something. But you choose.
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  You know you are, you are Mr and Mississippi will be dealing with
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  that situation. I will not.
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  I will not. In fact, I will not lose sleep.
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  I will not lose sleep. Let us learn from things.
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  Don't go and marry missus ebu. Don't go and marry missus IBU.
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  Regardless of how much you're making, make sure that your wife
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  is out there doing one or two things, like you doing
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  something. You don't know what's going to
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  happen to you. You don't know if you're going
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  to lose a limb, you don't know if you're going to lose your
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  job. You don't know if something's
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  life. And it's an example that will be
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  setting for the next generation. When people hear generational
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  curse, they will think it is well, old woman cooking
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  something, turning everything and putting people's name in
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  that port. No, it is what your kids that
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  they are going to emulate and if missus IBU and Mr Ibu these are
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  the example they are setting for their children, this is it is
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  going to pass on to the next generation and the next
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  generation. Until somebody break that cycle
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  it will. It's a vicious cycle.
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  It's a vicious cycle that keeps the poor, poor and the rich
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  getting richer. Like I said, we can only learn
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  from these things. We are looking at that
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  generation. Our thinking oh this is far off
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  Mr Abu Mississippi is this but a lot of missus IBU are sitting
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  down keyboard warriors criticising her but they are in
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  the same situation. They don't get it because the
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  husband right now is providing everything and he hasn't
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  registered that they are in the same situation.
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  It hasn't registered anyway. We can only advise people we
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  cannot possible to do anything. You have a choice.
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  You have the right to do whatever you want to do.
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  All you can do is come out online and cry and beg.
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  Those that can help you will help you.
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  Those that cannot help you will pray for you.
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  I wish you all the best because there are kids involved in this
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  whole mess and there's an it's very sick, you know Legend and
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  we're praying for his quick recovery.
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  Both at the end of the day learn from these things.
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  It's about the lessons. Learn.
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