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359: Mindset Shift to Attract More Money · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Lano.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Lano.
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  And today we're going to talk about money.
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  It's just you and me.
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  We're going to have this little chat about something that I see with
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  people everywhere, quite honestly.
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  Friends and family I see it with.
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  I used to fight with this a lot myself, and I certainly see it with people
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  who come into our program, sometimes people who have clarity calls with me.
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  I see this, and this is one of those things that is so simple
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  that we tend to bypass it.
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  We don't really give it the attention it deserves, and it's to our detriment.
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  When I made this shift, and we're going to talk about a mindset shift that's
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  going to shift you from chasing money.
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  And feeling like you struggle with money to attracting more money.
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  This is about getting into a frequency, into an energy of receiving, into a
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  friendly energy with money, rather than being in a repelling energy with
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  money, which is where most people are.
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  So, this is one of those things that's almost too simple.
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  that most people will not do it.
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  That when I say it to you, you're probably going to say those four little words
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  that are killing your business right now, because I hear this from so many people.
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  And those four little words are, I already know that.
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  Beginner's mind is one of those things that when you can cultivate it, it
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  doesn't mean that you are throwing out any knowledge that you have.
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  You are just coming with a much more open heart.
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  And your past isn't really causing trouble in your today.
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  That you are able to actually grab and take in wisdom on a new level when
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  you come with that beginner's mind.
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  But most of us aren't doing that, and usually it's because we're afraid.
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  Usually because we're afraid that it won't work, it won't work fast enough.
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  Oh, I knew that!
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  I need something new!
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  But here's the thing, it's not about what you know.
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  It's about what you will implement.
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  What are you doing?
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  So that's the first question that I have to ask you right now, is I just want
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  you to take some stock at this moment.
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  And I want you to ask you, Do I have everything that I want?
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  Are you sublimely happy?
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  Do you have everything that you want in life?
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  Are you not looking for anything more?
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  Do you feel completely and totally content and happy with where you
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  are in all aspects of your life?
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  Now, we're going to talk about money, but it can be about love.
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  It could be about relationships.
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  It could be about different types of opportunities.
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  Community could be about so many other things.
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  So just expand that if that helps you.
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  But are you a hundred percent giving yourself like a hundred percent
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  in every aspect of your life?
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  If you are fantastic.
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  First of all, Call me and tell me how you're doing that, because I will
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  come with my beginner's mind and I will be open to whatever you say.
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  But if you're not, then there's room here, right?
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  There's room for improvement.
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  So that first question that I have for you, though, is what
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  do you know but aren't doing?
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  Now, that's not even the thing that we're going to talk about today, but that in and
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  of itself is can be a life changing shift.
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  If you just actually sat back and said, what are the things that I'm taking for
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  granted that I know already, that they aren't sexy or new, or you read a book and
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  you're like, ah, I knew that already, but you don't actually do anything with it.
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  I want you to take stock of that just for a moment right here.
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  What do you know, but aren't doing?
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  What do you know, but you aren't implementing?
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  This happens a lot.
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  I mean, it happens in both areas.
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  It happens with strategy.
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  We're trying to get a new thing.
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  We try it.
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  We do it.
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  Maybe we do it halfway.
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  We don't really go all in on it.
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  And then we say that didn't work and we moved on.
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  That happens.
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  Sure.
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  But in the energetic stuff, I see this constantly, because first
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  of all, we are all, 70 percent of the world has an open head center.
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  So we are all consuming and taking in and taking in and taking in and always
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  looking for that next new thing, that new idea that's going to make us believe.
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  That it will change our lives because that's really all we're looking for.
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  We are so addicted to that dopamine hit of the new tip, the new
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  thing, the one thing, the secret.
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  But we don't actually see it through.
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  Where we actually make it enough of a practice to actually
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  experience the benefit of that tip, that secret, that aha.
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  We're addicted to the ahas, but I don't know about you.
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  I can't eat ahas, I can't pay my bills with ahas.
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  So I love them, but I need to actually see something tangible come from them.
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  That's the game I'm in.
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  And that's what we're going to talk about today.
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  So I want to ask you, what do you know but aren't implementing?
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  What do you know but aren't doing?
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  I guarantee you there's stuff.
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  I guarantee you there are Instagram carousels that you saved and
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  quote posts and things like that.
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  You've liked them, you've commented them, you've said, go girl, you have
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  saved them in some little collection in Instagram, but you haven't actually
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  done the work to really implement it.
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  And I see this a lot, and I used to do it.
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  Guys, really, anything that I say to you on this show, for
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  the most part, I have done.
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  Every mistake that I call out, I can see it because I've done it.
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  And I know it's a mistake because I'm on the other side of it, and
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  I say, Oh, actually, if you fix that, you're gonna fix a lot.
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  if you can really implement that, that's gonna move the needle.
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  So, I never say this with arrogance.
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  Anything I'm saying to you, I'm saying with So much understanding of being in
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  that place, which is why I always say I'm not calling you out, I'm calling you up.
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  This is an opportunity, right?
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  But most people that I talk to are struggling with money in some way.
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  They want more than they currently have, so even if you are, I want
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  more than I currently have, so I'm always striving for more.
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  However, there's an energy to people who are having trouble with it, and an energy
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  to the people who are like, of course it's coming, of course it's happening.
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  And even, and I get it, when it doesn't seem, when the proof isn't there
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  yet, it can be difficult to believe.
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  You might be saying to yourself, it's coming, it's coming, I'm
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  attracting money, I'm attracting money, I'm attracting money.
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  I'm doing the thing, it's coming, it's coming, it's coming, but deep down inside,
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  you know, when we don't have evidence, it can be difficult to believe, and again,
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  I know that because I've been there, I've been in that situation where I've
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  been working on the believing, but I'm not really seeing the tangible proof
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  or results from all of that believing.
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  So I had to come back and ask myself a question at one point, and this was
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  a huge mindset energetic shift for me.
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  Which was, I had to notice, first of all, the frequency within my body around money.
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  That I did have to look around and notice that when money came up, I'm a hider.
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  That was my attachment style with money.
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  I avoided.
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  I didn't want to look at my bank account.
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  I didn't want to look at my bills.
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  I didn't want to look at anything that might be coming down the road.
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  I did not want to face it.
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  And I would hide.
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  That's your first clue there.
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  If you're not facing it head on or when you open your bank account, if
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  you kind of flinch, if you're scared, if you feel, pay attention to your
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  body, pay attention to what you feel because that's telling you something
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  about your relationship with money.
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  And that relationship with money is going to seep into the ways you make money.
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  It's going to make you more or less effective at the things that you do.
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  Because you're either in the energy of what you want or you're in the
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  energy of what you don't want.
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  So let's talk about that because this is the shift.
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  This shift, like I said, it's probably going to sound so simple that you're
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  going to say, I've heard that before.
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  And I'm going to say, I don't care what you've heard.
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  I care what you're doing.
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  And this is a call to be observant of what you're doing in this way.
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  Okay.
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  So this is the shift that I'm calling out here.
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  This is the shift that'll take you from chasing money to attracting money.
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  This is the shift that will take you.
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  This is the foundation of money mindset to me.
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  This was what changed it to me.
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  Okay, and this is paying attention to asking yourself at least am
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  I Focusing on what I want or am I focusing on what I don't want?
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  Sounds simple, right?
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  I know but let me go a little bit further when you are focusing on the bills
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  When you're focusing on the debt, when you're focusing on how scared you are
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  about money, when you're focusing on the clients that aren't coming in, when you're
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  focusing on what other people are getting and you're not getting, when you're
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  focusing on the fact that someone didn't write you back, that you sent a link to.
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  With the payment link for your program, now you're scared.
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  When you are focusing on they didn't write, they didn't call, they didn't sign
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  up, no one's writing, no one's calling, no one's clicking the links, no one's paying.
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  When you're focused on that, you will get more of that.
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  So, people might say, what do I do?
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  That's the reality, it's not coming in, and I am scared,
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  and I do have bills to pay.
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  And I'm saying that the game starts here.
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  The money game starts here, because money, playing the energetic game
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  with money, is not the same as playing the reality game with money.
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  And if you're playing the reality game with money where it's all about what's
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  happening in the physical world, then circumstance will always rule you.
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  When a payment doesn't come through for someone in my program or something,
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  payment fails or something like that.
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  I might have an initial like, Oh no, they have to pay, what's gonna happen?
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  And my mind used to go to, Well, if they don't pay now, and what
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  if they don't pay next month?
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  And then, what if they default, and what if they try to get out of their contract?
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  And then I lose that, and that's my recurring revenue.
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  That's what I used to do.
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  And you know what?
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  A lot of people defaulted.
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  A lot of people left my programs.
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  A lot of people freaked out, And, you know, left and didn't pay.
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  And left me with holding the bag there, a program, or things that I put together
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  and developed resources for, and hired people to support, and they just bailed.
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  Not fair.
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  Absolutely not.
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  And they did it for their reasons.
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  Sure, I get it.
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  But for me, now I don't do that.
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  I'm in really clean energy around that.
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  I don't focus on that.
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  I immediately, now I'll catch myself.
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  So I'm not going to say I'm human.
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  When it comes to her, it's like, Oh no, like there's a little
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  like, Oh no, they didn't pay.
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  But instead now I go to either, I think of somebody new joining and taking over
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  that, like just coming in and I'm either adding revenue that covers that payment
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  or I shift to seeing that person pay.
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  How good it'll feel when they pay.
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  And I shift to how good it will feel to know that they were able to make it work
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  within their own finances to pay this bill that they have to hold their obligation.
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  To show up, to continue to show up, I shift my energy because
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  I don't want the non payment.
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  If I put my energy on the non payment, I will get more of that.
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  I'm in the energy of it's not working.
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  But if I shift and I go the other way and I say, it'll feel so
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  good when this is paid, I'm good.
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  I'm always supported.
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  And I shift to what I do want.
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  How would it feel if somebody new came in today?
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  Oh, wouldn't it be great if somebody new came in?
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  Paid, absorbed that payment, so I never, it was like I never had a failed
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  payment, and then what if that person then pays, and then I made more money?
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  It's a game.
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  Energetically, it's a game.
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  And when I started to make that shift, and I definitely started
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  out in the camp of like, if it were that easy, I'd be rich by now.
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  But the truth was when I looked at it, yes, I had heard it before,
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  but I absolutely was not doing it.
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  I was focused on the debt.
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  I was focused on the, what wasn't happening.
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  I was focused on what I did not want.
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  That was where my attention was.
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  That was where my energy was.
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  And that was why I continued to get that over and over and over again.
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  I practically never have defaulted payments anymore.
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  Anymore than like, you know, if it fails, but it gets, it passes again right away.
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  I have a wonderful relationship with everybody in my programs, and it's
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  just, this is an energetic shift.
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  There are other things that we do strategically to support that.
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  I do the work.
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  I sell things.
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  I do launches.
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  I have this show.
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  I sell products.
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  I remind you of things like that I do human design readings that you could
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  book with me right now just by DMing me the word reading on Instagram,
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  and I'm at NicoleLenoOfficial.
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  I say things like that so that I support the fact that we have
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  to meet the universe halfway.
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  We want money?
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  Okay, well we've got to make sure that we have channels.
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  Built so that the universe can deliver us money through them.
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  And when you start playing the energetic game with all that strategy, you start
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  to see money actually come through those without you having to work as hard.
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  But like I said, we have to meet the universe halfway.
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  We can't just sit around and just get into the energy of what we want.
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  Although it will be easier if you're doing that work.
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  They complement each other.
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  So, can you take a moment to just say if you're not in the greatest
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  place with money, if you don't feel like money is coming into your life,
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  and you're so focused on what isn't working with it, Can you notice that?
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  Can you say, I really am focusing on what I don't want.
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  I do not feel supported by money.
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  I do not feel like it's coming to me, and I'm actively in
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  the fear of that all the time.
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  I remember this, I had that feeling, I remember writing in my
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  journal, I feel dominated by money.
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  And there was just this like a big heavy weight, and I knew that that
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  wasn't what it was supposed to be.
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  So, I did a lot of deep work around that, but the deep work was to allow me
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  to actually have enough space to unlock some of those shadows and get out of
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  those dark places with money where money felt so big and so dominating over me.
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  I don't really have a better word.
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  It felt like that.
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  It felt like it was suffocating me.
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  It felt like a heavy weight pushing me down and like I would never let it go.
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  Get ahead of it.
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  I would never get above it, but I had asked myself like that's
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  not ultimately true this is a story that feels true to me.
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  So I did the money tappings I did that deep work.
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  We have money programs as well You can get them on my website, but I did all of
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  that work But doing that deeper work was to open me up So that I could be in a
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  place that I actually could focus on what I wanted But you can start doing that now.
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  Maybe you don't need all that deep work that I had to go through.
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  Maybe you have to just make it a practice to ask yourself, am I focusing on what
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  I want or what I don't want right now?
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  And when you notice that you're focusing on what you don't want, can
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  you shift it to what you do want?
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  Can you take the same situation and instead of looking at it like
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  there's a storm coming or like you are dominated, can you look at it
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  through some rosier colored glasses?
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  I promise you, this changes things.
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  And I promise you that if you already know it, and it's not working for
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  you, then please ask yourself, I guarantee you, you are probably not
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  implementing it, not in a consistent way.
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  And again, that's not to call you out, that is to call you up.
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  All of this is available to us, the energy work.
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  is available to all of us.
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  So, I'm gonna leave this here.
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  I hope that you love the episode.
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  I hope that this shift is something that you will not just hear and have, like, a
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  good, warm feeling and aha moment with.
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  And actually, I hope that you will implement it in your life.
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  Start to see real change in your life as a result of it.
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  Okay?
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  So thank you so much for being here.
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  I appreciate you.
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  And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must
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  first become an unshakable human.
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  So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design, everybody.
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  We'll see you next time.
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