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Season 4 - Episode 292 - The Mirror Exercise! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. We are going to do a mirror
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  exercise today. I know that may saying like, oh
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  God, what is she going to have us do?
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  However, this is an interesting exercise if you've never seen
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  this before. I most people don't do it, so
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  we'll see. OK it's an old school one that I
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  heard many, many years ago. I've never forgotten it and I do
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  it often and I don't know why I've never brought it up before,
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  but this morning I did this and I was like, OK, let me share.
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  So basically when you walk in and you look at yourself in the
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  mirror, there are a couple things that typically happen.
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  You look at yourself quickly because you don't like what you
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  see. Or you go, oh geez, my hair is a
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  mess or oh God, my wrinkles, I've got bags.
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  And the whole time you're looking at yourself in the
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  mirror, you're being super critical.
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  Like you're really picking yourself apart.
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  That's what most of us do. I'm not saying everybody does
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  this, but that was that's what most of us do, especially women.
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  We are very good at doing that. Like that is hands down a woman
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  thing we do. A lot of guys go in and they
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  look at themselves. And if anybody remembers the
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  movie Notting Hill, in the scene where the reporters are all
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  outside the the flat and inside, Julia Roberts is hiding, and it
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  is Hugh Grant's roommate that stands there.
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  And he's like, oh, they're out front, He tells him.
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  And before he goes back outside, he's in the mirror looking at
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  himself. His hair is a mess.
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  He looks terrible. He's got on tighty whities and
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  they're dirty. And he looks in the mirror and
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  he goes not bad, not bad at all. He just walks out like that to
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  everybody. And I think his name was Spike
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  in the in the movie. But in any event, which is
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  hysterical because he's looking at himself and he's a mess and
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  he doesn't even think about it. But that tends to be the male
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  persuasion of our species does that.
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  And the women tend to be more critical.
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  But the mirror exercise is interesting because even during
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  that time, if you're, if you're standing there and you're
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  realizing what am I saying to myself energetically in that
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  moment, you might not be saying these things out loud, but
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  you're being super critical of yourself and you don't ever have
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  that look that says I'm going to care for this person.
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  I'm looking the eyes or the windows of the soul.
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  We've all heard that. So here we are using our eyes to
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  be super critical and say something and it and it just
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  sucks. Like let's just face it, it
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  sucks. So A twist on this is to stand
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  in the mirror and look at yourself and don't say a word
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  and don't smile or anything and just look and try to be neutral
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  and then actually smile. Just stand there and smile at
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  yourself and you can feel the energy shift.
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  Now granted, you may still see lines, you may still see Gray
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  hair, you may still look a mess from whatever your opinion is.
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  But when you smile, something happens and you you feel
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  different. You just feel differently
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  energized. Then you stop and you go back to
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  not smiling. And then you make yourself look
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  sad, like actually look sad and feel the difference.
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  Feel how there's a there's a look.
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  Then you can practice making all different kinds of looks.
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  Snarky looks like puzzled looks, curious looks, and you see how
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  you actually appear in all these different views of yourself.
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  And I guarantee you at the end of the exercise, you feel so
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  different because one, you've seen how you look to other
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  people when you're being a certain way.
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  So if you have what you would consider that, you know, I, I
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  heard had a client the other day, which is always interesting
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  when someone says it's me, I have resting bitch face and I'm
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  like, no, you don't have resting bitch face.
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  And so she took a picture of herself to send it to me.
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  And I was like, but you have control over what you see in
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  this. You can actually start to think
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  to yourself that you are happy. You've been telling yourself you
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  have this for how long? And she said years.
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  And I said, OK, so you've basically created that.
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  So breaking that down is important.
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  And you can do that by thinking to yourself, OK, I'm going to
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  smile. Many years ago, when I was very
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  much in the first, you know, years of life with my husband,
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  he said to me, sometimes you get so focused when you walk in the
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  room it you look so serious. And I was like, I do because in
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  my head I wasn't being serious. It was just I was busy in my
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  head and he's like, it would be great if you walked in and you
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  just smiled at me. And I never forgot that.
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  So when I see him, I conditioned myself to smile.
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  Now, not every time because there are times when he pisses
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  me off. My friends, however, the
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  majority of the time, I really work on doing that because when
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  you smile at someone, someone smiles at you.
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  So we're going to practice this mirror exercise.
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  So I'm going to encourage you to go do this and see what you
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  learn, see how you feel and truly dive into it because it
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  will make you feel different. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.