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My best friend split costs UNFAIRLY for years... I finally had enough! -r/AITH | Reddit Stories | EP3155 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 3: My best friend's split costs unfairly for years. I finally
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  Speaker 3: had enough. I'm done with you. I, 28 female, single,
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  Speaker 3: and childless, have been friends with my best friend, mid-30s female,
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  Speaker 3: for almost 10 years. She has two young kids. We've
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  Speaker 3: always been very close. I love her kids like my own.
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  Speaker 3: I visit them, talk to them on video calls, and
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  Speaker 3: I show up for birthdays, graduations, and special occasions, even
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  Speaker 3: when I'm not financially comfortable. I genuinely care about them
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  Speaker 3: and our friendship. Recently, I started a new job that
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  Speaker 3: pays better, and I've been trying to be more intentional
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  Speaker 3: with my money and save for some big life goals.
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  Speaker 3: The issue is that when we hang out, the financial
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  Speaker 3: setup has always been very split everything equally, transport, food, outings.
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  Speaker 3: For example, if we book a ride that costs $ 100,
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  Speaker 3: she'll suggest we split it 50-50, even though she's traveling
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  Speaker 3: with her two kids and sometimes a sitter. So effectively,
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  Speaker 3: it's four people on her side and just me on mine.
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  Speaker 3: The same thing happens when we eat out. We split
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  Speaker 3: the bill evenly, even though most of the food is
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  Speaker 3: for her kids. And I don't really consume much of
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  Speaker 3: what's ordered for them. See, that's where I'm like, no,
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  Speaker 3: you should pay for your kids. Or we should just
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  Speaker 3: pay for, like, what we ate.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, just be like, oh, could we? Get the check separate.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia. I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Riley.
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  Speaker 3: And we're here to give good advice youthfully, but we
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  Speaker 3: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
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  Speaker 3: So let us know what you would do in the comments. Lately,
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  Speaker 3: I've started feeling uncomfortable with this setup. Not because I
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  Speaker 3: don't love spending time with them, but because financially, it
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  Speaker 3: doesn't make sense.
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  Speaker 4: For me anymore.
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  Speaker 3: Especially as I'm trying to save and plan for my future.
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  Speaker 3: Because of that, I've been declining some of her invitations
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  Speaker 3: to go out. Swimming, lunch, dinners, etc. Since I already know,
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  Speaker 3: it will likely mean splitting all costs equally, despite the
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  Speaker 3: imbalance in the number of people. I haven't confronted her
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  Speaker 3: about it yet because I don't want to hurt her
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  Speaker 3: feelings or damage our friendship, but I also don't want
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  Speaker 3: to keep putting myself in a situation where I feel
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  Speaker 3: financially drained or taken for granted. So I guess my
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  Speaker 3: question is, am I the a-hole for not wanting to
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  Speaker 3: hang out anymore because I don't want to keep splitting
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  Speaker 3: costs equally when she's bringing her kids and sit her along?
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  Speaker 3: I have an answer, but I want to hear yours first.
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  Speaker 4: I think you're the a-hole for avoiding her.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 4: I agree completely.
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  Speaker 3: Opie just said, I never confronted her.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I think you're the a-hole for being like, hey, just
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  Speaker 4: going forward, I just want to be transparent about this.
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  Speaker 4: Because I love our friendship. I love the kids. I
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  Speaker 4: don't want anything to be weird or, you know, wrong
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  Speaker 4: with us. But I can't keep doing the 50-50 and
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  Speaker 4: I feel like I'm paying for your kids.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And like, you know, maybe sometimes I won't mind that.
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  Speaker 4: But like for most of the time, though, I do want.
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  Speaker 4: I do want to just pay for myself.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's so reasonable to say.
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  Speaker 4: My friends are not paying for my family.
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 3: And if your friend then says like, no, I don't
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  Speaker 3: think that's fair. You should pay 50-50. Then yes, cut
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  Speaker 3: her off.
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  Speaker 1: It adds up though. Yeah. It adds up.
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  Speaker 3: But OP can't say, well, I don't want to hurt
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  Speaker 3: her feelings while actively avoiding her.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Because it's not solving it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: But there's an update.
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  Speaker 3: First, I wanted to add some context because I think
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  Speaker 3: it explains why my friend was so comfortable splitting costs
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  Speaker 3: the way we always have. We met before she had
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  Speaker 3: kids when we were both single and child-free. We did
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  Speaker 3: everything together, traveling, going out for coffee, dinners, swimming, parties, shopping,
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  Speaker 3: and splitting the bill 50-50 made perfect sense because everything
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  Speaker 3: was just for the.
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  Speaker 1: Two of us.
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  Speaker 3: We're also living overseas, away from our families, so over
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  Speaker 3: the years we became much more than friends. We consider
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  Speaker 3: each other sisters. I grew up without a sister and
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  Speaker 3: so did she. I'm basically auntie to her kids, not
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  Speaker 3: just mom's friend. Our relationship has always been one where
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  Speaker 3: what's mine is hers and vice versa. So I understand
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  Speaker 3: why she never really questioned continuing our old dynamic. The
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  Speaker 3: problem is that our lives have changed. She's now married
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  Speaker 3: with kids and part of a two-income household. We actually
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  Speaker 3: earn similar incomes individually. But I pay all of my
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  Speaker 3: own expenses by myself, while she is a partner to
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  Speaker 3: share household costs with.
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  Speaker 1: But she also has kids, so I don't think they're
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  Speaker 1: still having to pay the same amount. Yeah, probably. I believe.
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  Speaker 3: I genuinely believe she's in a much better financial position
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  Speaker 3: than I am. And I started realizing that continuing to
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  Speaker 3: split expenses the same way, especially when outings now include
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  Speaker 3: her children, was becoming difficult for me financially. I'm also
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  Speaker 3: very non-confrontational.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, Pee!
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  Speaker 3: Put your big girl pants on and go talk to her.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. You're pissing me off.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 5: Shouldn't she talk to her, Savannah? Shouldn't she have an
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  Speaker 5: actual conversation with this person, Savannah? Don't you believe that?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I do believe that. Yes, and why are they
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  Speaker 1: doing it? Why aren't they doing it?
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  Speaker 4: I especially believe it because you guys are friends. And
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  Speaker 4: if you're as close as friends where you're like sisters,
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  Speaker 4: I'm calling my sister out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, man.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, so you call your sister out. But let's say
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  Speaker 5: they're kind of acquaintances and they see each other often.
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  Speaker 5: Shouldn't she still- What is this.
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  Speaker 4: In relation to?
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  Speaker 2: I'm just asking.
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  Speaker 4: He's talking about my roommate.
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  Speaker 1: What? No, I'm not.
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  Speaker 5: I'm just asking you a genuine question. Nothing to do
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  Speaker 5: with your life. Nothing to do with any part.
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  Speaker 1: Of your life.
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  Speaker 3: I am the type of person who goes along with
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  Speaker 3: things even when I'm uncomfortable. So instead of speaking up,
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  Speaker 3: I just started declining invitations because I didn't want to
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  Speaker 3: come home regretting how much I'd spent. After reading everyone's comments,
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  Speaker 3: I finally.
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  Speaker 4: Talked to her.
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  Speaker 6: Ah!
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  Speaker 4: There's a little bit left, though.
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  Speaker 2: Now I'm here.
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  Speaker 4: And look where it can get you. And look where
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  Speaker 4: we are now.
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  Speaker 3: She invited me on another outing this weekend and I
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  Speaker 3: was honest. I told her I'm saving towards some important
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  Speaker 3: goals and that going forward I'll have to be more
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  Speaker 3: mindful with my money. If I can afford to join,
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  Speaker 3: I will.
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  Speaker 4: If I can't, I'll say no.
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  Speaker 3: If there's a cheaper way for me to meet them,
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  Speaker 3: like taking the bus while they Uber.
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  Speaker 4: I'll do that instead. Oh, okay, okay. Okay, so you
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  Speaker 4: are honest. Very nice. So then it's going to work
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  Speaker 4: out then.
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  Speaker 3: She was incredibly understanding.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, good. Because I was like, if she's going to
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  Speaker 4: be like, whatever, then I'd be like, okay, not a friend.
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  Speaker 4: Now I understand why you didn't want to confront her.
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  Speaker 1: And why you've been splitting this whole time. Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 3: She told me as she was happy I was prioritizing
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  Speaker 3: my goals, that the kids love and miss me, and
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  Speaker 3: that if I can't come, she'll simply tell them I'm busy.
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  Speaker 3: She also suggested that going forward, we could look for
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  Speaker 3: more budget-friendly activities so we can still spend time together.
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  Speaker 1: Aw, that's a friend! Duh!
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  Speaker 3: Wait, but... To my understanding, the activities weren't the problem.
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  Speaker 3: It was just that OP was splitting them 50-50.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, the problem has not been solved. Dang it.
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  Speaker 4: And that's what happens to me. Whenever I do speak up,
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  Speaker 4: they take it a different way.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm like, and then you have to clarify. No,
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  Speaker 3: I can't afford those.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just like, whatever.
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  Speaker 5: It's called focusing on the slice of cake. It's like,
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  Speaker 5: let's get back to this slice of the cake.
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  Speaker 4: I would just say, well, I tried and she didn't
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  Speaker 4: get it. So I guess it's.
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  Speaker 1: Just still the same.
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  Speaker 4: Or maybe OP couldn't afford it. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: You got a lot of work to do, kiddo.
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  Speaker 3: So thankfully, everything worked out. We have a much better
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  Speaker 3: understanding of each other's situation now. And I think our
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  Speaker 3: friendship will be healthier because of it.
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  Speaker 4: And that's the end. Yay.
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  Speaker 1: I'm clapping up and down with no hands. Yay.
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  Speaker 4: What?
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  Speaker 3: A gal says, go to the park.
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  Speaker 4: It's free.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, kids love the park or a playground.
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  Speaker 4: Have fun. Or the beach. Free. Well, I don't think
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  Speaker 4: that they always do, like, things that cost a lot.
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  Speaker 4: I think it's mostly, like, the eating out is what
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  Speaker 4: I think. I doubt that she, like, takes her to, like,
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  Speaker 4: do stuff for her kids. Like, they go to, like,
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  Speaker 4: a trampoline park or something. Yeah, that makes sense. Like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: you have to pay for this child. Like, I don't
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  Speaker 4: think she's doing that. And that's the end of this story.
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  Speaker 4: We're going to go to the next one. I hosted
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  Speaker 4: my best friend's family. Now I dread her visits. Aw,
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  Speaker 4: our family sucks. I've, 29 female, known my best friend, Nicole,
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  Speaker 4: 30 female, since freshman year of college 10 years ago.
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  Speaker 4: She met Mike, 28 male, her senior year. They married
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  Speaker 4: two years ago and have a son together. Nicole is
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  Speaker 4: incredibly laid back and incredibly go with the flow. She's friendly, bubbly,
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  Speaker 4: and has never been high maintenance or demanding of attention.
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  Speaker 4: I was initially weary of Mike because... He came off
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  Speaker 4: as undeservedly cocky and self-centered. He's one of those people
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  Speaker 4: that walks into the room while blasting his own personal
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  Speaker 4: WWE entrance song in his head. Oh, in his head, okay.
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  Speaker 1: That's sick, though. Yeah, he's just having fun.
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  Speaker 3: He's just got a little whimsy in his life.
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  Speaker 4: But he made her happy, and he was utterly devoted
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  Speaker 4: to her, so I figured that was good enough. We've
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  Speaker 4: lived in different cities since we graduated, so I only
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  Speaker 4: see Nicole and Mike a few times a year. As
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  Speaker 4: additional background, my girlfriend, 28 female, and I have been
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  Speaker 4: together a year and we just got a house together.
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  Speaker 4: She and Nicole clicked immediately. What?
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  Speaker 3: You've been together for a year and you just got
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  Speaker 3: a house together? Did you buy it or are you
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  Speaker 3: renting a house? Because if you bought it, that's crazy.
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  Speaker 4: But she has spent minimal time around Mike. By the way,
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  Speaker 4: this comes from Rude Man Child Guest. And if you
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  Speaker 4: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
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  Speaker 4: slash OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 6: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to talk about some stuff and, you know,
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  Speaker 4: give you some advice. I don't know. But we don't
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  Speaker 4: have all the answers.
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  Speaker 1: We only tell you what we would do.
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  Speaker 4: But let us know what you would do down in
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  Speaker 4: the comments. As OP says, Nicole and Mike stayed at
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  Speaker 4: our house this weekend because the college football team they
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  Speaker 4: supported was playing our local team and they had tickets
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  Speaker 4: to the game the girlfriend and i were bracing for
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  Speaker 4: mike's tendency to dominate the conversation this weekend but we
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  Speaker 4: weren't anticipating just how insufferable he would become it was
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  Speaker 4: a painful two days and i was glad to see
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  Speaker 4: them leave this morning Some examples of his behavior. Oh,
• 10:21
  Speaker 4: we get a checklist. A nice little bullet point list.
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  Speaker 3: I love bullet points.
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  Speaker 4: Hit me. His football team lost and his whiny attitude
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  Speaker 4: put a damper on the entire night. I'm a football fan.
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  Speaker 1: I get it.
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  Speaker 4: I'm a bit mopey when my team loses too, especially
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  Speaker 4: the way his team lost. They were highly ranked and
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  Speaker 4: favored and lost in a big way. If you follow
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  Speaker 4: college football, you can probably guess what game I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 4: But he pouted about it, loudly and often, the entire night.
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  Speaker 4: The girlfriend and I were watching the other games on
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  Speaker 4: TV when Mike and Nicole got back from theirs. He
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  Speaker 4: stormed in the door, immediately grabbed two beers from the fridge,
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  Speaker 4: flopped down on the entire length of the couch, and
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  Speaker 4: ranted about the loss for a good 15 minutes. He'd
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  Speaker 4: then flip between ranting about the loss during every lull
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  Speaker 4: in the conversation and to sulking quietly while he sprawled
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  Speaker 4: across the couch, forcing Nicole and my girlfriend to sit
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  Speaker 4: on the floor. Uh, no. Hey, get off the floor.
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  Speaker 4: I don't like this. We just moved in, so we're
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  Speaker 4: still short on furniture. The conversation could never last for
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  Speaker 4: more than five minutes without Mike interjecting his disgust with
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  Speaker 4: his team's loss. Funny enough, every time he'd leave to
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  Speaker 4: pout in the other room, Nicole, my girlfriend, and I
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  Speaker 4: would get super chatty and have a great time laughing
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  Speaker 4: and joking about Then he'd come back in, stamping around petulantly,
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  Speaker 4: interrupting whatever we had been talking about, and the general
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  Speaker 4: mood would immediately sour.
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  Speaker 3: Because OP's a woman, I think it's even weirder that
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  Speaker 3: this guy comes, not that, like, women can't enjoy sports
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  Speaker 3: at all, because I know a lot of women do,
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  Speaker 3: but these specific women obviously don't really care. And this
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  Speaker 3: guy is coming in and he's like.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I need to talk about sports. And, like, none
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  Speaker 1: of them care. None of them care.
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  Speaker 4: They're like, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: We enjoy it, but it's not, like, to the degree of, like, Yeah. Like,
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  Speaker 1: to the level that he cares. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: He'd talk about how inconsolable he was each time he
• 12:18
  Speaker 4: tipped back a new adult soda or smoked another bowl.
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  Speaker 4: He told us a half dozen times the exact scenario
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  Speaker 4: that could play out for his team to still make
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  Speaker 4: the playoffs. Okay, so I don't know. I don't care.
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  Speaker 4: I'm thinking that he's probably a little, you know, he's
• 12:34
  Speaker 4: had a few drinks, I'm sure. Watching the game, like
• 12:37
  Speaker 4: they probably pre-gamed during the game and now after the game,
• 12:41
  Speaker 4: he might be a little wasted, which is why he
• 12:43
  Speaker 4: keeps repeating himself, repeating himself.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: My friends do that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Interesting.
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  Speaker 4: He even started ranting about the game to strangers next
• 12:50
  Speaker 4: to us at dinner. Yeah, I think he's a little wasted.
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  Speaker 3: Well, like how long can he be wasted?
• 12:55
  Speaker 4: If you keep drinking, it's forever. I guess so. Five
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  Speaker 4: hours later, he was abrasive towards all three of us,
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  Speaker 4: but most of all his own wife. Whenever we ladies
• 13:05
  Speaker 4: would tease each other, we'd all share in the laughter.
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  Speaker 4: But the moment anyone would say anything resembling teasing towards him,
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  Speaker 4: he'd get super loud and defensive. He'd throw a tantrum
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  Speaker 4: and Nicole would have to continually apologize or explain what
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  Speaker 4: we really meant and how it wasn't meant to be offensive.
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  Speaker 4: For example, Mike was raving about his peach cobbler old-fashioned
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  Speaker 4: at dinner, which was a welcome break from his boo-hooing
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  Speaker 4: about the game. I told him I'm glad he found
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  Speaker 4: a happy place and Nicole mumbled something in agreement. He
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  Speaker 4: stared her down and.
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  Speaker 6: Said, better?
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  Speaker 1: What do you mean I'm better?
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  Speaker 4: She looked a bit taken aback and clarified that she
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  Speaker 4: meant he must be feeling better. Later in the night,
• 13:49
  Speaker 4: Nicole sat on Mike's lap on the couch and invited
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  Speaker 4: me to sit on her lap so my girlfriend could
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  Speaker 4: take a picture of all three of us. As I
• 13:56
  Speaker 4: was attempting to position myself for the photo, Mike said.
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  Speaker 1: Oh no. Oh, no.
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  Speaker 4: We both said, oh, no. Mike, is she a big
• 14:06
  Speaker 4: fatty boba laddie or what? That's what he's going to say.
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  Speaker 4: Mike said, you're covering my face. As I continued to adjust, he.
• 14:12
  Speaker 1: Yelled, you're covering my face.
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  Speaker 4: Then shoved me off of them. Okay, well, now it's not.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, it wasn't cool before. Now it's seriously not cool.
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  Speaker 1: He's a big man, baby.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, for real. I don't want to talk to either
• 14:25
  Speaker 4: of them. He made inappropriate and embarrassing comments about his
• 14:29
  Speaker 4: and Nicole's private life. The more Mike drank, the more
• 14:33
  Speaker 4: he'd switch between making passive-aggressive comments about their private life
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  Speaker 4: and feeling up on Nicole. He'd complain about needing intimacy
• 14:41
  Speaker 4: and how he wished Nicole would wear sundresses because girls
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  Speaker 4: look good in them.
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  Speaker 1: Stop.
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  Speaker 4: It's like he took advantage of every opening he had
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  Speaker 4: to make a quip about it. When my girlfriend went
• 14:53
  Speaker 4: to the bathroom to take out her contacts, she overheard
• 14:56
  Speaker 4: him pestering Nicole in the guest's bedroom. My girlfriend said
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  Speaker 4: the more Nicole pushed back, the whinier my God. He'd
• 15:04
  Speaker 4: lash out if we didn't react to something he said
• 15:06
  Speaker 4: the way he wanted us to.
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: I'm not hanging out with him. I'm telling my friend.
• 15:10
  Speaker 3: I'm saying, hey, I don't really want to hang out
• 15:12
  Speaker 3: with you and your partner anymore because he sucks.
• 15:17
  Speaker 4: Whether it was a crude comment. a so-called sarcastic quip,
• 15:21
  Speaker 4: his demand to go play Pokemon Go the entire night. Dude,
• 15:26
  Speaker 4: how old is this guy? He's a little, like, whiny baby.
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: We played to and from dinner both nights. For his
• 15:34
  Speaker 4: inability to handle losing rounds in cards against humanity, he'd
• 15:38
  Speaker 4: make a scene every time something didn't go his way.
• 15:41
  Speaker 4: He asked if we could go back to the slushie
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: shop we stopped at on Friday to get more spiked slushies.
• 15:49
  Speaker 4: and then added if I stopped being such a witch
• 15:53
  Speaker 4: and drank with them since I didn't the night before.
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: I declined, though I encouraged them to drink, and he
• 16:00
  Speaker 4: still looked personally offended that I didn't want to. When
• 16:03
  Speaker 4: we were all sharing bites of the side dishes we
• 16:07
  Speaker 4: ordered at dinner, he made fun of my braised kale.
• 16:11
  Speaker 4: It was braised with bacon, for goodness sakes, and told
• 16:14
  Speaker 4: me he'd stick with his crappy mac and cheese. as
• 16:18
  Speaker 4: if me ordering kale instead of mac and cheese was
• 16:20
  Speaker 4: a personal affront to him.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: Do you think I'm unhealthy?
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: Are you saying that I'm not eating well? When you
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: buy your kale and I get mac and cheese, are
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: you personally insulting me?
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: He single-handedly smashed the weekend's worth of adult soda and
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: snacks meant for all of us. Yeah, this guy has
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: an issue. Is this all going on in one weekend?
• 16:41
  Speaker 4: This guy is a heavy drinker.
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he's clearly got an issue.
• 16:45
  Speaker 4: I bought two bags of chips and a 24-pack of
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: adult soda for the weekend. He slammed 18 of those
• 16:51
  Speaker 4: beers and left nothing but crumbs from the two bags
• 16:55
  Speaker 4: of chips.
• 16:55
  Speaker 5: Wow.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: Peak male physique right there.
• 16:58
  Speaker 6: That's insane.
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: And that's why he's saying all of these things and
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: shoving people and just repeating the same exact thing because
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: his mind is not sober. Which, I'm not trying to
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: give him an excuse. He should be able, like... What
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: is he, 29 or something? You should be able to
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: take your now. This complaint might be petty. After all,
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: I did buy those things for our consumption, but I
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: can't imagine being a guest in someone's home and cleaning
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: out the entire weekend supply of snacks and drinks by myself.
• 17:32
  Speaker 4: The cherry on top came when he polished off his
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: second drink at dinner, his 12th drink of the day.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: See? 12th drink of the day. 12th of the day. Yeah.
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: So that's too many.
• 17:45
  Speaker 4: That's why he's acting this way.
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: Unless you are like a, not that really you should
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: ever have that many drinks, but unless you're like a
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: 19-year-old in college at a freaking frat party, why are
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: we having 12 drinks?
• 17:57
  Speaker 6: Because I like the taste.
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: And suggested that I might need to go out and
• 18:01
  Speaker 4: get more. Adult soda. Because we were almost out. Oh
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: my god.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: Oh, am I your little bartender? Am I your little servant?
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: No.
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: Go get your own alcohol. Oh wait, you can't drive
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: because you're drunk. I realize there's probably nothing truly horrible here.
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: He didn't trash the house. He didn't clean out our
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: whole pantry. Just the snacks we bought. In fact, he
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: actually fixed a leak that sprung under the kitchen sink
• 18:28
  Speaker 4: while the girlfriend and I were out for a walk
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: Saturday morning. But added up all together, it was an
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: exhausting and frustrating weekend. It got to a point on
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: Saturday night where the girlfriend excused herself to run to
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: an ATM. When she had been gone a half hour,
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: I texted her to make sure she was okay. She responded,
• 18:47
  Speaker 4: I can't stand Mike. I just need a minute to myself.
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: And that's so sad. His own. Wait, is that her?
• 18:56
  Speaker 4: That's her girlfriend.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: I believe. Yeah. Yeah.
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: It's just like, I mean, I don't either. Ugh, hate those.
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: For context, my girlfriend has one of the most easygoing
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: personalities I've ever known. She also works in a customer
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: service industry where she manages dozens of employees with different
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: personality types in a high-stress environment, so it's pretty hard
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: to face her. Last night when we laid down for bed,
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: we agreed neither of us would be comfortable with him
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: in our home again, which brings us to the crux
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: of the situation. How do I begin to approach my
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: best friend about this? If she wants to come visit again,
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: how do I possibly tell her her husband is not welcome?
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: She would definitely come to our defense whenever he'd channel
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: one of his microaggressions towards us, but it's not like
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: they're getting a divorce over it. So this problem won't
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: be going away. Are my girlfriend and I overreacting? We
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: aren't in college anymore. We're all either 30 or approaching it.
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: In fact, the relationship in general seems pretty unhealthy, but
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: that's an entirely different conversation. Though I'd welcome advice on
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: that too, if it comes to that. I don't think
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: you're overreacting at all.
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: I think this guy sucks.
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: I think you could.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think he's a stinker.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: And I think if you want to have a conversation
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: with her, you say, hey, I don't really appreciate how
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: your husband acted. So we don't feel comfortable hanging around.
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: And leave it at that.
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: See, I would just say, because I've been in a
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: situation where, like, my friend, both my friends have visited me. But, well,
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: it's like my friend visited me, but she brought her boyfriend.
• 20:30
  Speaker 4: And the boyfriend's so freaking annoying. And all he does
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: is complain and just be like a baby about things.
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, my God. Like, why are you so annoying?
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: And then, like, they... you know, he starts fights and whatever.
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: And I'm like, and, but she's so sweet, but I
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: don't like him. And so I think I literally said like, yeah,
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: like you can come, but like, he's, he's not coming
• 20:50
  Speaker 4: with you. I would just want to have a time
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: with us.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys are literally almost 30,
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: I think you can have the 30 year old conversation
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: or the mature conversation and be like, Hey, we, we
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: like when you come over, we don't like when he
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: comes over because one he's rude, disrespectful, uh, his microaggressions.
• 21:09
  Speaker 6: We can list it all. When he grows up, he
• 21:10
  Speaker 6: can come over. How about that?
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: The thing is, I think the wife knows anyway.
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, it's not like she's oblivious to it.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: Or she's calling him out on it.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: Exactly.
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: She's like, okay, Mike. Or, you know, like, oh, like,
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: that's a good one. Okay, let's get off of that.
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: You know, like, whatever.
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: Like, she's trying to, like, I mean, that's just like
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: the mark of a bad relationship when you are constantly
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: having to apologize.
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: For your partner.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: Sorry, that's just how he is.
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah, embarrassing behavior.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: Trust me, just give him another adult soda. He'll be fine.
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, he calms right down.
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: He's just hungry.
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: He's just tired. Well, there's an edit here. Thanks for
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: the replies, everyone. I appreciate the advice and the support.
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: It looks like the concern here is less about addressing
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: this weekend and more about addressing this type of behavior
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: in their relationship in general. I know from past nights
• 21:59
  Speaker 4: of drinking with them that this wasn't a one-time behavior.
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: He's acted like this before, only in smaller, less intense doses.
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: I want to make sure she's okay and happy, if
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: that's possible, after what I observed. Nicole kind of opened
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: the door when she texted me. Sorry Mike was so
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: abrasive and obnoxious last night. I didn't realize he drank
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: as much as he had earlier this afternoon. My girlfriend
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: uses Reddit and has also been monitoring this thread, and
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: we decided that I'm going to start that conversation with
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: Nicole tomorrow morning during work hours so I know he
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: won't be lurking over her shoulder. I know that response
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: might have seemed obvious from the get-go, but as I
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: said to one of the commenters, because Nicole is so
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: laid back, we've had a relatively breezy friendship and have
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: never had to confront a tricky subject like this one.
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: So as odd as it might sound, this is pretty
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: unfamiliar territory for us. And there's an update.
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: Oh, boy.
• 22:55
  Speaker 4: Interesting. Yeah, it sucks. She was already doing it. She
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: was already apologizing for her husband.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: Notice how she apologized for him. He won't apologize.
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: No, of course he won't. That's her role. Well, he, truthfully,
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: probably doesn't remember.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no.
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: And also, why would he apologize? He's just going to
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: do it again.
• 23:14
  Speaker 7: You know?
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: Like, yeah.
• 23:17
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I think what you're doing now... is
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: the right move. I think talking to Nicole about it,
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: obviously not talking to Mike, because why would you? That's
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: just talking to a brick wall.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: So obviously going about it in a nice way to
• 23:29
  Speaker 4: your friend and just explaining how you feel and just
• 23:31
  Speaker 4: being like, yeah, I didn't really appreciate it. It kind
• 23:34
  Speaker 4: of left me feeling like I don't really want to
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: hang out with him, but we are happy to hang
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: out with you and leave it there. There's an update.
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: Some of you thought my girlfriend and I could have
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: done a better job standing up to Mike. While there
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: were definitely some situations we could have handled better or firmer,
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: I wanted to clarify that overall, we didn't just let
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: him roll over us. Every time he blatantly disrespected one
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: of us, someone, whether it was me or Nicole, stood
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: up to him. We also tried to make the weekend
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: as inclusive for everyone as possible. I'm aware that Mike
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: was literally the odd man out, so we tried to
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: accommodate what everyone wanted to a reasonable degree. Mike wanted
• 24:12
  Speaker 4: to get boo slushies on Friday, so we got boo slushies.
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: Mike wanted to play Pokemon Go, so he made sure
• 24:18
  Speaker 4: to play to and from our walks to dinner both nights.
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: Other times, he wanted to do something that no one
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: else wanted to do, like have dinner at 4 p.m.
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: or go back for more boo slushies on Saturday, so
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: we went in. God, it's too much boo slushies.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: This man needs a new hobby.
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: Too many boo slushies.
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: Also, for the record, neither my girlfriend nor I hate men.
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: It's just one man's actions in particular that rubbed us
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: the wrong way. I got a good laugh out of
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: that accusation, though. On to the update. After spending Sunday
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: evening talking with my girlfriend about how to address this tactfully,
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: I messaged Nicole this morning. Since she had texted me
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: the night before apologizing for Mike's behavior, I used that
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: as my opening. I told her she shouldn't feel the
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: need to apologize for him and admitted that he had
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: made both of us pretty uncomfortable this weekend, but that
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: it wasn't her fault or something she should own. I
• 25:13
  Speaker 4: let her know it was important to us that they
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: both had a good time and that I'd been worried
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: about whether she was happy the whole time. Most importantly,
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: I told her she could always talk to me if
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: he ever made her unhappy or uncomfortable because some of
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: the things he said to her that weekend made me
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: worry he wasn't treating her right. I finished by telling
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: her I loved her, missed her, and that the door
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: was always open. Her response... was that she couldn't be happier.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: I don't buy it. I think she's telling herself that,
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: but I don't know if it's true.
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: She figured he just really wanted me to like him,
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: but that he gets weird and awkward and tries too
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: hard and that the booze didn't help. Based on that,
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: I didn't see a point in belaboring the issue. Even
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: if there are deeper issues in their relationship, it was
• 26:01
  Speaker 4: clear that talk wouldn't be happening now. But hopefully there aren't.
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: And she's being honest with me and herself. So I
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: backed off a little.
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: I think she's being honest with you. I don't think
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: she's being honest with herself. Yeah, truthfully.
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: I think part of that is just being complacent and
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: just being a pushover and just being like, this is,
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: you know, no, it's love. When we're together, it's good.
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: It's just with other people.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: Like, it's just excuse.
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: And OP said, oh, well, she's always like, go with
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: the flow, chill person. So it feels like she's the
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: type of person who, doesn't get mad yeah she'll.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: Make excuses to just be like yeah no everything's fine
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: i know it didn't seem like it was but trust
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: me like if when it's just us like everything's perfect
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: exactly she's making excuses for herself.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah you're like are you happy and just as long
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: as he's happy then i'm happy oh.
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah well there's sometimes when he's upset but like when
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: he's when you know when he's happy where everything's great
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: so hopefully she figures.
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: That out because it does seem like she's in a
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: toxic relationship for sure but I mean, the only way
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: to figure it out is that they have to be
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: the ones to do it. I told her that was
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: a relief and that there had just been a few
• 27:08
  Speaker 4: moments where it seemed like he made her feel uncomfortable
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: or embarrassed, but that I was glad she was happy
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: as she could be. She went quiet for a half
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: hour and I feared I had upset her.
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: OP called out something she saw and Nicole went, oh,
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: I've made some realizations.
• 27:30
  Speaker 4: I wonder if, like, he came home or something or, like,
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: showed up.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: Oh, and that happened?
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: Like, as she was on the phone.
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: Oh, I didn't take it that way. I think it
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: was just, like, to me it felt like OP said,
• 27:43
  Speaker 3: felt like you were a little uncomfortable and I wanted
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: to make sure you were happy.
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: And she went.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: The fact that it was for half an hour, I'd
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: be like.
• 27:49
  Speaker 6: Yeah, hello?
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Hello? And you just stayed on. No, I'm here. Sorry,
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: just give me a minute. 30 minutes. But she eventually
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: came back and admitted that, yes, there were a few
• 28:00
  Speaker 4: times when she knew what he was saying was coming
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: out totally offensive. And it made her cringe because he
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: has the worst foot in mouth syndrome and doesn't realize
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: how he's coming across. Foot in mouth syndrome, girly pop.
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: That's just him. Just him. She said she didn't know
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: why he gets so weird and feels like he needs
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: to make jokes. but that it always makes things awkward.
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: Oh my God, I knew a guy like this. I
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: knew a guy like this, and I knew him in college,
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: and then I met him, he moved here, and so
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: I knew him here as well. And he was way
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: better here when I like re-met him, but in college,
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: I hated him. He was the type of guy who
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: did this, like had to make jokes, and it just
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: made me uncomfortable. Like they were the type of jokes
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: that make you very uncomfortable. That's just like, you're just like.
• 28:49
  Speaker 4: Ha ha ha. Like, oh, yeah.
• 28:52
  Speaker 6: Then you go, who are you?
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: Still, she insisted I didn't have anything to worry about
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: with her. I didn't want to push her, though I
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: was tempted to ask that if Mike was really sorry,
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: why was she the one apologizing to us?
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: But I didn't. So there you have it.
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: We ended up exchanging it was good to see you messages.
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: And the convo kind of ended there. Best case scenario,
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: it was just a really, really bad weekend for Mike,
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: but Nicole is otherwise happy, healthy, and whole. Worst case scenario, well,
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: at least she knows the door is open. So if
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: it gets to that point, I hope she talks to me. Yeah,
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: I hope so too.
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: But you can't force her to make that realization.
• 29:35
  Speaker 4: The only thing she can do is, you know... Yeah,
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: she's got to go through that door herself.
• 29:40
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• 29:43
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  Speaker 7: know everything. So keep that in mind. Tell us what
• 30:48
  Speaker 7: you would do and what you think in the comments.
• 30:50
  Speaker 7: And OP says.
• 31:20
  Speaker 7: Earl and I started arguing a lot during the game
• 31:23
  Speaker 7: because he would always end up attacking me somehow. It
• 31:27
  Speaker 7: started to feel personal. Earl gets really worked up during
• 31:31
  Speaker 7: the game, yelling and swearing, etc., and I usually just
• 31:34
  Speaker 7: took it lightly. But it started becoming annoying.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: Instead of debating in a fun way, he'd keep repeating
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: things like, Are you gonna cry?
• 31:42
  Speaker 7: What are you gonna cry? Next time, pay more attention
• 31:45
  Speaker 7: to the game. Just do it like me and play properly.
• 31:49
  Speaker 7: It ruins the dynamic because he's not actually debating, he's
• 31:51
  Speaker 7: just repeating stupid phrases, and it also makes it seem
• 31:54
  Speaker 7: like he thinks I'm stupid. It's stressful and makes me
• 31:57
  Speaker 7: not want to play anymore. After this happened multiple times,
• 32:01
  Speaker 7: I started getting genuinely angry and bothered. One day it
• 32:04
  Speaker 7: got so bad we went outside to talk and Earl
• 32:07
  Speaker 7: tried to say, I'm just joking, it's just a game,
• 32:10
  Speaker 7: you don't need to get stressed. I tried to calm down,
• 32:13
  Speaker 7: but I made it very clear that I didn't like
• 32:15
  Speaker 7: the way he talked to me. This was almost two
• 32:19
  Speaker 7: years ago. And since then, this behavior has repeated many times.
• 32:24
  Speaker 7: It got to the point where our friends didn't even
• 32:26
  Speaker 7: want to play Avalon anymore because it always became awkward.
• 32:30
  Speaker 7: I stayed uncomfortable, but tried not to escalate things until
• 32:33
  Speaker 7: earlier this year.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: You guys kept playing a game where this one guy
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: just shouts at you for two years straight.
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: Must be a pretty fun game.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: Must be a pretty good game that you guys were like,
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: let's just continue playing this. This is pretty fun. I
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: like when this guy yells at us.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: Around April, I introduced one of my friends to the group.
• 32:52
  Speaker 7: And because of her, we started playing a lot of
• 32:54
  Speaker 7: question-based games. Out of nowhere, Earl thought it was appropriate
• 32:59
  Speaker 7: to ask me in front of everyone... Why do you
• 33:03
  Speaker 7: and Robert kiss in front of people? I talked to
• 33:05
  Speaker 7: the guys and they think it's effing weird too.
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: It's gross.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: Looks like two teenagers who don't know how to kiss.
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: Well, here's my guess.
• 33:15
  Speaker 7: From the ages, you started dating Robert when you were 12.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: And he was 14. OP is 18. Robert is 20.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: They've been dating for six years.
• 33:29
  Speaker 7: So that's a lot of era. The eras are smushed
• 33:34
  Speaker 7: together at that age.
• 33:35
  Speaker 6: I'd be like, yeah, that's very fair.
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, keep going, keep going.
• 33:38
  Speaker 7: I feel like a part of Earl is, like, just
• 33:41
  Speaker 7: feels like no respect towards you, like you're just, like,
• 33:46
  Speaker 7: you're still just the 12-year-old that his 14-year-old friend started dating.
• 33:50
  Speaker 6: What I'm getting is, Earl doesn't kiss a lot of girls.
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it certainly doesn't sound like it.
• 33:55
  Speaker 6: I go, question to your question, Earl. Why are you
• 33:58
  Speaker 6: watching us kiss all the time? Are you jealous?
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: And then he would just like, cause you guys kiss
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: in front of us all the time.
• 34:03
  Speaker 6: Close your eyes.
• 34:05
  Speaker 7: Obviously I felt humiliated. If he had a problem, he
• 34:09
  Speaker 7: could have just talked to us privately. Not only was
• 34:12
  Speaker 7: I bothered, but the guys immediately got defensive saying things like, yeah,
• 34:16
  Speaker 7: I don't agree with that.
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: Trying to distance themselves from what Earl said.
• 34:20
  Speaker 7: I tried to justify myself embarrassed and said he could
• 34:23
  Speaker 7: have talked to me and Robert in private, especially since
• 34:25
  Speaker 7: we're a couple.
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: It doesn't make sense to ask only me.
• 34:29
  Speaker 7: I was sad that night, especially because he said that
• 34:31
  Speaker 7: in front of my friend, but I tried to ignore
• 34:33
  Speaker 7: it again. But a week later, he humiliated me again
• 34:37
  Speaker 7: during a game, even though I was quiet and barely
• 34:40
  Speaker 7: commented and had been drinking shots.
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: I got so irritated, I ended up calling him an
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: a-hole in front of everyone. And once again, he responded with,
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: Why are you so mad? Everyone else is fine.
• 34:53
  Speaker 7: At that point, I stopped playing and stayed annoyed until
• 34:56
  Speaker 7: I left. I was inebriated and PMSing, which explains why
• 35:01
  Speaker 7: I snapped, but what was his excuse for acting like that?
• 35:05
  Speaker 7: After that night, I told Robert I don't feel comfortable
• 35:08
  Speaker 7: hanging out with Earl when Earl is there anymore because
• 35:12
  Speaker 7: he always found a way to mess with me and
• 35:14
  Speaker 7: wouldn't stop even when I showed discomfort. I also complained
• 35:18
  Speaker 7: again that I was sad Robert never defended me. Robert
• 35:22
  Speaker 7: always defended Earl instead, saying I took things too seriously.
• 35:26
  Speaker 7: This time, Robert actually listened. We spent some time without
• 35:30
  Speaker 7: seeing Earl, and Earl noticed I was mad at him. Eventually,
• 35:33
  Speaker 7: I softened to the idea of hanging out with him again,
• 35:37
  Speaker 7: so we did, but we did not play Avalon.
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: Thank goodness.
• 35:40
  Speaker 6: We're playing Catan.
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: Guys, it's been years. Just find a different game.
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it must be a really good game. Last Friday,
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: it happened again.
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: Earl brought three new friends who had never played Avalon,
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: so of course... He convinced everyone to play.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: Guys, let's play my favorite game. I know everyone's here
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: to have a good time, but let's play my favorite game.
• 35:59
  Speaker 7: Yeah, let's play my favorite game, shouty yelling. Shouty yelling
• 36:03
  Speaker 7: that I take too seriously. Given the history, I had
• 36:07
  Speaker 7: already mentally prepared myself before leaving home. The game went
• 36:11
  Speaker 7: fine until the first match ended. When the game was over,
• 36:16
  Speaker 7: I complimented one of Earl's friends for playing well for
• 36:19
  Speaker 7: his first time. Earl immediately started arguing that He deserved
• 36:23
  Speaker 7: the credit, and he carried the game, not his friends.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: Okay, now it's making a lot of sense. This is
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: where Earl peaks in life. Earl peaks at playing Avalon well?
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: He just goes, this is the best thing, and this
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: is the only time I feel I need the credit
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: of being better than everyone else. No, I'm actually Earl,
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: and I'm so good at Avalon.
• 36:44
  Speaker 6: I Earled it.
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: I'm Earling it.
• 36:47
  Speaker 7: I tried to defend the poor guy, but Earl took
• 36:50
  Speaker 7: it as me offending him and started acting arrogant again,
• 36:53
  Speaker 7: saying that if it wasn't for him, the good guys
• 36:56
  Speaker 7: wouldn't have won and that I didn't play well and
• 36:59
  Speaker 7: he had to open my eyes.
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: Dude, shut up.
• 37:02
  Speaker 6: You're so lame.
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: You're cringe.
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: We kept debating and I was staying calm, but then
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: he started repeating over and over.
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: Pay more attention to the game. Next time, instead of
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: blaming me, maybe one day you'll be as good as me.
• 37:14
  Speaker 6: Opie, at this point, I walk away. I truly just
• 37:18
  Speaker 6: walk away from the game.
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: And you know what, Errol?
• 37:21
  Speaker 6: Let's play a game that I like. Tic-Tac-Toe.
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: By the way, we were literally on the same team.
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: That's the funniest thing. What?
• 37:28
  Speaker 7: And I hadn't doubted him or accused him once. Repeating
• 37:33
  Speaker 7: himself nonstop just makes it impossible for anyone else to speak.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: That's not a debate.
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: He goes, my knees are really weak right now because
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: I'm carrying you guys, winning this game. He's just essentially
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: repeating the phrase, get good. Get good. I'm better.
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: Get good.
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: I am better.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Be better. Get good.
• 37:49
  Speaker 7: I got silent for a while and then they suggested
• 37:51
  Speaker 7: another round and I, again, tipsy, said, I don't feel
• 37:55
  Speaker 7: like playing when Earl's being annoying and went outside.
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: Fully justified.
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: True.
• 38:00
  Speaker 7: Obviously, the vibe got weird and I hate that, but
• 38:03
  Speaker 7: it really feels like Earl doesn't respect me.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: It only took you a How long to realize that?
• 38:08
  Speaker 7: I think the realization we need to make is that
• 38:12
  Speaker 7: we don't need.
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: The respect of Earl. Earl's respect is worth nothing.
• 38:18
  Speaker 7: I think that would be a good fundamental shift in
• 38:21
  Speaker 7: our perception to make.
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: We don't need Earl's approval about anything.
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: Earl's just annoying. Robert followed me and tried to calm
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: me down, but again defended Earl, saying he had talked
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: to Earl about it and that it's just how Earl
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: treats everyone. That doesn't matter.
• 38:38
  Speaker 6: That's not an excuse.
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: So he's annoying to everyone?
• 38:43
  Speaker 6: He's annoying to everyone. That's just how he is. Hey,
• 38:45
  Speaker 6: you know what that sounds like?
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: Annoying. That only made me angrier.
• 38:50
  Speaker 7: It was the second time Earl had been told I
• 38:52
  Speaker 7: was uncomfortable and he still didn't change. It doesn't matter
• 38:55
  Speaker 7: if he treats everyone like that during games. Whenever any
• 38:58
  Speaker 7: of the guys say they don't like something, he stops immediately.
• 39:02
  Speaker 7: I've seen it happen. So why is it different with me?
• 39:06
  Speaker 7: Why is it drama only when I say it?
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: I have a big question. I don't think we're going
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: to get the answer. Are you the only girl in
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: the group?
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: That is fair.
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: Or are you and Robert the only couple in the group?
• 39:22
  Speaker 7: Earl's definitely sounds very single. After a long conversation, Robert
• 39:26
  Speaker 7: finally understood that I felt disrespected because Earl never stopped.
• 39:30
  Speaker 7: But he insisted that Earl doesn't think I'm dumb and
• 39:32
  Speaker 7: doesn't dislike me, that it's just his personality.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: Sounds crappy to me. Still making excuses.
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: And again, at that point, you just go, I don't
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: it doesn't matter.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: I don't like Earl.
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: Does it matter?
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: I don't care if Earl likes me.
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: I don't like him.
• 39:46
  Speaker 7: I don't like the way he acts. I don't like
• 39:48
  Speaker 7: the way he speaks. I don't like the way he
• 39:49
  Speaker 7: conducts himself. I don't buy that just being his personality.
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: I think Robert is just blind by their long friendship
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: and can't see how personal Earl's behavior seems towards me. Yes,
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: he yells at everyone, even his own girlfriend. So he
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: does have a girlfriend.
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: But the way he speaks to me is different. He
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: talks to me like I'm an idiot.
• 40:11
  Speaker 7: Twists tiny things I say and acts like I can't
• 40:14
  Speaker 7: understand basic concepts. After a long talk with Robert, I
• 40:19
  Speaker 7: decided the best thing to do was go home. I
• 40:22
  Speaker 7: apologized to the table, too, because unlike Earl, I don't
• 40:25
  Speaker 7: enjoy making people uncomfortable. Am I the a-hole for wanting
• 40:29
  Speaker 7: to avoid Earl after all this? Am I the a-hole
• 40:32
  Speaker 7: for feeling hurt that my boyfriend didn't defend me in
• 40:34
  Speaker 7: these situations?
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: We have just a little bit more story here.
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: No.
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: You're not the a-hole.
• 40:42
  Speaker 6: Yeah, especially if he's targeting you.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: I think the quote-unquote word is targeting you because he
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: likes to pick on you and bully you, especially you.
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: I don't think you're the a-hole for any of this. Albeit,
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: you don't have to be buddy-buddy with all of your
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: partner's friends. Sure, you have to be amicable or at
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: least know them, but you don't have to be best buddies.
• 41:03
  Speaker 6: You don't have to be best friends. That's not forced.
• 41:05
  Speaker 6: It shouldn't be forced. If that happens, great, but that's
• 41:09
  Speaker 6: one thing.
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: But when your partner's friends are picking on you or
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: bullying you, and your partner doesn't defend you or stop
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: that or put a stop to that, and just keeps
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: giving you the excuse of, that's just how it is.
• 41:22
  Speaker 6: I don't know.
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: It shows how much he would side with Earl over you. Yeah.
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: And it's been years of this.
• 41:32
  Speaker 7: And you guys did, you started out at very young ages.
• 41:35
  Speaker 7: And it's not that that never works.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: It's just that like, It's accustomed to it now.
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: I think your point of it's like, why aren't you
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: calling out Earl? Why are you talking to my girlfriend
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: like that? It's just a crazy thing to not do.
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: The biggest thing is, why is Earl getting away with it?
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: There are no consequences to Earl's actions of being a bully.
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: That's just how Earl is, bro.
• 42:00
  Speaker 6: Exactly.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: That's just the way he is. What do you mean?
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: Earl gets to do whatever he wants.
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: I would be like, yo, Earl, shut up. I'm surprised
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: Earl has a girlfriend. Crazy enough. Does he talk to
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: his girlfriend like this?
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: I doubt it.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: I don't know. This is like, Earl, take a chill pill.
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: My name is Earl.
• 42:18
  Speaker 7: Anyway, I have a lot of time to think about it.
• 42:21
  Speaker 7: I'll see some of our friends in the next few days,
• 42:23
  Speaker 7: but not the ones who were there last Saturday. I'll
• 42:26
  Speaker 7: probably only see Earl again on the 12th when we
• 42:29
  Speaker 7: celebrate my birthday. Thanks to everyone who read all this,
• 42:32
  Speaker 7: and please help me.
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: With new perspectives on the situation.
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: I will update y'all.
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: And I know I'm kind of sensitive with this type
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: of teasing. I have trauma from bullying and still don't
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: know how to 100% tell malicious jokes from harmless ones.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: But what really bothers me is how Earl didn't change
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: even after being told multiple times it hurts me.
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: Ding, ding, ding, ding.
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: That's the key.
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: That's also very pertinent information that you have a trauma
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: with bullying. And again, your partner, one, Earl doesn't understand that,
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: but your partner does not see it bothers you.
• 43:00
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 43:02
  Speaker 2: That's the key right there.
• 43:03
  Speaker 7: After someone is told the way that their behavior affects someone, their.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: Response shouldn't just be, well, whatever. That's just the way
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: I am. It should be, okay, I'm going to try
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: my best to make sure I don't make that mistake
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: again and hurt your feelings.
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Or I accept your boundary.
• 43:17
  Speaker 6: I apologize.
• 43:18
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 43:18
  Speaker 7: Anyway, OP finishes with just saying, to me, it's a
• 43:20
  Speaker 7: respect issue. It's exactly what it is.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: Truly. Truly a respect issue. And everyone's allowing it to happen.
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: And no one's calling out Earl.
• 43:28
  Speaker 6: And OP's one of us.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: Remember this.
• 43:29
  Speaker 4: OP's one of us.
• 43:31
  Speaker 7: I think I would break up over this. Because he's
• 43:36
  Speaker 7: always going to pick his friend to some degree.
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: Or make an excuse for Earl. It's never been like,
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: you know what? I'm going to make an excuse for you, OP.
• 43:43
  Speaker 6: Or I'm going to defend you, OP. It's always Earl first.
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: Which sucks.
• 43:49
  Speaker 4: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 43:51
  Speaker 4: go to the next one. My sister stole my boyfriend's
• 43:54
  Speaker 4: credit card and drained the limit. Hey, I'm going to
• 43:57
  Speaker 4: drain you out my life. I, 18 female, and my sister,
• 44:00
  Speaker 4: 15 female, who I'll call Emma, have never really gotten
• 44:05
  Speaker 4: along since we were younger.
• 44:07
  Speaker 3: At times, it might seem like it's just because we're siblings,
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: and sometimes siblings fight. However, especially in the past few years,
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: it's gotten worse. Let me just give a small list
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: of what she's done in the last few years. She's
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: ripped out parts of my hair.
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: Dang. That's assault, brother.
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: She lied to the school and said my mom would
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: mistreat her and almost got CPS to take all of
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: us away. She did this twice.
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: Yikes. That's not good.
• 44:37
  Speaker 3: She'll throw you under the bus if she gets her phone,
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: iPad or computer taken away.
• 44:42
  Speaker 6: Are we talking about literally or?
• 44:45
  Speaker 4: Honestly, I wouldn't doubt it.
• 44:48
  Speaker 3: And this is kind of petty of me, but she
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: always copies me with everything. If I get something two
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: days later, she gets the same thing. And if I
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: start to get into a new hobby, all of a
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: sudden she loves it too. This is petty, but it
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: can get annoying. There's a lot more I can add,
• 45:03
  Speaker 3: but the post is already long enough. Anyways, on to
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: what happened recently. My boyfriend, 19 male, and I have
• 45:09
  Speaker 3: been dating for over two years now. And my family
• 45:13
  Speaker 3: loves him. He's basically another member of the family. Emma's
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: always tried to make up lies about him to my
• 45:19
  Speaker 3: parents and has often tried to get the two of
• 45:21
  Speaker 3: us in trouble for no other reason than the fact
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: that she wants to. Or because she got her iPad
• 45:27
  Speaker 3: taken away. By the way, this comes from Expensive Lecture 10.
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit.
• 45:35
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 45:36
  Speaker 3: I'm Savannah.
• 45:37
  Speaker 6: I'm Keon.
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: And we're here to.
• 45:38
  Speaker 4: Give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers.
• 45:41
  Speaker 4: We only know what we do. So let us know
• 45:42
  Speaker 4: what you would do in the comments.
• 45:44
  Speaker 3: And OP says, Two days ago, my boyfriend and I
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: were at a Publix getting some ingredients to bake at home.
• 45:50
  Speaker 4: Mmm, Publix.
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: And he asks if by any chance someone in the
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: house has his credit card information. He called the bank
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: and saw that purchases were coming from the city that
• 46:00
  Speaker 3: I live in. The purchases were for the bucks on Fortnite.
• 46:06
  Speaker 4: And Robux. Yep. Wow.
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: And the only person in my house that plays Fortnite.
• 46:11
  Speaker 4: Is my sister. Yeah, we could have guessed that.
• 46:16
  Speaker 3: So I called my mom and asked her to look
• 46:18
  Speaker 3: at Emma's iPad to see what card she has on it.
• 46:21
  Speaker 3: And lo and behold, she has my boyfriend's card saved
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: on it. She spent so much money on these things
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: that it went over my boyfriend's credit limit, which is
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: over $ 800.
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: She spent over $ 800 on just V-Bucks and Robux? How
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: did he not notice? Oh, until now. Well, you probably
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: didn't look at it. It was probably all in like
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: one transaction. But you usually get that transaction. Yeah, that's
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying.
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: You usually get a transaction like, hey, big transaction alert.
• 46:48
  Speaker 4: Was this you?
• 46:49
  Speaker 6: Hmm.
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: Or was it multiple little transactions to 800?
• 46:53
  Speaker 4: Either way.
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: It would still come up, right?
• 46:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 46:57
  Speaker 4: I mean, is he not? I mean, I'm not constantly
• 46:59
  Speaker 4: checking like my bank account or whatever, but sometimes I'll
• 47:02
  Speaker 4: be like, how much do I really have? I check
• 47:04
  Speaker 4: my bank account a lot.
• 47:06
  Speaker 6: OK, I yeah, you should do that more.
• 47:09
  Speaker 3: The thing that just made me lose it completely is
• 47:11
  Speaker 3: that when we got home, she was only worried about
• 47:14
  Speaker 3: covering her tracks and how she got my boyfriend's card info.
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: And she was more mad that she got caught. She
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: didn't even apologize to my boyfriend until she was made to.
• 47:24
  Speaker 3: She genuinely has no remorse.
• 47:26
  Speaker 4: And the thing is, my boyfriend didn't even get mad.
• 47:29
  Speaker 4: He just said she should have asked him for it
• 47:30
  Speaker 4: and he would.
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: Have bought it for her. $ 800 worth? Yeah, what?
• 47:33
  Speaker 3: Let's not buy $ 800 of Robux for a little girl.
• 47:37
  Speaker 4: That ain't it. No, no, no. You shouldn't do that.
• 47:40
  Speaker 3: She looked smug to see that she wasn't getting in
• 47:42
  Speaker 3: trouble until she got all of her devices taken and
• 47:45
  Speaker 3: then she got upset.
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: In trouble.
• 47:47
  Speaker 4: Oh, yes.
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: Since then, she's had a horrible attitude and has been
• 47:51
  Speaker 3: mad at everyone. As if we did something wrong to her.
• 47:54
  Speaker 3: It sounds like your sister is really spoiled and your
• 47:56
  Speaker 3: parents have kind.
• 47:57
  Speaker 4: Of failed her. Yeah. They really, not that she's the
• 48:01
  Speaker 4: golden child, but she just doesn't get any structure whatsoever.
• 48:07
  Speaker 4: She just does whatever she wants and gets away with it.
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 48:10
  Speaker 4: That's on your parents, not you, Opie. Not good.
• 48:13
  Speaker 3: Genuinely, if you ask me, I should have ripped her
• 48:15
  Speaker 3: hair out when I found out. Now to the part
• 48:17
  Speaker 3: where my parents think I'm being too harsh. Since that day,
• 48:20
  Speaker 3: my sister has been giving everyone in the house the
• 48:23
  Speaker 3: worst attitude as if she was wronged and a great
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: injustice has been done to her. Yesterday, I finally snapped
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: and yelled at her and some harsh things were said.
• 48:34
  Speaker 3: I don't remember it word for word, but I said
• 48:36
  Speaker 3: something like, I don't understand why you're walking around here
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: as if you haven't stolen from someone who hasn't done
• 48:41
  Speaker 3: anything wrong to you. You're acting like you aren't a
• 48:44
  Speaker 3: thief and a piece of crap, and you are genuinely
• 48:46
  Speaker 3: one of the worst people I've ever met. I hope
• 48:49
  Speaker 3: one day you steal from someone who won't be so
• 48:51
  Speaker 3: merciful and you learn the hard way.
• 48:53
  Speaker 4: I mean, yeah. Yeah. That's it.
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 48:58
  Speaker 4: That's a good message. That's kind of all you need
• 48:59
  Speaker 4: to say.
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: It wasn't even threatening, though.
• 49:01
  Speaker 4: Where's the threat? Where's the threat? It was a warning. Mmm,
• 49:04
  Speaker 4: that was a warning.
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 49:05
  Speaker 3: I used a lot more profanity and a lot more
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: personal insults, but that's the gist of it. My parents
• 49:10
  Speaker 3: say I'm being too harsh on her and should show
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: more mercy. It sounds like your mercy has led to this.
• 49:18
  Speaker 6: Then I go to your parents and be like, all right.
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: Cool. Give me your credit card. I'm going to drain that.
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: And you guys shouldn't be upset either, right?
• 49:25
  Speaker 3: Also, it really doesn't sound like the parents have paid
• 49:29
  Speaker 3: your boyfriend $ 800 back, which is.
• 49:32
  Speaker 3: That's absolutely ridiculous.
• 49:34
  Speaker 4: If that is not the case unacceptable and i would
• 49:37
  Speaker 4: be up my parents butts.
• 49:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah i would be if he's like oh it's fine
• 49:40
  Speaker 3: it's fine i would be demanding be like no my
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: parents need to pay you back yeah it's either my
• 49:45
  Speaker 3: parents pay you or my sister i would say my
• 49:47
  Speaker 3: sister but obviously you know she's 15 probably doesn't have
• 49:49
  Speaker 3: a job or anything i mean like i don't know
• 49:51
  Speaker 3: baby said go find a baby yeah and the fact
• 49:54
  Speaker 3: that she thinks it's okay for her to not make
• 49:56
  Speaker 3: any money and for her to just just spend random
• 50:00
  Speaker 3: eight hundred dollars no my parents would have been oh
• 50:05
  Speaker 3: my mom would have been done if i honestly i
• 50:08
  Speaker 3: would be done if i just bought robux true like
• 50:12
  Speaker 3: all the in-purchase things my parents would never let me
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: do any of that yeah no just games game stuff
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: yeah i wasn't allowed either but just because like if
• 50:22
  Speaker 3: i wanted it i would have to pay for it
• 50:24
  Speaker 3: i'm like i'm not paying for it i've never paid
• 50:26
  Speaker 3: for like a game no Yeah.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: I mean, for, like, Switch games, I guess. I've done that.
• 50:30
  Speaker 4: I've paid, like, for the game, like, to purchase the game,
• 50:34
  Speaker 4: but I've never paid for, like, things inside the game. Yeah, same, same. Yeah,
• 50:37
  Speaker 4: in-game purchases I've never done.
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah. That's how they get ya.
• 50:41
  Speaker 3: But I don't think she's getting punished enough, and I
• 50:43
  Speaker 3: can't imagine what my parents would have done to me
• 50:45
  Speaker 3: if I pulled something like that.
• 50:47
  Speaker 4: She's walking around like.
• 50:48
  Speaker 3: She's the victim, and my parents are acting like I'm
• 50:50
  Speaker 3: the evil older sister who's being mean to her.
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: That makes zero sense. How does that make any sense?
• 50:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, this is your parents' fault. What makes it worse
• 50:59
  Speaker 3: is that my boyfriend is the sole provider in his family. Again,
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: your parents are on the hook for that. You need
• 51:06
  Speaker 3: to demand that your parents pay your boyfriend back. He
• 51:10
  Speaker 3: pays all the bills since his father is unable to
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: work and his mother passed away about a year ago.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: I was going to say, everyone's going to blame you, OP,
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: because it's your boyfriend.
• 51:19
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 51:20
  Speaker 3: My sister is aware of all this, which makes the
• 51:22
  Speaker 3: act even more evil and selfish, in my opinion. Maybe
• 51:26
  Speaker 3: I am in the wrong, but I don't know.
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: Am I the a-hole?
• 51:29
  Speaker 3: Any advice or insight would be so appreciated.
• 51:31
  Speaker 4: How would you be the a-hole?
• 51:34
  Speaker 3: In what world?
• 51:35
  Speaker 4: What did you do wrong? Called your sister out for
• 51:37
  Speaker 4: spending your boyfriend's money of $ 800? It's not like... I
• 51:41
  Speaker 4: could see maybe $ 1, $ 5, $ 20. $ 10?
• 51:42
  Speaker 6: $ 20?
• 51:42
  Speaker 4: Pushing it.
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: But like.
• 51:43
  Speaker 3: 800.
• 51:49
  Speaker 6: Doll hairs.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: 800?
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: 800?
• 51:51
  Speaker 3: Who spends that much?
• 51:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah, no. I'm calling the parents out. Calling the parents out.
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 51:57
  Speaker 3: We've got additional info. So I was told to add
• 52:00
  Speaker 3: this by a commenter. My parents are making my sister
• 52:03
  Speaker 3: pay my boyfriend back for.
• 52:04
  Speaker 4: The money she stole. Okay.
• 52:06
  Speaker 3: The issue is she doesn't have a job and she's
• 52:08
  Speaker 3: refusing to get one.
• 52:10
  Speaker 6: Not okay.
• 52:11
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 52:12
  Speaker 3: My boyfriend, however, does not want to take her money
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: for some reason. This story is not fake. Unfortunately, I
• 52:17
  Speaker 3: genuinely wish it was. And we do have an update.
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: The thing is.
• 52:21
  Speaker 6: Why is your boyfriend so chill?
• 52:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, why is your boyfriend so chill?
• 52:25
  Speaker 4: I mean, does he not think like $ 800 is like
• 52:27
  Speaker 4: not a big deal?
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: Because that's crazy.
• 52:28
  Speaker 3: No, he doesn't have that money.
• 52:30
  Speaker 4: This was all his savings. He's the sole provider.
• 52:33
  Speaker 6: He's also the sole provider, yeah.
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: Okay. Why is he not like going insane right now?
• 52:38
  Speaker 3: I think he just feels bad because he's like, oh,
• 52:39
  Speaker 3: this 15-year-old girl, my partner's sister.
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: I'd still be upset.
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: I think it's ridiculous that your parents are saying, oh, well,
• 52:48
  Speaker 3: our daughter has to pay him back directly.
• 52:51
  Speaker 4: No, she's 15.
• 52:53
  Speaker 3: She's not going to make $ 800 for a while.
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: It should be like this. Parents pay him back and
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: sister can pay you guys back. Exactly.
• 53:00
  Speaker 4: Yes, exactly.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: There you go. Now, there you go. There you go.
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: There you go. Update. Two days later.
• 53:09
  Speaker 3: Anyways, I asked if I was the a-hole for snapping
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: at her since I saw that she wasn't taking the
• 53:13
  Speaker 3: situation seriously and was giving everyone attitude when she did
• 53:17
  Speaker 3: something wrong. She only cared when she got her electronics
• 53:20
  Speaker 3: taken away. My parents said I was being too harsh
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: on my sister and should show more mercy. However, showing
• 53:26
  Speaker 3: mercy hasn't been working on my sister. Since this isn't
• 53:29
  Speaker 3: the first stunt, she's pulled. I gave more examples in
• 53:33
  Speaker 3: my original post.
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: Boy, before we get into some of the update here,
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: if no one corrects her and this is how she's
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: going to be living and thinking.
• 53:41
  Speaker 6: Oh, boy.
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: Reality is going to get your sister real hard. Well,
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: she's going to end up in jail.
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 53:48
  Speaker 6: And it's... Honestly.
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: Just get your popcorn ready, Opie.
• 53:51
  Speaker 6: He's gonna be sleeping with the fishes.
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: Your parents are failing her. She's failing herself.
• 53:57
  Speaker 4: Now for the update.
• 53:59
  Speaker 3: In the last post, a lot of the commenters were
• 54:01
  Speaker 3: recommending that Jake press charges against Emma since she won't
• 54:04
  Speaker 3: learn any other way. On the day he found out
• 54:07
  Speaker 3: that she stole his information, he was upset but felt
• 54:10
  Speaker 3: more disrespected.
• 54:12
  Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, he was.
• 54:14
  Speaker 3: Now, as the days have gone on, he's gotten more
• 54:16
  Speaker 3: upset as the situation sinks in.
• 54:18
  Speaker 4: Yes, because that's $ 800 that you apparently are not getting back.
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 54:24
  Speaker 3: Not only that, but he had to pay a massive
• 54:26
  Speaker 3: overdraft fee and that really screwed him over financially this week.
• 54:28
  Speaker 3: And now we add that to the charge.
• 54:31
  Speaker 7: Ugh.
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: Why is he being so chill about it?
• 54:35
  Speaker 3: Honestly, he's being self-a-hole. He's being kind of stupid for
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: not coming after this money.
• 54:40
  Speaker 6: $ 20, whatever. $ 800?
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: Has reality just not gotten to him yet? I don't know.
• 54:47
  Speaker 3: And maybe next week too since he is the only
• 54:49
  Speaker 3: provider for his family. What is mainly upsetting him is
• 54:52
  Speaker 3: that my sister is showing no remorse and has yet
• 54:54
  Speaker 3: to actually apologize. He is now heavily considering pressing charges,
• 54:59
  Speaker 3: and he expects every dime to be paid back, even
• 55:02
  Speaker 3: the overdraft fees, within the next three to four months.
• 55:04
  Speaker 4: There you go.
• 55:05
  Speaker 3: I did some research and I found that if he
• 55:07
  Speaker 3: does press charges, credit card fraud that is less than
• 55:10
  Speaker 3: $ 500 to $ 1, 000 is met with one year in county
• 55:14
  Speaker 3: jail or probation.
• 55:15
  Speaker 4: Could be wrong.
• 55:16
  Speaker 3: While he is considering pressing charges, I know him, and
• 55:19
  Speaker 3: I don't think he'll go through with it, but he
• 55:21
  Speaker 3: will threaten it. That is often all you need to do,
• 55:25
  Speaker 3: so she can at least hopefully see how serious this is.
• 55:28
  Speaker 3: My thing is, as I have said, my sister is
• 55:31
  Speaker 3: showing no remorse or care for what she did. If anything,
• 55:34
  Speaker 3: I believe she finds it funny.
• 55:36
  Speaker 6: Again, just be ready, OP.
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: Stand on the sidelines. Reality is going to get to
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: her sooner or later.
• 55:43
  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah.
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: If she doesn't want to learn.
• 55:47
  Speaker 3: And my parents have tried to explain to her a
• 55:50
  Speaker 3: few times now that what she did is a crime.
• 55:54
  Speaker 4: And she just laughs and smirks at them. Wow. Smack.
• 55:58
  Speaker 3: She has done this with the other things she has
• 56:00
  Speaker 3: done in the past, but this time it's sticking out
• 56:02
  Speaker 3: to me more. Has anyone had a sibling like this
• 56:05
  Speaker 3: or met anyone like this who can offer some insight
• 56:07
  Speaker 3: or advice? Even though I'm fed up with her behavior,
• 56:09
  Speaker 3: she's still my sister.
• 56:11
  Speaker 4: And her behavior is worrying me.
• 56:13
  Speaker 3: I know this isn't just teenage behavior because she has
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: been acting like this since she was young. Any insight
• 56:18
  Speaker 3: would be appreciated and we do have an edit.
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 56:22
  Speaker 6: This is on your parents.
• 56:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not your thing to worry about.
• 56:26
  Speaker 3: Your boyfriend just needs to worry about getting his money back.
• 56:28
  Speaker 6: I'll tell you right now, your sister's not going to
• 56:29
  Speaker 6: listen to a word you say.
• 56:30
  Speaker 4: Well, she doesn't care.
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: She doesn't care, but also it's your sister and she's
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: a teenager. She's not going to take it into any consideration.
• 56:37
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just unfortunate because like, well, what is this
• 56:42
  Speaker 4: girl going to Like, what is she gonna do for
• 56:45
  Speaker 4: the benefit of society? Just cause mayhem?
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: Nothing.
• 56:48
  Speaker 4: Robux.
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: Robux. Robux. Edit!
• 56:52
  Speaker 3: I spoke to Jake last night and showed him my
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: first post and this post. He is thankful for everyone's
• 56:58
  Speaker 3: responses and support. We spoke about the topic of going
• 57:01
  Speaker 3: to the police and possibly going to claims court or
• 57:04
  Speaker 3: any type of court. Will cost a lot of money
• 57:07
  Speaker 3: and could bankrupt him and Jake is very aware of
• 57:09
  Speaker 3: his financial situation and what he can or can't do.
• 57:12
  Speaker 3: We've discussed that even if he goes to the police,
• 57:15
  Speaker 3: it takes a while to give a statement since they're
• 57:18
  Speaker 3: slow in both of our counties and he can't risk
• 57:20
  Speaker 3: hours or even a full day of work. since he
• 57:23
  Speaker 3: heavily relies on overtime to pay his bills. Unfortunately, not
• 57:27
  Speaker 3: everyone can just go to the police like that. The
• 57:29
  Speaker 3: plan that was discussed with him and my parents is
• 57:32
  Speaker 3: that my parents will pay him back the money, even
• 57:34
  Speaker 3: if it's in three installments, since my parents are also
• 57:37
  Speaker 3: struggling financially. Well, maybe they should sell this sister's iPad.
• 57:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they should.
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: Parents should be like, okay, since you love games so much,
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: we're going to have a nice fun game.
• 57:50
  Speaker 6: Here's your objective. There's a goal. Pay this all up
• 57:53
  Speaker 6: with whatever, however, time, chores, make it up to us.
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: Then you get your stuff back.
• 57:59
  Speaker 4: Well, but the thing is, if they sold her iPad,
• 58:01
  Speaker 4: that's still their money, I'm guessing, because she didn't pay
• 58:04
  Speaker 4: for that iPad.
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but there we go.
• 58:05
  Speaker 4: But then she wouldn't have anything to play on, so
• 58:08
  Speaker 4: I guess.
• 58:08
  Speaker 3: I would sell her iPad and then say, you still
• 58:11
  Speaker 3: have to pay us back.
• 58:12
  Speaker 4: Dang. I'd be like, hey, we don't actually.
• 58:15
  Speaker 3: Have the money to pay boyfriend back, so we're going
• 58:18
  Speaker 3: to sell your iPad, get the money, and then you
• 58:21
  Speaker 3: owe us.
• 58:22
  Speaker 4: I saw someone in the chat say you should have
• 58:25
  Speaker 4: a police officer come over and explain.
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: Scare her straight?
• 58:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, like a scare her straight type thing. I love
• 58:31
  Speaker 4: that show.
• 58:33
  Speaker 3: Emma will be required to pay my parents back either
• 58:35
  Speaker 3: by selling her stuff or getting a job. Currently in
• 58:38
  Speaker 3: my area, it is hard to get a job, even
• 58:40
  Speaker 3: in fast food, so she'll probably have to sell her stuff,
• 58:43
  Speaker 3: which she can get a good amount for. When she
• 58:45
  Speaker 3: does eventually get a job, she'll be required to pay
• 58:48
  Speaker 3: any amount left, and her next two paychecks after she
• 58:51
  Speaker 3: finishes paying Jake back will go to him as well.
• 58:54
  Speaker 3: Emma has also not been allowed to see her boyfriend,
• 58:57
  Speaker 3: and my mom explained to his mom why she isn't
• 58:59
  Speaker 3: allowed to go over there.
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: My mommy says that you can't come over because you
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: have a debt to pay. Because you stole someone's money.
• 59:08
  Speaker 4: Yep.
• 59:09
  Speaker 3: Also, this morning, my mom found out that my sister
• 59:11
  Speaker 3: stole her phone back from where I was being hidden.
• 59:14
  Speaker 4: And that was kind of the final straw.
• 59:15
  Speaker 3: Send her to military school.
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 59:17
  Speaker 4: Ooh, military school.
• 59:19
  Speaker 3: My sister has yet to show any remorse and is
• 59:22
  Speaker 3: still playing the victim.
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: But let's see what happens.
• 59:25
  Speaker 4: What do you think about what's going on here? I mean,
• 59:27
  Speaker 4: there's no other way to explain it except the sister
• 59:30
  Speaker 4: obviously does not get punishment. Does not. Yeah. She just
• 59:35
  Speaker 4: gets to do whatever she wants and gets off scotch free,
• 59:38
  Speaker 4: which is just crazy to me.
• 59:39
  Speaker 3: And the tough thing is that the parents are like, well,
• 59:41
  Speaker 3: you have to pay us back now. But like, she's
• 59:43
  Speaker 3: just going to say no.
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 59:45
  Speaker 4: There's no consequences.
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: Literally.
• 59:46
  Speaker 4: You're like, nah.
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: No.
• 59:48
  Speaker 3: Oh, OK.
• 59:49
  Speaker 4: Cool. What are we going to do?
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: Like, yeah.
• 59:51
  Speaker 4: And you can't.
• 59:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the problem is when you don't enforce rules, then.
• 59:56
  Speaker 4: You're never going to be able to get them to.
• 59:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah, then there's no consequences.
• 59:59
  Speaker 4: You can't even give them any guidance because they're just
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 4: going to be like, I'm right, you're wrong. It's just
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 4: like you just set them up for complete failure in life.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 4: So good job, parents. But we do have a second edit.
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 4: You made an enemy of the state.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: Let me say that if it.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 3: Was truly up to me, I would have had my
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 3: sister arrested the moment we found that she had the
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 3: credit card info.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 4: I have been the one.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 3: Pushing my boyfriend to at least go to the police.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 3: and let the law handle this, but he has chosen
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 3: not to due to his own personal and financial reasons.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 3: The idea of my sister paying him back in that
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 3: way was proposed by him, and my parents agreed to it.
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 4: This is his choice.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 3: Do I believe he should go to the police?
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: I understand, however, why he isn't, and there are many
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 3: reasons that I will not get into, since those are
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 3: insanely personal to him, and he doesn't feel comfortable with
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 3: me sharing. I am not enabling her at all. I
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 3: am the one trying to get a harsher punishment given
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 3: to her. Because I can see the path she's going on.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 3: And it will get her punted out. I'm giving it
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 3: a year. Worse, she ends up in prison or passed
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 3: away because she messed around with the wrong people.
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  Speaker 4: And that's the end of the story.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: I did look this story up.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: It's pretty recent. Like, that update was about a week ago.
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  Speaker 3: Well, good luck. It's not your fault or your responsibility.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 3: You're her sister. You're 18. Your parents should be handling that.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 3: And if, you know, if she goes down that path.
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 4: You try. I understand why Opie's boyfriend doesn't maybe want
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 4: to press charges just because that's a lot to go
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 4: through and he doesn't want to get on the bad
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 4: side of maybe Opie's parents. Yeah, it could also be like,
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 4: I mean.
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 3: Could be reasons of, like, maybe he is a different
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 3: race and has negative connotations. There's, like, a lot of
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 3: reasons why you might not want to go to the police.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it could just be a lot. And, you know,
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 4: it's whatever you feel comfortable with. As long as you
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 4: get your money back. That's all I'm worried about. That's $ 800.
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 4: You can't just be like, well, I just got to
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 4: chalk it up to, eh, I lost.
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: Oh, no.
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 4: No, it's $ 800.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 6: Plus interest.
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 1: Plus the freaking, yeah, the.
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah. Plus things.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: The late fees.
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 4: Whatever, the late fees. But that was the end of
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 4: the story.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 7: My partner blamed me for getting rejected at an apartment
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 7: because of her debts.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 6: Hey, it's your fault.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 7: My female partner is currently applying for an apartment with
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 7: her mom and a mutual friend. They don't live with
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 7: me and I'm not a part of the application. But
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 7: when the landlord ran their background and credit checks, something
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 7: strange popped up on my partner's report.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: An old credit card she didn't recognize.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 2: She immediately panicked and accused me of lying, hiding things
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 2: from her, and trying to ruin her credit on purpose
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 2: so she'd lose the apartment.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: Now, why would you do that? And I just go, hey, babe,
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: that sounds rough.
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 6: You play Chapel Roan. Good luck, babe.
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: Good luck.
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 2: We're breaking up.
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: If you're going to accuse me of defrauding you, I
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: don't think we should be dating.
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 2: Here's what actually happened. Four years ago, I opened a
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 2: credit card in my own name.
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 7: Back then, we lived together, so I added her to
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 7: my card as an extra person allowed to use it.
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 7: Think of it like adding her name to my account,
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 7: but not her opening her own. The card was barely used,
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 7: never had any debt on it, and got shut down
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 7: after about a year because nobody was using it. Because
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 7: we lived at the same address back then, the system
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 7: automatically attached that old, unused card to her name, too. So,
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 7: years later, when she applied for the apartment, that ghost
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 7: card showed up on her record. I had completely forgotten
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 7: the card ever existed because it's been closed for years
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 7: with no money owed on it. It never caused me
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 7: any trouble when I rented my own place. It was
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 7: a careless thing to forget, but I swear it was
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 7: never some scheme to hurt her. By the way, this
• 1:03:45
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• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 6: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 7: We're going to read this story. We're going to have
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 7: our thoughts. They are just going to be goofy little
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 7: goofball thoughts because we don't know everything.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: But we are right sometimes.
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 6: Sometimes.
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 2: Let us know what you think of us in the comments.
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: Of us specifically.
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 1: And maybe what you have to say about this story.
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 7: OP says when she first confronted me I pushed back
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 7: and said I never opened any card in her name
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 7: because honestly in that moment I didn't even remember it.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 7: Then I spent hours on the phone with the bank
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 7: and the credit companies digging into it. They confirmed it
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 7: was just a harmless mix up from us having lived
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 7: together forever. And they told me exactly how to wipe
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 7: it off her record so it wouldn't mess up the apartment.
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 7: I question why it would even mess up the apartment, though.
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 7: Because it's an old card with no debt.
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 6: It's nothing. It's literally a net zero card.
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 2: Feels like she's lying about something.
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 7: The landlord hadn't even asked for her social security number anyway.
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 7: Just her name, address, and birthday? I went back to
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 7: her with all of it. I admitted I was dumb
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 7: for forgetting the card. I apologized for snapping at her
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 7: at first and handed her the exact steps to get
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 7: it erased. The bank said it could be removed right away.
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 7: I did everything I could, but she didn't care.
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 1: Oh? She called me a liar.
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 7: She said she didn't believe me and told me that
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 7: if she lost the apartment.
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: She'd send me to jail.
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 6: Hey, guess what? Have we lost the apartment?
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 7: Also, I'm pretty sure you can't just send me to jail.
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 7: She said she hated me over and over. She told
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 7: me to never contact her again.
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 7: I sent one last text telling her she had every
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 7: right to be angry, explained the facts one more time,
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 7: and promised to leave her alone. I'm now sitting here
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 7: feeling completely demolished. I made a genuine stupid mistake by
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 7: forgetting that old card, but I fixed it the second
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 7: I understood what was going on.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 1: Am I the a-hole? No, buddy. You know what you
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 1: really are?
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 2: You're like Neo from the Matrix because, buddy, you're dodging
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: a bullet.
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 6: You're dodging a missile.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean... I don't understand why they're freaking out
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: over absolutely nothing. And you work, you work, you like, okay,
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 1: I'll remove it immediately.
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 2: Me personally, my significant other accuses me of sabotaging her
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 2: life and defrauding her and doing it with the explicit
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 2: intent to hurt her.
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 7: I'm just like, wow, we're done. Clearly we're done. Regardless
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 7: of you being wrong. I mean, Sure, you forgot about
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 7: an old card. That's no excuse for her to react
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 7: this way.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: Even say it was an old card and there was
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: something that you owed, that would be your problem to
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: take care of and probably get it done right away. Oh,
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 1: we do have an update.
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 7: Maybe she's realized the error of her ways.
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: Maybe she's not getting the apartment. This is my call
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 1: right now. She doesn't get it, but it's because of, like,
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: of them. We're, like, just doing something absolutely ridiculous here.
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 6: Still gonna blame OP.
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I wonder if she talks to others this way.
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 2: Four days later, she finally broke the silence today with
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 2: a giant wall of text.
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 6: Ah, nah, not reading that. Not reading all that, sorry.
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 1: She said she hates me.
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 6: Ka-pong.
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 2: That I should be ashamed of myself.
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 6: Battleship.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 1: And that she hopes nobody ever gives me.
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 2: A chance again.
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 6: Four corners.
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 1: And that my silence proves I was lying. Really?
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 4: What?
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 2: You saying.
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 6: What?
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 7: You saying I want nothing to do with you ever
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 7: again and then me going, okay.
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 6: Connect four.
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 1: That's proof?
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 6: Pool. I'm setting billiards.
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 7: She said she got officially rejected from the apartment because
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 7: of her credit... And to back it up, she sent
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 7: me a photo of a letter she thinks is proof
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 7: that I ruined her life. So I looked at the
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 7: photo and it proves nothing.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 6: Exactly.
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 1: It isn't a bill.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 2: It isn't a warning about money owed. It isn't a
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 2: debt notice.
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 7: It's just a generic letter every customer gets with the
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 7: boring title amended account terms. The back of it is
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 7: literally an ad trying to get people to sign up
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 7: for a new student credit card. The front is just
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 7: a routine notice about some banking rule changes that don't
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 7: even start until 2027. There was no account number, no balance,
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 7: no debt, nothing personal on it at all. It's basically
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 7: junk mail. On top of that, the letter is from
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 7: a bank I've never even used. All my cards were
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 7: from a totally different company. I looked it up, and
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 7: it turns out anyone who was added to a card
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 7: like she was would get the same junk letter in
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 7: the mail.
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 6: You know what? Take it back. You dodged a nuke.
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you dodged a nuke with a.
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 1: Real, real smooth brain. No wrinkles. You've been hit by,
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 1: you've been struck by a smooth brain.
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 7: She's got chicken tenders up there, dude. Just raw chicken tenders.
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 2: The truth is the old card was closed and fully
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: paid off with nothing owed back in 2023. Like a
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 2: lot of you told me in my last post, a
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 2: closed paid off card from three years.
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 7: Ago can't tank someone's credit. Or get them denied an
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 7: apartment today. This is honestly so stupid. It's making me
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 7: question what might really be happening. Like, is this, is
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 7: she cheating on you and this is her out? of
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 7: the relationship.
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 1: So she's in an incredulous debt or something, something, something big.
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 1: Cause she also didn't send any proof. She'd been rejected
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 1: from the apartment. She just sent bank spam i guarantee
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 1: you she still hasn't sent like her social security number
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 1: yeah none of that which you need if you're gonna
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 1: rent an apartment the landlord didn't approve me on the
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 1: process because i didn't send any of my information oh
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 1: um but it's your fault because of that card here's
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: the thing.
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 7: I happen to know she actually has an unpaid store
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 7: card from 2024 there it is there it is and
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 7: some old medical bills she never paid.
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 6: Ah, there it is, and I guarantee you, it's your fault.
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 1: OP, you just reminded me I have to do something.
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 7: That recent stuff is way more likely to be what
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 7: got her flagged, not some harmless old card from years ago.
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 7: I think she just panicked over getting rejected, misread a
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 7: piece of junk mail, and needed someone to blame so
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 7: she wouldn't have to face her own choices.
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 1: So, I took your advice and sent one calm, factual text.
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 7: explaining what the letter really is, reminding her of the timeline,
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 7: and telling her that taking her anger out on me
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 7: won't change the landlord's decision. I told her I'm going
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 7: silent because she's decided I'm the villain and nothing I
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 7: say will get through right now. I could block her,
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 7: but since she threatened to send me to jail, I
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 7: figured keeping a record of her messages and my replies
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 7: is a smarter move.
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 2: What else have you put up with in this relationship?
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 2: This can't be the first time she'd pulled something like this.
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 6: This is insane.
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: I mean, you did say you guys used to live
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: together and you don't.
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 6: You know what you should... Oh, dude, you know what
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 6: would be the funniest thing?
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 1: What?
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 6: OP, apply for that apartment.
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: Apply for it just to like.
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 6: Just to rub it in.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 1: I changed my mind, like they approve you and you go, yeah, no,
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 1: it's okay. And you're like, gee, I wonder why. Oh,
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: they approved me, that's why. Power move. Don't do that, obviously,
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 1: but it would be funny. It would be undeniably funny.
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 7: In a weird way, hearing her say she hates me
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 7: is almost a relief. For five years, I've tried to
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 7: make things work, always telling myself she was just having
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 7: a bad moment and didn't mean it.
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 1: Oh no, sweetie pie.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 6: Five years.
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 2: Five years, that's a lot of.
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 6: That's a lot of days.
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 2: She wasn't like this when we first got together.
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 7: Her mom is a difficult person, and my partner would
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 7: always come back from visiting her with fresh accusations and demands.
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 7: Now that she's living with her again, I can only
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 7: think her mom's influence has made it all worse. It's
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 7: going to take time to get used to the silence,
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 7: but I'd rather have that than keep being called a
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 7: liar and made to feel like the worst person alive
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 7: when I'm trying my hardest to do the right thing.
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 7: And there is a tiny little update here.
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 1: Oh boy, I'm so excited.
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 2: Do you think she's asking for a second chance?
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 6: No, just for you to probably pay the bills.
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: Can you help me with some of this debt?
• 1:11:44
  Speaker 7: She responded to my final message and let slip that
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 7: she was also rejected for having too low of an income.
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 2: What a long, convoluted way for her to say she's broke. So,
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 2: it wasn't even fully her credit. I don't know what's
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 2: going on.
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 1: I do.
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 7: Your girlfriend's a difficult woman. I'm sorry, your ex-girlfriend, thank
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 7: the Lord, is a difficult woman. And she's no longer
• 1:12:05
  Speaker 7: your problem to deal with.
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 6: Thank goodness.
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 1: Thank the stars above. Yeah.
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 2: That is the end of that story.
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 7: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite goofball host here.
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  Speaker 1: I reported a girl who kept bothering me. Then she confessed.
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 1: Send her to jail. Her name's Lauren. And ever since
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 1: transferring to this new school for my second year of
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: high school, she's had this strange fixation of annoying me
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 1: and trying to piss me off. I'm 5'3. Yes, I'm
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 1: a freaking short guy, but you're still a king. She's
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 1: 6'4 and on the volleyball team and can easily physically
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 1: overpower me. Let me explain the things crazy princess pink
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 1: would do to me. Yet, I never see her do
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 1: this to anyone else because she likes you. Like nearly
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 1: every single day, she'd sneak up on me and put
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 1: me in a headlock and will not let me go
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 1: for several minutes and make fun of me.
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 6: Nobody helps.
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 1: Someone will say, hey, hey, let him go. But I
• 1:13:08
  Speaker 1: guess they're afraid. The weird part is that she will
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 1: get very pissed when one of her friends do it
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 1: to me. Yep, they're pretty tall. Who knew volleyball girls
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 1: are giants? Yeah, she's got a crush on you.
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 6: Dude, she really likes you.
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 1: She gets mad when other people put you in a headlock.
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 6: You should get really into it.
• 1:13:25
  Speaker 1: She's like, hey, no, that's our thing.
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 6: Yeah, dude.
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 1: She will sit behind me or beside me during class
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 1: and will poke at me, pull my hair, throw stuff
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 1: at me, and whisper things like loser, shrimp, smurf, chicken.
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 1: Stuart Little in every conversation and she will cheat off
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 1: my paper during quizzes and she forces me to sit
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 1: with her during lunch all the time and will just
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 1: get pissed if I don't and put me in a chokehold.
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 1: Whatever she has a game, she threatens me to go
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 1: watch her, which I can't stop laughing at this story.
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 6: This is too funny.
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 4: Oh, no.
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 1: Oh, no. She doesn't know how to act. OP, go
• 1:14:06
  Speaker 1: up to her and go uppies. Yeah, say uppies, uppies.
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 1: She threatens me to go watch her, which I refuse.
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 1: And she chased me around with a freaking rake. I
• 1:14:15
  Speaker 1: wish I was making this stuff up. I really do.
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 6: She's insane.
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 6: Insanely in love with you.
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 1: Nobody has explained this to you, dude. Come on, nobody?
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 1: Nobody's explained this? By the way, this comes from user Hallowsween. Yes,
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 1: great username. And if you want to submit your own stories,
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 1: go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 6: I'm Keon.
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota. And we're here to give goofy advice, but
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 1: I think OP's doing it himself.
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 6: This is great.
• 1:14:41
  Speaker 1: We don't know everything. We only know what we do,
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 1: so let us know what you do in the comments
• 1:14:45
  Speaker 1: down below. As OP says, she will effing steal my
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 1: stuff and give them back a day or two later.
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 6: Like, What the F?
• 1:14:52
  Speaker 2: Oh my God, what is she doing with that stuff?
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 6: She's like, I like his smell.
• 1:14:56
  Speaker 1: She's got like a shrine in her house. Probably.
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 2: She's like Helga.
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: Like one time, one of my shoes went missing and
• 1:15:03
  Speaker 1: I found it in her bag and I got mad
• 1:15:05
  Speaker 1: at her about it, but she kept denying it. And
• 1:15:08
  Speaker 1: there was this time that I left my phone on
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 1: my desk and when I came back, she was trying
• 1:15:12
  Speaker 1: to unlock it. She'll trip me in the halls or
• 1:15:15
  Speaker 1: in class. And one time she pranked me by replacing
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 1: my pen with the one that had a buzzer in it.
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 1: Here's an odd part. One time she asked me if
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 1: I wanted a ride back to my house because her
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 1: dad's picking her up. I said no. Yet she forced me. No,
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 1: I feel I feel kind of bad. I feel bad
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 1: for this kid.
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 2: He's like, he's genuinely being strong-armed by this giant girl.
• 1:15:42
  Speaker 1: But during the ride, she acted like an effing normal
• 1:15:45
  Speaker 1: person for once. Finally, one time I brought an old
• 1:15:48
  Speaker 1: plushie of mine to school. She grabbed it, called me
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 1: a little baby. I try to get it back from her,
• 1:15:53
  Speaker 1: but like the wiener she is, she taunts me to
• 1:15:55
  Speaker 1: reach it and pushes me around with her height, then
• 1:15:58
  Speaker 1: tosses it to her friends back and forth.
• 1:16:00
  Speaker 2: Alright, now I feel really bad. Now I feel like
• 1:16:04
  Speaker 2: this isn't fun anymore.
• 1:16:06
  Speaker 1: But God forbid she sees someone else doing it to me,
• 1:16:09
  Speaker 1: and she will get really heated. Yeah. She follows me
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 1: around in the freaking halls just to make fun of me.
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 1: I'm really thinking of reporting her. What is wrong with her?
• 1:16:20
  Speaker 1: Does she not know how to read social cues? No,
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 1: she just doesn't know how to express that she likes somebody.
• 1:16:26
  Speaker 6: Has this happened to anyone else? Any advice, please?
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 1: And there's an edit.
• 1:16:30
  Speaker 2: This did happen to me once in third grade. And
• 1:16:34
  Speaker 2: the girl that would relentlessly try to make fun of
• 1:16:36
  Speaker 2: me and annoy me and bother me Turned out to
• 1:16:40
  Speaker 2: have a crush on me.
• 1:16:41
  Speaker 1: Yes, that happened to me too. This girl was stabbing
• 1:16:44
  Speaker 1: me with pencils. Like she would sharpen them and stab
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 1: me with pencils. And then she'd taste the blood afterwards
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 1: and be like.
• 1:16:51
  Speaker 6: I'm like, why are you doing that? She's like, to
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 6: get your attention.
• 1:16:53
  Speaker 2: I just want to know what she's doing with your shoe.
• 1:16:56
  Speaker 2: She's taking that bad boy home.
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 6: She's drinking out of it. No, she's drinking out of it.
• 1:17:02
  Speaker 6: How the heck?
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 1: Oh, it smells so small and cute.
• 1:17:07
  Speaker 6: We'll have medium babies.
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 1: We'll have perfectly average sized children.
• 1:17:14
  Speaker 6: There is an edit. Opie says, that's it. I'm reporting her.
• 1:17:18
  Speaker 1: I'm telling her parents and the school board about this.
• 1:17:20
  Speaker 1: Let's see how she reacts. And we have an update
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 1: 10 days later.
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 7: Any big young ladies out there, let it be known
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 7: there's a point where you go too far. And I
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 7: think it's taking the plushie and throwing it to all
• 1:17:34
  Speaker 7: your friends.
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 6: See, I think they do that.
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 1: And then they learn like, oh, wait, I don't have
• 1:17:38
  Speaker 1: to do that. I can just like kind of look
• 1:17:40
  Speaker 1: at them glance and then stop looking away. That's me
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 1: flirting now.
• 1:17:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you got to find some in between.
• 1:17:44
  Speaker 6: Where's the in between, ladies?
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 2: You got to find an in between. Yeah.
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 1: Update 10 days later. So what happened was that I
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 1: did what a lot of people were recommending. And that
• 1:17:55
  Speaker 1: was to report her. So I went to the guidance
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 1: counselor because I like the guidance counselor and she's really
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 1: understanding and she's nice. Thankfully, Lauren and her parents were
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 1: called in. They were basically informed of everything that she
• 1:18:07
  Speaker 1: had been doing to me and her coach also got informed.
• 1:18:11
  Speaker 1: Lauren was suspended for school for about a week and
• 1:18:13
  Speaker 1: from playing volleyball for I don't know how long. To
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 1: be honest, I feel proud that I finally worked up
• 1:18:18
  Speaker 1: the guts to report this giant that's been messing with
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 1: me for months now. I honestly don't know how to feel.
• 1:18:24
  Speaker 1: I'm very conflicted. So here's what happened. I met her
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 1: and her parents outside of school. At first, I was nervous.
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 1: But then, I felt relieved when I realized that they
• 1:18:34
  Speaker 1: wanted to apologize for their daughter's behavior. Turns out Lauren
• 1:18:37
  Speaker 1: is autistic, which really surprised me a lot. They said
• 1:18:40
  Speaker 1: that this isn't a reason to justify her behavior, it's
• 1:18:43
  Speaker 1: just to help me understand.
• 1:18:45
  Speaker 2: Aww, that does kinda, that kinda clocks.
• 1:18:50
  Speaker 1: Hmm, turns out, she never had a lot of friends
• 1:18:52
  Speaker 1: when she was really young, and I felt bad for her. So,
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 1: they left both of us alone to talk.
• 1:18:58
  Speaker 6: I asked Lauren.
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 1: What is your problem? Why me? I didn't do anything
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 1: to you. I just want to know. I don't hate
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 1: you badly, but I want to understand. Lauren then started
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 1: apologizing for everything, which I appreciated a lot. That's when
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 1: I started to panic when she started to cry. She
• 1:19:15
  Speaker 1: was sniffling and sobbing like a kid and everything. I
• 1:19:18
  Speaker 1: comforted her and that's when I got the biggest surprise
• 1:19:21
  Speaker 1: in my life. When she tells me that she doesn't
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 1: despise me, but the opposite... here it is here it
• 1:19:31
  Speaker 1: is she says that all of this time she was
• 1:19:35
  Speaker 1: in love with me and she didn't know how to
• 1:19:37
  Speaker 1: communicate her feelings oh shocker this is so cute she
• 1:19:44
  Speaker 1: says that she never meant to hurt me or make
• 1:19:46
  Speaker 1: me uncomfortable She thought that I liked it since I
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 1: never really fought back physically and because she's bad at
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 1: reading social cues and it's how her and her older
• 1:19:56
  Speaker 1: siblings act. I was listening to her the entire time.
• 1:19:59
  Speaker 1: To be honest, I don't know a lot of autistic people,
• 1:20:01
  Speaker 1: but I heard that it's different for everybody.
• 1:20:04
  Speaker 4: True.
• 1:20:04
  Speaker 6: I asked her why she didn't just tell me. Come on,
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 6: we're in high school. Come on.
• 1:20:09
  Speaker 1: We know why. And here's what she says. She says
• 1:20:13
  Speaker 1: that she was terrified that I might reject her. There
• 1:20:15
  Speaker 1: it is. There we go. It is the most cliche
• 1:20:20
  Speaker 1: thing that I could only see in a cheesy rom-com,
• 1:20:23
  Speaker 1: and yet it happened to me in real life.
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 6: I'm not joking. What is happening?
• 1:20:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean.
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 1: Cliches are based on things that happen a lot.
• 1:20:34
  Speaker 6: So, OP, we answered the first question.
• 1:20:38
  Speaker 1: There's no way.
• 1:20:38
  Speaker 6: We answered the first question. OP is not going for it.
• 1:20:41
  Speaker 6: She likes you.
• 1:20:43
  Speaker 1: There's no way.
• 1:20:44
  Speaker 6: Do you like her?
• 1:20:44
  Speaker 1: OP is traumatized.
• 1:20:46
  Speaker 6: Do you like her?
• 1:20:48
  Speaker 2: But do you like her just a little?
• 1:20:49
  Speaker 1: Just a little? So, Laura and I talked some more.
• 1:20:53
  Speaker 1: She kept apologizing and promised never to do it ever again.
• 1:20:56
  Speaker 1: I also learned my lesson to stand up for myself.
• 1:20:59
  Speaker 1: I told Lauren that if she keeps that promise, then
• 1:21:02
  Speaker 1: we can be friends, and she hugged me. She asked
• 1:21:05
  Speaker 1: if I felt the same way, and I said, I
• 1:21:06
  Speaker 1: don't know. Fair, fair. A hundred percent fair.
• 1:21:10
  Speaker 6: You're traumatized.
• 1:21:12
  Speaker 1: She then told me that she wasn't giving up, and
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 1: it made me feel very conflicted. So we both said
• 1:21:17
  Speaker 1: goodbye to each other, and I told her to take
• 1:21:19
  Speaker 1: care and see you at school. What the F just
• 1:21:23
  Speaker 1: happened to me? And what do I do? Like I said,
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 1: I'm conflicted. I was taught to be forgiving, but am
• 1:21:30
  Speaker 1: I setting myself up to be bullied again?
• 1:21:31
  Speaker 6: I mean, I hope not. She did seem very genuine.
• 1:21:34
  Speaker 1: Help. Update two.
• 1:21:36
  Speaker 2: Dude, honestly, for the plot.
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 1: You have to date this girl.
• 1:21:40
  Speaker 6: You have to date this girl.
• 1:21:41
  Speaker 2: You have to.
• 1:21:42
  Speaker 6: You don't have to.
• 1:21:43
  Speaker 5: No.
• 1:21:43
  Speaker 6: But you should.
• 1:21:44
  Speaker 1: You do. For the plot.
• 1:21:46
  Speaker 6: For the plot.
• 1:21:47
  Speaker 2: This is a canon event.
• 1:21:49
  Speaker 6: This is a rom-com. You said it. You're living a
• 1:21:51
  Speaker 6: rom-com movie? Execute it.
• 1:21:53
  Speaker 2: This is one of the funniest things I've ever heard.
• 1:21:55
  Speaker 1: We're watching and we're waiting. And I'm about to read
• 1:21:58
  Speaker 1: the rest of this update. Update 2. We usually don't
• 1:22:00
  Speaker 1: read the title of the updates. I'm going to read
• 1:22:02
  Speaker 1: this one because it's pretty funny. Opie's a funny person.
• 1:22:05
  Speaker 1: Update 2. It's titled, Do I have Stockholm Syndrome? I'm
• 1:22:09
  Speaker 1: starting to develop feelings for the girl who used to
• 1:22:11
  Speaker 1: bully me. Eight months later. We're in the same year together.
• 1:22:15
  Speaker 1: This girl, Lauren, used to treat me horribly in my
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 1: second year of high school. Again, headlocks because she is
• 1:22:22
  Speaker 1: way bigger than me and can easily overpower me.
• 1:22:26
  Speaker 6: Pranks, insults, and.
• 1:22:27
  Speaker 1: Stealing my stuff. She threatened me up multiple times and
• 1:22:31
  Speaker 1: nearly did it if people weren't around. We're friends now.
• 1:22:34
  Speaker 1: After I reported it, she apologized to me and confessed
• 1:22:37
  Speaker 1: that she did all of that because she actually likes me.
• 1:22:41
  Speaker 1: She doesn't hate me at all. Her parents also informed
• 1:22:43
  Speaker 1: me and my family that she is autistic, which did
• 1:22:46
  Speaker 1: explain a lot because of the social cues. I mean,
• 1:22:49
  Speaker 1: she has trouble understanding the concept of personal space. She's
• 1:22:52
  Speaker 1: very touchy and nosy, always wants to talk to me,
• 1:22:55
  Speaker 1: ask for my opinion, and see what I'm doing. I
• 1:22:58
  Speaker 1: have long since forgiven her. And she no longer bullies me.
• 1:23:02
  Speaker 1: I think she's hyper fixated on me. That's what her
• 1:23:05
  Speaker 1: dad says. So we're hanging out together this summer. For
• 1:23:08
  Speaker 1: some reason... She's grown on me. Yeah, because she's taller
• 1:23:11
  Speaker 1: than you. She overshadows you. Oh, dude.
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 2: Just know, buddy.
• 1:23:16
  Speaker 1: This is adorable. This is adorable as AF.
• 1:23:19
  Speaker 2: I just want you to know, buddy. You're living every
• 1:23:21
  Speaker 2: short king's dream.
• 1:23:22
  Speaker 6: You ready for this?
• 1:23:23
  Speaker 1: I call her Beanstalk because she's so tall.
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 6: There you go. That is so adorable. Climb that, Beanstalk.
• 1:23:30
  Speaker 2: Just get the marriage papers ready.
• 1:23:32
  Speaker 6: Am I insane?
• 1:23:34
  Speaker 1: The other day, I kissed her on the cheek, and
• 1:23:36
  Speaker 1: she froze up and started chasing me around, demanding why
• 1:23:39
  Speaker 1: I did that. This is so cute!
• 1:23:42
  Speaker 2: How'd you get up there?
• 1:23:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Did you jump? Did you bring a little stool?
• 1:23:46
  Speaker 1: Did she carry you? I felt awkward, so I haven't
• 1:23:48
  Speaker 1: talked to her since then. But she keeps messaging me.
• 1:23:52
  Speaker 1: We are planning to hang out again. Am I insane?
• 1:23:57
  Speaker 1: Am I setting myself up to be bullied again?
• 1:23:59
  Speaker 6: What do I do? I'm only 17. I'm looking for update.
• 1:24:03
  Speaker 1: Please.
• 1:24:03
  Speaker 6: I need update.
• 1:24:05
  Speaker 1: Just tell her you kissed her because you like her.
• 1:24:08
  Speaker 1: And enjoy whatever happens. Sophia's going to be so upset.
• 1:24:11
  Speaker 1: She didn't read this story.
• 1:24:13
  Speaker 6: She'd be going, screaming, throwing up. Okay, hold on.
• 1:24:17
  Speaker 1: Please tell me your name is Jack so you can
• 1:24:19
  Speaker 1: be Jack in the Beanstalk. Please.
• 1:24:22
  Speaker 6: There's no update from there.
• 1:24:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:24:26
  Speaker 6: Hold on, hold on.
• 1:24:27
  Speaker 2: I don't think we're going to get another one.
• 1:24:29
  Speaker 1: Opie says this. I'm reading the comments from this post.
• 1:24:32
  Speaker 1: Why did you kiss her on the cheek? Opie says,
• 1:24:35
  Speaker 1: she started it first. I retaliated.
• 1:24:37
  Speaker 6: She's cute.
• 1:24:39
  Speaker 1: OP, OP, don't ignore her now.
• 1:24:44
  Speaker 6: I need to know. I need to know.
• 1:24:46
  Speaker 1: Keon, we all know in our hearts what has happened.
• 1:24:49
  Speaker 7: I need it solidified. It's the classic, and OP will
• 1:24:52
  Speaker 7: hate this, the classic cliche of enemies to lovers.
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 6: From, yeah, bullies to lovers.
• 1:24:58
  Speaker 2: From enemies to friends to lovers.
• 1:25:00
  Speaker 6: What is it? It's Helga and, hey, Arnold.
• 1:25:02
  Speaker 2: It's that.
• 1:25:03
  Speaker 1: I don't think they ever got, did they get to the... It's.
• 1:25:07
  Speaker 6: Jimmy Neutron and.
• 1:25:10
  Speaker 7: Just know that if your beanstalk volleyball girlfriend has a
• 1:25:15
  Speaker 7: shrine to you in her closet made out of gum
• 1:25:17
  Speaker 7: and items you have left behind, she's doing it out
• 1:25:20
  Speaker 7: of care and not because she's.
• 1:25:23
  Speaker 2: A, you know, psycho.
• 1:25:25
  Speaker 1: OP, just go with the flow. If you really like
• 1:25:27
  Speaker 1: this girl, which it seems like you do, then go
• 1:25:30
  Speaker 1: for it.
• 1:25:31
  Speaker 6: I think you like it. I think you're into it.
• 1:25:33
  Speaker 1: This is my favorite episode of Love on the Spectrum yet.
• 1:25:38
  Speaker 6: That is the end of that story. We all know
• 1:25:41
  Speaker 6: how that ends. They're dating.
• 1:25:42
  Speaker 1: They're going to have medium sized kids.
• 1:25:45
  Speaker 6: It's going to be adorable. That is the end of
• 1:25:47
  Speaker 6: that story, though.