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Do narcissists only go after younger people? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So do narcissists. Or talk to people always and
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  only go after younger folks, Younger people, younger than
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  them? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. So welcome back folks.
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  Welcome back, welcome back. Hope y'all like the new intro.
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  Y'all I'm just test, just testing it, just testing a
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  couple of different songs or whatever, just to see what y'all
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  think this is a field test for. So if y'all on the podcast you
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  don't see the video, you just hear the music and the little
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  interlude and whatnot. But yeah, so I know a lot of
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  people think that narcissists mostly go after younger people,
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  you know? So is that true that a lot of
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  narcissists go after people that are younger than them?
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  Yeah, that is absolutely true. And one reason, well, not just
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  one reason. There's a multitude of reasons
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  why narcissistic people go after younger folks.
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  And the simplest one is this, like, literally, because they're
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  they're young. They don't have a lot of life
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  experience. They're what you hear a lot of
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  toxic, narcissistic people say now is they're malleable.
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  So I can mold them into who I want them to be.
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  They're not tainted. They're not, you know, they
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  haven't had a they they don't know better right now, which
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  happens quite a bit. Y'all they don't.
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  A lot of narcissistic people will go after younger folks
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  because they don't know any better.
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  They don't know they, you know the difference between right and
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  wrong. But you don't want to have a lot
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  of relationship experience, so you might not have a lot of
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  relationship experience in order.
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  And they can manipulate you. They can absolutely use the fact
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  that you don't have a lot of life or relationship experience
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  to manipulate the hell out of you.
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  Well, you're younger, so you don't really know how life gets.
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  When you get my age, you understand, you know, so that's
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  that's one of the reasons like you there's a couple of the
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  reasons like they target them, you know, that's that's the
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  target. They younger people do have a
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  target on their back for the narcissistic people, especially
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  the older one. Like an older narcissistic
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  person. Well, can't absolutely seek out
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  a young, valuable, innocent person, person of innocence.
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  This is not just talking about below the the threshold.
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  I'm not talking about like below 18.
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  I'm talking about like grown adults.
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  You know, Will some of them dabble in going after younger
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  folks? Yeah, hell yeah.
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  Under 18. Yes, absolutely.
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  But this is more along the lines talking about adults, adult
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  relationship spaces, you know, will some of them groom you
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  until you become adult? Yeah.
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  Some narcissistic people will absolutely groom you until you
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  become an adult because now it's legal. 18 is legal. 18 is legal.
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  Like, there's a big like, there's a huge difference
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  between 1717 years old, 17 years, 365 days, 364 days old
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  and then 18 years old. Like, there's like literally one
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  minute difference. Hey, I'm still 17.
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  The clock strikes, strikes midnight.
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  Oh, I'm 18 now. Like that.
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  Like, that makes a big difference.
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  No, it doesn't. It's just the mindset.
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  It's moral. It's moral.
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  It's morality, ethics, whatever you know.
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  But some of them will target you because you don't have a lot of
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  relationship experience. It's not because you're older or
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  you're you're a lot older than you've seen you.
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  You have an old soul. It's because you have a young
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  mind and they think that they can manipulate you and use and
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  abuse you. And sometimes narcissist, the
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  people that are older than you can't get people their age.
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  They don't have much to offer. They have more to offer than
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  maybe somebody your own age or the younger folks age, but they
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  don't have much to offer in a sense to somebody that is of
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  equal age as them, you see, or somebody of equal age is them
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  just smart. It's too smart to put up with
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  stupidity, to put up with youthful ignorance.
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  Narcissistic people, some of them have young mindsets.
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  So the younger people, it's not just about manipulating younger
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  people, it's that they have young mindsets they have,
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  they're emotionally immature. So a 45 year old narcissistic
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  person can't have the same emotional immaturity, emotional
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  maturity level as an 1819 year old person.
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  You see though we we we are the same emotional level.
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  We're at different stages in life, but we're at the same
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  emotional level. You know, the same level of
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  emotional, the same level of emotional intelligence or
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  emotional maturity, we're the same.
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  So they go after you because y'all are similar in that sense.
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  Y'all have different. You're different.
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  You're in different sections of your life of course, but they go
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  after you because you're the you're in a separate, like same
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  mindset. But to answer the question from
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  the beginning of the video, do narcissists only target old,
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  younger people? No, yo.
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  Some narcissists will absolutely go after older people, some of
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  them go after older people. And yet some, like some have
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  their preference younger or older.
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  But some of them will absolutely go after people or go after
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  older folks. I know and it it the way it
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  works right here. Y'all is that not every person
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  that is older. Whatever you consider older, 25
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  and up, 30 and up, 40 and up, whatever you consider older, not
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  every person that is older has a lot of relationship experience,
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  even if they've been married for a long time.
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  You might have get married to your high school sweetheart,
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  been married for 20 years, now you're divorced and single or
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  widowed at 383940 years old. So you don't have a lot of real
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  world relationship experience outside of your previous
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  relationship or your previous marriage.
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  So you still have that. You still might be malleable.
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  You still might be open to manipulation.
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  You see if you might have more resources and that younger
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  narcissist can use that older person up for their resources.
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  They can like they can target you, target you for financial
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  supply or housing, or they just use and use and abuse you in
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  that space right there. You see how the dynamic switches
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  right there. A narcissist, that is younger
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  people can't go after an older person because older folks like
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  saying I'm not saying this is not for everybody, Y'all people.
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  And I say older. I mean, I'm, I can say myself,
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  oh, I'm 38 years old. Y'all So older folks.
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  Some people don't want to be by themselves, some people don't
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  want to be by themselves. So you get, you get a younger
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  person, they might be might be shooting up, like they might be
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  throwing up throwing up a lot of red flags.
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  You might ignore them because you don't want to be by
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  yourself, you see, and you was like, OK, this younger person
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  right here, that might be fun but might make me feel young
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  again. Whatever it is they get you,
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  they target, they can target older folks as well because like
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  I said, not every single person that is older has a lot of
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  relationship experience. Some people have only been with
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  one or two people and don't know the world, and that one person
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  you might have been with might also have been a narcissist.
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  You might have been married or in a in a long term relationship
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  with a narcissist. And that's your only
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  relationship experience and they get you right there as well.
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  So it's not just do they only go after younger people?
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  No, they don't just go after younger people.
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  Then you can meet older and that narcissist can absolutely target
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  your ass and come get you. Just like that, you know, for
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  finances because you're old, because they they, they will use
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  you. They might try to have babies
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  and start families with you and all the other stuff.
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  They might promise you the future that you've never had
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  with your with your ex. You know, And some people like,
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  say it, it happens all the time. And that's why they used to
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  confuse me when an older person was able to get manipulated by a
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  younger person, they used to confuse me.
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  Like, how did that happen? Because they would just tell me,
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  like Lee, I haven't. Like, I got married to my high
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  school sweetheart, my me and my me and my husband or me and my
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  wife. We're together for 25 years and
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  they passed away or we got divorced and I was single and
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  this younger person came into my life and like you know made me
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  feel young again. They made me feel whole again.
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  Like I was lost, I was vulnerable and they got me.
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  You could be an older person in a vulnerable state and a younger
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  person comes into your life at that right moment in time, you
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  know, you see and get you and they can target an older person
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  as well. Now this happens all the time.
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  Like I'm just, I'm just like and y'all see y'all notice I'm not
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  using any kind of gender specific terms because both male
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  and female and non binary narcissistic folks can target
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  older and younger. You know, I've seen the younger
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  narcissist with an older woman, the younger narcissistic man
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  with an older woman or the younger the young narcissistic
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  woman with an older woman. That happens too.
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  You get an older narcissistic man with a young young young
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  man. It's just like interchangeable
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  y'all live your life who be who you want to be.
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  This is a non discriminatory challenge.
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  You live your life your way. You live your life does not bug
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  me just do you. But this is how it goes though.
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  Y'all you know, just in that space, in that dynamic, age is
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  only a number. It's manipulation that matters.
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  It's a vulnerability that matters.
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  Age might only be a number manipulation.
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  Age like experience, relationship, experience
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  matters. And you're where you are in
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  life. You know where you are in life,
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  who you are. You might just so you might be
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  older, getting divorced and just want to go have some fun and you
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  go meet a younger person and y'all end up falling in love.
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  And you've come in love with a young narcissist.
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  You all, you all. At the bar you meet a 21 year
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  old narcissist. You're 384050 being a 30 year
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  old narcissist. Like younger.
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  I said when I say younger, I don't mean just 18/19/20.
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  I mean you can be that you can be 40 and that can be 30.
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  You know you can they can just be younger.
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  Like there has to be a certain age gap like 5-10 years I would
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  say, but you can be younger or older.
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  I don't just mean super huge age gap, I don't mean like 68 and
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  18. It doesn't.
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  That happens too. You know, I'm just saying like
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  this, sometimes this is like 18 and 30, 18 and 4519 and 45 you
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  said I'm saying, or 25 and 3521 and 41.
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  There's still a big age gap right there where a lot of
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  manipulation can happen in this space.
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  You know, I I think a lot of people, when you see an older
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  person with a younger person, a lot of people would
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  automatically assume that the older person is the manipulator,
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  the older person is the aggressor, the older person is
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  the narcissist. But sometimes the young person
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  is a toxic, narcissistic person that is emotionally and mentally
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  immature. You know, the maturity isn't
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  there, the emotional mentality isn't there.
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  So there's a lot of different things that can happen in those
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  spaces right there. You know, you got to be, you got
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  to be. You have to, you have to be
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  careful. You have to protect yourself in
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  these circumstances or they will take advantage of you.
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  They will ruin your life, they will terrorize you, they will
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  torture you, they will treat you horribly.
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  You know, it happens. So narcissists don't just go
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  after younger folks. Some of them will absolutely
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  target older folks. You know, they will.
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  They will like, am I, am I younger?
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  Am I younger? Heyday Y'all.
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  When I was 25, I was only, yeah, I was literally only attracted
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  to like, you know, I and my wife was like, she's like 4 years
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  younger than me. But in my heyday, like I was
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  only attracted to older women. I still got my thing.
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  Now if I was single, I I would age up.
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  I would go for. I would go 4550, give me 45.
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  I'm 38 now, give me 4550. This is for me.
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  You know, this is how my mind works.
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  But I'm married to y'all. I'm just like Lee.
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  Y'all do that. No, I'm married.
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